How to Be Authentic and Visible: täielik transkriptsioon

00:04:44.720 What a blessing, I'll tell you, because by the time I was eight, I learned a lot. 00:04:44.720 --> 00:04:46.079 That's why it was a blessing. 00:04:46.079 --> 00:04:48.959 Uh, by the time I was eight years old, I was changing diapers. 00:04:48.959 --> 00:04:50.560 I had a lot of responsibility. 00:04:50.560 --> 00:05:04.160 And I think a lot of people out there, especially women over the age of 50, can relate to this part of my story because um I was essentially like the second mother in the house, and the home wasn't always necessarily extremely safe. 00:05:04.160 --> 00:05:08.720 And so that develops certain mechanisms inside of me. 00:05:08.720 --> 00:05:10.959 And there's again, there's a name for that. 00:05:10.959 --> 00:05:12.399 It's called parentification. 00:05:12.399 --> 00:05:26.160 And a lot of people, I think a lot of women specifically can uh relate to this, and it does create a lot of adult things, you know, adult adult, what if there's a whole name for it, like adults of childhood trauma. 00:05:26.160 --> 00:05:31.519 Uh, there's a whole study and all that that you guys can look up and learn more about yourselves. 00:05:31.519 --> 00:05:39.439 Anyways, uh I learned how to keep the peace for everyone else except for me. 00:05:39.439 --> 00:05:43.040 And I learned how to do it before I even understood who I was. 00:05:43.040 --> 00:05:47.120 And so, how did that affect me as an adult once social media came online? 00:05:47.120 --> 00:05:52.800 Because I'm 37, and you know, Instagram, Facebook, that all came around in my teenage years. 00:05:52.800 --> 00:06:05.040 And social media these days, like for me for a period, was full of eldest daughter stuff, you know, and like uh eldest daughter and childhood trauma and how it affects you, blah, blah, blah, all that. 00:06:05.040 --> 00:06:08.000 And honestly, in the beginning, I felt really seen. 00:06:08.000 --> 00:06:10.319 I was like, wow, and that's the beauty. 00:06:10.319 --> 00:06:12.160 Isn't that the beauty of the internet? 00:06:12.160 --> 00:06:19.680 It's like we can learn more about ourselves about social media, we can find people who are like us, but I also noticed something else. 00:06:19.680 --> 00:06:23.120 And they were my wound was getting named, okay. 00:06:23.120 --> 00:06:31.600 And this happens a lot in social media, and I think this is really important to point out the my wound was getting named, and then it was being handed back to me as my identity. 00:06:31.600 --> 00:06:36.800 And I even unconscious, yes, identity work, shadow work. 00:06:36.800 --> 00:06:39.199 I was unconsciously taking this on. 00:06:39.199 --> 00:06:44.079 It's like, oh, I was the oldest daughter, I'm responsible, I can do anything. 00:06:44.079 --> 00:06:48.639 Uh, you know, I don't have to rest because I can, you know, I'm strong. 00:06:48.639 --> 00:06:50.319 But do you know where that led me? 00:06:50.319 --> 00:06:54.240 Otto, like that led me to a place of what you would call chronic fatigue. 00:06:54.240 --> 00:07:03.040 If you have ever heard of adrenal fatigue, and I know so many women over the age of 50 and 40 know exactly what I'm talking about here. 00:07:03.040 --> 00:07:13.120 And I remember also scrolling past um the soft life, the easy life, you know, um content. 00:07:13.120 --> 00:07:26.160 And I'm looking at these women, and you know, I admire them and they seem like really awesome, but I kept thinking it's like, oh, but the soft life is for people who had easy childhoods, whatever I deemed to be an easy childhood, you know. 00:07:26.160 --> 00:07:29.680 Somebody could have looked at my childhood and been like, sis, that was easy. 00:07:29.680 --> 00:07:31.839 So let's keep it all in perspective, right? 00:07:31.839 --> 00:07:40.560 But for me, I had this limiting belief because I took on this identity of like, oh, I'm the oldest, so I have to continue working hard. 00:07:40.560 --> 00:07:47.519 And that identity, it might have served me through childhood, but in adulthood was something I had to let go of. 00:07:47.519 --> 00:07:56.879 And so what I learned from all of that is that, you know, maybe like peace is not necessarily reserved. 