رونوشت کامل Ep 7: Turning Strain into Strength: A Journey of Dirt, Design, and the Divine

00:04:21.620 --> 00:04:25.968 Well, the building was now gone and it was for sale and I was. 00:04:25.968 --> 00:04:37.850 It occurred to me during COVID exactly how much I did not want to go back to work at the big salon, and so God was like I mean, it just dropped like a bowling ball and and I could see it all like exactly the way it is today. 00:04:37.850 --> 00:04:40.122 I could just see it and I was like that's that. 00:04:40.122 --> 00:04:47.035 And I went home and I was like hey, babe, you know that piece of property, I'm going to have a salon there that you don't like. 00:04:47.035 --> 00:04:57.307 And it was just one of those things where, like, I mean, I feel like we talk about decisions but at the same time, when God moves, it's like we both just trust. 00:04:57.307 --> 00:04:59.351 If the other person says it like we trust it. 00:05:00.093 --> 00:05:02.848 Yep, what was your thoughts when she first brought that to you? 00:05:02.848 --> 00:05:03.350 That's it. 00:05:03.350 --> 00:05:12.353 Support her in it, you know, because she was very steadfast in wanting it and thinking that's where she needed to be. 00:05:12.353 --> 00:05:13.779 Yeah, Now were you shut down during COVID for the previous company. 00:05:13.779 --> 00:05:16.245 So you didn't have any work at all at the time. 00:05:16.245 --> 00:05:18.129 And what about you, James? 00:05:18.129 --> 00:05:18.952 Were you still working? 00:05:19.240 --> 00:05:21.663 Yep and really doing better than ever probably. 00:05:21.663 --> 00:05:24.389 You know really busy and and. 00:05:26.012 --> 00:05:26.834 Very well at that time. 00:05:26.834 --> 00:05:30.440 So then what happened? 00:05:30.461 --> 00:05:32.103 once y'all decided to buy it. 00:05:32.103 --> 00:05:38.954 Well, the seller was particularly interesting and James actually, I think, outsmarted him and made it happen. 00:05:39.495 --> 00:05:40.095 I wouldn't say that. 00:05:40.095 --> 00:05:43.843 Good looking, I don't even remember what we're talking about. 00:05:44.122 --> 00:05:47.927 Well, we had called and we were asking him and he was kind of just like I'm not taking offers. 00:05:47.927 --> 00:05:49.769 I get calls all the time and I'm not interested. 00:05:50.209 --> 00:05:51.350 So it wasn't listed for sale. 00:05:51.511 --> 00:05:52.711 It was for sale by owner. 00:05:52.732 --> 00:05:54.574 There was just a sign on the property. 00:05:54.593 --> 00:05:57.776 Like a stake in the road or something like that, yeah, and he called me one day. 00:05:57.776 --> 00:06:07.175 We were back at work and I was, like I do, but I was also really scared because I was asking for like a lot of money for my business endeavor. 00:06:08.860 --> 00:06:13.588 The guy's selling it used to be a judge and very crafty. 00:06:13.728 --> 00:06:14.331 Let's put it that way. 00:06:14.331 --> 00:06:21.209 Crafty is a great word, and so I think he got confused about who was supposed to meet him there to sign the purchase agreement. 00:06:21.209 --> 00:06:29.694 And you, mr Uber punctual, got there early before whoever he was supposed to meet with a purchase agreement in hand and then got signed and that was it. 00:06:31.704 --> 00:06:32.105 So was he. 00:06:32.105 --> 00:06:42.408 He was expecting someone else to show up, seemed like it really presumably interesting yep, and then did y'all start building right away, or was that part? 00:06:42.509 --> 00:06:43.329 of the process. 00:06:43.490 --> 00:07:10.742 Oh yeah, I forgot about that part no, yeah, enlighten us please um well, she had a builder she really liked and highly recommended by a long-term client who I've usually see eye to eye with, and very nice, very nice gentleman and, yeah, he did a great job for her yes, and he did a terrible job for us, so y'all gave him the job and he started building or finished building, or what Did he have to be fired? 00:07:10.822 --> 00:07:12.329 mid-job, beginning job. 00:07:13.519 --> 00:07:14.545 It was still dirt work. 00:07:14.545 --> 00:07:17.588 It was still he hadn't really done a whole lot. 00:07:17.588 --> 00:07:23.846 His daughter had some health challenges again, covid, so he was doing a lot of driving for her. 00:07:23.846 --> 00:07:24.872 His wife also had some health challenges he, so he was doing a lot of driving for her. 00:07:24.872 --> 00:07:25.956 His wife also had some health challenges. 00:07:25.956 --> 00:07:30.028 He was driving a lot for her and just in his business he was over. 00:07:30.028 --> 00:07:31.201 He was just spread too thin. 00:07:31.201 --> 00:07:37.423 Um, great man of the lord pastors a small church and that gave me a lot of peace that I would be working with someone like that. 00:07:37.423 --> 00:07:44.247 Um, but ultimately I cried I've never had to let anyone go, ever and I was like I'm so sorry, but this isn working. 00:07:44.247 --> 00:07:47.182 Like we got to get the ball rolling and you're not, we could see it never get built. 00:07:47.223 --> 00:07:48.387 That way Was the main thing. 00:07:48.387 --> 00:07:48.869 Were things just? 00:07:48.889 --> 00:08:13.471 dragging on, Because I mean if y'all were just dirt work, I mean there wasn't even a lot that had been done already, and it was months and mind you, we're trying to summer, so yeah, was that about the same time y'all were building the? 00:08:13.721 --> 00:08:20.536 yes, we kicked off with the second builder in early 21 maybe don't know. 00:08:20.536 --> 00:08:24.649 Yeah, I don't do dates well yeah I think, I think so gotcha all right. 00:08:24.689 --> 00:08:25.740 So then what else happened? 00:08:25.761 --> 00:08:34.273 I mean what y'all said hey, this is was a challenging season what was it that made you think this is of the lord versus this is the enemy? 00:08:34.273 --> 00:08:36.900 Like shutting the door, because I know sometimes that's hard too. 00:08:36.900 --> 00:08:43.924 Like you're running into obstacle after obstacle after obstacle, I thought this is what we're supposed to be doing,

like, like. 00:08:43.924 --> 00:08:46.785 Do we keep pressing and keep getting rejected, or do we? 00:08:47.528 --> 00:08:50.400 I think being of the Lord came in the beginning, and then obstacles came. 00:08:50.400 --> 00:08:55.222 The rest of the way, which you know is going to happen anytime you're on the right path, the enemy's going to try to knock you off. 00:08:55.222 --> 00:08:56.025 That's true. 00:08:56.506 --> 00:09:01.249 So we had done something that's not really considered generally wise, but we felt good about it. 00:09:01.249 --> 00:09:03.775 We lent money to family and that was totally fine. 00:09:03.775 --> 00:09:10.120 But the afternoon that he signed the purchase agreement, we were called and told we were getting a wire to get the money back. 00:09:10.120 --> 00:09:24.605 And that was not expected at all in this, in that like season at all, and so you know we didn't want to go into debt to buy the property and I was like, okay, I think we can like have 20 bucks in our checking account if. 00:09:24.605 --> 00:09:25.865 If like, okay, I think we can like have 20 bucks in our checking account. 00:09:25.865 --> 00:09:26.105 If. 00:09:26.105 --> 00:09:29.052 If we don't like, I think we can still do it. 00:09:29.052 --> 00:09:31.702 It was like a huge oh my gosh, are we really going to do this? 00:09:31.702 --> 00:09:33.748 And just faith. 00:09:33.748 --> 00:09:37.702 It was such a strong feeling that God put on me that we did it. 00:09:37.702 --> 00:09:43.731 And then it was almost like confirmation that we didn't have to cut it close, that everything was just so smooth. 00:09:43.731 --> 00:09:48.341 And then the obstacles came when we got to the second builder. 00:09:48.341 --> 00:09:50.907 Really it was pretty hellacious. 00:09:52.711 --> 00:09:54.667 You're up, it does. 00:09:55.150 --> 00:10:00.107 That's actually whenever you and I connected in the middle of the build. 00:10:00.107 --> 00:10:03.686 We were in the small group find your people. 00:10:03.807 --> 00:10:18.836 Find your people and I found my people, and I found my people, my person but yes, and I remember you would come in and you were just like on the verge of tears because it was such an exciting time and you felt like it was a promise from the lord. 00:10:18.836 --> 00:10:28.027 But you were running into so many obstacles and you're like I just need prayer, I need to know how to handle this, like appropriately, how to all the things. 00:10:28.027 --> 00:10:40.613 And I didn't even know that I was walking through that season with you until afterwards, you know, through conversation, like wow, that's when we met and it's amazing how the Lord puts people in your life. 00:10:40.613 --> 00:10:48.668 And we were in a little group like literally was called find your people and I found my people in that group even that was a god thing. 00:10:48.768 --> 00:10:53.746 I remember sitting in church small group expo day and like it's like god, I want to join a group. 