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Hello and welcome to the bunker.
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If you have been following me on my podcast journey since 2013 when I started podcasting, you will know that I started podcasting from underneath my duvet in the househare I was living in at the time because there were too many noises from the six other comedians I was living with.
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So I had to do it under a duvet.
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My life is very different now.
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I'm an incredibly successful comedian and I'm currently recording this podcast in a rush because I'm living with my mother, and for the next 20 minutes, she's out walking the dog.
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So I was like, uh-huh, yeah, have a nice trip.
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Click, click, click, record, record, record, go, go, go.
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Um how fun.
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I was gonna record this morning, but then she started vacuuming.
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You know, it's just classic problems that um I think all uh famous, successful comedians have.
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I'm pretty sure Caleb Heron has to um ask his mother to stop vacuuming before he records his intros.
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Um but hi.
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Uh the next 10 episodes that are gonna be coming out uh of the bunker uh were all recorded in Edinburgh in August of 2026.
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I it was incredible, it was incredible.
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I was allowed to use Lighthouse Bookshop, which is this incredible queer radical bookshop uh on West Nicholson Street in Edinburgh.
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They allowed me to use their basement room and they made it so beautiful, they made it so podcast beautiful.
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And just it was the dream.
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Like 10 days a month that month, I got to go to a bookshop and go into their basement surrounded by books and just record this podcast.
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And there was no reception down there, so it felt very uh bunkery, and it was just so much fun, and I just enjoyed it, and I want to thank Lighthouse Bookshop so much.
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If you are ever in Edinburgh, go to Lighthouse Bookshop, they're the nicest people.
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It's the it's just the best.
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Go, I recommend.
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Okay.
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Um I I did a month of shows in Edinburgh.
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It was eventful.
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It's my first political show, and I don't think I've ever had people be angry with me because of what I said on stage.
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That was weird.
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I've had people be sad because of what I've said on stage, but like I've never had people shout at me.
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It was
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people who were upset that I referred to uh what's happening in Palestine as a genocide, which you know, that it doesn't really upset me when those people don't like me because um it is a genocide.
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So you're allowed to not like the show.
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I'd love it if you didn't shout at me.
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But the one lady who walked out in a in a what do you call that?
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A huff.
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I was like, yeah, fair enough.
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Uh we're not gonna agree on anything and uh have a nice day.
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I kicked out a man.
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Like I kicked out a man from my show.
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I've never, I've done stand-up for 16 years.
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I've never kicked anyone out of my shows.
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That was a thrilling.
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I walked out on stage, we're like 26 shows in, and he just started talking, like replying to my jokes.
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So tired.
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I'm so tired.
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Why are men why are men?
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Question mark.
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And I was like, listen, I am I just said I said something like, I don't have the energy for like I can't.
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This is not, this is just not gonna happen.
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I don't, I can't, I can't.
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So if you talk one more time, you gotta go.
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And then, hey, what do you think happened?
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Do you think you maybe talk one more time?
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Uh yeah.
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So he talked one more time, and I was just like, I yeah, you need to leave.
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I think you need to go.
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And then he refused to leave.
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And his girlfriend or wife who's sitting next to him kept like apologizing for him, being like, He's really trying, as if he's like a toddler.
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And I was like, mm-hmm, yeah, no, he has to go.
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Like, man's gotta go.
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And then I had to like my what I don't know how old my tech was, like 19, 20.
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I was like, Have you done this before?
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And he was like, no, and I was like, okay.
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Um and then like he had to call for like as like for someone else, for the venue manager to come to get this man out.
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And then this man, this adult man in his like 40s or 50s, could be 60s, I don't know, was like arguing with these two 20-year-olds because like he wanted to stay even though he was ruining the show.
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I can I would be so embarrassed.
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I would be so embarrassed.
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If if you're if you were his wife, his girlfriend who was sitting next to him, if you recognize the story, if you were there, if you're listening to this podcast, leave him.
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Leave him.
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You're married to a toddler, you're married to a little tiny ch child and it's disgusting and he's he's annoying.
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Get get out.
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Like get him, get go away.
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Go, get, get you you will be better off without him.
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Imagine having to sit next to an adult man and apologize for him to the comedian because he's too annoying, like he can't let another person have the attention for an hour.
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I can't.
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I cannot, I cannot.
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That was like saying to the audience, who were all terrified because I know my audience were all like anxiety, we all have anxiety and we're like people like popping surtraline in in in their anxiety.
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Um and I was saying to them, like, no, no, no, I this makes me feel alive.
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Like I've never had to, I've never felt I've never looked at a man and said leave.
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And then granted, five minutes later he leaves.
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The power could have gone to my head.
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I was so excited.
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Anyway, so eventful fringe, and I am taking the show on tour.
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I'm gonna be in, and I will apologize for calling it Aldebra.
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That was a guess on how to pronounce Aldeburgh.
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Uh turns out it's pronounced Aldbra.
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And I'm kind of I'm contemplating refusing to call it that because that does seem ridiculous.
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But very soon in October, I'll be in Aldborough.
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Uh then in November I'll be at the Soho Theatre.
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Uh, then next year I'm taking the show to Copenhagen, Ulenso, Aarhus, Rotterdam, Berlin, Leicester, Melmour, Yotteborg, Stockholm, Leeds, Sheffield, Selby, Newcastle, Edinburgh, Glasgow, Aberdeen, Birmingham, Manchester, uh, Liverpool, Reading, Brighton, Cambridge, London, and Exeter.
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And we will be adding Bristol, so keep an eye out for that.
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Uh, also, if you're in London on the 18th and 19th of October, like right now, like in a month, uh, I will be at the Bill Murray doing some new stuff.
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It's like a work in progress, tickets are£10.
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I'm not quite sure what's gonna happen.
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I think it'll be some stuff will be recorded for content
because that's unfortunately what the world is right now.
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But um, yeah, please do come to that.
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That would be great.
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Bill Murray in London.
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Uh Harry June.
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I love him so much.
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He's the guest in this episode.
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He is so incredibly watchable.
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Like, I can't get enough of him.
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Like, I can just go onto his uh TikTok and just watch every single video and be entertained for the entirety.
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He is so warm and nice.
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Like, it's so nice to have someone who does stand up from a nice place.
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And he talks about it in the bonus episode that he is very inspired by heart, that he wants uh the show to of course be funny, but also to have heart.
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And I think you really feel that he is oh, and you're gonna his voice incredible.
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I wanted him to keep talking.
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I want him to record uh like good night stories, like like sleep sleep time stories, and I would just listen to him read me anything and I would fall asleep and I would sleep so well.
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He is so sweet, so funny.
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I loved this episode.
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I'm so happy that this is the first episode of the 10 Edinburgh episodes, and I hope you like it too.
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Um they're not recorded in order.
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No, they were recorded in order.
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They're not released in order.
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So uh there might be, I don't know if they're gonna be inconsistencies, but there could be.
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Okay.
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Please do go and listen to the uh bonus episodes.
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Uh they will be both on Substack and Patreon, and the link will be below.
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Please it it is my favorite thing.
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It's one of my favorite things about this podcast.
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I ask Harry, I ask all the guests to provide some books, some movies, and some albums for the bunker to bring, both for me and for them.
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And and they bring them and then we discuss them, and I watch, listen, and read in advance, and my mind is being expanded, my heart is being expanded, my life is being expanded by all of these pieces of work.
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I'm so happy to be doing this.
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I am learning so much.
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I think if you signed up and you got these emails into your inbox every other week, you would be so happy too.
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The movie that Harry June has brought for me, I never would have watched if it wasn't for this.
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And I watched it and I was so grateful.
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An amazing thriller.
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Uh, the book he brought for me, oh my God.
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Life-changing.
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Like you've got you've got to become a Patreon or a Substack supporter.
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Same thing, same content.
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But uh, you will also then help support the podcast.
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And maybe support it in a way that means that one day I will be recording this intro uh from maybe, and this might be asking too much, uh, a rental place of my own and not at my mother's house.
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We just need to get that deposit in, okay?
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Let's all work towards a a bigger cause, which is get me out of this place.
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Get get me.
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I'm 37, I shouldn't live with my mother.
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That's all I'm saying.
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Uh so please do join uh Patreon or Substack.
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But before you do anything at all, please just uh enjoy this episode with the incredible Harry Joon.
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Harry Joon.
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Yes.
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I'm gonna set the scene.
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You're at home, you hear the siren.
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You know what the siren means.
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It means you have to rush to the bunker.
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You grab the folder, the folder that's been gathering dust on the shelves for all these years.
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Perfect.
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Thank you.
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Thank you for adding to it.
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Um you open it and it tells you who your bunker mate is gonna be.
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And it's stand-up comedian Sophie Hagen.
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Is that the reaction?
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No, I think it'd be more like huh.
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Is that a happy huh?
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It's more of a another stand-up comedian.
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What are the odds?
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They did tell me it's random, but another stand-up comedian I st I'm still not getting if you're happy or sad about this.
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No, it's very much a middle uh I've it's between it's before happy, before sad, it's just there.
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It's just confusion.
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Confusion.
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Okay, I'll take it.
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I'm astounded.
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Because it's if because they, you know, a a lotto, random pick.
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And I've met you before.
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That's the other thing.
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That's true.
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But we live so far away from each other, so like what are the odds?
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So far, but the sirens, they're calling.
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They're calling, you rush to the bunker, you peg a back, which we'll be talking about in the bonus episode, you get to the bunker, and I'm there.
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And now we have to be stuck in a bunker for God knows how long.
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Could be years.
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It'll probably be years.
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Long haul.
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Yeah.
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What what are we in for?
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What do you think it's uh gonna be like?
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I so before I started doing comedy, I only ever lived with my brother when I was in uni and my current fiance.
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And before that I'd lived alone.
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But then like touring mean meant that I would live with other comedians.
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Actually, this is the first time in Edinburgh right now.
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I have three flatmates who are all comedians.
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And I'm like, I'm quite shy, like I'm a bit shy, I like my own space.
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So I was I was very nervous and anxious about living with strangers.
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But I have to tell you, especially Edinburgh, but with like living with uh my friend Jenny Tian, we used to tour together.
