WEBVTT
00:00:01.360 --> 00:00:05.599
Most people spend their entire lives dressed with and ever given a single thought.
00:00:05.679 --> 00:00:08.240
As to what it is they really want and what's important.
00:00:11.199 --> 00:00:14.400
Connecting you yourself and the life that you have meant to live.
00:00:15.039 --> 00:00:17.839
I just live away the comfortable job, and I hate it.
00:00:22.800 --> 00:00:24.079
I am my own coffee company.
00:00:33.759 --> 00:00:35.679
It's not too much.
00:00:36.159 --> 00:00:37.679
I'm your host, Donnie Rouse.
00:00:40.399 --> 00:00:41.359
One line.
00:00:51.520 --> 00:00:52.880
What's going on everybody?
00:00:53.119 --> 00:01:00.560
Donnie Rouse here, and today I want to talk to you about connecting to your inner guidance.
00:01:00.880 --> 00:01:12.239
And when I'm referring to connecting to your inner guidance, what I'm really referring to is connecting with yourself, connecting with your dreams, your passions, your desires, your aspirations.
00:01:14.079 --> 00:01:19.519
Before we could connect to those things, we must first understand where do we get disconnected?
00:01:20.000 --> 00:01:36.560
We get disconnected by things, our environment, the shoulds that people are placing on us, our desire to uh to placate them, to agree in order to be part of that, you know, of that in that circle.
00:01:36.879 --> 00:01:49.280
We get thrown off by the environment, what we're we're told that we should want for our lives, as well as just the noise that is constantly being thrown our ways via the TV, the newspapers, or our phone.
00:01:50.879 --> 00:02:00.560
If we know that this is what's causing the disconnect, then the only thing that we need to do in order to connect is to do the exact opposite.
00:02:01.840 --> 00:02:10.400
Some steps you can take to start going down and connect, reconnecting with yourself, is turning off all the noise.
00:02:10.879 --> 00:02:13.759
I've done several podcasts on this in the past.
00:02:14.159 --> 00:02:22.879
Um, but what I was referring to, what I often mentioned in those episodes, was that when you're turning off the noise, I'm like, turn off your phone, turn off the TV.
00:02:22.960 --> 00:02:28.800
But now I'm going to talk to you about turning off the noise from your own friends and family.
00:02:31.759 --> 00:02:39.360
In my household here, there's no doubt in my mind that my family has the best intentions for me.
00:02:39.520 --> 00:02:44.000
And they think that I should, they want the best, and they I should follow a certain path.
00:02:44.080 --> 00:02:47.120
I'm using the air parentheses over here, the air quotes.
00:02:48.000 --> 00:02:52.400
There's no possible way for them to know what that path is for me.
00:02:52.879 --> 00:03:06.240
And even if the path is in alignment with what they're saying, the shoulds that they're throwing at me literally throw me into a um, it just throws my mind into chaos.
00:03:06.319 --> 00:03:17.120
And as a result, I start questioning my own inner guidance and feeling the need and pressure to conform to what it is they're saying.
00:03:18.639 --> 00:03:25.759
When this happens, all of a sudden it just creates this momentum of of um resistance in my body.
00:03:26.400 --> 00:03:31.680
And the way out, the way out is silence.
00:03:34.159 --> 00:03:38.319
This morning I went out to the back and I was just started to the first thing I did was journaling.
00:03:38.400 --> 00:03:39.520
And I journaled about last night.
00:03:39.599 --> 00:03:48.400
We had a family dinner here, and everyone was going on about my uh the coffee that I'm doing, my cold room espresso, and that I should be doing this.
00:03:48.479 --> 00:03:55.360
Oh, but if they had, you know, if they had my opportunity, they would not, you know, they would have capitalized on a long time ago.
00:03:55.439 --> 00:03:57.680
And at some point I just snapped.
00:03:57.919 --> 00:04:06.719
I said, you do not know what it is like unless you are in the arena fighting, you do not know what it's like.
00:04:06.800 --> 00:04:12.560
So you it's easy from the outside for people to look at us and be like, oh, yeah, all you gotta do is this.
00:04:13.599 --> 00:04:18.160
But they don't know what the struggle is, right?
00:04:18.319 --> 00:04:23.279
Because the truth of the matter is, if it were that easy, then everyone would be doing it.
00:04:23.519 --> 00:04:23.839
Right.
00:04:23.920 --> 00:04:27.040
And and um an example of some of my siblings, right?
00:04:27.120 --> 00:04:29.600
They they've had aspirations for doing their own business, but they didn't.
00:04:29.759 --> 00:04:30.399
Why?
00:04:30.879 --> 00:04:36.560
Because they chose security over doing their own thing, right?
00:04:36.639 --> 00:04:41.199
So it's so it's easy for them to look out and be like, well, all you have to do is this.
00:04:42.079 --> 00:04:58.160
But when you're in it, there are a lot of forces that are coming at you, and you know, one of those being the forces of your family, telling you what you should do, how you're supposed to conform to a lifestyle.
00:04:59.199 --> 00:05:01.600
But I my lifestyle is very, very different.
00:05:01.759 --> 00:05:03.199
My desires are very, very different.
00:05:03.360 --> 00:05:15.600
In some cases, they actually do align with their saying, but when they are barking out at me, the first thing it does, I just disconnects and I go into I go into like protection mode.
00:05:17.439 --> 00:05:19.040
And I just turn off.
00:05:20.720 --> 00:05:27.120
This morning I was sitting and I did one of the habits that I hadn't been doing recently was reading in the morning.