00:10:53.746 --> 00:10:59.470 None of this is jumping out at me and like find your people is jumping off the page and at the time like I felt like I had my people. 00:10:59.470 --> 00:11:21.480 I had people for that season and what I didn't know that God knew was they weren't gonna be in the next season and Bethany was, and so I went just like obediently, like I don't know why I'm here, but I'm here and yeah, huge, hugely, um, supportive friend came out of that season that's awesome. 00:11:21.961 --> 00:11:23.344 So how long did it take you all to build? 00:11:25.970 --> 00:11:26.871 Just over a year. 00:11:32.561 --> 00:11:33.969 We started in January and we finished the following February, March-ish. 00:11:33.969 --> 00:11:35.578 Was there ever a time where you're like, hey, this isn't going to work? 00:11:35.578 --> 00:11:38.985 Or did you all say, hey, these are just obstacles and we got to get through it? 00:11:39.285 --> 00:11:40.067 There were plenty of them. 00:11:40.307 --> 00:11:43.474 Okay, tell me more, tell me more. 00:11:44.059 --> 00:11:45.345 So me being busier than ever. 00:11:45.345 --> 00:11:46.307 You know I'm gone. 00:11:46.307 --> 00:11:52.971 I can't even think of how much at this point, but I'm gone months at a time. 00:11:52.971 --> 00:12:04.870 Okay, with work, yes, and trying to battle with a contractor while I'm offshore running jobs and just throwing money at it because I just want it to end Right. 00:12:04.890 --> 00:12:09.101 I'm offshore running jobs and just throwing money at it, because I just want it to end, you know it's so a little bit of context. 00:12:09.101 --> 00:12:26.408 I have a client who has like multiple degrees and can, I think, pretty accurately say by what I'm telling her, my experiences are you're dealing with a sexist and a narcissist and you're not going to win by being nice and you're not going to win by being mean. 00:12:26.408 --> 00:12:35.682 You need to just go through as quickly as possible and just come to an end with the relationship there, finish the contract, move on with your life. 00:12:35.682 --> 00:12:42.245 You're not, you're not going to win and you're a woman and you're really not going to win wow, so it was like that so it was like that. 00:12:42.926 --> 00:12:50.765 And this is all, while Bear is in another country, another state, could have been another country at that point, the Gulf of Mexico. 00:12:50.765 --> 00:12:51.889 Yes, america. 00:12:53.280 --> 00:12:57.312 So primarily at one point, I think, the build actually came to a standstill. 00:12:57.500 --> 00:12:58.504 It did for a solid month. 00:12:59.159 --> 00:13:02.806 And I came home in the middle of it. 00:13:09.177 --> 00:13:13.144 He just wanted to protect me and fix it and be there. 00:13:18.653 --> 00:13:23.222 But anyway we got it back on track. 00:13:23.222 --> 00:13:30.590 I showed up at the builder's house, probably 5 in the morning, because I know he's there, because he's not taking our calls at this

point. 00:13:30.710 --> 00:13:32.597 He had blocked my number Wow. 00:13:32.830 --> 00:13:33.774 In the middle of the build. 00:13:33.970 --> 00:13:35.414 He was communicating by email only. 00:13:36.759 --> 00:13:43.394 Yeah, and trying to manipulate emails, because that's what's referenced in court, where this is heading at this point. 00:13:43.576 --> 00:13:46.818 Wow, I didn't know it was that deep. 00:13:48.591 --> 00:13:50.317 I couldn't even contact him to pay him on time. 00:13:50.317 --> 00:13:57.850 We wound up having to exchange payments through our bank, like let's bring money to the bank and him pick it up from the bank, because he would not. 00:13:57.850 --> 00:14:00.437 He just wouldn't communicate, wow. 00:14:00.437 --> 00:14:18.763 So basically what the salon is is a custom home beautiful, that made in a way to do hair in and I think he thought he was just going to do a quick beauty shop and it was going to be very builder grade and very hands off with a dumb little girl. 00:14:18.763 --> 00:14:26.517 And what he didn't know is I've had a passion for home design almost my whole life. 00:14:27.158 --> 00:14:28.541 I made my own floor plans. 00:14:28.541 --> 00:14:29.724 I made my own site plan. 00:14:29.724 --> 00:14:37.599 I found an architect to bring that to life with something that they could work from, and I wanted to be very much a part of it. 00:14:37.599 --> 00:14:42.322 I had a picture of every single thing that I wanted that I knew was different than builder grade. 00:14:42.322 --> 00:14:58.240 I was so prepared to execute a smooth construction process and I wanted to have a great relationship with all of the subcontractors and hopefully communicate with skilled people to work together to make an amazing end product. 00:14:58.240 --> 00:15:10.139 And I will say that we got an amazing end product, but it was not smooth because sort of the middleman was the obstacle and unfortunately you cannot self-contract a commercial building. 00:15:10.139 --> 00:15:26.720 Not that I could have hired the group of people we got, but he did supply amazing subcontractors and I just showed up every day and he'd also had an interesting sentence in his contract which was do not talk to the subcontractors. 00:15:26.720 --> 00:15:27.130 And. 00:15:27.552 --> 00:15:29.000 I asked about that before we signed it. 00:15:29.000 --> 00:15:32.437 I said you know I I can't say hello, how are you? 00:15:32.437 --> 00:15:33.841 Good morning, good afternoon, thank you. 00:15:33.841 --> 00:15:35.796 It came out great, like I can't say anything to them. 00:15:35.796 --> 00:15:43.893 And he was like, well, I mean sort of dismissive, but like, if you must, well, you've known me before today. 00:15:43.913 --> 00:15:48.941 Like I'm not going to not talk to someone like in any sort of relationship with me, like. 00:15:50.442 --> 00:15:55.870 So, when he blocked me, I took that as permission to talk to them, because if you're not going to talk to me, well, I need to talk to someone. 00:15:55.870 --> 00:16:10.224 I need to communicate with someone about what I want, and so I just started doing exactly what he didn't want and, um, that ended up making it come out the way that we wanted, but unfortunately, with a lot of friction yeah. 00:16:10.264 --> 00:16:14.816 How did it get to that point where he wasn't even willing to communicate at all? 00:16:15.697 --> 00:16:24.222 well, one of the first times I met with him on site was after so it's a raised building, after they had done the subfloor. 00:16:24.222 --> 00:16:30.018 And he had a question and I said, okay, well, and I had told him in the beginning too, I'm off at 2 30 every day. 00:16:30.018 --> 00:16:31.760 I work 30 minutes from the job site. 00:16:31.760 --> 00:16:35.899 Like I can be here at three every day, which is typical end of day for construction. 00:16:35.899 --> 00:16:42.018 So I thought, oh, this would be perfect, we can talk about what's coming up, I can have my pictures and all my things prepared. 00:16:42.899 --> 00:16:46.793 Um, he was not interested at meeting at the job site at the end of the day any day. 00:16:46.793 --> 00:16:47.033 It. 00:16:47.033 --> 00:16:55.399 It was a huge problem and he made that known and so he did it one day, in the very beginning, and we stood there and he said this phrase. 00:16:55.399 --> 00:16:58.294 He said I'm not doing this design on the fly stuff. 00:16:58.294 --> 00:17:02.192 And I said, well, it's not design on the fly, like it's all very well planned out. 00:17:02.192 --> 00:17:04.316 But you didn't want to see the pictures at the initial meeting. 00:17:04.316 --> 00:17:06.220 You didn't want to see the pictures here. 00:17:06.220 --> 00:17:11.772 When do you want me to give you the information, to further explain the details of what I'm wanting? 00:17:11.772 --> 00:17:14.964 And there was never an answer to that question. 00:17:15.065 --> 00:17:30.178 It was always just like, basically like little girl, we're not doing that he just want to build it how he wanted to build just wanted to say y'all go in and do what y'all always do we made a bad decision and we signed a contract and at this point we're just trying to get through it. 00:17:30.178 --> 00:17:37.338 Cut your losses, have a building half done, start over, grind it out, finish it. 00:17:39.594 --> 00:17:44.395 So basically it got to that point because I wasn't going to give in and every time I would call him. 00:17:44.395 --> 00:18:04.737 And it's sad because my husband's offshore, he's working probably 14 plus hours a day and the little bit of time he gets to call and be on the phone together, I'm telling him the problem of the day and he's just there supporting me, saying, babe, do what you want, make it what you want, like he was so supportive. 00:18:04.737 --> 00:18:10.895 And of course every phone call involves more money and letting this man just totally take advantage of the situation. 00:18:12.398 --> 00:18:14.722 By time