00:07:56.879 --> 00:08:03.759 What I learned specifically from that was like peace doesn't have to be reserved for people who had what I might have called an easy childhood. 00:08:03.759 --> 00:08:05.360 Again, that's relative. 00:08:05.360 --> 00:08:17.600 And um, it's something that I can build, even if it has never been modeled to me, that I am the creator of my life, that I am the author, the architect of my life. 00:08:17.600 --> 00:08:23.120 And and I can talk more about how I've developed peace for myself. 00:08:23.120 --> 00:08:32.399 But but that was kind of the most important, the key thing with social media is it's very easy for people to identify with it and to create identity pieces. 00:08:32.399 --> 00:08:36.720 And that's where I really, really want us to look a little bit closer at ourselves. 00:08:36.960 --> 00:08:39.360 Yeah, that's that was like my ooh moment. 00:08:39.360 --> 00:08:41.919 I love the way you so concisely put it. 00:08:41.919 --> 00:08:46.879 Um so we're looking for validation for how we feel. 00:08:46.879 --> 00:08:54.799 And so we're drawn to things where we believe we have a challenge and I want to fix this challenge, and we're and then we're we're drawn to it. 00:08:54.799 --> 00:09:02.399 And and the validation is first thing, and validating our feelings is an important thing that all humans need. 00:09:02.399 --> 00:09:15.440 Um, however, I adore that you brought up the fact that once people do that, then they start to attach their identity to that and start to believe that if that's my identity, then this is what that means. 00:09:15.440 --> 00:09:18.559 This is this means I'm always going to be handicapped in this way. 00:09:18.559 --> 00:09:20.879 I'm always gonna have these powers. 00:09:20.879 --> 00:09:27.279 Like,

so it it really puts you, it pigeonholes you, puts you into a space, and that's hard to get out of. 00:09:27.279 --> 00:09:40.399 And that's a that's a really important thing to bring up because we have a core identity and has nothing to do with our circumstances and our difficulties and our skill set. 00:09:40.399 --> 00:09:49.120 Our core identity is probably that part of us before the world got a hold of us and told us who we were supposed to be and what we were supposed to do. 00:09:49.120 --> 00:10:02.720 And instead, we attach our identity to our traumas, to our roles, to our responsibilities, to our paycheck, to our size of our office, to all these other things that have nothing to do with our identity. 00:10:02.720 --> 00:10:08.480 So I I adore that you brought this up because identity is so important, so important. 00:10:08.480 --> 00:10:16.879 Now, let's move on to like this fact that it we all gotta be online, right? 00:10:16.879 --> 00:10:21.600 Everyone, like you you want to apply for a job, you gotta put yourself online. 00:10:21.600 --> 00:10:25.759 You want to be found, you know, even by friends or colleagues or whatever. 00:10:25.759 --> 00:10:27.919 Put yourself on LinkedIn, put yourself online. 00:10:27.919 --> 00:10:31.360 So we're putting ourselves online all the time, whether we want to or not. 00:10:31.360 --> 00:10:37.039 Every form we fill out is online, even you know, like, you know, I'm good, I'm getting a massage. 00:10:37.039 --> 00:10:38.559 I had to fill out a form online. 00:10:38.559 --> 00:10:40.799 So everything's online. 00:10:40.799 --> 00:10:55.440 Um, and so you know, I think it it's a beautiful concept for people who haven't actually lived it, like you and I have, that uh being authentic would be so freeing, right? 00:10:55.440 --> 00:10:57.840 To like just be able to be authentic. 00:10:57.840 --> 00:11:01.679 But before it's freeing, the first thing it is is terrifying. 00:11:01.679 --> 00:11:02.879 That's the first thing. 00:11:02.879 --> 00:11:03.600 Like, what? 00:11:03.600 --> 00:11:05.360 I have to show my true self. 00:11:05.360 --> 00:11:19.919 And the thing that I love to remind people of is generally when you're on social media and you're looking at all that stuff, you're comparing your insides to other people's outsides, what they want you to see, and that's inauthentic. 