Fiancée Cheated W/ My Brother& Got Pregnant; Now Wants Me to Raise it, So I GHOSTED Her For Good: täielik transkriptsioon

idea 35 00:01:53.840 --> 00:01:56.959 that died in a few months. After that, he bounced 36 00:01:56.959 --> 00:01:59.400 between odd jobs trying to make ends meat before deciding 37 00:01:59.439 --> 00:02:03.879 he wanted to go to music school. That didn't last either. 38 00:02:04.519 --> 00:02:07.120 He quit halfway to start a band that only survived 39 00:02:07.120 --> 00:02:09.840 a year. Then it was back to odd jobs and 40 00:02:09.879 --> 00:02:12.639 free loading. Every now and then he'd land a gig 41 00:02:12.680 --> 00:02:15.400 to play guitar at some event that paid well. He'd 42 00:02:15.400 --> 00:02:18.120 blowed through the cash in weeks and spend the next 43 00:02:18.120 --> 00:02:20.759 few months broke borrowing from anyone who would pick up 44 00:02:20.759 --> 00:02:23.639 his call. I lent him a few times too, Before 45 00:02:23.639 --> 00:02:25.960 I realized all I was doing was enabling him. I 46 00:02:26.000 --> 00:02:29.000 pulled away, never imagined he would repay me by stabbing 47 00:02:29.000 --> 00:02:31.800 me in the back. One afternoon, I got a call 48 00:02:31.840 --> 00:02:35.000 from my mother inviting me to dinner. Her tone felt off. 49 00:02:35.520 --> 00:02:38.800 I asked if everything was okay. She said yes, just 50 00:02:38.840 --> 00:02:41.680 that they wanted to discuss something important. I dreaded it 51 00:02:41.759 --> 00:02:45.120 might be about their health or finances. Never, not even 52 00:02:45.159 --> 00:02:47.759 for a second that I considered the nightmare waiting for me. 53 00:02:48.319 --> 00:02:51.039 When I reached the house, the atmosphere felt heavy. Carol 54 00:02:51.039 --> 00:02:54.000 was already there, sitting on the couch with pale, distressed, 55 00:02:54.039 --> 00:02:57.479 swollen eyes. Tim was sitting right next to her, unusually 56 00:02:57.520 --> 00:03:00.439 quiet and avoiding eye contact. I felt that not form 57 00:03:00.439 --> 00:03:03.159 in my stomach. I walked closer and asked Carroll if 58 00:03:03.199 --> 00:03:06.159 everything was all right, but she didn't answer. My mother 59 00:03:06.199 --> 00:03:09.439 told me to sit down. My heart sank. I thought 60 00:03:09.479 --> 00:03:13.000 someone was dying or diagnosed with something. I kept asking, 61 00:03:13.080 --> 00:03:17.840 what's happening. Mom held Carol's hand and said Carol's pregnant. 62 00:03:18.199 --> 00:03:20.680 For a moment, my mind completely blanked. I was like, 63 00:03:20.879 --> 00:03:23.919 how did it happen? I'm always so careful, and children 64 00:03:23.919 --> 00:03:26.400 are something I'm always scared of. I didn't want them. 65 00:03:27.000 --> 00:03:29.360 Don't get me wrong. I love kids and respect people 66 00:03:29.360 --> 00:03:31.400 who give their all to raise them, but they are 67 00:03:31.400 --> 00:03:34.120 not for me. I don't think I'm capable of raising one. 68 00:03:34.520 --> 00:03:36.280 I've had this talk with Carol, and she too wanted 69 00:03:36.319 --> 00:03:38.960 to live a child free life. Having said that I 70 00:03:39.039 --> 00:03:41.719 wasn't so rigid that if something unexpected happened I wouldn't 71 00:03:41.719 --> 00:03:44.719 step up. I leaned in closer to Carol and tried 72 00:03:44.759 --> 00:03:47.080 to assure her that I was there for her. She 73 00:03:47.120 --> 00:03:51.319 shouldn't worry. I'm almost clapped, you see, I told you 74 00:03:51.360 --> 00:03:54.680 all my son is very responsible. He won't abandon his 75 00:03:54.719 --> 00:03:57.639 family no matter what. Others were still tense, and it 76 00:03:57.719 --> 00:04:00.759 confused me. I smiled and tried to calm down Carol 77 00:04:00.800 --> 00:04:05.039 and asked, why didn't you tell me first? My mother 78 00:04:05.120 --> 00:04:07.159 quickly jumped in and without hesitation, let her out the 79 00:04:07.199 --> 00:04:11.919 harsh truth. Because you're not the father. Everything inside me froze. 