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Power uh does nothing more than turn the volume up on what's already inside of you.
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So if you have pride inside of you, guess what?
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Power is gonna turn the volume up on that.
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If you can shift the way that you view people and see people, uh it changes everything about the way you interact with them.
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You gotta begin to ask the question, what is it about your life?
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I I think that's often self-reflection that most people don't want to have or do.
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You ever chase something for so long that when you finally stop running, you don't know how to stand still?
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A few months after I retired from Coca-Cola, I was sitting in the Garden of Gethsemane.
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Not metaphorically, the actual garden, in Jerusalem, where Jesus submitted his life to God before he went to the cross.
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A weighty place, to say the least.
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I was there with Carla and some friends on a Passion City Holy Land tour, but I wasn't there for sightseeing.
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I was there because I was untethered.
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Twenty-one and a half years at the Coca-Cola Company.
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That's almost 8,000 days.
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Nearly 40% of my life working for one employer.
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I'd hit the targets, I built the teams, integrated my faith, made the shift from success to significance.
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And then I retired.
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And the structure, the accolades, the challenge, the sense of importance that came from my corporate life all vanished.
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I was sitting there in the garden where Jesus Himself grappled with his destiny.
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And I was grappling with mine.
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But here's the thing: you don't have to retire to feel this.
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Maybe you just got the promotion, maybe you just closed the deal, maybe you even just hit the numbers that everyone said was impossible.
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And you're standing there wondering why the trophy feels hollow.
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If you've ever gotten a thing that you were chasing, like the promotion, the title, the number, and felt nothing, this one's for you.
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I spent 30 years in corporate leadership making every mistake in the book, some of them twice.
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I'm Preston Poor, and if you're a leader who's ever felt in over your head but too proud to say it, you're in the right place.
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This is PQ.
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Welcome.
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Last episode we talked about the gap between success and significance, measuring impact instead of output.
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We learned that significance comes from changing what you measure, not changing your job.
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Well, now we go deeper.
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Because what happens when you're doing well by every measure, the faith is integrated, the significance is real, and something still feels off.
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Not because you measured wrong, but because you built your identity on the measuring.
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So episode 19, achievement versus meaning.
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Achievement is about accumulation.
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Targets hit, goals met, awards collected, promotions earned.
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It's the resume version of your life.
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And for most of your career it works.
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Achievement gives you structure, purpose, direction, something to chase, something to measure yourself against.
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But here's what nobody tells you when you're in the thick of it.
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Achievement has a shelf life.
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Not just a retirement.
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Every time you hit a target, there's another one behind it.
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Every promotion comes with a new set of expectations.
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And at some point, the wins stop landing the way they used to.
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Not because they're smaller, because you're starting to realize they were never going to fill what you thought they'd fill.
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Meaning is what's left after when the doing stops.
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Whether you stop for an evening, a weekend, or a career, it's not what you accomplished, it's what mattered.
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And the gap between the two is where a lot of leaders quietly sit in their cars before walking into the house.
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The tension isn't whether to pursue achievement, it's recognizing that achievement without meaning is just a decorated treadmill.
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And you can feel this at 35 or 55.
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The question is the same.
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Is what I'm building actually building anything in me?
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Looking back on how I define myself by what I accomplished, I exercised some poor judgment.
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Working at Coca-Cola was like being a member of Congress, up for re-election every two years.
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11 reorganizations.
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By reorg seven, I stopped personalizing my office.
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By 11, I wasn't sure if I'd been promoted or rearranged.
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But the badge worked, and I called that a win.
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There's a saying at Coca-Cola that the
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true believers' veins run Coke red.
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My veins didn't run Coke red.
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I put my faith above my career.
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At Coke, that made me a sprite in a room full of classics.
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Same company, different drink.
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I spent years wanting the VP title.
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Thought that was the finish line.
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Never got it.
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Turns out position doesn't equal influence.
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But try putting that on a nameplate.
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And for about half of my time at Coca-Cola, I was focused on myself, my reputation, my ambitions.
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The other half?
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God got a hold of me and I focused on people.
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Guess which half anyone remembered at my retirement party?
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Nobody toasted my KPIs.
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That last one hit close to home.
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Here's the full story.
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Before I tell you what happened to me, let me say this.
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You don't have to retire to feel what I'm about to describe.
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I just happened to feel it most sharply when the career ended.
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But the emptiness was knocking long before that.
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After promotions that should have thrilled me, after targets that should have satisfied me, after recognition that should have been enough.
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But it wasn't.
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And I didn't know why until everything stopped.
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I retired from the Coca-Cola company after 21 and a half years.
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That's almost 8,000 days.
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Nearly 40% of my life invested in one employer.
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And I didn't leave bitter.
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I left grateful.
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I integrated my faith.
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I shifted from a performance mindset to a people-first mindset.
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I learned that the how matters more than the what.
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In my retirement party, it was a beautiful night.
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Stories about relationships, not KPIs.
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And I walked out of the Atlanta office complex for the last time thinking, Lord, we did it right.
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And then the next chapter started or didn't.
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Because here's what I wasn't prepared for.
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When you retire, you don't just leave a job, you leave a structure, a daily rhythm, a place where people know your name and expect you to be in the room.
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You leave your context that
made your contributions visible.
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And I'd resolved to stay with Coke after job hopping across different companies.
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But I finally found a home.
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And leaving that home meant losing more than a paycheck.
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It meant losing the scaffolding around my identity.
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The accolades stopped, the calendar emptied, the challenge evaporated.
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The sense of importance that came from my corporate life vanished.
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All of it.
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Not gradually, suddenly.
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Like someone pulled a tablecloth and everything fell.
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And I was drifting, grappling with a loss of identity, a crisis of purpose.
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The existential questions came flooding back.
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Who am I?
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Why am I here?
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Do I matter?
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I'd answered all of those questions before, or I thought I had.