00:11:19.919 --> 00:11:26.080 And right, so so let's talk about that terrifying piece of being authentic. 00:11:26.320 --> 00:11:26.720 Yeah. 00:11:26.720 --> 00:11:27.679 Oh my gosh. 00:11:27.679 --> 00:11:30.559 Beautiful, beautiful, love it, love you. 00:11:30.559 --> 00:11:37.840 Like you get people, and this is why your show is so important, because and this is like why I do what I do. 00:11:37.840 --> 00:11:46.399 It just expands my heart, and I just have to say that because you you understand like the multiple aspects of the human experience. 00:11:46.399 --> 00:11:50.240 And so this idea, like around okay, well, how do I

be authentic? 00:11:50.240 --> 00:11:52.559 How do I create peace in my life? 00:11:52.559 --> 00:11:57.519 And so for me, it starts with silence and solitude, which sounds crazy. 00:11:57.519 --> 00:12:00.000 You know, it really started with what I would call prayer. 00:12:00.000 --> 00:12:10.639 Some people um may identify with this or may not, but prayer, meditation, doing it alone in silence and solitude, all those things, or maybe not always silence. 00:12:10.639 --> 00:12:18.960 When I was 19, I went to this college called Dallas Christian College, because I was born and raised in Texas, loved it, had so much fun. 00:12:18.960 --> 00:12:21.120 And they taught us obviously about prayer. 00:12:21.120 --> 00:12:26.000 And they taught us also that prayer doesn't always necessarily have to mean that we're talking. 00:12:26.000 --> 00:12:37.440 Sometimes it's just you sitting in silence with God or whoever, you know, you're the highest version of yourself or your guides, uh, whatever resonates best for you. 00:12:37.440 --> 00:12:43.519 And looking back at that time, that was when I really started to develop my meditation practice. 00:12:43.519 --> 00:12:58.080 And for me, I think I personally could, I was hearing that inner voice uh since I was very small, but when I became aware of it whenever I became still, whenever I became silent in that prayer and that meditation space. 00:12:58.080 --> 00:13:00.559 And that was how I learned how to listen. 00:13:00.559 --> 00:13:03.519 And so I've I've continued coming back to this. 00:13:03.519 --> 00:13:09.440 And and actually, I believe last time you and I met and we talked about this, you called that our energy PS. 00:13:09.440 --> 00:13:10.399 And I loved that. 00:13:10.399 --> 00:13:15.120 That phrase has stuck with me for the past several months. 00:13:15.120 --> 00:13:24.159 Um, and so I can I can share a little story about how that practice affected, or you know, how I've used that later in life. 00:13:24.480 --> 00:13:27.200 Yes, I will let you do that for sure in one minute. 00:13:27.200 --> 00:13:33.840 Um, so uh first of all, I love to, I always love to like point out the the nuggets, the beautiful nuggets. 00:13:33.840 --> 00:13:38.879 One of the beautiful nuggets is prayer looks like many different things. 00:13:38.879 --> 00:13:46.320 It doesn't have to be talking and asking at all, which is what I think a lot of people mistake it for. 00:13:46.320 --> 00:14:16.960 Being in silence and in stillness and listening and hearing and feeling into the who of you and the higher part of you is, I would say, probably more effective than asking for things and giving up your own power of the fact that you energetically attract what you are in alignment with. 00:14:16.960 --> 00:14:37.440 Your highest self um knows what's right for you, knows the way. 00:14:37.440 --> 00:14:39.440 And it's not the how. 00:14:39.440 --> 00:14:40.559 It doesn't know the how. 00:14:40.559 --> 00:14:43.200 I mean, your skill set, that's the how, right? 00:14:43.200 --> 00:14:50.240 But the the the what is the thing, like we like we talk about you work with people who have a mission, right? 00:14:50.240 --> 00:14:52.159 How do people find their mission? 00:14:52.159 --> 00:14:56.320 They listen, you discover your mission, you don't determine your mission. 00:14:56.320 --> 00:15:09.600 It's all about you follow your inner GPS, you get in that stillness, you get in that silence, you discover based on who you are and connecting with that higher part of you, you discover what your mission is. 00:15:09.600 --> 00:15:16.720 And and I know for the work you do with people that that's you know, they're like they found that, right? 