BLAME GAME BUFFOONERY Everybody's Got an Excuse. Who's Got a Plan?: täielik transkriptsioon

to put it in context of how something could affect you and it didn't even directly happen to you? 00:04:49.920 --> 00:04:50.240 Okay. 00:04:51.519 --> 00:05:00.959 The question that I'm referring to that every doctor and or dentist asks you, they are on the intake form, and I believe this is in any country you go to on the intake form. 00:05:01.199 --> 00:05:02.959 You know what they ask you, family? 00:05:03.600 --> 00:05:08.079 Does anybody in your family have a history of? 00:05:09.920 --> 00:05:10.800 Not about you. 00:05:10.879 --> 00:05:12.079 They're not asking about you. 00:05:12.240 --> 00:05:18.319 They're asking about does anyone in your family, and then they say, have a history of. 00:05:20.319 --> 00:05:22.800 Now, what does that have to do with you? 00:05:23.519 --> 00:05:29.759 You weren't born back in 1898, you weren't born in 1905, 25, 35, 45, right? 00:05:30.399 --> 00:05:36.000 Nine times out of 10, you were Gen X, possibly a boomer, a millennial, right? 00:05:36.720 --> 00:05:38.639 So you weren't born back then when Susan B. 00:05:38.800 --> 00:05:41.199 Anthony and all them folks was running around doing their thing? 00:05:42.000 --> 00:05:44.240 Okay, so why are they asking? 00:05:44.480 --> 00:05:48.639 Does anybody in my family have a history of well? 00:05:48.720 --> 00:06:12.399 Let me explain it to you, family, because some things, some things are passed down through your bloodline, through your your uh gene, and through your family lineage, and it goes far beyond your historical or your medical records. 00:06:13.680 --> 00:06:21.680 So to be specific, they ask you does anybody in your family have a history of heart disease, all of these different things. 00:06:21.839 --> 00:06:23.519 Do you know why, family? 00:06:23.839 --> 00:06:34.639 Because they have come to find out, I believe it's a scientific finding because it wouldn't be on every darn medical intake form if it wasn't, if they didn't have science to back it up. 00:06:34.879 --> 00:06:44.160 But family, there are certain things that we are prone to, but not just in the medical, there's certain things that were passed down, certain mindsets that were passed down. 00:06:44.879 --> 00:06:46.480 And guess what, family? 00:06:46.800 --> 00:06:49.439 Some of us we pick up those traumas. 00:06:49.839 --> 00:06:51.040 We pick up those traumas. 00:06:51.360 --> 00:06:55.120 Have you ever seen a family that had uh alcoholism in it? 00:06:55.360 --> 00:06:58.639 Which is multiple generations had a problem with alcoholism. 00:06:59.600 --> 00:07:00.879 You know my family? 00:07:01.040 --> 00:07:01.519 Trauma. 00:07:01.680 --> 00:07:09.439 Have you ever have you ever experienced a family where nobody ever tried to run off or not even run off? 00:07:09.519 --> 00:07:13.040 They never tried to explore out past their hometown. 00:07:13.759 --> 00:07:14.160 Right? 00:07:14.319 --> 00:07:17.199 You're like, what you you meet up, you're like, yo, man, you're so smart. 00:07:17.360 --> 00:07:18.160 Girl, you so smart. 00:07:18.240 --> 00:07:20.800 Why don't you go to college in LA or in Dubai? 00:07:20.879 --> 00:07:22.800 Or man, you got all these scholarships? 00:07:22.879 --> 00:07:25.920 And all of a sudden they're like, No, you know, that's not for me. 00:07:26.079 --> 00:07:28.800 You know, the world is this and that, and people are this and that. 00:07:28.959 --> 00:07:31.360 Do you know why they respond that way? 00:07:32.399 --> 00:07:39.680 Have you ever met people where you knew they were so smart, but they're not doing anything productive with their life? 00:07:40.399 --> 00:07:43.439 They're like, uh no, people like me don't, we don't do that. 00:07:43.600 --> 00:07:45.519 People like me, we can't do that. 00:07:46.399 --> 00:07:48.160 Do you understand why? 00:07:48.480 --> 00:07:50.480 If you don't, let me tell you. 00:07:50.800 --> 00:07:58.079 Over generations, and this is specifically for today, this really will hit home with many black sheep, my me as well, okay. 00:07:58.319 --> 00:08:07.199 Many black sheep, we come from very troubling, impoverished, very humble beginnings. 00:08:07.600 --> 00:08:09.759 Okay, so and I and I'll just take myself. 00:08:09.839 --> 00:08:18.720 So a lot of you may or may not know, I'm come from an environment where there was a lot of gang activity, Italian gangs, Mexican gangs, as well as black gangs. 00:08:18.959 --> 00:08:27.920 Okay, and now you fast forward to the day, you hear people talking about oh, all of these different gangs in this area, because it's mainly now, it's mainly all African-American or black gangs, okay? 00:08:28.000 --> 00:08:30.560 You and then you got your Mexican gangs or your Latino gangs, okay? 00:08:30.800 --> 00:08:31.839 But guess what? 00:08:32.159 --> 00:08:36.240 The city started off with the Italian games, okay? 00:08:36.399 --> 00:08:38.960 This was the hometown of Al Capone. 00:08:40.000 --> 00:08:46.240 So when you look at this particular city, you might ask yourself, dang, you might say, Oh, it's so much gang activity, but guess what? 00:08:46.399 --> 00:08:49.279 It was a culture, it was passed down. 00:08:50.639 --> 00:08:52.799 But let's take it, even make it even more personal. 00:08:52.960 --> 00:09:05.919 Sometimes you get families, and different things have happened to them, and they might meet a group of people, whether they be yellow, purple, blue, whatever ethnic background they are, and they instantly will tell you, We can't trust them people. 00:09:06.159 --> 00:09:09.919 You know, they will steal, they will do this, they will do that. 00:09:12.080 --> 00:09:15.200 They will always write that's how they came up. 00:09:15.440 --> 00:09:20.240 So, generation after generation, you get people from this same bloodline. 00:09:20.399 --> 00:09:29.919 Here it is, 2037, you will get people from this same bloodline that have the same mentality of somebody because people pass down these things to you. 00:09:30.080 -->

