رونوشت کامل 54. Simplifying Home Systems for ADHD Moms with Guest Allison Converse

that's part of it. 00:04:19.740 --> 00:04:20.220 Yeah. 00:04:20.220 --> 00:04:21.910 And I just, I also love the beach. 00:04:21.910 --> 00:04:24.024 So cottage, like I just, oh yeah. 00:04:24.029 --> 00:04:24.370 Yeah. 00:04:24.430 --> 00:04:24.910 So. 00:04:25.500 --> 00:04:26.339 Yeah, that. 00:04:26.339 --> 00:04:26.595 Love that. 00:04:26.600 --> 00:04:27.000 That is it. 00:04:27.899 --> 00:04:29.759 And listeners, don't worry if you didn't catch that. 00:04:29.759 --> 00:04:35.160 We will definitely go over how to contact Allison at the end and everything as always will be in the show notes. 00:04:35.550 --> 00:04:38.550 So wow, downsizing. 00:04:38.550 --> 00:04:38.790 Yeah. 00:04:38.790 --> 00:04:41.790 You basically split your living quarters in half. 00:04:42.509 --> 00:04:42.660 Yes. 00:04:42.670 --> 00:04:46.600 So did that definitely like really bring out your systems? 00:04:46.600 --> 00:04:50.860 Were you doing systems before that or was that kind of the spark? 00:04:51.730 --> 00:04:55.180 No, the spark probably happened when my kids were both under two. 00:04:55.180 --> 00:04:55.209 Okay. 00:04:55.420 --> 00:04:59.740 So, we downsized in 2021, the end of 20, 20, 21. 00:05:00.160 --> 00:05:02.980 And I had two kids under two at, in 2019. 00:05:02.980 --> 00:05:08.860 So before all that happened, I was starting to get overwhelmed with all the toys. 00:05:08.860 --> 00:05:12.500 We had two playrooms because we turned the dining room into a playroom. 00:05:12.500 --> 00:05:16.459 We had toys, like I wasn't cleaning up the toys'cause they were just dumped everywhere. 00:05:17.035 --> 00:05:20.245 And I was just completely overwhelmed and I was like, what in the world? 00:05:20.245 --> 00:05:21.985 That's gotta be different than this. 00:05:21.985 --> 00:05:25.225 I would just keep reorganizing'cause I'm really good at organizing. 00:05:25.615 --> 00:05:26.185 Organizing. 00:05:26.185 --> 00:05:31.824 I was like, oh, just keep reorganizing the same things over and over and it would just spill out and they would just dump out again and again. 00:05:32.185 --> 00:05:37.764 And so, I started learning about minimalism and I don't go like super far minimalism, right? 00:05:37.764 --> 00:05:48.865 Like we still have toys and all the things, but, then from there I started decluttering our own things and just learning how every time I let go of things, it was like a weight lifted. 00:05:48.865 --> 00:05:57.475 I was just like, oh, I feel better like inside too, because clutter can really cause a lot of chaos in your brain, even though Yeah. 00:05:57.595 --> 00:05:58.884 You know, you're seeing it. 00:05:59.305 --> 00:06:01.884 So, yeah, so that's kind of where I started. 00:06:01.915 --> 00:06:04.824 And then I just really loved talking about it. 00:06:04.824 --> 00:06:15.504 And then I was like, oh, I, after we downsized and I stopped working in the hospital system in my job as an occupational therapist, I was like, oh, I could do this as a business somehow. 00:06:15.504 --> 00:06:17.350 And so that's kind how it came about. 00:06:17.774 --> 00:06:18.134 Yeah. 00:06:19.154 --> 00:06:26.685 Isn't it so funny how like we continue to learn new things as we become parents and Oh, yeah. 00:06:27.254 --> 00:06:28.394 Yeah, it's insane. 00:06:28.464 --> 00:06:37.254 And really, I don't know, I think it's, I mean, my kids are three and eight months right now and I'm still learning things like constantly. 00:06:37.595 --> 00:06:44.045 And it's so great too because having guests like you and everyone else I've already had onto, it's most of. 00:06:44.644 --> 00:06:47.154 The guests are parents with older children than me. 00:06:47.154 --> 00:06:49.944 So I'm like, oh yes, please tell me my, your secrets. 