00:15:16.720 --> 00:15:19.600 And how you found yours is through the stillness. 00:15:19.600 --> 00:15:21.840 So definitely share the story with us. 00:15:22.399 --> 00:15:23.200 Okay, thank you. 00:15:23.200 --> 00:15:31.519 And yeah, and thanks for pointing out the snuggets and adding that, you know, how prayer it looks different, or meditation, you know, it's like it varies. 00:15:31.519 --> 00:15:36.080 And so I really appreciate you uh pointing that out because I really agree. 00:15:36.080 --> 00:15:43.279 But for me, so I think this is a fun story, and I think it has a lot to do with meditation and prayer and listening to that inner voice. 00:15:43.279 --> 00:15:56.000 And I guarantee all this relates back to authenticity is being able first, before you can be authentic, you got to hear inside your most authentic version of you, like outside of the noise of all the voices. 00:15:56.000 --> 00:16:01.440 And I just love how you mentioned earlier, like how you know, people identifying with their trauma. 00:16:01.440 --> 00:16:04.960 And I've totally have done that for so I did that for a long time. 00:16:04.960 --> 00:16:07.519 And so when I was, how old was I? 00:16:07.519 --> 00:16:14.080 I was in my late 20s, I don't even remember, and or the exact age, but it was my first move out of the country. 00:16:14.080 --> 00:16:19.679 I had visited Mexico, but I hadn't really adventured or explored, and I was like, you know what? 00:16:19.679 --> 00:16:20.879 I'm just gonna move to Spain. 00:16:20.879 --> 00:16:24.320 I've never been to Spain, um, but I'm gonna move there. 00:16:24.320 --> 00:16:29.759 So I packed up my bags and I got on a plane and I landed in Spain, you know. 00:16:29.759 --> 00:16:33.919 It was an international airport in a totally different country. 00:16:33.919 --> 00:16:37.919 It was the first time I had been in a totally different country in an airport. 00:16:37.919 --> 00:16:40.000 It was chaotic and fun. 00:16:40.000 --> 00:16:42.879 Um, and everybody is this was in Madrid, Spain. 00:16:42.879 --> 00:16:45.440 So everybody's speaking Spaniard Spanish. 00:16:45.440 --> 00:16:51.120 So if you know Spaniard Spanish, you know it's fast and like articulate. 00:16:51.120 --> 00:16:53.279 And I love, I love Spain. 00:16:53.279

--> 00:16:55.759 Shout out to all my Spanish friends out there. 00:16:55.759 --> 00:17:08.559 Um and I get off the plane and I'm like, oh my gosh, I don't have, I didn't think to get actual Euros, like cash Euros, you know, to like get me to my hotel room kind of deal. 00:17:08.559 --> 00:17:19.599 And so so anyway, so when you get off the plane, there's like a shuttle bus, and this shuttle bus, it costs five euros and it's gonna take me to the place that I need to go, essentially. 00:17:19.599 --> 00:17:21.200 I figured that out. 00:17:21.200 --> 00:17:26.240 And I'm like, oh heavens, good gracious heavens, I don't have any Euros. 00:17:26.240 --> 00:17:27.680 What am I gonna do? 00:17:27.680 --> 00:17:33.200 And so I'm like silently talking to God in my head, and I'm just breathing through it. 00:17:33.200 --> 00:17:41.200 I go get myself a coffee and the coffee, the coffee cup that the coffee came in, I go to throw it away at this trash can. 00:17:41.200 --> 00:17:42.720 And what do you know? 00:17:42.720 --> 00:17:49.279 Right then and there, an absolute miracle on the ground, right next to the trash can is a five-dollar euro. 00:17:49.279 --> 00:17:52.559 Right, that's fantastic. 00:17:52.559 --> 00:17:53.680 I love that. 00:17:53.680 --> 00:18:03.359 And so I just say that to say that it's like um that's like a miraculous moment of listening to my inner wisdom or my inner voice. 00:18:03.359 --> 00:18:11.359 But there are, you can call it a miracle or a luck, whatever, but uncertainty doesn't necessarily mean that we're unsupported. 00:18:11.359 --> 00:18:18.480 And for me, that support comes from that inner world, that inner knowing, that inner voice, that higher power. 