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Welcome to Authentic Living with Roxanne, a
place where we have conscious conversations
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about things that really matter in our lives.
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And now here's your host, Roxanne Durhaj.
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Hi, everyone.
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It's Roxanne Derr Hodge.
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Thanks for tuning in again today.
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Today, I have a colleague, Brandy Heather.
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And, Brandy is a a professional speaker, and
she's, been doing this kind of work for a long
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time.
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And we'll let her get jump into that, but she
gets the fun things.
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Right?
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And she's the fun version.
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So I I gotta tell you the story, which was fun.
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At our professional association, we had our it
was our annual meeting in Quebec, and I was
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unfortunately paired against Brandy on another
team.
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And all I can say to you is she knows how to
play and win at all odds because I think I
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might have caught her cheating, but not that
she admitted to it, but that was my first real
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interaction with Brandy.
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And it was hilarious, by the way, I should tell
you, because I I did when I looked over and I
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looked at her again, she goes, what are you
looking at?
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I remember you said.
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I said, are you Cheech?
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She goes, absolutely not.
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Absolutely not.
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So she, Brandy, works predominantly with play
and innovation and creativity and how that
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impacts us in our lives.
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And, you know, what I was drawn back to was
when being exposed to you and our other
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colleague there was when we were playing at
that event, how much nothing else mattered
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other than being in the moment.
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And I hope today that with our conversation,
that Brandy will be able to kind of share some
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of her wonderful insight into something that
naturally as children we do and then how we
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kind of are taught by society to grow out of it
and then how it's so important to reimplement
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it at some point.
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So, Rene, welcome welcome, to the show.
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Thank you.
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It's time to be here.
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Yeah.
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So what what else would you like people to know
about your background that you think might be
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helpful for this discussion that we're gonna
have today?
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Sure.
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People often ask me, like, why play?
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Like, where does where does play come from?
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And I get I have lots of answers for that.
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For me, what I found was I taught as a
university, as a college professor for twenty
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years, and I taught in a world of inclusion and
disability inclusion and accessibility.
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And what I knew for sure was in order to think
creatively, in order to think about solutions
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that maybe weren't there or could be there,
that people really had to have this open sense
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of possibility and potential in in every
environment they could see.
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And when I could hear it and see it and people
that really loved what they were doing, and you
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could see that even though there was great
challenge, there was also great joy.
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And for a long time, I wasn't sure exactly what
that was.
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And then someone said to me one day, you know
what?
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We really love being in your classes.
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And, you know, I said, like, what is that?
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Because it it is something.
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And they said, I think it's play.
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I think it's that when you're doing what you're
doing, you look like you're in play and you
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make us feel like we're in play.
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And that actually was part of the key to it
that I I didn't know if I could put my finger
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on for a long time.
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I could see it in other people.
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I I worked with kids for a long time, so I
could always see the joy in them and, you know,
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what that did for them.
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But I didn't really put my finger on it for a
long time and then realized, oh, it is play.
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And I should dig into what how that helps us to
be successful.
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And as a big player as a kid, I I love to be
outside.
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I grew up in a family with a father who's an
artist, so I was very surrounded by it.
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So the why play for me comes from I've seen it.
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I've seen what it does to change people's
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system and how they feel about
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themselves and what they how they connect with
others.
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So I've really seen it for a long time.
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So yeah.
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But it's funny that you talk about nervous
system.
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Right?
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Because it's through a lots of events that I've
been involved with where there's been team
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building and and, you know, I've run teams over
my career, and it's quite fascinating how many
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things come up through play as well.
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So I have this one.
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I ran a unit at a hospital, Brandy, and we're
doing I think it was like a trust access.
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It would but it was a fun and you could see how
people got guarded.
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Right?
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Because I don't know if it's me growing up in a
family of six, and I was just like, oh, yeah.
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I'm all out.
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And the person could kinda hold me.
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And the one I remember one of my teammates
said, how come you weren't scared?
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And I said, because, like, I'm around you guys,
and I can close my eyes and I can but, clearly,
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there was within that environment, Brandy, you
could see the people that struggled with, I
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can't trust, so I can't do this exercise, or I
can't do this.
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And they couldn't just get into it because they
they were bringing so many different things.
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So in play then, you know, when you're working
with a team so maybe you tell us kinda how you
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work through things because I was thinking of
those particular individuals, and I knew that
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there was some issues going on, but it it
heightened, when they went into, you know, this
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event.
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And I wonder how play might have how how you
use play and what you do when things like that
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come up.
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Yeah.
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Well, one thing that we know for sure is that
we can't play, when we are scared.
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We can't play where there is fear.
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And so for me, it's always to walk into play in
a trustworthy way.
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So many people, when we think about play, they
actually do have a very heightened response.
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It's a it can be very much pushback on what
what play looks like and what they think of it,
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especially in business settings and
surroundings.
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And so when we talk about play, I actually
address that right up front.
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And that is that for many people, the word play
actually ignites their nervous system to think
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this is silly and unproductive, and so I'm not
listening.
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And so if we start there and we turn off our
brains to learning and what's possible, then
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that doesn't lead into a session where we can
learn very much.
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So I actually walk into play very carefully.
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I walk into it in a way that people in the room
feel safe, that people don't in any way feel
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silly in what they do.
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Because, again, if I want people to understand
the effect that it can have, then I have to
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create an environment where they feel like they
can be, you know, in they can be resourceful.
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Right?
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That they can be themselves.
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And so working in play is partly a game of
trust.
