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I'm Kitty Aki.
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I'm a mom of three, and I'm a good mom, but I'm always learning and growing, and I bet you are too.
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So join me on my mission to learn from moms from all walks of life because let's be honest, momming is way more fun when we do it together.
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Welcome to the Dead Mother Podcast.
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Hello, everyone.
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Welcome to a new season of the Dead Mother Podcast.
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This is the season six premiere, and I'm so excited.
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I can just feel the energy that this season is going to bring.
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So let me talk to you first about our guest host.
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This season, we are having some spectacular women coming alongside me and guest hosting, which just adds, you know, other perspectives, more energy, and I just love it.
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So today, to start out our brand new season, we have Ryan Watkin.
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You guys might remember Ryan from last season, but Ryan is a speaker, educator, podcaster, and mom.
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And she hosts the show Raising Wild Hearts.
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And we are so excited that she's joining us today to guest host.
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Hey Ryan, how are you?
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Thank you so much, Kidia Key.
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I'm so good.
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Um, I'm so happy to be here.
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This is really, really fun.
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And we ended your show last year.
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And now we're starting.
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And now we're starting.
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And so I really like it.
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I'm really honored to be here.
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I love it.
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I love having you and I love the energy that kind of like a three-person dynamic has.
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But I'm also very excited about today's guest because I used to work with her.
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Well, I think we were competition actually.
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But now my boys watch her every Sunday.
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We see her on TV, and so I'm so excited to talk to her about where life has taken her.
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So let me read our guest bio and then we'll get right into it.
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Lindsay Theory is a national NFL sports reporter for ESPN.
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Previously, she was the Los Angeles Chargers team reporter for ESPN's NFL Nation.
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And before joining the Chargers beat, Theory covered the Rams for ESPN.com.
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She also worked as a multimedia sports reporter for the Los Angeles Times, covering the Rams, Dodgers, Lakers, USC, and UCLA.
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But of course, her life isn't just sports.
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She's also a wife and a mob to two adorable boys.
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Hi, Lynz.
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How are you?
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Hi, thanks so much for having me.
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I'm so happy to be here.
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It's my pleasure.
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So Lindsay and I were reporters when we were up and coming.
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And then I was telling Ryan off camera, my life kind of went into podcasting.
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Hers went toward ESPN.
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So tell me, first of all, how has life been for you?
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I know ESPN is so crazy hectic, especially during the football season.
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What's life like for you now?
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It's wild.
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Like everything feels like a sprint no matter what you're doing.
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It's a sprint.
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You know, being a mom and having a full-time job and having my husband is wonderful.
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He also has a full-time job as a pilot.
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So we are sometimes like two ships crossing in the night.
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We have a wonderful um nanny who helps us out because we don't have family in the area.
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But it is it is wild, and it's like I said, it's just like it's a full-time sprint.
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But um, as crazy it is, I I wouldn't have it any other way.
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So I I couldn't have envisioned this for myself, uh Kiki when we met in like 2010.
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Uh, but 16 years later, like full speed ahead with life.
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Oh my gosh.
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And you it sounds like fun chaos, like it's just a party.
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It's you know, yeah, look, and there's really hard moments, like trying to get my toddler, my four-year-old, out the door today was tough.
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Um, but it's like I have two little boys, and our house is just always buzzing, right?
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Like they're at an age now where like they just love doing things.
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Like it's like, mom, come play soccer, do this, do that.
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Um, I work a lot from home when I'm not out in the field.
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So it's like when they come home from the park every day or I get to go pick them up at school.
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Um, it's like just such awesome moments, but then it's like this is fun, and then I gotta work now.
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And then it's like I gotta get work done because like there's no sense of urgency quite like knowing, um, come
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like, you know, three o'clock, four o'clock.
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Like I'm I've gotta be mom.
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I can't, you know, and doing both is impossible at the same time.
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Like, there's just no way.
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Uh so like I said, everything is a full-on sprint, it's chaos, but it's it's a total joy, except for when it's not.
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Except for when it's not.
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But thank you for bringing up the urgency and the time because I've talked about this on the show before.
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A lot of times people are like, Well, I can't do this, or I can't have kids, I have all this stuff going on.
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But I have found that it focuses you in such a way where it's like you don't have fluff time.
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It's like, I have one hour, I've got to get it done.
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So do you find that I'm more focused?
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I'm I don't know.
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One thousand percent.
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I'm so happy you brought that up because uh prior to having children, I wrote and I was on TV.
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Same similar to what I'm doing now.
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I'm doing more TV now, but I would take days to write a story.
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I would stare at the blank screen and like morning would turn to daytime would turn to nighttime, and then I still wouldn't have it done.
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And then I'd wake up at you know 5 a.m.
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and just be like on real deadline and have to crank it out, and my brain would suddenly go.
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You just don't have that luxury anymore.
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It's like when you sit down to write a story, you just you gotta go.
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Yeah, and when you sit down to study, you just gotta do it.
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And because again, like these little people, they they can't wait.
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They have like that's a real deadline too.
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So I mean, I look back on the years when I didn't have kids, and I'm like, what was I doing with all my time?
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I could have done so much more.
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Yes, do you find it?
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I should have enjoyed more.
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And also, like when you see people without kids, you're like, you have so much time.
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Do you find that, Ryan, too?
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Oh, absolutely.
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Yeah, for sure.
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And you know, you strike me as someone who is super ambitious.
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And so when you're talking, I'm hearing like this really driven, ambitious um woman.
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And
I wonder how, because I've totally said that.
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Like, I don't know what I did before children, and my ambition changed.
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I've become, I think, more ambitious since having kids, but I'm curious how your ambitious uh ambition has evolved pre-motherhood and now post.
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Yeah, I've you know what I'm still as ambitious as ever.
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Like, I still have like big goals, big dreams that I want to achieve at work.
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Um, but I think my ambitions become like a lot more twofold.
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Like I used to be like take every single assignment I could, work every single extra thing I could, and just it was like 100,000 percent into work.
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Uh and now it's kind of I don't want to say it's split because I think that's like doing an injustice to both sides.
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But I'd say my ambition is to do awesome at work and awesome at home.
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Um, and one of the things, like, you know when people say like you can have it all, I I kind of tend to disagree.
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Like you can have a lot, but I've had to pull back on work a little bit, right?
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Like, I'm not exactly giving 150% all of the time like I used to before kids.
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That being said, like I would also love to give 150% to my kids.
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I can't.
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Like, all I can do is give a hundred percent to both, and that's taken some like really hard moments to come to grips with.
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Like, I have to miss a couple things for my kids.
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I also have to maybe s to like turn down an assignment at work, right?
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Like, um, had to turn down an assignment coming up recently, uh, because like just I have a family and somebody's gotta be at home sleeping with the kids at night.
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Yes, exactly.
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Especially when your husband is flying, I imagine.
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Yeah, so he's out of town.
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He couldn't, he takes a lot of um, he takes a lot of hits from me during the season.
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Uh and so like I kind of off season need to be like, okay, I can put your job first for this time too.