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I had purpose statements and vision statements and mission statements, but none of those were built on a foundation that included a badge, a title, and a team that reported to me.
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Take the foundation away, and the statements ring hollow.
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I finally learned that my career did not define who I am.
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My veins didn't run Coke Red.
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But knowing that in my head and living it in my bones were two completely different things.
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And in those first months of my retirement, my bones hadn't gotten the memo.
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Then came the trip.
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Carl and I, along with some friends, went to Passion City Church's Holy Land Tour.
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And there I was sitting in the Garden of Gethsemane.
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Maybe you've heard of it, a little garden where Jesus submitted his life to God before he went to the cross, a weighty place to say the least.
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I sat there, not as a tourist, a man without a compass.
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Lord, where are you in all this?
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I implored.
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In the garden where Jesus Himself grappled with his destiny, I found a semblance of solace.
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He whispered, Follow me.
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Two words I'll never forget hearing.
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It was a directive that required no roadmap, no strategic plan, and no business acumen.
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It was a call to surrender, to trust, to let go of the what and the why, and to embrace the who.
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And in that moment I realized that my identity wasn't tied to my past achievements or my future endeavors.
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It was anchored in Jesus.
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It was about being his first and foremost, not a Coca-Cola executive, not a retired leader, not a strategic thinker or a results-driven professional.
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His.
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That's it.
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That's the foundation.
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Everything else is scaffolding.
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I'm telling you this not as a retirement story.
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I'm telling you this as a warning and an invitation.
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The emptiness that I felt at the end of my career was the same emptiness I felt after every Halloween along the way.
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I just finally ran out of targets to distract me from it.
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You don't have to wait until the belt stops moving to ask what you've been running toward.
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Ask it now.
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Because meaning doesn't show up at retirement.
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It shows up when you stop long enough to hear follow me.
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Most leaders I know go to church on Sunday and show up on Monday like they've never heard a word of it.
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I was one of them.
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The Discipled Leader Apprenticeship exists to close that gap.
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One-on-one discipleship that shapes how you actually lead not just what you leave.
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If you're tired of living two separate lives, visit Prestonpoor.com.
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Chris Simpson, welcome to PCUbe.
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You're in the house.
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So glad to have you here today.
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Normally I don't introduce folks.
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I love for them to tell us about themselves.
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So take a moment, do that for the audience if you're Yeah, Preston.
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Thank you, brother, for inviting me.
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What an honor to be here.
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Uh my name is Chris Simpson, uh president and CEO of CBMC International, the world's largest and oldest evangelical marketplace ministry.
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Been around since 1930.
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Praise God for that.
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We're now in 90 countries around the world, 50,000 amazing.
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Did you start as president in 1930?
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Oh yeah, I got a lot of years.
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Yeah, you're right.
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No, I stepped in it in 2022.
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Okay.
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And the last four years have been amazing.
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You know, we're now
in 90 countries.
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I get to travel the world.
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Uh sharing the good news with business and professional leaders.
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Uh man, what a what an amazing job, right?
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Uh, but uh I got a real traditional uh, you know, ministry path behind me.
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For 24 years, I was a special agent in the U.S.
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Secret Service.
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I protected seven different presidents.
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And five of those years, uh, I was a diplomatic attaché to the Republic of Columbia.
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Before that, I was a U.S.
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Marine Corps officer.
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So, yes, you're your traditional pathway to marketplace ministry, right?
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Uh no, but but really, you know, what God did in orchestrating that path was amazing for me.
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I'm married to a beautiful woman, Anna.
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We have 26 years together.
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I have three children, two daughters, uh, one son.
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We live down in Florida.
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And uh, man, life is good.
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That's awesome.
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Great, great introduction.
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Uh, I could go any path down any path on a lot of the things you just shared.
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But today, we're so honored to have you in PCUbe in the studio today to chat about some of these things, about uh really about the activities that we have around our lives and where our meaning comes from versus achievement and those types of things.
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And so uh really important conversation.
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I know that we're gonna pull a lot out of you today.
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So let's go glow there first with the first question.
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Um, so Chris, have you ever hit a big milestone, a promotion, a launch, a number, and felt nothing on the other side?
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And what was that like?
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Yeah, you know, there's a lot of examples, Preston, that I could I could pull, but let me just pull one.
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Okay.
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So down in Columbia, I received what's called the Medal of Valor, it's the highest award that the nation can give to a foreign agent.
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Um, they gave it to me um not just for one moment in time.
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See, normally a value award, they usually don't give them for like the good quarter.
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They give it for like uh the time in your life that was difficult, but you made it out of life, right?
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Right.
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That was for us.
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Uh, but it wasn't one event.
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Over the course of five years, uh, me and my team, we we seized over 100 million in counterfeit U.S.
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currency, the most in Secret Service history.
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Wow.
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And we we put behind bars a lot of bad guys.
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So this was record-breaking type stuff.
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And so they gave me an award, right?
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And so you're getting there, you're getting the metal pins on, you're getting the applause and the recognition.
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Um, and then you go back, right?
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And and if you begin to attach identity or worth or value on those types of events, uh, you know, the aftermath really is it's kind of sobering because you go back after you got the metal, you put it in a box, you put it in your desk, or you put it on the shelf or wherever it is.
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But really, it it doesn't identify you.
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Yeah, it's it's just a snapshot of a moment in time.
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Like it doesn't tell you who you are, but really it just tells you where you what where you went.
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Like where were you?
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Like what did you like what did you do?
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And and so um for me, that reality, that like those recognized moments didn't add value necessarily to my own self-worth or like my own perception of who I was, but rather uh they just helped me identify where where the Lord had taken me.
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And putting that in the right perspective was vital for me, right?
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I mean, for example, the uh director of investigations up in Washington, D.C., um, he's like, hey, your picture is hanging up in Secret Service headquarters.
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So I didn't even know this, right?
