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Welcome to toddlers Made Easy.
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I'm Dr.
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Catherine, your host.
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When potty training goes sideways, it can be really difficult to know what will help, what might accidentally make things worse, or whether you're dealing with a medical problem.
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Unfortunately, many parents also wonder if they've done something wrong.
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Here's an email I recently received.
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My son Charlie just turned three, and we're really hoping to get him potty trained.
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He'll happily sit on the potty, but he never actually pees or poops in it.
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Then two minutes later, his diaper is wet.
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What worries me most is that he never tells us when he's pooped.
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Even when it's obvious to us, he'll say he hasn't.
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Sometimes he keeps playing as though nothing has happened, and I'll pick him up from daycare only to discover he's been sitting in a dirty diaper for quite a while.
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We've tried sticker charts, encouragement, and patience, and I worry we've put too much pressure on him.
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Is this common?
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Could it be something medical?
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And what should we do next?
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First, thank you for your question.
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I want to reassure you that most families experience challenges during potty training.
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It doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong, and it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with your child.
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Potty training is rarely a straight line.
00:01:22.239 --> 00:01:26.239
There's ups and downs, and that's just a normal part of learning.
00:01:26.400 --> 00:01:33.840
Now this mom's question actually brings up several common challenges, but they all point toward one important idea.
00:01:34.000 --> 00:01:44.079
When potty training isn't going well, our instinct is often to do more, more reminders, more encouragement, more praise, more prompting.
00:01:44.319 --> 00:01:49.840
But for many children, that extra pressure is exactly what's keeping them stuck.
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So let's look at what this means in real life.
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Charlie's happy to sit on the potty, he just won't pee on it.
00:01:56.799 --> 00:02:02.959
There are very few things young children truly control, and where they choose to pee or poop is one of them.
00:02:03.120 --> 00:02:06.319
There's no magic phrase that suddenly changes that.
00:02:06.480 --> 00:02:08.800
But that doesn't mean there's nothing you can do.
00:02:09.039 --> 00:02:13.280
For many children, even subtle pressure creates resistance.
00:02:13.520 --> 00:02:17.919
So instead of pushing harder, focus on making potty time enjoyable.
00:02:18.080 --> 00:02:26.000
Read books together, tell stories, play while they sit, and then praise them simply for sitting, not whether they've peed or not.
00:02:26.240 --> 00:02:31.120
Keep your comments positive, even if your child stands up and immediately pees on the floor.
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Why am I saying this?
00:02:32.719 --> 00:02:37.039
Well, children naturally repeat behaviors that get a big reaction.
00:02:37.360 --> 00:02:42.479
Positive attention is wonderful, but negative attention is still attention.
00:02:42.719 --> 00:02:43.759
So imagine this.
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Your child sits on the potty, stands up, and pees on the floor.
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You understandably react.
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No, why did you pee on the floor?
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You were just sitting on the potty.
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Now I have to clean this up.
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Your child has discovered that this behavior gets a really big response.
00:03:01.680 --> 00:03:03.840
And there's another thing to consider too.
00:03:04.080 --> 00:03:08.800
Kids need to notice their body signals and relax enough to let themselves pee.
00:03:08.960 --> 00:03:13.280
Now when everyone is watching and hoping, it's often harder to relax.
00:03:13.439 --> 00:03:18.719
So your child stands up, the pressure disappears, and suddenly they're able to go.
00:03:18.879 --> 00:03:24.159
And also many kids, especially boys, simply enjoy watching themselves pee.
00:03:24.400 --> 00:03:28.080
So there's often much more happening than simple defiance.
00:03:28.319 --> 00:03:34.240
If attention is part of what's driving the pattern, don't try to meet the need during potty time.
00:03:34.479 --> 00:03:37.919
Fill your child's emotional bucket throughout the day instead.
00:03:38.159 --> 00:03:45.199
Let them toss the salad, put the napkins on the table, ask them to help you find all the black socks in the laundry.
00:03:45.439 --> 00:03:49.199
Sprinkle in comments like, I'm so lucky you're my child.
00:03:49.439 --> 00:03:57.759
When kids' emotional cup is full, potty time becomes less about getting attention and more about learning a new skill.
00:03:58.000 --> 00:04:01.919
So here are a few other practical ways to lower the pressure.
00:04:02.159 --> 00:04:08.000
First, encourage your child to stay on the potty a little longer by making it really fun.
00:04:08.159 --> 00:04:11.360
Again, read together, tell your child a story.
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Here's a special one.
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Use party blowers or a kazoo or bubbles.
00:04:16.800 --> 00:04:18.480
Those items aren't just fun.