00:05:27.360 --> 00:05:37.920
It's one of the most powerful habits you can do, especially if you're reading something that's gonna serve you and move your life forward, or at the very least, change your perspective.
00:05:38.240 --> 00:05:46.160
Show you what's important so this way you can focus your mind on things that are gonna align you and move you in your own unique path.
00:05:47.600 --> 00:05:48.800
So I was reading the book.
00:05:48.879 --> 00:05:52.079
I think it's the book is called, if you want to pick it up, it's called The Other 90%.
00:05:52.560 --> 00:05:55.040
I highly recommend it, highly recommend it.
00:05:57.360 --> 00:06:02.560
And in this chapter I was reading, it was talking about going into the silence and reconnecting with yourself.
00:06:03.600 --> 00:06:09.040
Some of those steps that were like, well, making sure that you plan time to get away.
00:06:11.040 --> 00:06:21.120
When I inspired by this first part, I went to look at some of my journals that I had taken from my most recent trip.
00:06:22.480 --> 00:06:25.120
And in that journal, I was looking at it.
00:06:25.360 --> 00:06:33.680
And uh, when I was describing best moments, some of the things that I would I would write down were the inspirations that I had while I was, you know, while I was traveling.
00:06:33.839 --> 00:06:42.639
It was to go back home, uh, you know, put my coffee into cafes and create this, you know, I there the inspiration was there.
00:06:43.360 --> 00:06:47.439
Ironically, this is exactly the kind of thing that my parents like, oh, you need to go do this.
00:06:47.519 --> 00:06:48.639
Oh, you guys should be.
00:06:48.879 --> 00:06:52.240
And it is actually what they're saying, like in the direction I want.
00:06:52.319 --> 00:07:00.000
But when someone's telling you what you should do, sometimes an natural inclination is just to go the opposite way.
00:07:00.240 --> 00:07:02.079
So it's counterproductive.
00:07:02.160 --> 00:07:08.160
If you're telling people what they should do, you don't tell people what you should do, you let them dig deep within.
00:07:08.319 --> 00:07:09.920
So I I was finding these things.
00:07:10.000 --> 00:07:11.839
I was like, wow, yeah, that's what I want.
00:07:12.079 --> 00:07:14.319
And then I did this exercise.
00:07:15.040 --> 00:07:23.040
Um, and the exercise is going to a place where you feel just extreme peace and you let go of time.
00:07:24.399 --> 00:07:26.000
Now I didn't go anywhere, right?
00:07:26.079 --> 00:07:29.519
I didn't go to the beach or listen to the water.
00:07:29.600 --> 00:07:30.399
I didn't go anywhere.
00:07:30.560 --> 00:07:35.040
For me, in order for me to relax, I need silence, I need seclusion.
00:07:35.199 --> 00:07:43.120
Like when I'm alone and I'm silent, I'm just allowed to rest, relax, lay down, listen to the wind blowing or whatever it may be.
00:07:44.079 --> 00:07:48.000
My mind gets quiet and I start to connect back with myself.
00:07:48.560 --> 00:07:53.199
The beautiful thing about this is that you do not need to leave anywhere.
00:07:54.000 --> 00:07:59.120
I was sitting outside in my chair, and I closed my eyes for a moment.
00:07:59.360 --> 00:08:02.480
And the place I went to, and I don't even know where the hell this thing came from.
00:08:02.639 --> 00:08:03.759
I was in a tree house.
00:08:04.160 --> 00:08:05.120
I don't know where.
00:08:05.279 --> 00:08:14.480
I was in a tree house and I was reclining on um like almost like one, I don't know whether it's called Ottoman, like the couches where you kind of recline back.
00:08:15.519 --> 00:08:22.639
And in my mind, I'm I'm vividly pitchering the texture, the grains of the wood against the wall.
00:08:23.199 --> 00:08:26.639
And I just hear the wind going, and my mind is at ease.
00:08:29.040 --> 00:08:32.960
And as a result of that, all of a sudden I started to get clarity.
00:08:33.039 --> 00:08:41.679
I started thinking about my path forward with this coffee and how everything is going in accordance with how it's supposed to be.
00:08:43.919 --> 00:08:51.759
When I'm listening to everyone else around me saying that this should have happened already, it, you know, it literally throws me the spiral and they have no clue.
00:08:52.960 --> 00:08:59.039
In where I am right now, I just got back from Italy about a month ago now.
00:08:59.120 --> 00:09:04.480
And um, so I'm creating uh I'm creating one of my my first authentic Italian espresso blend.
00:09:04.559 --> 00:09:08.320
Before I was just doing single origins and I was saying, all right, use this as espresso.
00:09:08.480 --> 00:09:10.399
Now I'm actually creating plans for espresso.
00:09:11.919 --> 00:09:18.000
And in doing this, there's all of these things that I have to like steps in order to get there.
00:09:18.320 --> 00:09:18.720
Right?
00:09:18.879 --> 00:09:29.279
Uh, you know, I mean, between getting the bags, creating the labels, buying the coffees, organizing with uh the roasting facility that I'm gonna be roasting at to, you know, for what I need to start doing it.
00:09:29.360 --> 00:09:31.919
And there's just a lot of little steps.
00:09:33.039 --> 00:09:38.559
And I was trying to rush these steps because I didn't feel like this, it was like I wanted to be at the at the finish line, right?
00:09:38.639 --> 00:09:40.399
I wanted to be completed.