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I've actually enjoyed it so much.
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So, I mean, before I was joking about, oh no, another comedian.
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I I'm actually quite excited.
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I think it'd be fun.
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I think it'd be fun.
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Um I think we could do a cute little, I think it'd be funny if we have like a height chart.
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You know how they have one on the doorway.
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That's a mesh shower.
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Yeah, yeah, we go, oh maybe one we have one with shoes and without.
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Well, we'll be stuck in a small bunker.
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We might have to do like a width chart.
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That's never been done.
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Oh shit.
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We have a height and width chart.
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That'll be I think it'd be circumference chart?
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Yeah, I would love that.
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No, I think um I try to be good to live with and work with.
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I I try to be out out of anyone's way.
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Like very clear thoroughfares.
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If I don't want to, you know, if you're doing something.
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No, no, it's okay.
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No, Sophie, I don't need I don't need to use the kitchen.
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You're you're uh it's okay.
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I haven't eaten in days, but you're cooking something.
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And I feel like that is realistic for maybe the first couple of weeks, months.
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Yeah.
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But surely everyone gets pushed to the edge.
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Even the most because I'm a I would also do the same.
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Oh no, don't worry, no, sorry, it's okay.
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No, I'll do that.
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It's funny to have two of two people like that.
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No, no, I have no boundaries.
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Oh, you have no boundaries either.
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That's okay.
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We'll just not have any boundaries in the bucket.
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That's okay.
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It's just pushing it.
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No, let's keep pushing it.
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Whatever you want.
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No, whatever you want.
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No, what do you want?
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I don't know what I want.
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What do you want?
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Okay, that's fine.
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Uh do you know what?
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Let's both not eat.
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And the width chart gets smaller.
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Oh, we might drive each other to no.
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So that's what I mean.
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So like at one point we must be pushed to the edge.
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And then what?
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When are you at your worst?
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Well, uh so I used to be a high school teacher.
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Okay.
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Yeah, for seven years ago.
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You're in control.
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Yeah, well, it's funny because I think everyone's perception of what a high school teacher is, it really depends on like the best teachers you've ever had and the worst teachers, and then sort of like a mashup between.
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But I it taught me a lot of patience.
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Because when you work with children, you know, between the ages of 12 and 18, like they're still figuring it out, but they're limit testing.
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They're trying to see how how much can they get away with.
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And your job is to provide very explicit but safe boundaries.
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Um so that let me like that really taught me how to
extend my fuse, if that makes sense.
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Yeah.
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You can't just because they're so sensitive too.
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Like you, if I have a bad day or a bad night, I go into my classroom, they read that immediately and they go, Oh, you know, oh, and then some of them might want to push that.
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Oh, you know, oh, your hair looks a bit messy today, sir.
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Or some of them are very sensitive and like they just put their head down and do their work.
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But that taught me how to like treat others with kindness.
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It taught me to you have to sometimes you just have to put someone else's needs before yourself, especially as a teacher.
00:15:49.440 --> 00:15:55.519
Um and in terms of like a cohabiting situation, there's so much of that.
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Like people come in with all of their stress, their grievances, something catastrophic will happen.
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And there's like it's like a feedback in the air, like a signal.
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We're just like, oh, something's different.
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Something's different.
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We have to read this.
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Um I I feel like I would try to be sensitive to that, but then when I get pushed to the limit, obviously you have to learn to I really learn how to communicate that better, especially with like living with my fiance Jill.
00:16:28.000 --> 00:16:28.639
Yeah.
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Um like I love her so much.
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But there there are times like we obviously we fight as normal.
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Um and it's good to fight and express your like you know, when you're upset and stuff.
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But I've been in relationships where I didn't fight with a partner and it's so much worse.
00:16:45.279 --> 00:16:45.840
Interesting.
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Because it just builds up.
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Yeah, and then you think like, oh no, I'll just get over it.
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Like it's it's my issue and I'll get over it.
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But you don't get you never get over it.
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No, you don't get over it.
00:16:56.879 --> 00:16:58.799
I'm still mad about things that happened 20 years ago.
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Exactly.
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And and you're like the further away you get, it's so funny, the further away you get from what happened, it defies the laws of physics in that it should get smaller.
00:17:10.160 --> 00:17:13.759
That's how physics works, but it grows in size the further away.
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Because you're just like, I didn't resolve this.
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I didn't resolve this.
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Um, and so learning to confront in a healthy way with my partner Jill was it's such a gift because like I can use that with other interactions.
00:17:27.599 --> 00:17:38.880
Um I feel like if you and I, you know, we're we're talking about not just like even a month of you know touring together and cohabiting, habitating, sorry, it could be years.
00:17:39.119 --> 00:17:45.519
So it's like I think early on, establishing, just like as I was a teacher, establishing those healthy boundaries.
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You know, being like, oh, okay, oh, if you're like this, I'm like this.
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Like, oh how about do you know what?
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I did leave the mugs out and they're dirty.
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And there are only two mugs in the bunker, and I use both.
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Do you know what?
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I'm sorry, Sophie.
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I this one's messy and it's on me.
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Um I I would try to be as explicit as possible with that, but I just I am a bit more of a doormat, I think.
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I think I can like I can take a lot.
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That's the other thing being a teacher, like because you're used to you you children are so I don't know.
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I I have a soft swat for children.
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I feel like maybe I let them get away with a little bit more because they're experimenting with what's right and what's wrong.
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Yeah.
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But then that does also lead to being like trodden on a lot.
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Yeah.
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And it's I find it really difficult when you're capable of taking a lot.
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It's hard to figure out when you should then stop.
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Because if you're like, well, I'd I'd be fine with more, you could step on me a lot more and I'd still be fine.
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Yes.
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So then when do you how can how can you justify making them stop if you could take it, you know?
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Yeah, that's the thing.
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And like, and I just know like if, you know, w when I have children that like it does border on this whole, like, that's how you spoil them.
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That's how you spoil them.
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And so teaching taught me it's like, no, there is a limit where you have to it's good for their your relationship with these children, because you're an authority figure, and you have to place these healthy boundaries, or else they'll develop into being like arseholes.
00:19:21.519 --> 00:19:22.960
They'll develop into being arseholes.
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But um I mean that's uh that's important for like, you know, living with adults, but it's not the most important thing.
00:19:31.039 --> 00:19:37.359
Like, I I also have to remember that adults come in with their own, like they've already been they've developed their boundaries and understanding of boundaries.
00:19:37.599 --> 00:19:39.599
Um worse, they haven't.
00:19:39.920 --> 00:19:42.000
Well, yeah, that's and but they're already an adult.
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Like you can't change a lot of things, you know.
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It's real hard to figure out boundaries the later you get.
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Which is why they need it as kids.
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As children, yeah.
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Deformative times.
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Boundaries are like like boundaries on their own is like I think we tend to see boundaries as a punishment or like a bad thing.
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But it's boundaries can also be like what holds something inside in like a safe way.
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Yes.
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It's walls around if there was no boundaries around water, we would never drink a glass of water.
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No, ah excellent.
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Well, because you know sometimes you're so smart that you can just like you just can't really Oh wow it hits you.
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You go, oh write that down.
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Someone someone's still uh write this down.
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Can someone write this down?
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But you know what I mean?
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Like it can be a safe thing.
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Yes.
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It can be nice when a parent says you're not allowed to stay out past 10 p.m.
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Because, oh my god, someone cares.
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Yeah, and do you know what's interesting is I find with uh other adults is it's their reaction to you setting up a boundary will really colour your relationship with them.
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Because if you establish a very fair boundary and then they get hurt and upset and or like they don't understand, or any kind of negative reaction actually does it's I think for me it's red flags because that means that they're not used to that, or sometimes, and unfortunately, it will lead to like a manipulative response.
00:21:04.799 --> 00:21:18.000
If you're just like, if I, you know, I was I I oh actually, you know, I I might go to bed early, I'm a bit tired, and they go, oh, you know, well, you're in Edinburgh, you know, sort of it's your debut once in a lifetime.
00:21:18.079 --> 00:21:23.920
You should kind of go out and meet people and you know, kind of oh, unless you don't care about your career, Harry.
00:21:24.640 --> 00:21:26.799
You know, that not that's not happened.
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I'm not saying that's happened, but Oh, I'm saying it ha it definitely has happened.
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Oh my god, it's happened.
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You sounded you echoing so many people I've met.
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But like that response to a boundary is like and then I in reverse I would never inflict that upon anyone.
00:21:42.640 --> 00:21:51.920
In fact, when people uh it actually feels like don't you ever feel yuck when you uh inadvertently pushed someone's boundary?
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Actually, this happened last night.
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Oh, I still sorry, that was a yuck.
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I feel so bad.
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So, okay, this is what happened.
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I was walking home after my, it was like 12:15.
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I was on Cowgate, and these two, I just noticed in the distance, I saw these two young, like young women sitting down on the floor.
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They must have been like, not super drunk, but like, they had a couple drinks, and this guy came up to them, and he was a young man too, and he was kind of talking about, and you know, as you're walking, you only get glimpses of like, like it's literally, you know, the subtitles in Netflix where it says indistinct chatter.
00:22:28.880 --> 00:22:35.119
Like, I got the indistinct chatter, but he was asking them for their phone or I don't know, their phone number, or something.
00:22:35.200 --> 00:22:39.599
But I'm walking and I'm like, oh, this feels yuck, right?
00:22:39.839 --> 00:22:47.519
And then both of them sort of too loudly, you know, when they speak loudly enough so that other people can hear?
00:22:47.680 --> 00:22:48.079
Yeah.
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One of them goes, oh no, no, my phone's out of battery.
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My phone's out of battery.
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And then the other young woman was like, Oh yeah, no, we uh mine's out of battery too.
00:22:58.720 --> 00:23:07.519
And then this old, this, this other, the man, this young man who I'm now realizing didn't know them personally at all, he's kind of like starting to look a bit more upset.
00:23:07.599 --> 00:23:14.799
And I'm like, and I so I stopped walking and I kind of just stand, stood there to see if it's like, is this chill?