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So a picture of a huge seizure we had done on the Venezuelan border, me in front of a uh counterfeit printing press.
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I had the vest on.
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I was looking it was pretty sharp.
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It was a good photo.
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Yeah.
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And they had it in Secret Service headquarters.
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He's like, hey, do you want it?
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We're we're redesigning the area.
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I'll send it to you.
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I'm like, yeah, it'd be great.
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No, no problem.
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Thanks.
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And by the time the mail got through with it, it was all broken.
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The glass was had cut the picture up and everything, but but the reality
press, it didn't bother me.
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You know what?
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Because because again, it was just a snapshot of my life.
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It wasn't, it didn't have deeper meaning than that.
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Yeah, yeah, praise God for the opportunities, praise God for the men who were with me and uh what we did to to try and step in the gap between light and dark in those days, but it didn't define me.
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Yeah.
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Right.
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So that coming to me, broken and scarred up and messed up, you know what?
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It's not a big deal.
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It's a snapshot of my life.
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You know, life goes on.
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With all that resume, with all the recognition that you've received, all the things that you've done, uh, when did you come to Christ in all that?
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Was it before, during, after?
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Tell us a little bit about how you came to know him.
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Yeah.
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So grew up in West Tennessee, small town, uh, church family.
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Like my great-grandmother played the organ, my grandmother led the choir.
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I was the kid that mowed the lawn and poured the grape juice, right?
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And so I grew up in the environment.
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And uh, and so I knew the verbiage.
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But the reality, I think this probably resonates with a lot of people in the Bible belt.
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Um, you're in a church culture, you understand everything about it, and yet it does require personal commitment, right?
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I didn't have that for years, for years.
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So I was rootless essentially.
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Uh got a scholarship to go to Tulane down in New Orleans.
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Well, what happens when you take an 18-year-old, doesn't have real roots in the Lord, and you send him to a city built for sin, right?
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Well, you know, that facade was torn down relatively quickly.
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You know, I I didn't, I wasn't following the Lord.
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I was easily succumbed by the enemy, you know, in that in that season of my life.
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And so um, fast forward to Marine Corps Officer Candid School.
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I was 21 years old, up in Quantico, Virginia, you know, very difficult school, difficult school, by the way.
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And I'm sitting there in chaplain service, and I got my little mini Bible in front of me, and I'm all covered in mud, and we're listening to the chaplain service.
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And I, man,
I start breaking down.
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Like I'm like, like something's hitting me right in that moment that never hit me before.
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I'm looking around with all these other, these real type A guys there, hoping nobody sees me, but I couldn't stop.
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And you know, that should have been kind of the Damascus Road moment, right?
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It wasn't.
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It wasn't.
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For the next 12 years, I played keep away from God.
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Okay, God, you can have this, but I'm keeping the finances here.
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Oh, God, you can you can have this part of my life, but my my sex life is mine.
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Like, so I'm just playing keep away.
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I didn't want to get off the throne.
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And we're gonna talk about it in a minute.
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There's a reason behind that.
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And success was part of that.
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And it and it really becomes becomes quite delusional to somebody when they begin to experience those, those elements of success, which caused me to delay my actual surrender until my early 30s, where finally the Lord brought me to that place, took me to the mat where I couldn't outrun, outgun, or outshoot uh, or out muscle something in my life.
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It was a health condition of a loved one.
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He he brought me lovingly to that place where I just couldn't anything about it.
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And finally I said, Lord, I just give it all to you.
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Yeah, it's that moment of surrender, right?
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I think I tell people uh often, like at Coke, I uh gave my life to Christ when I was in 1980.
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I think I was an eighth grader, but I didn't surrender my career until like 2005.
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And so there are moments in life like that where we surrender those things, maybe sometimes all at once, or it's peeling back the layers of the onion to get to your heart on that.
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And that's what uh the Lord did.
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So that was so it was so good.
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So thanks for that.
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Was not meant on the script, but thank you for the sharing.
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I think I go some great context.
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Um, when did you first notice the gap between what you were achieving and what you actually mattered to you?
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Yeah.
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So it took me a while to really identify kind of what I was chasing.
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So I when I did, I call them shadows, right?
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So, so power, achievement, and applause.
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So I came to realize like those are really the three things that I was kind of always after, right?
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And they're pretty dangerous because all three of those things are very well applauded in the in the world of in the in the world of professional world, whether it be in government or in business or wherever you've been called professionally, like those things are pretty well applauded.
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And so uh power, for example, like I thought if I could just control enough of my environment, then I'd be secure.
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Yeah.
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But the reality is that that power uh does nothing more than turn the volume up on what's already inside of you.
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So if you have pride inside of you, guess what?
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Power is gonna turn the volume up on that.
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If you have loneliness or whatever it may be, it's just gonna make it louder.
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Right.
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So that's power.
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It's rough.
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Uh achievement.
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Now, achievement is tricky because achievement looks like virtue.
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It looks like excellence.
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It looks, right?
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It looks like something that you're like, you're gonna be uh giving the glory to God for.
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But achievement, I think, and you even mentioned it earlier, achievement's a treadmill.
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Yeah, right.
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Like you never like you're always looking for the next thing, right?
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So you just run faster and harder.
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Next thing you know, you're exhausted, or you're exhausting your team, or you're exhausting your family out.
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So achievement was the other thing.
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Yeah.
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And then applause.
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Oh, applause, my goodness.
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Applause.
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We we begin to attach, you know, our our identity to applause and recognition.
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But you know, applause is rented.
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Uh the the same people who are lifting you up today uh can very quickly not only uh tear you down, uh, but but but talk that bad about you like in a heartbeat, right?
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So applause is rented.
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And so when you begin to kind of hang your identity and worth and value in those three things, I was chasing them, right?
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Um, uh I began to see a gap.
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Yeah.
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Now, here's the tricky part.
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Uh the gap I didn't see at work.
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At work, I was killing it.