00:18:18.480 --> 00:18:23.599 And and that's also where my source of peace comes from as well. 00:18:23.599 --> 00:18:29.839 And peace doesn't necessarily mean we know exactly how everything's gonna work out or we have the exact perfect thing to say. 00:18:29.839 --> 00:18:38.720 You know, it's just trusting that what emanates from us is going to be like the best authentic version of us at that time. 00:18:39.039 --> 00:18:41.519 That was my yeah, yeah, for sure. 00:18:41.519 --> 00:18:42.400 Ah, beautiful. 00:18:42.400 --> 00:18:43.279 Thank you for sharing that. 00:18:43.279 --> 00:18:53.920 I love these little, you know, synchronicities and in miracles that we have, we each have the ability to bring to us. 00:18:53.920 --> 00:18:56.319 Um, so that's that's beautiful. 00:18:56.319 --> 00:19:04.720 I want to talk next about the terror of being seen, the vulnerability uh of being seen. 00:19:04.720 --> 00:19:10.240 Um, I think that's probably the biggest obstacle that people have of showing their true selves. 00:19:10.240 --> 00:19:29.200 Um one of the one of the things that that um one of the journeys that I have I I undertook uh a long time ago was to just was when I first realized that I was identifying as a victim, even though that I was never a down person. 00:19:29.200 --> 00:19:36.960 I, you know, I always felt like, oh, yeah, everything's good and look what I can do, you know, and I was positive and doing a lot of beautiful things. 00:19:36.960 --> 00:19:46.480 But I recognized I had been telling this the way I saw my history was from a victim's perspective, not a hero's perspective. 00:19:46.480 --> 00:20:12.480 And so the last thing I wanted to do when I to be authentic was to show that I was a victim because that felt yucky because I had spent time and intention to move through that mindset into a hero's mindset to recognize the truth of why I went through all that and what I actually did and how I'm actually a hero and not a victim, right? 00:20:12.480 --> 00:20:22.880 So I looked through all those life experiences and saw them totally different, which changed exactly that identification from victim to hero, right? 00:20:22.880 --> 00:20:23.839 Or victor. 00:20:23.839 --> 00:20:31.920 Um and so one of the fears to be authentic is like, what if that pulls me back into victimhood, right? 00:20:31.920 --> 00:20:48.319 So that would be someone for someone like me who's really spent time getting like an intention getting out of it, to be like, I don't want to be dragged back, especially since you and I already talked about when you recognize something that someone can name your pain, now you're identifying with it and you be that becomes your identity. 00:20:48.319 --> 00:20:50.160 So that would that would be a fear. 00:20:50.160 --> 00:20:52.640 Another fear is that it's just unsafe. 00:20:52.640 --> 00:21:05.839 It's unsafe for for people to really see me because then they'll know that I don't have all my shit together, that I'm not as smart as I pretend I am, that I'm not all that I'm not good enough shit comes out. 00:21:05.839 --> 00:21:06.319 Right. 00:21:06.319 --> 00:21:11.119 So that that get that whole persona of I got it together gets threatened. 00:21:11.119 --> 00:21:20.000 And that underlying unfortunate belief that most people have of their that is attached to their perception of worthiness is I'm not good enough. 00:21:20.000 --> 00:21:22.160 I can't dare put that out there. 00:21:22.160 --> 00:21:23.759 Everyone will see. 00:21:23.759 --> 00:21:27.119 So that's a those are big fears. 00:21:27.119 --> 00:21:38.079 Those are a couple big fears, and just the way they might show up, they show up in a lot of different ways, but that's just a few examples of how a listener might be like, oh my gosh, what um I can't show my true self, right? 00:21:38.720 --> 00:21:39.279 Well, good. 00:21:39.279 --> 00:21:40.880 Now we're getting into the weeds of it. 00:21:40.880 --> 00:21:41.759 We're getting deep with it. 00:21:41.759 --> 00:21:42.720 Exactly. 00:21:42.720 --> 00:21:44.400 And you know what I have to say to that? 00:21:44.400 --> 00:21:46.559 Good, because you don't know what you're doing. 00:21:46.559 --> 00:21:49.440 I don't really, like, I really don't know what I'm doing.