00:04:18.720 --> 00:04:25.600
Blowing helps relax the muscles involved in peeing and pooping, which helps your child pee and poop on the toilet.
00:04:25.839 --> 00:04:30.079
Second, watch for subtle ways we accidentally add pressure.
00:04:30.240 --> 00:04:37.600
This can look like talking about how another child uses the potty, choosing potty books when your child really wants a different story.
00:04:37.839 --> 00:04:40.800
Repeatedly asking, Do you need to sit on the potty?
00:04:40.959 --> 00:04:44.720
Or just saying, just try, just try, over and over.
00:04:44.959 --> 00:04:51.920
Throwing huge celebrations every time they use the potty is also experienced as pressure, or it can be.
00:04:52.079 --> 00:04:57.120
Or telling your kids they're a big girl or a big boy now, so they should use the potty.
00:04:57.519 --> 00:05:03.920
Many kids have mixed feelings about growing up, so that approach often isn't as motivating as we hope.
00:05:04.079 --> 00:05:10.160
And to be honest with you, I catch myself saying those words way too often, and I'm really working on it.
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Now let's get back to Charlie for a moment.
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Some children sit on the potty, then immediately stand up and pee on the floor, while he stands up and pees in his diaper.
00:05:19.279 --> 00:05:24.800
Sometimes that feels intentional, and sometimes it is, but most often it isn't.
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Learning body awareness takes time.
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Your child may genuinely think they can hold it another minute and then discover they can't.
00:05:32.639 --> 00:05:35.120
Another strategy that often helps is this.
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Don't carry your child to the potty.
00:05:37.519 --> 00:05:42.319
Instead, say, when you have that I need to pee feeling, the potty is right over there.
00:05:42.480 --> 00:05:48.720
And then point, children are much less likely to resist when they're choosing to go themselves.
00:05:48.879 --> 00:05:52.319
Sometimes things actually get worse before they get better.
00:05:52.560 --> 00:05:58.639
Surprisingly, though, this can be a sign that your child is close to making that big leap forward.
00:05:58.800 --> 00:06:01.199
So try not to give up too early.
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The other concern Charlie's mum mentioned is one I hear all the time.
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He doesn't notice when he's pooped, or he says he didn't poop.
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Many children are perfectly happy wearing a dirty diaper because they don't want to stop playing.
00:06:15.120 --> 00:06:19.759
Others deny it because they're trying to avoid another conversation about using the potty.
00:06:19.920 --> 00:06:25.759
If things have really stalled, for whatever reason, it often helps to go back to basics.
00:06:26.000 --> 00:06:33.680
Spend a day doing bare bottom time so your child can reconnect those body sensations with what their body is doing.
00:06:33.920 --> 00:06:38.800
Then return to underwear, using diapers for outings and sleep in the beginning.
00:06:38.959 --> 00:06:42.399
Also, think about where your child is expected to poop.
00:06:42.480 --> 00:06:47.360
If the potty sits in the middle of a busy room, they may simply want privacy.
00:06:47.600 --> 00:06:48.720
Think about yourself.
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Would you feel comfortable trying to poop while people watched?
00:06:52.160 --> 00:06:54.800
Well, many kids feel the exact same way.
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Now before we finish, I want to mention one medical issue that's worth keeping in mind.
00:07:00.079 --> 00:07:02.240
There are others, but this is the main one.
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Sometimes children who seem to be having poop accidents are actually constipated.
00:07:08.480 --> 00:07:13.839
Stool can leak around the hard stool and they're pooping without realizing it.
00:07:14.079 --> 00:07:29.360
And that's one situation if you think your child is constipated, in other words, they're having very large bowel movements, or alternatively, very small little pebble-like movements, or multiple poops in the day, but they don't pass very much.
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This is the situation where I would suggest talking with your healthcare provider.
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Now going back to Charlie's question, I actually love one thing the mom shared.
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Her son happily sits on the potty, and that's a wonderful place to build from.
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Let him know you're proud of that.
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Play with him while he sits when you can.
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And when accidents happen, just keep your response simple.
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Oops, it looks like you're wet.
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Next time you have that I need to pee feeling, the potty is right over there.
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And again, you point.
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I'd also consider a few short episodes, again, of bare bottom time over several days so you can help him connect that feeling of needing to pee with getting to the potty.
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Now, when you think about it, potty training really boils down to two skills: recognizing the I need to pee feeling and then getting to the potty in time.
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And children usually learn this body awareness in stages.
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First, they realize they've already peed, so they realize it after the fact.
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Then they notice it while it's happening, and finally they recognize that feeling before it happens, or in other words, they recognize that I need to pee feeling.
