رونوشت کامل 236. Mindset Mastery with Michael Reardon w/ Michael Rearden

forward to the coaching. 00:04:26.802 --> 00:05:01.473 2018 started Revan Concepts and the idea was to fill in the gaps where schools were falling short, because, as a teacher, you get to see the students that are coming and going and you can see when they're going, are they ready or if they're not ready, and I saw so many students who are not ready for the real world, and those same students, eventually, are going to be getting a consultation and maybe even signing up for coaching, you know, with me, because there's something within them, a lack, a limit, you know, a curiosity that they're hungry to learn more about. 00:05:03.302 --> 00:05:09.043 I mean it is true, and I mean I love the quote and I do resonate with the quote and it makes sense. 00:05:09.043 --> 00:05:15.005 And you know, unfortunately, as it is not everyone's going to resonate with it, but I think it is an important quote. 00:05:15.005 --> 00:05:23.281 You know to, to note and know that just because someone's happy with the lifestyle doesn't mean you have to be happy with that lifestyle, right? 00:05:23.281 --> 00:05:29.392 And I think that it's awesome that you realize that your upbringing gave you strengths. 00:05:29.392 --> 00:05:40.569 Right, cause a lot of people have a certain kind of upbringing or in a or in a certain environment and think this is what I have to, this is what I am, right, and this is what is made for me. 00:05:40.569 --> 00:05:46.541 And the world is your play box, you know your sandbox, as long as you're willing to get a little dirty. 00:05:46.541 --> 00:05:49.586 And you know, start building that castle, right? 00:05:49.586 --> 00:05:56.286 So what started getting you into the mindset, the personal development, the? 00:05:56.286 --> 00:05:57.290 You know all those things. 00:05:57.290 --> 00:06:00.382 Why didn't you go into something of a different? 00:06:00.382 --> 00:06:01.285 You know industry. 00:06:02.607 --> 00:06:08.322 Well, one of the things I started to see was the limits that I had mentioned prior. 00:06:08.322 --> 00:06:17.249 When you have a person that has been given the limits whether they be you're not good enough, right, you're going to be a garbage man or something like that. 00:06:17.249 --> 00:06:18.862 And I know teachers mean well. 00:06:18.862 --> 00:06:30.446 I would say I've worked with some amazing teachers throughout my career as a teacher and just you know, in general and life, knowing them, most of them have good hearts, but then some days they get tired because they're human. 00:06:30.446 --> 00:06:32.194 They have their own family issues. 00:06:32.194 --> 00:06:34.262 Maybe they just got a puppy and they're not getting any sleep. 00:06:34.504 --> 00:06:49.223 There's a lot of problems going on in their life too, and some of the conversations that would happen in the teacher's room would be something like this oh, you know, this person's giving me such a hard time. 00:06:49.223 --> 00:06:49.786 I wish they would just quit.

00:06:49.786 --> 00:06:54.622 You know they're just going to be a failure and it's not that they really truly envisioned that for that student, it's just that they're just frustrated at the time. 00:06:54.622 --> 00:07:12.233 But if you know anything about the human mind, or you know just any bit of psychology, the subconscious mind is going to believe everything the conscious mind, or just from words, are going to say, and it's going to have a severe or maybe even a dramatic impact on your progression in life. 00:07:12.233 --> 00:07:19.153 So just having this teacher have this aura of energy, maybe they don't even say it to the student. 00:07:19.153 --> 00:07:24.749 The student can tell it's like oh, you know, like I guess I'm not going to be anything, or something like that. 00:07:24.749 --> 00:07:27.934 To tell is like oh, you know, like I guess I'm not going to be anything, or something like that. 00:07:27.934 --> 00:07:35.023 And I'm sure you're familiar with the study of NASA when they're trying to figure out you know who are geniuses and when you know and how do geniuses form. 00:07:35.043 --> 00:07:41.584 And they developed this test and they followed these students, you know, all the way from, you know, kindergarten up into like fifth grade or something like that. 00:07:42.185 --> 00:07:51.019 And what they noticed around third grade the marker for genius dropped off severely when they were doing the test, when they were kindergarteners. 00:07:51.019 --> 00:07:55.470 So there was 94% genius and then by third grade it was a fraction of that. 00:07:55.470 --> 00:08:01.129 So we have to ask ourselves what's happening in those two to three years of a child's development. 00:08:01.129 --> 00:08:04.310 And what it is is that they have been given limits. 00:08:04.310 --> 00:08:21.589 They have been told to sit down, raise your hand If you have to go to the bathroom, you know, wait in line or something along those lines and then you know, maybe down the road you get a little bit more freedom in college, but even that you know you have so many years of bondage that is hard to break free. 00:08:21.589 --> 00:08:38.846 So this is why so many people they lie in comfort, they stay in their comfort zones, and so one of the things I was interested in is helping people not only understand their comfort zones but to break free from them, because when they think about the good life, it's beyond the comfort zone, it's not within it. 00:08:39.989 --> 00:08:40.610 Oh, no, definitely. 00:08:40.610 --> 00:09:09.308 And it's crazy that you mentioned that with like the, you know, up until that third grade like, because even my daughter I have a three year old and the amount that she picks up it's, it's insane, right, I was just at my assistant last graduation from UC Davis and up on the teleprompt screen thing there was, you know, you could see everyone getting their awards and so forth, and in the little corner there was a person doing the ASL, the sign language, and my daughter didn't ask about it, she didn't say anything about it. 00:09:09.308 --> 00:09:23.145 And then all of a sudden my sister-in-law was opening her graduation gifts and she was like reading the cards and my three-year-old just standing next to her and just doing sign movements and getting mad because we're all laughing, because we realized what she was doing and she was like be quiet. 