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And so walking into a situation where people
knowing that people may push back on that and
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also being able to see it in their body
language and all of those pieces.
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So I'm very astute at being able to read a
room.
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And so when we walk into play, we don't talk
first about play or get into play right away.
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We do things that actually just ignite
curiosity and yeah.
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Again, it it needs to be safe or it can't be
play.
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Like, we can't
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But I would think that.
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Right?
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It's like a litmus test.
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It's like a litmus test, I would think.
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Because I'm just thinking, you know, of some of
the environments I've worked in, there where
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there was a little bit unresolved things or
maybe there's nepotism between different levels
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of the organization.
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And then if you're coming in blind, obviously,
you might be walking into, you know, a hornet's
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nest potentially because all that stuff's gonna
play out like it's like street theater, I would
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say.
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It's gonna be Absolutely.
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People picking each other and all that stuff.
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So
when, you get a request, let's say, so your
request can come in what ways?
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Because I I think it I I think of the fun part
of you not telling the truth and winning,
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against my team on when before I go back.
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But that's another thing aside.
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But so is it that there's some kind of
productivity issue?
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Is there that there's conflict?
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Is it that we've got new teammates and we wanna
integrate it?
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What what in what ways might you be called in?
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Because I'm just thinking for leaders that are
listening, that are thinking, how do I fit this
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in?
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One of the things that that I get called on
many times is organizations where leadership is
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feeling like things are stagnant or they're not
moving, that there's maybe a an issue in
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processing or organizational resilience.
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Like, they're just feeling like their team is
just needs something.
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I often get that kind of blank opening.
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Like, our team just needs something.
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Right.
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And we need we're not connecting.
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We're not collaborating, and we're not sure
what that is.
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And so a lot of what I do is go in and just
give a totally different lens and perspective
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on the people in the room.
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So for an example, I just worked with the
leadership team a couple weeks ago that brought
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me in, and we were just working on the fact
that some people were not working in a space in
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which they felt confident and capable.
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And we found that out when we were just playing
with working on doing some building activities,
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when we're working on collaborating.
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We found out, oh, actually, there's a lot of
people who are not in alignment with the things
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that they're really good at.
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So the things that they're really good at are
being suppressed, and the things that make them
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feel like they would take risks and talk to
other people and collaborate with other people,
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those are actually not happening in their work.
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And so the work that I do actually helps them
recognize it first in themselves.
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Wow.
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There are things that that I love about what I
do, and there are things that are totally out
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of alignment for my skills.
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And so by the end of the day, people really
come back to this, k.
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Maybe people aren't we aren't asking people the
right things to do, but, also, I show them the
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effect that stress and overwhelm and not being
in alignment with what you're really good at,
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what the effect of that is on people's bodies.
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Right?
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Like, when our nervous system is is on fight or
flight all the time, we we may work for an
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organization that has massive challenges with
solution finding and problem solving and and
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needs that kind of integrative seamless
discussions happening.
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And when it's not happening, oftentimes, it's
because people's nervous systems are so out of
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alignment.
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And when I can move them to a playful space
where they're kind of what we talked about when
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you said at the beginning, when people are
kinda they're lost in the moment, when we can
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get into that space, then I can really move
teams into noticing because that's the key.
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The key is noticing that when people are not
playing or excited and when they're not really
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using all of their skills, which then makes it
very difficult to run a a high performance
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unit.
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So
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And I guess when I listen to you, right,
because, like, I know when I play, like, I'm
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giddy and, you know, it's kinda like you're
floating back in time.
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I remember my I'll give you an example.
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Like, I'd I grew up in a family of six, and, of
course, we I grew up in Trinidad, Brandy, so
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there was no snow, no thought of snow.
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Now I understand why.
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But, anyway, we had these terrazzo floors, and
Donnie and Marie was the thing.
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Right?
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So I'm dating myself that back then.
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Yeah.
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So we would put baby powder like we were
skating.
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Remember?
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They used to be on skates and all.
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You know, you set your think up now that you
thought, oh, wow.
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I did that as a kid.
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What I think happens though is our society, as
soon as kids get to a certain age, and I want
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you to speak to this, you being the expert in
this, we start to talk people out of play
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inadvertently.
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Like, I mean, oh, aren't you too old to do be
doing that or why do you believe you know,
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like, I was out with my friend's, grandson and
he he believes he's Spider Man.
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He goes, Roxy, when I put this over my head,
I'll become Spider Man and beware.
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And I and he was like and I'm like, the beauty
of the mind of imagination and stuff like that.
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But that being said, in our systems, different
systems, we start to kinda almost pull that
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away.
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Right?
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And Oh, absolutely.
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How do you by the time you're seeing teams,
people have been practicing not having fun.
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For a long time.
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For a long time.
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Right?
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Then they're
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probably like, what is the other woman gonna
tell me what to do?
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And I'm gonna have fun and, you know, you know,
at work, doesn't she know it's serious?
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Do you you must run up against that at work.
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All the time.
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And the the piece about children actually, the
saddest piece of all of this is that children
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younger and younger and younger are starting to
understand that play is not part of the real
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world.
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Right?
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That the playing isn't going to get you
anywhere.
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And I I mean, I could talk for hours about how
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you could change it.
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Like, and I I and I know you could because I
know you know what I mean?
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You embody it.
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And then I'm honestly, we had such a good time
when we all spent that time together.
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Right?
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Again, we're East to West Coast to give people
a context, and I might see Brandy maybe once a
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year or the other colleagues, but it just it's
almost like it it takes off years.
