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Please stop
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telling people what to do.
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I'm going to break it down what it means,
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what it is costing you,
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and how you can avoid it
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so that we can all live
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free.
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If you're ready,
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let's begin.
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Are you ready to shine?
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Come on, it's the shiny one.
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You got this.
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Welcome to the Shiny Minds Show with Dr. Shiny.
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Today, I want to talk to you about
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why telling people what to do is not
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helping you, is not helping them, is not
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helping anyone in the world,
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is not serving the world,
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and why you should stop it,
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how you can stop it,
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and what are some tools that
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you can stop it so that you can avoid
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making the same mistake.
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Let me first
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Break it down
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what telling people what to do means.
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We live in a world
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where everything becomes so fast-paced that
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communication
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gets unnoticed.
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Whatever that leaves your mouth,
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you don't
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pause
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and think about it.
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You don't pause and analyze it.
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You don't necessarily
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see the appropriateness of your words and
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your language
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and what it means in terms of its
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weight, its context,
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and its frequency.
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If you don't have the tools to analyze all
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that, you know what you are doing,
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you're putting yourself at a super high
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risk.
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This is super risky.
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The reason why is because you are
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damaging people, you are harming people
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without any intention.
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I know you don't have that intention.
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Nobody does.
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Okay, so let's separate the intention from
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the behavior from the get-go.
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We are all amazing human beings.
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We all have the greatest,
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the softest,
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the most delicious intentions
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to help each other, to be efficient,
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and to live happily ever after.
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I am not arguing that.
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That is
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honorable.
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So we put the beautiful intention, positive
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intention in the pocket, and
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then we analyze the behavior itself.
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The behavior is
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when you tell people what to do,
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especially after hearing
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what they have shared with you,
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what they have clearly stated, where they
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are, what they want,
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what they don't want,
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if you're still not able to
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hear them consciously for what it is that
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they are
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trying to communicate with you, and
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then you are simply deleting it, which is
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an automated internal mental mechanic
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system.
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It's a process.
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You delete information if you are not
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paying attention to it, if it is not your
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priority.
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The way that it
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works inside your brain is that you value
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what you value.
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That's the survival instinct of amygdala.
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survival, survival of your opinions,
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survival of your
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ideas and needs and values, whatever that
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means to you,
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what happens is you are caught up,
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you are programmed
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by your own agenda,
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by your own needs and desires and
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whatever you want to see happening.
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telling somebody what to do, let's
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make it super tangible.
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Let's say you are having a conversation
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with a friend,
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okay?
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is just sharing with you like how
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amazing she feels.
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the best life.
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She's living her dreams and that she's
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exactly where she needs to be,
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who she needs to be with doing her
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business. And
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she feels fascinated by life and that she
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loves who she is. And
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then, and she's real, you can feel it, right?
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what happens in that
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if you are not feeling
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like you are
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living your own
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dream life,
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you are not very happy with where you are,
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you are not surrounded by the people that
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you want to be surrounded by.
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not going to be able to match that
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frequency.
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That's it.
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That's how the universe works.
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language of the universe is frequency, not
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English or
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German or Japanese.
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It's frequency.
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all humanity.
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Chinese person walks in,
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you understand the frequency.
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Turkish person, like me,
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walks in, you understand the frequency.
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An Australian person comes and sits with
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you, understand the frequency.
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So it's not the words, it's the frequency
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behind it that you need to tune into. And
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if you don't, you're going to
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get yourself empowered and programmed by
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your own
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unmet needs, by your own agendas, and by
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your own projections,
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and you're going to
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live there.
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That's a stuck place to be there.
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That's what we call
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fixed mindset.
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This is not where you want to be.
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You know why? When you are overpowered by
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your own unmet needs, when you are
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listening to your friend,
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you're going to start judging yourself.
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See?
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She's so happy.
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She's radiant.
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She's living the life of her dreams, and I am not.
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I should have done better in my life.
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It just reminds you who you are,
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just reminds you where you are, just
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reminds you how you feel, right?
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mechanics
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is kind of forcing you to resist and
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forcing you to
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stay inside your head
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and fix what is going on
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inside of you, within you.
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when you are not able to manage
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all these internal mechanics, this
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automated processes,
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that shows up
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as a mismatch.
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as control.
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That shows up
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as telling people what to do.
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I'm going to continue from the same example
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that I shared with you.
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So you have this friend, you heard.
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She's super happy.
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She just wants to be heard
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because she is
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fascinated by where she is in her life,
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her journey.
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your response is,
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well, I love
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hearing your voice and all that.
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even and,
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but,
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you know,
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you got to
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go back to
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where you come from,
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but you got to,
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you got to understand what is going on with
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your roots.
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you tell her exactly
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what you would do
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in order for you to live
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the life
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that you
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call happy life
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or dream life.
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You start telling her, you know what?
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I've had this the other day.
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I've had that the other day.
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it feels like
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we need to face what we are ignoring.
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and see what we haven't seen, what we
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haven't looked.
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It is a huge assumption on your end,
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telling people what to do
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and then
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trying to fix people
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because you operate from a fixed mindset.
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You come from your own agenda
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because you are limited in the way that
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you see
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things around you,
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including people
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and your friends and what they share with
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you, and then you try to put them in
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your box.
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what's going on in your roots?
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What's going on at home,
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right?
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Go back home.
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Like, what do you mean?
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If that person is already telling you that
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they have
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achieved the level of
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dream state
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and they just want to be heard by that,
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like, what part of you
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does not
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get that.
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Like, that is the part
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that I am so
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frustrated about.
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Like, why don't we get each other?
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Why don't we just pause
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and get the frequency
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under
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the very clear words? I mean, sometimes the
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words are not clear, which happens in
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our coaching education programs. When I
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teach my
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coaching students,
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when they are coaching
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their
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clients, their coachees in front of them.
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Neuro-Shine Momentā¢
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That's a very happy moment, but they're not aware.
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So and then I tell them, well, that was a
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big moment of truth.
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let's not dismiss that
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the words are not matching the
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frequency.
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I get that.
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But in this case, if the words are clear
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and the frequency is clear,
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they're both matching.
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There is nothing for you to dismiss.
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There is nothing for you to
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override whatever that is in front of you
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and still bring your own agenda and trying
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to fix something that is not broken.
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That is the problem that I see in the world.
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pains me.
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It
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pains me.
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And
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I must
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tell you,
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my dear shiny minds,
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it's
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world is
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catching up.
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It used to be harder,
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but I still see in conversations, I still see
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what's going on between people and how some
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of them are
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dismissed, how some of them are judged, how
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some of them are feeling.
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absolutely controlled
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and put in the box and labeled and even
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laughed at.
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These are wrong.
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Let's stop doing that.
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It's enough already. Stop
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telling people what to do.
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First, your job is to understand them.
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Your job is
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to
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analyze where they are,
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why they feel the way they feel.
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And especially if you are having
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this kind of a
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situation
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in the example that I gave, where one party
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shares,
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oh my God, I'm super happy.
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This is exactly the life I want to live.
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And then this is like my dream.
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And then I am so happy.
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And then the other one goes,
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Well,
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I love hearing from you.
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That's beautiful.
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Like you are already admitting
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that
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whatever she's sharing is truthful.
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You have just confirmed
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that
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the frequency you get from her
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is the truth,
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right?
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So that's truth here. So
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you kind of see it, but, and then
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But in a split second,
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another unmet part of you, another
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controlling part of you jumps in and takes over
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in that internal mechanics.
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And then it tries to
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overpower
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that incredible frequency you just
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experienced,
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which is whole,
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which is real, which is raw,
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which is authentic,
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which is
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inspiring,
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and this is right in front of you. And
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then you still
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try to fix,
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which is not broken.
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You still try to tell
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this incredible wholeness
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what to do.
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This is wrong, my shiny minds.
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These are the conversations I am
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witnessing.
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This is wrong.
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Like how this person tells this person,
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go home, you know, face whatever.
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Like, how do you know what
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this person has done or hasn't done? Have
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you asked that first?
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Have you gathered enough information
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to analyze
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what is
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going on?
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Or are you really not seeing what is in
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front of you?
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Let's talk about that.
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So
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that's why
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You should stop
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telling people what to do.
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It is costing you.
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Because if this person
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only wants to be heard
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and seen, acknowledged,
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or just perhaps
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be connected to you,
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you just kill the vibe.
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Because this person is already feeling,
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I'm not understood.
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I am misunderstood. And
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then these people, they go around and then
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they feel
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people don't understand me.
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I am not understood.
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I'm not appreciated.
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I'm not valued. I am.
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this and I am that.
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And then it may
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cause problems
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of
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relationships.
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And then
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you are clueless
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because you had the best intention
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because that's how you would do it,
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right?
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Like,
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go home,
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look at your roots.
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like
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sometimes we are not facing what we're
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supposed to be facing.