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Um, and so like due to the balance of that's like you can have it all, but like my ambition is just a little bit more directed in different ways.
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Yeah, I would say balance looks different when you when you have a family and you have a home to take care of and kids, and it's like you can have it all, just not all at once.
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So something's gonna take away from something.
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Some some seasons you're gonna be all work, some seasons you're gonna be all kids, some seasons it's gonna be a mix.
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But I love Ryan that you asked that question because I was gonna say, when I knew you, Lindsay, you seemed so driven.
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And when you said I couldn't I couldn't foresee this back in 2016, I was like, really?
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Because all of us were like doing whatever, and you were like, you were like deadline, work and focus.
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And so I was like, I can see this for you.
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Well, yeah, I I could see the work part.
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I will say that.
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Like I was the the goal was ESPN, like or bust.
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Um, and I I I I it's so crazy to say it loud.
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I got there, I did it.
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Um, and that's not like there's still so much more to do, but I couldn't have seen the family apart.
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Like in my mind, I always wanted to get married.
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I thought, you know, I'd probably have a family, like I was the youngest in the family.
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I didn't grow up around younger kids.
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I had no younger kids around me.
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So like being a mom wasn't like it's not second nature to me at all.
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Um so like I thought I wanted a family, you know, but it just it wasn't gonna happen for me anytime soon because it was gung-ho and you know, work.
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And like I I love being in that newsroom back in Great Falls, as crazy as that sounds.
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Like that was my entire focus.
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Um, so I I could have I I I saw ESPN every day.
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What I didn't see was like the other part of my life until it came.
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And aren't you so glad it came?
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Because I think Lindsay, I was like you, I was like work and career goals and all this stuff.
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And then I stop and realize had I achieved all of that without them, it would have felt so empty and so lonely.
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And now I have three little people cheering me on.
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And like anytime something major happens, they're like, whoa, mom! And so what is that like for you to know it looks different, but maybe better than you expected?
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I could have never dreamt of a love like I have for my kids.
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Like that actually can make me tear up.
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Like, I just didn't know that existed until I had my kids.
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And um, there's so many proud moments of being a mom and just being able to raise these little people and be a part of their lives.
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Like, I there's just as many awesome moments have there been like for personal achievements for myself.
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Nothing, nothing even comes close to being these little guys' mom.
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Um, and it is funny when now my four-year-old is starting to realize like mom has to go to work, right?
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That's a that's a really hard transition when they realize you're leaving the house maybe for a few days.
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Um, but the other day I walked into my office and my little guy was sitting in this chair and I had a microphone, and he goes, This is mommy for ESPN.
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And I was like, oh, did he watch it?
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Yeah, he's getting it.
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And you know, it doesn't matter what you do.
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Like when your kids see like you're working hard and then they are kind of trying to do, you know, what whatever it is that mom and dad are into.
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That's that's cool.
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That was fun.
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You're like, they get it.
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I remember the first um co-star I got on TV.
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I was actually playing a news reporter for this Joe Superstore.
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And it was this crazy moment where my son had an asthma attack.
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We were in the ICU.
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It was like he was a toddler, I think.
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And then the show came on TV and he was like, money.
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And I was just like, man, we're in this really dark moment, stressed out out of our minds, and then my baby sees me on TV.
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And it was like, it just meant so much to me.
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And I was like, that's not how I would have chosen to watch my first ever co-star.
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But it was like so much better in a way.
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And so I think that's lovely, and I love that you're getting to experience that.
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So, okay, I want to talk about sports.
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So, Ryan, Lindsay was a sports reporter when I was a news reporter.
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So, where did the love of sports come from?
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Has that been a lifelong thing for you?
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Yeah, lifelong thing.
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Um, you know, I grew up the youngest of three kids, and we were just always around sports.
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Um I was really fortunate, grew up on a lake.
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So my mom was like, you guys are getting in a pool, you're learning how to swim from a very early age uh for safety reasons.
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And so um I started swim lessons and I was on the swim team by
the time I was age five.
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Uh for as long as I can remember, I was going to my sister's softball practices, my brother's baseball practices, my dad was the coach, my mom was basically like the assistant coach.
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Um, you know, like being the teen mom.
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It's it's just like I was always around it, always playing sports.
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I played softball, then I got into volleyball.
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I played a little soccer here and there, way too much running for me.
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Couldn't uh basketball, couldn't like run and dribble at the same time.
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That was tough, was always overrunning the triple.
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Um, and it was fell in love with volleyball.
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Like that became my thing that I just loved so much.
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Um, and then we always watched the Mariners games.
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My dad was a police officer, and he was either in the dugout or the bullpen.
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So, like you'd watch the game to see dad at work, kind of in the background of a shot, but then before you know it, like I could still tell you all the 1995 Seattle Mariners.
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Um so and then I loved watching, I mean, it's like so all the worlds combined.
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Um, I loved watching like ABC's like wide world of sports, or when the Olympics came on, you know, you fall in love with the athletes, like the the 1995 gymnastics team, right?
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Because you saw the stories and the features about who they were and the swimmers, you know, and all you know, all that stuff.
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So it just one day I realized like, oh, this can be a job, like I want to do this.
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Um, and then we made that happen.
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That's crazy, Liz.
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As you're talking, I'm like, I wonder how much of this is nature and nurture because you were surrounded by it for sure.
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There was like a family culture of sports, but I have this theory that what's innate in us is gonna come out.
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And so I'm like, even you made swim team at five, like that driven part of your personality was already in there.
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And I wonder if like this might sound too woo-woo, but you were created for this.
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Like that love of sports was in you before it was nurtured by your family.
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Yeah, you know, it's like I look back and I totally get it now.
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I drove my mom nuts because we would have school projects, even back when I was in elementary school, and we would be up really late past bedtime because it's like, oh, the teacher said make a diorama this big
in a shoebox.
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I'd be like, no, no, no, no, we need a bigger box.
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Or it was like create a scene that's five pictures.
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I'd be like, no, no, no, no, we're doing 20 pictures.
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So it was just like it was crazy.
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I mean, I look back at some of these projects and I'm like, mom, I'm so sorry.
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Like it was so over the top.
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Like, I just took every little thing and made it this big.
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And I think I I don't know, like, that's just who my personality is.
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So it's like a lot of my life when maybe some people were like, Yeah, this little ESPN dream of yours is pretty big.
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I'd be like, Well, why not?
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Let's go, you know?
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Like, why not?
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Was there ever a season where you like forgot the dream and had to get back on course?
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Because it sounds like it was always your north star.
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But did you ever have like a moment where you were like maybe not?
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Well, you know, I'll share with you.
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Um I had a rough patch in college.
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I played college volleyball at UW.
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Um, and I ended up quitting the team.
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And it was a really, I mean, it was not an easy decision.
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It's just the decision I look back, and I had many, many nights of not sleeping or dreams where I was like rejoining that team because I had worked so hard for so many years to achieve that.
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And um, you know, do I wish I in hindsight, like, do I wish I had stuck with it?
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I don't know, because I wouldn't be where I am if I had.