00:09:32.080 Now, here's what you must understand, family. 00:09:32.240 --> 00:09:38.639 Let's be clear there was a lot of horrific things done to a lot of people throughout history. 00:09:38.799 --> 00:09:40.399 Let's be clear, y'all. 00:09:40.720 --> 00:09:52.240 To be honest with you, family, a lot of our families that we probably will never meet, no, on planet Earth, nobody makes it out without experiencing trauma of some kind within their family lineage. 00:09:52.320 --> 00:09:52.960 Let's be clear. 00:09:53.039 --> 00:09:54.399 And don't get me wrong, family. 00:09:54.559 --> 00:09:57.440 Some people have faced more than others. 00:09:57.919 --> 00:10:02.799 They have, they really have faced way more than others. 00:10:04.080 --> 00:10:06.720 But here's where the conversation changes. 00:10:07.279 --> 00:10:12.159 You can be absolutely right about who caused the damage, who did what. 00:10:12.559 --> 00:10:17.039 I don't care if we're going back a thousand years, you can be so you can be right about all of it. 00:10:17.600 --> 00:10:18.480 But guess what? 00:10:18.720 --> 00:10:21.759 You still need a plan for what happens next. 00:10:21.919 --> 00:10:28.960 You still need a plan for your recovery, for your next level, for your next chapter, for the next generation. 00:10:29.120 --> 00:10:29.679 Think about it. 00:10:29.840 --> 00:10:36.159 If somebody crashes into your car, you didn't cause the accident, you have every right to be upset. 00:10:36.240 --> 00:10:40.960 You may need to file a claim, document what happened, seek compensation, and get legal help. 00:10:41.120 --> 00:10:47.440 But imagine leaving your damaged car sitting in front, sitting on the road for six months because you're still arguing about whose fault it was. 00:10:47.759 --> 00:10:52.799 At some point, you're gonna need transportation, you need a solution, and that's the distinction. 00:10:52.960 --> 00:10:57.919 See, assigning blame, it can help us understand what happened and hold the right people accountable. 00:10:58.000 --> 00:10:59.360 But you know what, family? 00:10:59.519 --> 00:11:02.799 But the blame alone does not repair the damage. 00:11:03.519 --> 00:11:09.440 See, knowing who's responsible for the problem is not the same as knowing how you're going to solve it. 00:11:09.840 --> 00:11:12.159 See, family, there's been a lot of grievances that you have. 00:11:12.240 --> 00:11:13.679 I'm not, let me tell you something, family. 00:11:13.759 --> 00:11:19.360 I'm not here to tell you and to minimize nothing that you and your family have gone through. 00:11:19.519 --> 00:11:22.639 When I look through my own history, family, I love history, okay? 00:11:22.799 --> 00:11:23.440 I love all of it. 00:11:23.519 --> 00:11:26.639 I've read history about every continent, every continent. 00:11:26.799 --> 00:11:32.399 I used to be in love with the Tower of London, just reading about how these queens ran, got broke loose, and still got executed. 00:11:32.480 --> 00:11:36.559 And I know it's kind of morbid, but it, you know, I was really into history. 00:11:36.879 --> 00:11:40.159 And even my own history is so bloody and horrible. 00:11:40.320 --> 00:11:44.720 Where people died and could not even read because of their color, their skin is so crazy. 00:11:44.879 --> 00:11:47.679 People got hung and burned alive, just all kinds of stuff. 00:11:47.759 --> 00:11:49.279 And I'm sure you have some too. 00:11:49.440 --> 00:12:03.120 I was thinking about um some of the Irish people, how they went through the potato famine, and the Indian people, how they went through that moment of starvation, and they were talking about how the king of England or how the England uh kingdom uh how they were the cause of some of these things. 00:12:04.240 --> 00:12:08.080 Then we already know Africa has suffered, suffered so so much. 00:12:08.799 --> 00:12:11.519 Then we look at China, their people. 00:12:11.759 --> 00:12:16.480 Even today, a lot of Chinese people say they don't even hardly have human rights there, right? 00:12:17.039 --> 00:12:18.240 But guess what? 00:12:18.399 --> 00:12:22.399 The thing about it is, family, it is jacked up, it is fucked up. 00:12:22.480 --> 00:12:30.799 We can just call it for what it is, it's messed up, it's messed up, and you get a lot of people, they never want to fess up, they want to brush it on the road. 00:12:30.879 --> 00:12:31.840 You know what they tell you, family? 00:12:32.000 --> 00:12:33.120 Oh, get over it. 00:12:33.360 --> 00:12:34.960 Oh, you just need to get over it. 00:12:35.200 --> 00:12:43.360 But what people don't realize is when something has been a generational thing and it becomes trauma, you can't just get over it. 00:12:43.519 --> 00:12:46.000 This is why we have things called PTSD. 00:12:46.159 --> 00:12:47.360 A soldier can go to war. 00:12:47.440 --> 00:12:48.799 The war could have been 10 years ago. 00:12:48.960 --> 00:12:56.639 We you can look it up on YouTube right now, and they'll hear a loud boom and they'll think they're right back on the battleground. 