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This is what it did for me.
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For my East Coast colleagues that I don't see
or West Coast colleagues, it took off years of
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me not knowing them because all of a sudden, we
were put into such silly kind of, I'll do
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anything because I'm playing.
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Yep.
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And and then I'm like, oh my goodness.
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I know Tyler that much more or Sabrina that
much more.
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And and then I and and I may only see that
person once a year.
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So I love I love that, whatever that happens.
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Because as adults, it's almost like we get
stuck in these little boxes, and we're stressed
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and, you know, we got deadlines and, you know,
metrics and boards and all that stuff.
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Yeah.
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And, you know, it's it's tough to get back
there and for a lot of people.
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And then, like you said, people get are
stressed in getting fight or flight, and
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they're getting sick and all that stuff.
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Yeah.
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And and to the one thing that I always say to
people is play is very different for every
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single person because we kind of I mean, Tyler
is masterful.
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Let me throw that in.
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Tyler is masterful.
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I know.
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I can't get a ball.
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I need to call him at a better time.
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Shout out for Tyler.
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No.
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I can't.
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He is masterful.
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Together.
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Place.
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That's just And for some people, that play is,
like for me, that's just jump in full, you
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know, partially don't even remember what
happened.
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It was just so good.
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Right?
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Yeah.
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But for some people, that actually ignites
fear.
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Right?
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You have to play in that space Mhmm.
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Where everyone can find that.
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And what that's the key is that is recognizing
that everyone's play is different.
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So I'm gonna give you an example, and that is
that one of the things that is part of my
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strategy is to help people understand what that
actually even feels like in them.
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Mhmm.
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So here's the first thing.
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I ask this question.
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When was the last time you did something so
good that you lost track of time?
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So I ask that, and I can tell you that 70% of
my audiences cannot remember the last time they
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did something so good that they lost track of
time.
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Wow.
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We are overworked and underplayed in our lives,
and it's actually affecting our mental health
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and our physical health.
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Yeah.
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So if I can help people start to notice those
moments and have some during the training,
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which we do, and have them play in a way that
feels safe and connected and and all those
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pieces.
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So I'll I'll give you an example.
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I'll give you an example.
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So in one of my sessions, we do an activity
where everyone puts a piece of paper behind
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their back, and they attempt to make a tree
behind their back.
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It is right?
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There is nothing there's nothing scary or
frightening about it.
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We just all try to make a tree, and then we
bring it out.
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Well, in that single activity that takes about
one minute, people say, I was so busy thinking
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about the tree and trying to make it behind my
back, and I was laughing at other people.
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And I looked over, and I saw them having so
much fun.
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And then when we brought the trees out, we were
all laughing about who did what.
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In that moment, I can actually show them the
physiology of what happens.
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Right?
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What happens when we take that one minute when
we're in play?
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Yeah.
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When our brain and our body actually are like,
all I care about right now is the laughter
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that's happening, the three stories about the
tree that someone told me after.
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It's so lasting.
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So if we can bring people into that, we can
have really tough conversations there.
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Right?
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We can actually once we've played, once our
body kinda gets grounded and we're back in that
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zone where, like, we're curious and open and,
you know, we're actually listening to other
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people because that's what play does.
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Right?
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It puts us in that space where, I listen
better.
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I can actually hear myself better.
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I'm more authentic.
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All those things happen when we're in play.
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So if I can create that scenario, which is what
I do, then we're having really honest,
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authentic conversations that last a long time
after you spend a day with me or an afternoon
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with me.
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Yes.
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And that's what play does.
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It's it actually changes the way we see
ourselves and others.
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It's it's it's not magic.
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It's science.
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But
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And it's sometimes so simple too.
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Right?
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You think of, you know, trying to do something
and being so bad at it, and you're killing
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yourself because you think, oh my god.
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I suck at this.
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Right?
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Because we're always trying to be so competent
as adults.
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Like, even outside of the workplace, we're
trying to be the thing, look like the certain
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thing, dress a certain way.
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We're always adulting, really, to some degree
that we miss that part.
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And, you know, if you look at your when your
children are small, I I see your grandchildren
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online.
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Like, they just bring something out of even
being around them.
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It's I find, like, that it's by osmosis, and
they're silly, and you're silly, and we but
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people do get more disconnected as they go, and
then that kind of plays out.
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And then when you have conflict or when you
have change, I think about what where we're at,
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the space we're at with what's happening
globally with our our our the realities of what
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some companies are gonna be going through.
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That's gonna that's gonna heighten the stress,
and then people are gonna get more anxious.
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And when they get more anxious, they're gonna
buckle down and probably do the opposite, which
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is play as being completely present.
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Right?
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Ultimately, that's what play is.
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Yeah.
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Well, as we see all of these things compounded,
which we do.
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Right?
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We're seeing all of those things compounded.
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If you're the leadership of an organization and
you really you know, your work is to make sure
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that people, you know, stay capable and
connected and, you know, doing the work and
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enjoying and and all of those things, you're
that's your work, then I would say you have to
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know and help them find play because that's the
thing that's gonna combat all of the overwhelm
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that comes out of what's happening.
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Mhmm.
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Right?
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And people will think that's the opposite
answer to all of it.
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Right?
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Let's get more serious.
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Hurdles.
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Let's let's buckle down
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versus buckle down, get more serious.
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Right?
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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But when we do that, we actually throw our
nervous system into that fight or flight all
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the time.
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So we're constantly there.