00:06:49.944 --> 00:06:57.935 It's like being able to ask all these other moms who've been there to give me tips because my kids are still so young. 00:06:58.954 --> 00:07:06.495 And one of my favorite things is you were saying about reorganizing I got my daughter on this kind of like system where. 00:07:07.214 --> 00:07:14.245 We were at Costco and there was like these clear like shoebox tubs full of stuff that you can get, and it was a four pack. 00:07:14.245 --> 00:07:26.285 And so we got home and our business makes stickers, so I made a bunch of stickers of her favorite things that relate to her toys and she plastered them all over these clear bins. 00:07:26.435 --> 00:07:27.875 And so now she knows. 00:07:28.295 --> 00:07:29.225 Oh, I want Barbies. 00:07:29.225 --> 00:07:31.350 I go to the Barbie bin, like, I want Bluey. 00:07:31.350 --> 00:07:31.430 Yay. 00:07:31.504 --> 00:07:32.615 I go to the bluey bin. 00:07:33.035 --> 00:07:37.805 And then, so we have a simple rule that you can't have more than one bin out. 00:07:38.464 --> 00:07:41.975 And so like you go get the bluey bin and then you can play with all the bluey stuff. 00:07:41.975 --> 00:07:46.295 And then once you're done, you can put it back if you wanna get Barbie or dress up or anything like that. 00:07:46.665 --> 00:07:51.644 I've been lucky that she keeps everything in her three big boxes in her four little boxes. 00:07:52.125 --> 00:07:56.754 But now that we have, my little one Jasmine and she's starting to crawl around. 00:07:57.500 --> 00:08:00.850 Mikayla being a great big sister is always like, look at this. 00:08:00.850 --> 00:08:04.939 And she'll like, bring stuff over to the baby and then the baby like throws it. 00:08:04.939 --> 00:08:06.800 'cause that's the only thing she can do right now. 00:08:08.269 --> 00:08:14.120 And so we have balls everywhere, but at least I'm not stepping on bluey toys anymore. 00:08:14.779 --> 00:08:15.410 Yeah. 00:08:15.410 --> 00:08:21.290 I am so impressed that she's keeping that system like going so well that's, so awesome. 00:08:21.290 --> 00:08:22.670 You're teaching her so young. 00:08:23.089 --> 00:08:33.909 Yeah, it's so nice because before I was just like, Legos were being

stepped on Barbie, like heels were being stepped on and I was just like, Uhuh. 00:08:34.125 --> 00:08:40.965 If I get you a box and we can make as many stickers as you can fit on that box, you gotta put all the Barbie stuff in there. 00:08:41.424 --> 00:08:45.735 So my little version of organization is right there. 00:08:46.965 --> 00:08:49.764 You probably have good, insane systems. 00:08:49.825 --> 00:08:56.735 Because also working with moms with A DHD, you have to think a certain way, and approach it from a different direction, right. 00:08:57.205 --> 00:09:04.674 Yeah, I definitely customize it to each client because every client, even though majority of my clients do have a DH, adhd mm-hmm. 00:09:04.914 --> 00:09:09.144 They all think a little differently and they all like struggle with different things. 00:09:09.144 --> 00:09:15.595 So I very much customize it to what is gonna actually work for them in their home and what isn't working? 00:09:15.595 --> 00:09:17.634 Or what have they already tried that hasn't worked? 00:09:17.904 --> 00:09:22.674 And I customize okay, well so since these things haven't worked, let's try this. 00:09:22.914 --> 00:09:27.309 Or let's, you know, like, really figure it out for you. 00:09:27.539 --> 00:09:29.429 And yeah, I do have good systems in my house. 00:09:29.429 --> 00:09:30.629 My house isn't perfect. 00:09:30.629 --> 00:09:36.149 I don't teach, like your house has to be perfectly clean or it has to be all these matching bins or anything. 00:09:36.330 --> 00:09:36.450 Mm-hmm. 00:09:36.620 --> 00:09:40.690 I do love labels and I do love the clear bins, but I find that once. 00:09:40.940 --> 00:09:43.100 My clients have decluttered stuff. 