00:23:14.960 --> 00:23:16.319
What's happening?
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You know, there wasn't that uh no one else around.
00:23:19.759 --> 00:23:23.599
I'm like, oh, and then he kind of like sighed and then walked away.
00:23:23.759 --> 00:23:27.680
And then I and I'm thinking, okay, oh cool, these young women are safe.
00:23:27.759 --> 00:23:36.000
And then I was I did this silent, I gestured to them, I I pointed at the guy's back as he was walking away, and I was like, Are you okay?
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Like, is everything okay?
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And then they look, they they might have been stressed or something, but they literally looked at me and they're like, Yes, we're fine.
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Yes, we're fine.
00:23:46.480 -->
00:23:49.519
In a in a way that was like, and am I the creep now?
00:23:49.920 --> 00:23:51.759
Like, wait, am I the creep now?
00:23:52.319 --> 00:23:56.559
But like, because I felt like oh, then I realized, oh, am I pushing the boundary?
00:23:56.720 --> 00:24:00.480
Like maybe they were fine, maybe they don't need anything, any help.
00:24:00.640 --> 00:24:04.000
And I was like, oh, but most importantly, they were safe.
00:24:04.160 --> 00:24:06.960
So I was like, oh, and then I was I felt so embarrassed.
00:24:07.200 --> 00:24:11.039
No, I walked away and I was like, oh, I shouldn't have said anything.
00:24:11.759 --> 00:24:21.039
I oh that's so it's so it's hard to be a non-poison MM in a bowl full of MMs where some of them are poisoned.
00:24:21.599 --> 00:24:22.079
Do you know what I mean?
00:24:22.319 --> 00:24:22.880
Yeah, I yeah.
00:24:23.119 --> 00:24:33.200
Because like they they have no idea if you're gonna go, oh, I heard something about a phone number, or if you're gonna like you know, it's a thumbs up meaning, oh, he seemed like a great guy.
00:24:33.359 --> 00:24:35.920
Yeah, or I you know, and like it's just so hard.
00:24:36.000 --> 00:24:40.480
And it's and but it this is you react, like you are just all you need to do is react to their boundaries, right?
00:24:40.720 --> 00:24:41.119
Yes, yes.
00:24:41.279 --> 00:24:43.200
So when they go, we're fine, great, great.
00:24:43.519 --> 00:24:46.000
Yeah, I and I I obviously like I walked.
00:24:46.319 --> 00:24:48.559
I didn't want to be like, oh, I was just trying to help.
00:24:48.720 --> 00:24:50.079
Like I'm a good guy.
00:24:50.319 --> 00:24:51.359
I'm one of the good ones.
00:24:51.599 --> 00:24:54.640
And then I walked them home and I was like screaming at them, I'm a good guy.
00:24:54.799 --> 00:25:02.319
And then I said, by the way, if you do have your phone, yeah, if you have a phone like French.com forward slash still have tickets left.
00:25:02.559 --> 00:25:07.039
But it was just like this idea of like, yeah, they already went through a yuck interaction.
00:25:07.119 --> 00:25:07.279
Yeah.
00:25:07.440 --> 00:25:11.680
And then if they're just like another guy, really, I was like, well, just get out of there, get out of there.
00:25:11.839 --> 00:25:19.839
Um, but yeah, that whole the boundary thing, because that happens inadvertently when you you know push on someone's boundary.
00:25:20.000 --> 00:25:23.759
Like when I think, you know, we're in the bunker.
00:25:24.319 --> 00:25:29.680
It in I reckon the first, how long do you think for us we have to learn the boundaries?
00:25:29.920 --> 00:25:30.160
You know.
00:25:30.400 --> 00:25:33.200
Well, my the first step is learning my boundaries.
00:25:33.599 --> 00:25:35.119
I am not sure I know all of them yet.
00:25:35.279 --> 00:25:35.519
Really?
00:25:36.160 --> 00:25:40.640
I'm still and I'm trying to identify them, and sometimes I'm like, why am I angry?
00:25:40.799 --> 00:25:42.319
Huh, nothing bad has happened.
00:25:42.480 --> 00:25:45.920
It's like, oh, someone's like literally standing on my foot, but I'm like, hmm.
00:25:46.240 --> 00:25:48.720
What is it about this situation that's making me angry?
00:25:49.039 --> 00:25:50.960
There's always been a dull ache there, I think.
00:25:51.519 --> 00:25:55.039
Oh no, my foot is in the way of the soles of his shoe.
00:25:55.119 --> 00:25:56.000
Like, oh no, what am I?
00:25:56.240 --> 00:25:58.720
Oh, I'm probably doing something wrong to this guy's undersoles.
00:25:59.200 --> 00:26:02.880
But so I think you would have to have patience with me as I'm learning.
00:26:03.279 --> 00:26:06.079
And I and also I need to learn how to set them.
00:26:06.400 --> 00:26:07.039
Yeah, okay.
00:26:07.279 --> 00:26:12.480
So you might you might actually need some of that high school teacher experience.
00:26:12.799 --> 00:26:19.200
No, because I feel the same way, but also it's funny how people's energies change depending on like we accommodate.
00:26:19.680 --> 00:26:26.319
Like, because I find again with teaching, I had to learn where some some kids were like frightfully shy.
00:26:26.480 --> 00:26:26.640
Yeah.
00:26:26.880 --> 00:26:30.400
And so then I would be more playful and cheeky to bring out their confidence.
00:26:30.480 --> 00:26:40.079
But then the other side where you'd have these like, and usually boys rambunctious, like tornadoes of energy, and then I had to be an anchor.
00:26:40.240 --> 00:26:43.759
I had to go, okay, you know, no jokes from me.
00:26:44.000 --> 00:26:46.160
I've got to be overly like, do you know what?
00:26:46.400 --> 00:26:48.559
No, we're not doing that.
00:26:48.880 --> 00:26:56.400
Put the foot down, and we'll you're gonna stay five minutes after class and we're gonna tidy up this mess that you've made.
00:26:56.559 --> 00:27:00.000
So, like, I I have to learn to match an energy.
00:27:00.160 --> 00:27:04.079
And I think with your energy and my energy, we're quite similar.
00:27:04.400 --> 00:27:11.680
But if you if I read a a discomfort out of you, I would have to be like, all right, let's sit down and talk about it.
00:27:11.839 --> 00:27:14.160
Let's tell me how you feel.
00:27:14.319 --> 00:27:15.920
No, no, how do you really feel?
00:27:16.720 --> 00:27:18.480
Do you know I love that you're preempting.
00:27:18.640 --> 00:27:21.039
You know exactly that my first answer won't be true.
00:27:21.759 --> 00:27:24.799
You're you know that you have to say, no, no, no, really, though.
00:27:25.119 --> 00:27:32.079
Yeah, no, because I feel like that's with me, because the initial, it's the the the candy coating of like, no, no, everything's fine.
00:27:32.640 --> 00:27:35.680
And then it's like, no, okay, that's melted away now.
00:27:36.400 --> 00:27:37.440
What how do you really feel?
00:27:37.599 --> 00:27:40.880
Because uh and sometimes it's a processing thing of time.
00:27:41.599 --> 00:27:48.559
And also sometimes what people uh when I say people, I mean my
therapist, what she has to say is, no, no, that's your thoughts.
00:27:48.640 --> 00:27:49.440
What are your feelings?
00:27:49.680 --> 00:27:50.160
Oh, that's cool.
00:27:50.480 --> 00:27:53.519
Because I'll go, I reacted this way, and I think it's because my dad left.
00:27:53.599 --> 00:27:55.599
And she's like, No, no, how do you feel?
00:27:55.759 --> 00:28:01.200
I'm like, well, what I what I determined was that I think because of this and that, I must have felt uh sad.
00:28:01.440 --> 00:28:02.559
It must have been a sadness feel.
00:28:02.720 --> 00:28:03.839
He's like, Well, how do you feel?
00:28:04.000 --> 00:28:08.960
I'm like, I don't I don't know what draw in my head to look for to find out that.
00:28:09.039 --> 00:28:11.759
And she's like, body, and I'm like, oh shit, that's a body.
00:28:12.000 --> 00:28:12.319
Okay.
00:28:12.960 --> 00:28:15.680
Uh I don't know, it's bad.
00:28:16.240 --> 00:28:17.279
Bad feelings.
00:28:17.680 --> 00:28:22.240
That's so good though, to separate, because we do mix or we go to one first.
00:28:22.799 --> 00:28:24.079
The logic and the yeah.
00:28:24.240 --> 00:28:34.000
And I I'm envious of people who just go to feelings where I'm like, oh, I wish sometimes it was just direct access, but I have to go through this like anal analysis logic thing.
00:28:34.160 --> 00:28:37.200
And then if any of that is like, well, you shouldn't be sad.
00:28:37.359 --> 00:28:37.519
Yeah.
00:28:37.839 --> 00:28:41.119
Because uh you're watching a sitcom, so you can't be crying.
00:28:41.359 --> 00:28:43.519
So so everything's probably fine.
00:28:43.920 --> 00:28:47.519
And all the sadness is like That's interesting.
00:28:47.839 --> 00:28:52.720
Okay, so then do you because I find that I probably lean closer to the feeling side.
00:28:53.359 --> 00:28:53.599
Good.
00:28:53.920 --> 00:28:56.960
But do you how do you interact with people like that?
00:28:57.119 --> 00:29:00.720
Like do you do you find it hard to understand them sometimes?
00:29:03.359 --> 00:29:05.920
I think Yeah, probably.
00:29:06.400 --> 00:29:09.039
And I think I s I sometimes need to just be reminded.
00:29:09.200 --> 00:29:19.039
And I m by myself usually just like, oh no, feelings are are fine and it's okay to have them, and this is actually like it I don't I don't have to fix it, is the first thing.
00:29:19.200 --> 00:29:20.880
I don't have to go, oh you're having feelings now.
00:29:20.960 --> 00:29:23.519
Let us let us figure out a way for you to not have them.
00:29:23.680 --> 00:29:24.000
Yeah.
00:29:24.160 --> 00:29:28.799
I can just but it's it feels overwhelming because I'm like, it's something is not contained.