00:09:23.145 --> 00:09:35.423 And then she kept doing just different movements of their hands in acting as the interpreter but she didn't say anything, it didn't acknowledge it and ask what it was and it was crazy that you know she had picked that up and like knew what it was. 00:09:36.125 --> 00:09:41.764 So it is crazy that that drop off when you're kind of told to get in line and follow suit. 00:09:41.764 --> 00:09:43.347 You know it can. 00:09:43.347 --> 00:09:49.513 It can do a lot to a person, or even a lot to a kid, and you know kind of detriment their, their growth of genius. 00:09:49.513 --> 00:09:53.504 Some of the things that you talk about, right, is, you know, the downward spiral. 00:09:53.504 --> 00:09:55.750 The downward spiral, right? 00:09:55.750 --> 00:09:58.006 How can people start to identify if they're in one? 00:09:59.812 --> 00:10:14.019 Well, one of the things you have to understand is you have to have a group of people who want to see you better than what you are, and parents typically do a good job, but then parents are also the factors that can make it very difficult. 00:10:14.019 --> 00:10:23.720 We can look at 2019, 2020 with the pandemic, and parents would previously think T-shirts were just glorified babysitters. 00:10:23.720 --> 00:10:25.988 Parents would previously think T-shirts were just glorified babysitters. 00:10:25.988 --> 00:10:34.587 And then all of a sudden now parents were kind of the forefront in their child's education and they have to deal with them for the whole school day and they're seeing how their children are acting. 00:10:34.587 --> 00:10:40.509 They're like whoa, this is tough, right, I know early on, you know you said you have a three-year-old. 00:10:40.509 --> 00:10:44.145 I have a three-year-old also and I have a newborn. 00:10:44.145 --> 00:10:52.333 She's five months at the time of this recording and when I look at favoritism, I say I enjoy him more. 00:10:52.333 --> 00:10:58.832 Not because I enjoy him more, it's just because he's more self-sufficient by himself. 00:10:58.832 --> 00:11:15.101 He can get his iPad, he can get his snacks, he knows the deal right, she doesn't know the deal yet and what happens is many people, they just don't know the deal yet and they have to be reminded, and one of the best things you can do is to get a mentor, to get a guide, to get a teacher that cares, a coach. 00:11:15.101 --> 00:11:19.119 Right, someone who's going to say, hey, I can see the potential within you. 00:11:19.119 --> 00:11:29.927 Because sometimes what happens is we might be lacking a

little bit of confidence, we might not be as optimistic today, and, you know, pessimism is just reigning supreme. 00:11:29.927 --> 00:11:31.350 Our mind is naturally negative. 00:11:31.350 --> 00:11:39.123 So what's happening is many people, they are just going to spiral out before they say, okay, what's the better option? 00:11:39.123 --> 00:11:40.205 You know what is the fix? 00:11:40.205 --> 00:11:40.907 And there's. 00:11:40.907 --> 00:11:46.240 You know people wait until trauma or something bad happens in their life before they get coaching. 00:11:46.240 --> 00:11:58.706 Rightfully, so right, coaching can be expensive, but I always tell people, you know, when they get a consultation or they're, you know, signing up for coaching, and you know, one of the questions I say is well, where were you three months ago? 00:11:58.706 --> 00:12:08.173 Right, because three months ago is when we should have been doing the work, not today when everything is on fire, when you're in credit card debt, when you, you know you got your divorce paper served. 00:12:08.173 --> 00:12:11.653 There's a lot of problems that we just have to pay attention to. 00:12:11.653 --> 00:12:17.289 So one of the things that you can do or are like like right now, even if you don't get a coach is to pay attention. 00:12:17.289 --> 00:12:18.600 How do you pay attention? 00:12:18.600 --> 00:12:19.705 There's different methods. 00:12:19.705 --> 00:12:20.847 You have to figure out what works for you. 00:12:21.570 --> 00:12:27.162 Meditation can, can can be a great asset for you. 00:12:27.162 --> 00:12:28.345 Working out, right, you are in that meditative state, right? 00:12:28.345 --> 00:12:29.386 I know you do a lot of gym stuff. 00:12:29.386 --> 00:12:34.008 So when people are in that state, they're not thinking about maybe, their bills or all this stuff. 00:12:34.008 --> 00:12:35.662 Maybe they want to talk to you about that stuff. 00:12:35.721 --> 00:12:45.133 But if you're giving them a nice strong workout, they're thinking about survival, right, like if they're doing, you know, crossfit or something like that, they're not thinking about where they're going to eat after. 00:12:45.133 --> 00:12:47.145 They're just thinking about how am I going to make this? 00:12:47.145 --> 00:12:48.529 You know, like, get through this. 00:12:48.529 --> 00:12:51.629 And this is where the focus has to be, like, what can we do today? 00:12:51.629 --> 00:13:01.313 And so we have to look at the smallest step possible and we have to assure that we're going to do that step, not, oh, I might do it, I'll get to it later. 00:13:01.995 --> 00:13:03.654 This mindset can't be there anymore. 00:13:03.654 --> 00:13:11.818 You have to just say if I want some change to happen in my life because I'm not satisfied with how I'm currently living, you have to be that change. 00:13:11.818 --> 00:13:17.793 You have to give yourself people or individuals that are going to help nurture that too. 00:13:17.793 --> 00:13:23.732 So again, teachers, coaches, parents and stuff like that are going to help nurture it. 00:13:23.732 --> 00:13:28.566 Coaches, parents and stuff like that are going to help nurture it. 00:13:28.566 --> 00:13:32.479 And if you are around toxic people or negative people, people you just get bad energy from, leave them right. 00:13:32.479 --> 00:13:34.202 You don't have to bring everyone with you. 00:13:34.202 --> 00:13:41.990 I know we live in this people pleasing world but at the end of the day, if you're not happy, does it really matter if someone else is happy at your expense? 00:13:43.139 --> 00:13:52.509 Oh no, definitely I mean, and it's hard sometimes, like that self-reflection, is hard to be truthful with yourself, right, and realizing that you're in that downward spiral. 