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Like a lot of things in my life wouldn't have turned out the way they did.
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But that being said, quitting that taught me that I never wanted to quit anything again.
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Like, if I had a dream and a goal, I was gonna just keep going through.
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So, like, yeah, there were many times in Montana when you're like making no money, you're alone and lonely, and you're wondering if this is ever gonna work out.
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And then I had to move to Atlanta and took a job there, and I lived in a hotel room for an entire football season.
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I'm like my 25th birthday, I'm alone in a nail salon by myself, uh, missing my best friend's wedding, um, because there was a game.
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Like, yeah, there's so many moments where it's like, what am I doing here?
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I mean, there were moments after I came out back west where I'm just like, what are we doing?
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But I just I couldn't like quit again.
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I couldn't do it because it's like I knew deep down, even through those hard moments, this is what I really, really wanted.
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And like I'd already experienced what it meant to quit something.
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So I just I wasn't gonna do it again.
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Wow, I love that that you were like, A, it kind of goes back to the balance thing, right?
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It's like there will always be sacrifices.
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We can't say yes to everything.
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And so even in that moment, it was like I'm saying no to important things for the bigger goal.
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Um, so that's pretty cool.
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The other thing, as you were talking, reminded me there is a gymnast, I think it was during the last Olympics, where they were interviewing her and asking, you know, how did you stay so focused on this goal this whole time?
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And she was like, My coach would let me quit.
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And he would say, walk away, take a week off, take more off, don't come back.
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And she was like, I always came back.
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And I feel like when it's that big of a draw and it's that big of a goal, even if you quit, you're gonna come back.
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Like it's in you, you can't.
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And so I love that.
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And I always thought with my own kids, let them quit, let them feel what it feels like to not have it, because that's gonna spur you on more.
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So I again, Ryan, great questions.
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I love it.
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So, okay, Lindsay, you're a boy mom.
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Do you does your husband, do your kids watch sports?
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Do they watch you on TV?
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Yeah, you know what?
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We didn't really turn the TV on much in the first couple years.
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Um, so they would turn it on to like see mom at work, you know, cute little videos from dad, like here's a two-year-old going, mommy, mommy, you know.
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Um, but they have become like we would play sports with them.
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So they didn't really watch sports, but we'd play like whether it kicked a soccer ball or take a ball at a pr uh at the park.
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Um, so they love sports.
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And I'll it is so fun now, right?
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Like each phase of your child, I early on, I was like, oh, he's not a newborn anymore, and it made me
so sad.
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But you like it's okay to be sad about that, but you also start to realize like, oh, this just gets cooler and cooler and cooler the more they get their own little personality.
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Um, so yeah, my four-year-old is baseball obsessed.
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Uh, he like lives for it, and then we were we were watching Wimbledon, and then we also uh joined the pool that has tennis courts.
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So he sees people playing tennis, and now he's super into tennis.
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So like I've got to take him to tennis lessons today.
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Like I said, rush, rush, rush, get everything done, then go to tennis lessons.
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Uh, and and so he's like super into sports.
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I was really, really fortunate.
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I got tickets for the World Cup, and like on a moment's notice, we hopped on a plane, a bus, and a train, and we got to the game.
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And then every day since then, we have to play soccer in the backyard.
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He's Team USA.
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He's like, Mom, you be Bosnia, Herzegov, Herzegovina.
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I'm like, why am I the losing team every time?
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Um, but yeah, and then like I said, like we go to the pool, they start swim lessons, so like just try to be an active, like outdoor family, um, and just little boys, I think, are easiest to parent selfishly.
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They are easiest to parent outside.
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So we spend a lot of time outside because if I had to like play referee inside between who gets the trains, I would lose my mind.
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Yes, same.
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How old are your other son?
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Two.
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Two and two and four.
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Yeah, yeah.
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Okay.
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So they're not in organized sports yet, they're not on actual teams yet.
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It's a little wild where we live, yeah.
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Uh they are.
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They are.
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Because I was gonna say, once they're on teams, gosh, that's gonna be so fun.
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Yeah, so yeah, my four-year-old started T-ball in the spring, and so he did T-ball.
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And I'm like, oh my god, this is so my kid.
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He's like so into it and so ready.
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And if you are picking daisies and if you are not on the base like this, ready to run, he is like, let's go pay attention.
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And uh, it's a little intense.
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I'm like, calm down, we're here for fun, we're here for fun.
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I'm also like, this is my kid because this is who I am.
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He's me.
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Um, psycho.
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Uh, but no, he like, and I had no idea how much he was gonna love the uniform and the belt and all the things, and it's just like it is the cutest darn thing.
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So he didn't organize baseball this fall.
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He's going to do AYSO, so organized soccer.
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Yeah.
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And I was initially hesitant on this, but he's gonna do two sports in the fall.
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Good luck to my husband.
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Good luck to both of you, yeah.
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Well, I'm not gonna be here, I'll be traveling for football.
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So good luck to my husband.
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Oh, him, okay.
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Yeah, so he, yeah, my son was like, I really want to play baseball, and some of the parents are like, he's really good, he should play.
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And I'm like, he's four! Yeah.
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Uh and uh so he's yeah, doing soccer and baseball.
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Yeah.
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Isn't that the best?
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And you're you said your husband is also super into sports, so he must love it.
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Loves it.
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He loves playing in the yard with the kids.
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He was the assistant coach on the T ball team.
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Um, I mean, my husband is like super dad, which is amazing because like I said earlier, like having kids isn't like s like being a mom, maybe not as second nature to me as to some.
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Um, but he is like so good at making I'm like, put your shirt on.
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And he's like making it a game on how to put their shirt on.
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And I'm like, how'd you think of that?
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Like, why didn't he you know?
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Yeah.
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I'm straightforward, he's like the fun one.
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Which is how you balance each other.
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That's amazing.
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Yeah.
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How funny, Lynn's.
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I love that you are getting to experience that.
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And my oldest is the same way.
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Like any league he's in, if anybody's not paying attention, he's like kneeling on the sideline, like, guys, get get ready.
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And he's just ready to go at all times.
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Me too, right?
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I mean, you have it in your family.
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Like, he knows what's up.
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Yeah.
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Well, also, I'm not an athlete at all, but my husband was the D1 football player.
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And so they're like, I mean, oh my gosh.
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Can I interrupt and tell you the best story about your husband?
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He's to this day.
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He remains one of the few people that turned me down for an interview.
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I tried to do a story for me.
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I'm like, really?
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Is it funny that I remember that?
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I remember the no's.
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All of the no's.
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Oh, until then you're you're hurt, you're holding a grudge against him.
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Well, partly he got so much attention when he was playing football that, like, after it was over, he's like, I don't want, he's very introverted.
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So I apologize on his behalf.
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All good.
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I just think it's like again, weird.
00:23:02.480 --> 00:23:04.000
I always remember the no's.
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I remember that one.
00:23:05.759 --> 00:23:07.440
I actually remember that one too.