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And
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what are you yourself not facing?
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What is it about you that
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wants to control the other person?
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What part of you gets very uncomfortable
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when
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witnessing people who are happy, joyful,
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and
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really
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one with themselves?
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What part of you is not okay with it?
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Why can you not celebrate other people
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having done the work
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and
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just just wanting to celebrate
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and connect with you.
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What is it about you?
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I really want
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us
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to
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make it a priority
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and to really, really
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analyze this.
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Not only with the brain though,
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because the brain
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gets caught up with the matrix,
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right, the programming.
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So if you're unable to meet
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your physical needs,
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then you won't be able to rise up to your
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spiritual needs.
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And that's where
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my
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practical solutions are going to be super
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helpful.
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So here is my first practical tip.
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I'm going to bring my
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formula again.
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Change equals
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awareness.
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Awareness multiplied by willingness.
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Awareness is first.
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You have to be aware.
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You've got to bring awareness.
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If you're not
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aware,
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which in this case,
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you were not aware, you had the best
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intention,
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but you still
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00:14:18,500 --> 00:14:19,860
couldn't match this
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00:14:20,100 --> 00:14:20,900
friend of yours
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who just wanted to be heard,
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who just wanted to
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share.
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And when you are not able to do this,
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and still not aware,
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that's dangerous.
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That's exactly what we experience out in
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00:14:34,540 --> 00:14:35,060
the world, right?
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That's
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exactly what's going on.
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Intentions are good, but
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behaviors suck.
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I've done so many of these, okay?
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In my corporate life, especially back in
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the year
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00:14:50,740 --> 00:14:53,380
between 2000 and 2009,
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I was clueless.
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I didn't know what I was doing.
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And I was unaware because there was nobody
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around me
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giving me a shiny mind show,
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you know, tips and tricks and best
492
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practices.
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I didn't have that
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awareness and it cost me.
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I didn't feel belong.
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I didn't feel that I was part of that
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environment.
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I had
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relationship issues, I had
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anxiety, I had, I literally even had panic
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attacks a few times, and that was not a
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good place to be.
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I was stuck in my loop,
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and then I was stuck in my patterns.
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I was repeating the same old pattern.
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So I was...
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Hopping from one advertising agency to the
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other one,
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one from the other, one from the other,
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thinking that, okay, why do I not feel
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blond? Like, what is going on? What is
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wrong with me?
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And I literally felt something was off, but
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I was not aware,
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right?
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And I even discovered
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the world of coaching back then, because
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obviously
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there was something wrong. And
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then I remember
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hiring a coach for the first time in my
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life, I think that was 2000...
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Seven or eight.
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I didn't even know
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there was such a thing.
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Then I brought this agenda,
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like there is something wrong with me.
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I was like, look at all my
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friends and everybody's happy
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at their work.
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And they have been working for
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so many years, but within that timeframe,
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I, I changed at least five jobs,
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five agencies, five places, like, what is
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00:16:26,580 --> 00:16:27,460
wrong with me?
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There's something wrong, you know,
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everybody's happy
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and then everybody's just doing their thing
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and I am not.
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wrong.
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And that
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was the step to become aware
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00:16:37,980 --> 00:16:38,100
of
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00:16:38,580 --> 00:16:39,220
what
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I was
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doing wrong.
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There was nothing wrong with me.
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My
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expressions
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could have been
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very different.
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My
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approach could have been very different.
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My
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language that came out of my mouth
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could have been different.
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Because I felt
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00:17:00,740 --> 00:17:02,020
I was not safe,
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00:17:02,380 --> 00:17:04,820
I was not seen, I was not heard or
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00:17:04,820 --> 00:17:06,820
appreciated in those places.
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And that's why
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00:17:08,820 --> 00:17:09,620
it triggered me.
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00:17:09,860 --> 00:17:12,020
It triggered me to a point
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00:17:12,340 --> 00:17:12,980
that
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00:17:13,380 --> 00:17:15,380
I started triggering others.
566
00:17:15,700 --> 00:17:17,540
That's exactly the pattern.
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00:17:17,540 --> 00:17:20,100
That's exactly the loop, the spiral,
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00:17:20,580 --> 00:17:20,740
okay?
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00:17:21,380 --> 00:17:23,220
I was feeling triggered, and then I was
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00:17:23,220 --> 00:17:24,020
triggering others.
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I was feeling unheard, and then I was not
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00:17:26,500 --> 00:17:27,220
hearing others.
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00:17:27,620 --> 00:17:29,940
I was not feeling safe and I was creating
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an environment.
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It was not safe to be with me.
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00:17:32,580 --> 00:17:34,900
So this is the pattern that I have
577
00:17:34,900 --> 00:17:35,660
experienced
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00:17:35,980 --> 00:17:37,140
in my corporate life.
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And if you literally go check my LinkedIn
580
00:17:40,100 --> 00:17:40,740
profile,
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00:17:41,580 --> 00:17:41,940
Dr.
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Shainu Install,
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you will see in my very first years in my
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career, starting from 2000
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00:17:49,140 --> 00:17:50,020
until
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I
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changed everything in 2008,
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and then I started
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working in my last
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00:17:58,420 --> 00:17:59,620
corporate position,
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I was repeating my pattern.
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00:18:02,100 --> 00:18:03,140
It was a loop
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00:18:03,460 --> 00:18:04,580
almost every year.
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So
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one has to stop and ask, right? So that was
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00:18:08,980 --> 00:18:11,460
my revelation and that's how I used my
597
00:18:11,460 --> 00:18:12,180
awareness.
598
00:18:12,180 --> 00:18:14,420
I'm still talking about my awareness, okay?
599
00:18:14,900 --> 00:18:17,060
I'm still talking about the first
600
00:18:17,380 --> 00:18:17,540
tip
601
00:18:17,780 --> 00:18:18,980
that I am sharing with you,
602
00:18:19,540 --> 00:18:20,500
become aware.
603
00:18:20,740 --> 00:18:22,260
If you are not aware,
604
00:18:22,500 --> 00:18:24,900
then you're not gonna understand
605
00:18:25,180 --> 00:18:25,780
what
606
00:18:26,100 --> 00:18:26,900
to change.
607
00:18:27,140 --> 00:18:28,500
If you don't see
608
00:18:28,780 --> 00:18:29,300
what
609
00:18:29,700 --> 00:18:31,300
others are seeing,
610
00:18:31,540 --> 00:18:32,580
you're blind to it.
611
00:18:32,580 --> 00:18:34,660
That's why we call it the blind spot.
612
00:18:34,900 --> 00:18:36,740
That's where we need to begin
613
00:18:37,020 --> 00:18:38,580
because it's costing us, like
614
00:18:38,820 --> 00:18:39,940
not knowing
615
00:18:40,260 --> 00:18:42,020
what kind of behaviors that
616
00:18:42,260 --> 00:18:43,300
you need to
617
00:18:43,620 --> 00:18:44,660
fine tune.
618
00:18:45,180 --> 00:18:46,980
Being yourself is costing you.
619
00:18:47,300 --> 00:18:49,420
It's costing you promotions, it's costing
620
00:18:49,420 --> 00:18:50,900
you relationships, it's costing you
621
00:18:51,300 --> 00:18:52,740
money, health, wealth, everything.
622
00:18:53,060 --> 00:18:53,860
So that's why
623
00:18:54,180 --> 00:18:56,420
the solution, the first solution is
624
00:18:56,820 --> 00:18:57,460
awareness.
625
00:18:58,020 --> 00:18:58,540
And
626
00:18:59,060 --> 00:19:00,420
once you become aware,
627
00:19:00,740 --> 00:19:03,860
I'll bring the second solution, which is
628
00:19:04,020 --> 00:19:04,820
willingness.
629
00:19:05,060 --> 00:19:05,940
It's not rocket
630
00:19:06,220 --> 00:19:06,500
science.
631
00:19:07,420 --> 00:19:09,940
It's just literally partnering up with your
632
00:19:09,940 --> 00:19:13,940
life and facing whatever you are not facing
633
00:19:14,420 --> 00:19:16,820
Meaning in the example that I shared with you,
634
00:19:17,140 --> 00:19:19,460
if people are happy around you, and
635
00:19:19,860 --> 00:19:21,140
if you're not happy that
636
00:19:21,380 --> 00:19:23,140
they're happy, but you're not happy,
637
00:19:23,380 --> 00:19:24,060
that's your problem,
638
00:19:24,820 --> 00:19:25,220
okay?
639
00:19:25,860 --> 00:19:26,260
You
640
00:19:26,660 --> 00:19:27,140
gotta
641
00:19:27,460 --> 00:19:28,980
face your own reality.