00:13:52.509 --> 00:13:56.567 But it is important and the first step is acknowledging it. 00:13:56.567 --> 00:13:58.482 Is it your circle, like you said? 00:13:58.482 --> 00:14:03.448 You know, because you should be around people that are lifting you up and trying to push you. 00:14:03.448 --> 00:14:08.357 You know whether it is a coach, whether it is, you know, a trainer, whether it is just your friends. 00:14:08.357 --> 00:14:13.791 If they're not trying to force you to be better, then maybe you're in the wrong circle, right? 00:14:13.791 --> 00:14:15.153 Very true. 00:14:15.153 --> 00:14:17.376 So I mean going into that. 00:14:17.376 --> 00:14:22.510 How do you, how do you let someone know that they're in the wrong circle, right? 00:14:22.510 --> 00:14:29.943 That's a tough conversation and you know to have sometimes, but it is necessary sometimes. 00:14:31.269 --> 00:14:38.221 Well, I mean, you could be straight up with them and say hey, you don't belong here, right, you can kick them out, kind of like the Italian mafia. 00:14:38.221 --> 00:14:40.065 You could say, all right, you're done, buddy. 00:14:40.065 --> 00:14:43.995 Or you can just do what many people do today in our world. 00:14:43.995 --> 00:14:45.461 They do a lot of ghosting, right? 00:14:45.461 --> 00:14:52.091 They just say I'm just going to minimize my interactions with you and eventually you're going to understand that I don't want to be around you. 00:14:52.091 --> 00:14:56.538 That naturally occurs, and I think that's probably what most people are going to do. 00:14:56.538 --> 00:14:58.884 Is there a better option? 00:15:04.549 --> 00:15:07.897 I don't necessarily think there's a wrong or right way to do, you know, getting rid of people who don't serve you or don't belong in your life. 00:15:07.897 --> 00:15:12.833 But you just have to be very clear on your expectations, and I think that's important. 00:15:12.833 --> 00:15:18.764 Your expectations should be paramount, not only for yourself but for others. 00:15:18.764 --> 00:15:28.921 I have expectations for my kids, I have expectations for my wife, and I give myself expectations too, and she has expectations for the kids and myself, and

they're different, right? 00:15:28.921 --> 00:15:42.995 Because I understand that if I'm doing something incorrectly, that's causing some type of hardship or discrepancy in our relationship, and the relationship doesn't have to just be my family, it could be friends also. 00:15:44.192 --> 00:15:48.643 I have to do the work to either fix myself, because I can't change anybody. 00:15:48.643 --> 00:15:58.739 So if I want to fix myself, to be in this relationship because I believe it's beneficial to me, then I'll do the work, but if I'm not seeing the benefit to it, then I'm. 00:15:58.739 --> 00:16:03.601 You know, I might try to keep it for a little bit, but at some point you're going to stop. 00:16:03.601 --> 00:16:13.160 You know, you're just going to stop caring and you can look at any aspect of your life where you have started something and you stopped this just because you just didn't care enough. 00:16:13.160 --> 00:16:22.345 One of the things that many people do, especially when they start a business or they start a career they're looking for, like a job switch. 00:16:22.345 --> 00:16:35.860 It's easy to look on Indeed, it's easy to give yourself this idea that you want something more, you want more money, you want more happiness, but it's more difficult to apply the changes that you need to do. 00:16:35.860 --> 00:16:38.895 Change is hard, it's challenging, but it's not impossible. 00:16:40.399 --> 00:16:44.460 That is true, and I mean the Italian muffle is a good one. 00:16:44.460 --> 00:16:52.476 When you said that, immediately I thought of, like, like the mean girls quote you can't sit with us, you know, that's awesome. 00:16:52.476 --> 00:16:53.019 But no, it's true. 00:16:53.019 --> 00:17:00.923 I mean even myself personally, right, you know, obviously I have, you know, my friends from college and and everything like that, and we're still really good friends. 00:17:00.923 --> 00:17:07.554 But at the same time I don't want to go out and drink and I don't want to go out and do the random things that they do 99% of the time. 00:17:07.554 --> 00:17:09.076 And so they've learned. 00:17:09.277 --> 00:17:19.946 If I answer pretty much like, oh yeah, maybe you know, that means I'm not coming, right, and then, and then it got to the point where you know that happens so often that they just don't invite me and it doesn't, it doesn't hurt my feelings. 00:17:19.946 --> 00:17:31.901 That that's kind of what I wanted anyways, right, and then we hang out for, you know, group events, birthdays, stuff like that, but not just every single weekend, right, so it's, the ghosting thing is a huge one, right. 00:17:31.901 --> 00:17:42.846 If you just tell someone like, hey, you're, you know you're not aligned with my goals, obviously it like, hey, you're, you know you're not aligned with my goals, obviously, it's kind of kind of straightforward and you might not get the response that you thought. 00:17:42.846 --> 00:17:48.281 You know, not, not a lot of people

are going to be receptive to that, um, but I mean that Italian model and I like that, though. 00:17:48.281 --> 00:17:49.911 Do you want to know a hack? 00:17:49.911 --> 00:17:51.051 What's that? 00:17:51.792 --> 00:17:55.316 A hack is to move away from your original place of birth. 00:17:55.316 --> 00:18:02.982 Most people they stay exactly where they are the same state, the same country or even the city. 00:18:02.982 --> 00:18:05.464 Right, they stay within five to 10 miles. 00:18:05.464 --> 00:18:15.717 Back in the 20s, 30s, 40s, around that time, they found their relationships within 10 miles from their radius of where they lived. 00:18:15.717 --> 00:18:24.363 Now we can go on dating sites and we could find people all over the world to marry right, but before it was very small right, we had a 10 mile radius to figure out that. 00:18:24.363 --> 00:18:38.099 And now our world is so vast and technology is a great thing, but it can also be a thing that can cause a person to look at their situation and say, well, look at what I have versus what someone else have. 00:18:38.099 --> 00:18:47.434 And then they start to play that comparison game, keeping up with the Joe like Joneses, and then they find themselves not happy. 