رونوشت کامل What Does 'Leaning Into Being' Mean to Us?

downshift and slow down and be present. And I. Desperately need to do that. Amri Kibbler: [00:03:00] To be there for my kids and for myself. We've got this beautiful podcast that we're building. Yeah. So we get to still build together, but it's going, I mean, so for me, five years ago I was diagnosed with colorectal cancer. You know, huge bomb, like exploded my life. Obviously not out of the blue, but you know, I wasn't expecting that at all and I went through treatment, which of course sucked. Amri Kibbler: But I think part of it was just like, it was a huge wake up call, which, you know, you hear so many people that get cancer, say, it was a huge wake up call that I needed to change so many things in my life. The way that I was working, I was living in a state of elevated cortisol level 24 7. I was like in fight or flight. Amri Kibbler: Constantly because as an entrepreneur there's always a new emergency. There's always something you need to be getting to, and I had this like constant state of anxiety that I just kind of, I couldn't get through. And so I just started working on a lot of different strategies to help me deal with the anxiety and help me try to be able to navigate those things and be able to slow down that. Amri Kibbler: I've been utilizing. I worked with a amazing meditation teacher that I talk about all the time, who's still a very dear friend of mine, Demo DeMartile. I think he's almost. 80 now, and Demo’s probably gonna kill me for saying that, but he just really helped me to develop this sense of like inner connection that I can now root back to. Amri Kibbler: But it's been a five year struggle and growing process that I'm still working through and I still have to sit myself down all the time and be like. This is not the end of the world. Like you need to reconnect to yourself right now. Pull out your bag of tricks, like are you gonna do a medication? Are you gonna listen to some music? Amri Kibbler: Are you gonna do some tapping? Are you gonna go outside and take a walk? Are you gonna get out your journal? Are you gonna jump up and down? Are you going to grab one of your dogs and give them a hug and a cuddle? Are you gonna scream really loudly, like. I pull all those things [00:05:00] out all the time. I feel my cortisol levels going up. Amri Kibbler: I'm like, nothing in the world is worth risking my health and my ability to be there for my family, I have to like get it under wraps, calm it back down. I. I do a lot of work on that, and I had a cancer recurrence two years ago, so I had two surgeries and it was like another, okay, you're not really getting this. Amri Kibbler: Like, I just felt that like, okay, I learned all these things and I. Was implementing them, but I knew that I still needed to connect further to that and do more work on it. There was so much more work for me to do, and so it's been a constant process and it's a never ending process. Once you start doing that work, it's forever. Erika Hanafin: But I wanna call out on a few things. One is that it's progress over. Perfection through and through, because as you just explained, like one, it's important to have a toolkit and [00:06:00] you go to that toolkit for whatever it is mm-hmm that you need at that particular time, but also realizing and giving yourself grace that. Erika Hanafin: You are not going to be utilizing those tools consistently all the time and you, you're not living in this box. It doesn't have to be this perfect. Like I meditate for 15 minutes every morning and I do this. We're going through seasons and we're gonna do what's working best for us with what we have at that particular moment. Erika Hanafin: So one, always recognize and give yourself grace that it's progress over perfection. Two, I think one of the things that worked a lot for me and you kind of elaborated on that is. Finding your core, right in that toolkit is the different modalities, the meditation, the yoga, the journaling, the different things. Erika Hanafin: But how important having your small, I like to say support system, like I know that I can go to Julia [00:07:00] Dero, my Julie, and. Yes, there's beauty in the, in the scale we're creating this ripple effect, but there's also those really small minor moments. And the third is what I call our monumental moments, which is something that really hit me back in 2017 when I was. Erika Hanafin: The heart of depression and hate, like hated where I was in my, in my marriage, and I had this beautiful child. It was so hard to have. Mm-hmm. I'll never forget this one morning where it was just a terrible morning. He didn't wanna go to school. We realized it was because the shirt he didn't wanna wear, you know, all the things. Erika Hanafin: Yes. And we're in San Francisco and we get in the car and he's upset and I had no support and I was mad and angry and you know, just frustrated. And he gets in the car and chainsmoker or something just like that comes on and he's like, mommy. Turn this up. And so I turn it up and he just starts laughing and you know, [00:08:00] we're just singing and we're yelling at this song and I loved it. Erika Hanafin: And so we get to school, which was, you know, a five minute drive to a school. But I drop him off at school and then I'm on my way to work and I'm like. My mindset just shifted, like talk about this monument mental moment. It was so minor. It's the small things that that come into play. And so I always say, look for those monument mental moments. Erika Hanafin: It doesn't have to be like a crazy. Happen. It could be that 32nd hug before they go to school or before they're that two minute cuddle. It doesn't have to be two hours. It's quality over quantity. 