642
00:19:28,980 --> 00:19:30,180
You gotta face
643
00:19:30,420 --> 00:19:32,340
your own situation
644
00:19:32,580 --> 00:19:33,060
and
645
00:19:33,540 --> 00:19:36,140
see what is going on with you. And
646
00:19:36,500 --> 00:19:37,580
then ask yourself,
647
00:19:37,860 --> 00:19:40,020
what part of me needs to heal?
648
00:19:40,900 --> 00:19:44,020
so that I can meet people where they are.
649
00:19:44,180 --> 00:19:45,460
If they are happy,
650
00:19:45,780 --> 00:19:47,380
I can raise my frequency.
651
00:19:47,540 --> 00:19:48,820
If they're unhappy,
652
00:19:49,060 --> 00:19:51,780
then I can choose if I want to get involved
653
00:19:51,780 --> 00:19:53,140
with it or not, right?
654
00:19:53,380 --> 00:19:54,900
So we all want
655
00:19:55,220 --> 00:19:56,340
high frequency
656
00:19:56,660 --> 00:19:57,540
and perhaps
657
00:19:57,860 --> 00:20:00,020
you are in a low frequency and that's
658
00:20:00,020 --> 00:20:00,900
totally fine.
659
00:20:01,140 --> 00:20:02,740
You can certainly
660
00:20:03,060 --> 00:20:03,940
be there
661
00:20:04,180 --> 00:20:07,140
and give yourself the acceptance
662
00:20:07,460 --> 00:20:09,460
and the time that it needs
663
00:20:09,820 --> 00:20:12,260
the depth that it needs to go
664
00:20:12,580 --> 00:20:13,860
so that you
665
00:20:14,100 --> 00:20:14,660
are
666
00:20:14,900 --> 00:20:16,020
alchemizing it.
667
00:20:16,020 --> 00:20:16,500
Like you're
668
00:20:16,740 --> 00:20:18,180
coming out of it as
669
00:20:18,580 --> 00:20:20,820
phoenix is rising from its ashes.
670
00:20:21,260 --> 00:20:22,580
you know what I'm talking about.
671
00:20:22,820 --> 00:20:26,180
It's not about dismissing it or ignoring it.
672
00:20:26,420 --> 00:20:29,460
If there are situations in your life that
673
00:20:29,460 --> 00:20:31,260
you're ignoring, that's exactly where you
674
00:20:31,260 --> 00:20:31,940
need to begin.
675
00:20:32,340 --> 00:20:34,100
If you think that
676
00:20:34,420 --> 00:20:35,940
your way is the only way,
677
00:20:36,180 --> 00:20:37,940
that's exactly where you need to begin.
678
00:20:38,260 --> 00:20:41,140
So in this situation where these two people
679
00:20:41,140 --> 00:20:43,940
are having this conversation, and as I was
680
00:20:43,940 --> 00:20:44,660
witnessing it,
681
00:20:45,060 --> 00:20:45,380
I
682
00:20:46,180 --> 00:20:46,980
was in awe.
683
00:20:47,700 --> 00:20:49,300
I literally was in awe.
684
00:20:49,780 --> 00:20:50,260
And
685
00:20:51,180 --> 00:20:51,460
I
686
00:20:51,940 --> 00:20:55,780
ask myself, what is it? What is it about us that
687
00:20:56,180 --> 00:20:56,860
we are
688
00:20:57,540 --> 00:20:59,300
not okay with each other?
689
00:20:59,540 --> 00:21:00,660
Because we are judging
690
00:21:00,900 --> 00:21:01,460
ourselves.
691
00:21:01,860 --> 00:21:02,660
That's this
692
00:21:02,980 --> 00:21:03,780
judgment.
693
00:21:03,940 --> 00:21:04,940
That's this part of us.
694
00:21:04,940 --> 00:21:06,340
That's this voice inside
695
00:21:06,580 --> 00:21:07,620
who keeps
696
00:21:07,940 --> 00:21:09,060
reminding us,
697
00:21:09,540 --> 00:21:10,820
you can be happy too.
698
00:21:11,380 --> 00:21:13,060
You have that power in you too.
699
00:21:13,380 --> 00:21:14,820
You have that light.
700
00:21:15,180 --> 00:21:17,300
that shines through you too.
701
00:21:17,540 --> 00:21:19,700
You are a shiny mind too.
702
00:21:19,940 --> 00:21:21,620
You are a shiny heart too.
703
00:21:21,900 --> 00:21:22,980
What is it about you
704
00:21:23,540 --> 00:21:24,740
that diminishes
705
00:21:25,060 --> 00:21:26,340
your divine power?
706
00:21:26,740 --> 00:21:27,700
Divinity
707
00:21:27,940 --> 00:21:29,940
is super important
708
00:21:30,260 --> 00:21:31,300
in your language.
709
00:21:31,620 --> 00:21:32,180
Why?
710
00:21:32,500 --> 00:21:33,460
Because that's the truth.
711
00:21:33,940 --> 00:21:36,020
And divinity is not about religion.
712
00:21:36,340 --> 00:21:37,620
Religion is
713
00:21:37,860 --> 00:21:38,820
very personal.
714
00:21:39,060 --> 00:21:41,540
People choose that path or not.
715
00:21:41,900 --> 00:21:45,380
Divinity is something above and beyond that.
716
00:21:45,700 --> 00:21:47,140
Divinity is
717
00:21:47,380 --> 00:21:48,820
kind of scientific,
718
00:21:49,140 --> 00:21:50,100
cosmic part of you,
719
00:21:50,580 --> 00:21:51,860
that you are
720
00:21:52,140 --> 00:21:53,060
a part of
721
00:21:53,380 --> 00:21:54,900
this universe.
722
00:21:55,340 --> 00:21:57,140
And actually the universe is
723
00:21:57,620 --> 00:21:59,460
a part of you, inside of you.
724
00:21:59,700 --> 00:22:01,060
That's the divine
725
00:22:01,380 --> 00:22:02,980
light that we're talking about,
726
00:22:03,220 --> 00:22:04,500
that we are dismissing.
727
00:22:04,900 --> 00:22:06,420
If you are dismissing
728
00:22:06,740 --> 00:22:08,660
people who are happy, people who are
729
00:22:08,660 --> 00:22:09,380
shining,
730
00:22:09,620 --> 00:22:11,700
then you're dismissing your own
731
00:22:12,020 --> 00:22:12,980
power within.
732
00:22:13,220 --> 00:22:13,860
And
733
00:22:14,180 --> 00:22:15,940
that's why the willingness becomes the
734
00:22:15,940 --> 00:22:16,820
second tool,
735
00:22:17,380 --> 00:22:18,340
because it reminds
736
00:22:18,820 --> 00:22:19,460
you, have
737
00:22:19,700 --> 00:22:20,500
that power.
738
00:22:20,580 --> 00:22:22,420
You just need to face your truth.
739
00:22:22,860 --> 00:22:25,380
You just need to remember where you are
740
00:22:25,380 --> 00:22:26,180
coming from,
741
00:22:26,580 --> 00:22:26,780
how
742
00:22:27,300 --> 00:22:29,060
divine and cosmic you are.
743
00:22:29,380 --> 00:22:31,540
Once you make that shift,
744
00:22:31,860 --> 00:22:33,060
once you have that
745
00:22:33,300 --> 00:22:34,420
realization,
746
00:22:34,660 --> 00:22:36,740
something is going to align within
747
00:22:37,060 --> 00:22:38,580
and something is going to
748
00:22:38,900 --> 00:22:39,620
awaken
749
00:22:40,060 --> 00:22:40,580
within.
750
00:22:40,900 --> 00:22:42,900
And you are going to wake up one day
751
00:22:43,060 --> 00:22:44,340
feeling like, wow,
752
00:22:44,660 --> 00:22:45,620
this is the life
753
00:22:45,860 --> 00:22:47,300
that I chose.
754
00:22:47,660 --> 00:22:49,420
I can do whatever I want with it.
755
00:22:49,420 --> 00:22:50,820
This is my playground. A
756
00:22:51,140 --> 00:22:52,420
love is how I win.
757
00:22:52,780 --> 00:22:54,900
And I am going to win every single day by
758
00:22:54,900 --> 00:22:56,020
loving myself.
759
00:22:56,660 --> 00:22:58,260
Only if I love myself,
760
00:22:58,500 --> 00:22:58,980
then
761
00:22:59,220 --> 00:23:00,580
I can love on others.
762
00:23:00,820 --> 00:23:03,140
So if you are looking for
763
00:23:03,500 --> 00:23:04,180
a third
764
00:23:04,420 --> 00:23:05,380
practice,
765
00:23:06,060 --> 00:23:06,340
a third
766
00:23:06,820 --> 00:23:07,300
tip
767
00:23:07,540 --> 00:23:09,940
for you to stop telling people what to do
768
00:23:10,260 --> 00:23:10,900
is
769
00:23:11,420 --> 00:23:12,420
unconditional love.