00:18:47.454 --> 00:18:48.962 So the hack is just to move away from all your possible distractions. 00:18:48.962 --> 00:18:51.332 Your friends from high school, your friends from college they're not here anymore. 00:18:51.332 --> 00:19:06.903 If you go to, let's say, you want to go to California and all your friends are in New York, I'm not saying that you can't visit your friends or talk to your friends anymore, but when you put yourself in a new environment, you have no option but to succeed or to fail. 00:19:06.903 --> 00:19:08.455 It is that clean. 00:19:08.455 --> 00:19:13.962 The failing part is going to be I guess I'll go back home and stay with my parents, or something along those lines. 00:19:13.962 --> 00:19:25.122 But you can always just say, okay, if I'm having a hard time right now, right, moving from one state to another, all right, let's look at those challenges. 00:19:25.241 --> 00:19:26.813 What are those challenges Like? 00:19:26.813 --> 00:19:27.875 Do I feel lonely? 00:19:27.875 --> 00:19:30.843 Sometimes people feel lonely, especially women. 00:19:30.843 --> 00:19:34.238 They feel lonely when they leave their families for the first time. 00:19:34.238 --> 00:19:41.018 It's like, you know, like I miss my mom, I miss my dad, I miss my siblings or whatever things that they didn't even know they needed. 00:19:41.018 --> 00:19:49.029 They need that emotional attachment, so they have to create that, whether it be via zoom, you know, like WhatsApp groups or whatever. 00:19:49.029 --> 00:19:58.420 You have to create that and you have to give yourself this idea of I'm still attached to the people I love the most, because it doesn't matter the distance. 00:19:58.420 --> 00:20:12.951 If you are truly meant to be with someone, or someone's supposed to be in your circle or with you, you can spend 10, 20, 50 years apart and the moment you two reunite, it's like let's pick up where we left off. 00:20:13.912 --> 00:20:17.255 And that's how you find who's truly meant to be in your circle. 00:20:17.255 --> 00:20:20.438 And that's how you find like who's truly meant to be in your circle, right, I mean one of my best friends, you know. 00:20:20.438 --> 00:20:35.474 He moved to Vegas that's where his mom moved and stuff and me and him can not talk for months, you know, and all of a sudden we hang out one time it's like nothing has changed, right, you know, it's like we pick up where we left off other people. 00:20:35.474 --> 00:20:38.280 It's like you see them and then you're like oh, so you know what are you doing now. 00:20:38.280 --> 00:21:12.190 You know how's life and and so forth, and then it's like okay, yeah, hey, there, all right, I don't know what just happened. 00:21:12.190 --> 00:21:22.339 All of a sudden, like I heard everything you said and I went to start responding and then I noticed, as I looked at my screen, the computer wasn't doing anything and then it just turned off. 00:21:22.339 --> 00:21:23.142 So I apologize. 00:21:24.069 --> 00:21:30.596 Yep, so you could basically just go from where I said, if you want to make your editing easy, basically what you were talking about. 00:21:30.596 --> 00:21:33.162 Is this true because your friend moved to Vegas? 00:21:33.162 --> 00:21:34.311 Okay, perfect. 00:21:34.952 --> 00:21:54.156 So, yeah, so, like my friend moving to Vegas, it was, you know, for him, you know, a huge change and he cut off a lot of the party stuff, a lot of the other things that weren't aligning with him and me and him could not talk for months, right, and all of a sudden we, you know, connect or we hang out and it's like nothing has changed. 00:21:54.336 --> 00:22:36.165 You know, everything picks up right where left off, and then I have other friends that you know I haven't seen for a while, and then all of a sudden we hang out and it's that awkward, like almost, you know I forget what it's called when you just meet someone for the first time and you have to do those like warmup questions and it's like okay, those are the people that probably aren't necessary to your circle, right, but the hack almost that I would add to yours is that if you don't have the courage of essentially picking up and moving, like just change your phone number, right, and give your phone number to essentially the people that you want to, and then someone else, all of a sudden you might run into them and they're like I've been trying to text you, oh, my bad, I got a new phone number you know and then you can go from that you know um that's ghosting. 00:22:36.465 --> 00:22:42.654 Yeah, that's ghosting on a whole nother level, right, you know so you don't have to block their number and then all of a sudden they find out. 00:22:42.654 --> 00:22:44.876 You block

them, you just change your number and use that as an excuse. 00:22:46.029 --> 00:22:48.397 You might as well just unfriend them from social media. 00:22:48.778 --> 00:22:51.351 Yeah, I mean they'll get the hey, we're done. 00:22:51.351 --> 00:22:53.632 Yeah, they'll get the picture, yeah, so, yeah. 00:22:53.632 --> 00:22:59.435 So I mean, with that too, though, right, with moving, with changing number, with changing your friends circle and everything like that, right. 00:22:59.435 --> 00:23:13.623 One of the questions, that kind of lines I want to get your opinion on it, is the limiting beliefs people have right, because, from whether it's your bring up, whether it's your circle, right, sometimes limiting beliefs can be placed externally, but also can be placed internally. 00:23:13.623 --> 00:23:16.224 How do you start to get someone over a limiting belief? 00:23:16.244 --> 00:23:21.636 Yeah, Well, one of the things you have to do is allow them to believe it's possible. 00:23:21.636 --> 00:23:22.970 Right, belief is the cure. 00:23:22.970 --> 00:23:31.997 I remember one time this is early like college I had a student and he I was a swim instructor at the time. 00:23:31.997 --> 00:23:38.153 He just learned how to swim, I just taught him how to swim and I wanted him to swim across the pool. 00:23:38.153 --> 00:23:40.772 I knew he can do it, but he didn't know he could do it. 00:23:40.772 --> 00:23:42.667 Right, he never did it before. 00:23:42.769 --> 00:23:45.654 Right, so I say, okay, I want you to swim across the pool. 00:23:45.654 --> 00:23:48.669 He looks at me, goes, what are you crazy? 