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your life that are gonna help you through it makes all the difference. And sometimes we have that team and we don't even. Think about it. Yeah. Acknowledging them. Erika Hanafin: Yeah. And I think that we practice that pretty well, you and I too, around that recognition and that gratitude. Erika Hanafin: And we always talk about motherhood does not have to happen in isolation. Even back to the early days when it was a village. Right. You had a team, you had your support, and sometimes [00:12:00] we forget. Amri Kibbler: I know we, we always, we talk about this too, that is really one of the biggest challenges that moms in America are facing is that isolation and not having access to a team when you've moved. Amri Kibbler: Like I know I don't live anywhere near my family or my husband's family who is in Australia. So you have to build your own team these days and. It's a lot of work. Like it definitely is and having your friends and like loved ones, anyone that you can bring into your found family is such a big thing. Amri Kibbler: Erica, who's on me, your motherhood team though? Erika Hanafin: It's pretty similar. I mean, obviously my husband, first and foremost, it's family, right? Big. We've got this. Beautiful blended family that, you know, talk about coming out of a season of darkness into this beautiful light. And that's also work because I mean, that's for a whole nother podcast around divorce and coming out and then finding this strength and [00:13:00] healing and this beautiful opportunity to really blend a family together. Erika Hanafin: And we're so fortunate and we've been so blessed that the boys really were so close mm-hmm. To begin with. Like they're just so. And call each other brothers and they're really excited for Baby Boy. So we'll see how excited they are when they start hearing Baby Cry. Our youngest right now, Parker said the other day, we're sitting on the couch and he says, mommy. Erika Hanafin: Can me and Baby Bennett wear the same clothes? And it was just so cute. And you know, then certainly my Julie, my best friend, my family have been very fortunate. And you live close to your parents too. Is that part of the reason you moved down here? It was one of the biggest reasons because at the time we were across the country and I hated it. Erika Hanafin: And we moved from New York City to San Francisco and then San Francisco Covid. Really was the best thing that ever happened to me because [00:14:00] it got us outta San Francisco and across the country back to thinking we were gonna go back to New York and ended up in Virginia Beach, which is close enough to my parents. Erika Hanafin: So there we're about 30 minutes away from them and. Braden, my son, I recognize that he needed a team too. They too, they do. They needed, they need that Amri Kibbler: extended Erika Hanafin: family. They need that extended family and that support system. And thank God we had that because we went through a, a terrible divorce and he's on the positive side and now. Erika Hanafin: Like I said, we have beautiful blessing. So now he's got two brothers. And you know, it's so funny because he would say, mommy, when can I have a baby brother? And then it was, mommy, when can I have a baby sister? When can I have a baby sister? And you know, and I remember one morning he was like, mommy. When can I have a baby sister? Erika Hanafin: Is there anything I can do to help? Now, he's ecstatic, but it's so funny, he's 11, so there is a big, you know, there's a big gap between the [00:15:00] oldest and the youngest. Mm-hmm. He hears a baby crying. We're at church the other day, and he's like, are you ready for that, mom? I was like, yeah, that's when he's gonna go to you. Erika Hanafin: He's gonna be such a helper. He's Amri Kibbler: gonna be such a helper. He's such a helper. Yeah. Oh my gosh. I know. I just can't wait to come back and see you all. Erika Hanafin: Motherhood Maternity is our season two sponsor of Leaning into Being and I am currently wearing one of their dresses, which is also on our cover photo. Cute. Amri Kibbler: I love it. Erika Hanafin: And it's so comfortable and of course, great pockets. 'cause I love Oh, I love Pockets too. Yeah. Yes. So super cute. This is my new staple for the spring and summer. They're little jealous. I think it's, it's so my vibe. I know I might have to get it taken in even after I have baby because it's, yeah, it does look like you could totally wear that after I totally wear this, and this is so my style. Erika Hanafin: So your style. Yeah. Yeah. Oh, I just got licked again. Oh wait, Erika Hanafin: mama. You are doing enough. You are [00:16:00] enough. Amri Kibbler: So take a breath, lean in, and just be, Erika Hanafin: be you. Amri Kibbler: Be present. Erika Hanafin: Just be.