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Everything I did, everything I touched would turn to gold.
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I saw the gap at home.
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Right.
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And that I think where we as Christian men, we really have to be cognizant of this, right?
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Um, in fact, I've ministered to a lot of brothers on this exact same thing because of my experience in it.
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The gap I felt was at home.
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So my marriage, which uh should have been flourishing, and my wife should have been flourishing.
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Uh, we'd been together, you know, a number of years at that point, but there wasn't.
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There, there was something missing there.
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Same thing with kind of with how I was fathering my children.
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There was something missing.
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And I came to realize it was because um, you know, my values, which I could recite, there was the difference between what I said and what my calendar actually looked like, right?
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Yeah.
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Like how I was walking that out.
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And my family, my wife, my marriage, right?
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They were the real kind of mirrors in this where I began to see that gap.
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And so um, once I, once I just said, Lord, I I'm handing this all over to you, I'm getting off this throne.
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I I do not want um what I consider to be of greater and higher priority, which is my covenant marriage at my home, my family, uh, to take a hit on something.
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So when I when I turn my life over to the Lord, he began to uh really open my eyes to the reality of his concentric love for me, beginning in my own heart and working out to my covenant marriage.
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Yeah, and then work, then my children, and then those immediately around me.
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And then afterwards, professionally, right?
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Yeah, I had it backwards.
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Like I was looking over the horizon, skipping over these concentric, valuable circles of my life.
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And so when he identified that for me, uh it was it it it it rapidly changed everything.
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I began to take my my marriage very seriously.
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You see, I was I was fluent in sarcasm, right?
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Quick to judge, slow to love.
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Yeah, you know what I'm saying?
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Um I wasn't creating an environment where she was flourishing.
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Like when a man
walks out his role effectively, the wife flourishes.
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Oh, yeah.
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When we fail at that, she has a hard time.
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Yeah, right.
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And it's not and it's not always on her.
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In fact, a lot of times it's on us.
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And so I began to take that very seriously.
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And she began to flourish, and we began to flourish as a marriage, right?
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Do you remember a uh tipping point though, Chris, and all that with you and your wife?
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Where is there a specific time that you remember and said, No, we gotta change a season.
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It was slow, it was just a season where you're you're you're constantly feeling like, man, something is not right here.
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Right.
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Like there wasn't that like that moment that you're talking now, but but there was a season where I'm like, this is not right.
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Yeah.
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Okay.
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And I don't want this to continue.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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But I love the way you frame that up with the uh the power, the achievements, and then the applause.
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Yeah.
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It's kind of funny.
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Even a small thing for me back at Coke.
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I used to go do these sales rallies.
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We'd get in front of all these balling folks, great people, blue collar workers.
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They made things happen in the field, and I go to do these fun presentations.
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And I always hope that somebody come up and pat me on the back and say, Nice job.
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And if they did, that was great.
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And if they didn't, man, that would ruin my day.
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Right.
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So you're saying the applause is borrowed, uh, that recognition is borrowed, the feeling you're looking for on that.
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I always Always uh really wanted that.
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And when I didn't get it, uh just bummed me out the rest of the day.
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Yeah, but uh that's the way that is.
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So I certainly understand all of that.
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Um how do you find meaning?
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So we talk a little bit about this in the opening about meaning because it's so important in our lives, right?
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Um, and everything around that.
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But how do you find meaning in the middle of your career, not just the end of it?
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So I mentioned in my story a little bit about kind of the end.
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Uh, I did find meaning dearing, uh, but there's probably people that are listening to us today that are wondering, what is all this worth?
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Why am I doing all this?
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What uh what makes this worthwhile?
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What would you say to that person?
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Yeah, so this is gonna sound weird, but you got to meet this guy.
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And here's who this guy is.
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This guy is he's got it all together.
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Like he's really good at his job.
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Um, he's the guy that people go to uh for answers.
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He's the guy that calms the room, like he's the guy that makes things happen, right?
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And um he's also the guy um who hasn't told the truth about himself uh in 20 years.
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He has one story for his wife at home, one story for his his friends he's had for 22 years, one story uh for work.
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You ask him how he's doing, he's good, he's good.
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The reality is he's not good.
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Yeah, the reality is he's tired and he's got no one.
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And he and he's it's internalizing all of this stuff.
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And you know, I kept meeting this guy.
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I met the guy in the Miami field office, I met the guy down in Columbia, I met the guy on protected beat tails in the jungles of Cambodia.
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I kept meeting this guy, right?
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I kept running into him, and it wasn't until the Lord opened my eyes uh say, look, that's you.
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Like it was me.
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Like I was that guy, I was the guy that had it all together.
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Um, but it was really lonely, shallow, yeah, no joy in my life, like no true joy in my life, right?
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And so um I would tell, you know, anybody listening that that's walking through life, like, you gotta meet that guy, and it's you.
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You you gotta you gotta begin to ask the question, um, you know, what is it about your life?
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Are you like a stone skipping on the stop of water, jumping from temporary satisfaction to temporary satisfaction?
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And then wondering why nothing feels deep, nothing feels like like it's lasting.
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Yeah, like ask yourself those those questions.
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Like you have to meet that guy.
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And you gotta look in the mirror, right?
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And ask those things because that was me.
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Literally just jumping from temporary satisfaction to the next, hoping, praying, expecting that the next thing would bring me fulfillment, right?
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Never did.
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Never did.
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Right.
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So I would tell them, look, meet the guy.
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And then once you have that heart to heart with who you are, right?
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Who's calling the shots in your life?
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Have the things you've been doing brought you fulfillment?
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It's kind of like you keep touching the stove over and over again, hoping it's not gonna burn you.
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Ask yourself the question if you're not if you're not experiencing fulfillment, yeah, right, are you gonna continue to do the exact same things over and over and over again for the next 25 years?
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Or are you gonna have a real discussion with yourself and with the Lord about where this needs to go?