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Well, bare bottom time makes the learning process much easier because you can gently narrate what's happening as it occurs because you can see them since they're not wearing anything on the bottom.
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So if potty training has gone sideways, remember this.
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Our instinct is often to do more, more reminders, more prompting, more celebrating.
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But for many children, progress comes when we do less, less pressure, more patience, more trust that they're learning a skill that simply takes time.
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So keep putting yourself in your child's shoes.
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When you understand how they're experiencing potty training, it's much easier to stay calm and encouraging and supportive.
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Now, if you have a question you'd like me to answer, send it to drcatherine at healthiest-baby dot com.
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I'll try to answer it here just as I did with Charlie's mom.
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Now, if you'd like to potty train without all the stress, check out Potty Training Made Easy.
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I built this program on 40 years of pediatric experience, so you don't have to sort through random online advice.
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You'll get a step-by-step plan that shows you when to start, what to do next, and how to handle the bumps along the way.
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You'll find the tools, guidance, and support you need when potty training feels hard.
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The goal isn't just saying goodbye to diapers, it's helping your child come out the other side feeling confident and capable while you feel confident in your own judgment as a parent.
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You'll find more information about this in the show notes.
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Keep up the good work, and I'll see you next week.
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Welcome to toddlers Made Easy.
00:00:08.560 --> 00:00:09.119
I'm Dr.
00:00:09.199 --> 00:00:10.480
Catherine, your host.
00:00:10.720 --> 00:00:20.640
When potty training goes sideways, it can be really difficult to know what will help, what might accidentally make things worse, or whether you're dealing with a medical problem.
00:00:21.039 --> 00:00:25.519
Unfortunately, many parents also wonder if they've done something wrong.
00:00:25.760 --> 00:00:28.399
Here's an email I recently received.
00:00:28.640 --> 00:00:33.280
My son Charlie just turned three, and we're really hoping to get him potty trained.
00:00:33.359 --> 00:00:37.439
He'll happily sit on the potty, but he never actually pees or poops in it.
00:00:37.520 --> 00:00:40.079
Then two minutes later, his diaper is wet.
00:00:40.240 --> 00:00:43.759
What worries me most is that he never tells us when he's pooped.
00:00:43.840 --> 00:00:46.719
Even when it's obvious to us, he'll say he hasn't.
00:00:46.880 --> 00:00:55.119
Sometimes he keeps playing as though nothing has happened, and I'll pick him up from daycare only to discover he's been sitting in a dirty diaper for quite a while.
00:00:55.280 --> 00:01:01.679
We've tried sticker charts, encouragement, and patience, and I worry we've put too much pressure on him.
00:01:01.920 --> 00:01:02.799
Is this common?
00:01:02.960 --> 00:01:04.400
Could it be something medical?
00:01:04.480 --> 00:01:06.159
And what should we do next?
00:01:06.480 --> 00:01:08.640
First, thank you for your question.
00:01:08.799 --> 00:01:13.920
I want to reassure you that most families experience challenges during potty training.
00:01:14.079 --> 00:01:19.200
It doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong, and it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with your child.
00:01:19.439 --> 00:01:22.079
Potty training is rarely a straight line.
00:01:22.239 --> 00:01:26.239
There's ups and downs, and that's just a normal part of learning.
00:01:26.400 --> 00:01:33.840
Now this mom's question actually brings up several common challenges, but they all point toward one important idea.
00:01:34.000 --> 00:01:44.079
When potty training isn't going well, our instinct is often to do more, more reminders, more encouragement, more praise, more prompting.
00:01:44.319 --> 00:01:49.840
But for many children, that extra pressure is exactly what's keeping them stuck.
00:01:50.079 --> 00:01:52.879
So let's look at what this means in real life.
00:01:53.120 --> 00:01:56.640
Charlie's happy to sit on the potty, he just won't pee on it.
00:01:56.799 --> 00:02:02.959
There are very few things young children truly control, and where they choose to pee or poop is one of them.
00:02:03.120 --> 00:02:06.319
There's no magic phrase that suddenly changes that.
00:02:06.480 --> 00:02:08.800
But that doesn't mean there's nothing you can do.
00:02:09.039 --> 00:02:13.280
For many children, even subtle pressure creates resistance.
00:02:13.520 --> 00:02:17.919
So instead of pushing harder, focus on making potty time enjoyable.
00:02:18.080 --> 00:02:26.000
Read books together, tell stories, play while they sit, and then praise them simply for sitting, not whether they've peed or not.
00:02:26.240 --> 00:02:31.120
Keep your comments positive, even if your child stands up and immediately pees on the floor.
