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[SPEAKER_00]: So today, Elizabeth and I are talking about partnerships and when we discuss the theme of the podcast, I said, let's do this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You think about three things that you believe has helped us having the partnership that we have right now and I think about three things and we don't share with each other.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And we go to the podcast without knowing it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I'm curious, Liz, if it's going to be the same or not, and what do you think of everything?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's been almost a decade.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Almost a decade.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We've been doing business together.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And a lot of people think, oh, they're so lucky.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They have a lot of chemistry.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We always had it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We always say that we had it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But chemistry is not enough to sustain a long-term partnership.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So we're going to share with all of you today.
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[SPEAKER_00]: What has worked?
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[SPEAKER_00]: So it leaves a bath.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's how I call it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It leaves a bath.
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[SPEAKER_00]: In Elizabeth, what is your number one, the item there that you think has helped us?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Here it is, and everyone get really, really close to your speaker.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And Jessica knows I'm always right, and that's how it goes.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I'm joking.
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[SPEAKER_02]: No, it's not that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So here's what I think has really made a difference.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I'm going to be as brief and deep as I can.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We leverage our differences.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So here's what I mean by that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I think there's people on Jessica and our partnership and with other partners that we know on paper that we need to have differences.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't think I'm telling anyone listening to this something new.
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[SPEAKER_02]: is that a lot of people sort of like tolerate each other's differences.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Oh, that's just how they are.
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[SPEAKER_02]: For example, give you very specific example.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I am, I am more extroverted and play feeling based in my decisions.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And idea, you know, I have a lot of ideas.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I can change things on a whim.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I love this idea of this off-stripped sort of podcast.
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[SPEAKER_02]: On dress and I work, she's freaking the hell out.
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[SPEAKER_02]: She's freaking the freak out.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm sorry, freaking out.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Sorry, I don't want to curse on our lives.
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[SPEAKER_02]: She doesn't curse.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I rated, you know, well, sometimes I do, especially in a coal plunge.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But with Andresa, she's more introverted, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: She's more task oriented.
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[SPEAKER_02]: She's more detail oriented.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I think the biggest thing of a difference for us is that she's more objective and I'm more subjective.
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[SPEAKER_02]: She goes more on facts and data, and I'm gonna naturally go more on cut and intuition.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so for me, the very thing that I've always like known that about her, but I think our partnership has really grown and sustained when I can actually leverage that versus getting annoyed by it or tolerating it or at the very worst with partners, they avoid the very thing they could be leveraging with each other.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And that's, that's work to do, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's not just like I wake up and sometimes when on dresses, ask me things that are very critical over the years.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's not like, oh yeah, I love those questions.
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[SPEAKER_02]: No, I have it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I always love those questions, but they've helped me in what I've needed to grow through.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And she's just asking me questions.
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[SPEAKER_02]: She's trying to understand.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's nothing more than that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So
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[SPEAKER_02]: the key for me has been leveraging each other's differences, really leveraging her tough mindedness versus getting annoyed by it or just, oh, that's just how on dress it is or I just tolerate Liz and her extra version.
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[SPEAKER_02]: No, it's more than that, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: We have to leverage the very, that's just one difference, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: We have other differences.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So,
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's work to do.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I think that's something that has, we continue to learn.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't think you just fully leverage each other's differences.
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[SPEAKER_02]: As partners, I think it's always ongoing.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You're always leveraging, oh, hey, can I need some help here?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Or that you do this really well?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Or that type of thing?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Um, so that's my number one.
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[SPEAKER_00]: One resource that I would like to share with all of you that has helped Liz and I to understand each other is rocket fuel.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's when we found out she's a visionary.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I am an ink to greater.
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[SPEAKER_00]: What that means is that with Liz will have multiple ideas throughout the day.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I, my job is to run those ideas inside my head and as a computers figured out.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If it is doable, if it is not, so naturally I'll say more nose, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Without the context of knowing that she's a visionary, it's hard job to have ideas and to really have the free space to think and expand and come back with people.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's hard job, that's hard, naturally I think.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And my job is to naturally cut off a lot of those.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's like the Debbie Jitter, wah, wah, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Everyone's going to be back to old school starting at life with the Debbie Donner.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's, it's, it's an integrated job to say more knows than yeses.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And many times, if we don't understand that that's our job, you put, uh, constrain within the relationship.