80 00:04:12.280 --> 00:04:14.479 I flipped, what do you mean I'm not the father 81 00:04:15.199 --> 00:04:19.040 in her same oblivious tone. She goes, it's Tim's baby. 82 00:04:19.560 --> 00:04:23.839 What the hell? I was lost for words. There was 83 00:04:23.879 --> 00:04:26.519 a light bulb moment, and now it made perfect sense 84 00:04:26.560 --> 00:04:28.639 why she came to them and not me, and why 85 00:04:28.680 --> 00:04:32.279 Tim was around because it's his business. The sher betrayal 86 00:04:32.319 --> 00:04:34.639 made my head spin. I turned to Carol and asked, 87 00:04:34.800 --> 00:04:37.240 what the hell is going on? She broke down into 88 00:04:37.240 --> 00:04:40.480 tears with a shaky voice, and did her whole performance. 89 00:04:41.040 --> 00:04:44.040 We've been seeing each other for four months. I swear 90 00:04:44.079 --> 00:04:47.480 it wasn't intentional. We were just talking and hanging out innocently. 91 00:04:48.079 --> 00:04:50.439 We were so much alike we didn't realize when we 92 00:04:50.480 --> 00:04:53.040 fell in love. I screamed, why didn't you tell me 93 00:04:53.079 --> 00:04:55.800 that you fell for this bum? I would have stepped back. 94 00:04:56.600 --> 00:04:57.480 She sobbed harder. 95 00:04:58.000 --> 00:05:00.800 We were waiting for the right opportunity. I snapped at her, 96 00:05:00.959 --> 00:05:03.240 and this was the right time. You were waiting to 97 00:05:03.279 --> 00:05:06.959 get knocked up. Tim stepped in, man. We didn't mean 98 00:05:07.000 --> 00:05:09.480 to hurt you. We just fell in love. She can't 99 00:05:09.480 --> 00:05:12.759 connect with you. You're too old for her. She finds 100 00:05:12.759 --> 00:05:16.079 you boring. I make her laugh, and she wants to 101 00:05:16.120 --> 00:05:19.040 be with me. I punched him in the face. We 102 00:05:19.079 --> 00:05:21.360 almost got into a scuffle if my father hadn't intervened. 103 00:05:22.240 --> 00:05:25.240 I slumped on the couch, rewinding the past all the 104 00:05:25.279 --> 00:05:28.600 cues that I missed, which probably

was a red flag. 105 00:05:29.040 --> 00:05:31.040 A year and a half back, I introduced her to 106 00:05:31.079 --> 00:05:34.360 my family. My parents adored her. She've hid in so well. 107 00:05:34.959 --> 00:05:37.800 She and Tim bonded over trending music and new gen lingo, 108 00:05:38.199 --> 00:05:42.079 of which I was unaware. During family gatherings, I saw 109 00:05:42.120 --> 00:05:46.360 them talking, laughing, and sometimes sitting together. If I intervened, 110 00:05:46.519 --> 00:05:49.000 I would hear them talking about some viral trend on TikTok. 111 00:05:49.560 --> 00:05:51.959 I'm not on social media, hence these never interested me. 112 00:05:52.839 --> 00:05:56.439 I work for twelve hours a day to build the 113 00:05:56.480 --> 00:05:59.279 life that I have. I don't have time to waste 114 00:05:59.279 --> 00:06:03.759 on social media. But I didn't judge them. I didn't 115 00:06:03.759 --> 00:06:06.319 think anything of it. A few times I saw his 116 00:06:06.399 --> 00:06:08.839 name flashing on her screen and late at night. I 117 00:06:08.879 --> 00:06:11.279 even asked her, what's up with Tim? Why he's bothering 118 00:06:11.319 --> 00:06:13.800 you so late? She laughed about it and said he 119 00:06:13.879 --> 00:06:16.519 had a problem and was taking her advice and sorting 120 00:06:16.519 --> 00:06:19.680 this stuff out. I trusted her. How on earth would 121 00:06:19.680 --> 00:06:21.920 it occurred to me that he was banging my fiance 122 00:06:22.040 --> 00:06:25.879 on my back. The worst betrayal, though, was my parent's reaction. 123 00:06:26.439 --> 00:06:28.639 They weren't shocked or even angry. They were happy that 124 00:06:28.720 --> 00:06:31.800 Carol was expecting that they were getting a grandchild. My 125 00:06:31.879 --> 00:06:35.639 mother even said, it's part of God's plan. I shouted, 126 00:06:36.000 --> 00:06:38.800 do you not see any problem? He betrayed me? He 127 00:06:38.879 --> 00:06:42.560 knocked up my fiance. Tim cut in again. We were 128 00:06:42.560 --> 00:06:45.319 in love, I screamed, Then why didn't you have the 129 00:06:45.399 --> 00:06:48.920 balls to come up to me and confess? He defended, 130 00:06:49.600 --> 00:06:52.040 We were going to tell you soon. But then this happened. 