00:21:49.440 --> 00:21:52.880 Like, honestly, like we, I don't have it all together. 00:21:52.880 --> 00:21:57.119 And like none of us actually have it all together. 00:21:57.119 --> 00:21:58.000 Good. 00:21:58.000 --> 00:21:59.759 Let those parts of you be shown. 00:21:59.759 --> 00:22:02.799 And yes, you might have fear come up. 00:22:02.799 --> 00:22:09.039 Yes, it might be hard, but good, because that's your shadow work right there. 00:22:09.039 --> 00:22:10.640 So, and you know what? 00:22:10.640 --> 00:22:18.960 And I think that it's a that, it's like it's almost a spiritual journey allowing yourself to be seen, even in our messiness. 00:22:18.960 --> 00:22:25.359 But it's the most liberating experience that a person, I believe, could ever have. 00:22:25.359 --> 00:22:32.480 Because then those parts of you that you felt were unacceptable, those are the parts of you that you don't want to be seen. 00:22:32.480 --> 00:22:36.319 And believe me, I can resonate. 00:22:36.319 --> 00:22:38.799 I can resonate. 00:22:38.799 --> 00:22:48.000 But those parts of me that I carried where I had shame, where I had guilt, where I tried to hide those things, I was just keeping those things locked away inside of me and nothing was happening with them. 00:22:48.000 --> 00:23:02.880 But then whenever I was so brave as to open up and to allow someone else to see that messiness, and then I got accepted, then I received connection, then people were like, oh my gosh, Elizabeth, wow, I can really relate to you. 00:23:02.880 --> 00:23:09.119 Then the people who people's expectations of me were in alignment with what I could actually give. 00:23:09.119 --> 00:23:12.960 I wasn't underpromising and feeling like I wasn't being valued properly. 00:23:12.960 --> 00:23:16.000 I wasn't over-promising and then not showing up for people. 00:23:16.000 --> 00:23:19.359 I was I was promising what I actually am. 00:23:19.359 --> 00:23:24.480 And how crazy is it that that right there is monumental? 00:23:24.960 --> 00:23:25.680 It really is. 00:23:25.680 --> 00:23:31.759 And it's the the point is if you're showing people the not true you, then they don't even like you. 00:23:31.759 --> 00:23:33.839 They just like the version you're showing. 00:23:33.839 --> 00:23:36.160 They're accepting the version you're showing. 00:23:36.160 --> 00:23:41.039 And so then when you start doing that, then it feels very scary to show yourself. 00:23:41.039 --> 00:23:51.119 But when you show who you truly are, then you can know for certain that you're good enough because they accept and love you. 00:23:51.119 --> 00:23:52.799 And so do you accept and love you. 00:23:52.799 --> 00:23:57.839 That's the work to be done in all your messiness, in all those faults. 00:23:57.839 --> 00:24:04.480 And when you recognize that, then the one thing that almost dissipates all by itself is shame. 00:24:04.480 --> 00:24:09.119 And shame is the most destructive of all the emotions. 00:24:09.119 --> 00:24:20.720 And when you allow yourself to be vulnerable, to be seen, to be honest with yourself and honest with others, then and then you recognize that they're accepting you. 00:24:20.720 --> 00:24:26.880 And of course, your own work, like I said, is you accepting you, then that shame just like it just goes. 00:24:26.880 --> 00:24:29.519 There's it, it doesn't, it doesn't belong. 00:24:29.519 --> 00:24:33.359 It's only there trying to keep a secret that you don't need to keep. 00:24:34.319 --> 00:24:34.640 Yeah. 00:24:34.640 --> 00:24:36.880 I love how you say that shame is destructive. 00:24:36.880 --> 00:24:38.079 That's so interesting to me. 00:24:38.319 --> 00:24:40.880 Yeah, the most destructive of all the emotions we can have. 00:24:40.880 --> 00:24:43.440 It's just, it's just awful eats away. 00:24:43.440 --> 00:24:44.400 So yeah. 00:24:44.400 --> 00:24:44.960 Okay. 00:24:44.960 --> 00:24:46.480 Um all right. 00:24:46.480 --> 00:24:49.440 This has been such an incredible conversation. 00:24:49.440 --> 00:25:01.279 Um, so I like to always finish with a turtle step, something someone can do right now before they, before listener, before you hit play on the next podcast episode, something you'll actually do. 00:25:01.279 --> 00:25:11.759 Because, you know, the purpose of this podcast is to help you to do the thing you're here to do, to help you to discover it, to help you to own it, and to to help you to do it. 00:25:11.759 --> 00:25:19.279 So, um, um, Elizabeth, what's a little turtle step, something really small that someone will actually do that you can offer for us today? 00:25:19.519 --> 00:25:20.480 Oh, I love that. 00:25:20.480 --> 00:25:22.480 I love, I love that, I love that, I love that. 00:25:22.480 --> 00:25:23.519 I'll tell you what. 00:25:23.519 --> 00:25:25.839 I think most of us have a dream. 