it's starting to strain our relationship too. 00:18:14.742 --> 00:18:25.390 You know it's a lot of pressure on us kind of goes back to what you said earlier too, though, knowing that it was a promise from the lord. 00:18:25.390 --> 00:18:32.442 You know you're going to expect those setbacks and those, but we didn't expect it. 00:18:32.442 --> 00:18:33.545 I know you can. 00:18:33.545 --> 00:18:43.932 It's almost like you can never truly prepare, because I feel like, if you know what would be to come, it would be almost too scary or too intimidating that you would back down on the promise that God had for you. 00:18:43.932 --> 00:19:03.823 But all of those setbacks and pushbacks and you know frustrating moments where y'all kept going and kept pushing in, and now you're seeing the fruit of, like, the ministry that's coming out of that build, like every time you know you're in your salon and it is absolutely beautiful. 00:19:03.863 --> 00:19:08.299 It is that's amazing it is gorgeous, it is absolutely gorgeous. 00:19:08.299 --> 00:19:12.750 It's like a magnolia magazine cover. 00:19:12.750 --> 00:19:44.384 But it's not just beautiful, it's a place of like ministry and like holy spirit is in that building and I know it's because of y'all obedience and y'all pushing through and but, yeah, that just shows that the magnificent call and the calling that was behind it all, like y'all yes, because all the people who are sitting in that chair that you're encouraging and you're just a listening ear and you know a wise word. 00:19:47.050 --> 00:19:53.722 The interesting part of what you're saying is I almost I didn't really know that was going to be happening. 00:19:53.722 --> 00:20:05.000 It was more like so I think I had undiagnosed ADHD and functioning in the Lafayette salon I was working at it was just so overstimulating and so just so much. 00:20:05.000 --> 00:20:08.618 I just wanted out and there was some, you know, interpersonal friction. 00:20:08.618 --> 00:20:09.932 When you have that many people together, that's going to happen. 00:20:09.932 --> 00:20:10.998 I just wanted out and there was some interpersonal friction. 00:20:10.998 --> 00:20:12.169 When you have that many people together, that's going to happen. 00:20:12.169 --> 00:20:19.603 I just wanted out and the focus for me was on God giving me this peaceful place for me and my clients. 00:20:19.682 --> 00:20:24.999 And that was it and your co-leader, that semester of Find your People. 00:20:24.999 --> 00:20:34.920 She came, she was the first friend, the first person outside of my very close family to see it, and it wasn't furnished but it was basically complete as far as the bill goes. 00:20:34.920 --> 00:21:09.140 She opened the front door and she couldn't even get in far enough to close the door and it was almost like she was, her breath was caught and she said ministry is going to happen in this place, ministry is going to happen in this place, and it was almost like a weight, but not in a

bad way like a duty to carry out, almost like she was kind of working of the Lord, saying this is what God wants you to do here, and I was like, oh, I don't know if I can. 00:21:09.140 --> 00:21:09.421 That's heavy. 00:21:10.009 --> 00:21:13.875 That's a responsibility, like I just thought I was coming to do some hair in a happy place, you know, um. 00:21:13.875 --> 00:21:19.941 But God has delivered that too, like just allowing me to not be overstimulated. 00:21:19.941 --> 00:21:29.472 I can be calm and I'm not stressed and I'm not worried about anything and I can listen well, and all the things that I've learned over the years from the Bible and from you know walking with the Lord. 00:21:29.472 --> 00:21:36.565 It's like God has the perfect thing for that person at that time, and I'm that vessel right. 00:21:36.630 --> 00:21:36.750 Like. 00:21:36.750 --> 00:21:38.478 It's just like in our freedom retreats. 00:21:39.152 --> 00:21:44.240 It's just the conduit whatever he wants and it was never really built, designed as a moneymaker. 00:21:44.240 --> 00:21:46.719 You know, it's a place for her to work really, and that's all it's ever been. 00:21:46.719 --> 00:21:57.036 Sometimes I encourage her, you know know a little bit a little pushback, you know, yeah, it's always been just a place for her to work and that's what ultimately, it's like a safe haven. 00:21:58.298 --> 00:22:00.423 You walk into there and it's just. 00:22:00.482 --> 00:22:07.701 It's so peaceful and so coming out of that season I could tell you know that impacted you a lot. 00:22:07.721 --> 00:22:10.902 There's obviously a lot that you wanted to do protecting your woman, watching out for your wife that you know that impacted you a lot. 00:22:10.902 --> 00:22:11.357 There's obviously a lot that you wanted to do. 00:22:11.357 --> 00:22:17.471 Protecting your woman, watching out for your wife that you know being offshore probably kept you from doing all that you wanted to do. 00:22:17.471 --> 00:22:21.339 What did y'all learn through that season? 00:22:21.339 --> 00:22:24.673 What was god doing in you through y'all? 00:22:24.673 --> 00:22:42.094 Because I mean we understand, like said, moments that bring strain within a relationship can also bear strength down the road through those things, because through it all we bond and get closer and learn some things If we choose, yeah, if you choose. 00:22:42.153 --> 00:22:42.516 that's right. 00:22:42.516 --> 00:22:50.300 So I'd love to hear some of what God was doing through y'all in y'all and y'all's relationship At that time. 00:22:50.300 --> 00:22:57.080 At that time and on the other side of it, I'd say the other side of it has brought us closer ultimately. 00:22:57.101 --> 00:23:00.881 You know, because the struggles you do get close when you go through struggles and you go through them together. 00:23:00.881 --> 00:23:06.720 You know it's um, it's always a battle, but if you're fighting it together, it's uh, it's better in the long run. 00:23:08.423 --> 00:23:26.092 I'll say, too, that I've always been pretty independent and I think I really learned in that season that I need him and that was probably a prideful thing that I always was like, no, I'm blessed and I want him and I'm happy that he's my husband and we're married. 00:23:26.092 --> 00:23:31.180 I don't need, he needs me, I need him, I do, I love it. 00:23:31.730 --> 00:23:50.084 But it was almost like a it's crazy it took that long and to go through that but just like a resting in that, like God put him here and I'm his helpmate, but like it's so peaceful there, like to just be like yep got me. 00:23:53.710 --> 00:23:55.614 I don't know that I ever felt so loved by you either, except through all that. 00:23:55.614 --> 00:24:00.042 Like every time, I was like babe, it's just getting to be so much. 00:24:00.042 --> 00:24:02.193 So much money, so much stress, so much pressure. 00:24:02.193 --> 00:24:03.136 It's so much, it's so much. 00:24:03.136 --> 00:24:10.385 And he's like every single time, without fail do it the way you want it, do it the way you want it, do it the way you want it. 00:24:11.089 --> 00:24:11.872 Do it the way you want it. 00:24:11.872 --> 00:24:12.512 Do it the way you want it. 00:24:12.512 --> 00:24:13.094 Do it the way you want it. 00:24:13.094 --> 00:24:13.413 That's awesome. 00:24:13.413 --> 00:24:14.056 What was going on inside of you? 00:24:14.056 --> 00:24:15.878 To just be that voice for her? 00:24:16.881 --> 00:24:22.463 um, just knowing how particular she is and making sure that she has it the way she wants it, because we've already fought this hard. 00:24:22.484 --> 00:24:25.253 So yeah, bring it over the finish line. 00:24:25.253 --> 00:24:26.215 Don't cut corners. 00:24:26.215 --> 00:24:26.936 No need to settle. 00:24:27.617 --> 00:24:28.199 Why stop now? 00:24:28.579 --> 00:24:30.262 If we're in this war we're going to win it. 00:24:30.262 --> 00:24:33.796 I mean, let's go, I love it. 00:24:33.796 --> 00:24:35.056 So that was a few years ago. 00:24:35.056 --> 00:24:40.182 You've had plenty of time in there doing ministry, doing amazing things. 00:24:40.182 --> 00:24:41.635 I know Bethany loves going. 00:24:42.012 --> 00:24:50.575 You do a phenomenal job, it's my kids that actually got me to your salon, because Evie was like I want this tip to do. 00:24:50.575 --> 00:24:57.681 And you know, one of Dustin, our really good friends, like a couple, was doing my hair before and he was doing dust. 00:24:57.681 --> 00:25:00.419 He still does Dustin's hair and Asher's sometimes. 00:25:03.396 --> 00:25:07.176 And we let them pick and Evie was like I want to go. 00:25:07.176 --> 00:25:09.836 Yes, Evie was like I want this tip to cut my hair. 00:25:09.836 --> 00:25:12.356 So I was like, okay, I was like, yay, I get to hang out with Miss Tiff. 00:25:12.356 --> 00:25:23.742 And then Asher was ready for like a big boy haircut and ready to chop the curls and he was like I want to go to Miss.