00:12:57.200 --> 00:13:00.480 Okay, so it's not a fact of just, oh, just get over it. 00:13:00.639 --> 00:13:01.279 Get over it. 00:13:01.519 --> 00:13:06.720 No, because if that was the case, the doctor would never ask you about your history. 00:13:06.879 --> 00:13:09.279 Your history would be irrelevant, okay? 00:13:09.440 --> 00:13:14.720 But like we're saying, family, knowing who's responsible is not the same as knowing how to solve it. 00:13:14.799 --> 00:13:22.799 And when you get to a place in your life where you're about to level up no matter what, you don't care what happened in the future, you don't care what they call you, they can call you everything except the child of God. 00:13:22.960 --> 00:13:23.919 You don't care. 00:13:24.080 --> 00:13:25.279 You know why you don't care? 00:13:25.440 --> 00:13:28.320 Because you have now accepted responsibility to level up, number one. 00:13:28.399 -->

00:13:32.720 Number two, you understand that somebody's opinions of you, it doesn't matter. 00:13:32.960 --> 00:13:37.759 Yeah, words may hurt, things that people do, we're not gonna sit here and make it seem like we're not human. 00:13:37.919 --> 00:13:42.799 Yes, certain times you hear about different things that's going on, and it's sad, family. 00:13:43.039 --> 00:13:51.840 You it's so much that you could be depressed about, especially when you're reading about the human uh uh species, how we do each other all over the planet, and we try to create different social classes. 00:13:51.919 --> 00:13:53.360 And here, don't get me wrong, family. 00:13:53.440 --> 00:13:53.759 I get it. 00:13:53.840 --> 00:14:07.039 If you contribute more, you know, obviously you're gonna get different uh treatment and things like this, but it is sad how families or excuse me, how human beings has decided to put other human beings in different classes just because of the color of their skin. 00:14:07.200 --> 00:14:10.720 Because at the end of the day, family, nobody makes it out alive. 00:14:11.519 --> 00:14:13.039 Nobody, do you hear me? 00:14:13.200 --> 00:14:15.039 Nobody makes it out alive, family. 00:14:15.120 --> 00:14:21.759 This is why I don't from this day forward, I don't ever want you to get into any conversations about any type of races, anything. 00:14:22.000 --> 00:14:22.799 You know why? 00:14:23.039 --> 00:14:29.200 Because anytime you hear somebody trying to make some racist joke or whatever, family, they are stupid. 00:14:29.759 --> 00:14:33.279 They are, I'm talking about subterrain level ignorance. 00:14:33.360 --> 00:14:34.399 Do you know why, family? 00:14:34.559 --> 00:14:36.879 Because we all nobody makes it out alive. 00:14:37.120 --> 00:14:38.399 Everybody got a date. 00:14:38.559 --> 00:14:43.519 We're all here on rent at time, and people can argue about oh, this, these people do this, these people do that. 00:14:43.600 --> 00:14:46.480 They can argue about it until they face turn blue. 00:14:46.720 --> 00:14:47.360 Guess what? 00:14:47.600 --> 00:14:50.240 We still all have a checkout date. 00:14:50.559 --> 00:14:51.759 Case closed. 00:14:51.919 --> 00:14:53.919 Nobody's better than nobody else. 00:14:54.080 --> 00:14:56.480 Sure, we got some people that do a lot of stupid stuff. 00:14:56.639 --> 00:14:58.559 Nobody record is clean. 00:14:59.039 --> 00:15:02.240 You can pick out any person on earth, any group of people on earth. 00:15:02.320 --> 00:15:03.279 I don't care where they at. 00:15:03.440 --> 00:15:11.440 I don't care if they read the Bible, the Quran, I don't care if they read the tablets of thought, I don't care what they read all day long. 00:15:11.600 --> 00:15:12.480 Guess what? 00:15:12.799 --> 00:15:15.200 Nobody makes it out alive. 00:15:15.840 --> 00:15:19.600 It's plenty of dirt to shovel around if we want to just play the blame game. 00:15:19.840 --> 00:15:28.320 But see what you must understand though, family, is just

because people want to try to play the blame game, you can let them do that, family, but that don't mean they're gonna resolve it. 00:15:28.480 --> 00:15:34.960 Some people spend their whole life playing the blame game, and family, I'm not saying that some people should not be held accountable for the crap they did. 00:15:35.039 --> 00:15:36.000 That's not what I'm saying. 00:15:36.080 --> 00:15:47.120 But are you gonna stop your life from elevating, waiting on somebody to say, I'm sorry, or to say, I was wrong, or we owe you? 00:15:47.679 --> 00:15:49.919 No, hell to the no. 00:15:51.120 --> 00:15:57.519 So, because I know number one, I understand who's responsible for it, but I know I'm the only person that can solve it. 00:15:57.600 --> 00:16:01.759 And sometimes the solution includes getting help, whether it be physical help or mental help. 00:16:01.919 --> 00:16:07.039 Sometimes it is including confronting somebody, sometimes you need to have you need to squash it out and see what's going on. 00:16:07.200 --> 00:16:12.159 Sometimes it means you need to leave a situation, and sometimes it includes changing your own behavior. 00:16:12.399 --> 00:16:15.759 But at the end of the day, family, something has to move. 00:16:16.000 --> 00:16:20.799 You have to decide, you know what, this wasn't my fault, but my recovery is my fault. 00:16:21.039 --> 00:16:28.399 My recovery is my responsibility because if not, I'm putting all the power in the hands of another human being for my well-being. 