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So for me, that was the that was the case, right?
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So I met the guy, yeah, I looked in the mirror, and the Lord said, Okay, now I'm not pulling you out, right?
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Some people think, and I've ministered a lot of guys in this and it drives me crazy.
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They come to faith and they're like, Okay, I want to go do something for the Lord now.
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Yeah, I want to go, I want to go drop all this and go do something holy.
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Yeah, right.
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I'm like, brother, like the Lord didn't give you the opportunities, the experiences, your network, everything that you currently have, so you can drop it and go serving now, right?
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He didn't do that.
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That's right.
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Lord sent me right back into the secret service, right?
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Yeah, same, same office, same teams, different king.
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That's right.
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Right.
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And so that began to change everything.
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Yeah.
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I began to see people differently, like they weren't either in my way or useful anymore.
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Like there were image bearers of God who I've been placed there to connect with, to love on, to encourage, to strengthen, to point to him.
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Yeah.
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Right.
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So it began to change everything.
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And that was right in the middle.
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And God does that a lot.
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Like when he begins to re-he just he just
begins to reframe the victories, right?
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He begins to change the scoreboard for you.
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He doesn't always just yank you out of there.
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He says, now now go back in and serve me with everything I'd already given you.
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Yeah.
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Right.
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And so that was me.
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Oh, that's awesome.
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What a what a story and what a what a uh I think an impact.
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And identifying that man and then looking in the mirror to say, hey, uh, actually, you know, that's me.
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Yeah.
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Uh I think that's often the uh self-reflection that most people don't want to have or do.
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Uh, but often you come to a place in your life where you need to realize, uh, and you'll have an illumination, I guess, that uh and a uh insight that something's not right.
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And you're not the answer to that.
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And that uh Jesus is.
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So uh thank you for that.
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And I love the other thing you said, uh, because we talk on the show about Imago Day.
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So seeing people as bear images, uh bearing the image of God.
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And uh, if you can shift the way that you view people and see people, uh it changes everything about the way you interact with them.
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It's not transactional, it becomes relational.
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You care about them, you want them to do well.
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It's not about how well you do, but you want them to do better.
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So that's uh what a what a shift and a change and a reframing that you do.
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Um what would you tell a leader in their 30s or 40s who's doing well by every measure, but can't shake the feeling that something's missing?
00:27:08.640 --> 00:27:09.039
Yeah.
00:27:09.200 --> 00:27:14.400
And you know, if they're listening to this, they they probably maybe they walk with the Lord right now, right?
00:27:14.640 --> 00:27:21.359
And and they're close to the Lord and they think they're okay, but they need they need to have that conversation again with themselves.
00:27:21.440 --> 00:27:24.000
They need to ask themselves, who's calling the shots in my life?
00:27:24.240 --> 00:27:24.559
Right.
00:27:24.720 --> 00:27:30.079
So if you're experiencing kind of a shallowness and you're like, man, this there's got to be more to this, ask yourself a simple question.
00:27:30.240 --> 00:27:31.599
Who's calling the shots in this?
00:27:31.759 --> 00:27:32.000
Right?
00:27:32.160 --> 00:27:33.839
Is it all thumbs and no fingers?
00:27:33.920 --> 00:27:34.079
Right?
00:27:34.160 --> 00:27:36.480
Because if it's all thumbs, right, then we got a problem.
00:27:36.559 --> 00:27:37.119
Yeah, right.
00:27:37.279 --> 00:27:41.920
But but if you're going to God, not not with the large stuff, but the little things, right?
00:27:42.079 --> 00:27:47.920
With your daily, with your daily agenda, with your weekly agenda, with with what God has called you to, are you doing that?
00:27:48.000 --> 00:27:48.799
Are you allowing him?
00:27:49.039 --> 00:27:54.079
So when there's a whether a conflict or a major decision point, like who wins on that?
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Like your personal preference, like your comfort zone, or does the word of God, does his small voice, does godly counsel, who's winning in that, right?
00:28:02.480 --> 00:28:11.920
So I would tell these brothers, like if you're in the middle of this, right, and you still feel like, man, things are shallow, and I don't feel like I'm getting traction here in my faith walk in this professional realm.
00:28:12.079 --> 00:28:14.079
Ask yourself a question, who's calling the shots?
00:28:14.240 --> 00:28:14.400
Right.
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Right?
00:28:14.880 --> 00:28:18.480
Because inevitably, when I when I answered that question, it was always me.
00:28:18.720 --> 00:28:21.920
Guess what, guess where my shots, guess where my decisions led me?
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Almost always, just even if just one degree off track.
00:28:25.119 --> 00:28:25.599
Yeah, right.
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And next thing I know, I'm I'm away from where God would have me exactly.
00:28:29.039 --> 00:28:29.200
Yeah.
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You have to ask that.
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So play with me on this for a minute.
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Uh, you get to a spot where you say, okay, I'm in this position I'm in.
00:28:36.559 --> 00:28:37.519
I know it's not good.
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I know I'm not the answer.
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It's not inside of me.
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What does that person then do?
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Tell me a little bit about it.
00:28:43.200 --> 00:28:49.519
And I'm not looking for a checklist that they need to go through, but yeah, if they get to that point in their life, uh, what would you recommend that they do?
00:28:49.599 --> 00:28:50.559
What advice would you give them?
00:28:50.720 --> 00:28:50.960
Yeah.
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So you gotta get connected to Christian community.
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You got to get connected uh to a congregation.
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Like, look, I don't care what church you go to, but you need to be in a Bible-believing, Bible-teaching church.
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You need to be in Christian community with others.
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And this this kind of parlays into the next point.
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You have to have your people.
00:29:08.480 --> 00:29:12.240
Like, like I always would ask some, like I ask
young people, like, hey, where's your people?
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Like, what do you mean?
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Like, where's the brother that, like when you're like, here's the roller coaster ride of life, right?