00:09:43.100 --> 00:09:50.690 They find empty bins and they can reuse stuff that they already have to where it doesn't have to be like all matchy matchy unless that's what they want. 00:09:51.080 --> 00:09:53.269 And some want that, so that's fine too. 00:09:54.230 --> 00:09:54.860 Nice. 00:09:55.220 --> 00:10:07.620 And then so can I ask you had mentioned that you wanna help moms break free from this guilt of not having the perfect house or not having the perfect Instagram spaces. 00:10:07.620 --> 00:10:16.470 I know that our last couple episodes about mom guilt and like keeping up with that quote unquote Insta Mom perfection isn't just not suitable. 00:10:16.470 --> 00:10:18.750 Do you find that with your clients and your work. 00:10:19.274 --> 00:10:31.934 Yeah, because now there's organization shows, there's Pinterest perfect homes and the things you see on Instagram of it has to be looked this certain way and it's really not geared towards moms with A-D-H-D-I feel like. 00:10:32.434 --> 00:10:35.075 A lot of moms come to me and they feel like failures. 00:10:35.075 --> 00:10:40.835 I mean, even if you don't have a DHD, you already have that guilt feeling of like, I can't even keep up with my home. 00:10:40.835 --> 00:10:42.034 I feel like I'm a failure. 00:10:42.345

--> 00:10:44.384 Those kind of thoughts going through your head. 00:10:44.384 --> 00:10:47.855 And I definitely don't agree with how. 00:10:48.184 --> 00:10:55.264 It is put out there of how your home has to be perfect and it has to be mess free, especially when you have kids at home, like you're gonna have messes. 00:10:55.264 --> 00:11:01.894 It's all about making it, it's all about making it, like, let's make it simple, easier to clean up with less stuff. 00:11:01.955 --> 00:11:02.044 Mm-hmm. 00:11:03.195 --> 00:11:09.245 And make it work as a system that works for you and your family and your kids because it's not gonna be perfect. 00:11:09.274 --> 00:11:13.264 And even though you might feel shame right now, like. 00:11:13.565 --> 00:11:18.424 Let it go because I think there's so many moms struggling out there. 00:11:18.424 --> 00:11:26.235 And yeah, and just know that you're not alone and know that, just because you're having trouble keeping up with your home, it doesn't make you a failure. 00:11:26.235 --> 00:11:35.115 It doesn't make you inadequate or we have so much responsibilities put on us already as moms, like, we have to give ourselves a lot of grace. 00:11:35.774 --> 00:11:37.485 Yeah, 100%. 00:11:37.754 --> 00:11:38.865 I definitely agree with that. 00:11:38.865 --> 00:11:57.884 I feel like those topics too relate so much to the audience and the people who listen to this podcast where I feel like no matter who you are, no matter what topic we are giving yourself, grace is always like a great first step in understanding one yourself too, because. 00:11:58.245 --> 00:12:05.684 You just, you know, it's really, more, to me it's more about being present with your family and I think that you would agree, right? 00:12:06.434 --> 00:12:07.455 Oh yeah, for sure. 00:12:07.455 --> 00:12:17.945 And you don't wanna spend all your time cleaning up and cleaning and reorganizing and all that when you are not able to actually spend time with your family. 00:12:18.004 --> 00:12:19.504 So yeah, I totally agree with that. 00:12:19.914 --> 00:12:21.955 So, okay, so we love actionable steps here. 00:12:22.034 --> 00:12:26.534 What can I do first to like start chipping away? 00:12:27.254 --> 00:12:27.705 Yeah. 00:12:27.764 --> 00:12:28.514 Yeah, definitely. 00:12:28.845 --> 00:12:31.065 I always teach my clients to start small. 00:12:31.065 --> 00:12:31.154 Mm-hmm. 00:12:31.620 --> 00:12:37.365 So even when we're tackling like a whole playroom, for example, I will tell them start small. 00:12:37.365 --> 00:12:43.534 Like start with one bin, start with the stuffy category, and go through that. 00:12:43.595 --> 00:12:53.835 Break it down really small because when you start small, it sets you up for success and then you're able to be like, oh, okay, I finished this little space. 00:12:53.894 --> 00:12:55.875 I can move on to another small space. 00:12:55.875 --> 00:13:01.065 And then you make your way around the whole room and it doesn't even have to happen