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So if our job is, oh my gosh.
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We're gonna have to make major changes in this
organization.
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You want people to be, right, grounded and open
and curious, not scared all the time.
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And so that's actually that's the change that
needs to happen is that if we buckle down and
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get really serious and super focused, we
actually take out all the opportunity for
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thinking in a different way and being able to
listen to others.
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We actually shut out other people.
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We create silos, and we over perform.
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All of those things are a result of that.
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And in play, if we can get people just to
understand what it feels like, because that's
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actually the first thing.
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Right?
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What does it actually feel like when I'm in
play?
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And if 70% of the people that I work with can't
even imagine more than last time they felt like
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that, we really need people need help to find
that place.
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And that's that's a lot of my work.
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And it's simple things.
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Like, when you say it's simple things, it
really is.
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There is people who don't realize that their
play is when the office supplies come in, and
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they can't wait to unbox the office supply.
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That actually makes them feel giddy inside.
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Right?
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They're unboxing it, and they're like, oh, all
the markers haven't been touched and the you
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know, all the pads of paper.
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That's their play, but nobody told them it was
play or joy.
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Yeah.
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But those are the moments that we need people
to notice.
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Yeah.
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Right?
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We need people to notice that so that on the
days when when we can't find any of it, do we
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know where we can find some of it?
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And the laughter.
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Right?
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The I think the when I I mean, I'm sure most of
us, when I laugh, I cry.
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Yeah.
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When I get to the point that I'm laughing so
hard and I I often joke around and I say, I
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have to remember this moment because I'm
laughing so I I'm crying and I can't stop.
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Right?
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And then you're like, oh my goodness.
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I need to bring that back to me with me to
remember that drop down, that anchoring of that
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moment in time because it's you could tell.
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Like, every happy hormone in my body is going
freaking out.
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And I'm just thinking about it in reference to
when there's conflict or change.
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Right?
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If you think of change and the flux and the
ambiguity, if you can bring a little bit of
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that, we're just, I would say, kind of human
beings to each other too as well.
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Right?
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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And so in play, I can put people in situations
where they're not gonna agree with each other
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and all of you know, that they have conflict.
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I and I can set up the place so
that it looks
like that.
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But when it's play, we actually see where
people's natural resources are.
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Like, we actually
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see You pull you pull that out from the play.
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So if you're working with a team.
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Right?
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And Yeah.
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You're thinking, oh, there's no way, and you're
just naturally kinda seeing what they bring
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with them.
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And then from that, I guess you could pull that
out with a strategic plan.
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You could probably build
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That's exactly.
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Change.
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You could probably you know, if you have tried
to be innovative with maybe a new business
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product, all those different things.
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Right?
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What play because, like, you're right.
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If you think about innovation is getting out of
your normal kind of modus operandi of doing
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something in a standard way, play is the
opposite of that because you do things when
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you're playing and you think, oh my god.
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I can't believe I just did that.
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You know?
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Yeah.
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And to be honest, I've had COOs who were
looking at, like, what are we going to do today
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to the point where we're we're in play, and
they're finding out, oh my goodness.
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I didn't even realize I love that part.
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So we can be building paper airplanes, right,
and be in a paper airplane playing contest, for
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example.
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And what we find out is that if you didn't know
how to make the plane, there's three people
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that did.
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And if, you know, that you actually have
resources in people that you didn't know were
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there.
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But if I do it in an activity where we are it's
it's stress free.
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It's safe.
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Right?
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It's a safe place.
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Then, actually, the person who loves building
and collecting and all of a sudden, you know,
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finds out, oh, that actually is one of my key
assets, but it doesn't come out when the stress
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is on.
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Right?
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So I'm I'm actually have huge resources that
aren't there when the stress is there.
464
00:25:06,115 --> 00:25:11,954
So I can take that from the play, and now we
can take it and actually look at what's
465
00:25:11,954 --> 00:25:17,075
actually going on in an organization, which is
hard to do when we're under pressure and things
466
00:25:17,075 --> 00:25:19,419
are tight and Absolutely.
467
00:25:19,419 --> 00:25:21,259
Because it's wanna control an outcome.
468
00:25:21,259 --> 00:25:21,659
Right?
469
00:25:21,659 --> 00:25:21,819
Yeah.
470
00:25:21,819 --> 00:25:21,980
Yeah.
471
00:25:21,980 --> 00:25:24,299
Because it's the opposite of psychological
safety.
472
00:25:24,299 --> 00:25:30,059
What you're saying is that and what I'm hearing
you say is it's transparency, it's trust, it's
473
00:25:30,059 --> 00:25:36,295
Roxanne's perspective is going to be validated
as much as Brandy's and, you know, as Brandy's
474
00:25:36,295 --> 00:25:39,815
colorful and Roxanne's kind of black and white
or whatever.
475
00:25:39,815 --> 00:25:45,174
Because, really, when I think of teams that I
work with and organizations with leaders, the
476
00:25:45,174 --> 00:25:49,779
the people wanna just be able to be free enough
to share perspective.
477
00:25:49,839 --> 00:25:50,240
Right?
478
00:25:50,240 --> 00:25:53,279
No silly no no opinion is silly enough.
479
00:25:53,279 --> 00:25:57,599
You can you put it out there, but you you could
see what when there's a lack of trust, and I'm
480
00:25:57,599 --> 00:25:59,519
sure you see it a lot with when you do play.
481
00:25:59,599 --> 00:26:00,015
Time.