131 00:06:52.600 --> 00:06:54.879 Really just two days back. She was showing me the 132 00:06:54.959 --> 00:06:57.360 dress she wants to have in our wedding dinner, while 133 00:06:57.399 --> 00:07:00.399 having his baby inside her. I ranted about everything that 134 00:07:00.439 --> 00:07:03.199 came to my mind. Then my father, with a straight face, 135 00:07:03.199 --> 00:07:05.720 told me to calm down, be you a man, except 136 00:07:05.720 --> 00:07:09.600 the reality Carrol chose Tim, it happens. Don't get angry 137 00:07:09.639 --> 00:07:12.920 at her. It's not good for the baby. I was stunned. 138 00:07:13.560 --> 00:07:15.480 They said I was overreacting and she had a right 139 00:07:15.519 --> 00:07:19.120

to choose better options. I didn't wait for another second. 140 00:07:19.439 --> 00:07:21.800 I walked out, slammed the door behind me, and drove away, 141 00:07:21.839 --> 00:07:24.480 without knowing where I was going. I sat near the 142 00:07:24.519 --> 00:07:27.120 deserted lake for hours when I got a message from her, 143 00:07:27.879 --> 00:07:28.240 leave me. 144 00:07:28.199 --> 00:07:29.879 My keys beneath the rug outside. 145 00:07:30.519 --> 00:07:32.800 She had moved out. I checked my door cam to 146 00:07:32.800 --> 00:07:35.199 find my parents and Tim helped her move out. The 147 00:07:35.199 --> 00:07:37.959 betrayal felt so planned out. I went back to my 148 00:07:38.040 --> 00:07:40.959 place to find it almost vacant. The apartment looked deserted. 149 00:07:41.439 --> 00:07:43.879 It took me months to overcome the betrayal. I moved 150 00:07:43.920 --> 00:07:45.920 out to a different part of the town, cut off 151 00:07:45.920 --> 00:07:48.759 my family, disconnected with my relatives because I didn't want 152 00:07:48.759 --> 00:07:53.160 any unnecessary updates coming from them. Your parents are hosting 153 00:07:53.160 --> 00:07:55.519 a baby shower for Carol, Go to hell with that, 154 00:07:56.040 --> 00:07:58.240 thinking play happy family stuff as much as they want. 155 00:07:58.600 --> 00:08:00.759 I don't want to be updated. I had to seek 156 00:08:00.800 --> 00:08:03.399 therapy to come to terms that you can love someone 157 00:08:03.399 --> 00:08:06.040 deeply and they can still choose some one else without hesitation. 158 00:08:08.160 --> 00:08:10.600 And sometimes the people you think will stand with you 159 00:08:11.040 --> 00:08:13.600 will abandon you in the very moment you need them 160 00:08:13.800 --> 00:08:17.279 the most. And that's okay. It's their choice, and I 161 00:08:17.319 --> 00:08:19.399 also got to choose how I want to deal with it. 162 00:08:20.079 --> 00:08:22.759 I cut off everyone who brought me down, worked on myself, 163 00:08:22.800 --> 00:08:25.160 and moved on. It's been almost a year since everything 164 00:08:25.160 --> 00:08:27.360 fell apart, and it has been the most brutal year 165 00:08:27.439 --> 00:08:30.439 so far. No matter how positive I sounded, I was 166 00:08:30.480 --> 00:08:33.399 pathetic inside. Had to force myself to get out of bettery. 167 00:08:33.480 --> 00:08:36.279 Morning went for therapy, and slowly I was able to 168 00:08:36.279 --> 00:08:38.919 cope with the betrayal. At least that's what I thought 169 00:08:39.000 --> 00:08:42.559 until yesterday. She suddenly appeared and months of therapy and 170 00:08:42.600 --> 00:08:46.240 self work went for a loss. Around nine thirty p m. 171 00:08:46.440 --> 00:08:49.559 My doorbell rang. I was expecting a delivery guy, so 172 00:08:49.639 --> 00:08:52.399 I answered without checking. The moment I opened the door, 173 00:08:52.639 --> 00:08:55.360 I froze. It was her standing there with a baby 174 00:08:55.360 --> 00:08:58.240 wrapped in a blanket