in a whole day, like Right. 00:13:01.065 --> 00:13:01.965 I don't even teach that. 00:13:01.965 --> 00:13:13.534 Like, you start small, like little chunks of time that is feasible for you because you can do it when your kids are napping or when you have a few minutes to spare. 00:13:13.585 --> 00:13:15.024 Starting small is huge. 00:13:15.975 --> 00:13:16.544 Awesome. 00:13:16.754 --> 00:13:16.995 Yeah. 00:13:17.325 --> 00:13:23.465 It reminds me of this quote, I don't know whose Instagram I saw it off of, but it was a reel where it was like. 00:13:24.034 --> 00:13:28.955 If you do nothing else, remember this like, quote, it was like, don't put it down. 00:13:28.955 --> 00:13:29.855 Put it away. 00:13:29.914 --> 00:13:33.725 And so I always tell myself like, when I take off my jacket, okay, don't put it down. 00:13:33.875 --> 00:13:41.365 Put it away cause then that's one less thing that's just like sitting on my couch or one less thing that's on my bed. 00:13:41.695 --> 00:13:46.465 And so definitely starting small and figuring out, like you said. 00:13:47.139 --> 00:13:50.809 Something that you can do in a small period of time, will definitely help. 00:13:50.809 --> 00:13:52.940 Like for me, it's okay, I get home. 00:13:53.090 --> 00:13:54.080 I, where do I put my purse? 00:13:54.080 --> 00:13:55.100 Where do I normally put it? 00:13:55.100 --> 00:13:56.000 Where does it store? 00:13:56.029 --> 00:13:56.929 You know, that kind of thing. 00:13:57.320 --> 00:13:59.870 And so I always think in my head about that Instagram reel. 00:13:59.870 --> 00:14:01.190 It's like, don't put it down. 00:14:01.250 --> 00:14:01.850 Put it away. 00:14:01.850 --> 00:14:01.909 I. 00:14:03.200 --> 00:14:04.039 I love that. 00:14:04.039 --> 00:14:05.059 That's a great reminder. 00:14:05.059 --> 00:14:07.070 'cause I'm always like, everything has a home. 00:14:07.279 --> 00:14:07.370 Mm-hmm. 00:14:07.610 --> 00:14:12.500 And sometimes that overwhelms people, but I'm like literally like everything should have a place. 00:14:12.500 --> 00:14:15.889 It goes back to so you know where it is and you know where it goes. 00:14:16.100 --> 00:14:20.539 So like you said, your purse, it probably goes on the same hook or goes in the same spot. 00:14:20.754 --> 00:14:31.884 When you come in the door, like every time, so like if you know where it goes, you can find it again and you're not searching the whole house for the purse or the cup or whatever the thing is because you know where it belongs. 00:14:31.884 --> 00:14:33.534 So I totally agree with that too. 00:14:34.195 --> 00:14:37.095 Yeah, we've had to, so we've cheated at our house. 00:14:37.095 --> 00:14:42.345 So my daughter, again, still three, she gets the concept that her shoes gonna a certain place, right? 00:14:42.345 --> 00:14:43.485 Her shoes gonna a certain place. 00:14:43.485 --> 00:14:48.134 She has a little small hook for her jacket, but she'll switch out which backpack she wants to use. 00:14:48.595 --> 00:14:57.715 And so whenever she starts favoring a certain backpack, we stick an air tag in it because she'll like take it to the room or she'll take it to another part of the house. 00:14:57.774 --> 00:15:03.504 And so what we do is like when she's like freaking out and she can't find it, we'll like first prompt her to retrace her steps. 