482
00:26:00,095 --> 00:26:03,615
And then what people associate with play
because that must bring up things from people's
483
00:26:03,615 --> 00:26:05,075
past too, I would think.
484
00:26:05,454 --> 00:26:11,055
And being able to try to make them safe enough
to realize maybe that's maybe you could learn
485
00:26:11,055 --> 00:26:14,519
to play the way you naturally should be playing
kind of thing.
486
00:26:14,519 --> 00:26:17,179
So I'm sure it brings up a lot of different
things.
487
00:26:18,440 --> 00:26:18,919
It does.
488
00:26:18,919 --> 00:26:21,099
And play as a word, it's funny.
489
00:26:21,639 --> 00:26:24,859
We probably have all done this, but we have a
word.
490
00:26:25,625 --> 00:26:31,384
There's so many in our vocabulary that ignite
all sorts of different feelings of joy and and
491
00:26:31,384 --> 00:26:31,705
fear.
492
00:26:31,705 --> 00:26:33,805
Like, they can be everything from joy to fear.
493
00:26:34,184 --> 00:26:41,669
And one of the things about play is being able
to give people permission for it to not look
494
00:26:41,669 --> 00:26:49,109
like or seem like their lived experience with
it or where they've been with it, but how they
495
00:26:49,109 --> 00:26:50,309
are with it in the present.
496
00:26:50,309 --> 00:26:55,750
And last year, I had the absolute honor of
working with an organization in Winnipeg called
497
00:26:55,750 --> 00:27:02,015
Plan Mothers Healing Village with women and
trans individuals who are experiencing sexual
498
00:27:02,015 --> 00:27:03,214
abuse and sexual trauma.
499
00:27:03,214 --> 00:27:07,394
So their stories of play are not positive.
500
00:27:08,095 --> 00:27:11,849
And yet what we did was help them rewrite that
story for themselves.
501
00:27:11,909 --> 00:27:12,390
Right?
502
00:27:12,390 --> 00:27:12,710
We're
503
00:27:12,710 --> 00:27:13,269
so good.
504
00:27:13,269 --> 00:27:17,990
Gonna be hitting up against some and then I
think what I think of as a psychotherapist is
505
00:27:17,990 --> 00:27:24,694
that you're gonna get, people's perception of
what they were allowed to do versus Mhmm.
506
00:27:24,694 --> 00:27:29,414
But when you are able to kinda create that
place of safety so they can step into it, like,
507
00:27:29,414 --> 00:27:32,615
what a a deeply healing space to have.
508
00:27:32,615 --> 00:27:33,015
Right?
509
00:27:33,015 --> 00:27:38,694
Because, really, I I often say if you look at
little ones and you look at them and they're so
510
00:27:38,694 --> 00:27:39,194
raw.
511
00:27:39,299 --> 00:27:39,539
Right?
512
00:27:39,539 --> 00:27:41,299
And you're like, what are you talking who
you're playing with?
513
00:27:41,299 --> 00:27:41,539
What?
514
00:27:41,539 --> 00:27:42,820
I don't know their name.
515
00:27:42,820 --> 00:27:44,180
Oh, there's just several?
516
00:27:44,180 --> 00:27:44,820
Who are they?
517
00:27:44,820 --> 00:27:45,539
Where are they?
518
00:27:45,539 --> 00:27:47,860
I can't tell because then you can't be part of
it.
519
00:27:47,860 --> 00:27:50,180
And then you get into that world.
520
00:27:50,180 --> 00:27:50,420
Right?
521
00:27:50,420 --> 00:27:55,225
So I can see how with trauma, and that's one of
the specialties I had when I practiced.
522
00:27:55,225 --> 00:27:57,384
Brandy, it's it's I could see how Yeah.
523
00:27:57,705 --> 00:27:59,065
How powerful that could be.
524
00:27:59,065 --> 00:27:59,884
Very powerful.
525
00:28:00,744 --> 00:28:01,244
Yeah.
526
00:28:01,545 --> 00:28:02,265
It really is.
527
00:28:02,265 --> 00:28:07,940
And I I think one of the things you and you
touched on it is that when we're not feeling
528
00:28:07,940 --> 00:28:13,539
joy, like, we kinda just feel numbness all the
time, which as adults, we can get really good
529
00:28:13,539 --> 00:28:14,039
at.
530
00:28:14,099 --> 00:28:15,400
Obviously, you know that.
531
00:28:16,019 --> 00:28:21,000
Is that the kind of the opposite to play is
that we set up what I call show homes.
532
00:28:21,095 --> 00:28:21,335
Right?
533
00:28:21,335 --> 00:28:23,674
Like, we set up these kinda show home facades.
534
00:28:24,295 --> 00:28:24,795
So
535
00:28:25,015 --> 00:28:26,134
we find Yeah.
536
00:28:26,134 --> 00:28:28,695
Like, I'm supposed to be a I'm supposed to act
a certain way.
537
00:28:28,695 --> 00:28:29,095
I'm supposed to
538
00:28:29,095 --> 00:28:29,815
be a certain way.
539
00:28:29,815 --> 00:28:31,095
I'm supposed to dress a certain way.
540
00:28:31,095 --> 00:28:33,015
I'm supposed to everything's supposed
541
00:28:33,015 --> 00:28:33,414
to be.
542
00:28:33,414 --> 00:28:37,079
And then we're just I think we've become adept
at it.
543
00:28:37,079 --> 00:28:37,319
Right?
544
00:28:37,319 --> 00:28:38,679
We've become very adept at it.