00:29:29.039 --> 00:29:30.400
Like, should we contain it?
00:29:30.559 --> 00:29:33.920
And then I just need to go, no, it doesn't have to be contained actually.
00:29:34.000 --> 00:29:35.440
It's okay, the feelings just exist.
00:29:35.519 --> 00:29:35.680
Yeah.
00:29:35.839 --> 00:29:41.119
But it feels unruly and it feels
a bit like feels like the ocean, feels too big sometimes.
00:29:41.680 --> 00:29:47.279
This is really fascinating because I think about this so much in terms of my own anxiety and control.
00:29:48.720 --> 00:30:01.359
And and when we're thinking about living together, so much of like I I if it were up to me, I would like be I'd love to hear an Edinburgh live by myself.
00:30:01.680 --> 00:30:04.720
But then also it's really nice to have other people.
00:30:04.799 --> 00:30:10.880
But the thing that I think causes the most stress with living other people for me is the lack of control.
00:30:11.920 --> 00:30:14.400
Especially, you know, if you're sharing a bathroom, let's say.
00:30:14.640 --> 00:30:16.720
And I've been so lucky there's have been no issues.
00:30:16.799 --> 00:30:21.920
Like my uh flatmates, Lucas Jeff Coat has a show at three, I think three ten.
00:30:22.319 --> 00:30:26.559
Uh Ovaldis has a show at uh seven ten, and my show's at 8.30.
00:30:26.640 --> 00:30:32.799
So our time schedules for like when we need the shower, everything no clashes.
00:30:33.279 --> 00:30:34.640
But imagine if there was.
00:30:34.880 --> 00:30:37.440
Imagine I'm gonna get to my show.
00:30:37.759 --> 00:30:38.559
I need a shower.
00:30:38.880 --> 00:30:39.839
You say imagine.
00:30:40.000 --> 00:30:42.400
I live with my mother right now and she just retired.
00:30:42.640 --> 00:30:44.319
Oh the time.
00:30:44.640 --> 00:30:46.480
She's around all the time, oh the time.
00:30:46.960 --> 00:30:48.000
This is what I mean.
00:30:48.079 --> 00:30:48.480
Yeah.
00:30:48.799 --> 00:30:49.440
Control.
00:30:49.680 --> 00:30:51.839
Yeah, she needs to get back to work.
00:30:52.240 --> 00:30:54.079
She need hire this lady.
00:30:54.400 --> 00:30:56.000
You've done this for like 50-60 years.
00:30:56.079 --> 00:30:56.799
You can do another 10.
00:30:57.039 --> 00:30:58.720
Can someone get some people's mom on a job for you?
00:30:58.880 --> 00:31:00.319
Can someone hire my mother for something?
00:31:00.400 --> 00:31:00.960
I don't care.
00:31:01.119 --> 00:31:02.799
Like she's very good at cleaning.
00:31:02.880 --> 00:31:03.599
Come on, take her.
00:31:03.759 --> 00:31:04.480
Someone take her.
00:31:04.640 --> 00:31:08.480
But yeah, I would love to do I I don't love waiting to use the bathroom.
00:31:08.720 --> 00:31:09.680
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:31:09.920 --> 00:31:10.960
That would freak me out.
00:31:11.279 --> 00:31:11.519
Yeah.
00:31:12.160 --> 00:31:17.599
So again, like I guess we would would it make you feel more comfortable if we had, I mean, a bathroom schedules crazy.
00:31:17.839 --> 00:31:18.480
A peace schedule?
00:31:18.640 --> 00:31:19.680
A peace schedule is crazy.
00:31:20.000 --> 00:31:24.559
No, but what what it would force me to do is again get to know my body.
00:31:24.880 --> 00:31:31.519
Because this thing of like holding it in until it's like last second, and that is you've just gone to the shower, and then I'm like, oh no.
00:31:31.680 --> 00:31:33.200
No, no, I can't wait any longer.
00:31:33.359 --> 00:31:34.240
Like that doesn't work.
00:31:34.400 --> 00:31:35.759
I have to like time it better.
00:31:36.000 --> 00:31:36.480
Yeah, right.
00:31:36.720 --> 00:31:42.000
Would you would you confront, like, would you be like okay, let's see.
00:31:42.079 --> 00:31:42.960
Set set the scene.
00:31:43.119 --> 00:31:43.680
Yeah.
00:31:44.000 --> 00:31:52.079
You're you're feeling like you've got to go to the toilet, and it then it comes up quite quickly, but then you see me like I'm right outside the the bathroom shower.
00:31:52.240 --> 00:31:53.599
I've got my towel on.
00:31:53.839 --> 00:31:55.359
This is like an everything shower.
00:31:55.440 --> 00:31:57.680
Like I've I've got my shame.
00:31:58.400 --> 00:31:59.759
Yeah, my hair mask.
00:32:00.000 --> 00:32:04.799
Like, um, and you know, and you've seen me take one of those showers before, and it's an hour and a half minimum.
00:32:05.119 --> 00:32:05.359
Okay.
00:32:05.440 --> 00:32:22.799
I would say, Oh, um, Harry, I would love for you to take a shower right now, but you have to decide whether or not you would rather shower right now and then know that this mug, your mug, has been used for unspeakable things, or you let me use the bathroom real quick.
00:32:23.200 --> 00:32:26.240
We only have two mugs, I've exactly and yours is the one to go.
00:32:27.440 --> 00:32:30.079
Wait, so your first one of call was the threat.
00:32:31.279 --> 00:32:32.000
Wait, okay, sorry.
00:32:32.079 --> 00:32:32.640
Help me, I'll be.
00:32:38.880 --> 00:32:39.279
No, I see.
00:32:39.440 --> 00:32:41.119
Are you saying that's unhealthy?
00:32:42.720 --> 00:32:46.559
Oh, you went to DEF CON flight like so quickly.
00:32:47.119 --> 00:32:48.160
Wait, let me try again.
00:32:48.559 --> 00:32:50.160
Meanwhile, I'm there with my towel.
00:32:50.480 --> 00:32:51.440
I have a bathrobe on.
00:32:51.519 --> 00:32:55.039
I'm like, oh my goodness.
00:32:55.680 --> 00:32:56.000
Okay.
00:32:57.039 --> 00:32:59.039
Oh, is it okay if I use the bathroom first?
00:32:59.200 --> 00:32:59.680
There we go.
00:33:00.000 --> 00:33:00.640
That's not better.
00:33:00.880 --> 00:33:02.799
And I would see that's what the conversation would be like.
00:33:02.880 --> 00:33:04.319
I would go, sorry, Sophie.
00:33:04.400 --> 00:33:05.920
Oh, you didn't use the bathroom.
00:33:06.559 --> 00:33:07.839
Don't threaten me.
00:33:08.079 --> 00:33:10.079
I'd say, don't threaten me.
00:33:10.160 --> 00:33:11.119
Let's talk about okay.
00:33:11.200 --> 00:33:12.000
Just say, do you know what?
00:33:12.079 --> 00:33:13.839
If you say sorry, could I use the bathroom quickly?
00:33:14.000 --> 00:33:17.759
I go, okay, I'll I'll put down my hair mask.
00:33:18.079 --> 00:33:20.000
My 12-step skincare routine.
00:33:20.079 --> 00:33:24.400
I've got my exfoliator down, everything's down, and I go, okay, please use the bathroom.
00:33:24.640 --> 00:33:26.480
And then I slowly
put the mug away.
00:33:27.119 --> 00:33:28.480
You've got a hammer as well.
00:33:29.119 --> 00:33:30.400
Put the hammer down.
00:33:32.559 --> 00:33:33.440
Just needs a pee.
00:33:33.519 --> 00:33:34.400
I just need a pee.
00:33:34.559 --> 00:33:34.880
Okay.
00:33:35.680 --> 00:33:46.160
No, I love, I actually love there's something about that is is nice to know if you're gonna live with someone indefinitely, in quotes.
00:33:46.319 --> 00:33:58.960
I think that would be really stressful to me, knowing that there's no ends, but then a marker of progress would then help me, you know, it's like the guiding light of like something's growing and developing in progress.
00:33:59.279 --> 00:33:59.519
Yes.
00:33:59.680 --> 00:34:03.440
And what would that because I've I have been thinking that about this bunker.
00:34:03.680 --> 00:34:05.440
We would have to set some kind of goal.
00:34:05.680 --> 00:34:06.000
Yes.
00:34:06.240 --> 00:34:10.079
Like how how do we how do we not feel like there's no point to this?
00:34:10.239 --> 00:34:10.400
Yeah.
00:34:10.559 --> 00:34:14.400
So like we're stuck in a bunker for say like five years, but we don't know how long.
00:34:14.719 --> 00:34:16.239
But we just know it'll probably be years.
00:34:16.400 --> 00:34:19.199
So what could we build towards?
00:34:19.280 --> 00:34:20.880
What could be our what could be our goal?
00:34:21.199 --> 00:34:27.920
See, our I think the soft sort of goals would be like those interpersonal just figuring out a way of functioning together.
00:34:28.239 --> 00:34:34.800
Yes, and we get but then we'd hit you'd hit a point where you're like, you know what, we're comfortable, we live with each other, we're comfortable, we get it.
00:34:35.119 --> 00:34:44.079
Uh I think it would be fun to I don't know what's down in this bunker necessarily, but it would be fun to learn try and learn a new skill or get better at a skill.
00:34:44.320 --> 00:34:45.760
Like, do you play any instruments?
00:34:46.000 --> 00:34:47.280
I I do not.
00:34:47.519 --> 00:34:48.960
I've started learning a few.
00:34:49.199 --> 00:34:49.519
Amazing.
00:34:49.679 --> 00:34:54.079
So I feel like I have some like ground knowledge of some some of them.
00:34:54.480 --> 00:34:57.840
I love that because I know how to play the guitar.
00:34:58.079 --> 00:34:58.559
Amazing.
00:34:58.719 --> 00:35:00.800
I can do leaving on a jet plane.
00:35:01.119 --> 00:35:03.280
I don't know why I said it as if there was more coming.
00:35:03.679 --> 00:35:04.880
You had the arising inflation.