00:15:03.504 --> 00:15:03.684 Okay. 00:15:03.684 --> 00:15:04.735 Where was the last time you had it? 00:15:04.735 --> 00:15:05.815 Like try to teach her like. 00:15:06.159 --> 00:15:14.620 To remember where things are, but then if she really can't find it, we just start like beeping it through the air tag and we're like, okay, now we're playing hide and go seat. 00:15:14.620 --> 00:15:15.460 Go find it. 00:15:15.460 --> 00:15:18.700 And she'll like search each room until she finds the beeps. 00:15:19.120 --> 00:15:23.259 And then you're like, once she's over and I'm like, she hasn't used the Mickey backpack in like a week. 00:15:23.259 --> 00:15:25.360 Okay, let's switch it to the yellow backpack. 00:15:25.480 --> 00:15:28.720 And so yeah, that's our little cheat for that. 00:15:28.720 --> 00:15:29.679 But you're so right. 00:15:29.679 --> 00:15:30.250 They're smart. 00:15:30.610 --> 00:15:49.450 Yeah, if we find a home for stuff, it definitely helps because even when I see it with myself and my toddler, it's like I can just say, go put your shoes and socks on, and she knows exactly which box by the door has her specific shoes and socks, and then she even has memorized where mommy's shoes go. 00:15:49.450 --> 00:15:51.940 So she'll like go and she'll be like, mommy, I got your tennis shoes. 00:15:52.330 --> 00:15:53.919 And I'm like, it's raining. 00:15:53.919 --> 00:15:56.169 And she'll like run back and she goes, I got your rain boots. 00:15:56.169 --> 00:15:57.730 And I'm like, awesome. 00:15:58.190 --> 00:16:15.059 She's a big helper, big, big helper ever since to having the little one, it was so nice to see her naturally step into the role because me and my husband being older siblings as well, we were like, okay, we don't necessarily wanna be like, now you have to help us. 00:16:16.019 --> 00:16:29.649 A little off topic, but she naturally stepped into that and during that time too, I felt like she was picking up a lot more of these systems because we were like, okay, the baby bottle's gotta go in the sink and they have to go certain here. 00:16:30.009 --> 00:16:39.879 And so we were like being intentional on where the baby stuff was going because packing a diaper bag, you wanna know where like the spoons and the baby food and the milk and all that is, you know. 00:16:40.330 --> 00:16:46.509 So I think she picked up a lot of that, like the systems that we had for the newborn and was kind of like. 00:16:46.855 --> 00:16:48.384 Making her own systems too. 00:16:48.384 --> 00:16:49.375 Like where's my shoes? 00:16:49.375 --> 00:16:50.245 And I'm like, cool. 00:16:50.825 --> 00:16:52.235 We made it really

easy though. 00:16:52.235 --> 00:16:59.345 Like all of our stuff is, like, all our boxes are black for our shoes so that, you know, our messy shoes can go inside and nobody sees them. 00:16:59.674 --> 00:17:02.919 Yeah, that's, but for hers, we intentionally made them like it's green polka dot. 00:17:03.250 --> 00:17:06.130 So she knows, to teach her, this is your like, fun box. 00:17:06.130 --> 00:17:07.299 This is where your shoes go. 00:17:07.720 --> 00:17:10.359 Oh, she sounds like she's really good with like routines. 00:17:10.359 --> 00:17:15.000 Like she probably does really well with like checklists or getting through a routine too. 00:17:15.539 --> 00:17:18.660 Oh, she loves holding the grocery shopping list. 00:17:18.660 --> 00:17:18.930 Mm-hmm. 00:17:19.170 --> 00:17:19.500 You know? 00:17:19.859 --> 00:17:26.670 Even though most of the time me and my husband go to the store without a list or it's like a text message string of like me and him being like, we need eggs. 00:17:26.670 --> 00:17:27.480 Oh, we need this. 00:17:27.480 --> 00:17:34.529 You know, whoever's at the store, she'll like, carry a piece of paper that she scribbles on and she'll be like, we need five eggs. 00:17:34.529 --> 00:17:35.174 And I'm like, oh. 00:17:35.490 --> 00:17:36.119 Oh, okay. 00:17:36.119 --> 00:17:36.809 Five. 00:17:37.890 --> 00:17:42.950 And it's so funny, we had to teach her that they, they come in bigger sets because she goes, no, we just need five. 00:17:42.950 --> 00:17:45.380 And she'll try to open the box and just take five. 00:17:45.470 --> 00:17:45.890 Oh no. 00:17:45.890 --> 00:17:46.609 At the store. 