ABOUT THIS EPISODE
A lot of men end up believing things like “women cheat more,” “women want sex more than men,” or “most women cheat”.
Those beliefs don’t usually come from careful analysis.
They come from pain.
I break down why these stories feel so convincing — especially for analytical, system-oriented, and neurodivergent men — and why certainty often feels safer than ambiguity after betrayal, dead bedrooms, and relationship failure.
We’ll talk about:
- why men gravitate toward black-and-white explanations
- how hidden-truth and conspiracy-style thinking sneaks into relationship beliefs
- what the data actually says about libido differences
- what long-running surveys show about infidelity
- why “women just lie on surveys” isn’t the argument people think it is
- and why flattening an entire sex into a slogan quietly keeps men stuck
This isn’t about defending women or blaming men.
It’s about understanding how the male brain copes with uncertainty — and why rigid, comforting stories often cost you more than they protect you.
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