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[SPEAKER_00]: because then you're like, oh, she's saying no to me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: She always says no to me or, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: So what's we got that knowledge?
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're like, okay, she's saying no.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Why you're saying no now?
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[SPEAKER_00]: No later.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So we're putting place of framework.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So every time the list has ideas, putting it on paper, on our monthly quarterly annual goal, it might not be today, it might be later on.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It might be something that we want to get started.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We are in progress.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So that was very helpful.
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[SPEAKER_02]: One other thing to can I add to that, the what is helped on dress and I, especially with an idea comes up on just to go, I don't, I don't think this is a good idea for XYZ reason.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I need to be clear on if I.
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[SPEAKER_02]: How attached I am to that idea because sometimes I'm like, it's a five out of ten.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Okay, what do you think on dress?
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[SPEAKER_02]: I could take it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I can leave it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: For example, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: We got invited to a conference.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I saw the benefits of it for a few different reasons.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Also, was the timing could have been a little questionable.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I was up to five out of ten to be honest.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I threw it to on dress.
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[SPEAKER_02]: What do you think?
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't think it's a good use of our time.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And here's why.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I was like, okay.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We didn't have to have a conversation.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I moved on.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I wasn't attached.
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[SPEAKER_02]: If I was a 10 out of 10, probably would have had a conversation.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So my point in this is for yourself rank how attached or how connected you are to an idea, especially for the visionaries, because not everything's a 10 out of 10.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Not everything's a zero out of 10, because then you don't feel excited about anything.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So get clear and then you can have that conversation in dialogue, not about everything, but about certain things.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And one thing that we do with each other, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's connecting the dots.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So when we're presented in idea, we always share, okay, besides attending the conference, those are the goals that I would like to accomplish there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Cause sometimes it's just not attending a conference.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There's multiple goals that you want to, you know, cure a few birds with one stone.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So when you're talking to your partner, it doesn't matter when I'm talking to Liz and when she's talking to me, I need to paint a very clear picture and connect that action that I'm looking to take to our vision, to our goals that we're looking to accomplish.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So we are always in alignment.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But just say, hey, I want to do this, like point blank.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I am not, that would be an immediate no.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I used to do that, and I was like, oh, man, this is not, this is not working.
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[SPEAKER_00]: My number one, it's how long we took to build a relationship first, before we started doing business together.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I think when I look back, we had our friendship first for two years.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then we did our first joint venture agreement was a rehab together.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then we expand from there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The reason why I'm saying it's super important for you to be the relationship first before becoming business partners is that during that two-year period, I could evaluate lists work ethic.
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[SPEAKER_00]: how does she show up?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because many times was, hey, let's align on values.
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[SPEAKER_00]: How do you do that?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, you do that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Not in Zoom.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Outside Zoom, did she show up to the calls, the masterminds that we had on time?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Was she prepared, was she engaged?
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[SPEAKER_00]: During our coffee meetings at Panera Bread, how did she show up?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Did she cancel on me last minute?
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[SPEAKER_00]: right was she supported or was she always taking in and not giving it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So throughout those two years we we created a relationship that I could see how we should she would treat the the waitress.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I know Liz has cash on her her wallet and I love cash.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm being done.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm going to time.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I love cash.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: So situations where we could see how one would show up for the other.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that is a super solid foundation for our business.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Not something that we had to go through it as we become business partners.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I know I could rely on her and she knew she could rely on me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So we were able to really get into alignment.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Even regards to our values before we started our business together.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Absolutely.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I think that's so critical, especially in example we heard the other day from somebody in our mastermind about the working together, the partner together, and they know each other for a year.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: And that's to me, that's, you gotta be mindful of how long you've known someone, especially if you're putting a lot of money and time and, you know,
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[SPEAKER_02]: blood sweat and tears, be mind-flow of that, take it slow, I think that's great, great advice.
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[SPEAKER_02]: All right, so here's my number two.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We keep communication, current, and honest, and we hear a lot about communication, and I don't think that again, that's anything new.