00:35:05.119 --> 00:35:06.320
Uh leaving on a jet plane.
00:35:06.559 --> 00:35:07.199
First of many.
00:35:07.440 --> 00:35:08.320
And that's the one.
00:35:09.760 --> 00:35:10.400
Full stop.
00:35:10.559 --> 00:35:10.800
Yeah.
00:35:10.960 --> 00:35:13.679
So if you can teach me other ones than that one, that would be great.
00:35:13.920 --> 00:35:15.920
Well, that will be fun because we start a band.
00:35:16.079 --> 00:35:16.480
Yes.
00:35:16.639 --> 00:35:17.280
Yes.
00:35:17.519 --> 00:35:20.159
You we that's and then we can get better at, you know.
00:35:20.480 --> 00:35:20.960
Can you sing?
00:35:21.039 --> 00:35:21.920
I feel like you can sing.
00:35:22.079 --> 00:35:23.119
No, I can't sing.
00:35:23.199 --> 00:35:24.719
But I feel like you can sing though.
00:35:24.960 --> 00:35:29.519
No, better, but what a better time to learn than in a bunker trapped with another comedian.
00:35:30.159 --> 00:35:31.599
That's that's incredible.
00:35:31.920 --> 00:35:35.199
And it's better that I think you can sing and you say you can't than the other way around.
00:35:35.440 --> 00:35:37.039
Yeah, and I'm I'm withholding.
00:35:37.119 --> 00:35:38.559
I'm like, oh no, not tonight.
00:35:39.199 --> 00:35:39.519
No.
00:35:39.760 --> 00:35:41.840
And then you start and I'm like, oh my god, please stop.
00:35:43.119 --> 00:35:46.000
But I think it's just you have such a good voice.
00:35:46.159 --> 00:35:46.480
Oh, yeah.
00:35:46.880 --> 00:35:47.679
Have you tried singing?
00:35:47.840 --> 00:35:49.039
Have you done a little test?
00:35:49.280 --> 00:35:54.960
I yeah, I like I think it's just the confidence and like you know, you can only get better after you as you keep getting doing it.
00:35:55.199 --> 00:35:58.559
But I just stopped and never developed singing.
00:35:58.800 --> 00:36:03.679
But luckily, like, you know, com comedy, I've got to use my voice as a good side of it.
00:36:03.840 --> 00:36:11.920
But I think, yeah, the the learning a skill with someone and supporting each other through that could be fun.
00:36:12.159 --> 00:36:13.440
Do you speak multiple languages?
00:36:13.599 --> 00:36:15.519
Yes, I speak Korean and Japanese.
00:36:15.920 --> 00:36:16.719
That could be fun.
00:36:16.960 --> 00:36:22.480
Well, that's related to some of the recommendations of stuff that I've brought for you.
00:36:22.880 --> 00:36:23.039
Yes.
00:36:23.360 --> 00:36:26.480
Because I love sharing, you know, my culture.
00:36:27.920 --> 00:36:28.880
I I'm obsessed.
00:36:28.960 --> 00:36:29.440
I would love that.
00:36:29.760 --> 00:36:31.280
We and I could teach you Korean.
00:36:31.440 --> 00:36:44.559
Actually, funnily enough, the name for the Korean alphabet is hungrul, which is means, you know, Korean writing, but the sort of colloquial uh Korean word for it is a chim gr.
00:36:44.880 --> 00:36:45.840
Gur means writing.
00:36:46.800 --> 00:36:47.599
It's like gr.
00:36:48.159 --> 00:36:49.519
Yeah, with a yeah, with a L G.
00:36:50.079 --> 00:36:51.599
G G something L.
00:36:51.920 --> 00:36:52.639
Yeah, it's like G.
00:36:52.880 --> 00:36:57.199
It's sort of like a we write it out in English as EU and it's a neutral gr.
00:36:57.760 --> 00:36:57.840
Okay.
00:36:58.079 --> 00:36:58.719
So gur.
00:36:59.039 --> 00:36:59.280
Gur.
00:36:59.519 --> 00:36:59.679
Yeah.
00:37:00.000 --> 00:37:00.320
Gur.
00:37:00.719 --> 00:37:00.960
Okay.
00:37:01.280 --> 00:37:14.079
Um and achim is Korean
for morning, and the reason why they called it achim guru or the morning writing is that you can learn it in one one full day.
00:37:14.480 --> 00:37:15.199
Oh, really?
00:37:15.440 --> 00:37:16.400
Oh, I love that.
00:37:16.639 --> 00:37:16.880
Yeah.
00:37:16.960 --> 00:37:17.519
So I could teach.
00:37:18.559 --> 00:37:18.719
Yeah.
00:37:19.199 --> 00:37:19.440
Yeah.
00:37:19.679 --> 00:37:26.320
I'm nervous about not being able to pronounce it though, because it's it f it whenever I hear it, I'm like, I I don't know if my if I can make those sounds.
00:37:26.559 --> 00:37:26.880
That's okay.
00:37:27.280 --> 00:37:27.840
Well, you can learn that.
00:37:27.920 --> 00:37:28.000
Yeah.
00:37:28.239 --> 00:37:31.360
Or is that not it's not one of those things where you if you didn't learn it when you were three, you'll never learn.
00:37:31.599 --> 00:37:32.159
No, no, no, no.
00:37:32.239 --> 00:37:33.199
You can absolutely learn it.
00:37:33.360 --> 00:37:34.239
Oh, that would be cool.
00:37:34.480 --> 00:37:38.559
So so we we could learn the actual ride or everything, and that could be fun.
00:37:38.800 --> 00:37:39.760
Yeah, that would be great.
00:37:40.559 --> 00:37:41.360
I'll be a teacher again.
00:37:41.840 --> 00:37:45.199
Yeah, I was about to say, like, what else could you what what did you teach?
00:37:45.519 --> 00:37:48.000
I taught uh English.
00:37:48.320 --> 00:37:49.039
I know that one.
00:37:49.280 --> 00:37:49.920
Yeah.
00:37:52.000 --> 00:37:54.400
Um Korean and Japanese.
00:37:54.480 --> 00:37:55.280
So I was like a language.
00:37:56.480 --> 00:37:56.719
Yeah.
00:37:56.960 --> 00:37:57.920
That's really good for me.
00:37:58.159 --> 00:37:59.280
That's so good for me.
00:37:59.840 --> 00:38:09.280
Uh what which bits are because I feel like if we're stuck in a bunker for a lot of time, I would love some stuff down there that would remind me of Denmark.
00:38:09.360 --> 00:38:09.679
Oh yeah.
00:38:09.840 --> 00:38:13.840
I'm assuming you would love to have some stuff there that would bring your culture down there.
00:38:13.920 --> 00:38:24.000
So what what what stuff would you and I mean we don't necessarily need to we we can't hope that we have them, but like what would be really good to have in the bunker that would remind you of it.
00:38:24.159 --> 00:38:30.000
This is hard because my thing is like I don't know how it would exist in the bunker, but like food-related stuff.
00:38:30.159 --> 00:38:31.519
I would love to cook.
00:38:33.440 --> 00:38:39.679
You know, I and I'm actually obsessed with uh post-apocalyptic like fiction.
00:38:39.760 --> 00:38:40.239
I love it.
00:38:40.800 --> 00:38:45.039
And so I'm watching one right now uh on Apple TV called Silo.
00:38:45.840 --> 00:38:49.039
Yes, I've it it has started automatically after I've seen things.
00:38:49.280 --> 00:38:52.559
Um, yeah, yeah.
00:38:52.639 --> 00:38:59.840
But like a lot of these like futuristic bunkers will have like hydroponic sort of like these greenhouses, so they can make vegetables and blah blah blah blah blah.
00:39:00.079 --> 00:39:01.679
I would love for our bunker to have that.
00:39:01.920 --> 00:39:05.920
We've got a little like we've got a few animals, we've got like chickens and a goat or a cow.
00:39:06.159 --> 00:39:06.320
Okay.
00:39:06.559 --> 00:39:09.519
And then we do have like vegetables and stuff, so we can grow some stuff.
00:39:09.679 --> 00:39:09.840
Yeah.
00:39:10.159 --> 00:39:11.519
Because I would love to make kimchi.
00:39:12.000 --> 00:39:12.800
I've never had it.
00:39:13.039 --> 00:39:13.599
That's okay.
00:39:13.840 --> 00:39:15.519
I don't know, I don't know if it is.
00:39:16.159 --> 00:39:17.280
You might not like it.
00:39:17.519 --> 00:39:18.159
That's true.
00:39:18.800 --> 00:39:21.280
But I read Crying in H Mart and I was like, I need to.
00:39:21.440 --> 00:39:21.519
Yeah.
00:39:21.760 --> 00:39:24.559
I need like based on that book, I was like, I want to taste all these things.
00:39:24.719 --> 00:39:24.960
Yes.
00:39:25.119 --> 00:39:26.480
And I just don't know where to start.
00:39:26.719 --> 00:39:30.800
Because I don't know what it I'm I find it really hard to eat things when I don't know what it's gonna taste like.
00:39:31.119 --> 00:39:31.760
Yeah, no, that's fine.
00:39:31.920 --> 00:39:32.719
Which I should get over.
00:39:33.199 --> 00:39:35.039
But I just I really want to I really want to try it.
00:39:35.360 --> 00:39:40.320
Well it'd be a good it'll be a nice introduction to it, like having someone there that sort of guides you and tell you what to expect.
00:39:40.480 --> 00:39:46.559
Kimchi is very it depends on like when you eat it, because it ripens and it's a fermented dish.
00:39:46.800 --> 00:39:47.039
Oh.
00:39:47.360 --> 00:39:59.199
So it's cabbage, it's napa cabbage that you f the way you make it is you s first uh like pack lots of salt around e every leaf, and then the the salt draws out all the moisture, right?
00:39:59.440 --> 00:40:07.280
So you like squeeze out the moisture and then you make a paste out of chili flakes, uh uh seljot, what's seljot?