00:09:40.639 --> 00:09:45.519
In all these steps, I was just getting flustered because I'm like, ah, I got just got to get these things done.
00:09:46.240 --> 00:09:53.279
But as I was journaling, I realized like, you know what, these are all steps moving me in that direction.
00:09:53.440 --> 00:10:00.559
And that my intention for this was I want my ultimate goal is I want location freedom, but I also want, I want to do what I love.
00:10:00.720 --> 00:10:08.559
And the idea of location freedom, you know, like traveling 24-7, is that is that I don't know if that's really what I want to do.
00:10:08.639 --> 00:10:13.440
I've been on trips for a month in Italy, and I'm like, I cannot wait to go home.
00:10:13.519 --> 00:10:14.960
I'm I'm tired of Italy, right?
00:10:15.039 --> 00:10:16.559
Who like who would think?
00:10:17.519 --> 00:10:18.960
That's kind of how the body is, right?
00:10:19.279 --> 00:10:22.639
You we crave change, we crave challenge.
00:10:23.600 --> 00:10:31.120
So as a result of doing this, and uh I realized that like this is just step number one.
00:10:31.200 --> 00:10:40.879
I'm doing my bottled coffee, but that's very difficult to scale, and I've been going in and out for literally years trying to figure it out, but there's always been a snack.
00:10:42.320 --> 00:10:47.039
The roasted coffee, on the other hand, I could do that and I could scale that quick.
00:10:47.919 --> 00:10:58.080
And the other thing with the roasted coffee is that it's gonna open up other possibilities for me because I've always had the desire to open a cafe, just didn't want to be, you know, like nailed down to one location.
00:10:58.159 --> 00:11:01.279
If you're listening to the language I'm using, you're like, of course, he wants freedom.
00:11:01.440 --> 00:11:03.039
You're nailed down in location.
00:11:03.120 --> 00:11:05.360
Think of the imagery that that puts in your mind.
00:11:05.919 --> 00:11:10.320
But nevertheless, I know that it is a desire of mine at some point.
00:11:11.360 --> 00:11:16.159
And so this creating of the blends is starting to put my coffee into wholesale accounts.
00:11:16.240 --> 00:11:19.279
This is all just one step in the right direction.
00:11:19.360 --> 00:11:22.799
And there's no way I can skip those steps.
00:11:23.039 --> 00:11:24.559
You're like, well, what how what are you talking?
00:11:24.639 --> 00:11:30.000
You were just talking about taking time, and now you're talking about, you know, doing all these, taking the steps, do well.
00:11:30.080 --> 00:11:40.639
Yeah, that clarity came as a result of silencing my mind, of giving myself a moment for myself to just think of what direction do I want to take.
00:11:40.960 --> 00:11:47.440
And it's funny how I forget because I could be traveling, I could be traveling around the world, and I will get these insights.
00:11:47.600 --> 00:11:50.639
The desire for freedom is always there.
00:11:51.519 --> 00:11:56.399
And but I will get these things like, oh, I want to bring this back home, I want to bring this back home, I want to do this.
00:11:56.639 --> 00:12:00.720
But then when I'm home, I get back into the rut of doing things, right?
00:12:00.799 --> 00:12:03.120
And like that everything must be done now.
00:12:03.840 --> 00:12:08.159
That forget some of these insights that I had, but in the silence they came back.
00:12:09.279 --> 00:12:16.480
So the reason I tell you this is because I want you to invite the silence back into your day.
00:12:17.120 --> 00:12:19.200
It's so easy to think, like, oh, you know what?
00:12:19.600 --> 00:12:20.320
God, there's no time.
00:12:20.399 --> 00:12:21.120
I don't have time.
00:12:21.200 --> 00:12:26.399
How am I gonna take time to 10 minutes to to you know sit down and do nothing?
00:12:26.559 --> 00:12:26.720
Right?
00:12:26.879 --> 00:12:27.840
I I gotta get this done.
00:12:27.919 --> 00:12:28.639
It has to be done.
00:12:28.720 --> 00:12:32.559
And when I get this done, then I'll take the break.
00:12:33.600 --> 00:12:35.360
How's that working for you?
00:12:36.720 --> 00:12:41.279
There's always going to be more things to do, right?
00:12:41.360 --> 00:12:46.879
And on your to-do list, when is the last time it actually got you you it got less, right?
00:12:46.960 --> 00:12:50.480
It always builds, it just compounds because there's always things to do.
00:12:51.600 --> 00:13:00.000
So you're doing yourself a big disservice by not first figuring out one what it is, what is that core desire that you're moving towards.
00:13:00.399 --> 00:13:02.799
And you're not gonna get that in the busyness of your mind.
00:13:02.960 --> 00:13:06.559
The only way you're gonna get it is if you go into the silence.
00:13:07.440 --> 00:13:15.600
Not to mention, it feels good because all of a sudden, as a result of taking away that resistance, you blow past like whatever limitations you had.
00:13:15.679 --> 00:13:19.440
All of a sudden, you just like literally you skip by him happily and smiling.
00:13:20.399 --> 00:13:24.159
Because you allowed your mind to reorganize and really look at what was important to you.
00:13:25.360 --> 00:13:28.320
So if you're waiting for that perfect time, guess what?
00:13:28.399 --> 00:13:29.919
It's never gonna come.
00:13:30.559 --> 00:13:36.720
You've got to be the one to decide that you are gonna take the time for yourself for life.
00:13:39.840 --> 00:13:41.600
So, when are you gonna take the time?
00:13:42.799 --> 00:13:44.639
When are you gonna do it today?