00:23:48.669 --> 00:23:57.933 And I was like, first of all, you're three who taught you this word, so, so, so I'm like, no, I'm not crazy, I'm like you're going to swim across this pool and you don't have a choice, right. 00:23:57.933 --> 00:24:17.307 And he's like okay, but he was, he was very fearful, he was timid, right, and this is a young man who was timid when I got him at two and I got him to be more brave he's a big brother now and he was ready to swim across the pool, but you know, his mind didn't know it was possible quite yet. 00:24:17.307 --> 00:24:30.067 So I coached him through it and I, you know, and we got him across the pool and you can tell, about halfway to 75% of the way, panic started to ensue and he started like, oh my God, I'm not going to make it. 00:24:30.067 --> 00:24:37.570 And I coached him through him I take your breath, get those arms up, get those feet moving, and I make sure that they don't touch me. 00:24:37.570 --> 00:24:39.173 They touch the wall right. 00:24:39.173 --> 00:24:40.777 So they did it on their own accord. 00:24:40.777 --> 00:24:41.818 They didn't need me. 00:24:41.818 --> 00:24:48.486 I'm there just as uh, you know, just as a audience member to see your greatness happen, right to unfold. 00:24:48.486 --> 00:24:51.732 And so he touches the wall and the mom loses it. 00:24:51.732 --> 00:24:52.895 Oh yeah, oh my god. 00:24:52.895 --> 00:24:55.948 And he's like, yes, I got it right, give him a high five. 00:24:55.948 --> 00:24:58.534 And then at that point that limit was gone. 00:24:58.534 --> 00:25:01.058 He never called me crazy again. 00:25:01.058 --> 00:25:08.278 He never said he couldn't swim across the pool, he just did it right Because he basically understood. 00:25:08.419 --> 00:25:34.647 If I'm asking him something, it's that I know he's ready, and so, similar to how you have to have those people in your life that can say you're ready, I think is very important to have those, because I remember when I was doing my student teaching, you have cooperating teachers that you learn from to be a teacher and you are in there any between like eight and 14 weeks, depending on your major, et cetera. 00:25:34.647 --> 00:25:47.420 And my second cooperating teacher after I was done on my first at the high school level, I went to the elementary school level and he's a great guy, like phenomenal teacher, and I often compared myself to him. 00:25:47.420 --> 00:25:54.228 I said like I, like I'm not you like, like you do it so great, like it's so easy for you, but for me it's challenging. 00:25:54.228 --> 00:26:00.210 And he was able to see my weaknesses and we worked on those weaknesses and eventually we made them strengths. 00:26:00.210 --> 00:26:06.034 And toward the last week or probably the last day, I said you know, I think I need more time. 00:26:06.034 --> 00:26:07.905 He goes no, you don't, you're ready. 00:26:08.507 --> 00:26:17.790 And it's very similar to that idea of that young boy now I'm an adult and he's saying you're ready, right, just because you can't see it yet doesn't mean that it's not possible. 00:26:17.790 --> 00:26:25.601 So when I went into schools and I was a teacher and there was no one else in the classroom, I just gave myself this idea that I was ready. 00:26:25.601 --> 00:26:28.972 Now you have to do the work in order for you to be ready. 00:26:28.972 --> 00:26:30.757 For example, let's say you want to be a public speaker. 00:26:30.757 --> 00:27:02.432 You can't not practice public speaking, you can't not work on your presentation and expect just to go on stage and be brilliant, right, you have to do the work, for whatever you want to do, whether it be career, a business you have to put into work the hours to gain experience, and once you develop or you start to attain more experience, you're going to get that confidence, and that confidence is going to lead to yourself believing that you can do something belief and then those limits that you have just kind of naturally fade away. 00:27:03.346 --> 00:27:05.770 No, I think that's awesome and that's an awesome explanation of it. 00:27:05.770 --> 00:27:22.073 I mean, just like the little boy that was swimming across the pool, like, how many times do we get halfway with something and then start to panic, right, start to have self-doubt and then decide to turn back when you're pretty much

at the halfway point? 00:27:22.073 --> 00:27:26.035 It's the same distance to the other side, but we already know what the other side has. 00:27:26.035 --> 00:27:33.906 So we go back to that side, right, and even even like more, so like what your example of you know, I'm not ready. 00:27:33.906 --> 00:27:37.579 You do this so well, you are X, you know I'm not that yet. 00:27:37.579 --> 00:27:56.672 And it's like, a lot of times we compare ourselves to someone that is already excellent or already, you know, has been doing it for years, and develop the skills you know to be that next level, and we compare them to what is supposed to be base level, right, and I'm not at that your level, so I'm not ready. 00:27:56.672 --> 00:28:03.227 It's like, look, my level isn't readiness, my level is past that, right, and you have to. 00:28:03.227 --> 00:28:07.711 You have to like kind of shift your mind, because a lot of entrepreneurs start to do this too. 00:28:08.786 --> 00:28:18.097 From my, my experience of like talking to different entrepreneurs is you know, they'll compare themselves to the Andy Vercela's, the Elon Musk's, the you know, you know Bill Gates? 00:28:18.097 --> 00:28:21.650 It's like those are one of few entrepreneurs. 00:28:21.650 --> 00:28:23.993 You are an entrepreneur. 00:28:23.993 --> 00:28:29.689 Stop belittling your promotion of yourself. 00:28:29.689 --> 00:28:34.558 Entrepreneur is just a title and you think that you're not an entrepreneur. 00:28:34.558 --> 00:28:40.647 You're not a business owner because you're not at an Inc 500 level company, yet You're still a business owner on paper. 00:28:40.647 --> 00:28:42.615 So it's like what is the imposter syndrome? 00:28:42.615 --> 00:28:44.914 What is that self-doubting belief really? 00:28:46.983 --> 00:28:48.590 Yeah, and we all start somewhere. 00:28:48.590 --> 00:28:55.289 Like people don't realize that you know Jeff Bezos was in his garage, you know selling books, right. 