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Why are we so invested in judging someone else's definition of a good life to the point of posting about it, gossiping about it, making fun of it, getting right down into bullying?
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Well, there's many reasons.
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We're gonna share a few questions to ponder just to ask ourselves.
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Stay tuned.
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Love and lots of gratitude.
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Hello Radiant Soul.
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Welcome back to another episode of the High Vibes Lifestyle Podcast.
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How are you wherever you are out in this beautiful world?
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I've got the raspy voice today.
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Apologies, but you know, hey, some like it, it's a little sultry.
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Anyway, we hope that you are doing well, whatever nook cranny you are in, and as always, we are grateful for you tuning in and showing up today.
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I want to talk a little bit about and judging others.
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We all make opinions, you know, whether it's the music we like or the people we're aligned with or who we don't feel aligned with and so on.
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You can make a decision like that and just let it be.
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There's no need to go on social media putting people down because they choose to be polyamorous, or they choose to love someone of the same gender or whatever it is, however they decide, and we're talking about adults, consenting with adults, having adult relationships, making adult decisions.
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We're not talking about children, animals, any of that.
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We're talking about healthy decisions that people have made or make in life, and others judging them, putting them down, treating them poorly, and with this whole social media culture, people are able to cast Asian larger web of just being mean and bullying.
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It's not necessary.
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And yes, it's okay.
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People can make an opinion, but why from a psychological standpoint does it seem to bother people so much?
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Why so much criticism over how somebody wants a dress?
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What their sexual orientation is, how they just choose to identify regarding their gender, and so on and so forth.
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Well, let's use the example of trad wives.
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You may ask, what is the true definition of a trad wife?
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Well, trad wife is short for traditional wife, generally referring to a woman who embraces a more traditional division of marital roles, where the husband is typically the primary breadwinner.
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The wife focuses mainly on home on homemaking, such as cooking, cleaning, and raising children, and she may emphasize traditional femininity, marriage, family, and sometimes religious or conservative values.
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Many people criticize this these were the roles that a lot of people had in marriages, traditional marriages way back.
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We're talking about this new generation today, twenty somethings, thirty somethings, who mostly like to post on social media, not all, but this younger generation who say, I've made the choice.
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I want to stay home, I want to devote time with my children, I want to cook and clean and have meals ready for my partner, in most cases a man coming home and expecting dinner to be made, lunches to be made, breakfast, all of that, children to be taken care of.
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The gardening is done primarily by the woman.
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The cleaning is done primarily by the woman.
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But they have chosen this lifestyle.
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And again, we're not talking about people who have been controlled and told they have to do this.
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No.
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Often many of these women had successful careers, they have their own money, their own bank accounts stashed away.
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If something happened and they were no longer in this relationship with this partner, they do not need to depend on that person's income or finances.
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They have made this decision.
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The two of them, these two adults, have decided to set their relationship or marriage up this way.
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Many have stepped forward and said, No, this is what I have chosen.
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And so some of them it's simply the preference.
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It's a preference with their partners.
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He enjoys a career, and she says that she enjoys managing the home.
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But some people just prefer traditional relationship dynamics.
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Maybe because that's the way they're raised.
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Maybe their parents were like that.
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And then they said, you know what?
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That worked for them.
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And I can see why I would like to adopt this lifestyle.
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Why do people criticize this?
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Well, there's the gender roles.
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Some people see the traditional division of man provides the woman homemakes as reinforcing the idea that men and women should have different roles, rather than simply allowing couples to choose what works for them.
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Then we have
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the historical context.
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Traditional gender roles were often tied to periods when women had fewer legal, educational, and economic opportunities.
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Critics worry that romanticizing these roles can also romanticize the restrictions that historically accompanied them and the social media.
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Some people are bothered by a couple choosing a single income household, but by influencers presenting a highly polished tradwife lifestyle as the ideal way women should live.
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Social media can make an individual choice look like a prescription for everyone.
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Critics also say that there's pressure on women.
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Critics worry that celebrating homemaking as the proper role for women can make women who want careers, don't want children, or can't afford to stay home feel inadequate or unfeminine.
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There's a distinction between we've divided our responsibilities this way because it works for us and women should serve their husbands because that's what women are supposed to do.
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The criticism is that this is what some men are saying.
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This is what women are supposed to do.
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But if they're in a marriage with a woman who feels this way, then that's that's their business, that's their thought process.
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Yeah.
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We can go into a whole other thing on how self-esteem, self-worth contribute to why some of these women may feel this way.
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But let's just say it's a person who does have high self-esteem, and they still feel like no, I don't feel I s have to do this or I'm supposed to because I'm a woman.
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No, I want to.
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And that would be the distinction.
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So I wanna throw out a few questions we can always ask ourselves in reference to that isn't the life I would choose, but it may be the life that they choose.
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What exactly about someone else's lifestyle choice bothers me?
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And what does the r that reaction reveal about me?
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Am I judging the choice itself or am I judging what I believe the choice says about the person?
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If somebody is making a choice freely and it doesn't harm anyone, why do I feel the need to agree with it or approve of it?
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Would I feel differently about the same choice if a person I admired made it?
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Am I defending my own values?
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Or am I trying to convince someone else that my values are superior?
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What assumptions am I making about someone else's happiness, intelligence, independence or self-worth based solely on the way they live?
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Can I believe that a particular lifestyle would be wrong for me without believing that it is wrong for someone else?
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What part of someone else's freedom to choose makes me uncomfortable?
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What would happen if I stopped asking do I agree with this?
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And instead asked, why does this work for them?
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Or just celebrate it.
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It works for them?
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None of my business.
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Why am I concerned?
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And be done.
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Can two seemingly contradictory lifestyles both be valid when they're freely chosen by different people and when I feel bothered by someone else's choices?
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Is there something about my own life, choices, sacrifices or insecurities that is being provoked, touched, agitated?
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Well these are a few questions to ponder.
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We're not gonna get into all the possible answers.
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These are just food for thought on this short episode.
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Well, wherever you are in this world, we wish you a high vibe moment and thank you so much for tuning in.
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Peace, love, and lots of gratitude.