00:29:18.000 --> 00:29:22.319
Like when you're in the dip, where's your brother who's not there with you, who can look in and help you out?
00:29:22.400 --> 00:29:22.559
Yeah.
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Like, where's your brother who's not in your success bubble, who who can, who can help you calibrate your targets effectively, right?
00:29:29.359 --> 00:29:30.319
Like, where are your people?
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Like I always ask people, because think about this.
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How many companies have we known that have hired amazingly charismatic, amazingly gifted people whose character did not at least reach or surpass their giftedness?
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Yeah.
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And what did they do?
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They took that organization off a cliff.
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Oh, yeah.
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That's what happens.
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Uh, but but if you have people who are always you and you've given them access to you, right?
00:29:52.960 --> 00:30:00.079
Like they they love you enough and you love them enough to give them access to your life to say, hey, brother, I'm seeing something in you that's a little off right now.
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Let's talk about it.
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Like I would ask him, do you have your people?
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You have to.
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If you if you don't, you're missing on a vital, like one of the major legs that God gives us in our walk with him, his word, time with him personally in prayer and small in a small voice, and then Christian community.
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Like those are the three pillars he gives us to not only just survive, but to thrive in our walk with him.
00:30:20.880 --> 00:30:21.039
Yeah.
00:30:21.119 --> 00:30:21.279
Yeah.
00:30:21.440 --> 00:30:22.000
Yeah, so good.
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I, you know, Chris, I talk a lot about some of the Barness statistics about uh the number of Christians that are actually not discipled.
00:30:28.240 --> 00:30:41.200
And what I mean by that is somebody that knows how to read and study the Bible, somebody knows how to pray, somebody that uh can witness or share their faith, give their testimony about what the Lord has done in their life, or being connected to a church and the importance that you just mentioned in that whole thing on that.
00:30:41.359 --> 00:30:44.000
And about 80% of Christians out there don't know how to do that.
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And then couple that with the fact, okay, so you've got this leader who hasn't had his character formed, shaped, developed by the Lord, and is getting in top of the organization, drives them off that cliff.
00:30:54.240 --> 00:30:54.640
That's right.
00:30:54.720 --> 00:30:57.920
Uh, and there's Christian leaders out there that are doing that, to be quite frank with you.
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It's true.
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So the question is, how do we figure that out and help them get into a position where they're walking with the Lord?
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And then he can work in them and through them uh in those environments.
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And that's where they'll make the change.
00:31:07.920 --> 00:31:08.960
It sounds like that happened to you too.
00:31:09.200 --> 00:31:10.559
Well, it's absolutely true.
00:31:10.640 --> 00:31:15.599
And and there's a there's a sobering reality behind that statistic you gave, Preston.
00:31:16.160 --> 00:31:19.200
So when we first come to faith, like we receive, receive, receive, right?
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We're in receipt mode.
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And then we we come to that point, which is kind of a spiritual plateau.
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And until you begin to pour into others, you're gonna stay there.
00:31:26.400 --> 00:31:30.880
Like I know Christians, prominent Christians who've been on that spiritual plateau for 30 years.
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Yeah.
00:31:31.279 --> 00:31:31.440
Why?
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Because they've never entered a discipleship.
00:31:33.200 --> 00:31:33.440
What?
00:31:33.519 --> 00:31:37.680
They've never actually began to pour into somebody else to continue their own upward trajectory with the Lord.
00:31:37.759 --> 00:31:38.240
Yeah, right.
00:31:38.400 --> 00:31:43.759
Like I always tell people, like you're not an actual leader for Christ if you're not pouring into others.
00:31:43.839 --> 00:31:48.319
Like if you're just in receipt mode for your 50 years, your walk with him, then you're a baby.
00:31:48.400 --> 00:31:48.559
Yeah.
00:31:48.640 --> 00:31:57.599
And I'm sorry, I don't mean that in a in a you know, in a way that's that's that that's really irreverent to people, but but God calls you to be an adult and begin to feed others.
00:31:57.680 --> 00:31:57.920
Yeah.
00:31:58.000 --> 00:31:58.079
Right.
00:31:58.240 --> 00:32:03.279
And so we have unfortunately too many people living on that plateau when they could be doing so much for the Lord.
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Yeah.
00:32:03.599 --> 00:32:04.000
Oh, yeah.
00:32:04.079 --> 00:32:04.400
Absolutely.
00:32:04.480 --> 00:32:13.759
I I learned a long time ago, I think it was either uh a couple of my pastors in uh first Christian church in Fort Collins, Colorado, when I was growing up, uh, Jeff Crabtree or Johnny Square mentioned this.
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They talked about how you could get a sponge and you pour all the water into it.
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And if it sits in there forever, it sours.
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And you have to wring it out in order for that sponge to be fresh.
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And when they say ringing out, I meant your your faith, share it with other people, live it out, and that kind of stuff.
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And it just sticks inside of you to that point.
00:32:29.279 --> 00:32:32.160
You'll be plateaued, like you just mentioned, for those uh those years.
00:32:32.240 --> 00:32:34.000
So similar thought process and all that.
00:32:34.160 --> 00:32:34.559
Yeah, yeah.
00:32:34.720 --> 00:32:36.079
Chris, this has been awesome to have you.
00:32:36.160 --> 00:32:38.799
Is there anything else on your mind today as you came in here today?
00:32:38.880 --> 00:32:42.319
I know you're here for another event, and uh this worked out so well for you to actually be live.
00:32:42.480 --> 00:32:44.000
This is so special for me.
00:32:44.160 --> 00:32:47.680
Uh, is there anything else that's on your mind that you want to share as we close out today?
00:32:47.920 --> 00:32:48.160
Yeah.
00:32:48.240 --> 00:32:49.359
So thanks for asking that.
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And so I minister to a lot of people around the world, and uh the vast majority are business and professional leaders, right?