00:25:23.763 --> 00:25:24.727 He said I want to look like dad. 00:25:24.727 --> 00:25:31.896 Yes, oh really, he was like I want to look like dad. 00:25:31.896 --> 00:25:37.217 So Tiff gave him his first big boy haircut and, yes, we look forward to every appointment. 00:25:37.576 --> 00:25:39.721 That's right, so oh go ahead. 00:25:40.041 --> 00:25:46.174 I was going to say that, if we're going to talk about all this anyway, the divine part really didn't come until the end and we really haven't touched on that. 00:25:46.295 --> 00:25:46.596 Okay. 00:25:47.159 --> 00:25:49.438 So we get through the process. 00:25:49.438 --> 00:25:52.113 Touched on that, okay, so we get through the process. 00:25:52.133 --> 00:25:52.615 We're at the very end. 00:25:52.634 --> 00:25:55.342 We pay as we go, you know as far as the builder goes. 00:25:55.342 --> 00:25:58.873 So, um, so we have a construction loan at this point, variable interest rate, behind you. 00:25:58.873 --> 00:26:02.760 Um, we're at the very end of it. 00:26:02.760 --> 00:26:15.357 He pulls the permits, closes the permits, never, does a final inspection so it can never be released to us, tells all the subs never to talk to us. 00:26:15.357 --> 00:26:20.378 So we're ultimately left with pretty much a fully funded building. 00:26:20.680 --> 00:26:22.002 No, that we can't use. 00:26:23.109 --> 00:26:24.857 Finished too, also Sorry. 00:26:24.857 --> 00:26:26.035 90% finished. 00:26:26.135 --> 00:26:28.375 Yeah, we had to insulate the attic, build out your bathroom. 00:26:28.394 --> 00:26:29.017 Yeah, and he walked away from it. 00:26:29.017 --> 00:26:30.761 Yeah, we had to insulate the attic, build out your bathroom. 00:26:30.761 --> 00:26:33.349 Yeah, and he walked away from it, wow. 00:26:34.330 --> 00:26:34.592 Just like. 00:26:34.592 --> 00:26:35.720 I'm going to stick it to you, just to. 00:26:35.720 --> 00:26:37.069 So we were left with. 00:26:37.069 --> 00:26:38.375 I'm going to just make this real hard for y'all. 00:26:39.157 --> 00:26:41.457 Wow, and no one wants to come in at the end. 00:26:41.910 --> 00:26:43.130 Because you don't know what's behind the walls. 00:26:43.130 --> 00:26:47.821 They're like it's super fishy is probably the first thing most contractors think. 00:26:48.310 --> 00:26:48.570 Yeah. 00:26:48.570 --> 00:26:56.567 Good luck, guys have fun with this and because you can't pull the permits yourself, because it's commercial. 00:26:56.586 --> 00:26:57.410 Because it's commercial. 00:26:57.691 --> 00:26:59.250 I can't even schedule a final inspection. 00:26:59.250 --> 00:27:00.615 So then, what did y'all do? 00:27:06.556 --> 00:27:07.839 You're going to make me cry. 00:27:07.839 --> 00:27:16.037 Well, fortunately this wasn't our first thing. 00:27:16.037 --> 00:27:18.480 We've done building or doing or whatever. 00:27:18.480 --> 00:27:28.077 We've worked with some really great people and we've had some really great relationships with people and the Lord created me to love people and have good relationships with people. 00:27:28.077 --> 00:27:33.048 And so, through just experience of doing hair and I mean we pulled every string, we knew every person. 00:27:33.048 --> 00:27:38.750 We knew we knew contractors, we knew plumbers, we knew electricians and we found people who just we already. 00:27:38.750 --> 00:27:40.535 I mean they were busy. 00:27:40.535 --> 00:27:41.557 Some of them couldn't help. 00:27:41.557 --> 00:27:48.637 Some of them were like, well, this is sticky because we know this person and they work with that person and they'll never get work again, but they helped us find a different person. 00:27:49.699 --> 00:27:55.849 Ultimately, our neighbor is a retired commercial contractor who just happened to still have his license and happened to still have his insurance. 00:27:55.849 --> 00:27:57.796 Wow, everything divine. 00:27:58.365 --> 00:28:10.628 And he didn't even really, I would say, understand what was going on, but he knew our character enough to trust and just say like y'all, just fill out whatever paperwork and I'm here for you. 00:28:10.650 --> 00:28:11.009 Wow, that's awesome. 00:28:11.029 --> 00:28:22.387 He went with us to the inspection office to talk to the man in charge and just be like, hey, here's the whole situation and I'm here to to be here for these people, but it's really their project, you know. 00:28:22.647 --> 00:28:33.432 And but he was just there for you just there for us god orchestrated that relationship the neighbor to be there when this guy was just trying to, I mean, put y'all in a bond y'all couldn't get out of. 00:28:33.945 --> 00:28:37.175 And that's not the first time that neighbor had kind of seen something in us. 00:28:37.175 --> 00:28:41.650 He saw something in James and gave him another deal and really helped him out. 00:28:41.650 --> 00:28:45.690 Years before that he has a propensity to be kind to us. 00:28:46.030 --> 00:28:46.692 That's awesome. 00:28:46.692 --> 00:28:49.096 It's the favor of the Lord upon you guys in that manner. 00:28:49.096 --> 00:28:54.565 God just working it out so y'all could pull the permit and get it over the finish line, yep. 00:28:54.984 --> 00:28:56.069 And it's been downhill ever since. 00:28:56.069 --> 00:28:56.592 It's been great. 00:28:56.592 --> 00:28:58.330 So, no issues since then. 00:28:59.385 --> 00:29:01.673 But what a war and a battle to go through, huh. 00:29:02.625 --> 00:29:07.913 And his parents are, like I would say, are spiritual, covering mine for sure. 00:29:07.913 --> 00:29:16.799 And with him being gone so much, I mean she probably had an hour every night of just listening to me, let it out and just say why is he so horrible. 00:29:16.799 --> 00:29:18.351 And you know what are we going to do? 00:29:18.351 --> 00:29:22.733 And every single conversation she didn't have answers, you know, but she would just reassure us. 00:29:22.733 --> 00:29:25.038 This is the enemy Press in. 00:29:25.038 --> 00:29:27.330 The Lord

provided, just keep going. 00:29:27.951 --> 00:29:28.653 That's amazing. 00:29:28.673 --> 00:29:29.676 We're praying for y'all. 00:29:29.676 --> 00:29:31.030 We're praying for your marriage. 00:29:31.785 --> 00:29:32.948 Lost my job at the end of it too. 00:29:32.948 --> 00:29:37.016 Okay, the cherry on top. 00:29:38.325 --> 00:29:53.432 He's like hire whoever I'll help you with, like fund it, Like don't worry about it, and then oh, Like were you at least past the permit part when you lost your job? 00:29:53.451 --> 00:29:54.517 no, oh, this was like a few months before we finished. 00:29:54.517 --> 00:29:56.585 Oh my goodness, this was the fall before he calls me one day. 00:29:56.625 --> 00:30:06.796 He's like I'm coming home and I'm like oh, the job ended soon, not exactly for me, for me, it did yeah I wasn't at the best place and we're at an impasse and it just. 00:30:06.855 --> 00:30:10.313 You know it wasn't the right time, but sometimes it's but looking back. 00:30:10.313 --> 00:30:16.592 So at that point I got to navigate the final issues here, be there get everything on track. 00:30:16.592 --> 00:30:17.414 Move her in. 00:30:17.928 --> 00:30:18.491 God's timing. 00:30:18.491 --> 00:30:25.307 Yes, I had been buying, you know, gigantic mirrors and chairs and things I can't move by myself and storing them in our garage anytime they go on sale. 00:30:25.307 --> 00:30:27.172 I'm like, well, I've been tracking it, I'd buy it on sale. 00:30:27.172 --> 00:30:28.776 He was home. 00:30:28.776 --> 00:30:29.537 We rented a U-Haul. 00:30:29.537 --> 00:30:34.191 We were sitting there going what would we do if you weren't home right now? 00:30:34.191 --> 00:30:36.598 How would I have ever paid the man if he hadn't come home? 00:30:36.739 --> 00:30:40.346 Yeah, Well, let me back up a little bit. 00:30:40.346 --> 00:30:42.609 When you lost your job, what was going through your mind? 00:30:42.609 --> 00:30:45.153 Knowing that the project's going on? 00:30:45.153 --> 00:30:50.160 You got like what before you made that phone call to Tiffany. 