00:23:07.759 --> 00:23:18.480
Okay, so this is a motherhood podcast, and I want to know what your pregnancy is like and what your deliveries were like and all of that, because not only physically it seems like you're in very good shape.
00:23:18.640 --> 00:23:21.759
So maybe they were easier, but then also work schedule.
00:23:21.920 --> 00:23:23.599
How did all of that work out?
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Yeah, so my first pregnancy um was very fortunate, got pregnant very quickly uh after my husband and I got married, like maybe two days later.
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Um, and uh week eight, we were uh we it was all back during kind of the COVID stuff.
00:23:40.640 --> 00:23:43.519
So 2021, things were still shut down around the world.
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Um I remember having my first OB appointment.
00:23:48.079 --> 00:23:50.880
And she's like, What questions do you have for me?
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And I was like, um, you know, uh the the Super Bowl is in LA this year.
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Am I gonna be able to work that?
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Because it seems like my due date is a week after the Super Bowl.
00:24:01.920 --> 00:24:04.319
And she's like, we'll cross that bridge and we get to it.
00:24:04.480 --> 00:24:05.920
She's like, what other questions do you have for me?
00:24:06.000 --> 00:24:11.599
I'm like, well, I'm scheduled to go tonight on a red eye flight for our honeymoon to Bora Bora.
00:24:11.839 --> 00:24:12.880
Is that okay to do?
00:24:13.039 --> 00:24:17.680
And she was like, Do you have any real questions about like being pregnant?
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And I was like, no, I don't want to figure it out as we go.
00:24:20.079 --> 00:24:20.640
I don't know.
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Um, I will say, I went into my pregnancy very naive.
00:24:25.359 --> 00:24:27.200
I went into the all of it very naive.
00:24:27.279 --> 00:24:30.319
Just like, whoops, go with slow, like nothing you can do to change it.
00:24:30.559 --> 00:24:32.240
Uh went to Bora Bora.
00:24:32.799 --> 00:24:36.400
The first couple days were amazing, and then everything hit me.
00:24:36.559 --> 00:24:38.480
Like, I couldn't smell anything.
00:24:38.640 --> 00:24:40.000
I oh no, I could smell.
00:24:40.079 --> 00:24:41.039
Let me get this straight.
00:24:41.359 --> 00:24:45.599
I could smell everything, and I wanted to smell nothing.
00:24:46.000 --> 00:24:50.400
Um, we were staying in one of those overwater huts, which on a normal occasion would be great.
00:24:50.640 --> 00:24:52.160
Not if nausea hits you.
00:24:52.240 --> 00:24:58.000
So we're sitting there and I'm just like, oh my god, it was just it was like I feel so bad in minute.
00:24:58.160 --> 00:25:03.759
So it was like hell on earth, just being like the smell of sunscreen, which you have to have on, made me want to vomit.
00:25:04.000 --> 00:25:07.759
The watching the water like move was just like I want to vomit.
00:25:08.000 --> 00:25:11.279
The plane ride home was like, I'm gonna vomit.
00:25:11.680 --> 00:25:19.200
Um, and I was really, really sick for the first trimester, and then the second trimester hit and it just cleared, like everything was fine.
00:25:19.279 --> 00:25:24.000
And it's as it timed out, that was great because it's like right when the season started.
00:25:24.319 --> 00:25:34.559
Um, and you know, second energy second trimester, energizer bunny, third trimester, that Super Bowl was coming, and I realized I was probably not gonna be there.
00:25:34.720 --> 00:25:45.039
Like I was I was doing great, like I felt fine even third trimester, you know, traveling still for work a lot, going to work a lot, but I started to get like the brain fog thing.
00:25:45.359 --> 00:26:02.799
And so my producer, bless him, Raj, uh, he would, you know, kind of put a couple cue cards up just because I I think the fear was actually worse than the reality um when the red light came on, and I never had like a total brain card or anything, but it was just kind of more like that little safety net.
00:26:02.960 --> 00:26:05.680
Um, but yeah, my OB was like, yeah, we're done.
00:26:05.759 --> 00:26:06.880
We're done with work now.
00:26:06.960 --> 00:26:13.440
Um that Super Bowl's gonna happen in LA and the Rams, who you cover every day and have covered every day since 2016, they're gonna be there and you're not.
00:26:13.519 --> 00:26:18.480
She goes, because we just don't need you going into labor with that stress um at the football stadium.
00:26:18.799 --> 00:26:21.039
How close to Super Bowl did you give birth?
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Yeah, so I ended up giving a soup birth a week after the Super Bowl.
00:26:25.440 --> 00:26:30.480
I was a scheduled C-section, geriatric pregnancy, shout out to being 35 and pregnant.
00:26:31.119 --> 00:26:38.640
Um, and uh yeah, and that whole experience was um again, I I went into a very I had no plan.
00:26:38.720 --> 00:26:42.880
My plan was just like, hey, whatever we need to do to have a healthy baby, like let's just do that.
00:26:43.119 --> 00:26:43.440
Great.
00:26:43.599 --> 00:26:50.160
Um also I was like not trying to be in pain, so I was like, yeah, we'll have an epidural, like no problem, all that stuff.
00:26:50.480 --> 00:26:54.799
And um, because I was the geriatric, uh, they induced labor.
00:26:54.880 --> 00:26:56.559
I had to go in to be induced.
00:26:56.799 --> 00:27:02.000
Um, and it went sideways in the middle of the night.
00:27:02.160 --> 00:27:06.319
Like usually induced, they say takes 24 to 72 or hours.
00:27:06.799 --> 00:27:09.839
And I, you know, had that first little is it called the tocin?
00:27:10.000 --> 00:27:10.319
I don't remember.
00:27:11.200 --> 00:27:13.759
Um yeah, see, that's something I pay attention to like giving birth.
00:27:13.920 --> 00:27:14.559
What's it called?
00:27:14.880 --> 00:27:20.880
I had it, and a little bit of medication for me has always gone a long way.
00:27:21.200 --> 00:27:24.319
And I was like having contractions that afternoon.
00:27:24.720 --> 00:27:29.039
Funny enough, it was 2222.
00:27:29.440 --> 00:27:33.599
And so a lot of women had scheduled their C-sections on that day.
00:27:33.839 --> 00:27:37.359
Like for me, I was just told, like, we're not gonna let you go past 40 weeks.
00:27:37.519 --> 00:27:38.240
This is the day we're doing it.
00:27:38.400 --> 00:27:40.720
I was like, cool, I didn't think of like the date or anything.
00:27:40.960 --> 00:27:46.720
Um, and so the hospital was really busy, and I was going into labor and they didn't expect that.
00:27:46.799 --> 00:28:12.079
And I kind of had like a pretty junior nurse with me, and let's just say, like, long story short, like I went into starting to go into the contractions, they like kind of gave me a shot of some sort to make that slow down, and then like I was just like had they had to rush the epidural because I was starting to be in so much pain, and then I was pushing most of the night, and then baby's heart uh beat heart rate was dropping.
00:28:12.319 --> 00:28:17.200
Before I know it, like we had we were told, like, this is amazing, your body's amazing, you're going to labor so quickly, blah blah blah.