or arms. My first instinct should 175 00:08:58.240 --> 00:09:00.679 have been concern or sympathy, but seeing a woman with 176 00:09:00.679 --> 00:09:03.679 a baby at such a late hour, instead, it was 177 00:09:03.759 --> 00:09:07.720 pure burning rage that shot up from my gut. Her 178 00:09:07.720 --> 00:09:10.840 first words were, please help me. I almost slammed the 179 00:09:10.879 --> 00:09:12.679 door in her face right away, but she shoved her 180 00:09:12.679 --> 00:09:15.240 foot forward just enough to keep the door open. I 181 00:09:15.360 --> 00:09:18.840 was shocked at her audacity. After everything she did, she 182 00:09:18.960 --> 00:09:21.200 dared to show up here with this baby and asked 183 00:09:21.240 --> 00:09:24.440 me for help. She was pleading, I'm. 184 00:09:24.240 --> 00:09:27.919 In trouble, tim abandon us. I can't do this alone. 185 00:09:28.240 --> 00:09:29.639 How am I going to raise this baby? 186 00:09:30.639 --> 00:09:33.279 She charted crying profusely, and her tears rolled down her 187 00:09:33.320 --> 00:09:36.159 cheeks and fell on her baby's face. This should have 188 00:09:36.200 --> 00:09:39.320 melted a lot of people, I know, but it didn't 189 00:09:39.320 --> 00:09:42.120 work for me. Sorry. You can call me whatever you want, 190 00:09:42.159 --> 00:09:45.120 but I remained unmoved. There's just so much hatred inside 191 00:09:45.120 --> 00:09:47.759 me that I just couldn't even look at that baby. 192 00:09:47.840 --> 00:09:51.360 He was the living evidence of the betrayal. I snapped 193 00:09:51.360 --> 00:09:54.200 at her, not my problem, you went for a better person. 194 00:09:54.440 --> 00:09:56.039 It's not my problem that it turned out to be 195 00:09:56.039 --> 00:09:59.480 a trash and slammed the door so hard it echoed 196 00:09:59.519 --> 00:10:03.440 down the hall. She knocked a few times, but I 197 00:10:03.440 --> 00:10:07.399 didn't answer. Then knocking stopped. After some time, those few 198 00:10:07.440 --> 00:10:10.759 minutes of encounter scratched all the old wounds. I thought 199 00:10:10.799 --> 00:10:13.159 i'd moved on for my past. Looks like the pain 200 00:10:13.200 --> 00:10:15.960 was still buried inside me. Maybe I hadn't moved on 201 00:10:16.039 --> 00:10:18.120 the way that I thought I did. This was the 202 00:10:18.120 --> 00:10:19.759 first time I had seen her after that D Day, 203 00:10:20.360 --> 00:10:22.240 until the truth came out. She was the love of 204 00:10:22.240 --> 00:10:25.320 my life, and after that she was a cheater, nothing 205 00:10:25.360 --> 00:10:27.679 in between. Maybe I didn't get the chance to release 206 00:10:27.720 --> 00:10:30.120 my hanger not only on her, but on my whole family. 207 00:10:30.600 --> 00:10:33.360 I had entirely cut myself off from everyone. I'm having 208 00:10:33.360 --> 00:10:35.840 a sleepless night thinking about all this and how I 209 00:10:35.879 --> 00:10:38.679 actually move on. I really

don't know if my therapy 210 00:10:38.720 --> 00:10:42.919 ever helped or my emotions were just buried inside. Do 211 00:10:43.000 --> 00:10:45.480 any of you relate to this like even though you 212 00:10:45.559 --> 00:10:48.000 feel you have moved on, but when the past comes 213 00:10:48.039 --> 00:10:53.519 right in front, you lose track of everything. Your fiance 214 00:10:53.679 --> 00:10:56.639 maintained a whole double life for months while accepting your love, 215 00:10:57.120 --> 00:11:00.679 your money, your time, and your future plans. She let 216 00:11:00.720 --> 00:11:03.440 you work extra shifts to build a dream wedding. She 217 00:11:03.519 --> 00:11:06.679 knew she'd never actually walk into you with you. That's 218 00:11:06.759 --> 00:11:09.000 straight up cruel. And then your brother didn't have the 219 00:11:09.039 --> 00:11:11.000 courage to step up, say the truth, or act like 220 00:11:11.000 --> 00:11:14.799 a man. Instead, he waited until your fiance got pregnant 221 00:11:14.840 --> 00:11:16.679 and then tried to act like you are the problem 