00:30:50.160 --> 00:30:50.980 Like what were you? 00:30:51.967 --> 00:30:54.073 what you know, I don't know. 00:30:54.073 --> 00:31:01.593 Yeah, not nothing like terrible or bad, because we've always been pretty smart with money. 00:31:01.593 --> 00:31:06.446 I think Not crazy with it you know, and live well within our means and God's always provided and he's. 00:31:06.446 --> 00:31:11.590 I've always had his favor in my projects and working and it's never been an issue. 00:31:11.590 --> 00:31:16.535 So even with that at that point it was a lot. 00:31:16.535 --> 00:31:20.298 But it was also coming up in the industry. 00:31:20.298 --> 00:31:24.942 I've come up in it's very feast or famine and I've always been taken care of. 00:31:26.005 --> 00:31:27.209 God's always taken care of us. 00:31:27.209 --> 00:31:28.815 So you're in that season, you're just able to lean in. 00:31:29.326 --> 00:31:31.092 It's something I've been

training for. 00:31:31.192 --> 00:31:36.690 at that point there was a little bit of a hard spell for you afterward, when things didn't pick up right away. 00:31:36.891 --> 00:31:38.394 Yeah, and that was hard. 00:31:39.365 --> 00:31:40.990 It was hard for me to watch you go through that. 00:31:40.990 --> 00:31:42.075 I didn't know. 00:31:42.075 --> 00:31:47.851 I mean, sometimes it would just be so heavy I'd want to get in the car and go for a drive just to get out of the house. 00:31:47.851 --> 00:31:48.672 And he'd be like where are you going? 00:31:48.672 --> 00:31:50.755 Don't leave and I'm like, well, you're not happy with me here. 00:31:50.815 --> 00:31:54.701 I figure I might just evade for a minute and he's like no, stay. 00:31:54.701 --> 00:31:58.247 And I'm like okay, definitely. 00:31:58.247 --> 00:32:07.017 That was hard for me to watch you go through that and not know when it was going to end, not know when he was going to be back to his normal self. 00:32:07.576 --> 00:32:12.530 We went through that in the beginning of our marriage too, though yeah, we did Was that like searching for a job it wasn't the same. 00:32:12.550 --> 00:32:13.644 Was that like when you were trying to find work? 00:32:13.644 --> 00:32:14.487 I? 00:32:14.527 --> 00:32:15.972 don't think so, I don't know. 00:32:16.204 --> 00:32:17.652 Probably the right work is the thing. 00:32:17.652 --> 00:32:19.674 It was just low. 00:32:21.665 --> 00:32:49.557 So you have to imagine, in my industry I In my industry I was coming off of a very sought-after position, Very hard to come by and not remember people had it, and so then I had to go down and look a little bit and humbling, you know, but every step is, but every time God moves you down, he'll move you back up, because underwater welding or something amazing like that, yeah. 00:32:49.557 --> 00:32:53.634 But, but now I've moved into just operation services. 00:32:53.634 --> 00:32:54.115 Yeah. 00:32:54.134 --> 00:32:55.156 Something totally different. 00:32:55.156 --> 00:33:08.375 But, um, but I used to, you know, think of myself as the provider and as soon as we got married, I don't think I worked for eight months straight and I never had that. 00:33:08.375 --> 00:33:08.515 So I remember coming home just happy Like I'm, like I don't think I worked for eight months straight and I never had that. 00:33:09.506 --> 00:33:11.373 I remember coming home just happy. 00:33:11.373 --> 00:33:15.310 I'm like I can pay the bills, it's fine, I make enough to cover it. 00:33:15.310 --> 00:33:19.250 We don't have to have an extravagant life, it's fine, I'm just happy I'm married. 00:33:19.250 --> 00:33:20.630 And he's like I don't deserve this. 00:33:20.630 --> 00:33:25.631 I don't understand why God's doing this to me, because who's the provider? 00:33:28.724 --> 00:33:29.386 God, because who's the provider? 00:33:29.386 --> 00:33:29.467 God? 00:33:29.467 --> 00:33:29.747 That's right. 00:33:29.747 --> 00:33:31.971 That's literally

the conversation that we had. 00:33:31.971 --> 00:33:34.096 Was it yesterday or the day before? 00:33:34.096 --> 00:33:35.278 The day before yesterday? 00:33:35.865 --> 00:33:36.528 Because we came. 00:33:36.528 --> 00:33:52.657 I mean, if you fast forward, aside from the conversations we've been having the last couple of days, if you go back to 2015, for us, god was calling us out of a season where we were making really good money for you know, 25 year olds, we were he was yeah. 00:33:52.678 --> 00:33:53.741 I was in middle management. 00:33:53.741 --> 00:33:54.345 You know what I mean. 00:33:54.345 --> 00:33:56.776 I mean like a corporate ladder, that's right. 00:33:57.076 --> 00:34:00.307 On the path, for you know, towards executive leadership in a few years. 00:34:00.307 --> 00:34:14.034 And, um, we were married two years at that point, but she was in PT school and so we were, you know, paying as we went and God called us into a season of moving to a job that was a commission. 00:34:14.114 --> 00:34:16.467 Only, um, and it was a partnership. 00:34:16.487 --> 00:34:19.760 It was entrepreneurial and I mean we took six months. 00:34:19.760 --> 00:34:27.514 That was a six month period of us, you know, praying, seeking God's face, seeking wise counsel, and and there were like 10,000 reasons why we shouldn't do it. 00:34:27.514 --> 00:34:30.099 But we knew God told us to do it. 00:34:30.199 --> 00:34:39.315 And so we did, including people that we trust and we honor and we respect Even they, and they hear from the Lord. 00:34:39.315 --> 00:34:41.050 But even they were like is this wise? 00:34:41.050 --> 00:34:42.911 Are you sure, are you hearing from the Lord? 00:34:42.911 --> 00:34:46.896 And which would also like are we making the right decision? 00:34:46.896 --> 00:34:51.556 For sure, but there was the church that we went to at that time. 00:34:52.405 --> 00:35:00.211 We were talking before service about how I just feel, like you know, we need to get out of the boat. 00:35:00.211 --> 00:35:08.644 It's like we're in that comfort place and the Lord is calling, just like he talked to his disciples like come out of the boat, come into that unknown With me, though he come out of the boat, come into that unknown With me, though he's out of the boat. 00:35:08.644 --> 00:35:13.614 And that Sunday we're at church. 00:35:13.614 --> 00:35:16.259 And the pastor wasn't even talking about that. 00:35:16.259 --> 00:35:26.693 That wasn't even his main message, but he went off on a tangent and said, kind of like, when Jesus told Peter, step out of the boat, it's time for you to like, take that step of faith and step out of the boat. 00:35:26.693 --> 00:35:29.532 We looked at each other and we're like oh my God. 00:35:29.532 --> 00:35:32.128 But that was peace. 00:35:32.128 --> 00:35:33.293 Yeah, there was. 00:35:33.373 --> 00:35:42.793 It was scary but we can look back on that season and know that God worked so much in I know my heart, but financially it was horrible. 00:35:43.445 --> 00:35:45.429 I mean, we lost everything but the house. 00:35:45.809 --> 00:35:47.032 And that's a miracle. 00:35:47.713 --> 00:35:49.958 I mean we lost everything but the house, and that's a miracle. 00:35:49.958 --> 00:35:50.760 I mean I had stock options. 00:35:50.760 --> 00:35:58.492 I mean just all kinds of stuff that we had to sell to survive for the next two years is what that season was a two-year season While I'm in PT school and we're paying tuition. 