770
00:23:13,140 --> 00:23:13,620
When
771
00:23:13,940 --> 00:23:16,020
you tell people what to do,
772
00:23:16,460 --> 00:23:18,900
What is the mechanics behind it? Let's look at it.
773
00:23:19,140 --> 00:23:21,540
You should do this in order for me to
774
00:23:21,540 --> 00:23:22,500
understand you.
775
00:23:22,660 --> 00:23:24,500
If you're not doing this, then I will not
776
00:23:24,500 --> 00:23:25,180
understand you,
777
00:23:25,620 --> 00:23:27,860
right? You are creating the conditions
778
00:23:27,860 --> 00:23:28,500
around it.
779
00:23:28,740 --> 00:23:30,100
And then that is becoming.
780
00:23:30,540 --> 00:23:32,140
unconditional, that is becoming
781
00:23:32,140 --> 00:23:33,060
transactional,
782
00:23:33,300 --> 00:23:35,700
and that is damaging our humanity,
783
00:23:35,940 --> 00:23:36,420
that is
784
00:23:36,660 --> 00:23:38,100
damaging our divinity.
785
00:23:38,260 --> 00:23:40,220
We are unconditional beings.
786
00:23:40,740 --> 00:23:44,180
We are unconditional light in a human form.
787
00:23:44,580 --> 00:23:45,460
I want us
788
00:23:45,700 --> 00:23:48,900
to remember this, and I want us to match
789
00:23:48,900 --> 00:23:50,980
our behaviors with this truth.
790
00:23:51,540 --> 00:23:53,460
The intention is the human intention,
791
00:23:53,780 --> 00:23:56,340
but the behavior in this 3D reality,
792
00:23:56,580 --> 00:23:57,700
it's got to match
793
00:23:58,140 --> 00:23:58,660
the truth,
794
00:23:59,300 --> 00:24:00,500
the truth that
795
00:24:00,820 --> 00:24:02,140
there is unconditional love.
796
00:24:02,420 --> 00:24:05,700
So use unconditional love as another tip
797
00:24:05,940 --> 00:24:07,620
to fine tune
798
00:24:07,940 --> 00:24:10,100
your behaviors and then ask yourself,
799
00:24:10,420 --> 00:24:11,940
is my language
800
00:24:12,260 --> 00:24:14,420
conditional or unconditional?
801
00:24:14,660 --> 00:24:15,220
Is
802
00:24:15,540 --> 00:24:17,300
what I am saying to others
803
00:24:17,540 --> 00:24:19,860
is how I'm responding to others
804
00:24:20,380 --> 00:24:22,980
a demonstration of unconditional love for
805
00:24:22,980 --> 00:24:24,420
myself and for them,
806
00:24:24,740 --> 00:24:26,740
or are there conditions?
807
00:24:27,340 --> 00:24:29,620
Can I smell any conditions around it?
808
00:24:29,860 --> 00:24:30,340
That's a
809
00:24:30,580 --> 00:24:32,260
huge practice
810
00:24:32,580 --> 00:24:34,900
that you can take away and apply.
811
00:24:35,300 --> 00:24:35,700
So
812
00:24:36,100 --> 00:24:36,740
I hope
813
00:24:36,980 --> 00:24:38,580
this was a very
814
00:24:38,900 --> 00:24:40,340
helpful conversation
815
00:24:40,660 --> 00:24:42,100
that you listened.
816
00:24:42,540 --> 00:24:43,620
that I had with myself.
817
00:24:45,140 --> 00:24:46,940
It was literally a conversation that I had
818
00:24:46,940 --> 00:24:48,260
with myself, I feel like.
819
00:24:48,500 --> 00:24:49,220
I know you
820
00:24:49,540 --> 00:24:50,340
are listening
821
00:24:50,740 --> 00:24:51,300
and
822
00:24:51,860 --> 00:24:54,100
I know that there is a part of you that
823
00:24:54,340 --> 00:24:56,340
feels resonating with it.
824
00:24:56,660 --> 00:24:58,500
And if you are resonating with it,
825
00:24:58,820 --> 00:25:00,180
I invite you to
826
00:25:01,700 --> 00:25:02,660
pause
827
00:25:03,020 --> 00:25:04,900
and dig deep inside.
828
00:25:05,220 --> 00:25:07,060
Pause without doing anything.
829
00:25:07,300 --> 00:25:08,940
Just ask yourself,
830
00:25:09,180 --> 00:25:11,220
what is my truth? What is
831
00:25:11,540 --> 00:25:14,660
my unconditional love for myself and for
832
00:25:14,660 --> 00:25:16,820
others? How can I deepen it?
833
00:25:17,060 --> 00:25:19,140
What are the tools I need?
834
00:25:19,540 --> 00:25:22,500
And if your answer is, hey, I need to start
835
00:25:22,820 --> 00:25:24,020
by understanding
836
00:25:24,340 --> 00:25:26,500
more about my mindset,
837
00:25:26,820 --> 00:25:29,140
I I want to study neuroscience
838
00:25:29,380 --> 00:25:31,060
and I want to study myself.
839
00:25:31,060 --> 00:25:32,740
I need self-discovery.
840
00:25:33,060 --> 00:25:33,780
I need
841
00:25:34,100 --> 00:25:34,580
to
842
00:25:34,900 --> 00:25:36,820
hone my communication skills.
843
00:25:36,820 --> 00:25:38,580
I need to show up as a leader.
844
00:25:38,900 --> 00:25:40,740
And as I do that, I want to
845
00:25:40,980 --> 00:25:43,540
experience deep transformation
846
00:25:43,860 --> 00:25:46,420
and I want to connect to people
847
00:25:46,740 --> 00:25:48,820
that are absolutely amazing.
848
00:25:49,060 --> 00:25:49,620
Then
849
00:25:49,940 --> 00:25:50,860
I invite you
850
00:25:51,380 --> 00:25:52,020
to
851
00:25:52,500 --> 00:25:53,220
look at
852
00:25:53,460 --> 00:25:54,060
my world.
853
00:25:54,500 --> 00:25:56,740
You can go to shinyunsal.com.
854
00:25:56,980 --> 00:25:58,660
and grab that PDF
855
00:25:58,900 --> 00:25:59,940
and see
856
00:26:00,180 --> 00:26:00,580
if
857
00:26:00,900 --> 00:26:01,420
taking the
858
00:26:01,940 --> 00:26:04,100
next step is the right step for you.
859
00:26:04,740 --> 00:26:05,140
And
860
00:26:05,540 --> 00:26:07,860
I would love to work with you and I would
861
00:26:07,860 --> 00:26:09,460
love to give you resources.
862
00:26:09,460 --> 00:26:10,100
There are
863
00:26:10,580 --> 00:26:12,420
digital courses that
864
00:26:12,740 --> 00:26:14,100
you can start.
865
00:26:14,580 --> 00:26:15,780
studying your mind.
866
00:26:15,940 --> 00:26:17,780
You can start the mechanics that I was
867
00:26:17,780 --> 00:26:19,620
telling you about, all the blocks, all
868
00:26:19,620 --> 00:26:22,180
these mental blocks that are keeping you stuck
869
00:26:22,500 --> 00:26:24,500
in your thinking, and then you are not even
870
00:26:24,500 --> 00:26:25,620
aware that you are
871
00:26:25,860 --> 00:26:27,460
controlling somebody, you are telling them
872
00:26:27,460 --> 00:26:29,620
what to do, and then you are trying to fix them,
873
00:26:29,900 --> 00:26:31,780
where they didn't even ask for
874
00:26:32,100 --> 00:26:34,420
you to fix their problem, they're totally
875
00:26:34,420 --> 00:26:35,060
capable.
876
00:26:35,780 --> 00:26:38,180
of fixing their own problem. So you
877
00:26:38,420 --> 00:26:40,420
might be annoying and frustrating people,
878
00:26:40,460 --> 00:26:41,940
and I don't want that for you all.
879
00:26:42,260 --> 00:26:45,100
I want freedom mindset for all of us to
880
00:26:45,100 --> 00:26:45,940
experience.
881
00:26:46,260 --> 00:26:48,620
I want resourcefulness for all of us to
882
00:26:48,660 --> 00:26:49,460
experience.
883
00:26:49,940 --> 00:26:51,700
And that's what I
884
00:26:52,180 --> 00:26:52,740
teach.
885
00:26:52,980 --> 00:26:54,660
That's what I share
886
00:26:54,980 --> 00:26:55,620
with you.
887
00:26:55,620 --> 00:26:57,620
And if you feel the resonance
888
00:26:58,220 --> 00:26:59,700
By all means, go to my website,
889
00:26:59,700 --> 00:27:01,220
shinyunsal.com
890
00:27:01,540 --> 00:27:02,660
and check out how
891
00:27:03,140 --> 00:27:04,820
I might be able to serve you.