00:28:55.289 --> 00:28:56.550 Like they don't see that. 00:28:56.550 --> 00:29:03.575 And if you look at some of the old pictures, he's there, he has Honda and now he's on yachts and private planes and things like that. 00:29:03.575 --> 00:29:06.239 People, they see the end result, the goal, right. 00:29:06.239 --> 00:29:07.101 They don't see the journey. 00:29:07.101 --> 00:29:16.400 Many people, when it comes to looking at a winner, they don't look at the winner for all the losses that became their foundation. 00:29:16.400 --> 00:29:18.410 It's just wow. 00:29:18.410 --> 00:29:24.074 Look at all the money, look at all the confidence, look at all this great stuff that I wish I had right now. 00:29:24.525 --> 00:29:32.599 We live in this society, or this world, where immediate gratification is the essential necessity of everyone's life. 00:29:32.599 --> 00:29:35.173 Or I want things now, I don't want it later. 00:29:35.173 --> 00:29:43.616 People who they start going to the gym, for example, they will stop after just a few months because they're not getting the results, because they want it immediately. 00:29:43.616 --> 00:29:45.440 And the same thing is true in businesses. 00:29:45.440 --> 00:29:51.549 The reason why 50% of businesses fail within the first couple of months, if not years, is because they're not seeing the results. 00:29:51.670 --> 00:29:56.228 And if you ask any business owner, they basically say or good business owner. 00:29:56.228 --> 00:29:58.252 They say, don't worry about the profit, right. 00:29:58.252 --> 00:30:03.865 Worry about the progress, right. 00:30:03.865 --> 00:30:05.153 Worry about the change that you're going to be creating. 00:30:05.153 --> 00:30:14.330 Whether it be helping people get in shape, maybe giving the best clothes for people If you have a clothing store, the best beauty products If you have a beauty healthcare line or something along those lines with supplements, you get to choose your business right. 00:30:14.330 --> 00:30:20.093 But as long as you're helping people, it doesn't matter how many people you're helping, because it's only going to be at some point. 00:30:20.093 --> 00:30:35.086 It might be five, 10, 15 years down the road where you're going to say, wow, like look at how far we've come, right, because before you might've just been selling stuff to your family members, but now you're doing your whole community and eventually it's going to be the nation, maybe even the world after that? 00:30:35.626 --> 00:30:36.907 No, a hundred percent. 00:30:36.907 --> 00:30:39.932 And, like you said, I tell people the same thing. 00:30:39.932 --> 00:30:45.280 It's like no one really sees the graveyard of mistakes and failures along the journey. 00:30:45.280 --> 00:30:51.416 They just see that tip of the iceberg and you're comparing your journey to someone's tip of their iceberg. 00:30:51.416 --> 00:31:02.480 It's like Elon Musk, for example, had PayPal, he had X, he had all these different things, and people just acknowledge him for the one thing, the biggest thing and people just acknowledge them for the one thing, the biggest thing. 00:31:02.480 --> 00:31:09.057 And it's like I think most business owners have a slew of things that didn't work out before they found the thing that worked out. 00:31:09.057 --> 00:31:13.736 And so just because you're not at that level yet doesn't mean you can't get there. 00:31:13.736 --> 00:31:19.392 You just need to keep going, build the skills and so forth, and sometimes it doesn't work out, and that's okay. 00:31:19.392 --> 00:31:20.375 You try again. 00:31:20.375 --> 00:31:22.069 You just step back up to the plate. 00:31:22.069 --> 00:31:26.586 No one bats a thousand, but you can't, you know, get a home run if you don't step up to the plate. 00:31:27.888 --> 00:31:38.392 Very, true and this idea of you know, like burn the bridges or burn the ships or something like that, right, there's two types of people in this world people who like plans and people who don't like plans.

00:31:38.392 --> 00:31:43.939 Plan A people are like, hey, I have this one choice, this is what it's going to be, right, and they push until they get it. 00:31:43.939 --> 00:31:51.717 There's certain people who say I have plan A, b, c, d, right, and if something doesn't work, let me switch right. 00:31:51.717 --> 00:31:58.775 But then, if you think about it, right, if you do plan A for, let's say, a couple of years, you already took the beating for that plan A. 00:31:58.775 --> 00:32:07.438 So now you can either use that knowledge and that wisdom to help you with plan B or to keep on taking that beating, maybe for a little bit longer, to have plan A work. 00:32:07.438 --> 00:32:09.809 So it's just a different type of thinking. 00:32:10.029 --> 00:32:16.733 And are you this type of person who just wants to plan A, or are you a person that likes to have a lot of contingencies? 00:32:16.733 --> 00:32:19.186 And I'm not saying that we're going to be reckless. 00:32:19.186 --> 00:32:25.898 I'm not saying we're going to go to the casino and we're going to put all our money down and we're going to just bet it on one hand a blackjack or something like that. 00:32:25.898 --> 00:32:27.922 Right, we're not being crazy. 00:32:27.922 --> 00:32:34.434 Right, we are going to be practical and we're going to do things in our own. 00:32:34.434 --> 00:32:42.656 I guess you can say experience, right, so we know we have like a level of experience for something, a knowledge base. 00:32:42.656 --> 00:32:44.088 Then we know we can do something. 00:32:44.108 --> 00:32:49.012 If I ask someone to tie your shoe or like their shoe, they could probably say, yeah, not a problem. 00:32:49.012 --> 00:32:53.208 If I ask you know most people to go to their fridge and get a drink, they probably can do that. 00:32:53.208 --> 00:33:00.077 But if I ask you know my four-year-old or my four-month-old daughter to do that, she can't do that yet. 00:33:00.077 --> 00:33:00.438 Right. 00:33:00.438 --> 00:33:04.190 So you have to figure out what you can do and then you start there. 00:33:04.190 --> 00:33:08.228 But then again you have to give yourself the mindset which person are you? 00:33:08.228 --> 00:33:14.028 A person who likes to focus on one thing, or are you a person that likes to focus on many things? 