00:16:28.639 --> 00:16:29.919 I don't think so, family. 00:16:30.080 --> 00:16:33.200 Truth number two, excuses can become a comfort zone. 00:16:33.279 --> 00:16:35.360 Now, let's talk about the part that gets uncomfortable. 00:16:35.519 --> 00:16:51.039 Sometimes people use blame to protect themselves from accountability because as long as the problem is always somebody else, they never have to examine their own decisions, they don't have to admit that they were unprepared, that they ignored warning signs, they don't have to admit that they made a promise and didn't follow through. 00:16:51.200 --> 00:16:54.879 And listen, self-examination, family, it can steam. 00:16:55.120 --> 00:16:56.320 It can steam. 00:16:56.480 --> 00:17:03.200 Nobody enjoys realizing that they have played a part in their own disappointment, their own decline. 00:17:04.079 --> 00:17:05.759 But you know what's worse, family? 00:17:05.920 --> 00:17:11.039 Making the same mistake for another 10 years because your ego won't let you learn from it. 00:17:11.440 --> 00:17:13.839 Your ego won't let you learn from it, family. 00:17:13.920 --> 00:17:14.559 That's expensive. 00:17:14.640 --> 00:17:18.960 Here's an example: imagine somebody who keeps missing deadlines at work, their manager brings it up. 00:17:19.119 --> 00:17:26.079 Instead of looking at their workload, asking for support, or improving their time management, they immediately decide the manager is picking on them and get an attitude. 00:17:26.319 --> 00:17:29.119 Now it's possible that the manager is unfair. 00:17:29.279 --> 00:17:32.720 But here's the question: were the deadlines missed? 00:17:33.119 --> 00:17:34.400 Were the deadlines missed? 00:17:34.480 --> 00:17:37.279 Because if they were missed, we still have something to address. 00:17:37.440 --> 00:17:39.039 And two things can be true. 00:17:39.279 --> 00:17:42.880 Your manager can communicate poorly and you still need to improve on your performance. 00:17:42.960 --> 00:17:44.480 That's maturity, family. 00:17:44.640 --> 00:17:46.640 That's where some people lose the plot. 00:17:46.720 --> 00:17:49.759 They think admitting they made a mistake means the other person wins. 00:17:50.000 --> 00:17:54.960 No, accountability is not surrender, it's how you get your power back. 00:17:55.119 --> 00:17:59.200 Because once you admit that there's something that you can change, you have something you can work on now. 00:17:59.359 --> 00:18:00.240 See, you shut it down. 00:18:00.319 --> 00:18:03.279 So many people they want to play the damn blame game buffoonery. 00:18:03.440 --> 00:18:08.799 And when you if you're one of the people say, you know what, that's my bad, let me go ahead, they look at you like, what? 00:18:09.039 --> 00:18:09.920 You know why, family? 00:18:10.000 --> 00:18:11.200 Because you shut down all arguments. 00:18:11.279 --> 00:18:12.799 Here's another thing, family. 00:18:13.839 --> 00:18:17.920 People do not like accountability. 00:18:18.480 --> 00:18:20.720 They don't like accountability. 00:18:21.039 --> 00:18:27.519 And when you're one of those people that confess up and just say, you know what, that that was on me. 00:18:27.759 --> 00:18:28.400 That was on me. 00:18:28.480 --> 00:18:29.759 I definitely need to work on this. 00:18:29.839 --> 00:18:31.359 That that absolutely was on me. 00:18:31.599 --> 00:18:36.319 This is why, family, a lot of people nowadays they have a problem when you change your mind. 00:18:36.559 --> 00:18:39.200 I can, we can go, we're gonna we matter of fact, we already out here. 00:18:39.279 --> 00:18:40.079 Let's go in deep. 00:18:40.240 --> 00:18:42.000 Think about in politics. 00:18:42.319 --> 00:18:50.480 You could have a person that could have been on team A for 10 years, and then on that 11th year, they're like, you know what? 00:18:50.799 --> 00:18:52.960 I don't like what team A is talking about no more. 00:18:53.039 --> 00:18:55.200 I'm about to check out what team B is doing now. 00:18:55.359 --> 00:18:59.279 I'm about to switch sides, and people will be mad. 00:18:59.519 --> 00:19:04.960 I'm talking about violently mad because you changed your mind. 00:19:06.160 --> 00:19:13.759 Family, it's really sad that people get so I'm talking about, I'm I sometimes I observe the elections, family. 00:19:13.920 --> 00:19:20.079 And if you've read my book, The No BS Guide to Politics, you know it's not about taking a side, it's about really doing your own research. 00:19:20.160

--> 00:19:21.279 But here's another thing, family. 00:19:21.359 --> 00:19:37.519 I look at politics, number one, I truly believe that you need to get involved in your community level, on your state level, and make changes from the inside, and then you can go to the federal level because the federal level of politics will always be big, it will always be blown out of proportion and all these different things. 00:19:37.599 --> 00:19:39.440 So I absolutely get it. 00:19:40.240 --> 00:19:52.960 Okay, however, family, what you must understand is that in politics, people have changed parties their whole life. 00:19:53.359 --> 00:20:03.359 Because people change their minds, their priorities change, their level of accountability change, and people tend to get pissed off when a person says, you know what, that was my fault. 00:20:03.440 --> 00:20:04.240 I was wrong. 