00:17:48.380 --> 00:17:52.369 But yeah, so I, I love seeing her move into these systems. 00:17:52.369 --> 00:18:06.420 So I think it's really also a little off topic, but it's really important that when us as parents have systems, we're basically modeling that for our children as well and setting them up to hopefully inherent good systems. 00:18:06.430 --> 00:18:06.789 Yeah. 00:18:06.789 --> 00:18:09.819 And I think starting them out young is awesome, but mm-hmm. 00:18:10.059 --> 00:18:25.910 Even if you haven't started your kids out young, learning about like, where things ha are homed or decluttering or, learning to like let go of items, like you can still start that at a later age too, and it, it can still be really successful for them. 00:18:26.345 --> 00:18:26.734 Yeah. 00:18:27.275 --> 00:18:27.575 Okay. 00:18:27.575 --> 00:18:40.224 So since we started talking about kids, so I'm gonna ask, what do you find is your favorite and or your hardest part about being a parent and now a business owner since you've left Occupational therapy? 00:18:41.424 --> 00:18:41.934 Yeah. 00:18:41.940 --> 00:18:42.220 Let's see. 00:18:42.595 --> 00:18:43.164 Hmm. 00:18:43.345 --> 00:18:46.525 My hardest probably just. 00:18:47.230 --> 00:18:51.789 Sometimes I have trouble like stopping, like balancing a little bit. 00:18:51.849 --> 00:18:51.940 Mm-hmm. 00:18:52.180 --> 00:18:59.609 Because I love what I do so much and you know, my clients will check in with me or I'll wanna check in with them and see how things are going. 00:18:59.849 --> 00:19:04.750 So I try to do most of my business stuff, when they're in school. 00:19:04.940 --> 00:19:12.049 Now luckily they're both in elementary school, so I have a good chunk of time, but sometimes, you know, something will come up or I'll be like. 00:19:12.200 --> 00:19:15.025 Or I'll think of something, I'm like, oh, I wanna go do this, like right now. 00:19:15.025 --> 00:19:18.295 So sometimes trying to set those BI guess it's more boundaries. 00:19:18.474 --> 00:19:25.404 Setting a better boundary is challenging for me at times because I'm like, I'm gonna forget if I don't do it right now. 00:19:25.404 --> 00:19:30.884 Or, or I'm like, hyperfocused on a project and I'm like, I really just wanna get this part done. 00:19:30.884 --> 00:19:31.184 You know? 00:19:31.184 --> 00:19:31.634 Or Yeah. 00:19:31.845 --> 00:19:34.724 So I would say the boundary part is challenging for me. 00:19:35.005 --> 00:19:43.615 So I've been really trying this year to like when they're home and not watching tv, like, I'm present, I'm with them, you know? 00:19:43.795 --> 00:19:43.914 Mm-hmm. 00:19:44.365 --> 00:19:46.565 So that's probably the challenging part. 00:19:46.625 --> 00:19:47.194 That's fair. 00:19:47.285 --> 00:19:51.785 I feel like that's probably the most relatable to everyone. 00:19:51.785 --> 00:19:52.984 It's just like, yeah. 00:19:53.045 --> 00:19:58.825 When does business stop and like family and the ebb and flow of it too. 00:19:58.825 --> 00:20:05.805 Like some days, you know, like if a project's due some days it's like mostly business and then other days with birthdays, always family more? 00:20:05.855 --> 00:20:05.914 Yeah. 00:20:05.914 --> 00:20:06.634 That kind of thing. 00:20:07.085 --> 00:20:09.755 And yeah, I would definitely agree. 