00:28:17.359 --> 00:28:24.640
Then before I know we had like a whole crash of doctors rushing, and one of the nurses, like, we did this twice, it was crazy.
00:28:24.799 --> 00:28:27.039
Finally, a nurse was like, Look, I'm gonna give it to you, real.
00:28:27.279 --> 00:28:32.000
Either we can keep pushing, or like when your doctor's here, because it was just the on call OB.
00:28:32.160
--> 00:28:36.000
When your doctor's here at 5 a.m., like, she'll take you in for a c-section.
00:28:36.079 --> 00:28:38.000
I was like, or 7 a.m., whatever it was.
00:28:38.240 --> 00:28:40.559
And I was like, Yeah, let's just wait for the c-section.
00:28:40.640 --> 00:28:46.240
Like, I don't need to, I don't need to be like superhero here and push a baby out who's not coming down the birth c canal.
00:28:46.319 --> 00:29:05.680
Like, like, let's just go get a c-section, and so we did, and um that was a lot harder than I thought, like, just because my body went into labor and didn't go to labor, what all the things, and then had a c-section, and my like my legs were like so swollen, and it was just I was so swollen and such a mess.
00:29:05.839 --> 00:29:10.240
Um, that it was like just the recovery itself was wildly hard.
00:29:10.400 --> 00:29:16.079
Um, but like I didn't know what I didn't know, so I didn't really know exactly how traumatic it was while it was happening.
00:29:16.240 --> 00:29:18.799
Um, and we got a perfectly healthy little boy out of it.
00:29:19.039 --> 00:29:24.720
So I thank God yeah, did it again the next time, only this time it was scheduled and it went exactly according to planned.
00:29:25.039 --> 00:29:25.279
Wow.
00:29:25.359 --> 00:29:27.839
And so what was your mental capacity after that?
00:29:28.000 --> 00:29:31.039
Did you have a lot of healing or emotional issues after?
00:29:31.279 --> 00:29:35.119
Yeah, I just like again, I I just was so naive.
00:29:35.200 --> 00:29:36.480
I'd never been around children.
00:29:36.640 --> 00:29:39.279
Like I was always the youngest everywhere I went.
00:29:39.519 --> 00:29:45.039
Um, so I didn't know like a baby had to be gosh, I feel so silly in getting this.
00:29:45.519 --> 00:29:48.720
I did not know a baby had to be fed every three hours.
00:29:48.880 --> 00:29:51.920
I did not know, like, and and like right, like breastfeeding.
00:29:52.000 --> 00:29:55.680
Uh everything I've been told was just like, it just happens, it's so beautiful and natural.
00:29:55.839 --> 00:29:59.039
And I was just like, oh, you know, what?
00:29:59.200 --> 00:30:01.599
Like this is baby isn't doing this, baby's doing that.
00:30:01.839 --> 00:30:03.279
Like, yeah, it's a lot of work.
00:30:03.440 --> 00:30:14.799
And like, not to mention, you know, I've gone through surgery, I'm on like pain medication, and like baby's not latching properly, so then before I'm like, all the things are happening, you're all torn up.
00:30:14.880 --> 00:30:19.279
Uh then it's like then you have to like start from like a really bad place to try to figure this out.
00:30:19.440 --> 00:30:22.559
Um, so like luckily my mom was in town, so she was helpful.
00:30:22.640 --> 00:30:28.559
Like, we had FaceTime to fight FaceTime a lactation consultant because nobody could come into your house because the COVID stuff.
00:30:30.079 --> 00:30:33.440
Um, and so it was like wild and really hard.
00:30:33.519 --> 00:30:45.039
And I remember and my OB was like, you should just go see like an LMFT, like a therapist, just to try to, you know, kind of figure out like what maybe your new normal is gonna look like.
00:30:45.279 --> 00:30:49.680
And I just remember crying and being like, I just want like five minutes to take a shower.
00:30:50.319 --> 00:30:55.119
And she was like, every day, like that's the one thing you get to do for yourself every day is take a shower.
00:30:55.279 --> 00:31:00.480
Um, so like being a new mom for the first three months for me, I also was terrified to take the baby outside.
00:31:00.640 --> 00:31:05.839
Um, because I was like, I don't I didn't in my head understand where you're supposed to change a baby.
00:31:06.400 --> 00:31:07.599
It sounds so silly.
00:31:07.839 --> 00:31:11.759
But like the basics that you're just like, wait, I didn't think about that.
00:31:11.839 --> 00:31:12.079
Yeah.
00:31:12.319 --> 00:31:15.680
Yeah, I didn't think like like where can you change a baby?
00:31:15.839 --> 00:31:18.240
Like you can change a baby anywhere you want.
00:31:18.400 --> 00:31:19.680
Uh that's what I found out.
00:31:19.839 --> 00:31:33.279
But it's just like things like that, like I didn't know how to do, and I'm very much like I'm the person that didn't used to go to Subway because like younger, because like I didn't the the fear of ordering and picking out things fast enough and figuring it out fast enough, like got to me.
00:31:33.359 --> 00:31:39.119
So like not being able to like get a plan in my head to go out and not know like exactly if this happens, what do you do?
00:31:39.200 --> 00:31:41.279
Like, where do you like where do you turn to and all the things?
00:31:41.359 --> 00:31:43.680
Like, it took me a minute to get a grip on all that.
00:31:43.759 --> 00:31:50.640
It's like postpartum was hard both times, and both times, um the second time it's funny because it just was different.
00:31:50.720 --> 00:31:55.519
Like, I I probably would have had postpartum depression, like to some degree the first time.
00:31:55.839 --> 00:32:00.240
Um, but the second time, like I came out of it like fine, thinking I was fine.
00:32:00.400 --> 00:32:14.799
And it actually hit like three months later, where like I was like, Oh, I didn't expect this, and like right before the work really kicked in the gear again, like I was I remember getting on a plane, and my husband's like, Do you want to call your boss and just tell him you can't do this?
00:32:14.960 --> 00:32:17.839
And I was like, No, because that's quitting and I can't do that.
00:32:17.920 --> 00:32:30.559
So, like I got myself somehow, somehow I got myself on the plane, and then I was just in a really bad place, but it's like I just was able to kind of get out of it, and I I'm really happy that like I in that moment didn't call and quit.
00:32:30.720 --> 00:32:33.759
Um, but it was it hit me out of the blue.
00:32:33.920 --> 00:32:36.960
So the postpartum is like no joke.
00:32:37.039 --> 00:32:43.200
It's from physically recovering from however you had a baby, and then like just the mental stuff that comes with it and the hormones.
00:32:43.279 --> 00:32:54.079
Like, I've always been a crazy hormone person, but like this, I probably shouldn't phrase it like crazy, but like they've always done a number on me, and then postpartum hormones are definitely a another animal to deal with.
00:32:54.400 --> 00:33:04.480
Thank you for being so honest about that because I there are so many variables for mother, baby, mother-baby pair, different types of labor, delivery births.
