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speaker-0: What's the cost of quiet, cost of staying in a relationship that feels okay, but never really feels safe or close?
speaker-1: Yeah, so safe is one and close is another. I think if we're talking about the kind of safety where there's real abuse going on, I think that's kind of like I'd put that in one category. But I think your question is, you know, for the majority of cases that stay in relationships that where they're just not getting their emotional needs met, they're not feeling connected, they're disconnected. Maybe they were never connected to their partner, and that's something to look at. Like, is it even possible, right, to have real connection? A lot of times in those cases, these people don't have a healthy model of what connection. Is meaning they don't have a role model in their life where they've seen it and definitely they have not experienced it themselves, right? If they have any kind of model like in current friendships or something like that, at least they have something that they're pointing to, like, it's possible. I believe in it. It's not just in Hollywood movies where people get their happy ever after. But because they've never experienced it, this dynamic is very familiar. If it wasn't familiar, they would not be settling for this type of dynamic. But because it's familiar, it's what What their brain links as love. And so because they're used to it, this is their starting point. It has to be. If it wasn't their starting point,