222 00:11:16.720 --> 00:11:20.879 for being upset coward. Then the moment Tim bailed, which 223 00:11:20.919 --> 00:11:23.480 is exactly what a person like him does. She tried 224 00:11:23.480 --> 00:11:25.600 to fall back on you, not because she loves you 225 00:11:25.720 --> 00:11:28.159 or regrets what she did, but because you were always 226 00:11:28.360 --> 00:11:34.519 the stable, responsible one update one looks like my past 227 00:11:34.559 --> 00:11:37.720 is following me like a ghost. Before the update, I 228 00:11:37.759 --> 00:11:40.480 wanted to thank everyone who engaged on my post. It's 229 00:11:40.519 --> 00:11:42.519 reassuring to know that I am not a loser to 230 00:11:42.559 --> 00:11:45.639 feel that way. I was disturbed, not because I wanted 231 00:11:45.679 --> 00:11:48.720 her back or anything such. I was curious about how 232 00:11:48.759 --> 00:11:51.720 she thought she could waltz into my life after betraying 233 00:11:51.759 --> 00:11:54.759 me so badly. She cheated on me, said I was 234 00:11:54.799 --> 00:11:57.519 boring and old, and now she appeared asking for help. 235 00:11:58.039 --> 00:12:03.080 My brain has been repeating the conversational loop. I hate 236 00:12:03.120 --> 00:12:05.679 that she still has the power over me. Today was 237 00:12:05.720 --> 00:12:08.519 no different. I was drained and just wanted to crash. 238 00:12:08.639 --> 00:12:10.519 But as soon as I entered my building, she was 239 00:12:10.519 --> 00:12:12.840 sitting on the stairs near the elevator, clutching her baby 240 00:12:12.879 --> 00:12:15.679 like a sympathy prop. For a second, I thought about 241 00:12:15.679 --> 00:12:18.080 turning around and running like hell, but she saw me 242 00:12:18.120 --> 00:12:20.720 before I could even try. Her eyes lit up like 243 00:12:20.799 --> 00:12:24.879 she genuinely believed I would melt seeing her again. She begged, 244 00:12:25.200 --> 00:12:28.519 I just need a minute, please hear me out. I 245 00:12:28.519 --> 00:12:30.840 didn't even look at her. The elevator doors opened, but 246 00:12:30.840 --> 00:12:33.279 I couldn't bring myself to get inside with her. Even 247 00:12:33.320 --> 00:12:35.960 the thought may be nauseous. I turned and walked toward 248 00:12:36.000 --> 00:12:38.279 the stairs. She followed me while blabbering. 249 00:12:38.559 --> 00:12:41.639 Tim left us with nothing. He didn't answer my calls. 250 00:12:41.879 --> 00:12:43.559 He doesn't even want to look at his son. 251 00:12:44.200 --> 00:12:47.039 I cut her off. That really sucks. But isn't this 252 00:12:47.080 --> 00:12:49.360 what you'd signed up for when you got knocked up? 253 00:12:49.840 --> 00:12:50.799 She cried, for. 254 00:12:50.759 --> 00:12:53.960 God's sake, he's your nephew. Don't talk like that about 255 00:12:54.080 --> 00:12:54.519 the baby. 256 00:12:54.559 --> 00:12:58.000 At least that word nephew hit like a punch. The 257 00:12:58.000 --> 00:13:00.360 affair baby she had with that loser bum was suddenly 258 00:13:00.440 --> 00:13:03.080 pinned to me as my nephew. I ignored her and 259 00:13:03.159 --> 00:13:05.559 just kept moving, But I realized if I go home, 260 00:13:05.879 --> 00:13:08.320 she would create a mess would be difficult to get 261 00:13:08.360 --> 00:13:10.879 rid of her. Instead, I turned back and climbed down 262 00:13:10.919 --> 00:13:13.679 the stairs. She followed me until my car, trying to 263 00:13:13.679 --> 00:13:16.240 hold my arms, begging and pleading to talk to her. 264 00:13:17.039 --> 00:13:19.159 I got into my car and drove until I reached 265 00:13:19.159 --> 00:13:21.879 a small park I sometimes stopped at to clear my head, 266 00:13:22.799 --> 00:13:24.960 grabbed a sandwich from a food truck nearby, and sat 267 00:13:25.000 --> 00:13:27.240 there for hours. No matter how much I tried to 268 00:13:27.240 --> 00:13:30.639 calm down myself, I couldn't. I am dang so angry 269 00:13:30.679 --> 00:13:33.960 that her existence still disrupts my peace. It was pretty 270 00:13:34.000 --> 