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[SPEAKER_02]: However, when I really think about our communication, right, me and adjust this communication over the years, there's a certain
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[SPEAKER_02]: And it has to be honest, and it has to be current, meaning, you know, when we've had breakdowns, which we've had our share of breakdowns or disconnects, are we keeping the communication moving forward?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Are we are we learning from that breakdown from a communication perspective, from a, you know, there's a lot of pieces of that puzzle you're trying to understand.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So when you're working with someone, when we've worked together,
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[SPEAKER_02]: I think that the part is that we don't just how positively think, hey, this is a Tuesday afternoon, here's what's not working with each other.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Like, no, you're in, you're in, like, do mode, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Especially as you're building a business.
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[SPEAKER_02]: you're not every moment, hey, I'm just even hour to talk to me about how you talk to me the other day.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Like, no, I don't have time for that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't even have time for that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But it's important to create space to have that conversation.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's what I think most people with romantic relationships as well as business partnerships don't do.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So something that we've done really well and I'm very proud of the work we've done.
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[SPEAKER_02]: is on a monthly basis.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We have strategic meetings to talk about the business itself, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Strategic decisions that need to get met, met what are we looking forward to for the next quarter, what's working, what's not on a business level.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We also talk about what's working and not working.
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[SPEAKER_02]: within our just our world, whether it's our partnership, whether it's us personally, what's like coming up for ourselves?
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[SPEAKER_02]: And that's the time to share, hey, I'm thinking about this or, and I'm just an eye are evolving as people we're evolving as business partners and there's seasons of life, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: There's seasons that we're all in, and we need to be open and communicative with each other.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm grateful for that space to have with each other so we could talk about that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: In a way that works and a way that gives you space to have it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Versus me out of left, left field one day, calling on dress.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Hey, this is what's coming up for me.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Friday afternoon.
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[SPEAKER_02]: She's not going to be, well, our worst conversations have always been funny.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Best or worst, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Probably.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yes.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But really, when it comes to it is being clear up for yourself, what's coming up for you, you know, and what's working, what's not into create that language with each other, I think as hands down, been the key to partnering as long as we have.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't think we would be here if it wasn't for that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, my number two is also that we are monthly, we're going to not, all right, we've got a batch.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Our monthly strategic meetings, and when we meet, as Liz said, we start with where you are at as people.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes Liz is sharing something personal that is going on that gives me more context.
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[SPEAKER_00]: to be more empathetic, more patient, more understanding of her.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And same thing with me, we always start with that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Despite how urgent it is for us to talk about different goals, we always start with that in a monthly basis.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And one key for us is the following.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's recurring and it's on the calendar for the entire year already.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, you're not like, oh, can you do this day?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Can you do that day?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, I cannot do that day.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I can do that.
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[UNKNOWN]: No.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's on the calendar for the entire year.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We already know, unless, of course, there's something that is, say, hey, this month, that day is not gonna work.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Let's find another time, totally flexible to that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But it's not something that we need to, oh, we forgot to have our monthly meeting.
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[SPEAKER_00]: No, it's on the calendar.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So do yourself a favor to you and your business partner.
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[SPEAKER_00]: have that conversation and create that framework.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So the framework that we use is very simple.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We start with where you're at, let's come in out for you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then we go into our goals.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And we separate it into buckets.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So let's say we have different projects that we're going on.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We have financials.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We have marketing, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: We have our strive members.
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[SPEAKER_00]: What can we improve?
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[SPEAKER_00]: What are the bottlenecks?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then we establish actions, not goals.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There's a different between a goal and an action.
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[SPEAKER_00]: An action is, I can say, hey, I really need to have a clear picture of our cash flow for the quarter.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's a goal.
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[SPEAKER_00]: An action is.
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[SPEAKER_00]: call or schedule a meeting with our bookkeeper in order to go over the current cash flow, what's missing and what we need to put in place.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So keeping mind that when we are talking, we are converting our goals into actions.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So it's super clear and measurable.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I think having that every single month had allow us to create
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[SPEAKER_00]: muscle to that's how we do business, that's how we keep ourselves in check in alignment, our business growing, in alignment to the season that we're in.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So that was my number two as well.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I would also say in that process, our recommendation is the more strategic in person,
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[SPEAKER_02]: that you can do with your partners the better and sometimes you may not live in the same city or live in the same area that we, you know, hurt on just a night could meet and it's not too far away.
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[SPEAKER_02]: However, I would say make it a point, especially if you have to get on a plane or that it's not convenient.