00:33:14.028 --> 00:33:23.896 There's two types of entrepreneurs that I found when you know from working with them people who are just just hyper focused on one thing, and people who have a new LLC every single month. 00:33:23.896 --> 00:33:29.690 All right, those people have multiple plans a, b, c, d right, even though they want all the plans to work. 00:33:30.451 --> 00:33:52.117 But then there's going to be people who are saying, hey, you know, like this is my one thing, right, I'm going to make sure this KFC works, or whatever right, and I think I mean there's a time and place, I think, and and obviously with I do agree, because with you know, launching the franchise company and bringing franchisees on, I that for me I'm the kind of person that needs to burn the boats, right, that's just. 00:33:52.117 --> 00:33:53.769 I work best under pressure. 00:33:53.769 --> 00:34:00.979 If I have contingencies, I will start to get complacent, you know, and for me I just know that that's just my mindset. 00:34:00.979 --> 00:34:04.910 But I also tell people that's not also for everyone. 00:34:04.910 --> 00:34:12.132 If someone has a normal nine to five and is looking to start a business, it's like, look, you can do that. 00:34:12.132 --> 00:34:22.079 You can do your nine to five and then, from five to nine, work on your business until it's making more money or makes enough sense that you can quit your nine to five. 00:34:22.079 --> 00:34:24.092 Then, you know, go for that. 00:34:24.594 --> 00:34:28.168 For me, personally, I was like I couldn't do that because the whole time I'd be at the nine to five. 00:34:28.168 --> 00:34:34.695 I would just be thinking of the five to nine, right, like I get super hyper-focus, like you say, on one thing and that's all I could think about. 00:34:34.695 --> 00:34:45.681 You know, and that's not everyone, um, but to, to that it's like even someone that burns the bridges, or even the person that has all the different llcs. 00:34:45.681 --> 00:35:02.115 I think that there's a time and place to differentiate and have those contingencies, because if you have an llc, let's say, every other week, every month, it's like are you putting enough effort into the, into any of them, let alone one of them, to make it actually work? 00:35:02.115 --> 00:35:07.666 Or are you living life as, like, grass is always greener on the other side and then the other side and the other side? 00:35:09.420 --> 00:35:11.829 Well, it goes to this Denzel Washington quote. 00:35:11.829 --> 00:35:14.168 He says don't mistake movement for progress. 00:35:14.168 --> 00:35:19.126 And many people think that if they do a lot of things then there must be doing something right? 00:35:19.126 --> 00:35:25.248 Right, because they're not having busy time or or or wasted time, they're not on their phone scrolling or something like that. 00:35:25.248 --> 00:35:32.480 So the fact that they're doing something productive doesn't mean that is going to be conducive to a thriving business down the road. 00:35:32.480 --> 00:35:32.820 Right? 00:35:32.820 --> 00:35:41.815 So for that, I encourage people to get a mentor in the area or the field where you're most passionate about passion. 00:35:41.815 --> 00:35:43.610 Right, the key is passion there is that you're most passionate about passion. 00:35:43.610 --> 00:35:53.268 Right, the key is passion there is that you're most passionate about right, not about the most money yet, but the most passion, because when you can do something you love, then you do other things that can make you money. 00:35:53.400 --> 00:35:55.487 The passion part is what keeps you going. 00:35:55.487 --> 00:35:57.648 You could have

plan B to make you side money. 00:35:57.648 --> 00:35:59.606 If you've got a fingerprinting business. 00:35:59.606 --> 00:36:02.268 You could have a trash company, a landscaping company. 00:36:02.268 --> 00:36:02.449 Right? 00:36:02.449 --> 00:36:10.706 Those things might not be your passions, but they are maybe helping you have the lifestyle that you would like, right? 00:36:10.706 --> 00:36:11.157 You want to go on more vacations. 00:36:11.157 --> 00:36:12.170 You want to drive a certain type of car, you want to live in a certain neighborhood. 00:36:12.170 --> 00:36:17.255 All of these things happen because of your other options, but you did have a main focus. 00:36:17.255 --> 00:36:18.076 So it's. 00:36:18.617 --> 00:36:33.931 It's very similar to how maybe you know guys and I'm not saying you're this guy, I was this guy in high school, college you have, you know, different girlfriends, right, you have multiple girls, right, but you always have a main girl, right, and then eventually you get married. 00:36:33.931 --> 00:36:42.628 You just have one right, because you can't afford to have all of these distractions, because you have a family now and you have businesses now, probably. 00:36:42.628 --> 00:36:58.155 So you have to laser focus what truly matters now, right, because when you're 18, you don't really have too much on your plate, unless living circumstances and situations can kind of depict that differently for you. 00:36:58.155 --> 00:37:03.282 But for most of these people, they have the world, they're like all right, let me go out and party. 00:37:03.282 --> 00:37:09.333 And this is why, around 2021, they go and they go party and they go drink and they go do all these things right. 00:37:09.333 --> 00:37:31.829 And it's because they finally get a taste of being an adult and they don't necessarily know what an adult truly means buy alcohol or cigarettes or go to war or start a family or buy a home or rent a car, if you are 25 or older, you don't have to pay a surcharge for it. 00:37:31.829 --> 00:37:33.974 That is not what being an adult is. 00:37:33.974 --> 00:37:35.242 You have to define that. 00:37:35.262 --> 00:37:42.925 It's very similar to how you define success, and if you get really clear and you do the work, you can do it today. 00:37:42.925 --> 00:37:44.650 Define things right. 00:37:44.650 --> 00:37:55.132 Just because my definition of success is me being financially fit and my family being protected and provided for for the next 20 years, hey, that's my success. 00:37:55.132 --> 00:37:57.139 But maybe that's not your success. 00:37:57.139 --> 00:38:06.041 Maybe you want to spend as much time with your friends and your loved ones and you live in a rundown neighborhood and that could be your success, right? 