00:20:04.400 --> 00:20:08.160 Let me go ahead and we need to do something different, you know. 00:20:08.240 --> 00:20:09.680 Or I changed my mind about that. 00:20:09.759 --> 00:20:10.720 I don't feel the same way. 00:20:10.880 --> 00:20:14.000 People act like you owe them money when you tell them you change your mind. 00:20:14.240 --> 00:20:20.240 Family, what I want you to understand is accountability isn't surrender, it's how you get your power back. 00:20:20.400 --> 00:20:31.920 And I'm telling you something too, family, when you show massive accountability, but not only that, you want to take responsibility for your level up and you want to do better. 00:20:32.079 --> 00:20:38.000 Listen, it shines the light on people that really just want to play the blame game or ride somebody else's coattail. 00:20:38.160 --> 00:20:42.799 You can really tell about true leadership when it comes to things like that. 00:20:43.039 --> 00:20:44.720 Okay, and here's the deal, family. 00:20:44.799 --> 00:20:47.200 Some people they will never take accountability for the things they have done. 00:20:47.279 --> 00:20:50.079 But one thing I will say, family, you will see the actions in them. 00:20:50.160 --> 00:20:51.759 You will see their actions have changed. 00:20:51.920 --> 00:20:53.759 Some people, this is just how some folks are. 00:20:53.839 --> 00:20:56.960 They may never admit, some people do, some people don't. 00:20:57.279 --> 00:21:02.079 But one thing about a family, regardless if they admit it or not, look at their actions. 00:21:03.759 --> 00:21:05.279 Look at their actions. 00:21:05.599 --> 00:21:12.640 Because once you admit there's something you can change, listen, and you you're willing to work on it, there's nothing that they can do with you then. 00:21:12.720 --> 00:21:16.559 Here's truth number three: your explanation cannot become your entire identity. 00:21:16.640 --> 00:21:17.920 Here's something else I've noticed. 00:21:18.000 --> 00:21:24.640 Sometimes people attach, they become so attached to explaining what happened to them and their family that the story starts defining everything they believe is possible. 00:21:24.799 --> 00:21:32.319 And I'm not talking about people who need time, support, or professional help to recover from serious experiences, family, because some things that happened to you, Lord have mercy. 00:21:32.480 --> 00:21:34.880 Listen, healing isn't something that you can rush. 00:21:35.200 --> 00:21:43.039 And depending on how you came up, your family could have gone through something that literally happened back in the 1940s. 00:21:43.279 --> 00:21:52.720 But because it was so traumatic, generation after generation, you had that story pass down and beat into your bloodline, into your DNA. 00:21:52.960 --> 00:21:54.559 Here it is 2026. 00:21:54.720 --> 00:21:59.759 You can't forget what happened to your family back then, right? 00:22:00.319 --> 00:22:01.519 And here's the deal, family. 00:22:01.680 --> 00:22:05.680 You have to be the one that says, you know what, that did happen, but that's not the end. 00:22:06.079 --> 00:22:08.720 You have to be the one that takes initiative to say, you know what? 00:22:08.880 --> 00:22:11.279 I need to get some type of healing. 00:22:11.440 --> 00:22:16.240 I'm not talking about the moment when a person begins treating their history as proof that their future cannot be different. 00:22:16.480 --> 00:22:17.599 See, that is the difference. 00:22:18.319 --> 00:22:18.880 Here's an example. 00:22:18.960 --> 00:22:20.880 I can't start a business because my last one failed. 00:22:20.960 --> 00:22:23.519 I can't trust anybody because everybody betrayed me. 00:22:23.599 --> 00:22:26.079 I can't become a leader because nobody ever gave me a chance. 00:22:26.240 --> 00:22:27.839 Now, don't get me wrong, family. 00:22:28.000 --> 00:22:30.559 Those experiences may explain why you're cautious. 00:22:30.799 --> 00:22:37.440 They may explain why certain decisions are harder, but they don't automatically determine every possibility ahead of you. 00:22:37.759 --> 00:22:40.160 See, one thing about the past, family, it is the past. 00:22:40.240 --> 00:22:45.279 It's just to teach you, it's not to stop you from reaching, it's to teach. 00:22:45.519 --> 00:22:47.680 See, your past deserves to be acknowledged. 00:22:47.759 --> 00:22:49.440 Don't ever let anybody erase your history. 00:22:49.519 --> 00:22:50.960 That was one thing I didn't agree with. 00:22:51.119 --> 00:22:52.240 Y'all know I'm in the U.S. 00:22:52.319 --> 00:22:55.920 I didn't agree with um the erasing of different histories. 00:22:56.079 --> 00:23:01.519 And I know a lot of uh African-American people, they were talking about, you know, how they were trying to take the history away. 00:23:01.599 --> 00:23:02.559 And I didn't agree with that. 00:23:02.640 --> 00:23:07.359 But I also did not agree with them trying to tear down the Confederate soldier, the statues, and all of that. 00:23:07.440 --> 00:23:11.759 Because at the end of the day, that is what makes us unique as a country. 00:23:12.000 --> 00:23:16.799 We had people