892
00:27:05,140 --> 00:27:06,580
And you can also go to
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and you will see that I have a
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faculty of amazing souls who are also
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those options if you are
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resonating with those options.
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This is also a beautiful path for you to take.
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So whatever you choose,
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make sure you choose something that shines
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the cosmic light within you.
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please put a like, share, and subscribe
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the truth of humanity and how we can become
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more conscious beings.
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And thank you for allowing my light into
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your neurons.
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And until next time,
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keep shining your cosmic light.
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Go galactic.
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Go galactic.
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Then you're in the right place.
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Let's go, let's go.
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Please stop
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telling people what to do.
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I'm going to break it down what it means,
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what it is costing you,
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and how you can avoid it
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so that we can all live
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free.
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If you're ready,
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let's begin.
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Are you ready to shine?
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Come on, it's the shiny one.
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You got this.
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Welcome to the Shiny Minds Show with Dr. Shiny.
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Today, I want to talk to you about
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why telling people what to do is not
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helping you, is not helping them, is not
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helping anyone in the world,
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is not serving the world,
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and why you should stop it,
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how you can stop it,
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and what are some tools that
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you can stop it so that you can avoid
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making the same mistake.
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Let me first
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Break it down
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what telling people what to do means.
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We live in a world
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where everything becomes so fast-paced that
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communication
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gets unnoticed.
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Whatever that leaves your mouth,
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you don't
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pause
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and think about it.
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You don't pause and analyze it.
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You don't necessarily
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see the appropriateness of your words and
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your language
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and what it means in terms of its
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weight, its context,
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and its frequency.
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If you don't have the tools to analyze all
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that, you know what you are doing,
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you're putting yourself at a super high
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risk.
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This is super risky.
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The reason why is because you are
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damaging people, you are harming people
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without any intention.
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I know you don't have that intention.
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Nobody does.
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Okay, so let's separate the intention from
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the behavior from the get-go.
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We are all amazing human beings.
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We all have the greatest,
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the softest,
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the most delicious intentions
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to help each other, to be efficient,
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and to live happily ever after.
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I am not arguing that.
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honorable.
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intention in the pocket, and
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then we analyze the behavior itself.
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when you tell people what to do,
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especially after hearing
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what they have shared with you,
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what they have clearly stated, where they
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are, what they want,
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what they don't want,
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if you're still not able to
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hear them consciously for what it is that
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they are
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trying to communicate with you, and
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then you are simply deleting it, which is
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an automated internal mental mechanic
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system.
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paying attention to it, if it is not your
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priority.
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works inside your brain is that you value
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what you value.
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That's the survival instinct of amygdala.
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survival, survival of your opinions,
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survival of your
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ideas and needs and values, whatever that
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means to you,
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what happens is you are caught up,
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you are programmed
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by your own agenda,
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by your own needs and desires and
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whatever you want to see happening.
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telling somebody what to do, let's
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make it super tangible.
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with a friend,
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okay?
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is just sharing with you like how
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amazing she feels.
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the best life.
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She's living her dreams and that she's
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exactly where she needs to be,
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who she needs to be with doing her
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business. And
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she feels fascinated by life and that she
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loves who she is. And
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then, and she's real, you can feel it, right?
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what happens in that
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if you are not feeling
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like you are
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living your own
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dream life,
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you are not very happy with where you are,
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you are not surrounded by the people that
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you want to be surrounded by.
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not going to be able to match that
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frequency.
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That's how the universe works.
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language of the universe is frequency, not
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English or
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German or Japanese.
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all humanity.
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Chinese person walks in,
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you understand the frequency.
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Turkish person, like me,
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walks in, you understand the frequency.
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An Australian person comes and sits with
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you, understand the frequency.
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So it's not the words, it's the frequency
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behind it that you need to tune into. And
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if you don't, you're going to
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get yourself empowered and programmed by
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your own
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unmet needs, by your own agendas, and by
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your own projections,
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and you're going to
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live there.
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That's a stuck place to be there.
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That's what we call
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the
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fixed mindset.
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This is not where you want to be.
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You know why? When you are overpowered by
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your own unmet needs, when you are
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listening to your friend,
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you're going to start judging yourself.
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See?
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She's so happy.
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She's radiant.
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She's living the life of her dreams, and I am not.
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I should have done better in my life.
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It just reminds you who you are,
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just reminds you where you are, just
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reminds you how you feel, right?
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And no wonder your internal mental
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mechanics
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is kind of forcing you to resist and
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forcing you to
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stay inside your head
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and fix what is going on
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inside of you, within you.
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when you are not able to manage
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all these internal mechanics, this
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automated processes,
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that shows up
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as a mismatch.
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That shows up
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as control.
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That shows up
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as telling people what to do.
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I'm going to continue from the same example
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that I shared with you.
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So you have this friend, you heard.
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She's super happy.
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She just wants to be heard
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because she is
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fascinated by where she is in her life,
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her journey.
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your response is,
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well, I love
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hearing your voice and all that.
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And, but, not
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even and,
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but,
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you know,
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you got to
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go back to
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where you come from,
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but you got to,
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you got to understand what is going on with
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your roots.
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you tell her exactly
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what you would do
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in order for you to live
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the life
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that you
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call happy life
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or dream life.
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You start telling her, you know what?
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I've had this the other day.
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I've had that the other day.
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it feels like
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we need to face what we are ignoring.
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look
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and see what we haven't seen, what we
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haven't looked.
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It is a huge assumption on your end,
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telling people what to do
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and then
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trying to fix people
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because you operate from a fixed mindset.
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You come from your own agenda
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because you are limited in the way that
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you see
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things around you,
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including people
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and your friends and what they share with
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you, and then you try to put them in
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your box.
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what's going on in your roots?
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What's going on at home,
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right?
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Go back home.
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Like, what do you mean?
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If that person is already telling you that
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they have
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achieved the level of
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dream state
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and they just want to be heard by that,
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like, what part of you
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does not
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get that.
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Like, that is the part
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that I am so
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frustrated about.
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Like, why don't we get each other?
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Why don't we just pause
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and get the frequency
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under
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the very clear words? I mean, sometimes the
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words are not clear, which happens in
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our coaching education programs. When I
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teach my
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coaching students,
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when they are coaching
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their
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clients, their coachees in front of them.
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Sometimes the client experiences a
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Neuro-Shine Momentā¢
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That's a very happy moment, but they're not aware.
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So and then I tell them, well, that was a
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big moment of truth.
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You know, let's acknowledge that
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and
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let's not dismiss that
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because
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the words are not matching the
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frequency.
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I get that.
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But in this case, if the words are clear
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and the frequency is clear,
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they're both matching.
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There is nothing for you to dismiss.
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There is nothing for you to
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override whatever that is in front of you
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and still bring your own agenda and trying
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to fix something that is not broken.
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That is the problem that I see in the world.
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And it just
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pains me.
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It
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pains me.
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And
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I must
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tell you,
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my dear shiny minds,
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it's
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world is
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catching up.
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It used to be harder,
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but I still see in conversations, I still see
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what's going on between people and how some
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of them are
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dismissed, how some of them are judged, how
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some of them are feeling.
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absolutely controlled
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and put in the box and labeled and even
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laughed at.
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These are wrong.
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Let's stop doing that.
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It's enough already. Stop
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telling people what to do.
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First, your job is to understand them.
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Your job is
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to
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analyze where they are,
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why they feel the way they feel.
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And especially if you are having
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this kind of a
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situation
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in the example that I gave, where one party
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shares,
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oh my God, I'm super happy.
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This is exactly the life I want to live.
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And then this is like my dream.
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And then I am so happy.
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And then the other one goes,
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Well,
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I love hearing from you.
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That's beautiful.
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Like you are already admitting
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that
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whatever she's sharing is truthful.
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You have just confirmed
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that
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the frequency you get from her
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is the truth,
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right?
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So that's truth here. So
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you kind of see it, but, and then
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But in a split second,
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another unmet part of you, another
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controlling part of you jumps in and takes over
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in that internal mechanics.
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And then it tries to
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overpower
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that incredible frequency you just
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experienced,
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which is whole,
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which is real, which is raw,
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which is authentic,
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which is
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inspiring,
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and this is right in front of you. And
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then you still
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try to fix,
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which is not broken.
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You still try to tell
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this incredible wholeness
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what to do.
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This is wrong, my shiny minds.
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These are the conversations I am
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witnessing.
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This is wrong.
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Like how this person tells this person,
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go home, you know, face whatever.
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Like, how do you know what
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this person has done or hasn't done? Have
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you asked that first?
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Have you gathered enough information
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to analyze
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what is
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going on?
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Or are you really not seeing what is in
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front of you?
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Let's talk about that.
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So
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that's why
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You should stop
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telling people what to do.
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It is costing you.