00:13:37.000 late when I returned. Didn't realize she would still be there, 271 00:13:37.600 --> 00:13:40.039 but she was. As I unlocked the door, I heard 272 00:13:40.039 --> 00:13:43.000 footsteps approaching from the stairs. I really didn't think she 273 00:13:43.080 --> 00:13:46.360 was still here following me. I immediately turned inside to 274 00:13:46.399 --> 00:13:48.960 lock the door before she came near. She ran and 275 00:13:49.000 --> 00:13:50.840 tried to push the door with her shoulder, but I 276 00:13:50.840 --> 00:13:55.279 shot back harder, blocking her way. She begged, please let 277 00:13:55.360 --> 00:13:58.159 me explain. I was so dumb with her that I screamed, 278 00:13:58.240 --> 00:13:59.919 if you don't leave me alone, I'm calling the car. 279 00:14:03.240 --> 00:14:05.840 She laughed like she thought I was bluffing. Was like,

280 00:14:06.159 --> 00:14:09.960 you won't do that. I know you. You still love me again. 281 00:14:10.000 --> 00:14:11.639 Tried to slam the door, but she kept pushing. 282 00:14:12.320 --> 00:14:15.240 I love you too, I always did. I made a mistake. 283 00:14:15.600 --> 00:14:18.440 I never loved Tim. It was just once I was 284 00:14:18.440 --> 00:14:21.840 scared when the pregnancy test came positive and things got complicated. 285 00:14:22.320 --> 00:14:24.519 You know how he is. He manipulated me. 286 00:14:25.039 --> 00:14:29.399 I didn't let her finish. Not my problem this time. 287 00:14:29.399 --> 00:14:31.360 I slammed the door with every ounce of strength left 288 00:14:31.360 --> 00:14:33.919 in my body. I locked the dead bolt, then the 289 00:14:33.960 --> 00:14:36.799 safety latch. Then I shoved a chair against the door 290 00:14:36.879 --> 00:14:40.120 because my heart wouldn't stop racing. She knocked and cried 291 00:14:40.159 --> 00:14:42.480 and begged that I help her, at least for the baby. 292 00:14:42.840 --> 00:14:45.919 I shouldn't punish him for his parents mistakes. That moment 293 00:14:46.039 --> 00:14:48.919 was so hostile and vulnerable for me. Eventually she laughed, 294 00:14:48.960 --> 00:14:51.279 But I'm still feeling heavy. I hated so much that 295 00:14:51.360 --> 00:14:53.480 she still holds so much power over my emotions that 296 00:14:53.960 --> 00:14:56.720 one glance of her effing face and all the wounds 297 00:14:56.759 --> 00:14:59.600 came popping up. I just hope this is it and 298 00:14:59.600 --> 00:15:04.039 I don't have to deal with her anymore. Update two, 299 00:15:05.080 --> 00:15:07.320 I'm just so pissed off right now. I guess I'm 300 00:15:07.360 --> 00:15:09.879 blessed with the worst people in my life. Today my 301 00:15:09.919 --> 00:15:11.960 mom called me, and this was the first call after 302 00:15:12.000 --> 00:15:14.120 that D day. She didn't care to check on me 303 00:15:14.200 --> 00:15:16.320 how I was dealing with everything, But now when they 304 00:15:16.360 --> 00:15:19.919 need me, suddenly they were concerned about me. She started with, 305 00:15:20.159 --> 00:15:23.279 how are you, honey? You don't drop by like before. 306 00:15:23.960 --> 00:15:25.480 I didn't want to dig into the matter, so I 307 00:15:25.559 --> 00:15:28.960 just said, yeah, I've been busy lately. She sharply replied, 308 00:15:29.360 --> 00:15:32.799 too busy to check on your parents. That was infuriating, 309 00:15:33.159 --> 00:15:36.399 pure gaslighting move. I shot back, why did you call 310 00:15:36.440 --> 00:15:40.120 that after so many years? She replied with nothing, just 311 00:15:40.279 --> 00:15:43.720 like this, Can I check on my boy? I said, cool, 312 00:15:43.840 --> 00:15:46.360 thanks for the call and hung up. She called me 313 00:15:46.360 --> 00:15:50.159 again within seconds, goes, why he are you so snappy? 314 00:15:50.759 --> 00:15:54.559 Can't you talk properly? I said, okay, tell