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And so one thing that I always love to share uh with them is to make yourself known.
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Like we got to disarm the enemy.
00:33:03.200 --> 00:33:04.559
And here's what I mean by that.
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If you're 95% known, you're an unknown person because the enemy will leverage that 5% hidden against you your whole life.
00:33:14.240 --> 00:33:15.440
He will leverage that against you.
00:33:15.599 --> 00:33:17.599
Yeah, he will, he will, that counterfeit small voice.
00:33:17.680 --> 00:33:18.720
Hey, what if they find out?
00:33:18.799 --> 00:33:20.240
What if they only knew, right?
00:33:20.400 --> 00:33:33.039
And he will leverage that against you, and you will be not nearly as impactful for God as you could be if you just walked in the light, got a confident group of brothers or sisters who you love and you can confess these things to.
00:33:33.440 --> 00:33:34.559
Disarm the enemy.
00:33:34.640 --> 00:33:36.079
Yeah, make yourself known.
00:33:36.240 --> 00:33:37.519
I I know it's embarrassing.
00:33:37.599 --> 00:33:40.799
I know, I know some people think that, well, what are they gonna think about me?
00:33:40.960 --> 00:33:46.319
Look, you're gonna make yourself a powerful man or woman of God if you become known and you take all the weapons out of the enemy's hands.
00:33:46.400 --> 00:33:47.279
What's he gonna say?
00:33:47.440 --> 00:33:48.240
They already know.
00:33:48.319 --> 00:33:48.799
Yeah, right.
00:33:49.039 --> 00:33:49.680
Yeah, so good.
00:33:49.759 --> 00:33:52.160
I I remember just as I close out, it brings back this.
00:33:52.240 --> 00:33:57.039
Uh, I was at a Christmas party talking to a guy about an accountability group that I was part of.
00:33:57.119 --> 00:34:00.160
And I'm not talking about somebody to ask me a bunch of questions and hammer me over the head and all that.
00:34:00.480 --> 00:34:04.559
But it was a place of being being transparent, uh, honest with each other, those types of things.
00:34:04.640 --> 00:34:06.640
And the guy looked at me and goes, why would you want to do that?
00:34:06.960 --> 00:34:15.119
Well, you just described exactly why, uh, is because that if we have that 5% that's uh in there that's not fully known, that will hold us back.
00:34:15.599 --> 00:34:26.400
And uh so if we have the opportunity to be around a sharp group of people that have our best interest or connected to the Lord, uh the Lord will use that uh to form you and shape you and use you uh in the marketplace.
00:34:27.039 --> 00:34:27.519
That's really good.
00:34:27.679 --> 00:34:28.559
Chris has been awesome.
00:34:28.639 --> 00:34:29.840
Thanks for being here on PCU.
00:34:30.000 --> 00:34:30.400
Good to have you.
00:34:30.559 --> 00:34:31.519
Oh, my pleasure, brother.
00:34:31.599 --> 00:34:32.400
Thanks you.
00:34:32.719 --> 00:34:33.760
Chris, thank you.
00:34:33.920 --> 00:34:36.639
Here's what keeps coming back to me as I listen to you.
00:34:36.880 --> 00:34:40.159
There's a man in scripture who had the ultimate resume.
00:34:40.480 --> 00:34:45.119
And what he did with it when he met Christ changes everything about this conversation.
00:34:45.280 --> 00:34:52.480
Paul had the ultimate resume, and I'm not talking about the ministry resume, I'm talking about the one he built before Damascus.
00:34:52.880 --> 00:35:14.320
He listed in himself a legitimate birth, circumcised on the eighth day, an Israelite from the elite tribe of Benjamin, a strict and devout adherent to God's law, a fiery defender of the purity of his religion, even to the point of persecuting the church, a meticulous observer of everything set down in God's law book.
00:35:14.639 --> 00:35:22.880
In today's terms, Ivy League pedigree, fast track career, board-level connections, the kind of resume that opens every door in the building.
00:35:23.440 --> 00:35:29.360
Paul didn't just achieve, he dominated by every external measure, he was doing well.
00:35:29.760 --> 00:35:37.599
And then he met Christ on the road to Damascus, and everything he'd spent his life accumulating, he re-categorized.
00:35:38.000 --> 00:35:50.800
Philippians 3, 7 through 9 in the message says this the very credentials these people are waving around is something special I'm tearing up and I'm throwing out with the trash, along with everything else I used to take credit for.
00:35:51.119 --> 00:35:51.760
And why?
00:35:52.239 --> 00:35:53.360
Because of Christ.
00:35:53.599 --> 00:36:03.119
Yes, all the things I once thought were so important are gone from my life compared to the high privilege of knowing Jesus Christ as my master firsthand.
00:36:03.519 --> 00:36:08.639
Everything I once thought I had going for me is insignificant, dog dung.
00:36:09.039 --> 00:36:13.599
I've dumped it all
in the trash so that I can embrace Christ and be embraced by him.
00:36:14.559 --> 00:36:15.360
Dog dung.
00:36:15.760 --> 00:36:17.519
That's what Paul called his resume.
00:36:17.760 --> 00:36:20.880
Not because his achievements were fake, they were real.
00:36:21.199 --> 00:36:26.800
But compared to knowing Christ, they were insignificant, trash, not worth holding.
00:36:27.360 --> 00:36:30.719
That's the tension of this episode in one confession.
00:36:31.039 --> 00:36:34.079
You can achieve everything and still be holding the wrong thing.
00:36:34.480 --> 00:36:37.679
Paul didn't lack accomplishments, he lacked the right anchor.
00:36:37.840 --> 00:36:40.960
And when he found it, the achievements didn't disappear.
00:36:41.199 --> 00:36:43.760
They just stopped mattering the way that they used to.
00:36:44.480 --> 00:36:46.639
And here's what makes Paul's story relevant.