00:13:46.080 --> 00:13:47.279
Pressure on you.
00:13:48.480 --> 00:13:58.159
And and I joke around with it because I know the change, the significant impact it will have on your day, and if you do it long enough on your life.
00:14:01.279 --> 00:14:08.799
Life is always happening, but if you don't take the time to stop and appreciate it, it literally is just gonna pass you by.
00:14:11.279 --> 00:14:13.519
And I I feel it feels funny, you know.
00:14:13.600 --> 00:14:21.840
I I talk about one life and I talk about my challenges on here because people look at me and they're like, Well, damn, you travel twice a year, you're going to all these countries, doing all these things.
00:14:21.919 --> 00:14:22.480
Yeah.
00:14:22.720 --> 00:14:27.919
There's a reason why like One Life is the name of you know, like uh of this podcast.
00:14:28.000 --> 00:14:36.639
There's a reason why One Life is the blueprint, is the course that I created, is because it's one of the struggles that I face, right?
00:14:36.720 --> 00:14:50.080
And I wanted to create a tool, I wanted to create something that connects not just me, but you back to your day, back to what is important, so that we're not running around crazy all the time.
00:14:50.639 --> 00:14:59.360
That we could literally rely on, shut out all the external voices, influences, and go along our own path.
00:15:02.480 --> 00:15:05.039
You're always going to meet resistance on your path, right?
00:15:05.120 --> 00:15:14.159
Because a lot of the time it's going to be counter to what other people, especially your loved ones, want for you, or counter to what the culture is saying that you should have.
00:15:16.399 --> 00:15:27.039
But I promise you, there's no way in hell that you will ever get fulfillment unless you are listening and being true to yourself and going down your path.
00:15:27.919 --> 00:15:29.840
Your path maybe look completely different to mine.
00:15:29.919 --> 00:15:32.000
You may be like, Donnie, I don't want to travel.
00:15:32.159 --> 00:15:33.279
I love my hometown.
00:15:33.360 --> 00:15:36.159
I I can't stand the thought of even getting on a plane.
00:15:36.320 --> 00:15:37.440
I like to knit.
00:15:37.679 --> 00:15:39.200
Whatever you want to do.
00:15:39.840 --> 00:15:42.559
The point I'm trying to make is just silence your mind.
00:15:42.799 --> 00:15:46.080
Figure out what it is that your heart is calling you to do.
00:15:47.279 --> 00:15:50.799
And then continue to take the steps to move in that direction.
00:15:50.879 --> 00:16:00.960
At the very least, if you don't even do that, just take the moment to just enjoy the day, to enjoy the gift of being alive for another second.
00:16:02.720 --> 00:16:04.159
That alone will ground you, right?
00:16:04.320 --> 00:16:11.679
If you think of all the things that have to happen in order for you to take that breath that you just took right now, right?
00:16:11.759 --> 00:16:16.480
And right now, and right now, all these things have to work in synchronicity.
00:16:18.399 --> 00:16:24.639
Any one of these things, little things absent, like you know, even like a beating of a heart could be detrimental.
00:16:26.639 --> 00:16:28.000
So gay thanks.
00:16:28.879 --> 00:16:31.600
So I hope you guys enjoyed this episode.
00:16:31.679 --> 00:16:47.039
I hope it inspires you in some way to stop in your day, to go somewhere just to retreat into the quiet, take off your watch, put your phone down, don't even put the you know, put it on your on in your desk drawer and step away.
00:16:48.000 --> 00:17:11.440
And trust that your mind say, you know what, I'm gonna give myself 10 minutes to go and just quiet my mind and just to be and trust that your inner knowing is gonna know when that time is up for you to step back into the world because it will tell you do that today and see how you feel.
00:17:12.480 --> 00:17:23.519
See what new dreams, desires, what new messages you get to step forward and to move forward thereafter.
00:17:25.839 --> 00:17:31.519
It will come if that is what you intend and that's what you asked, or maybe you just want to just be at peace.
00:17:31.759 --> 00:17:32.799
That's fine too.
00:17:34.319 --> 00:17:35.839
Go into the silence.
00:17:36.720 --> 00:17:38.400
This is where life happens.
00:17:38.640 --> 00:17:47.279
Life doesn't happen in that craziness, it happens when you stop to appreciate and enjoy this very moment.
00:17:48.480 --> 00:17:50.640
So I hope you guys enjoyed this episode here.
00:17:50.799 --> 00:18:08.000
If you did, please give it a thumbs up, give it a share to someone who you feel could benefit from that, and please leave me a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify, wherever you listen to it, uh, because that is what helps get the word out about the podcast and to make more people take that moment to stop, to enjoy, to follow their one life.
00:18:08.079 --> 00:18:09.119
So, who doesn't want that?
00:18:09.279 --> 00:18:10.960
So I hope you enjoy this episode, guys.
00:18:11.119 --> 00:18:16.799
If you want to subscribe, ask a question, you could do so via my website at www.donnierouse.com.
00:18:16.880 --> 00:18:20.480
That is d-o-n-yra-us.com.
00:18:21.119 --> 00:18:22.640
That is all I got for you guys today.
00:18:22.799 --> 00:18:24.720
Hope you enjoyed this episode.
00:18:24.960 --> 00:18:27.519
Remember, you only get one life.
00:18:27.839 --> 00:18:32.559
Live fully, live passionately, and most of all, live now.
00:18:32.799 --> 00:18:35.599
God bless you guys, and I will see you again soon.