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Because if this person
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only wants to be heard
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and seen, acknowledged,
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or just perhaps
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be connected to you,
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you just kill the vibe.
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Because this person is already feeling,
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I'm not understood.
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I am misunderstood. And
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then these people, they go around and then
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they feel
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people don't understand me.
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I am not understood.
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I'm not appreciated.
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I'm not valued. I am.
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this and I am that.
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And then it may
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cause problems
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of
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relationships.
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And then
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you are clueless
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because you had the best intention
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because that's how you would do it,
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right?
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Like,
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go home,
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look at your roots.
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like
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sometimes we are not facing what we're
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supposed to be facing.
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And
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what are you yourself not facing?
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What is it about you that
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wants to control the other person?
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What part of you gets very uncomfortable
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when
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witnessing people who are happy, joyful,
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and
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really
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one with themselves?
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What part of you is not okay with it?
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Why can you not celebrate other people
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having done the work
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and
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just just wanting to celebrate
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and connect with you.
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What is it about you?
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I really want
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us
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to
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make it a priority
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and to really, really
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analyze this.
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Not only with the brain though,
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because the brain
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gets caught up with the matrix,
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right, the programming.
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So if you're unable to meet
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your physical needs,
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then you won't be able to rise up to your
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spiritual needs.
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And that's where
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my
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practical solutions are going to be super
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helpful.
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So here is my first practical tip.
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I'm going to bring my
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formula again.
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Change equals
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awareness.
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Awareness multiplied by willingness.
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Awareness is first.
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You have to be aware.
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You've got to bring awareness.
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If you're not
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aware,
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which in this case,
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you were not aware, you had the best
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intention,
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but you still
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couldn't match this
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friend of yours
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who just wanted to be heard,
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who just wanted to
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share.
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And when you are not able to do this,
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and still not aware,
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that's dangerous.
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That's exactly what we experience out in
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the world, right?
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That's
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exactly what's going on.
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Intentions are good, but
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behaviors suck.
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I've done so many of these, okay?
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In my corporate life, especially back in
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the year
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between 2000 and 2009,
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I was clueless.
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I didn't know what I was doing.
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And I was unaware because there was nobody
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around me
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giving me a shiny mind show,
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you know, tips and tricks and best
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practices.
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I didn't have that
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awareness and it cost me.
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I didn't feel belong.
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I didn't feel that I was part of that
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environment.
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I had
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relationship issues, I had
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anxiety, I had, I literally even had panic
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attacks a few times, and that was not a
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good place to be.
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I was stuck in my loop,
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and then I was stuck in my patterns.
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I was repeating the same old pattern.
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So I was...
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Hopping from one advertising agency to the
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other one,
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one from the other, one from the other,
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thinking that, okay, why do I not feel
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blond? Like, what is going on? What is
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wrong with me?
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And I literally felt something was off, but
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I was not aware,
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right?
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And I even discovered
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the world of coaching back then, because
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obviously
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there was something wrong. And
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then I remember
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hiring a coach for the first time in my
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life, I think that was 2000...
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Seven or eight.
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I didn't even know
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there was such a thing.
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Then I brought this agenda,
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like there is something wrong with me.
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I was like, look at all my
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friends and everybody's happy
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at their work.
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And they have been working for
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so many years, but within that timeframe,
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I, I changed at least five jobs,
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five agencies, five places, like, what is
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wrong with me?
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There's something wrong, you know,
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everybody's happy
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and then everybody's just doing their thing
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and I am not.
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wrong.
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And that
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was the step to become aware
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of
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what
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I was
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doing wrong.
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There was nothing wrong with me.
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My
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expressions
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could have been
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very different.
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My
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approach could have been very different.
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My
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language that came out of my mouth
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could have been different.
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Because I felt
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I was not safe,
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I was not seen, I was not heard or
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appreciated in those places.
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And that's why
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it triggered me.
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It triggered me to a point
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that
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I started triggering others.
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That's exactly the pattern.
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That's exactly the loop, the spiral,
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okay?
569
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I was feeling triggered, and then I was
570
00:17:23,220 --> 00:17:24,020
triggering others.
571
00:17:24,180 --> 00:17:26,500
I was feeling unheard, and then I was not
572
00:17:26,500 --> 00:17:27,220
hearing others.
573
00:17:27,620 --> 00:17:29,940
I was not feeling safe and I was creating
574
00:17:29,940 --> 00:17:30,580
an environment.
575
00:17:30,580 --> 00:17:32,340
It was not safe to be with me.
576
00:17:32,580 --> 00:17:34,900
So this is the pattern that I have
577
00:17:34,900 --> 00:17:35,660
experienced
578
00:17:35,980 --> 00:17:37,140
in my corporate life.
579
00:17:37,380 --> 00:17:40,100
And if you literally go check my LinkedIn
580
00:17:40,100 --> 00:17:40,740
profile,
581
00:17:41,580 --> 00:17:41,940
Dr.
582
00:17:41,940 --> 00:17:42,820
Shainu Install,
583
00:17:43,140 --> 00:17:46,580
you will see in my very first years in my
584
00:17:46,580 --> 00:17:48,860
career, starting from 2000
585
00:17:49,140 --> 00:17:50,020
until
586
00:17:50,340 --> 00:17:50,660
I
587
00:17:51,780 --> 00:17:54,660
changed everything in 2008,
588
00:17:55,100 --> 00:17:55,940
and then I started
589
00:17:56,260 --> 00:17:58,140
working in my last
590
00:17:58,420 --> 00:17:59,620
corporate position,
591
00:17:59,940 --> 00:18:01,780
I was repeating my pattern.
592
00:18:02,100 --> 00:18:03,140
It was a loop
593
00:18:03,460 --> 00:18:04,580
almost every year.
594
00:18:04,980 --> 00:18:05,460
So
595
00:18:05,780 --> 00:18:08,980
one has to stop and ask, right? So that was
596
00:18:08,980 --> 00:18:11,460
my revelation and that's how I used my
597
00:18:11,460 --> 00:18:12,180
awareness.
598
00:18:12,180 --> 00:18:14,420
I'm still talking about my awareness, okay?
599
00:18:14,900 --> 00:18:17,060
I'm still talking about the first
600
00:18:17,380 --> 00:18:17,540
tip
601
00:18:17,780 --> 00:18:18,980
that I am sharing with you,
602
00:18:19,540 --> 00:18:20,500
become aware.
603
00:18:20,740 --> 00:18:22,260
If you are not aware,
604
00:18:22,500 --> 00:18:24,900
then you're not gonna understand
605
00:18:25,180 --> 00:18:25,780
what
606
00:18:26,100 --> 00:18:26,900
to change.
607
00:18:27,140 --> 00:18:28,500
If you don't see
608
00:18:28,780 --> 00:18:29,300
what
609
00:18:29,700 --> 00:18:31,300
others are seeing,
610
00:18:31,540 --> 00:18:32,580
you're blind to it.
611
00:18:32,580 --> 00:18:34,660
That's why we call it the blind spot.
612
00:18:34,900 --> 00:18:36,740
That's where we need to begin
613
00:18:37,020 --> 00:18:38,580
because it's costing us, like
614
00:18:38,820 --> 00:18:39,940
not knowing
615
00:18:40,260 --> 00:18:42,020
what kind of behaviors that
616
00:18:42,260 --> 00:18:43,300
you need to
617
00:18:43,620 --> 00:18:44,660
fine tune.
618
00:18:45,180 --> 00:18:46,980
Being yourself is costing you.
619
00:18:47,300 --> 00:18:49,420
It's costing you promotions, it's costing
620
00:18:49,420 --> 00:18:50,900
you relationships, it's costing you
621
00:18:51,300 --> 00:18:52,740
money, health, wealth, everything.
622
00:18:53,060 --> 00:18:53,860
So that's why
623
00:18:54,180 --> 00:18:56,420
the solution, the first solution is
624
00:18:56,820 --> 00:18:57,460
awareness.
625
00:18:58,020 --> 00:18:58,540
And
626
00:18:59,060 --> 00:19:00,420
once you become aware,
627
00:19:00,740 --> 00:19:03,860
I'll bring the second solution, which is
628
00:19:04,020 --> 00:19:04,820
willingness.
629
00:19:05,060 --> 00:19:05,940
It's not rocket
630
00:19:06,220 --> 00:19:06,500
science.
631
00:19:07,420 --> 00:19:09,940
It's just literally partnering up with your
632
00:19:09,940 --> 00:19:13,940
life and facing whatever you are not facing
633
00:19:14,420 --> 00:19:16,820
Meaning in the example that I shared with you,
634
00:19:17,140 --> 00:19:19,460
if people are happy around you, and
635
00:19:19,860 --> 00:19:21,140
if you're not happy that
636
00:19:21,380 --> 00:19:23,140
they're happy, but you're not happy,
637
00:19:23,380 --> 00:19:24,060
that's your problem,
638
00:19:24,820 --> 00:19:25,220
okay?