00:36:46.800 --> 00:36:52.719
If you're in the middle of your career, not at the end of it, Paul didn't wait until retirement to recategorize.
00:36:52.960 --> 00:36:57.920
He did it mid-stride, still planning churches, still writing letters, still building.
00:36:58.079 --> 00:37:00.400
But now he was building on a different foundation.
00:37:00.639 --> 00:37:04.800
The achievements kept coming, they just stopped being the point.
00:37:05.199 --> 00:37:07.360
I was Paul in a Coca-Cola polo.
00:37:07.599 --> 00:37:10.079
I had 21 and a half years of credentials.
00:37:10.239 --> 00:37:14.000
And when the credentials were gone, I had to ask the same question Paul did.
00:37:14.400 --> 00:37:17.679
If I'm not defined by what I've achieved, then who am I?
00:37:18.159 --> 00:37:18.960
Paul's answer?
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I'm his.
00:37:20.320 --> 00:37:21.280
And that's enough.
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And that's what I heard in the garden.
00:37:24.000 --> 00:37:24.800
Follow me.
00:37:25.119 --> 00:37:28.559
Not list your accomplishments, not show me your development plan.
00:37:29.199 --> 00:37:30.000
Follow me.
00:37:30.480 --> 00:37:33.519
Two words that made every line on my resume irrelevant.
00:37:33.679 --> 00:37:37.199
And for the first time, that felt like freedom, not loss.
00:37:37.679 --> 00:37:39.119
So what do you do with all this?
00:37:39.519 --> 00:37:40.480
Three things.
00:37:40.719 --> 00:37:45.039
I wish someone had said them to me in the middle of my career, not after it ended.
00:37:45.519 --> 00:37:49.360
Number one, the empty win is a signal, not a failure.
00:37:49.760 --> 00:37:53.119
When you hit the target and feel nothing, that's not ingratitude.
00:37:53.360 --> 00:37:54.320
That's information.
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It's telling you that what you're chasing isn't what you're missing.
00:37:58.960 --> 00:38:00.079
Pay attention to it.
00:38:00.320 --> 00:38:02.480
I ignored that signal for years.
00:38:02.800 --> 00:38:06.719
Figured I just needed a bigger target, a harder goal, a higher title.
00:38:07.039 --> 00:38:10.079
I
was prescribing more of the disease as the cure.
00:38:10.480 --> 00:38:13.599
If the win feels empty, the problem isn't the win.
00:38:13.760 --> 00:38:15.840
It's what you thought the win would give you.
00:38:16.079 --> 00:38:20.880
Number two, your identity is not your role, and you don't have to lose the role to learn that.
00:38:21.119 --> 00:38:25.119
This one took me until retirement to figure out, and I wish it hadn't.
00:38:25.360 --> 00:38:26.639
I knew it intellectually.
00:38:26.800 --> 00:38:28.320
I even said it on stage.
00:38:28.480 --> 00:38:30.880
My career does not define who I am.
00:38:31.119 --> 00:38:36.239
But when the career ended, my identity went looking for its context and couldn't find it.
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You can learn this lesson now in the middle of your career before the structure disappears.
00:38:41.280 --> 00:38:44.880
Ask yourself, if you lost the title tomorrow, who would you be?
00:38:45.119 --> 00:38:50.079
If the answer is, I don't know, you've been building on scaffolding, not foundation.
00:38:50.320 --> 00:38:52.639
Build on something that doesn't retire.
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And number three, meaning is found, not manufactured.
00:38:56.800 --> 00:39:00.639
I didn't find meaning by writing a new mission statement or launching a new initiative.
00:39:00.880 --> 00:39:04.159
I found it sitting in a garden, asking God where he was.
00:39:04.480 --> 00:39:07.119
The answer wasn't a plan, it was a person.
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Follow me.
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That's it.
00:39:09.679 --> 00:39:14.079
No strategic framework, no five-year vision, just a directive to trust.
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And you can hear that same voice right now in the car, at the desk, in the meeting where you're wondering why none of this feels like enough.
00:39:22.320 --> 00:39:32.880
The moment you stop trying to construct meaning from your achievements and start receiving it from the one who made you, the emptiness fills not with accomplishments, with presence.
00:39:33.679 --> 00:39:37.039
Achievement builds the resume, meaning fills the soul.
00:39:37.360 --> 00:39:42.320
And you don't have to wait until the resume is finished to start asking which one you've been building.
00:39:42.559 --> 00:39:46.400
If the wind feels empty, maybe you're hearing the same thing that I heard.
00:39:46.800 --> 00:39:49.920
Not a strategy, not a plan, but two words.
00:39:50.159 --> 00:39:51.039
Follow me.
00:39:51.440 --> 00:39:53.039
And they changed everything.
00:39:53.360 --> 00:39:56.239
And they don't require retirement to hear.
00:39:56.639 --> 00:40:01.679
We just talked about what happens when achievement runs out of road and meaning has to take over.
00:40:02.079 --> 00:40:03.519
But there's one more question.
00:40:03.920 --> 00:40:08.559
The one underneath all of it is not what you're building or why does it matter.
00:40:08.719 --> 00:40:11.679
It's who are you becoming while you're building it.
00:40:12.000 --> 00:40:15.280
Episode 20, outcome versus identity.
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The final episode of the season, the question that you've been circling since episode one.
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See you there.
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Well, that's a wrap.
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Thanks for spending part of your day with me, and I know your time is valuable and your to-do list is long.
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If this was helpful, share it with someone else who needs it.
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It helps more people find the show, and quite honestly, it makes me feel like I'm not just talking to myself in here.
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And if today's tension, hit home, maybe a little too close to home, and if you're tired of being one person on Sunday and someone else on Monday, check out the Disciple Leader Apprenticeship at Preston Poor.com.
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Ten weeks, one hour a week, one conversation a time, no slides, no lectures, just real talk.
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Peace out, be Rockstar.