00:20:09.765 --> 00:20:10.125 Okay. 00:20:10.365 --> 00:20:15.404 So do you, in that, do you have a chaotic moment for us? 00:20:15.404 --> 00:20:18.615 Because, you know, we're caffe chaos, we need a little chaos. 00:20:19.184 --> 00:20:20.565 Um, we need a little tea. 00:20:21.855 --> 00:20:24.494 Or coffee, I guess chaotic moment. 00:20:24.494 --> 00:20:28.964 As in like with parenting and business or just in general? 00:20:29.204 --> 00:20:30.045 Just in general. 00:20:30.045 --> 00:20:34.894 Anything that, you know, maybe something that taught you a life lesson or something that you just think is funny and you wanna share. 00:20:36.339 --> 00:20:36.420 Hmm. 00:20:38.410 --> 00:20:42.305 Well, I mean the downsizing journey was a little chaotic, like I bet. 00:20:42.365 --> 00:20:42.545 Yeah. 00:20:42.545 --> 00:20:43.744 Deciding like. 00:20:44.390 --> 00:20:47.180 What to keep and how to get rid of things. 00:20:47.210 --> 00:20:49.460 'cause we probably got rid of half of our stuff. 00:20:49.789 --> 00:20:49.880

Yeah. 00:20:49.910 --> 00:20:51.829 Furniture, like tons of things. 00:20:52.109 --> 00:21:00.369 Like that journey and then just, it feeling chaotic'cause the boxes and the eruptions with trying to get it done and stuff. 00:21:00.369 --> 00:21:03.210 So it was chaotic but it was good because it. 00:21:03.690 --> 00:21:05.265 Taught me a lot of like mm-hmm. 00:21:05.369 --> 00:21:10.769 What we really needed and what we really value and what really doesn't matter as much. 00:21:10.900 --> 00:21:16.349 So Allison, so if somebody is like, listening and they're like, Ooh, okay, tell me a little bit more. 00:21:16.500 --> 00:21:21.599 Can you tell us a little bit more about like, what you do, how you work with your clients, like kind of the process. 00:21:22.650 --> 00:21:33.079 Since I work with mostly A DHD moms, I very much keep my programs like short term because I feel like, with a DHD you can lose motivation. 00:21:33.079 --> 00:21:38.904 You get in just a lot of, making too many decisions for too prolonged time, right? 00:21:38.904 --> 00:21:39.984 It's just a lot. 00:21:40.345 --> 00:21:53.924 So, I have like a seven day a DHD Home Reset program where we focus on just like a small space and then we work on mostly on like home tasks and getting you like a system in your home, like a quick fix for those seven days. 00:21:54.164 --> 00:21:55.545 Um, my main program is. 00:21:55.785 --> 00:21:58.005 Thir, uh, my 30 day room makeover. 00:21:58.005 --> 00:22:06.509 So 30 days we tackle one room, we go from the decluttering to organizing to more of a functional design for your mm-hmm. 00:22:06.595 --> 00:22:07.305 For that room. 00:22:07.484 --> 00:22:20.914 So I actually will mock up a floor plan of your space and give you a visual with all the exact measurements and we can move furniture around and make it like to where it flows and functions better for you and your family for that room. 00:22:20.914 --> 00:22:21.005 Mm-hmm. 00:22:22.194 --> 00:22:25.315 And I have a workbook we get on calls together. 00:22:25.414 --> 00:22:30.535 Lots of high touch with me, texting access,'cause I do everything virtually. 00:22:30.535 --> 00:22:37.545 So you would send me pictures and, you would work through that space in any struggles you're having in that space. 00:22:38.325 --> 00:22:39.105 That's so cool. 00:22:39.154 --> 00:22:46.924 I guess I never thought of it like, because you do organization that I didn't think that you would like have like a moving furniture layout. 00:22:46.924 --> 00:22:49.565 I think that's so cool that it's like all encompassing. 00:22:49.595 --> 00:22:52.144 'cause you are right the way a room flows. 00:22:52.684 --> 00:22:53.375 Definitely. 00:22:53.375 --> 00:22:58.505 You know, you don't wanna get to those pinch points in traffic, that kind of block, you know. 00:22:59.359 --> 00:23:06.585 I'm trying to think of what, like HGTV would say it was, but you know, the the natural like flow, like, oh, it's easy access or whatever. 