00:25:25.839 --> 00:25:32.480 A lot of people have a dream that got delayed, and most often for like very real life reasons. 00:25:32.480 --> 00:25:34.240 And, you know, whatever it might be. 00:25:34.240 --> 00:25:39.680 Oh, I moved 12 times and then my relationship ended, and then this happened, you know, baby daddy did that. 00:25:39.680 --> 00:25:41.680 I don't know, whatever it might be. 00:25:41.680 --> 00:25:50.400 But I want you to uh people who listen to this podcast, I want them to think of today, this podcast, let it be that coming back moment. 00:25:50.400 --> 00:25:52.400 Let it like the it stops. 00:25:52.400 --> 00:26:01.839 All right, we're coming back to the heart, coming back to that dream that might have been forgotten or might have gotten a little bit delayed, even if it was just a few days or several years. 00:26:01.839 --> 00:26:02.559 I don't care. 00:26:02.559 --> 00:26:05.839 We're coming back to our center, coming back to our dream. 00:26:05.839 --> 00:26:13.200 So I want you to grab a sticky note or a piece of paper and a piece of tape, I don't care what it is, and I want you to finish this sentence. 00:26:13.200 -->

00:26:19.839 I'm coming back to whatever it is, and it's safe for me to have it. 00:26:19.839 --> 00:26:25.279 I'm coming back to insert your dream, and it's safe for me to have it. 00:26:25.279 --> 00:26:26.799 This is an affirmation. 00:26:26.799 --> 00:26:34.079 And maybe it's you're coming back to your business, I'm coming back to my health, I'm coming back to my love, my, I don't know what it could be. 00:26:34.079 --> 00:26:42.079 Write it down, put it in your bathroom, put it by your bedroom door, by your front door so you see it frequently, and just say it out loud once a day. 00:26:42.079 --> 00:26:43.039 Say it out loud. 00:26:43.039 --> 00:26:52.000 And what that right there is identity shadow work, and it's telling you it's safe for you to have your dreams and it's safe for you to be authentic. 00:26:52.319 --> 00:26:52.640 Awesome. 00:26:52.640 --> 00:26:53.920 I love that. 00:26:53.920 --> 00:26:57.279 What a beautiful step! Oh my gosh, beautiful turtle step. 00:26:57.279 --> 00:26:59.759 Thank you, Elizabeth, for for sharing that. 00:26:59.759 --> 00:27:08.160 Um, that's that's incredible because we started this conversation talking about identity, we're finishing with identity shadow work. 00:27:08.160 --> 00:27:16.960 Um, and I love that you brought the safety in because that's the biggest yeah, but to being authentic uh uh and being allow yourself to be seen in who you truly are. 00:27:16.960 --> 00:27:18.720 So I want to say thank you so much. 00:27:18.720 --> 00:27:20.880 This has been such a lovely conversation. 00:27:20.880 --> 00:27:30.240 Um, if someone wants to get a hold of you, um, if they're ready to get their message out into the world, like, oh scary, but I'm ready, I'm ready, I'd like to do it. 00:27:30.240 --> 00:27:31.839 Um, what can they do? 00:27:32.480 --> 00:27:38.160 Well, my website's in your show notes uh and also my email address, my LinkedIn, my Instagram, find me there. 00:27:38.160 --> 00:27:42.240 Uh you can book a free consultation, a free like little getting to know you session. 00:27:42.240 --> 00:27:48.480 Um, it's also how my one-on-one mentorship works, and uh people can schedule that visibility strategy sessions for me. 00:27:48.480 --> 00:27:54.480 But the thing I'm most excited about is I will be launching a course called How to Book Yourself on Podcasts. 00:27:54.480 --> 00:27:58.240 And you can sign up for that after November 1st on my website. 00:27:58.240 --> 00:28:01.440 And then I always have free networking events available each month. 00:28:01.440 --> 00:28:02.559 So that's everything. 00:28:02.880 --> 00:28:03.279 Perfect. 00:28:03.279 --> 00:28:04.079 Um, definitely. 00:28:04.079 --> 00:28:05.839 Everything will be in the show notes. 00:28:05.839 --> 00:28:07.680 Okay, that is our show. 00:28:07.680 --> 00:28:15.359 I am Linda Booker, guiding people to know their worth, to reconnect with their gifts and create lives that are fully aligned and deeply impactful. 00:28:15.359 --> 00:28:18.799 In short, to do the thing you're here to do. 00:28:18.799 --> 00:28:33.440 So if you are sensing it's time, you can explore what that looks like at lindabooker.com where you'll find direction and clarity, a lot of cool tools and a link so you can book a complimentary clarity chat with me. 00:28:33.440 --> 00:28:45.039 If today's episode sparked something for you, please like it, please share it, and subscribe because you don't want to miss what happens next week, which will be another uplifting conversation designed to support your growth. 00:28:45.039 --> 00:28:51.599 So until next time, make sure you've made this conversation worth your while by feeling the spark that it ignited.