00:02:31.360 --> 00:02:32.479
Why am I saying this?
00:02:32.719 --> 00:02:37.039
Well, children naturally repeat behaviors that get a big reaction.
00:02:37.360 --> 00:02:42.479
Positive attention is wonderful, but negative attention is still attention.
00:02:42.719 --> 00:02:43.759
So imagine this.
00:02:44.000 --> 00:02:47.919
Your child sits on the potty, stands up, and pees on the floor.
00:02:48.080 --> 00:02:50.000
You understandably react.
00:02:50.319 --> 00:02:52.800
No, why did you pee on the floor?
00:02:53.039 --> 00:02:55.120
You were just sitting on the potty.
00:02:55.280 --> 00:02:56.960
Now I have to clean this up.
00:02:57.199 --> 00:03:01.520
Your child has discovered that this behavior gets a really big response.
00:03:01.680 --> 00:03:03.840
And there's another thing to consider too.
00:03:04.080 --> 00:03:08.800
Kids need to notice their body signals and relax enough to let themselves pee.
00:03:08.960 --> 00:03:13.280
Now when everyone is watching and hoping, it's often harder to relax.
00:03:13.439 --> 00:03:18.719
So your child stands up, the pressure disappears, and suddenly they're able to go.
00:03:18.879 --> 00:03:24.159
And also many kids, especially boys, simply enjoy watching themselves pee.
00:03:24.400 --> 00:03:28.080
So there's often much more happening than simple defiance.
00:03:28.319 --> 00:03:34.240
If attention is part of what's driving the pattern, don't try to meet the need during potty time.
00:03:34.479 --> 00:03:37.919
Fill your child's emotional bucket throughout the day instead.
00:03:38.159 --> 00:03:45.199
Let them toss the salad, put the napkins on the table, ask them to help you find all the black socks in the laundry.
00:03:45.439 --> 00:03:49.199
Sprinkle in comments like, I'm so lucky you're my child.
00:03:49.439 --> 00:03:57.759
When kids' emotional cup is full, potty time becomes less about getting attention and more about learning a new skill.
00:03:58.000 --> 00:04:01.919
So here are a few other practical ways to lower the pressure.
00:04:02.159 --> 00:04:08.000
First, encourage your child to stay on the potty a little longer by making it really fun.
00:04:08.159 --> 00:04:11.360
Again, read together, tell your child a story.
00:04:11.520 --> 00:04:12.639
Here's a special one.
00:04:12.879 --> 00:04:16.560
Use party blowers or a kazoo or bubbles.
00:04:16.800 --> 00:04:18.480
Those items aren't just fun.
00:04:18.720 --> 00:04:25.600
Blowing helps relax the muscles involved in peeing and pooping, which helps your child pee and poop on the toilet.
00:04:25.839 --> 00:04:30.079
Second, watch for subtle ways we accidentally add pressure.
00:04:30.240 --> 00:04:37.600
This can look like talking about how another child uses the potty, choosing potty books when your child really wants a different story.
00:04:37.839 --> 00:04:40.800
Repeatedly asking, Do you need to sit on the potty?
00:04:40.959 --> 00:04:44.720
Or just saying, just try, just try, over and over.
00:04:44.959 --> 00:04:51.920
Throwing huge celebrations every time they use the potty is also experienced as pressure, or it can be.
00:04:52.079 --> 00:04:57.120
Or telling your kids they're a big girl or a big boy now, so they should use the potty.
00:04:57.519 --> 00:05:03.920
Many kids have mixed feelings about growing up, so that approach often isn't as motivating as we hope.
00:05:04.079 --> 00:05:10.160
And to be honest with you, I catch myself saying those words way too often, and I'm really working on it.
00:05:10.319 --> 00:05:12.560
Now let's get back to Charlie for a moment.
00:05:12.800 --> 00:05:19.120
Some children sit on the potty, then immediately stand up and pee on the floor, while he stands up and pees in his diaper.
00:05:19.279 --> 00:05:24.800
Sometimes that feels intentional, and sometimes it is, but most often it isn't.
00:05:25.040 --> 00:05:27.360
Learning body awareness takes time.
00:05:27.519 --> 00:05:32.480
Your child may genuinely think they can hold it another minute and then discover they can't.
00:05:32.639 --> 00:05:35.120
Another strategy that often helps is this.
00:05:35.360 --> 00:05:37.439
Don't carry your child to the potty.
00:05:37.519 --> 00:05:42.319
Instead, say, when you have that I need to pee feeling, the potty is right over there.
00:05:42.480 --> 00:05:48.720
And then point, children are much less likely to resist when they're choosing to go themselves.