00:33:04.559 --> 00:33:06.799
And I think we don't talk about it enough.
00:33:06.960 --> 00:33:13.680
And I think your story, while it seems it could be so many people's stories, it's so unique in so many ways.
00:33:13.759 --> 00:33:16.960
And so I love that you're being really open and honest about it.
00:33:17.200 --> 00:33:27.039
But it also makes me think going back to the Super Bowl, A, I kind of love that that happened because it was an early, it was an early on, like Lindsay, you're gonna have to make choices.
00:33:27.119 --> 00:33:34.319
It's gonna be baby over, you know, it was like that was your first major like, dang it, I'm missing this for motherhood.
00:33:34.400 --> 00:33:38.960
Um for the record, wouldn't change it for anything, would never change another girl for that.
00:33:39.119 --> 00:33:39.519
But yeah.
00:33:40.640 --> 00:33:47.839
It's just nice to have that early like lesson of like, okay, buckle up, because this is gonna change things and it's gonna be priority.
00:33:48.079 --> 00:33:49.839
Um, but I am very curious.
00:33:50.079 --> 00:33:58.880
ESPN is, you know, it's changing, but it is a male-driven enterprise, a male-driven uh field that you've entered.
00:33:58.960 --> 00:34:02.559
I I once read there's a tell-all book called ESPN.
00:34:02.640 --> 00:34:14.639
It I listened to the audiobook, it was like 24 hours long, and they talked about the early days of just misogyny and how, you know, it was just like a boys' club, and it they made it very hard for women.
00:34:14.800 --> 00:34:23.119
So, not only given the fact that you're in a male-driven field as a woman, but as a pregnant woman, as a new mom, like what was all of that like for you?
00:34:23.440 --> 00:34:31.360
Yeah, I mean, so this is the fun part, and this is the part I want so many moms to hear is that like you can do it.
00:34:31.440 --> 00:34:33.679
You can have a kid and have your career.
00:34:33.920 --> 00:34:36.000
Um not always easy, but you can do it.
00:34:36.079 --> 00:34:41.280
And I uh I've actually achieved more in my career since having my kids.
00:34:41.440 --> 00:34:43.360
Like that's the headline, right?
00:34:43.599 --> 00:34:53.360
Um, so I got a call, promo a promotion um to move from being a beat reporter on a team to a national reporter covering the whole league.
00:34:53.679 --> 00:34:58.639
And I was unbeknownst to my boss, uh, three months pregnant.
00:34:59.199 --> 00:35:06.719
And uh, so that came and like this was my second um pregnancy, and I was like, oh my gosh, I just got promoted.
00:35:06.880 --> 00:35:08.559
Oh my gosh, they don't know I'm pregnant.
00:35:08.639 --> 00:35:10.800
Uh are they gonna regret making this decision?
00:35:10.960 --> 00:35:12.480
Uh, how's this gonna work?
00:35:12.800 --> 00:35:25.599
And I remember like a month later, I called my boss, and I was like, hey, probably not what you expected to hear, but like I'm having another baby, and he was like, This is amazing, this is wonderful news.
00:35:26.079 --> 00:35:43.599
And you know, he told me a story about how you know his wife maybe didn't have that kind of reaction when she was having her children, and how he would never be that person, you know, to not be supportive or to get in the way of being all the things.
00:35:43.760 --> 00:35:51.679
Um, so he was incredibly supportive and said, if you need a weekend off, because I travel every single weekend, if you need anything, let me know.
00:35:51.920 --> 00:35:53.519
Here for you, all the things.
00:35:53.679 --> 00:35:59.760
And so, you know, I never did say, like, hey, I need a weekend off, but I always felt like I could.
00:36:00.079 --> 00:36:01.119
You know, I didn't need it.
00:36:01.199 --> 00:36:02.559
So I was really lucky like that.
00:36:02.719 --> 00:36:07.039
Um, and through that pregnancy, I was able to manage all my workload and keep it moving.
00:36:07.199 --> 00:36:21.760
Um, but I always felt like the support I needed, and when I had my son and I took my um my maternity leave and family leave, he was great and was like, take the time, you know.
00:36:21.920 --> 00:36:29.599
And so like I'm really lucky that from that boss, like he in a male-dominated industry, no problem.
00:36:29.760 --> 00:36:31.760
Like, wow is happy to see me become a mom.
00:36:31.840 --> 00:36:39.679
And like I said, I mean, everybody at work knows I have two kids, like I put on my social media, like they all know Cooper and Trevor, um, and they're supportive.
00:36:39.840 --> 00:36:44.719
Like, they people generally like seeing pictures of my kids, and I'm always happy to show them.
00:36:44.960 --> 00:36:48.000
And it's been it's been a great experience.
00:36:48.320 --> 00:36:49.599
I'm so glad to hear that.
00:36:49.760 --> 00:37:01.360
And I as we were talking, I was like, I wonder if a lot of the early ESPN, and I know some people have phased out, but if they have grown up and become dads, like your boss was saying, I get it from a dad perspective.
00:37:01.519 --> 00:37:06.960
And so I love that, but also I know the culture is changing and they have done a lot of work.
00:37:07.039 --> 00:37:13.199
Um, but it's just so nice to hear, and it made me so sad that you, your initial thought was, are they gonna regret promoting me?
00:37:13.440 --> 00:37:17.920
And I don't think a man would ever have to think that or like, oh no, I'm gonna be a
dad.
00:37:18.000 --> 00:37:20.000
Are they gonna be worried if I'm not gonna show up?
00:37:20.159 --> 00:37:21.519
Like that would never cross.
00:37:21.599 --> 00:37:26.960
So that makes me sad, but it makes me happy that you had the support that is starting to change the narrative.
00:37:27.119 --> 00:37:33.679
I'm curious, Ryan, did you ever have any incidents like that where you were like worried that a pregnancy would affect work?
00:37:34.320 --> 00:37:41.039
No, because I a couple, probably about a year, six months to a year before I got pregnant.
00:37:41.199 --> 00:37:45.199
I had quit my corporate job to be an entrepreneur, a business owner.
00:37:45.360 --> 00:37:49.760
And so I had a whole other thing that I had to kind of work through with schedule.
00:37:50.000 --> 00:37:56.960
And at the time, I had chosen a career path, uh, a business that I had to work in the afternoons and the evenings.
00:37:57.119 --> 00:37:58.480
And I was like, wait a minute.
00:37:58.559 --> 00:38:01.280
I'm like, I'm not allowed to have didn't allowed.
00:38:01.440 --> 00:38:03.440
I'm choosing not to have dinner with my family.
00:38:03.599 --> 00:38:04.719
I don't know if I like this.
00:38:04.800 --> 00:38:09.840
I had it had never crossed my mind that I probably wanted to be home at dinner time.
00:38:10.079 --> 00:38:11.920
And so that was kind of an interesting thing.
00:38:12.000 --> 00:38:13.119
That was the one thing.
00:38:13.360 --> 00:38:18.000
Um, but something that I thought when you were talking, I um have family in town.