what you 315 00:15:54.600 --> 00:15:56.879 want to talk about. Until then I had no clue 316 00:15:56.960 --> 00:16:00.120 what was happening in the background. The next thing, she told. 317 00:16:00.480 --> 00:16:05.000 The last few months have been so rough. Your dad 318 00:16:05.039 --> 00:16:09.159 fractured his knee, he's still getting pusio. Our business suffered 319 00:16:09.200 --> 00:16:11.919 due to that. Only God knows how we are managing. 320 00:16:12.639 --> 00:16:15.200 And in the same breath, she goes, your brother also 321 00:16:15.200 --> 00:16:17.480 got it so overwhelmed with the baby that he's took 322 00:16:17.519 --> 00:16:20.080 a break. Carol had to take a work break for 323 00:16:20.120 --> 00:16:23.200 four months to recover, and the baby's responsibility fill squarely 324 00:16:23.240 --> 00:16:26.159 on us. I was like, wait a minute, why am 325 00:16:26.200 --> 00:16:28.519 I hearing this? I don't want to know what's happening 326 00:16:28.600 --> 00:16:32.559 in your stupid, lazy, but golden child's life. She said, son, 327 00:16:33.120 --> 00:16:36.000 you've always been our pride. We really look upon you. 328 00:16:36.440 --> 00:16:39.000 Don't disappoint us. The baby needs your help. 329 00:16:39.480 --> 00:16:41.600 I snapped at her, I'm not running your charity. 330 00:16:41.639 --> 00:16:41.799 Here. 331 00:16:42.559 --> 00:16:46.039 She stopped me midway. Son, Please don't be selfish. That 332 00:16:46.120 --> 00:16:50.279 baby is your blood. What my blood? The same people 333 00:16:50.320 --> 00:16:52.440 who told me I should accept that Carroll chose a 334 00:16:52.519 --> 00:16:56.240 better option are now calling that better options baby my blood. 335 00:16:56.919 --> 00:16:58.919 I was like, you know what, I'm done, and don't 336 00:16:58.919 --> 00:17:01.840 bother calling me ever again. I hung up. She called 337 00:17:01.879 --> 00:17:04.039 me twice after that, but I didn't answer. Then she 338 00:17:04.079 --> 00:17:08.480 sent a voicemail. We can't abandon a child. He's your bloodline. 339 00:17:08.880 --> 00:17:12.839 You're an uncle, you have responsibilities. We know you earn well. 340 00:17:13.319 --> 00:17:15.720 You can definitely spare a few bucks on your brother's family, 341 00:17:15.759 --> 00:17:18.559 can't you. I almost shattered my phone right there and 342 00:17:18.599 --> 00:17:21.039 blocked her. A few hours later, I got a call 343 00:17:21.079 --> 00:17:24.839 from Dad. I blocked him too. Any sane people would 344 00:17:24.839 --> 00:17:27.599 have backed off, but no, my folks are different. The 345 00:17:27.640 --> 00:17:29.359 next thing I know, they are standing on my door 346 00:17:29.359 --> 00:17:32.079 waiting for me. I cursed myself for not noticing their 347 00:17:32.119 --> 00:17:34.559 car in the driveway. As soon as I saw them, 348 00:17:34.759 --> 00:17:38.279 I stopped and started walking down. Too late. They already 349 00:17:38.279 --> 00:17:41.119 saw me. Dad said, in

a commanding tone, you don't 350 00:17:41.119 --> 00:17:43.519 get to run from this. She needs help. The baby 351 00:17:43.519 --> 00:17:47.680 needs stability. You're a mature one in the family, step up. Really, 352 00:17:48.039 --> 00:17:50.960 you guys are now demanding this. Where was that energy 353 00:17:50.960 --> 00:17:53.799 when they committed adultery. I was so enraged that I 354 00:17:53.839 --> 00:17:55.440 was like, it has to end to day, and I 355 00:17:55.440 --> 00:17:57.880 am going to face it. I walked right in front 356 00:17:57.880 --> 00:17:59.480 of them and said, I don't know you guys a 357 00:17:59.480 --> 00:18:03.720 second of my time. My dad was about to snap 358 00:18:03.759 --> 00:18:05.960 at me, but Mom came in between let out of 359 00:18:06.000 --> 00:18:10.160 manipulated smile. We understand you're still hurt, but we can't 360 00:18:10.200 --> 00:18:13.240 abandon our blood. I screamed, for the last time, I 361 00:18:13.279 --> 00:18:15.759 have nothing to do with you or your blood. Dad 362 00:18:15.799 --> 00:18:18.839 stepped forward. Don't you dare talk like that. He's your nephew. 