00:23:06.585 --> 00:23:06.674 Mm-hmm. 00:23:06.914 --> 00:23:08.355 They would say, but yeah. 00:23:08.355 --> 00:23:09.075 That's interesting. 00:23:09.075 --> 00:23:11.055 'cause I didn't even think of like that would be a thing. 00:23:11.055 --> 00:23:12.825 So that's really cool that you offer that. 00:23:13.125 --> 00:23:13.575 Yeah. 00:23:13.575 --> 00:23:46.384 I like to have that as part of the roommate ever just because, I found that a lot of my clients, they do, the way they have the room set up with certain furniture, it's like something's blocking something or it's not quite fitting right, or it's not functional, like you can't get to it or, so it just made sense to have, and so it's really fun for me to create that little room and give the client a visual of yeah, what it can actually look like and give some different options, and just where it flows and functions better for them. 00:23:46.714 --> 00:23:47.315 Love that. 00:23:47.464 --> 00:23:48.575 Oh my God, that's so awesome. 00:23:48.694 --> 00:23:49.115 Okay. 00:23:49.684 --> 00:23:50.194 Perfect. 00:23:50.194 --> 00:23:53.795 Do you have any final thoughts for our listeners? 00:23:55.005 --> 00:23:55.184 Just. 00:23:56.329 --> 00:23:59.569 You know, back to the guilt and the shame that you might be feeling. 00:23:59.569 --> 00:24:00.890 Just know you're not alone. 00:24:01.220 --> 00:24:04.369 That it, the goal is not perfection in your home. 00:24:04.369 --> 00:24:11.059 And to have like, no messes at all or to have everything clean at one time, like, that's just not possible for most people. 00:24:11.059 --> 00:24:17.599 And what you see out there online and on shows is not always realistic to how we live our lives. 00:24:17.599 --> 00:24:24.470 So just to, you know, give yourself more grace and, that I'm here for you if you need support in your home. 00:24:25.190 --> 00:24:25.640 Awesome. 00:24:25.670 --> 00:24:29.150 Speaking of being there for you, how can people find you connect with you? 00:24:29.150 --> 00:24:30.230 Where are you at? 00:24:30.859 --> 00:24:37.819 Yeah, so, calm Cottage Coaching, if you look that up anywhere, I'm mostly active on Instagram and Threads. 00:24:37.910 --> 00:24:38.000 Mm-hmm. 00:24:38.369 --> 00:24:41.700 But my website, you can put it in the show notes, it's just Yeah. 00:24:41.700 --> 00:24:44.769 WW dot, calm cottage coaching.com. 00:24:45.130 --> 00:24:55.930 I do offer a free a curiosity call where you can just jump on a call with me and we can chat through like your struggles in your home and what your vision is and what your needs are and such too. 00:24:56.000 --> 00:24:59.150 So yeah, listeners, these will definitely be in the show notes. 00:24:59.460 --> 00:25:01.680 Well, thank you for joining us, Allison. 00:25:01.769 --> 00:25:03.480 This was really fun. 00:25:03.819 --> 00:25:04.779 Thank you for having me. 00:25:04.990 --> 00:25:05.470 You're welcome. 00:25:05.470 --> 00:25:05.934 I really enjoyed it. 00:25:07.400 --> 00:25:10.220 That's a wrap on another episode of Caffeinated Chaos. 00:25:10.279 --> 00:25:18.079 I hope you're leaving with a little more clarity, a lot more inspiration, and maybe even an extra shot of motivation. 00:25:18.440 --> 00:25:21.289 If you love today's episode, don't forget to follow us. 00:25:21.289 --> 00:25:27.230 Leave a review and share it with a friend who could use just a little chaos and caffeine in their life. 00:25:27.319 --> 00:25:29.839 Until next time, keep embracing the mess. 00:25:29.839 --> 00:25:32.630 Chase your dreams and make magic happen. 00:25:32.904 --> 00:25:35.694 One caffeinated, chaotic moment at a time. 00:25:36.204 --> 00:25:37.644 I will see you all soon. 00:25:38.184 --> 00:25:38.605 Bye now.