00:38:18.079 --> 00:38:21.360
I was like, oh, I'm co-hosting and I'm gonna interview an ESPN national reporter.
00:38:21.440 --> 00:38:22.880
And I was like, I'm so excited.
00:38:23.119 --> 00:38:26.719
And my sister says, Oh, well, who is he?
00:38:26.960 --> 00:38:28.800
Uh, you know, some of them might know him.
00:38:28.960 --> 00:38:30.400
And I was like, it's a world.
00:38:32.159 --> 00:38:35.280
So like it's not the male-dominated industry.
00:38:35.360 --> 00:38:36.320
We're still breaking it.
00:38:36.400 --> 00:38:37.360
And I even brought it up.
00:38:37.440 --> 00:38:42.079
I was like, hey, that's one of the things we're gonna talk about, is that this industry is male-dominated.
00:38:42.159 --> 00:38:43.360
And so I think it's great.
00:38:43.679 --> 00:38:57.039
And I think it's really cool that Lindsay, you're doing what you love, but at the same time, you are breaking glass ceilings, you are breaking those narratives, and you're doing it while you're having fun, which is like such a testament.
00:38:57.199 --> 00:39:02.639
Like, go after your dreams, ladies, because it's not just for you, it's for the next generation of men and women.
00:39:02.880 --> 00:39:03.119
Yeah.
00:39:03.360 --> 00:39:04.960
So I love that you're doing that.
00:39:05.199 --> 00:39:15.119
Well, and just on that note, too, I think that um, and I talked to my husband, like my mom was a stay-at-home mom, and I did not appreciate that
enough when she was.
00:39:15.519 --> 00:39:19.039
Uh, because like it is hard, right?
00:39:19.199 --> 00:39:30.800
Like, how do you come up with ideas to keep these little humans busy all day, every single day, while like somehow taking a shower, somehow taking five minutes yourself, you gotta go to the grocery store, you gotta take them with you.
00:39:30.960 --> 00:39:36.719
Like, it is just it's really that to me would be the absolute hardest.
00:39:36.960 --> 00:39:42.960
I will say, like, I almost feel like a little bit selfishly, like that I still have my career and chose to do both.
00:39:43.519 --> 00:39:59.519
But I also that being said, know that I'm a better mom because like I get my mind going on something else, and then I come home, and and and it's like the time I spend with my children is very intent and focused time with my kids.
00:39:59.760 --> 00:40:16.000
Um, and and I just notice it sometimes if it's like me just taking care of them maybe for a week on end, that I'm just not as focused of a mom because I'm like, oh I gotta do this, I gotta do this, I gotta do this, and then I just feel like I'm just they're kind of more able, yeah.
00:40:16.159 --> 00:40:23.440
It's just too much, and I'm just like so being able to have my career, so it's like, okay, that's I don't really have a me time.
00:40:23.599 --> 00:40:26.960
Me time is my job, which is kind of also funny as another conversation, right?
00:40:27.119 --> 00:40:44.719
But it's like to to kind of have my job and do that and then come home and get to be like a focused mom and mom to the boys versus trying to just do all the things and put them as like they are number one, um, but they're not like dominating everything.
00:40:45.119 --> 00:40:47.039
It's not your full identity, yes.
00:40:47.280 --> 00:40:47.679
Yeah, yeah.
00:40:47.920 --> 00:41:01.119
Yeah, I I do love that, and I think it's a great reminder to moms who even are stay-at-home moms that we have to have something that's just for us because you do, you get into that overstimulated, and then you're just snapping and you it's too much.
00:41:01.199 --> 00:41:05.440
And it's like if you take time to fill your cup, you will have stuff to give to your kids.
00:41:05.599 --> 00:41:07.760
Otherwise, yeah, it gets to be too much.
00:41:08.000 --> 00:41:10.960
Okay, we are getting to the end, but I do want to ask one thing.
00:41:11.119 --> 00:41:13.920
Have you ever been pregnant on camera, Lindsay?
00:41:14.239 --> 00:41:15.840
Oh, well, pregnant, yeah.
00:41:17.599 --> 00:41:21.119
Did you give any comments for your viewers or what was that like?
00:41:21.519 --> 00:41:22.239
You know what?
00:41:22.480 --> 00:41:26.960
Every shop you have, I mean, there was definitely some little pain.
00:41:27.920 --> 00:41:29.440
Little puff, a lot of puff.
00:41:29.599 --> 00:41:31.519
Maybe by the end, more puff than I probably realized.
00:41:31.679 --> 00:41:32.159
So back.
00:41:32.480 --> 00:41:32.880
Me too.
00:41:33.119 --> 00:41:33.920
Um, no, you know what?
00:41:34.159 --> 00:41:35.039
Nobody said anything.
00:41:35.119 --> 00:41:46.960
I had a very memorable couple young women come up to me on the sidelines who worked for like different stations um and different networks, who were like, We're so happy to see you doing this.
00:41:47.280 --> 00:41:50.079
Um, because like you just don't really see it.
00:41:50.239 --> 00:41:54.159
Um, and it's just like seeing that you can be pregnant on the sideline.
00:41:54.239 --> 00:42:01.360
Um, now I did have like one very memorable man say to me when I was very pregnant, like, looks like you're about to give birth right here on the field.
00:42:01.440 --> 00:42:02.960
And I was like, We all hope not, right?
00:42:03.199 --> 00:42:04.800
Okay, maybe stays in.
00:42:05.119 --> 00:42:08.639
Um, but yeah, I was pregnant, uh pregnant both times.
00:42:08.960 --> 00:42:14.480
And uh it was, yeah, I mean, the bump wasn't out there, but it was all over the social media.
00:42:14.639 --> 00:42:17.280
Um, and the, you know, the puffiness was there.
00:42:17.599 --> 00:42:18.239
There were signs.
00:42:18.800 --> 00:42:25.280
I'm so glad you were because I'm like, you know, Ellie Wong, the comedian, has done specials pregnant with each of her pregnancies.
00:42:25.440 --> 00:42:30.400
And but a lot of times it's like we go into hiding during pregnancy and we need to see it as much.
00:42:30.960 --> 00:42:35.360
I mean, no shame on women who just need to be like I need a minute.
00:42:35.519 --> 00:42:39.840
But I think the more we see women, the more it's like, oh wait, that is possible.
00:42:40.000 --> 00:42:41.519
And I think that's so great.
00:42:41.679 --> 00:42:44.159
So I'm glad that you were pregnant on the sideline.
00:42:44.480 --> 00:42:54.800
But okay, you guys, so season six, we're doing something new where we, as veteran moms, are helping out the next generation of moms and taking questions from new moms.
00:42:55.119 --> 00:43:01.039
Also, guys, I want to remind our listeners that if you are a new mom, you can submit a question at theddenmother.net.
00:43:01.199 --> 00:43:04.079
You'll find a recorder there, and you can just submit your question.
00:43:04.239 --> 00:43:05.599
We'd love to hear from you.
00:43:05.760 --> 00:43:10.079
So I have a question from Adriana who just gave birth to her first baby girl.