00:35:58.492 --> 00:36:00.653 Which we ended up having to take a loan. 00:36:00.673 --> 00:36:04.469 You know that kind of stuff, but the grace of God was still there the entire time. 00:36:04.469 --> 00:36:13.699 Like people would say hey, go to Walmart, I have a pickup order for you, and there'd be cleaning supplies like frozen food, you know, pantry food, all the things. 00:36:20.045 --> 00:36:22.152 And we love to eat out and but it was something we just had to give up, couldn't do, couldn't do. 00:36:22.152 --> 00:36:30.097 And almost every Sunday, a family and we did not tell people about our issues because we didn't want pity parties or you know, we're like the Lord will provide. 00:36:30.097 --> 00:36:38.190 And almost every Sunday someone would say hey, like y'all want to come eat out with us, and we're like no, no, no, it's like our treat, are you sure? 00:36:38.190 --> 00:36:47.835 Like yes, like we're not taking, no, we're like okay, and like we're some poor, broke people eating out at nice restaurants every weekend. 00:36:48.034 --> 00:36:49.818 And it was just like the Lord was like. 00:36:49.818 --> 00:36:50.358 I got you. 00:36:50.358 --> 00:36:56.318 I know your heart, even though you can't afford anything right now, barely even your bills. 00:36:56.501 --> 00:36:56.804 That's right. 00:36:57.425 --> 00:36:59.673 That verse is just blaring in my head. 00:36:59.673 --> 00:37:03.356 Like I clothe the birds and the flowers, and how much more. 00:37:04.367 --> 00:37:07.088 Like I'm not doing that right, but like you know what I'm saying, it's just like God's. 00:37:07.108 --> 00:37:08.934 Like I get give good gifts to my children. 00:37:09.074 --> 00:37:12.590 Like it's a gift and I remember in that season he loves us. 00:37:12.590 --> 00:37:24.476 There were two instances in that season where, you know, we had barely any money in our checking account and we would be at the now, at this point we're commissioned only so, like you know, getting paid next week. 00:37:24.476 --> 00:37:33.853 There wasn't any of that where God told us to write a check for the last bit that was in our account two separate times. 00:37:33.853 --> 00:37:34.375 I forgot about that. 00:37:34.394 --> 00:37:35.898 Yeah, and I was like, I mean, at that point it was, it was comical. 00:37:35.918 --> 00:37:36.739 It's like, okay, yep, here you go. 00:37:36.739 --> 00:37:39.891 You know, I mean it's whatever $32 or nothing we can do about it. 00:37:39.891 --> 00:37:47.275 Anyway,

okay, here you go, we'll be obedient, and every step of the way he provided. 00:37:47.275 --> 00:38:07.304 But what's interesting because you said that happened at the beginning and then it happened again after that season is whenever it almost seems like you go back, god brings you around a mountain five years, ten years later, whatever the number is, for us it's ten years later that you get in a similar situation and it can still be scary, still be unknown. 00:38:07.405 --> 00:38:08.349 Like Lord, I trust you. 00:38:08.349 --> 00:38:09.851 And I told her this week. 00:38:09.851 --> 00:38:18.311 I said babe, I feel like the guy that brought his child for God to deliver or Jesus to deliver him, and he's like do you believe? 00:38:18.311 --> 00:38:20.289 And the man answers Lord, I believe. 00:38:20.289 --> 00:38:21.713 Help my unbelief. 00:38:21.713 --> 00:38:30.190 Yeah, exactly, I was like that's what it feels like sometimes and you know, like Lord, I remember that past season, but it's still scary. 00:38:30.190 --> 00:38:30.891 This season. 00:38:31.030 --> 00:38:32.672 Sometimes you need a refresher and I don't like it. 00:38:32.672 --> 00:38:35.074 I don't like being a refresher, I like to think. 00:38:35.074 --> 00:38:35.574 I remember. 00:38:36.076 --> 00:38:42.021 But if it doesn't get more real then he went to, was it in Alexandria, lake Charles? 00:38:42.760 --> 00:38:44.965 Oh, Sulphur, Sulphur yeah. 00:38:44.985 --> 00:38:50.418 Thursday One of them places, but the first time he ever went to one of these. 00:38:51.286 --> 00:38:52.472 It's called Industry of Faith. 00:38:52.472 --> 00:39:01.072 It's a lunch that you just kind of people in the marketplace come together and a guy who runs the Industry of Faith Ministries. 00:39:01.072 --> 00:39:03.097 He gives a message Once a month. 00:39:03.097 --> 00:39:12.235 They do it in Lafayette every month, but I found out they also do it in Sulphur and Beaumont and Baton Rouge area and I have prospects for work in Sulphur. 00:39:12.235 --> 00:39:17.838 So I was like, well, let me go meet some Christian men and women that are in the marketplace going after God. 00:39:17.838 --> 00:39:26.179 And so I went for the first time last Thursday and the guy preached on Peter getting out of the boat and walking on water. 00:39:26.405 --> 00:39:29.144 And that's the exact thing, I sent her a screenshot and she was like oh, that's so exciting. 00:39:29.144 --> 00:39:30.891 I said this is scary, it's scary. 00:39:32.684 --> 00:39:35.414 Yes and yes, yes. 00:39:35.414 --> 00:39:49.001 But we're in a similar situation, like do we leave this comfort place of this job to take something else that seems, I mean, it's nothing really. 00:39:49.405 --> 00:39:50.489 And it might not even be our choice. 00:39:50.489 --> 00:39:52.094 It might not even be our choice, we're just seeking God. 00:39:52.574 --> 00:40:03.211 Yes, so, but just the fact that the exact scripture was like I've got you, I hear you, I trust you, I've carried you, then I will carry you now. 00:40:03.211 --> 00:40:05.465 Just trust me, step out of the boat. 00:40:05.726 --> 00:40:11.327 She's talking to me Step out of the boat. 00:40:11.327 --> 00:40:12.853 She's talking to me, by the way, step out of the boat, yeah, but yeah, yeah. 00:40:12.853 --> 00:40:13.436 So I feel you on that. 00:40:13.456 --> 00:40:23.429 The growth is always uncomfortable that's the way it is always with anything it's always uncomfortable, but it's always necessary that's right, so much good comes out of it, it's true, I don't want it to come that way. 00:40:23.670 --> 00:40:26.313 No, it does I just you saying that makes me think. 00:40:26.313 --> 00:40:35.777 When we lived in texas, um my husband, the master of ideas and side hustles, that's a good one. 00:40:35.856 --> 00:40:52.210 That's a good, that's a good thing sometimes maybe debatable we um, one of them was a t-shirt business but it was and it was great, but it was the name of the t-shirt company was broken and kind of like. 00:40:52.210 --> 00:40:54.195 We're all like broken vessels, you know what I mean. 00:40:54.195 --> 00:41:06.545 Um, but the idea of the business was workout attire and it was just like one word, like bold persevere persevere pure, loved whatever. 00:41:06.545 --> 00:41:11.858 Across the front and then the back was like a spine scripture reference to support. 00:41:11.925 --> 00:41:13.309 We were doing the spinal prints before. 00:41:13.309 --> 00:41:13.791 They were cool. 00:41:13.791 --> 00:41:14.713 This is true. 00:41:14.713 --> 00:41:15.396 This is true. 00:41:16.146 --> 00:41:17.070 We should have copyrighted it. 00:41:17.070 --> 00:41:23.300 But the whole idea about the broken was it's tough. 00:41:23.300 --> 00:41:24.664 It's hard, Like your muscles. 00:41:24.664 --> 00:41:29.927 They have to be broken to be able to be rebuilt and we don't like the process. 00:41:29.927 --> 00:41:32.132 It doesn't feel good but we like the effects afterwards. 00:41:32.494 --> 00:41:35.268 That's right and it's to remember in that season you know that. 00:41:35.268 --> 00:41:41.534 Hey, last time I was going through this I didn't enjoy it, but gotta lean in because look what's on the other side. 00:41:41.534 --> 00:41:49.818 You know god, he sees his promises are yes and amen yeah, so anyhow, anything else y'all want to add on that season? 00:41:50.365 --> 00:42:05.192 that was a lot of it, so glad that part's over hey and now I don't mind the lot because it's small and I have to mow it so now you're appreciative he chooses to mow it nice I mowed it happily while he was away you weeded it. 00:42:05.492 --> 00:42:09.039 No, we hired a retired man to weed eat. 00:42:09.039 --> 00:42:12.054 Okay, and that was also nice that we got to help employ him. 00:42:12.335 --> 00:42:12.657 Yeah. 00:42:12.737 --> 00:42:13.639 A sweet man from church. 00:42:14.001 --> 00:42:14.724 That's awesome. 00:42:14.724 --> 00:42:17.751 Yeah Heck, yeah, weed eating is