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[SPEAKER_02]: There's something about in person that Zoom and phone calls just don't just can't, you know, quite too.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So even not a, you know, quarterly level or, you know, every six months.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I would, depending on how
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[SPEAKER_02]: how your businesses and how we talk in one single family, rehab, all right.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Well, maybe that's a little different, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Maybe once or twice a year.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But if you have a growing business with multiple properties and multiple areas of the country, I would be I would be seeing that personal more off.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I may be not monthly.
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[SPEAKER_02]: certainly quarterly.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So just remember in person is the key because there's things that's just hard to say on Zoom and hard to say on the phone, but when you're in person, you really have that ability to connect.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And you also give the space for the other person during the strategic meeting, you give the person the space to also say that things that are not working.
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[SPEAKER_00]: because that's what's working and what's not working.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So it's expected that she's going to say something that's not working.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm going to say something that is not working.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And the agreement that we are having is that it's not personal.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's not personal.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's the business.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that is super important.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Liz, what's your number three?
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[SPEAKER_02]: All right.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So number three, I have is we both do the work to grow.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Oh, shut them.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Is that the third, is that your third team?
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[SPEAKER_00]: 10.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We had two, we had two, we had one that that was different.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's not that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I really do believe if it wasn't for that, it's hard to successfully partner with people and grow together.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Tell them, like, what do you mean?
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[SPEAKER_00]: So people listening know what the hell where you're talking about, growing my hair, growing my eyelashes.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, all those things are growing, but I saw this somewhere, I don't remember where, but a partnership can't outgrow the people in it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Meaning, your partnership can't grow without individuals growing themselves.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And we all grow in different ways.
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[SPEAKER_02]: The things that I'm growing through and trying to be my best self, if you will,
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[SPEAKER_02]: is different than on dresser okay that's that's natural that's that's that's just the case you want to be mindful of what you're working on and also how are you how are you elevating and so for me.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's been a journey from my 20s, my 30s to my 40s.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I think one of the things I really appreciated about on dresses that we always had this shared, we both valued growing.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I knew that about her and she knew that about me.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So it wasn't like, she's like, yeah, I've gone to this weekend.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I've done this and I was like, oh, I'm not in tanny of that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't think that would have been a match.
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[SPEAKER_02]: One of the weekends that we both did before we partnered together that actually has been made an impact in both of our with our partnership has been landmark forum.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So we did it at different times.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I did it many years before I dress up because I'm I'm old now I'm joking.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But I did it in 08, and I remember so much from that workshop.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And if you know anything about me, I retain things only that in certain ways.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I do retain things.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But I remember so much and same with Andreas and we use that language as we're working together.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So the fact that we did this weekend and we're working on ourselves, and I learned
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[SPEAKER_02]: you know, uh, that weekend's all about personal growth.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So how do you do with conflict?
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[SPEAKER_02]: That was one of the moments that I started having more difficult conversations than authentic conversations with people.
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[SPEAKER_02]: One of the first times in my life, that door was starting to be opened.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's a muscle I've developed over the years, but that was the first time I actually had some difficult conversations that I just hadn't had.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so again, growing myself on dressa has had her own path of growing curious what what things to to mention, as we've grown as partners and as leaders, other things come up, children, you know, you have children, you have growing businesses.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You know, I didn't realize I had as much anxiety as I did.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I, I worked through that to, I did my own ketamine treatments and things like that that were really helpful for me.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And it wasn't like I'm just like either do ketamine or redone or anything like that at all.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's not what I'm saying here.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But our paths have been, this is my path to growth.
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[SPEAKER_02]: This is what looks like to me to be my best self.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And if I'm a better version of me, I'm going to be a better mom.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm going to be a better wife.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm going to be a better leader.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Wherever it's, it's, it's independent, but it's, it's connected.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That makes sense.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's not just
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[SPEAKER_02]: I was doing a lot of growth so I could be a better version of myself, period, which then impacts everything I'm involved in, if that makes sense.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I really don't think a partnership can grow or sustain
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[SPEAKER_02]: if you're not willing to do the work for yourself so that you can be the best version of yourself.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't know how that happens.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I have that in my marriage.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I have that with other people that are close to me, but I don't know how that works on dress it for people who aren't willing to do the work.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's not my world.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's not my world.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So it's it's a foreigner thing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And you mentioned that your marriage, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: A partnership, it's a marriage and like a couple of therapy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It only works when one person has done the work.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Otherwise, here's what
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[SPEAKER_00]: from my experience happen.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You think you have a business or a partnership issue and is actually an individual issue.