00:40:07.440 --> 00:40:26.960
It's like um it's sort of like uh uh like prawn, it's like a prawn paste that you it's very salty, okay, and then you pack it in, you and sometimes you can add grated um nashi pear to add sweetness and like scallions, and you put it all, and each leaf has this paste in between, and then you store it.
00:40:27.360 --> 00:40:45.760
And then uh when you eat it fresh, um we call it kotody, which is like it's not it's just cabbage, it's very like bright, maybe tiny bit sweet, but then as it ferments, it becomes more sour, and it's a pickled cabbage, spicy pickled cabbage.
00:40:46.159 --> 00:40:52.800
So uh you can make like kimchi jige, which is a stew, spicy stew with pork.
00:40:53.039 --> 00:40:59.519
You can uh make kimchi fried rice, it's uh it's really good for your gut biomes.
00:40:59.920 --> 00:41:09.840
Uh you know, the more modern
fusion takes, you can make like a kimchi toasted sandwich where the brightness and the sourness of the kimchi cuts through the cheese.
00:41:10.000 --> 00:41:11.679
So I'd I'd make all these dishes for you.
00:41:11.760 --> 00:41:13.599
And I'd be like, is it yummy?
00:41:13.679 --> 00:41:14.320
Is it not?
00:41:14.639 --> 00:41:15.599
Oh, that sounds amazing.
00:41:15.760 --> 00:41:21.599
It also just sounds like it makes my love for Danish food just I'm like, oh, we we put meat on bread.
00:41:23.119 --> 00:41:27.119
Yours is so like beautiful and detailed, and like you do this, then you do this, and you wait for a while.
00:41:27.360 --> 00:41:29.440
I'm like, yeah, meat, fried meat on bread.
00:41:29.679 --> 00:41:31.280
And then we don't put another bread on top.
00:41:31.360 --> 00:41:32.079
That's our thing.
00:41:32.719 --> 00:41:33.760
Gravy, gravy.
00:41:33.920 --> 00:41:34.559
I'd love to.
00:41:34.639 --> 00:41:37.840
No, but that's fun though, but sharing, like you would you know, tell me.
00:41:38.159 --> 00:41:40.400
I would bring open sandwiches into the bunker.
00:41:40.559 --> 00:41:41.440
Because they're the best.
00:41:41.519 --> 00:41:45.599
Like dense, dark rye bread, like really dense.
00:41:45.760 --> 00:41:46.400
Yeah.
00:41:46.880 --> 00:41:48.400
And then we just do toppings.
00:41:48.639 --> 00:41:48.800
Yeah.
00:41:49.039 --> 00:41:52.400
Oh, are you do you have any food weirdnesses, anything you eat or don't eat?
00:41:52.880 --> 00:41:53.679
I am not.
00:41:54.159 --> 00:41:56.480
The only one that I don't eat is uh oysters.
00:41:56.800 --> 00:41:59.440
Oh, yeah, but that's people.
00:41:59.599 --> 00:42:01.679
The people that are they're lying.
00:42:02.239 --> 00:42:03.760
Love oysters, Sophie.
00:42:04.159 --> 00:42:04.960
It's a performance.
00:42:05.039 --> 00:42:05.920
They can't, it's not.
00:42:06.159 --> 00:42:08.079
I don't eat them, they swallow them.
00:42:08.159 --> 00:42:09.920
They don't they're not like chewing them.
00:42:10.159 --> 00:42:10.400
Right?
00:42:10.559 --> 00:42:12.320
Like if they like them, you'd chew them.
00:42:12.400 --> 00:42:13.199
You'd have them as a snack.
00:42:13.360 --> 00:42:13.840
No, no, no.
00:42:14.159 --> 00:42:15.039
Let it persist in the mouth.
00:42:15.199 --> 00:42:19.920
And then they dose it with uh s lemon, which removes all taste.
00:42:20.079 --> 00:42:20.639
You don't like them.
00:42:20.719 --> 00:42:22.480
You like the performance of eating them.
00:42:22.800 --> 00:42:26.079
Oh, I'm going to slow it down a little come on, please.
00:42:26.480 --> 00:42:26.960
Absolutely not.
00:42:27.119 --> 00:42:28.400
Imagine if you ate chocolate like that.
00:42:28.480 --> 00:42:31.519
Oh, let me douse it with lemon and then swallow it whole.
00:42:31.599 --> 00:42:33.599
Then you don't like chocolate, do you?
00:42:34.000 --> 00:42:34.800
You chew it.
00:42:34.880 --> 00:42:40.559
You would chew it like you do with chocolate, where you mmm, you make it get all over
your mouth, you let it sit for five minutes.
00:42:40.639 --> 00:42:41.599
That's how much you love chocolate.
00:42:41.840 --> 00:42:43.440
They tolerate oysters, is what they do.
00:42:43.840 --> 00:42:45.679
They love be they love saying they love oysters.
00:42:46.079 --> 00:42:46.880
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:42:47.440 --> 00:42:48.559
No, I'm not a fan.
00:42:48.880 --> 00:42:49.599
No, no, no.
00:42:49.679 --> 00:42:50.960
We're not having oysters down there.
00:42:51.119 --> 00:42:51.199
No.
00:42:51.360 --> 00:42:52.800
That's an absolute that's absolutely fine.
00:42:53.119 --> 00:42:55.039
But besides that, I'm pretty open.
00:42:55.280 --> 00:42:56.320
How about yourself?
00:42:56.400 --> 00:43:00.000
Do you have I'm not good with hot prawns.
00:43:00.320 --> 00:43:01.039
Hot prawns?
00:43:01.519 --> 00:43:02.400
Yeah, but I'm learning.
00:43:02.559 --> 00:43:04.639
I I think I just cold prawns, great.
00:43:04.719 --> 00:43:07.360
Yeah I love uh white bread with prawns and mayo.
00:43:08.000 --> 00:43:08.239
Great.
00:43:08.400 --> 00:43:08.800
Yeah.
00:43:09.039 --> 00:43:15.280
But um, whenever they get warm, like pa and stuff, I struggle with it.
00:43:15.519 --> 00:43:16.239
So I'm trying to learn.
00:43:16.559 --> 00:43:17.760
A temperature thing specifically.
00:43:18.000 --> 00:43:19.679
Yeah, I feel like they shouldn't be warm.
00:43:19.920 --> 00:43:20.400
Wow.
00:43:20.559 --> 00:43:27.039
Because I would I it's funny because I would almost lean towards the other, like if you, you know, you grilled some prawns.
00:43:28.000 --> 00:43:30.480
I'm gonna get to Australian here, shrimp on the Barbie.
00:43:30.719 --> 00:43:33.280
But like some, you know, you get like a freshly grilled.
00:43:33.599 --> 00:43:34.960
I think I could get I think I could learn.
00:43:35.119 --> 00:43:36.639
I don't think it's like the worst thing in the world.
00:43:36.800 --> 00:43:36.880
Right.
00:43:37.119 --> 00:43:41.039
But it is it is something I'm working on because I feel like there's so many good dishes with hot prawns.
00:43:41.280 --> 00:43:41.440
Yeah.
00:43:41.760 --> 00:43:42.800
And I should get into it.
00:43:43.119 --> 00:43:45.679
I love how it's oysters, prawns, so like seafood for us.
00:43:45.920 --> 00:43:51.519
And maybe we just also if you were in a bunker, it's not like we have an ocean down there, so maybe we just stay away from it'd be bad quality.
00:43:51.599 --> 00:43:52.559
It'd be frozen or something.
00:43:52.800 --> 00:43:54.000
Yeah, we can have some fr yeah.
00:43:54.400 --> 00:43:59.280
Unless we have an aquarium, which I don't I think we're pushing it with the like the vegetables, the cows, and everything.
00:44:00.400 --> 00:44:01.280
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:44:01.519 --> 00:44:08.079
Um I've been told I need to ask this in a more confident way because otherwise it it sets a bad tone.
00:44:08.719 --> 00:44:09.840
Do we kiss?
00:44:11.199 --> 00:44:14.800
Oh fascinating.
00:44:15.039 --> 00:44:15.360
No.
00:44:15.599 --> 00:44:16.000
Yeah.
00:44:16.639 --> 00:44:22.719
I don't I just uh look, I know that there's a point where it's like what else is there to do?
00:44:22.960 --> 00:44:26.239
What else is there to do and how far like how long are we gonna be in here?
00:44:26.400 --> 00:44:26.880
Yeah.
00:44:27.199 --> 00:44:33.360
But I just feel like because I mean I I I'm engaged with a fiance.
00:44:33.599 --> 00:44:34.960
I'll be thinking about her.
00:44:35.199 --> 00:44:35.679
Yeah.
00:44:36.239 --> 00:44:41.760
But then you know that took 20 seconds.
00:44:42.719 --> 00:44:43.440
But you know.
00:44:45.519 --> 00:44:46.719
She's in a bunker.
00:44:46.880 --> 00:44:47.119
Yeah.
00:44:47.280 --> 00:44:48.480
You know, who's she in a bunker with?
00:44:48.559 --> 00:44:48.960
No, no, no.
00:44:49.119 --> 00:44:50.320
I think Chris Pratt actually.
00:44:55.039 --> 00:44:56.079
Like you actually have the answer?
00:44:56.239 --> 00:44:57.119
No, she is in the bunker with me.
00:44:57.920 --> 00:45:03.599
I think she's there with all the bunker with the scale and Joselba and uh Yeah, both of them.
00:45:04.719 --> 00:45:05.840
And they're all poly.
00:45:06.800 --> 00:45:07.440
Exactly.
00:45:07.679 --> 00:45:11.840
And all their wives are dead, so it's like real Yeah.
00:45:12.000 --> 00:45:14.400
And hers won't be open for like eight years or so.
00:45:14.480 --> 00:45:16.079
So it's it's real unfortunate.
00:45:16.400 --> 00:45:18.239
She actually asked to stay.
00:45:19.760 --> 00:45:23.840
Like the they all the buckers all opened up and she asked to stay, Harry.
00:45:24.079 --> 00:45:27.039
So Petra and Idris wake up and she's like bolting it shut.
00:45:27.199 --> 00:45:27.440
Yeah, yeah.