doing that, we had people that went through so many different things. 00:23:17.119 --> 00:23:18.559 But here we are today. 00:23:18.720 --> 00:23:24.160 Why are we trying, why are we so focused on the past that we're ready to tear down the past? 00:23:24.240 --> 00:23:25.920 We're not even building the future up. 00:23:26.079 --> 00:23:27.839 It doesn't make sense. 00:23:28.000 --> 00:23:33.519 Your past deserved to be acknowledged, it doesn't deserve unlimited authority over the future, though. 00:23:33.759 --> 00:23:37.759 You don't have to deny what happened, you don't have to pretend it didn't hurt, even when you hear about it. 00:23:37.920 --> 00:23:40.640 But you can ask up, you can begin asking a different question. 00:23:40.799 --> 00:23:47.599 Instead of asking, instead of only asking why did this happen, also ask, what can I do with what I know now? 00:23:47.920 --> 00:23:59.039 See, sometimes, family, when you look back at a lot of things that your people went through, your family went through, you and your you even as your childhood, the question doesn't erase the past, it gives you somewhere to go. 00:23:59.200 --> 00:24:09.440 Sometimes it motivates you to level up, it motivates you to put the pedal to the metal and live way larger than people ever told you you could, or anybody that looked like you could. 00:24:09.599 --> 00:24:15.039 This is why I always tell you guys, ladies and gentlemen, to use your pain as fuel. 00:24:15.599 --> 00:24:16.880 Use it as few. 00:24:17.119 --> 00:24:23.920 If they told you because you was too skinny or you was from a certain place that you can't do it and you really want to do it, do it and make them a liar. 00:24:24.160 --> 00:24:28.640 Do it in front of them, they face and let them know they got to stay in their place. 00:24:28.799 --> 00:24:29.119 Okay? 00:24:29.359 --> 00:24:31.680 So let's do the blame game buffoonery test. 00:24:31.920 --> 00:24:34.640 Here's this test thinking about something you've been complaining about. 00:24:34.720 --> 00:24:36.640 Think about something you've really been complaining about lately. 00:24:36.720 --> 00:24:41.039 Maybe it's your career, relationships, finances, or maybe it's an opportunity that you believe you deserve. 00:24:41.200 --> 00:24:42.400 Ask yourself three questions. 00:24:42.480 --> 00:24:43.680 First, what actually happened? 00:24:43.759 --> 00:24:47.680 Not the dramatic version, not the version you tell friends when you need them to agree with you. 00:24:47.839 --> 00:24:48.640 What are the facts? 00:24:48.720 --> 00:24:49.680 What actually happened? 00:24:49.839 --> 00:24:51.599 Number two, what part? 00:24:51.759 --> 00:24:54.319 Ask yourself what part was really within your control. 00:24:54.640 --> 00:24:59.119 Maybe none of the original event was, maybe none of it was your control, and that's possible, family. 00:24:59.279 --> 00:25:04.160 I remember I had an interview a while back, and that thing went so good. 00:25:04.640 --> 00:25:13.839 It went so good, and they told me that I would be talking to the second person in command, and after that, it will be a decision made, and she was just so delighted at speaking to me. 00:25:14.000 --> 00:25:16.480 Family, I never heard from those people again. 00:25:16.799 --> 00:25:21.440 I never heard from those people again, and I was so upset and hurt about it. 00:25:21.519 --> 00:25:22.240 But guess what? 00:25:22.400 --> 00:25:23.599 I had to decide. 00:25:24.000 --> 00:25:24.880 Well, guess what? 00:25:24.960 --> 00:25:26.160 What was in my control? 00:25:26.480 --> 00:25:28.640 Nothing was what was in my control? 00:25:28.799 --> 00:25:32.000 Sorry, something was, and that was the way I performed on the interview. 00:25:32.160 --> 00:25:35.200 After I searched and thought about how I interviewed the interview, went great. 00:25:35.359 --> 00:25:35.839 Guess what? 00:25:36.000 --> 00:25:37.519 That was all I could do. 00:25:37.839 --> 00:25:40.079 I can't force them to call me back. 00:25:40.559 --> 00:25:43.680 See, maybe none of the original event was in your control. 00:25:43.759 --> 00:25:45.119 That's possible, right? 00:25:45.279 --> 00:25:51.119 But like I was thinking about it, I said, but hey, at the end of the day, I can't control them calling me back. 00:25:51.599 --> 00:25:54.480 So at the end of the day, number three, what am I gonna do about it? 00:25:54.640 --> 00:25:57.200 Because here's where we separate the players from the spectators. 00:25:57.359 --> 00:26:00.960 You can explain the problem beautifully, you can have evidence and a witness. 00:26:01.119 --> 00:26:04.480 You can you, I'm talking about you might have it on point where you're completely right about it. 00:26:04.640 --> 00:26:10.960 But if the thing you, but if the only thing you ever do is rehearse the problem, you may stuck in it longer than you may be stuck longer than necessary. 00:26:11.039 --> 00:26:15.119 And I know that sounds harsh, but I'm talking to you like somebody who actually wants to see you win. 00:26:15.279 --> 00:26:21.279 A real friend, fam, they're not gonna let you walk around and walk out the house looking crazy and tell you that the outfit is giving everything. 00:26:21.359 --> 00:26:22.000 No, baby. 00:26:22.160 --> 00:26:24.960 A real friend is gonna tell you, girl, no, go back in there and change. 00:26:25.039 --> 00:26:26.000 You deserve better than that. 00:26:26.160 --> 00:26:26.880 You know what I'm saying? 00:26:26.960 --> 00:26:28.400 They're not gonna let you do something crazy. 00:26:28.480 --> 00:26:29.200 That's one thing about it. 00:26:29.279 --> 00:26:31.519 When you know you got good friends, they're not. 00:26:31.759 --> 00:26:33.200 They're not, they're not, they're not. 00:26:33.359 --> 00:26:36.240 They don't want to see you humiliate to humiliate yourself, right? 00:26:36.319 --> 00:26:37.599 They want to help you do better. 00:26:37.759 --> 00:26:39.440 So, this is what I'm saying to you, fam.