545
00:28:38,679 --> 00:28:44,599
I know from personal experience, and I share
this when I speak, is that as a college
546
00:28:44,599 --> 00:28:47,960
professor, I was very, very good at producing a
show home.
547
00:28:47,960 --> 00:28:50,375
I was fun instructor, fun mom.
548
00:28:50,375 --> 00:28:52,615
I had my name on the door traveling the world.
549
00:28:52,615 --> 00:28:53,974
I was doing all of those things.
550
00:28:53,974 --> 00:28:55,894
And if you looked at it, it was a show home.
551
00:28:55,894 --> 00:28:56,714
It was beautiful.
552
00:28:57,335 --> 00:28:57,835
Right?
553
00:28:58,214 --> 00:29:02,934
But on the other side, right, I was running a
complete fixer upper.
554
00:29:02,934 --> 00:29:05,930
I was living with depression and anxiety Wow.
555
00:29:06,950 --> 00:29:10,730
And trying to keep up all this beautiful show
home all the time.
556
00:29:10,789 --> 00:29:13,769
And, eventually, I'd almost I'd almost lose my
career.
557
00:29:14,069 --> 00:29:15,670
I would almost lose my family.
558
00:29:15,670 --> 00:29:15,990
Right?
559
00:29:15,990 --> 00:29:20,345
So I know what the effect of not being in play
looks like.
560
00:29:20,404 --> 00:29:22,744
I've lived through that.
561
00:29:23,125 --> 00:29:27,625
And I know what it feels like to try to produce
a show home every day.
562
00:29:27,924 --> 00:29:28,325
Right?
563
00:29:28,325 --> 00:29:32,970
To try and be the strongest person in the room
and make sure everyone's okay and be the leader
564
00:29:32,970 --> 00:29:37,049
and be at the front of the room and say,
everything's gonna be okay while you're
565
00:29:37,049 --> 00:29:37,549
struggling.
566
00:29:38,089 --> 00:29:41,970
Because I think that's the essence of play for
me Mhmm.
567
00:29:42,089 --> 00:29:45,470
Is that when we're always producing that show
home, we can't play.
568
00:29:45,769 --> 00:29:48,085
We're not authentic.
569
00:29:48,085 --> 00:29:48,404
Yeah.
570
00:29:48,404 --> 00:29:50,325
Then when you're the lead when you're the
leader,
571
00:29:50,325 --> 00:29:50,964
you're yeah.
572
00:29:50,964 --> 00:29:55,684
Well, when you're the leader, Randy, to your
point, you that show home is on most of the
573
00:29:55,684 --> 00:29:56,005
time.
574
00:29:56,005 --> 00:30:01,284
So learning how you can play potentially maybe
not in the work environment, but make sure that
575
00:30:01,284 --> 00:30:06,269
you have it built into different parts of your
life so that you could get whatever it is that
576
00:30:06,269 --> 00:30:11,649
invigorates you to be able to come and be
able
to go into that environment and be the best
577
00:30:11,789 --> 00:30:12,669
versions of yourself.
578
00:30:12,669 --> 00:30:16,130
I talk about it with the ROR that I talk about,
which is return on relationship.
579
00:30:16,269 --> 00:30:21,075
And I didn't ever talk about play in my book,
but I feel like I've missed something there
580
00:30:21,075 --> 00:30:23,954
because I talk about connection, communication,
all that stuff.
581
00:30:23,954 --> 00:30:28,775
But it's so important as when you're leading,
you're still a person.
582
00:30:28,920 --> 00:30:33,880
You're still a person that has all these
facets, and you people are constantly looking
583
00:30:33,880 --> 00:30:35,340
up to you for guidance.
584
00:30:35,960 --> 00:30:40,160
And if you don't have behind the house kinda
figured out to your point, you know Yep.
585
00:30:40,279 --> 00:30:44,625
That show that showhouse is gonna showplace is
gonna kinda crash at some point.
586
00:30:44,684 --> 00:30:49,244
So the importance of play even with those
leaders become important.
587
00:30:49,244 --> 00:30:52,605
Now that's where I was gonna go next, and I
know we're almost out of time.
588
00:30:52,605 --> 00:31:00,289
But what how do you let's say you get brought
in and you're like, oh, it's them.
589
00:31:00,289 --> 00:31:01,169
It's not us.
590
00:31:01,169 --> 00:31:02,150
It's the leadership.
591
00:31:02,450 --> 00:31:06,130
And it's once you just fix them, Brandy, it's
gonna be all good.
592
00:31:06,130 --> 00:31:06,630
Right?
593
00:31:06,929 --> 00:31:14,075
If if there's a disparity between the leader
leader leadership team seeing the value about
594
00:31:14,075 --> 00:31:19,595
them being in play so that they can in turn I'm
gonna say receive what the frontline needs from
595
00:31:19,595 --> 00:31:20,095
them.
596
00:31:20,315 --> 00:31:25,470
If there's disparity, how do you work with them
to try to build that bridge, I'm gonna say?
597
00:31:26,650 --> 00:31:30,569
Well, one of the first things actually, one of
the programs I run or one of the keynotes I do
598
00:31:30,569 --> 00:31:36,569
is called leaders play first, which is actually
really the fundamental pieces that if we are
599
00:31:36,569 --> 00:31:44,174
gonna ask employees to show up, be present, be
loyal, be innovative, be all of those things,
600
00:31:44,174 --> 00:31:49,075
then they also need to see you be in play.