00:05:48.879 --> 00:05:52.319
Sometimes things actually get worse before they get better.
00:05:52.560 --> 00:05:58.639
Surprisingly, though, this can be a sign that your child is close to making that big leap forward.
00:05:58.800 --> 00:06:01.199
So try not to give up too early.
00:06:01.439 --> 00:06:05.279
The other concern Charlie's mum mentioned is one I hear all the time.
00:06:05.519 --> 00:06:09.600
He doesn't notice when he's pooped, or he says he didn't poop.
00:06:09.759 --> 00:06:14.879
Many children are perfectly happy wearing a dirty diaper because they don't want to stop playing.
00:06:15.120 --> 00:06:19.759
Others deny it because they're trying to avoid another conversation about using the potty.
00:06:19.920 --> 00:06:25.759
If things have really stalled, for whatever reason, it often helps to go back to basics.
00:06:26.000 --> 00:06:33.680
Spend a day doing bare bottom time so your child can reconnect those body sensations with what their body is doing.
00:06:33.920 --> 00:06:38.800
Then return to underwear, using diapers for outings and sleep in the beginning.
00:06:38.959 --> 00:06:42.399
Also, think about where your child is expected to poop.
00:06:42.480 --> 00:06:47.360
If the potty sits in the middle of a busy room, they may simply want privacy.
00:06:47.600 --> 00:06:48.720
Think about yourself.
00:06:49.040 --> 00:06:52.000
Would you feel comfortable trying to poop while people watched?
00:06:52.160 --> 00:06:54.800
Well, many kids feel the exact same way.
00:06:55.040 --> 00:06:59.920
Now before we finish, I want to mention one medical issue that's worth keeping in mind.
00:07:00.079 --> 00:07:02.240
There are others, but this is the main one.
00:07:02.480 --> 00:07:08.240
Sometimes children who seem to be having poop accidents are actually constipated.
00:07:08.480 --> 00:07:13.839
Stool can leak around the hard stool and they're pooping without realizing it.
00:07:14.079 --> 00:07:29.360
And that's one situation if you think your child is constipated, in other words, they're having very large bowel movements, or alternatively, very small little pebble-like movements, or multiple poops in the day, but they don't pass very much.
00:07:29.600 --> 00:07:34.160
This is the situation where I would suggest talking with your healthcare provider.
00:07:34.399 --> 00:07:39.600
Now going back to Charlie's question, I actually love one thing the mom shared.
00:07:39.920 --> 00:07:45.360
Her son happily sits on the potty, and that's a wonderful place to build from.
00:07:45.600 --> 00:07:47.360
Let him know you're proud of that.
00:07:47.600 --> 00:07:49.759
Play with him while he sits when you can.
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And when accidents happen, just keep your response simple.
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Oops, it looks like you're wet.
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Next time you have that I need to pee feeling, the potty is right over there.
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And again, you point.
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I'd also consider a few short episodes, again, of bare bottom time over several days so you can help him connect that feeling of needing to pee with getting to the potty.
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Now, when you think about it, potty training really boils down to two skills: recognizing the I need to pee feeling and then getting to the potty in time.
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And children usually learn this body awareness in stages.
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First, they realize they've already peed, so they realize it after the fact.
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Then they notice it while it's happening, and finally they recognize that feeling before it happens, or in other words, they recognize that I need to pee feeling.
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Well, bare bottom time makes the learning process much easier because you can gently narrate what's happening as it occurs because you can see them since they're not wearing anything on the bottom.
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So if potty training has gone sideways, remember this.
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Our instinct is often to do more, more reminders, more prompting, more celebrating.
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But for many children, progress comes when we do less, less pressure, more patience, more trust that they're learning a skill that simply takes time.
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So keep putting yourself in your child's shoes.
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When you understand how they're experiencing potty training, it's much easier to stay calm and encouraging and supportive.
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Now, if you have a question you'd like me to answer, send it to drcatherine at healthiest-baby dot com.
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I'll try to answer it here just as I did with Charlie's mom.
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Now, if you'd like to potty train without all the stress, check out Potty Training Made Easy.
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I built this program on 40 years of pediatric experience, so you don't have to sort through random online advice.
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You'll get a step-by-step plan that shows you when to start, what to do next, and how to handle the bumps along the way.
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You'll find the tools, guidance, and support you need when potty training feels hard.
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The goal isn't just saying goodbye to diapers, it's helping your child come out the other side feeling confident and capable while you feel confident in your own judgment as a parent.
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You'll find more information about this in the show notes.
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Keep up the good work, and I'll see you next week.