00:00:01.360 --> 00:00:05.599
Most people spend their entire lives dressed with and ever given a single thought.
00:00:05.679 --> 00:00:08.240
As to what it is they really want and what's important.
00:00:11.199 --> 00:00:14.400
Connecting you yourself and the life that you have meant to live.
00:00:15.039 --> 00:00:17.839
I just live away the comfortable job, and I hate it.
00:00:22.800 --> 00:00:24.079
I am my own coffee company.
00:00:33.759 --> 00:00:35.679
It's not too much.
00:00:36.159 --> 00:00:37.679
I'm your host, Donnie Rouse.
00:00:40.399 --> 00:00:41.359
One line.
00:00:51.520 --> 00:00:52.880
What's going on everybody?
00:00:53.119 --> 00:01:00.560
Donnie Rouse here, and today I want to talk to you about connecting to your inner guidance.
00:01:00.880 --> 00:01:12.239
And when I'm referring to connecting to your inner guidance, what I'm really referring to is connecting with yourself, connecting with your dreams, your passions, your desires, your aspirations.
00:01:14.079 --> 00:01:19.519
Before we could connect to those things, we must first understand where do we get disconnected?
00:01:20.000 --> 00:01:36.560
We get disconnected by things, our environment, the shoulds that people are placing on us, our desire to uh to placate them, to agree in order to be part of that, you know, of that in that circle.
00:01:36.879 --> 00:01:49.280
We get thrown off by the environment, what we're we're told that we should want for our lives, as well as just the noise that is constantly being thrown our ways via the TV, the newspapers, or our phone.
00:01:50.879 --> 00:02:00.560
If we know that this is what's causing the disconnect, then the only thing that we need to do in order to connect is to do the exact opposite.
00:02:01.840 --> 00:02:10.400
Some steps you can take to start going down and connect, reconnecting with yourself, is turning off all the noise.
00:02:10.879 --> 00:02:13.759
I've done several podcasts on this in the past.
00:02:14.159 --> 00:02:22.879
Um, but what I was referring to, what I often mentioned in those episodes, was that when you're turning off the noise, I'm like, turn off your phone, turn off the TV.
00:02:22.960 --> 00:02:28.800
But now I'm going to talk to you about turning off the noise from your own friends and family.
00:02:31.759 --> 00:02:39.360
In my household here, there's no doubt in my mind that my family has the best intentions for me.
00:02:39.520 --> 00:02:44.000
And they think that I should, they want the best, and they I should follow a certain path.
00:02:44.080 --> 00:02:47.120
I'm using the air parentheses over here, the air quotes.
00:02:48.000 --> 00:02:52.400
There's no possible way for them to know what that path is for me.
00:02:52.879 --> 00:03:06.240
And even if the path is in alignment with what they're saying, the shoulds that they're throwing at me literally throw me into a um, it just throws my mind into chaos.
00:03:06.319 --> 00:03:17.120
And as a result, I start questioning my own inner guidance and feeling the need and pressure to conform to what it is they're saying.
00:03:18.639 --> 00:03:25.759
When this happens, all of a sudden it just creates this momentum of of um resistance in my body.
00:03:26.400 --> 00:03:31.680
And the way out, the way out is silence.
00:03:34.159 --> 00:03:38.319
This morning I went out to the back and I was just started to the first thing I did was journaling.
00:03:38.400 --> 00:03:39.520
And I journaled about last night.
00:03:39.599 --> 00:03:48.400
We had a family dinner here, and everyone was going on about my uh the coffee that I'm doing, my cold room espresso, and that I should be doing this.
00:03:48.479 --> 00:03:55.360
Oh, but if they had, you know, if they had my opportunity, they would not, you know, they would have capitalized on a long time ago.
00:03:55.439 --> 00:03:57.680
And at some point I just snapped.
00:03:57.919 --> 00:04:06.719
I said, you do not know what it is like unless you are in the arena fighting, you do not know what it's like.
00:04:06.800 --> 00:04:12.560
So you it's easy from the outside for people to look at us and be like, oh, yeah, all you gotta do is this.
00:04:13.599 --> 00:04:18.160
But they don't know what the struggle is, right?
00:04:18.319 --> 00:04:23.279
Because the truth of the matter is, if it were that easy, then everyone would be doing it.
00:04:23.519 --> 00:04:23.839
Right.
00:04:23.920 --> 00:04:27.040
And and um an example of some of my siblings, right?
00:04:27.120 --> 00:04:29.600
They they've had aspirations for doing their own business, but they didn't.
00:04:29.759 --> 00:04:30.399
Why?
00:04:30.879 --> 00:04:36.560
Because they chose security over doing their own thing, right?
00:04:36.639 --> 00:04:41.199
So it's so it's easy for them to look out and be like, well, all you have to do is this.
00:04:42.079 --> 00:04:58.160
But when you're in it, there are a lot of forces that are coming at you, and you know, one of those being the forces of your family, telling you what you should do, how you're supposed to conform to a lifestyle.
00:04:59.199 --> 00:05:01.600
But I my lifestyle is very, very different.
00:05:01.759 --> 00:05:03.199
My desires are very, very different.
00:05:03.360 --> 00:05:15.600
In some cases, they actually do align with their saying, but when they are barking out at me, the first thing it does, I just disconnects and I go into I go into like protection mode.
00:05:17.439 --> 00:05:19.040
And I just turn off.
00:05:20.720 --> 00:05:27.120
This morning I was sitting and I did one of the habits that I hadn't been doing recently was reading in the morning.