the worst part. 00:42:17.751 --> 00:42:19.677 Yeah, she was like I don't know. 00:42:19.677 --> 00:42:21.210 She was like, hey, I'll jump on the mower at the house. 00:42:21.251 --> 00:42:32.190 I'm like well, that's I was like you need Almo, we'll cut the time in half, yeah, I appreciate it, but it's kind of nice, that's what I said too. 00:42:33.746 --> 00:42:34.126 That's right. 00:42:34.126 --> 00:42:37.913 Well then, I guess we're ready to move on to the ABCs of the Elevation Room. 00:42:37.913 --> 00:42:42.871 So A is what advice would you give to your younger self? 00:42:43.885 --> 00:42:44.969 Compound interest is real. 00:42:45.726 --> 00:42:47.110 I love it, it's so practical. 00:42:47.110 --> 00:42:49.088 The man is smart. 00:42:49.088 --> 00:42:50.954 Real, the man is smart, the man is smart. 00:42:50.954 --> 00:42:51.865 What about you, tiff? 00:42:54.851 --> 00:42:58.217 I would say I feel like this is cliche, but I really mean it. 00:42:58.217 --> 00:43:00.329 Stop worrying about what everybody else thinks. 00:43:00.329 --> 00:43:03.478 Just do what you know you were created to do. 00:43:03.478 --> 00:43:11.590 I really feel like right now, everything that I do is what little kid Tiffany enjoyed doing oh, wow and it's such. 00:43:11.590 --> 00:43:17.271 It's a mature correlation, of course, but it's it's so fulfilling and everything in between was just a big mess. 00:43:17.271 --> 00:43:19.275 Just a big mess. 00:43:19.275 --> 00:43:28.030 Trying to be trying to compare and will they, and whatever, like, just really stop caring, whatever that usually happens later in life, though I think right. 00:43:29.090 --> 00:43:35.606 People stop caring I think so it's yeah, yeah if you listen to the 70 and 80 year olds at the coffee shop? 00:43:35.626 --> 00:43:38.072 they don't they don't care at all no filter. 00:43:39.215 --> 00:43:40.036 Do what you want to do. 00:43:40.117 --> 00:43:44.532 Wear what you want to wear you do you yeah, and you know it's again. 00:43:44.532 --> 00:43:46.077 People say it's all cliche. 00:43:46.077 --> 00:43:46.518 You know you. 00:43:46.518 --> 00:43:50.833 You attract people who are like you and that's comfortable and nice and wonderful. 00:43:51.315 --> 00:43:54.525 Yeah, I would say it's easy to make friends when you're younger. 00:43:54.525 --> 00:43:56.929 I had a lot of friends, it didn't matter, you know. 00:43:58.186 --> 00:44:05.807 Yeah, that's something that I found that I always knew a lot of people but wasn't really good at maintaining friendships. 00:44:05.807 --> 00:44:10.713 You know, until I tried to be more intentional about it, maybe a few years ago. 00:44:10.713 --> 00:44:17.739 But yeah, I would just kind of go with the flow and the next thing, you know, it's like wait, I don't have any friends. 00:44:17.739 --> 00:44:19.121 What's going on? 00:44:20.204 --> 00:44:26.389 Yeah, definitely a big part of being intentional about life and who you want to surround yourself with, Exactly exactly. 00:44:26.389 --> 00:44:35.708 So the B is books that have made the greatest impact books that made the greatest impact. 00:44:35.708 --> 00:44:36.190 Go first. 00:44:37.333 --> 00:44:37.673 Go ahead. 00:44:39.501 --> 00:44:43.391 The five love languages for marriage, for friends. 00:44:43.391 --> 00:44:45.346 Look for them in kids. 00:44:45.346 --> 00:44:49.288 I don't have kids, but there's a lot of kids in my life. 00:44:49.288 --> 00:44:58.311 I love a lot and I think I try to hone in on what their love language is and that proves to be good relationship-building material. 00:44:58.311 --> 00:45:03.190 And then good old Dave Ramsey. 00:45:03.190 --> 00:45:05.788 Anything about Dave Ramsey that's been beneficial for us. 00:45:06.119 --> 00:45:07.505 Yes, it has been very beneficial. 00:45:07.505 --> 00:45:11.748 That's awesome, even though the after part isn't very clear. 00:45:12.239 --> 00:45:18.467 Yeah, he should get more instruction on when you get to the seventh step, Like what to do then yeah, yeah, he's got. 00:45:18.889 --> 00:45:20.293 He's got a whole lot of books out there. 00:45:20.293 --> 00:45:21.699 Now he's turning them out. 00:45:21.699 --> 00:45:23.864 Yeah, I quit reading them yeah, there you go. 00:45:23.925 --> 00:45:31.018 It's a fantastic, fantastic foundation for your finances concept yeah, you want to take strain out of things right there with money. 00:45:31.038 --> 00:45:32.240 There you go yeah, there you go. 00:45:32.240 --> 00:45:34.105 That's one big chip off the table for sure. 00:45:34.105 --> 00:45:35.947 So what are y'all's love languages? 00:45:40.760 --> 00:45:43.846 Yours is active service, steady Constantly. 00:45:44.266 --> 00:45:45.548 Yours is ever-changing. 00:45:46.150 --> 00:45:56.750 Well, I have found, but normally it's Quality time maintains the main one, and when I take the quiz there's usually a close second and it's whatever I'm deficient in. 00:45:57.260 --> 00:45:58.806 Oh, okay, that makes sense. 00:45:59.061 --> 00:46:00.286 I got a full-time job right there. 00:46:01.880 --> 00:46:03.842 I'm pretty clear about letting you know what it is. 00:46:04.545 --> 00:46:05.047 Well, that's good. 00:46:05.047 --> 00:46:06.306 At least you don't keep it bottled up. 00:46:06.306 --> 00:46:12.764 Did y'all go through the book together, or did y'all just kind of one of y'all do it and then share it with the other? 00:46:13.344 --> 00:46:15.567 I read it and then we both did the quiz. 00:46:15.867 --> 00:46:17.949 The five love languages I've read it as well. 00:46:17.949 --> 00:46:20.072 I have Maybe more than once. 00:46:20.813 --> 00:46:21.393 I didn't know that. 00:46:21.393 --> 00:46:22.655 That's important Learn something new. 00:46:23.016 --> 00:46:23.536 I have not. 00:46:23.536 --> 00:46:29.409 I depend on him to tell me yeah, she does not read, so I have to translate whatever. 00:46:29.429 --> 00:46:30.512 I'm like, babe, this is really good. 00:46:30.512 --> 00:46:31.313 You should