639
00:19:25,860 --> 00:19:26,260
You
640
00:19:26,660 --> 00:19:27,140
gotta
641
00:19:27,460 --> 00:19:28,980
face your own reality.
642
00:19:28,980 --> 00:19:30,180
You gotta face
643
00:19:30,420 --> 00:19:32,340
your own situation
644
00:19:32,580 --> 00:19:33,060
and
645
00:19:33,540 --> 00:19:36,140
see what is going on with you. And
646
00:19:36,500 --> 00:19:37,580
then ask yourself,
647
00:19:37,860 --> 00:19:40,020
what part of me needs to heal?
648
00:19:40,900 --> 00:19:44,020
so that I can meet people where they are.
649
00:19:44,180 --> 00:19:45,460
If they are happy,
650
00:19:45,780 --> 00:19:47,380
I can raise my frequency.
651
00:19:47,540 --> 00:19:48,820
If they're unhappy,
652
00:19:49,060 --> 00:19:51,780
then I can choose if I want to get involved
653
00:19:51,780 --> 00:19:53,140
with it or not, right?
654
00:19:53,380 --> 00:19:54,900
So we all want
655
00:19:55,220 --> 00:19:56,340
high frequency
656
00:19:56,660 --> 00:19:57,540
and perhaps
657
00:19:57,860 --> 00:20:00,020
you are in a low frequency and that's
658
00:20:00,020 --> 00:20:00,900
totally fine.
659
00:20:01,140 --> 00:20:02,740
You can certainly
660
00:20:03,060 --> 00:20:03,940
be there
661
00:20:04,180 --> 00:20:07,140
and give yourself the acceptance
662
00:20:07,460 --> 00:20:09,460
and the time that it needs
663
00:20:09,820 --> 00:20:12,260
the depth that it needs to go
664
00:20:12,580 --> 00:20:13,860
so that you
665
00:20:14,100 --> 00:20:14,660
are
666
00:20:14,900 --> 00:20:16,020
alchemizing it.
667
00:20:16,020 --> 00:20:16,500
Like you're
668
00:20:16,740 --> 00:20:18,180
coming out of it as
669
00:20:18,580 --> 00:20:20,820
phoenix is rising from its ashes.
670
00:20:21,260 --> 00:20:22,580
you know what I'm talking about.
671
00:20:22,820 --> 00:20:26,180
It's not about dismissing it or ignoring it.
672
00:20:26,420 --> 00:20:29,460
If there are situations in your life that
673
00:20:29,460 --> 00:20:31,260
you're ignoring, that's exactly where you
674
00:20:31,260 --> 00:20:31,940
need to begin.
675
00:20:32,340 --> 00:20:34,100
If you think that
676
00:20:34,420 --> 00:20:35,940
your way is the only way,
677
00:20:36,180 --> 00:20:37,940
that's exactly where you need to begin.
678
00:20:38,260 --> 00:20:41,140
So in this situation where these two people
679
00:20:41,140 --> 00:20:43,940
are having this conversation, and as I was
680
00:20:43,940 --> 00:20:44,660
witnessing it,
681
00:20:45,060 --> 00:20:45,380
I
682
00:20:46,180 --> 00:20:46,980
was in awe.
683
00:20:47,700 --> 00:20:49,300
I literally was in awe.
684
00:20:49,780 --> 00:20:50,260
And
685
00:20:51,180 --> 00:20:51,460
I
686
00:20:51,940 --> 00:20:55,780
ask myself, what is it? What is it about us that
687
00:20:56,180 --> 00:20:56,860
we are
688
00:20:57,540 --> 00:20:59,300
not okay with each other?
689
00:20:59,540 --> 00:21:00,660
Because we are judging
690
00:21:00,900 --> 00:21:01,460
ourselves.
691
00:21:01,860 --> 00:21:02,660
That's this
692
00:21:02,980 --> 00:21:03,780
judgment.
693
00:21:03,940 --> 00:21:04,940
That's this part of us.
694
00:21:04,940 --> 00:21:06,340
That's this voice inside
695
00:21:06,580 --> 00:21:07,620
who keeps
696
00:21:07,940 --> 00:21:09,060
reminding us,
697
00:21:09,540 --> 00:21:10,820
you can be happy too.
698
00:21:11,380 --> 00:21:13,060
You have that power in you too.
699
00:21:13,380 --> 00:21:14,820
You have that light.
700
00:21:15,180 --> 00:21:17,300
that shines through you too.
701
00:21:17,540 --> 00:21:19,700
You are a shiny mind too.
702
00:21:19,940 --> 00:21:21,620
You are a shiny heart too.
703
00:21:21,900 --> 00:21:22,980
What is it about you
704
00:21:23,540 --> 00:21:24,740
that diminishes
705
00:21:25,060 --> 00:21:26,340
your divine power?
706
00:21:26,740 --> 00:21:27,700
Divinity
707
00:21:27,940 --> 00:21:29,940
is super important
708
00:21:30,260 --> 00:21:31,300
in your language.
709
00:21:31,620 --> 00:21:32,180
Why?
710
00:21:32,500 --> 00:21:33,460
Because that's the truth.
711
00:21:33,940 --> 00:21:36,020
And divinity is not about religion.
712
00:21:36,340 --> 00:21:37,620
Religion is
713
00:21:37,860 --> 00:21:38,820
very personal.
714
00:21:39,060 --> 00:21:41,540
People choose that path or not.
715
00:21:41,900 --> 00:21:45,380
Divinity is something above and beyond that.
716
00:21:45,700 --> 00:21:47,140
Divinity is
717
00:21:47,380 --> 00:21:48,820
kind of scientific,
718
00:21:49,140 --> 00:21:50,100
cosmic part of you,
719
00:21:50,580 --> 00:21:51,860
that you are
720
00:21:52,140 --> 00:21:53,060
a part of
721
00:21:53,380 --> 00:21:54,900
this universe.
722
00:21:55,340 --> 00:21:57,140
And actually the universe is
723
00:21:57,620 --> 00:21:59,460
a part of you, inside of you.
724
00:21:59,700 --> 00:22:01,060
That's the divine
725
00:22:01,380 --> 00:22:02,980
light that we're talking about,
726
00:22:03,220 --> 00:22:04,500
that we are dismissing.
727
00:22:04,900 --> 00:22:06,420
If you are dismissing
728
00:22:06,740 --> 00:22:08,660
people who are happy, people who are
729
00:22:08,660 --> 00:22:09,380
shining,
730
00:22:09,620 --> 00:22:11,700
then you're dismissing your own
731
00:22:12,020 --> 00:22:12,980
power within.
732
00:22:13,220 --> 00:22:13,860
And
733
00:22:14,180 --> 00:22:15,940
that's why the willingness becomes the
734
00:22:15,940 --> 00:22:16,820
second tool,
735
00:22:17,380 --> 00:22:18,340
because it reminds
736
00:22:18,820 --> 00:22:19,460
you, have
737
00:22:19,700 --> 00:22:20,500
that power.
738
00:22:20,580 --> 00:22:22,420
You just need to face your truth.
739
00:22:22,860 --> 00:22:25,380
You just need to remember where you are
740
00:22:25,380 --> 00:22:26,180
coming from,
741
00:22:26,580 --> 00:22:26,780
how
742
00:22:27,300 --> 00:22:29,060
divine and cosmic you are.
743
00:22:29,380 --> 00:22:31,540
Once you make that shift,
744
00:22:31,860 --> 00:22:33,060
once you have that
745
00:22:33,300 --> 00:22:34,420
realization,
746
00:22:34,660 --> 00:22:36,740
something is going to align within
747
00:22:37,060 --> 00:22:38,580
and something is going to
748
00:22:38,900 --> 00:22:39,620
awaken
749
00:22:40,060 --> 00:22:40,580
within.
750
00:22:40,900 --> 00:22:42,900
And you are going to wake up one day
751
00:22:43,060 --> 00:22:44,340
feeling like, wow,
752
00:22:44,660 --> 00:22:45,620
this is the life
753
00:22:45,860 --> 00:22:47,300
that I chose.
754
00:22:47,660 --> 00:22:49,420
I can do whatever I want with it.
755
00:22:49,420 --> 00:22:50,820
This is my playground. A
756
00:22:51,140 --> 00:22:52,420
love is how I win.
757
00:22:52,780 --> 00:22:54,900
And I am going to win every single day by
758
00:22:54,900 --> 00:22:56,020
loving myself.
759
00:22:56,660 --> 00:22:58,260
Only if I love myself,
760
00:22:58,500 --> 00:22:58,980
then
761
00:22:59,220 --> 00:23:00,580
I can love on others.