363 00:18:19.319 --> 00:18:21.480 I let out a bitter laugh. You two didn't give 364 00:18:21.519 --> 00:18:24.880 a dang when you're golden child. Stole my fiance, but 365 00:18:24.960 --> 00:18:26.960 now you want me to swoop in and fix his mess. 366 00:18:27.680 --> 00:18:32.400 Mom's eyes flashed irritation. It wasn't stealing. Carol made a choice. 367 00:18:32.799 --> 00:18:35.480 I shot back, yes, and now I am making mine. 368 00:18:35.960 --> 00:18:39.200 Dad clenched his jaw. Listen, Carol has nowhere to go. 369 00:18:39.519 --> 00:18:43.319 Tim needs some time to understand her responsibility. You're financially stable, 370 00:18:43.640 --> 00:18:45.680 you have a good job. You can support her until 371 00:18:45.680 --> 00:18:48.799 they get back on track. I stared at them, stunned. 372 00:18:49.079 --> 00:18:53.359 Oh so now my hard work should fund their happy accident. 373 00:18:54.160 --> 00:18:56.599 Mom huffed, Stop being so dramatic. 374 00:18:56.880 --> 00:18:59.319 You're older. You never gave us grandchildren. 375 00:18:59.519 --> 00:19:03.480 At least contribute that one's sentence tore away whatever scraps 376 00:19:03.480 --> 00:19:05.559 of the last ounce of respect I had for them. 377 00:19:06.119 --> 00:19:09.799 I told them to leave right now. Mom glared, watch 378 00:19:09.880 --> 00:19:13.359 your tone. Where're still your parents? I said, no, you 379 00:19:13.400 --> 00:19:16.480 watch yours. You're awarded their cheating with a baby shower. 380 00:19:16.680 --> 00:19:19.960 You celebrated my misery. Dad rolled his eyes and nov 381 00:19:19.960 --> 00:19:23.119 with the self pity. Men up and take responsibility, I 382 00:19:23.160 --> 00:19:26.319 snapped back, You know what My responsibility is protecting myself 383 00:19:26.319 --> 00:19:29.000 from toxic people, and right now that means protecting myself 384 00:19:29.039 --> 00:19:32.680 from you. Mom choked up, like she suddenly remembered how 385 00:19:32.680 --> 00:19:35.839 to pretend to care. But son, I snapped to know, 386 00:19:36.279 --> 00:19:39.839 don't sun me. Your son is Tim the golden child. 387 00:19:40.480 --> 00:19:43.839 Don't bother to pretend. I unlocked my apartment, went inside, 388 00:19:44.000 --> 00:19:46.319 and slammed the door in their face. I don't know 389 00:19:46.359 --> 00:19:48.559 if it was respectful or not, but I did what 390 00:19:48.599 --> 00:19:52.400 I had to do to protect myself. It's been a 391 00:19:52.400 --> 00:19:55.440 couple of days since then, though, it is silent for now. 392 00:19:55.880 --> 00:19:57.960 I'm not sure how long this piece is gonna last. 393 00:19:58.440 --> 00:20:01.160 One thing is for sure, won't let them walkle over me, 394 00:20:01.400 --> 00:20:03.440 even if that means cutting everyone off for the rest 395 00:20:03.440 --> 00:20:10.680 of my life. Thanks for reading this. Your parents coming 396 00:20:10.720 --> 00:20:13.200 back into the picture, that's a whole new level. They 397 00:20:13.279 --> 00:20:15.400 ignored your pain when you were the one who was betrayed. 398 00:20:16.119 --> 00:20:19.480 They supported your brother's relationship with your acts. They minimize 399 00:20:19.480 --> 00:20:22.680 what happened and blamed you. And now that golden child failed, 400 00:20:23.400 --> 00:20:27.960 now that their lives are getting inconvenient, suddenly you matter again. 401 00:20:28.440 --> 00:20:32.680 Suddenly your money matters, Suddenly family matters. You're right to 402 00:20:32.680 --> 00:20:36.519 block them. You're right to shut the door literally and figuratively. 403 00:20:36.920 --> 00:20:39.799 These people don't respect you, they don't value you, they 404 00:20:39.839 --> 00:20:42.519 don't support you. They only show up when you're useful 405 00:20:42.519 --> 00:20:45.720 to them. If your family suddenly expected you to fix 406 00:20:45.720 --> 00:20:48.039 someone else's mess, what would you do? Let us know 407 00:20:48.079 --> 00:20:50.519 in the comments below, And I think you for joining us 408 00:20:50.519 --> 00:20:52.720 today on our space. 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