00:26:39.680 --> 00:26:42.400 Stop waiting for an apology to start your life. 00:26:42.640 --> 00:26:43.599 Here's another trap. 00:26:43.680 --> 00:26:46.319 Sometimes we're waiting on the person that hurt us to admit what they did. 00:26:46.480 --> 00:26:51.039 We want an apology, the acknowledgement, the moment when they finally say, You were right, I'm sorry, and I understand that. 00:26:51.119 --> 00:26:53.599 Yeah, you know, accountability matters, but fuck them. 00:26:53.920 --> 00:27:00.480 Because sometimes the people they will never apologize and they will, they will, they will flung around about that that they never apologize. 00:27:00.880 --> 00:27:03.119 Sometimes the company never admits that it was wrong. 00:27:03.279 --> 00:27:07.680 Sometimes the person who betrayed you they will never tell the truth, they will continue on lying to the end of time. 00:27:07.839 --> 00:27:08.720 So, what happens then? 00:27:08.880 --> 00:27:12.880 Do you put your entire future on hold until somebody else develops a conscience? 00:27:13.119 --> 00:27:14.079 Absolutely not. 00:27:14.240 --> 00:27:18.960 You can pursue justice if you want to, you can establish boundaries, cut their ass off. 00:27:19.119 --> 00:27:23.039 You can protect yourself, you can keep building your life while those things are happening. 00:27:23.119 --> 00:27:30.799 Let them do what they do, but don't make somebody else's confession the permission slip you need for your comeback, the permission slip that you need to go to the next level and win. 00:27:30.960 --> 00:27:32.960 That's giving people too much control. 00:27:33.279 --> 00:27:37.359 I always love the saying the best the best type of revenge is success. 00:27:37.519 --> 00:27:45.039 When them people told you, you know, hey, you look like this and you're ugly, and your people don't do nothing but smoke cigarettes and whatever they whatever stupid stuff people say. 00:27:45.279 --> 00:27:45.839 Guess what? 00:27:46.079 --> 00:27:47.279 Be the exception. 00:27:47.519 --> 00:27:53.839 And every time they see you, make them eat them words up, make them eat them up every time they see somebody like you. 00:27:54.160 --> 00:27:56.000 Every single time, make them eat them words up. 00:27:56.079 --> 00:27:57.440 And listen, family, because you a black sheep. 00:27:57.519 --> 00:28:00.079 Another thing I want you to do, keep your head up too. 00:28:00.319 --> 00:28:02.240 When you get your stuff, whatever your stuff is. 00:28:02.319 --> 00:28:05.599 I don't care if it's a BMW e-bike, I don't care what it is. 00:28:05.839 --> 00:28:09.599 When you get your stuff, family, you get it and you live good in it. 00:28:09.680 --> 00:28:13.599 And you walk around with your head up because you didn't play the blame game. 00:28:13.680 --> 00:28:15.359 You know some jacked up stuff happened to you. 00:28:15.440 --> 00:28:16.160 You a black sheep. 00:28:16.319 --> 00:28:17.759 All kinds of crap happened to us. 00:28:17.839 --> 00:28:19.279

You didn't let it stop you, though. 00:28:19.519 --> 00:28:20.640 You didn't let it stop you. 00:28:20.799 --> 00:28:29.279 So when you get it, on every level, you're gonna celebrate them smalls, them small wins, you're gonna still walk in it proudly with your head up. 00:28:29.359 --> 00:28:33.119 I don't care what's going on out in the world because when we take our losses, we take our losses. 00:28:33.200 --> 00:28:41.359 But black sheep family, when you say I'm not gonna let the blame game get me, and I'm gonna continue to press forward when it's your time to win, you better eat. 00:28:41.519 --> 00:28:41.759 Okay? 00:28:41.920 --> 00:28:44.960 Now let's get into these three black at uh black sheep action moves. 00:28:45.039 --> 00:28:47.039 Number one, separate the facts from the story. 00:28:47.279 --> 00:28:49.279 See, choose one situation that's been bothering you. 00:28:49.359 --> 00:28:52.400 Write down what happened, and then write down what you've been telling yourself that it means. 00:28:52.559 --> 00:28:53.920 Those aren't the same thing, family. 00:28:54.079 --> 00:28:56.640 See, sometimes, like I tell you, you gotta learn how to use alchemy. 00:28:56.720 --> 00:28:57.759 I talk about it all the time. 00:28:58.000 --> 00:29:05.039 Alchemy, simply, in my opinion, without all that mystical stuff being involved, is learn how to take shit and turn it to sugar. 00:29:05.920 --> 00:29:11.680 That simply means learning how to take boo-boo, like how they have the fertilizer composite. 00:29:11.759 --> 00:29:14.319 When they have that composite pile, guess what? 00:29:14.400 --> 00:29:16.000 They take waste, garbage. 00:29:16.079 --> 00:29:25.759 That's the garbage that people talk, the waste that they say, the bullshit they have coming your way, you use it as fuel, motivation, and energy to level up no matter what. 00:29:26.000 --> 00:29:27.680 Okay, that's what you do. 00:29:27.839 --> 00:29:29.680 Number two, find your next move. 00:29:29.839 --> 00:29:33.519 Ask yourself, you know what, this is what happened, but what can I do now? 00:29:33.680 --> 00:29:34.720 What can I do about it? 00:29:34.799 --> 00:29:39.599 It might be getting help, changing your approach, learning a new skill, setting a boundary, or taking a formal action. 00:29:39.759 --> 00:29:41.519 Choose one step that's within your reach. 00:29:41.599 --> 00:29:46.079 Family, when I talk about in the 33 degrees to misfit mastery, family, learning. 00:29:46.240 --> 00:29:48.400 I know AI is taking a lot of jobs. 00:29:48.559 --> 00:29:52.720 Um, I have lost contracts due to AI, so I am experiencing everything that you are. 00:29:52.799 --> 00:29:53.759 But you know what I say, family? 00:29:53.839 --> 00:29:55.680 I'm not gonna just sit around and keep blaming AI. 00:29:55.759 --> 00:29:56.319 I'm a human. 