00:05:27.360 --> 00:05:37.920
It's one of the most powerful habits you can do, especially if you're reading something that's gonna serve you and move your life forward, or at the very least, change your perspective.
00:05:38.240 --> 00:05:46.160
Show you what's important so this way you can focus your mind on things that are gonna align you and move you in your own unique path.
00:05:47.600 --> 00:05:48.800
So I was reading the book.
00:05:48.879 --> 00:05:52.079
I think it's the book is called, if you want to pick it up, it's called The Other 90%.
00:05:52.560 --> 00:05:55.040
I highly recommend it, highly recommend it.
00:05:57.360 --> 00:06:02.560
And in this chapter I was reading, it was talking about going into the silence and reconnecting with yourself.
00:06:03.600 --> 00:06:09.040
Some of those steps that were like, well, making sure that you plan time to get away.
00:06:11.040 --> 00:06:21.120
When I inspired by this first part, I went to look at some of my journals that I had taken from my most recent trip.
00:06:22.480 --> 00:06:25.120
And in that journal, I was looking at it.
00:06:25.360 --> 00:06:33.680
And uh, when I was describing best moments, some of the things that I would I would write down were the inspirations that I had while I was, you know, while I was traveling.
00:06:33.839 --> 00:06:42.639
It was to go back home, uh, you know, put my coffee into cafes and create this, you know, I there the inspiration was there.
00:06:43.360 --> 00:06:47.439
Ironically, this is exactly the kind of thing that my parents like, oh, you need to go do this.
00:06:47.519 --> 00:06:48.639
Oh, you guys should be.
00:06:48.879 --> 00:06:52.240
And it is actually what they're saying, like in the direction I want.
00:06:52.319 --> 00:07:00.000
But when someone's telling you what you should do, sometimes an natural inclination is just to go the opposite way.
00:07:00.240 --> 00:07:02.079
So it's counterproductive.
00:07:02.160 --> 00:07:08.160
If you're telling people what they should do, you don't tell people what you should do, you let them dig deep within.
00:07:08.319 --> 00:07:09.920
So I I was finding these things.
00:07:10.000 --> 00:07:11.839
I was like, wow, yeah, that's what I want.
00:07:12.079 --> 00:07:14.319
And then I did this exercise.
00:07:15.040 --> 00:07:23.040
Um, and the exercise is going to a place where you feel just extreme peace and you let go of time.
00:07:24.399 --> 00:07:26.000
Now I didn't go anywhere, right?
00:07:26.079 --> 00:07:29.519
I didn't go to the beach or listen to the water.
00:07:29.600 --> 00:07:30.399
I didn't go anywhere.
00:07:30.560 --> 00:07:35.040
For me, in order for me to relax, I need silence, I need seclusion.
00:07:35.199 --> 00:07:43.120
Like when I'm alone and I'm silent, I'm just allowed to rest, relax, lay down, listen to the wind blowing or whatever it may be.
00:07:44.079 --> 00:07:48.000
My mind gets quiet and I start to connect back with myself.
00:07:48.560 --> 00:07:53.199
The beautiful thing about this is that you do not need to leave anywhere.
00:07:54.000 --> 00:07:59.120
I was sitting outside in my chair, and I closed my eyes for a moment.
00:07:59.360 --> 00:08:02.480
And the place I went to, and I don't even know where the hell this thing came from.
00:08:02.639 --> 00:08:03.759
I was in a tree house.
00:08:04.160 --> 00:08:05.120
I don't know where.
00:08:05.279 --> 00:08:14.480
I was in a tree house and I was reclining on um like almost like one, I don't know whether it's called Ottoman, like the couches where you kind of recline back.
00:08:15.519 --> 00:08:22.639
And in my mind, I'm I'm vividly pitchering the texture, the grains of the wood against the wall.
00:08:23.199 --> 00:08:26.639
And I just hear the wind going, and my mind is at ease.
00:08:29.040 --> 00:08:32.960
And as a result of that, all of a sudden I started to get clarity.
00:08:33.039 --> 00:08:41.679
I started thinking about my path forward with this coffee and how everything is going in accordance with how it's supposed to be.
00:08:43.919 --> 00:08:51.759
When I'm listening to everyone else around me saying that this should have happened already, it, you know, it literally throws me the spiral and they have no clue.
00:08:52.960 --> 00:08:59.039
In where I am right now, I just got back from Italy about a month ago now.
00:08:59.120 --> 00:09:04.480
And um, so I'm creating uh I'm creating one of my my first authentic Italian espresso blend.
00:09:04.559 --> 00:09:08.320
Before I was just doing single origins and I was saying, all right, use this as espresso.
00:09:08.480 --> 00:09:10.399
Now I'm actually creating plans for espresso.
00:09:11.919 --> 00:09:18.000
And in doing this, there's all of these things that I have to like steps in order to get there.
00:09:18.320 --> 00:09:18.720
Right?
00:09:18.879 --> 00:09:29.279
Uh, you know, I mean, between getting the bags, creating the labels, buying the coffees, organizing with uh the roasting facility that I'm gonna be roasting at to, you know, for what I need to start doing it.
00:09:29.360 --> 00:09:31.919
And there's just a lot of little steps.
00:09:33.039 --> 00:09:38.559
And I was trying to rush these steps because I didn't feel like this, it was like I wanted to be at the at the finish line, right?
00:09:38.639 --> 00:09:40.399
I wanted to be completed.