00:45:27.679 --> 00:45:28.719
Oh no, no, don't worry about that.
00:45:28.800 --> 00:45:29.440
Don't check the news.
00:45:29.679 --> 00:45:30.480
No, it won't open.
00:45:30.559 --> 00:45:31.519
Sorry, it won't open.
00:45:31.760 --> 00:45:33.039
She's naked as she's doing it.
00:45:33.119 --> 00:45:35.599
They're like, why are you never wearing clothes?
00:45:36.159 --> 00:45:37.360
We've known her for a week.
00:45:37.440 --> 00:45:38.559
No, no, I think it'll never happen.
00:45:38.719 --> 00:45:40.000
It'll never happen.
00:45:40.480 --> 00:45:48.559
Um no, I'm doing a thing here while I'm in Edinburgh where I'm um writing Jill, my fiance, letters.
00:45:48.880 --> 00:45:49.679
Oh my god.
00:45:49.920 --> 00:45:50.159
Yeah.
00:45:50.320 --> 00:46:03.119
And then it's funny because it's like I I write the letters because old school's nice, but then because I I'm scared that they get lost in the mail, I'm taking a photo of them and still sending them to her over messenger.
00:46:04.480 --> 00:46:06.639
Like she'll get the physical letters later.
00:46:06.800 --> 00:46:06.880
Yeah.
00:46:07.519 --> 00:46:08.639
I'll ensure that she does.
00:46:08.880 --> 00:46:14.320
But I yeah, the old school, something about writing it out, it's quite nice.
00:46:14.480 --> 00:46:15.039
Yeah.
00:46:15.280 --> 00:46:18.239
Um, because we only we only got engaged in March this year.
00:46:18.480 --> 00:46:19.440
Oh, congratulations.
00:46:20.400 --> 00:46:20.639
Yeah.
00:46:20.800 --> 00:46:24.559
Um, and yeah, it's like this new phase.
00:46:24.719 --> 00:46:27.599
Like we started living together only a few years ago.
00:46:27.840 --> 00:46:34.719
Uh, and obviously that's a learning curve, but like now she's like she's gonna be my partner, like life partner.
00:46:35.360 --> 00:46:39.280
Um yeah, I I miss her a lot this month.
00:46:39.440 --> 00:46:57.199
This is like the biggest spin that we've been away from each other since we've got engaged and be actually maybe even been together because uh when I was doing Melbourne, she could just fly over from Sydney and stay, but Edward's so far.
00:46:57.280 --> 00:46:58.400
Yeah, it's so expensive.
00:46:58.480 --> 00:47:00.800
Like, I can't make her stay in the student com that I'm in.
00:47:00.880 --> 00:47:02.400
That's that's abuse.
00:47:02.880 --> 00:47:04.000
Yeah, that's that's not okay.
00:47:04.239 --> 00:47:06.559
Yeah, that's that's spousal abuse.
00:47:06.719 --> 00:47:10.800
Uh and so she was just like, no, I'll stay, I'll stay in Sydney.
00:47:10.960 --> 00:47:18.559
Um and already it's only been like maybe two weeks since I've last seen her, and it's just yeah, it feels like a long time.
00:47:19.039 --> 00:47:24.480
But um, yeah, so I I mean I'll politely decline the kiss.
00:47:24.800 --> 00:47:26.480
You're assuming I would?
00:47:28.239 --> 00:47:28.480
Why?
00:47:29.760 --> 00:47:31.679
I go, uh you're not even going for it.
00:47:32.559 --> 00:47:33.920
Yeah, yeah, not even going for it.
00:47:34.079 --> 00:47:36.079
And I go, Sophie, I will not kiss you.
00:47:36.400 --> 00:47:37.119
Sit up in.
00:47:37.840 --> 00:47:39.840
The way you're eating that curlox complex.
00:47:40.320 --> 00:47:41.360
It's very suggestive.
00:47:41.599 --> 00:47:45.599
Actually, and we have a we have a height chart, a width chart, and a kiss chart, like a kiss print.
00:47:46.159 --> 00:47:46.960
You write no.
00:47:47.679 --> 00:47:48.639
Still not.
00:47:49.679 --> 00:47:50.000
No.
00:47:50.400 --> 00:47:54.000
It's like that you know how the prisoners do tallies on the wall.
00:47:54.079 --> 00:47:55.119
It's like without kissing.
00:47:55.440 --> 00:47:56.079
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:47:56.239 --> 00:47:57.519
Another one, another one, Sophie.
00:47:57.760 --> 00:48:01.599
You carry around a stick just to make sure I always stay within a certain distance of you.
00:48:01.920 --> 00:48:03.440
Remember Remember COVID?
00:48:04.000 --> 00:48:04.960
I love her.
00:48:05.840 --> 00:48:07.840
Jeez, I was just gonna get some milk.
00:48:09.280 --> 00:48:11.440
No, that's I respect that boundary.
00:48:12.159 --> 00:48:15.199
Um so we're saved.
00:48:15.440 --> 00:48:16.639
It's been five years, right?
00:48:16.880 --> 00:48:17.199
Oh wow.
00:48:17.360 --> 00:48:19.599
We hear the the siren that tells us we're saved.
00:48:20.079 --> 00:48:21.280
Do we stay in touch?
00:48:21.599 --> 00:48:34.320
Yeah, I think we would there would be an element of not only trauma bonding, but no, because five years of being together, like, I feel like that would forge a strong connection and friendship.
00:48:34.559 --> 00:49:04.559
Because there's I imagine in a bunker we don't have like the necessarily like the physical dangers you would have, like where as opposed to being out in the wild and surviving like on a desert island, like the elements, like we'd have the physical comfort, but it's almost like the flip side of the emotional sort of terrorism that we would experience of like uh isolation, not knowing what's happening outside, not knowing if anyone we love is still alive.
00:49:04.719 --> 00:49:11.360
So then we would have to like nurture each other emotionally and support each other emotionally.
00:49:11.440 --> 00:49:14.239
There'll be moments that like mentally we would crack.
00:49:14.400 --> 00:49:19.199
We would just maybe a year in and we're thinking, okay, it's been a year, but we're still inside.
00:49:19.360 --> 00:49:20.880
Like, is my mom okay?
00:49:21.039 --> 00:49:22.000
Like, oh my god.
00:49:22.159 --> 00:49:24.079
And then you'd have to talk me off the ledge.
00:49:24.159 --> 00:49:27.280
You'd be like, hey, we could be in here for a bit longer.
00:49:27.760 --> 00:49:33.519
So can you fucking heart like just slap me across the face, like, get over it?
00:49:33.760 --> 00:49:35.360
And then I'd be like, oh, thank you.
00:49:35.760 --> 00:49:36.880
Thank you, Sophie.
00:49:37.119 --> 00:49:39.440
All right, let's go back to making kimchi.
00:49:39.599 --> 00:49:41.599
And you know, we would bond.
00:49:41.840 --> 00:49:43.360
I really think we would bond.
00:49:43.440 --> 00:49:43.840
Yeah.
00:49:44.000 --> 00:49:45.280
And we'd have to keep in touch.
00:49:45.360 --> 00:49:46.239
I'll write you a letter.
00:49:46.400 --> 00:49:47.679
How about I write you a letter?
00:49:47.920 --> 00:49:48.800
That would be lovely.
00:49:49.199 --> 00:49:50.320
We'd have to keep in touch.
00:49:50.719 --> 00:49:51.440
I really like that.
00:49:51.599 --> 00:49:56.159
I think I think that's healthier than oh, we would never want to speak again.
00:49:56.400 --> 00:49:58.079
Oh, that would actually hurt my feelings.
00:49:58.320 --> 00:50:00.000
Yeah, because also that doesn't happen at the end.
00:50:00.159 --> 00:50:01.519
Like that would have happened at some point.
00:50:01.679 --> 00:50:02.480
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:50:02.719 --> 00:50:03.840
You would get there, you know.
00:50:04.079 --> 00:50:08.800
And I think we'd be good at having shared space, like, because we'd there'd be bunk beds.
00:50:09.440 --> 00:50:10.559
Which is not ideal.
00:50:11.840 --> 00:50:12.559
That's not ideal.
00:50:12.719 --> 00:50:13.599
I forgot to tell you this.
00:50:14.159 --> 00:50:15.039
There are bunk beds.
00:50:15.360 --> 00:50:20.400
I it's not I did well, technically I did build it because this changes the whole thing.
00:50:20.960 --> 00:50:22.559
I'm gonna be so upset all the time.
00:50:22.719 --> 00:50:23.119
No, no, no.
00:50:23.199 --> 00:50:25.679
That's like bunk beds is so funny.
00:50:25.920 --> 00:50:28.000
And we are right, we're none of us are happy about it.
00:50:28.159 --> 00:50:29.679
We both hate that there's bunk beds.
00:50:29.760 --> 00:50:30.400
Of course we do.
00:50:30.559 --> 00:50:31.280
Oh my god.
00:50:31.440 --> 00:50:32.559
We hate the bunk beds.
00:50:32.800 --> 00:50:39.920
It there's something also like oh my god, that's so funny that like well I'm lying there, you're lying there.
00:50:40.079 --> 00:50:40.880
Good night, Sah.
00:50:41.760 --> 00:50:42.320
Good night.
00:50:42.559 --> 00:50:42.960
Good night.
00:50:43.280 --> 00:50:45.440
Can you also start moving around so much, Harry?
00:50:45.760 --> 00:50:46.239
You're starting.
00:50:47.760 --> 00:50:50.159
Are you otherwise the noisy sleeper?
00:50:50.480 --> 00:50:52.480
I might snore.
00:50:52.559 --> 00:50:53.599
Is that an issue?
00:50:54.159 --> 00:50:54.960
I don't think so.
00:50:55.119 --> 00:50:56.000
I think we have earplugs.
00:50:56.400 --> 00:50:57.199
Okay, good earlier.
00:50:57.440 --> 00:51:00.960
In Edinburgh, I started sleeping with earplugs because I also live in student accommodation.
00:51:01.119 --> 00:51:02.320
I've never slept so well in my life.
00:51:02.480 --> 00:51:02.639
Really?