00:38:06.041 --> 00:38:20.492 So just because I look at your success different and you look at someone's success differently, it doesn't mean you're doing it wrong, but there is a way to do it correctly and you don't have to be inventing the wheel every single time you want to do something. 00:38:20.492 --> 00:38:23.936 Find someone who has done it, get a mentor, a guide. 00:38:23.936 --> 00:38:36.003 They're going to see all your blind spots before you even do it and you can mitigate so many hardships and traumas and challenges that you wouldn't even have to deal with if you just invested in your learning and your growth. 00:38:36.623 --> 00:38:38.009 Oh, a hundred percent, and I agree with you. 00:38:38.009 --> 00:38:39.032 And, yep, I was. 00:38:39.032 --> 00:38:41.523 I was one of those guys, as unfortunate as it is. 00:38:41.523 --> 00:38:43.626 So I get you on that. 00:38:43.626 --> 00:38:56.211 I mean, as we wrap up, I'd like to ask one final question, and I love everything that we've talked about so far, so I'm really interested to get your take on this. 00:38:56.211 --> 00:38:58.257 Now, this is the legacy wall question. 00:38:58.257 --> 00:39:02.224 Now, before I ask you the question, it's not a tombstone right? 00:39:02.224 --> 00:39:05.233 So, even though I say that some people still try to give me the tombstone answer a tombstone right. 00:39:05.233 --> 00:39:11.967 So even though I say that some people still try to give me the tombstone answer, this is the one message that you'd leave for the up and coming generations that you've learned along your life's journey. 00:39:11.967 --> 00:39:12.989 What would your legacy wall message be? 00:39:14.253 --> 00:39:15.597 Well, it goes into the business. 00:39:15.597 --> 00:39:23.882 The business that I created is Revin Concepts, and Revin is just never backwards, and so the idea is never is just an option, right? 00:39:23.882 --> 00:39:32.028 So you always have the option to push and progress or to stay stagnant and to not even look up ever again. 00:39:32.028 --> 00:39:49.052 Right, you can be a person who's forgotten in the, you know, in the stance of time, or you could be someone who's going to echo in the stands of time, right, we can think of greats George Washington, we could think of Abraham Lincoln, you know presidents that are on money, right? 00:39:49.052 --> 00:39:50.326 Money we use daily. 00:39:50.940 --> 00:40:04.130 And you might ask well, you know, maybe I won't be a president that's on money, but you can be an author, you can be a person that has created impact in their life, and it's very similar to a person planting a tree, for example. 00:40:04.130 --> 00:40:11.222 You don't plant a tree to enjoy the shade, you plant a tree for your great great grandchildren to enjoy the shade. 00:40:11.222 --> 00:40:18.748 And that's the idea of what legacy is the work that you do is going to compound, maybe not in your time, but in your generation's time. 00:40:19.369 --> 00:40:21.041 I love that and I love the name of the company too. 00:40:21.041 --> 00:40:23.489 I didn't even think about that. 00:40:23.489 --> 00:40:30.590 That's awesome, but no, honestly, that's an awesome legacy wall thing and never

is just an option. 00:40:30.590 --> 00:40:34.445 That is boom, that's a mic drop right there. 00:40:34.445 --> 00:40:35.188 That's the first time. 00:40:35.188 --> 00:40:36.572 I've actually heard someone say that. 00:40:36.572 --> 00:40:38.186 I love that. 00:40:38.186 --> 00:40:41.664 Where can people connect with you, learn more about your company, learn more about what you got going on? 00:40:42.806 --> 00:40:50.166 Easy enough Revenconceptscom I'm sure you're going to throw that down in the show notes so people don't have to worry about spelling and also at Reven Concepts. 00:40:50.166 --> 00:40:51.309 On all of our socials. 00:40:51.309 --> 00:40:54.068 We are everywhere where there's social media. 00:40:54.068 --> 00:40:59.713 You can tune in on YouTube, watch some of the clips or some of the podcasts that we have. 00:40:59.713 --> 00:41:12.307 Our podcast is Coaching in in session, if you want to hear a bit of mindset from a different end, and then also to tune into Devin's episode that we have on coaching in session, because he was dropping some bombs there too. 00:41:12.307 --> 00:41:19.210 So definitely tune into that episode, and I'm sure you're going to pop that link also right down below for people to tune in. 00:41:19.490 --> 00:41:19.992 That is right. 00:41:19.992 --> 00:41:28.501 All those links will be down below, guys, Make sure you guys check out you know Revan concepts. 00:41:28.501 --> 00:41:29.927 Make sure you guys check out his show as well. 00:41:29.927 --> 00:41:30.389 It is an awesome show. 00:41:30.389 --> 00:41:31.474 And, of course, you know, check out my episode with them. 00:41:31.474 --> 00:41:35.849 Um, but you know, thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to to hop on the mindset cafe. 00:41:35.849 --> 00:41:43.269 We had an amazing conversation on your, your podcast, so it's always great to run it back and and switch the chairs around, so I do really appreciate it. 00:41:43.269 --> 00:41:45.293 Truly a pleasure. 00:41:45.293 --> 00:41:45.773 Thank you, David. 00:41:45.773 --> 00:41:50.423 Make sure you guys share this episode with a friend. 00:41:50.423 --> 00:41:51.449 Make sure you guys leave us that five-star review. 00:41:51.449 --> 00:41:53.255 It helps us get the message out to more people like yourself. 00:41:53.255 --> 00:41:58.150 But make sure you guys share this episode with a friend that is trying to better themselves. 00:41:58.150 --> 00:42:06.389 Maybe they need help with their mindset, but we appreciate you for tuning in, we appreciate you for continuing your growth journey and until next time, guys. 00:42:06.389 --> 00:42:07.280 See you guys later. 00:42:08.041 --> 00:42:10.710 No negative vibes, only positive thoughts. 00:42:10.710 --> 00:42:12.146 Just in the game of life. 00:42:12.146 --> 00:42:15.985 My set calls the shots, Got my mind on the prize. 00:42:15.985 --> 00:42:17.210 I can't be distracted. 00:42:17.210 --> 00:42:18.884 I stay on my grind. 00:42:18.884 --> 00:42:20.248 No time to be slacky. 00:42:20.248 --> 00:42:26.085 I hustle harder, I go against the curve, Because I know my mind is rich to be collected.