00:09:40.639 --> 00:09:45.519
In all these steps, I was just getting flustered because I'm like, ah, I got just got to get these things done.
00:09:46.240 --> 00:09:53.279
But as I was journaling, I realized like, you know what, these are all steps moving me in that direction.
00:09:53.440 --> 00:10:00.559
And that my intention for this was I want my ultimate goal is I want location freedom, but I also want, I want to do what I love.
00:10:00.720 --> 00:10:08.559
And the idea of location freedom, you know, like traveling 24-7, is that is that I don't know if that's really what I want to do.
00:10:08.639 --> 00:10:13.440
I've been on trips for a month in Italy, and I'm like, I cannot wait to go home.
00:10:13.519 --> 00:10:14.960
I'm I'm tired of Italy, right?
00:10:15.039 --> 00:10:16.559
Who like who would think?
00:10:17.519 --> 00:10:18.960
That's kind of how the body is, right?
00:10:19.279 --> 00:10:22.639
You we crave change, we crave challenge.
00:10:23.600 --> 00:10:31.120
So as a result of doing this, and uh I realized that like this is just step number one.
00:10:31.200 --> 00:10:40.879
I'm doing my bottled coffee, but that's very difficult to scale, and I've been going in and out for literally years trying to figure it out, but there's always been a snack.
00:10:42.320 --> 00:10:47.039
The roasted coffee, on the other hand, I could do that and I could scale that quick.
00:10:47.919 --> 00:10:58.080
And the other thing with the roasted coffee is that it's gonna open up other possibilities for me because I've always had the desire to open a cafe, just didn't want to be, you know, like nailed down to one location.
00:10:58.159 --> 00:11:01.279
If you're listening to the language I'm using, you're like, of course, he wants freedom.
00:11:01.440 --> 00:11:03.039
You're nailed down in location.
00:11:03.120 --> 00:11:05.360
Think of the imagery that that puts in your mind.
00:11:05.919 --> 00:11:10.320
But nevertheless, I know that it is a desire of mine at some point.
00:11:11.360 --> 00:11:16.159
And so this creating of the blends is starting to put my coffee into wholesale accounts.
00:11:16.240 --> 00:11:19.279
This is all just one step in the right direction.
00:11:19.360 --> 00:11:22.799
And there's no way I can skip those steps.
00:11:23.039 --> 00:11:24.559
You're like, well, what how what are you talking?
00:11:24.639 --> 00:11:30.000
You were just talking about taking time, and now you're talking about, you know, doing all these, taking the steps, do well.
00:11:30.080 --> 00:11:40.639
Yeah, that clarity came as a result of silencing my mind, of giving myself a moment for myself to just think of what direction do I want to take.
00:11:40.960 --> 00:11:47.440
And it's funny how I forget because I could be traveling, I could be traveling around the world, and I will get these insights.
00:11:47.600 --> 00:11:50.639
The desire for freedom is always there.
00:11:51.519 --> 00:11:56.399
And but I will get these things like, oh, I want to bring this back home, I want to bring this back home, I want to do this.
00:11:56.639 --> 00:12:00.720
But then when I'm home, I get back into the rut of doing things, right?
00:12:00.799 --> 00:12:03.120
And like that everything must be done now.
00:12:03.840 --> 00:12:08.159
That forget some of these insights that I had, but in the silence they came back.
00:12:09.279 --> 00:12:16.480
So the reason I tell you this is because I want you to invite the silence back into your day.
00:12:17.120 --> 00:12:19.200
It's so easy to think, like, oh, you know what?
00:12:19.600 --> 00:12:20.320
God, there's no time.
00:12:20.399 --> 00:12:21.120
I don't have time.
00:12:21.200 --> 00:12:26.399
How am I gonna take time to 10 minutes to to you know sit down and do nothing?
00:12:26.559 --> 00:12:26.720
Right?
00:12:26.879 --> 00:12:27.840
I I gotta get this done.
00:12:27.919 --> 00:12:28.639
It has to be done.
00:12:28.720 --> 00:12:32.559
And when I get this done, then I'll take the break.
00:12:33.600 --> 00:12:35.360
How's that working for you?
00:12:36.720 --> 00:12:41.279
There's always going to be more things to do, right?
00:12:41.360 --> 00:12:46.879
And on your to-do list, when is the last time it actually got you you it got less, right?
00:12:46.960 --> 00:12:50.480
It always builds, it just compounds because there's always things to do.
00:12:51.600 --> 00:13:00.000
So you're doing yourself a big disservice by not first figuring out one what it is, what is that core desire that you're moving towards.
00:13:00.399 --> 00:13:02.799
And you're not gonna get that in the busyness of your mind.
00:13:02.960 --> 00:13:06.559
The only way you're gonna get it is if you go into the silence.
00:13:07.440 --> 00:13:15.600
Not to mention, it feels good because all of a sudden, as a result of taking away that resistance, you blow past like whatever limitations you had.
00:13:15.679 --> 00:13:19.440
All of a sudden, you just like literally you skip by him happily and smiling.
00:13:20.399 --> 00:13:24.159
Because you allowed your mind to reorganize and really look at what was important to you.
00:13:25.360 --> 00:13:28.320
So if you're waiting for that perfect time, guess what?
00:13:28.399 --> 00:13:29.919
It's never gonna come.
00:13:30.559 --> 00:13:36.720
You've got to be the one to decide that you are gonna take the time for yourself for life.
00:13:39.840 --> 00:13:41.600
So, when are you gonna take the time?
00:13:42.799 --> 00:13:44.639
When are you gonna do it today?