read this. 00:46:36.360 --> 00:46:38.887 She was like just give me the cliff notes, Built-in cliff notes, Audio books I'm getting better at audio books. 00:46:38.887 --> 00:46:39.349 My really good friend. 00:46:39.349 --> 00:46:41.856 She recently published books. 00:46:41.856 --> 00:46:47.090 She has two devotionals Plug for Carrie Riva De Niro, there you go. 00:46:47.090 --> 00:46:56.570 But she has two devotionals and she has a book prior to that and I am working my way through. 00:46:56.570 --> 00:47:00.844 I'm going to do it and I'm waiting for her to. 00:47:00.844 --> 00:47:02.244 One of them is on audio. 00:47:02.840 --> 00:47:06.791 But the others, I'm waiting, I'm trying, I'm trying. 00:47:06.791 --> 00:47:15.186 I'm not a quick processor, so I'm a slow reader, and then I'm also kind of ADD, so I'm like, what did I just read? 00:47:15.186 --> 00:47:26.244 Because my brain goes here and it's not necessarily relaxing for me and I need to read my Bible, and so that's your capacity, that is my capacity. 00:47:29.746 --> 00:47:34.329 Praise the Lord, I'm working, we're all a work in progress, that's right. 00:47:34.920 --> 00:47:36.927 So I have not read the five love languages. 00:47:36.967 --> 00:47:44.867 But yeah, but mine's pretty clear, and so is yours, about acts of service, maybe quality time, quality time yeah. 00:47:44.867 --> 00:47:47.630 And then physical touch for me and words of affirmation. 00:47:47.630 --> 00:47:48.795 Yeah. 00:47:49.579 --> 00:48:07.748 So, and it was good for, like, when I read it, because it allowed me to put words to some of the feelings and, you know, maybe some of the things we hadn't been able to really talk clearly with one another about because just couldn't really put words to other than like your words hurt, cry me a river, you know, like it's always good when you have some perspective. 00:48:07.788 --> 00:48:08.911 That's right, that's right. 00:48:10.201 --> 00:48:21.724 I would also like to say having a great pastor is so valuable as a newlywed, because when we were newlyweds we had an amazing pastor who spoke only on Wednesday nights and the topic was always family and marriage. 00:48:21.844 --> 00:48:27.826 Oh, that's awesome, and so a lot of the books that I read in the beginning um, I almost want to say foolproof. 00:48:27.826 --> 00:48:35.420 I don't think that's totally applicable, but we got off to another great start, just like we did with money with Dave Ramsey from books that um got off to another great start. 00:48:35.420 --> 00:48:36.300 Just like we did with money with dave ramsey from books that um. 00:48:36.521 --> 00:48:38.887 Pastor david boda would recommend on wednesday nights. 00:48:38.887 --> 00:48:39.648 That's awesome. 00:48:39.648 --> 00:48:49.567 I think most of that just relates to putting effort into what you're doing, regardless of what it is for sure, what you put time and effort into will grow yep, very good point. 00:48:50.148 --> 00:48:55.561 So the last, c is uh,

cherished family traditions is everyone always? 00:48:55.601 --> 00:48:56.061 look at me? 00:48:56.061 --> 00:48:58.664 For me, I think it's probably she doesn't. 00:48:58.664 --> 00:48:59.963 I don't really have very many traditions. 00:48:59.963 --> 00:49:01.005 I have a very small family. 00:49:01.005 --> 00:49:05.047 I would say our game night, which is really kind of new. 00:49:05.047 --> 00:49:10.110 It started during COVID, yeah, and it's just something that we do online. 00:49:10.110 --> 00:49:13.893 My family is probably five people, six people, I don't know. 00:49:13.934 --> 00:49:24.090 We lose them, they don't get replenished, but we get together and do a so we're eight people Eight your parents, and then you and your two siblings and the spouses Eight. 00:49:24.452 --> 00:49:25.617 All right, there you go, benjamin. 00:49:27.322 --> 00:49:28.085 Oh, it is growing. 00:49:28.085 --> 00:49:28.565 One nephew. 00:49:30.721 --> 00:49:34.422 So we do a game night and we don't really play games anymore. 00:49:34.422 --> 00:49:40.512 We used to play boggle online because family around the country and um, so it's just nice. 00:49:40.512 --> 00:49:44.503 We get on once a month and my mom kind of she'll do through like a zoom. 00:49:44.503 --> 00:49:51.806 Oh, that's pretty cool exactly your mom kind of spearheads it and make sure you're there and gotta love, hold you accountable. 00:49:51.827 --> 00:49:59.047 Yeah, gotta love mom for that his mom's mantra is all my babies in one place, and so zoom once a month is a way that can happen. 00:49:59.128 --> 00:50:06.228 That's sweet oh that's cool, intentional, you know exactly it's kind of cool too, because before covid we all live in different states. 00:50:06.228 --> 00:50:13.481 Well, now your mom's back in the same state as your sister, but at one point we were all in different states and I think the only time we were all together was at christmas. 00:50:13.481 --> 00:50:15.804 But then COVID Christmas, that didn't happen. 00:50:15.804 --> 00:50:40.740 And so while they're all family, they still are only really seeing each other about once a year, maybe twice, and then the spouses don't necessarily know each other that well, and I'll say in the beginning the game was needed, because there was not, I mean conversation wasn't free flowing and at some point little bits of conversation would start and somebody started saying, okay, what was everyone's dumpster fire, what was everyone's special? 00:50:40.800 --> 00:50:46.746 so, like the worst and the best thing that happened since we met last, those things then created follow-up conversation. 00:50:46.746 --> 00:50:52.865 At some point the game wasn't needed and we just have we call it game nights too we still call it game that's awesome, though. 00:50:52.945 --> 00:50:53.568 I love that. 00:50:53.568 --> 00:50:54.108 What about you? 00:50:55.271 --> 00:50:59.887 um, I started this thing with the children in my life who I love. 00:50:59.887 --> 00:51:00.909 Some are my cousins kids. 00:51:00.909 --> 00:51:01.552 We still call it game night. 00:51:01.552 --> 00:51:02.853 That's awesome, though I love that, what about you? 00:51:02.853 --> 00:51:10.170 I started this thing with the children in my life who I love Some are my cousin's kids, some are my friend's kids and for birthdays, instead of giving a gift, I give a date, and so the goal is to say yes to everything that they ask for. 00:51:10.170 --> 00:51:17.545 So far, none of them have asked for something I can't give them, whether it's an experience or a gift, and have asked for something I can't give them. 00:51:17.545 --> 00:51:18.056 That's fun, whether it's an experience or a gift. 00:51:18.056 --> 00:51:19.818 Yeah, and it started as day dates, and then they learned they could ask to sleep over. 00:51:20.561 --> 00:51:22.065 And so now they're getting longer. 00:51:22.065 --> 00:51:22.608 Yes, yes. 00:51:23.701 --> 00:51:24.766 And that's really special. 00:51:24.766 --> 00:51:30.168 My cousin has six kids, and so the likelihood of any of them having one-on-one time with anyone is slim. 00:51:30.168 --> 00:51:33.889 And then, yeah, we just have a good time. 00:51:36.920 --> 00:51:37.221 That's awesome. 00:51:37.221 --> 00:51:37.541 I cherish it. 00:51:37.541 --> 00:51:40.509 Anything else you want to ask or add before we head out? 00:51:40.509 --> 00:51:42.213 Awesome. 00:51:42.213 --> 00:51:45.831 Well, if anyone wants to reach out to y'all, connect with y'all. 00:51:45.831 --> 00:51:47.262 What's the best way to do so? 00:51:47.262 --> 00:51:48.646 Just don't do it. 00:51:48.646 --> 00:51:50.009 Just don't do it. 00:51:50.108 --> 00:51:50.690 Introvert. 00:51:50.690 --> 00:51:51.952 Extrovert yes. 00:51:51.952 --> 00:51:59.108 The salon name is Le Coiffre, so it's L-E underscore. 00:52:00.677 --> 00:52:01.059 Coiffre Rowbridge. 00:52:01.099 --> 00:52:01.239 Okay, on. 00:52:01.601 --> 00:52:02.806 Instagram Awesome. 00:52:02.806 --> 00:52:05.106 Well, I know I've enjoyed the conversation. 00:52:05.106 --> 00:52:06.409 Thank y'all for being a part. 00:52:06.409 --> 00:52:07.702 Babe, have you enjoyed it? 00:52:08.106 --> 00:52:09.724 Yes, awesome, love my people. 00:52:09.764 --> 00:52:12.070 That's right Well if y'all still with us. 00:52:12.070 --> 00:52:14.393 Thank y'all for listening all the way through the end. 00:52:14.393 --> 00:52:21.126 Remember, in everything you do, to stay rooted in your purpose, living on purpose and walking with purpose.