00:51:02.719 --> 00:51:03.360
You've never done earplugs.
00:51:03.519 --> 00:51:04.480
I sleep so well.
00:51:04.719 --> 00:51:05.599
Yeah, I love the earplugs.
00:51:06.000 --> 00:51:06.239
Yeah.
00:51:06.400 --> 00:51:08.960
I've always been like, oh no, because then I can't hear if something happens.
00:51:09.039 --> 00:51:10.400
I'm like, yeah, that's the point.
00:51:10.719 --> 00:51:14.159
Yeah, I've all almost always worn earplugs.
00:51:14.320 --> 00:51:15.119
Like I love earplugs.
00:51:15.440 --> 00:51:16.719
That's helped here a lot.
00:51:17.360 --> 00:51:21.599
But the bunk bed thing is like I do you know what?
00:51:21.760 --> 00:51:31.760
When I was uh teaching, uh I went uh on a teaching internship in China, um, and I so so we had to live in the dorms of this school.
00:51:31.920 --> 00:51:36.079
This was a school where kids, it was like a boarding school, so they actually lived at the school, right?
00:51:36.239 --> 00:51:41.199
And the student teachers, we actually also had to live in the exact same dorms that the students did.
00:51:41.360 --> 00:51:58.159
And so imagine like 11 teachers from Sydney University went over for a s for six weeks to teach, and I had to bunk with a uh a person from my university that I'd never really hung out with.
00:51:59.039 --> 00:52:06.719
Um but then by like the first couple days, he became he literally he literally is my best friend.
00:52:06.960 --> 00:52:07.840
Oh, that's lovely.
00:52:08.079 -->
00:52:09.199
His name's Gerard.
00:52:09.599 --> 00:52:10.559
Love him so much.
00:52:10.639 --> 00:52:12.880
We there were bunk beds, literally.
00:52:13.119 --> 00:52:19.679
Finally, well, it's a bit different because he had like his own two sack of bunk beds, and I had my own two stack because it was a four-person dorm.
00:52:19.840 --> 00:52:21.199
But still, bunk beds.
00:52:21.360 --> 00:52:24.320
Still, um, and yeah, we got to know each other so well.
00:52:24.559 --> 00:52:25.199
Oh, that's nice.
00:52:25.360 --> 00:52:26.079
I was like, I love him.
00:52:26.159 --> 00:52:27.519
He's like he is my best friend.
00:52:27.679 --> 00:52:28.880
So hey, hey.
00:52:29.119 --> 00:52:29.599
Bunk beds.
00:52:29.760 --> 00:52:31.199
Are you tub or bottom then?
00:52:31.519 --> 00:52:32.400
I would okay.
00:52:32.639 --> 00:52:34.719
On three, let's do this, and you say what you prefer.
00:52:34.880 --> 00:52:35.119
Ready?
00:52:35.199 --> 00:52:35.760
So on three.
00:52:36.159 --> 00:52:37.840
So one we'll go one, two, three, then say it.
00:52:37.920 --> 00:52:38.320
Okay, okay.
00:52:38.480 --> 00:52:39.599
One, two, three, bottom.
00:52:39.920 --> 00:52:40.239
Bottom.
00:52:40.400 --> 00:52:40.639
Oh.
00:52:41.760 --> 00:52:43.039
I'm scared of the top bottom.
00:52:43.280 --> 00:52:44.159
I'm scared of the top bunk.
00:52:44.400 --> 00:52:45.440
Most people like the top.
00:52:45.679 --> 00:52:46.239
Do they?
00:52:46.480 --> 00:52:48.559
I thought that people always like the top bunk.
00:52:48.800 --> 00:52:59.280
Well, my fear well, my preference, my dream, is that if I could build like a wall around the bottom bunk, it would be like a little like casket almost.
00:52:59.360 --> 00:53:00.239
And like a little room.
00:53:00.400 --> 00:53:01.519
It'd be like a room of my own.
00:53:02.000 --> 00:53:04.000
Casket is crazier than room for you to see.
00:53:04.239 --> 00:53:05.840
No, my dream bed is a casket.
00:53:06.480 --> 00:53:08.239
With like a tall ceiling.
00:53:08.559 --> 00:53:09.280
That's a dream.
00:53:09.519 --> 00:53:15.280
Just completely in just in a little my own little space would be my dream.
00:53:15.679 --> 00:53:17.599
Is that why you prefer the bottom than the top?
00:53:17.840 --> 00:53:19.519
Yeah, that and also just gravity.
00:53:19.760 --> 00:53:21.039
Yeah, that's what I'm scared of.
00:53:21.199 --> 00:53:21.280
Yeah.
00:53:21.519 --> 00:53:23.519
I'm scared that I will roll and just die.
00:53:23.760 --> 00:53:24.239
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:53:24.320 --> 00:53:24.639
100%.
00:53:25.199 --> 00:53:25.280
Yeah.
00:53:25.440 --> 00:53:26.000
Yeah, no, no, no.
00:53:26.239 --> 00:53:26.559
Yeah, no.
00:53:26.639 --> 00:53:28.320
Or like, oh, you're dead.
00:53:28.480 --> 00:53:28.719
Oh.
00:53:28.880 --> 00:53:29.280
Yeah, no.
00:53:29.519 --> 00:53:31.119
Oh, and then imagine being on the bottom and see.
00:53:31.440 --> 00:53:31.679
Oh god.
00:53:34.000 --> 00:53:38.079
No, I'm not but I feel like if we're practical, take the mattress down.
00:53:38.480 --> 00:53:39.920
Someone sleeps on the floor on a mattress.
00:53:40.079 --> 00:53:40.239
Yes.
00:53:40.480 --> 00:53:45.199
Or maybe if we have like a sole or something, we could just make it into two beds or something.
00:53:45.440 --> 00:53:46.000
Yeah, for sure.
00:53:46.159 --> 00:53:49.920
I feel like if neither of us are like, yay, top top bunk, we'll figure it out.
00:53:50.159 --> 00:53:50.880
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:53:51.039 --> 00:53:52.159
I feel like that should be doable.
00:53:52.400 --> 00:54:02.719
Well, look, to be honest, if if we I would have done the same thing of like one, two, three, and then we if we both said bottom, I would have then said, actually, I'll take the top.
00:54:03.039 --> 00:54:03.920
Did I say bottom?
00:54:04.000 --> 00:54:04.800
I meant top.
00:54:04.960 --> 00:54:05.599
I love the top.
00:54:06.239 --> 00:54:10.480
I feel like in the with the bed, that's the one place where I'm like, okay, you take the top then.
00:54:10.719 --> 00:54:13.440
Like I'm so I hate the top so much.
00:54:13.679 --> 00:54:14.320
I hate it.
00:54:14.400 --> 00:54:16.880
I hate oh just climbing up the little stairs.
00:54:17.039 --> 00:54:17.440
Oh yeah.
00:54:17.599 --> 00:54:19.599
Well, like the whole bed is shaking.
00:54:19.840 --> 00:54:23.760
Yeah, I I'll have to, I'll maybe just make like a harness or something.
00:54:24.639 --> 00:54:25.760
Something hoisted up?
00:54:25.920 --> 00:54:29.360
Yeah, like put it around my waist, and then so when I sleep, if I fall.
00:54:29.840 --> 00:54:30.880
Oh, I see what you mean.
00:54:31.360 --> 00:54:35.360
Oh no, not not not like a pulley system where you're like Alright, Harry.
00:54:35.519 --> 00:54:36.320
Good night.
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I'm just getting pulled up.
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Thanks, Sophie.
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It's like, oh, we're about to go to bed.
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Can you can you tie me down?
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And I'm like, oh just good night.
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Like a dog.
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You're like putting the leash around the I've known when you want to get back.
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I like that.
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Oh, if we could, if I could, because you said harness, and I was imagining like if we had like fabric enough, make a hammock.
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Oh I could sleep in a hammock every single day.
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I could I could just stay in a hammock for five years.
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Oh beautiful.
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I think of all the items, if I could bring one, it would be a hammock.
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Really?
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Well.
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I love hammocks so much.
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I don't know what it is, like a womb thing?
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Yeah.
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Like a the autism thing.
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I have no idea.
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There's a sensory the suspension.
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Yeah.
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Have you ever done one of those sensory deprivation tags?
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No.
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Should I should I?
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Maybe maybe.
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Some pa it's it's very divisive.
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It's like you either love it or it's like you're alone with your thoughts.
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And it becomes almost like a torture device.
00:55:39.039 --> 00:55:42.800
I feel like so you what's the idea is you can't feel anything.
00:55:43.199 --> 00:55:58.239
Yeah, so it's like you know, fully dark, uh f oh you'd hear the water, but I uh because the water they use is like a saline type solution that I and and because that makes you float, like a highly concentrated, very salty water makes you float.
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And so you're it's a feeling unlike anything in the world, apparently.
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Like just suspended in a fluid.
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Because it just sounds like if you f if you can't feel anything and you're alone with your thoughts, I think that's my day-to-day life.
00:56:10.800 --> 00:56:11.039
Oh, really?
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Yeah, I rarely do that.
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Okay, well, before you head to the bunker, you pack a bag where you pack movies and you pack uh books and you pack albums for us, and we'll be discussing them in a little bit in the bonus episode, which is for the special listeners.
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Yes.
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Um, but for now, I just want to say thank you so much for joining me in the bunker.
00:56:34.159 --> 00:56:37.599
Where can I mean you're on fire right now and you're so funny.
00:56:37.840 --> 00:56:38.239
Oh nothing.
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You're so funny.
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Where can people go and find all of your stuff?
00:56:41.360 --> 00:56:42.960
Just yeah, Instagram, TikTok.
00:56:43.119 --> 00:56:48.480
Um my my handle is underscore Harry June underscore because the original one got taken somehow.
00:56:48.719 --> 00:56:51.199
So there's one other Harry June in the world.
00:56:51.360 --> 00:56:52.960
Um yeah, I'm on socials.
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Please come to a show if you if I'm around.
00:56:55.679 --> 00:56:57.360
Um otherwise, yeah, online.
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Thank you.
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Thanks for having me.