00:13:46.080 --> 00:13:47.279
Pressure on you.
00:13:48.480 --> 00:13:58.159
And and I joke around with it because I know the change, the significant impact it will have on your day, and if you do it long enough on your life.
00:14:01.279 --> 00:14:08.799
Life is always happening, but if you don't take the time to stop and appreciate it, it literally is just gonna pass you by.
00:14:11.279 --> 00:14:13.519
And I I feel it feels funny, you know.
00:14:13.600 --> 00:14:21.840
I I talk about one life and I talk about my challenges on here because people look at me and they're like, Well, damn, you travel twice a year, you're going to all these countries, doing all these things.
00:14:21.919 --> 00:14:22.480
Yeah.
00:14:22.720 --> 00:14:27.919
There's a reason why like One Life is the name of you know, like uh of this podcast.
00:14:28.000 --> 00:14:36.639
There's a reason why One Life is the blueprint, is the course that I created, is because it's one of the struggles that I face, right?
00:14:36.720 --> 00:14:50.080
And I wanted to create a tool, I wanted to create something that connects not just me, but you back to your day, back to what is important, so that we're not running around crazy all the time.
00:14:50.639 --> 00:14:59.360
That we could literally rely on, shut out all the external voices, influences, and go along our own path.
00:15:02.480 --> 00:15:05.039
You're always going to meet resistance on your path, right?
00:15:05.120 --> 00:15:14.159
Because a lot of the time it's going to be counter to what other people, especially your loved ones, want for you, or counter to what the culture is saying that you should have.
00:15:16.399 --> 00:15:27.039
But I promise you, there's no way in hell that you will ever get fulfillment unless you are listening and being true to yourself and going down your path.
00:15:27.919 --> 00:15:29.840
Your path maybe look completely different to mine.
00:15:29.919 --> 00:15:32.000
You may be like, Donnie, I don't want to travel.
00:15:32.159 --> 00:15:33.279
I love my hometown.
00:15:33.360 --> 00:15:36.159
I I can't stand the thought of even getting on a plane.
00:15:36.320 --> 00:15:37.440
I like to knit.
00:15:37.679 --> 00:15:39.200
Whatever you want to do.
00:15:39.840 --> 00:15:42.559
The point I'm trying to make is just silence your mind.
00:15:42.799 --> 00:15:46.080
Figure out what it is that your heart is calling you to do.
00:15:47.279 --> 00:15:50.799
And then continue to take the steps to move in that direction.
00:15:50.879 --> 00:16:00.960
At the very least, if you don't even do that, just take the moment to just enjoy the day, to enjoy the gift of being alive for another second.
00:16:02.720 --> 00:16:04.159
That alone will ground you, right?
00:16:04.320 --> 00:16:11.679
If you think of all the things that have to happen in order for you to take that breath that you just took right now, right?
00:16:11.759 --> 00:16:16.480
And right now, and right now, all these things have to work in synchronicity.
00:16:18.399 --> 00:16:24.639
Any one of these things, little things absent, like you know, even like a beating of a heart could be detrimental.
00:16:26.639 --> 00:16:28.000
So gay thanks.
00:16:28.879 --> 00:16:31.600
So I hope you guys enjoyed this episode.
00:16:31.679 --> 00:16:47.039
I hope it inspires you in some way to stop in your day, to go somewhere just to retreat into the quiet, take off your watch, put your phone down, don't even put the you know, put it on your on in your desk drawer and step away.
00:16:48.000 --> 00:17:11.440
And trust that your mind say, you know what, I'm gonna give myself 10 minutes to go and just quiet my mind and just to be and trust that your inner knowing is gonna know when that time is up for you to step back into the world because it will tell you do that today and see how you feel.
00:17:12.480 --> 00:17:23.519
See what new dreams, desires, what new messages you get to step forward and to move forward thereafter.
00:17:25.839 --> 00:17:31.519
It will come if that is what you intend and that's what you asked, or maybe you just want to just be at peace.
00:17:31.759 --> 00:17:32.799
That's fine too.
00:17:34.319 --> 00:17:35.839
Go into the silence.
00:17:36.720 --> 00:17:38.400
This is where life happens.
00:17:38.640 --> 00:17:47.279
Life doesn't happen in that craziness, it happens when you stop to appreciate and enjoy this very moment.
00:17:48.480 --> 00:17:50.640
So I hope you guys enjoyed this episode here.
00:17:50.799 --> 00:18:08.000
If you did, please give it a thumbs up, give it a share to someone who you feel could benefit from that, and please leave me a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify, wherever you listen to it, uh, because that is what helps get the word out about the podcast and to make more people take that moment to stop, to enjoy, to follow their one life.
00:18:08.079 --> 00:18:09.119
So, who doesn't want that?
00:18:09.279 --> 00:18:10.960
So I hope you enjoy this episode, guys.
00:18:11.119 --> 00:18:16.799
If you want to subscribe, ask a question, you could do so via my website at www.donnierouse.com.
00:18:16.880 --> 00:18:20.480
That is d-o-n-yra-us.com.
00:18:21.119 --> 00:18:22.640
That is all I got for you guys today.
00:18:22.799 --> 00:18:24.720
Hope you enjoyed this episode.
00:18:24.960 --> 00:18:27.519
Remember, you only get one life.
00:18:27.839 --> 00:18:32.559
Live fully, live passionately, and most of all, live now.
00:18:32.799 --> 00:18:35.599
God bless you guys, and I will see you again soon.