00:43:10.320 --> 00:43:12.320
So let's listen and then we'll all weigh in.
00:43:12.639 --> 00:43:15.679
Hi, I'm Adriana, and I just had my first baby.
00:43:15.920 --> 00:43:21.920
My question is how did you balance taking care of yourself while also taking care of your baby?
00:43:22.480 --> 00:43:22.800
Okay.
00:43:23.039 --> 00:43:27.280
How did you balance taking care of yourself while also taking care of the baby?
00:43:27.679 --> 00:43:29.119
Do you want to go first, Linz?
00:43:29.360 --> 00:43:31.199
And I know you just kind of talked about the case.
00:43:31.760 --> 00:43:32.000
Yeah.
00:43:32.159 --> 00:43:37.440
I I mean I mentioned it like taking care of myself literally just meant getting a shower every day.
00:43:37.599 --> 00:43:44.639
Like a shower for 15 minutes just to like, you know, feel like a fresh human.
00:43:44.880 --> 00:43:49.360
Um, and it sounds like oh sweet, I was a shower, maybe, but like also I got a shower.
00:43:49.519 --> 00:43:51.840
So it was just like that 15 minutes for me.
00:43:51.920 --> 00:43:59.760
Like, you just have to find me as a new mom if it's taking a walk for 15, like, just find something that's for you, and obviously this.
00:44:00.159 --> 00:44:22.480
means you have someone to help you um you know with baby for a few minutes which can be really tough too for a lot of new moms is depending on your situation but just if there's one thing a day just make one thing a day um your thing and then you'll get through that and before you know it you'll you'll be able to just kind of that one thing will expand as baby learns to nap and some of those things maybe a little better.
00:44:22.719 --> 00:44:23.119
Mm-hmm.
00:44:23.280 --> 00:44:55.119
I love that how about you Ryan I agree with the shower the shower I remember the shower with my girls being like the holy grail I mean I would make it to the end of the day and after she like she was not a good sleeper in the beginning for like a year but after she would go to sleep you know whatever time that was I would be in the shower just being like oh my God I made it I just remember like savoring that feeling of like washing off the day and just like getting into bed and feeling cozy and not being able to sleep.
00:44:55.199 --> 00:44:56.159
So it didn't really matter.
00:44:56.239 --> 00:45:32.559
But yeah it was very um it was very slim in the beginning it was it was honestly it really it really is and another piece I would mention on this is like trust your partner trust your mother-in-law trust your mom trust the aunties trust I don't know your neighbor who's a good person who can come over for to I don't know try like trust somebody to just hold your baby so you can go take a walk or like have a coffee or a tea like by yourself for 10 minutes because I think we grip really tightly on like us needing to be there every second with the new baby.
00:45:32.719 --> 00:45:41.599
And so I think there's a healthy level at first which is just very small just a healthy level of separation being like okay this is me.
00:45:41.760 --> 00:45:49.920
That's my baby I can sit here and do something that brings me pleasure or joy even if it's for 10 minutes or 15 minutes.
00:45:50.159 --> 00:45:58.480
And I love that you guys are highlighting the 10 minute thing because I think we think, oh, it's got to be this big thing or I need to go for a long walk or whatever.
00:45:58.559 --> 00:46:03.679
And it's like no you need a 10 minute reset five minutes even but make sure it's consistent.
00:46:03.840 --> 00:46:12.480
And I think for me it was a lot of um recalibrating and stepping back and realizing I can't do everything in this season.
00:46:12.639 --> 00:46:14.079
This season is temporary.
00:46:14.239 --> 00:46:15.920
Right now it's about motherhood.
00:46:16.079 --> 00:46:25.039
And so for me it was like at sleep time I knew if the baby's gonna be up eight 12 times, I need a 12 hour block.
00:46:25.119 --> 00:46:27.920
So I would go to bed early and I would allow myself to sleep in late.
00:46:28.000 --> 00:46:30.880
So if I'm waking up all these times, I still get good sleep.
00:46:31.039 --> 00:46:37.519
And then I would do 15 minute crossword puzzle every day just to have like a little time that's quiet.
00:46:37.679 --> 00:46:38.639
But it's small.
00:46:38.719 --> 00:46:44.800
It's like these small things and I love Lindsay that you said it evolves because over time you will get time back.
00:46:44.880 --> 00:46:50.400
And in the moment it feels like I'm never going to have time to myself but you will and it will expand and expand.
00:46:50.480 --> 00:46:59.440
And if you build that muscle of five minutes here, five minutes there, it turns into you know I'm gonna do a full skincare routine before bed and that feels good.
00:46:59.599 --> 00:47:02.719
Or I'm gonna sit and have a coffee with a friend and that feels good.
00:47:02.800 --> 00:47:08.159
And so I think if we get into that habit early on then we build that muscle for later.
00:47:08.320 --> 00:47:19.039
Whereas if we don't get into that habit early on we risk getting swallowed up by it which a lot of moms just completely lose themselves because we are the easiest thing to set aside.
00:47:19.199 --> 00:47:21.039
Like I'll get to me later.
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And so building that muscle in five minute increments, I think that is wisdom, you guys.
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And I I really appreciate that you said that.
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So that's so great.
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Okay, we are at the end.
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So before we get into plugging you Lindsay I just want to remind everybody to listen to the Raising Wild Hearts podcast with Ryan Watkin.
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As you can tell she is such a wise woman so articulate and she has a lot to share.
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So get her podcast.
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Ryan is there anything else you want to say as far as where people can find you oh my gosh thank you so much.
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Yeah follow along on YouTube or wherever you listen to your podcast.
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I love it.
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And then Lindsay so you guys catch Lindsay on Sunday NFL countdown.
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The season is just about to start actually by the time this airs I think it maybe will have started.
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So catch her on there.
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Lindsay is there anywhere else that people can find you maybe connect with you yeah you know what I um I'm I'm a little sporadic but I'm trying to be better as we fit all the things into the day.
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Uh on Instagram um my handles at Lindsay Theory I have a lot of work stuff there but also a lot of cameos by Cooper and Trevor because they tend to spread joy I mean at least to me I think other people enjoy it too.
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So you can follow me on Instagram or on Twitter but that's Twitter's just straight football Instagram where you get a little bit of both worlds.
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I love it so much.
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And don't you guys find that having your kids as part of your narrative just softens you like it makes you so accessible I think yeah it is I will say having a family became like the talking point that I didn't even know existed when I go to interview people and like it's a commonality that you know a lot of these guys a lot of the players have new young kids because we talk about it a lot of the coaches are also like newer dads or have kids and um again like I just I I once feared like what maybe this would do to my career.
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And all it's done is make everything in the world so much more relatable fun loving also a little bit crazy but you know but it's so worth it worth it.
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Well I appreciate both of you ladies thank you so much for coming on and what a great start to season six.
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Thanks so much for having me.
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Thank you.
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Thank you of course bye ladies this has been the Dead Mother Podcast remember new episodes drop every Tuesday if you enjoyed today's episode please leave a review.
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