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[SPEAKER_00]: What happens is when people start resenting each other for whatever the subject is.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I carry my own traumas, my own experiences, my own lessons, my own values, let's stand on her own.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't need to carry her and she does not need to carry me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Emotionally, when there is an imbalance into that in the partnership, it's brutal.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It really is.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So in our relationship here, we always say, I care enough about you to stand.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So when I know that Liz is triggered, or when she knows I am triggered about something, we bring that to the surface and we talk about it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And we process, you hear that my son knows of that biz, we process things, and we close the loop.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Many partnerships are not working because they are avoiding having conversations and they have open tabs.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Open tabs, think about it at your computer, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Has a lot of open tabs.
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[SPEAKER_00]: that are there, they're consuming energy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Same thing with ourselves.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're consuming energy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's running, rent, free inside our own hands.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So when you process with a person, you have a complete conversation.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You close that tab and you move along.
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[SPEAKER_00]: When it's open,
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[SPEAKER_00]: it is just a pile of compound resentment, then starts building and then once something happens that it's not even a big deal, it goes through the other person's face, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: So we really encourage all of you to look within what can you take responsibility, what can you put in place in order
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[SPEAKER_00]: in a more productive way for the relationship with boundaries.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Can you put in place?
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[SPEAKER_00]: practice verbalizing that with your business partner.
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[SPEAKER_00]: For God's sake, if you cannot have those conversations with your business partner, because she or he or they are going to be mad.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, so be it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So create that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: What does mad look like?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And why is that triggering?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like, have a conversation about that dynamic and put something in place that works, getting to alignment or not?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: So the realignment conversations always happen behind the scene.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I think that if we haven't done the work ourselves, let's say, oh, you know, that conflict, that fight that we had, actually had nothing to do with the fight itself because in my childhood, when that happened, that trigger my nervous system.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I always react like that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: freaking awareness, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Did Liz do something to trigger me on purpose?
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[SPEAKER_00]: No, did I do something to hurt to trigger her on purpose?
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[SPEAKER_00]: No, is it about the issue?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't even know what will our last conflict about.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, why?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know because we close it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We process it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It is done.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't keep a tab of all the conflicts and and shit that Liz go through
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's complete.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If there's something still lingering, so it's important that we continue having that conversation, but it always starts with a commitment with ourselves.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And before I end this, I want to just be very clear.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There's nothing broken that needs to be fixed.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But there's a lot of layers that you have added to you that you need to let go of, the no longer serve you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: To be quiet on us, don't even belong to you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It might be from other generations that were passed on.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So the goal here is to really peel how the layers then no longer serve us.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But you can't be done if you're not aware of it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And we link to do the work and that takes courage.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Relous.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, it takes a lot of courage and it's not for everyone.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's why as you're as you're seeking partners and depending on the level of partnership right if you're doing a flip with them.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's one level if you're you know building them.
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[SPEAKER_02]: a business and a movement, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: And Justin, we're not just running a business, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: We're we're very mission oriented in the sense of we want to impact the world.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And we are impacting the world by supporting women taking control of their financial future.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's a big thing.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's a big meaningful
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[SPEAKER_02]: movement.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So for us to be on this journey together, as our roles evolve, as our time evolved, as our interests evolve, as people, as women, we need to continually be authentic to ourselves and authentic to each other.
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[SPEAKER_02]: When you have that with someone, keep going, do the monthly meetings, make sure you're communicating honestly, but communicate honestly with yourself,
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't think people are honest enough with themselves first to be honest with somebody else.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And if you're someone that wants to get into a partnership, feeling very confident, or if you're somebody that you are in a partnership right now, that's not working.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Or if you're somebody that had a bad experience with partnerships in the past, but you do understand how can you leverage it to grow your real estate business?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And you want to learn more about it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We are going to New York City.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're preparing
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[SPEAKER_00]: on exercises, talking about the pre-nup, what you need to do before you get into a relationship, how to leverage each other's skills and experiences, and when conflict hits, how can you handle it?