601
00:31:49,134 --> 00:31:49,615
Right?
602
00:31:49,615 --> 00:31:55,730
So I often people often ask me, if it's a human
resources company or an org part of the
603
00:31:55,730 --> 00:31:58,609
organization, should human resources be in the
room?
604
00:31:58,609 --> 00:31:59,809
That's I often get that.
605
00:31:59,809 --> 00:32:03,590
Should HR be in the room when the employees are
taking are playing?
606
00:32:03,809 --> 00:32:04,309
Right?
607
00:32:04,369 --> 00:32:05,990
There's pieces to all of that.
608
00:32:06,585 --> 00:32:14,184
When the people that you're working with, the
you play, it's number one, it's vulnerable, but
609
00:32:14,184 --> 00:32:16,765
it also sets up this whole piece of trust.
610
00:32:17,144 --> 00:32:17,384
Right?
611
00:32:17,384 --> 00:32:20,365
There's a huge trust that happens when we can
do that together.
612
00:32:21,200 --> 00:32:26,720
And so when there is a, yeah, us and them that
kind of tell them to do that and we'll do
613
00:32:26,720 --> 00:32:32,240
something different, that's actually one of the
great dividers of play is I expect you to do it
614
00:32:32,240 --> 00:32:34,960
over here because it's good for our retention
and Right.
615
00:32:34,960 --> 00:32:35,200
Right.
616
00:32:35,279 --> 00:32:36,640
And resilience and all the things.
617
00:32:36,640 --> 00:32:36,974
Right?
618
00:32:37,054 --> 00:32:38,255
And so you go do it over here.
619
00:32:38,255 --> 00:32:42,674
I don't really even understand what happens,
but if it's good for us, then great.
620
00:32:43,134 --> 00:32:48,575
The greatest thing that can happen is when
leadership says, let's try and do this
621
00:32:48,575 --> 00:32:49,075
together.
622
00:32:49,535 --> 00:32:53,589
And I know that's hard because it's hard for
multiple reasons.
623
00:32:54,130 --> 00:32:59,970
But when leaders and groups play together,
right, when managers and their teams play
624
00:32:59,970 --> 00:33:05,509
together, it is it will change the full dynamic
of what you do together.
625
00:33:06,184 --> 00:33:06,345
Yeah.
626
00:33:06,345 --> 00:33:12,505
Because it would I think it would destratify
that that innate kind of, you know, perception
627
00:33:12,505 --> 00:33:18,424
of one level versus another because if somebody
is just rolling around like we were at that
628
00:33:18,424 --> 00:33:20,024
time, crawling Yeah.
629
00:33:20,184 --> 00:33:23,279
All the things we were, then you forget who it
is.
630
00:33:23,279 --> 00:33:24,640
Really, you do forget who it is.
631
00:33:24,640 --> 00:33:29,440
And then you're like, that you're not so good
at that or you're silly or I'm silly or I'm
632
00:33:29,440 --> 00:33:31,460
killing myself, so I'm looking at you.
633
00:33:31,599 --> 00:33:33,519
It does bring that that good energy.
634
00:33:33,519 --> 00:33:33,839
Right?
635
00:33:33,839 --> 00:33:34,934
Like, that space.
636
00:33:34,934 --> 00:33:37,095
So that's that that would be the blue, I would
think.
637
00:33:37,095 --> 00:33:37,414
Right?
638
00:33:37,414 --> 00:33:38,095
Versus Yeah.
639
00:33:38,214 --> 00:33:42,054
You know, the autocratic top down kind of level
that Yeah.
640
00:33:42,054 --> 00:33:42,214
Right?
641
00:33:42,214 --> 00:33:45,255
And you have to have that level to run certain
things in the org.
642
00:33:45,255 --> 00:33:45,755
Absolutely.
643
00:33:46,454 --> 00:33:52,029
But then you can go back and and see each other
through a different lens that allows you to
644
00:33:52,029 --> 00:33:57,070
just kinda do your best thing because we all
kinda wanna do our I think most people most of
645
00:33:57,070 --> 00:34:02,109
us wanna do the best version of what we need to
do for eight to ten hours if we're in the
646
00:34:02,109 --> 00:34:03,390
company and then go home.
647
00:34:03,390 --> 00:34:08,454
But if we're if I'm kinda disjointed and
stressed and all that stuff and not trusting,
648
00:34:08,454 --> 00:34:12,534
then I'm not I'm gonna show up, do my thing,
give you a twenty I've heard this line.
649
00:34:12,534 --> 00:34:13,655
Twenty minutes at a time.
650
00:34:13,655 --> 00:34:13,894
Right?
651
00:34:13,894 --> 00:34:15,214
Like, when I'm so Yep.
652
00:34:15,494 --> 00:34:21,920
Burnt out versus, oh, I'm just gonna I wanna be
remembered for doing the best job I could kind
653
00:34:21,920 --> 00:34:22,579
of thing.
654
00:34:23,119 --> 00:34:29,440
And it really does narrow those margins because
what happens is that leaders and managers look
655
00:34:29,440 --> 00:34:34,480
at the people they work with and for, and all
of a sudden, they start to understand, oh,
656
00:34:34,480 --> 00:34:39,295
like, when we do this work together, that's why
people invest.
657
00:34:39,355 --> 00:34:41,434
That's why people love that part.
658
00:34:41,434 --> 00:34:46,875
But they haven't been able to see that until we
were in play and someone said, you know what?
659
00:34:46,875 --> 00:34:50,559
When that type of file comes across my desk,
that is the best thing.