00:29:56.400 --> 00:29:58.319 We got HI, that's human intelligence. 00:29:58.480 --> 00:30:00.079 Humans will always be smarter. 00:30:00.160 --> 00:30:02.640 You will always hear me say that because we created AI. 00:30:02.799 --> 00:30:06.319 Maybe some people created AI and it's gonna end up being really dumb for us. 00:30:06.480 --> 00:30:07.200 But guess what? 00:30:07.359 --> 00:30:12.480 For the people that want to apply and expand their knowledge, we always are gonna be the superior. 00:30:12.640 --> 00:30:18.240 Okay, and so what I'm saying is when things happen, decide what you're gonna do about it. 00:30:18.400 --> 00:30:21.440 Don't sit around and oh man, AI taking the jobs. 00:30:21.599 --> 00:30:22.720 Well, what can I do about it? 00:30:22.880 --> 00:30:30.160 So, for an example, family, you might say, you know what, let me discover all of the skills and courses that I could take with AI. 00:30:30.400 --> 00:30:34.559 That way, while things are changing, I got the skills that I can ride right along with the change. 00:30:34.640 --> 00:30:37.680 I'm not telling behind the back when things are when I'm forced to change. 00:30:37.759 --> 00:30:39.680 No, I'm jumping in to change. 00:30:40.000 --> 00:30:46.880 See, though, that is how you really, that is how you really take charge in your life and avoid that bland game buffoonery. 00:30:46.960 --> 00:30:50.160 And the people that want to keep playing a bland game, sitting back, waiting, guess what, family? 00:30:50.240 --> 00:30:55.200 You're gonna be way up on a whole nother level and they're gonna be still in the bag talking about what happened, what's going on. 00:30:55.440 --> 00:30:57.519 Move number three, retire one excuse. 00:30:57.599 --> 00:31:00.559 Listen, family, identify one excuse that you repeated long enough. 00:31:00.640 --> 00:31:01.519 Be fair with yourself. 00:31:01.599 --> 00:31:04.000 A genuine limitation isn't automatically an excuse. 00:31:04.079 --> 00:31:10.000 But if there's something that you know you could start doing and you've been putting it off, choose a small action and do it this week. 00:31:10.160 --> 00:31:11.279 Here's an intelligent family. 00:31:11.440 --> 00:31:15.519 Blaine can explain what happened, but accountability helps determine what happens next. 00:31:15.680 --> 00:31:22.480 You don't have to take responsibility for somebody else's wrongdoing, but don't give away your ability and your power to make decisions about your future. 00:31:22.720 --> 00:31:27.759 And please don't stop confusing and please stop confusing being right with making progress. 00:31:27.920 --> 00:31:31.039 Some people always want to be right and ain't making no damn progress, family. 00:31:31.200 --> 00:31:35.440 You can be right all day long and still need strategy and still need help. 00:31:35.599 --> 00:31:36.799 Now, check this out, family. 00:31:36.960 --> 00:31:43.680 If part of your frustration is your career, maybe you've been tired of being overlooked and you're ready to do a career pivot because of all of the AI changes. 00:31:43.839 --> 00:31:47.359 I created something called a 2027 career pivot report, and you can check it out. 00:31:47.519 --> 00:31:53.359 It helps you examine your career opportunities, salary potential, AI exposure, skills, credentials, and long-term career value. 00:31:53.440 --> 00:31:55.200 It really helps you pivot and position yourself. 00:31:55.279 --> 00:31:59.359 So before you quit, retrain, relocate, or reinvent your career, get the intelligence first. 00:31:59.440 --> 00:31:59.759 All right. 00:31:59.920 --> 00:32:06.079 Now that particular link is in the show notes, but black sheep, you don't have to pretend that life has been fair. 00:32:06.240 --> 00:32:10.400 You don't have to excuse the people who did your people wrong or did you wrong. 00:32:10.559 --> 00:32:15.920 But don't spend a whole lifetime explaining why you didn't do nothing with yourself just because of what somebody else did. 00:32:16.160 --> 00:32:17.680 Everybody got an excuse. 00:32:17.839 --> 00:32:19.359 Who's got an action plan? 00:32:19.519 --> 00:32:20.559 All right, family? 00:32:20.720 --> 00:32:21.759 Everybody got some blame. 00:32:21.839 --> 00:32:24.640 We can blame, listen, family, we'll be blaming the world forever. 00:32:24.799 --> 00:32:36.480 We can start in England, the Dutch, you know, the Indian people can talk about how they came over there and stole the crown jewels, and the the Chinese folks and the Japanese people can talk about everybody got something they can blame. 00:32:36.720 --> 00:32:40.799 But who got the execution plan? 00:32:41.440 --> 00:32:42.640 Who got that plan? 00:32:43.119 --> 00:32:44.400 That's who I want to talk to. 00:32:44.480 --> 00:32:45.839 Who gonna make moves anyway? 00:32:46.000 --> 00:32:50.559 From that's all that's why I always tell you, family, get you a couple heroes from the 1800s. 00:32:50.720 --> 00:32:56.319 Them people right there, you'll be on your way to sleep at night and you'll read about one of them folks back then, it'll get you back out your bed. 00:32:56.400 --> 00:32:59.359 I promise you, it'll pump you up because those people had grit. 00:32:59.680 --> 00:33:01.839 They didn't give a crap what nobody said. 00:33:02.000 --> 00:33:04.720 Some of them folks, they said you're not gonna stop me, and I mean it. 00:33:04.799 --> 00:33:05.440 They didn't care. 00:33:05.519 --> 00:33:09.200 They said until the end of time, I'm gonna try to get this thing on my dime. 00:33:09.359 --> 00:33:09.680 Okay? 00:33:09.839 --> 00:33:10.640 So listen, family. 00:33:10.720 --> 00:33:11.839 Don't just hear today's lesson. 00:33:12.000 --> 00:33:15.279 Run the play because information is everywhere and execution is rare. 00:33:15.359 --> 00:33:16.960 I'll see you in the next intel briefing. 00:33:17.039 --> 00:33:17.440 Peace.