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[SPEAKER_00]: We have Cass and Mike Losero, they wrote the book, shoveling shit, and they have been in business for decades, and they also bear it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So they know a lot about partnerships.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So if you are in New York or around the area, we invite you to join us, we're going to keep all the information that you need below.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I hope to see you there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Thank you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So today, Elizabeth and I are talking about partnerships and when we discuss the theme of the podcast, I said, let's do this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You think about three things that you believe has helped us having the partnership that we have right now and I think about three things and we don't share with each other.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And we go to the podcast without knowing it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I'm curious, Liz, if it's going to be the same or not, and what do you think of everything?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's been almost a decade.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Almost a decade.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We've been doing business together.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And a lot of people think, oh, they're so lucky.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They have a lot of chemistry.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We always had it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We always say that we had it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But chemistry is not enough to sustain a long-term partnership.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So we're going to share with all of you today.
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[SPEAKER_00]: What has worked?
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[SPEAKER_00]: So it leaves a bath.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's how I call it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It leaves a bath.
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[SPEAKER_00]: In Elizabeth, what is your number one, the item there that you think has helped us?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Here it is, and everyone get really, really close to your speaker.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And Jessica knows I'm always right, and that's how it goes.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I'm joking.
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[SPEAKER_02]: No, it's not that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So here's what I think has really made a difference.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I'm going to be as brief and deep as I can.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We leverage our differences.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So here's what I mean by that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I think there's people on Jessica and our partnership and with other partners that we know on paper that we need to have differences.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't think I'm telling anyone listening to this something new.
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[SPEAKER_02]: is that a lot of people sort of like tolerate each other's differences.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Oh, that's just how they are.
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[SPEAKER_02]: For example, give you very specific example.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I am, I am more extroverted and play feeling based in my decisions.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And idea, you know, I have a lot of ideas.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I can change things on a whim.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I love this idea of this off-stripped sort of podcast.
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[SPEAKER_02]: On dress and I work, she's freaking the hell out.
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[SPEAKER_02]: She's freaking the freak out.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm sorry, freaking out.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Sorry, I don't want to curse on our lives.
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[SPEAKER_02]: She doesn't curse.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I rated, you know, well, sometimes I do, especially in a coal plunge.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But with Andresa, she's more introverted, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: She's more task oriented.
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[SPEAKER_02]: She's more detail oriented.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I think the biggest thing of a difference for us is that she's more objective and I'm more subjective.
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[SPEAKER_02]: She goes more on facts and data, and I'm gonna naturally go more on cut and intuition.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so for me, the very thing that I've always like known that about her, but I think our partnership has really grown and sustained when I can actually leverage that versus getting annoyed by it or tolerating it or at the very worst with partners, they avoid the very thing they could be leveraging with each other.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And that's, that's work to do, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's not just like I wake up and sometimes when on dresses, ask me things that are very critical over the years.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's not like, oh yeah, I love those questions.
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[SPEAKER_02]: No, I have it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I always love those questions, but they've helped me in what I've needed to grow through.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And she's just asking me questions.
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[SPEAKER_02]: She's trying to understand.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's nothing more than that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So
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[SPEAKER_02]: the key for me has been leveraging each other's differences, really leveraging her tough mindedness versus getting annoyed by it or just, oh, that's just how on dress it is or I just tolerate Liz and her extra version.
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[SPEAKER_02]: No, it's more than that, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: We have to leverage the very, that's just one difference, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: We have other differences.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So,
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's work to do.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I think that's something that has, we continue to learn.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't think you just fully leverage each other's differences.
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[SPEAKER_02]: As partners, I think it's always ongoing.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You're always leveraging, oh, hey, can I need some help here?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Or that you do this really well?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Or that type of thing?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Um, so that's my number one.
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[SPEAKER_00]: One resource that I would like to share with all of you that has helped Liz and I to understand each other is rocket fuel.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's when we found out she's a visionary.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I am an ink to greater.