660
00:34:50,559 --> 00:34:52,000
Like, you could send me that all day.
661
00:34:52,000 --> 00:34:53,219
It's my favorite thing.
662
00:34:53,440 --> 00:34:57,839
And if leadership never knows that or managers
never know that, then they don't know that on
663
00:34:57,839 --> 00:35:00,659
the days when things are hard and difficult,
hey.
664
00:35:01,119 --> 00:35:05,775
There is something that actually gives them
great joy, and it's almost none of what I'm
665
00:35:05,775 --> 00:35:07,954
talking about costs a single dime.
666
00:35:08,335 --> 00:35:08,835
Right?
667
00:35:08,974 --> 00:35:09,574
It's a nonstop
668
00:35:10,094 --> 00:35:12,855
like a secret sauce that you can pull out
Right.
669
00:35:13,215 --> 00:35:16,880
And, get people back into that, like, state,
really.
670
00:35:17,099 --> 00:35:17,339
Mhmm.
671
00:35:17,339 --> 00:35:18,139
That state.
672
00:35:18,139 --> 00:35:18,380
Right?
673
00:35:18,380 --> 00:35:21,119
Which is, I feel good kind of thing.
674
00:35:21,339 --> 00:35:21,739
Yeah.
675
00:35:21,739 --> 00:35:22,239
Yep.
676
00:35:22,380 --> 00:35:24,859
But, Brandy, this is well, I wanna go out and
play now.
677
00:35:24,859 --> 00:35:25,980
I'm gonna find something to do.
678
00:35:25,980 --> 00:35:32,538
I have to it's always a pleasure to talk about,
like, and be in play with you, I can tell you.
679
00:35:32,538 --> 00:35:37,614
And I look forward to the next time we'll all
be together to be able to to to play again.
680
00:35:37,835 --> 00:35:43,355
So, Brandy, for any last words or any tips for
any people out there that are listening and
681
00:35:43,355 --> 00:35:45,989
they go, that's not about me.
682
00:35:45,989 --> 00:35:50,010
Any couple of little tips you wanna leave
behind for people or a thought?
683
00:35:51,590 --> 00:35:53,130
Well, there there's two things.
684
00:35:53,429 --> 00:35:54,150
You don't have
685
00:35:54,150 --> 00:35:55,369
to change anything.
686
00:35:55,670 --> 00:35:59,610
Play doesn't require you to change anything
that you have or do right now.
687
00:36:00,054 --> 00:36:01,894
Like, it's not an add to your to do list.
688
00:36:01,894 --> 00:36:05,114
It's not schedule it for fifteen minutes in
your schedule.
689
00:36:05,655 --> 00:36:08,155
It's actually already inside you biologically.
690
00:36:08,934 --> 00:36:12,155
So we just have to go back in and help you find
it.
691
00:36:12,440 --> 00:36:12,760
Yeah.
692
00:36:12,760 --> 00:36:13,820
And that's everybody.
693
00:36:14,280 --> 00:36:21,579
And and the other thing is to really take a
look at at noticing at noticing the moments
694
00:36:21,720 --> 00:36:26,335
when you feel playful or grounded or safe and
what that feels like.
695
00:36:26,335 --> 00:36:30,335
Because if we go back to that's actually we all
need that right now.
696
00:36:30,335 --> 00:36:31,474
We need that space.
697
00:36:31,695 --> 00:36:34,974
I I more than ever, why more than ever more
than ever than ever.
698
00:36:34,974 --> 00:36:35,855
More than ever.
699
00:36:35,855 --> 00:36:36,335
More than ever.
700
00:36:36,335 --> 00:36:40,809
I think, yeah, we have to try to reconnect to
what's who, what, when, and why.
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And if play brings that out of us and helps us
to focus in on that, I would suggest that
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everybody go out that's listening and try to do
something fun that maybe you used to do that
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maybe you got away from in in the next little
while.
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So, Brandy, for everybody listening that would
like to reach out and connect, where can they
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get ahold
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of you?
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The best way to get ahold of me is probably
through my website, which is
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www.BrandyHeather.com.
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But they can also reach out to me by email, and
all of those things are connected to my
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website.
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So please do that.
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Ask questions.
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Be curious.
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I'm always happy to jump on a conversation and
talk about how it could be amazing for your
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organization and for you personally too.
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So
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Awesome.
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Well, Brandy, this has been a pleasure for
everyone.
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Thanks for hanging out with us again this week.
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What am I taking away?
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That when I think of ROR, I'm gonna ask leaders
how did they play maybe in the last quarter to
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see what I could pull out of them when I'm
talking to them about connection.
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And for anybody that wants to know a little bit
know more about how they connect in their
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relationships either at home or work, just go
to roxanderhodge.com/quiz.
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Fill out a little quiz, and we'll send you back
some results and, next steps.
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00:37:56,734 --> 00:37:58,655
Again, Brandy, thanks so much for your time.
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Everyone else, thanks for hanging out with me
again, and we'll chat with you soon.
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Take care.
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00:38:04,679 --> 00:38:05,179
Thanks.
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00:38:06,039 --> 00:38:11,420
Thanks for tuning in to Authentic Living with
Roxanne, creating the space for positive,
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healthy change.
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00:38:12,679 --> 00:38:16,860
Roxanne is a keynote speaker, psychotherapist,
and coach.
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To work with Roxanne, visit
roxannederhage.com/blueprint.
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We'll see you next time on Authentic Living
with Roxanne.