762
00:23:00,820 --> 00:23:03,140
So if you are looking for
763
00:23:03,500 --> 00:23:04,180
a third
764
00:23:04,420 --> 00:23:05,380
practice,
765
00:23:06,060 --> 00:23:06,340
a third
766
00:23:06,820 --> 00:23:07,300
tip
767
00:23:07,540 --> 00:23:09,940
for you to stop telling people what to do
768
00:23:10,260 --> 00:23:10,900
is
769
00:23:11,420 --> 00:23:12,420
unconditional love.
770
00:23:13,140 --> 00:23:13,620
When
771
00:23:13,940 --> 00:23:16,020
you tell people what to do,
772
00:23:16,460 --> 00:23:18,900
What is the mechanics behind it? Let's look at it.
773
00:23:19,140 --> 00:23:21,540
You should do this in order for me to
774
00:23:21,540 --> 00:23:22,500
understand you.
775
00:23:22,660 --> 00:23:24,500
If you're not doing this, then I will not
776
00:23:24,500 --> 00:23:25,180
understand you,
777
00:23:25,620 --> 00:23:27,860
right? You are creating the conditions
778
00:23:27,860 --> 00:23:28,500
around it.
779
00:23:28,740 --> 00:23:30,100
And then that is becoming.
780
00:23:30,540 --> 00:23:32,140
unconditional, that is becoming
781
00:23:32,140 --> 00:23:33,060
transactional,
782
00:23:33,300 --> 00:23:35,700
and that is damaging our humanity,
783
00:23:35,940 --> 00:23:36,420
that is
784
00:23:36,660 --> 00:23:38,100
damaging our divinity.
785
00:23:38,260 --> 00:23:40,220
We are unconditional beings.
786
00:23:40,740 --> 00:23:44,180
We are unconditional light in a human form.
787
00:23:44,580 --> 00:23:45,460
I want us
788
00:23:45,700 --> 00:23:48,900
to remember this, and I want us to match
789
00:23:48,900 --> 00:23:50,980
our behaviors with this truth.
790
00:23:51,540 --> 00:23:53,460
The intention is the human intention,
791
00:23:53,780 --> 00:23:56,340
but the behavior in this 3D reality,
792
00:23:56,580 --> 00:23:57,700
it's got to match
793
00:23:58,140 --> 00:23:58,660
the truth,
794
00:23:59,300 --> 00:24:00,500
the truth that
795
00:24:00,820 --> 00:24:02,140
there is unconditional love.
796
00:24:02,420 --> 00:24:05,700
So use unconditional love as another tip
797
00:24:05,940 --> 00:24:07,620
to fine tune
798
00:24:07,940 --> 00:24:10,100
your behaviors and then ask yourself,
799
00:24:10,420 --> 00:24:11,940
is my language
800
00:24:12,260 --> 00:24:14,420
conditional or unconditional?
801
00:24:14,660 --> 00:24:15,220
Is
802
00:24:15,540 --> 00:24:17,300
what I am saying to others
803
00:24:17,540 --> 00:24:19,860
is how I'm responding to others
804
00:24:20,380 --> 00:24:22,980
a demonstration of unconditional love for
805
00:24:22,980 --> 00:24:24,420
myself and for them,
806
00:24:24,740 --> 00:24:26,740
or are there conditions?
807
00:24:27,340 --> 00:24:29,620
Can I smell any conditions around it?
808
00:24:29,860 --> 00:24:30,340
That's a
809
00:24:30,580 --> 00:24:32,260
huge practice
810
00:24:32,580 --> 00:24:34,900
that you can take away and apply.
811
00:24:35,300 --> 00:24:35,700
So
812
00:24:36,100 --> 00:24:36,740
I hope
813
00:24:36,980 --> 00:24:38,580
this was a very
814
00:24:38,900 --> 00:24:40,340
helpful conversation
815
00:24:40,660 --> 00:24:42,100
that you listened.
816
00:24:42,540 --> 00:24:43,620
that I had with myself.
817
00:24:45,140 --> 00:24:46,940
It was literally a conversation that I had
818
00:24:46,940 --> 00:24:48,260
with myself, I feel like.
819
00:24:48,500 --> 00:24:49,220
I know you
820
00:24:49,540 --> 00:24:50,340
are listening
821
00:24:50,740 --> 00:24:51,300
and
822
00:24:51,860 --> 00:24:54,100
I know that there is a part of you that
823
00:24:54,340 --> 00:24:56,340
feels resonating with it.
824
00:24:56,660 --> 00:24:58,500
And if you are resonating with it,
825
00:24:58,820 --> 00:25:00,180
I invite you to
826
00:25:01,700 --> 00:25:02,660
pause
827
00:25:03,020 --> 00:25:04,900
and dig deep inside.
828
00:25:05,220 --> 00:25:07,060
Pause without doing anything.
829
00:25:07,300 --> 00:25:08,940
Just ask yourself,
830
00:25:09,180 --> 00:25:11,220
what is my truth? What is
831
00:25:11,540 --> 00:25:14,660
my unconditional love for myself and for
832
00:25:14,660 --> 00:25:16,820
others? How can I deepen it?
833
00:25:17,060 --> 00:25:19,140
What are the tools I need?
834
00:25:19,540 --> 00:25:22,500
And if your answer is, hey, I need to start
835
00:25:22,820 --> 00:25:24,020
by understanding
836
00:25:24,340 --> 00:25:26,500
more about my mindset,
837
00:25:26,820 --> 00:25:29,140
I I want to study neuroscience
838
00:25:29,380 --> 00:25:31,060
and I want to study myself.
839
00:25:31,060 --> 00:25:32,740
I need self-discovery.
840
00:25:33,060 --> 00:25:33,780
I need
841
00:25:34,100 --> 00:25:34,580
to
842
00:25:34,900 --> 00:25:36,820
hone my communication skills.
843
00:25:36,820 --> 00:25:38,580
I need to show up as a leader.
844
00:25:38,900 --> 00:25:40,740
And as I do that, I want to
845
00:25:40,980 --> 00:25:43,540
experience deep transformation
846
00:25:43,860 --> 00:25:46,420
and I want to connect to people
847
00:25:46,740 --> 00:25:48,820
that are absolutely amazing.
848
00:25:49,060 --> 00:25:49,620
Then
849
00:25:49,940 --> 00:25:50,860
I invite you
850
00:25:51,380 --> 00:25:52,020
to
851
00:25:52,500 --> 00:25:53,220
look at
852
00:25:53,460 --> 00:25:54,060
my world.
853
00:25:54,500 --> 00:25:56,740
You can go to shinyunsal.com.
854
00:25:56,980 --> 00:25:58,660
and grab that PDF
855
00:25:58,900 --> 00:25:59,940
and see
856
00:26:00,180 --> 00:26:00,580
if
857
00:26:00,900 --> 00:26:01,420
taking the
858
00:26:01,940 --> 00:26:04,100
next step is the right step for you.
859
00:26:04,740 --> 00:26:05,140
And
860
00:26:05,540 --> 00:26:07,860
I would love to work with you and I would
861
00:26:07,860 --> 00:26:09,460
love to give you resources.
862
00:26:09,460 --> 00:26:10,100
There are
863
00:26:10,580 --> 00:26:12,420
digital courses that
864
00:26:12,740 --> 00:26:14,100
you can start.
865
00:26:14,580 --> 00:26:15,780
studying your mind.
866
00:26:15,940 --> 00:26:17,780
You can start the mechanics that I was
867
00:26:17,780 --> 00:26:19,620
telling you about, all the blocks, all
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these mental blocks that are keeping you stuck
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in your thinking, and then you are not even
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aware that you are
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controlling somebody, you are telling them
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what to do, and then you are trying to fix them,
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where they didn't even ask for
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you to fix their problem, they're totally
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capable.
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of fixing their own problem. So you
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might be annoying and frustrating people,
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and I don't want that for you all.
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I want freedom mindset for all of us to
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experience.
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I want resourcefulness for all of us to
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experience.
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And that's what I
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teach.
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That's what I share
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with you.
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And if you feel the resonance
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By all means, go to my website,
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shinyunsal.com
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and check out how
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I might be able to serve you.
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And you can also go to
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neuroshinetechnology.com
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and you will see that I have a
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faculty of amazing souls who are also
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teaching my Neuro-Shine Technologyā¢
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And you can also look at
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those options if you are
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resonating with those options.
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This is also a beautiful path for you to take.
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So whatever you choose,
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make sure you choose something that shines
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the cosmic light within you.
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So if you like this episode,
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please put a like, share, and subscribe
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for more videos, more content
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just like this, where we sit down and talk about
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the truth of humanity and how we can become
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more conscious beings.
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And thank you for allowing my light into
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your neurons.
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And until next time,
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keep shining your cosmic light.
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Go galactic.
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Go galactic.
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Then you're in the right place.
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Let's go, let's go.