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[SPEAKER_00]: What that means is that with Liz will have multiple ideas throughout the day.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I, my job is to run those ideas inside my head and as a computers figured out.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If it is doable, if it is not, so naturally I'll say more nose, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Without the context of knowing that she's a visionary, it's hard job to have ideas and to really have the free space to think and expand and come back with people.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's hard job, that's hard, naturally I think.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And my job is to naturally cut off a lot of those.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's like the Debbie Jitter, wah, wah, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Everyone's going to be back to old school starting at life with the Debbie Donner.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's, it's, it's an integrated job to say more knows than yeses.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And many times, if we don't understand that that's our job, you put, uh, constrain within the relationship.
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[SPEAKER_00]: because then you're like, oh, she's saying no to me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: She always says no to me or, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: So what's we got that knowledge?
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're like, okay, she's saying no.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Why you're saying no now?
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[SPEAKER_00]: No later.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So we're putting place of framework.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So every time the list has ideas, putting it on paper, on our monthly quarterly annual goal, it might not be today, it might be later on.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It might be something that we want to get started.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We are in progress.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So that was very helpful.
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[SPEAKER_02]: One other thing to can I add to that, the what is helped on dress and I, especially with an idea comes up on just to go, I don't, I don't think this is a good idea for XYZ reason.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I need to be clear on if I.
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[SPEAKER_02]: How attached I am to that idea because sometimes I'm like, it's a five out of ten.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Okay, what do you think on dress?
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[SPEAKER_02]: I could take it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I can leave it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: For example, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: We got invited to a conference.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I saw the benefits of it for a few different reasons.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Also, was the timing could have been a little questionable.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I was up to five out of ten to be honest.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I threw it to on dress.
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[SPEAKER_02]: What do you think?
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't think it's a good use of our time.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And here's why.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I was like, okay.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We didn't have to have a conversation.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I moved on.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I wasn't attached.
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[SPEAKER_02]: If I was a 10 out of 10, probably would have had a conversation.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So my point in this is for yourself rank how attached or how connected you are to an idea, especially for the visionaries, because not everything's a 10 out of 10.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Not everything's a zero out of 10, because then you don't feel excited about anything.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So get clear and then you can have that conversation in dialogue, not about everything, but about certain things.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And one thing that we do with each other, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's connecting the dots.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So when we're presented in idea, we always share, okay, besides attending the conference, those are the goals that I would like to accomplish there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Cause sometimes it's just not attending a conference.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There's multiple goals that you want to, you know, cure a few birds with one stone.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So when you're talking to your partner, it doesn't matter when I'm talking to Liz and when she's talking to me, I need to paint a very clear picture and connect that action that I'm looking to take to our vision, to our goals that we're looking to accomplish.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So we are always in alignment.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But just say, hey, I want to do this, like point blank.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I am not, that would be an immediate no.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I used to do that, and I was like, oh, man, this is not, this is not working.
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[SPEAKER_00]: My number one, it's how long we took to build a relationship first, before we started doing business together.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I think when I look back, we had our friendship first for two years.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then we did our first joint venture agreement was a rehab together.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then we expand from there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The reason why I'm saying it's super important for you to be the relationship first before becoming business partners is that during that two-year period, I could evaluate lists work ethic.
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[SPEAKER_00]: how does she show up?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because many times was, hey, let's align on values.
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[SPEAKER_00]: How do you do that?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, you do that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Not in Zoom.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Outside Zoom, did she show up to the calls, the masterminds that we had on time?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Was she prepared, was she engaged?
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[SPEAKER_00]: During our coffee meetings at Panera Bread, how did she show up?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Did she cancel on me last minute?
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[SPEAKER_00]: right was she supported or was she always taking in and not giving it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So throughout those two years we we created a relationship that I could see how we should she would treat the the waitress.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I know Liz has cash on her her wallet and I love cash.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm being done.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm going to time.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I love cash.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: So situations where we could see how one would show up for the other.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that is a super solid foundation for our business.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Not something that we had to go through it as we become business partners.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I know I could rely on her and she knew she could rely on me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So we were able to really get into alignment.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Even regards to our values before we started our business together.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Absolutely.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I think that's so critical, especially in example we heard the other day from somebody in our mastermind about the working together, the partner together, and they know each other for a year.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: And that's to me, that's, you gotta be mindful of how long you've known someone, especially if you're putting a lot of money and time and, you know,
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[SPEAKER_02]: blood sweat and tears, be mind-flow of that, take it slow, I think that's great, great advice.
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[SPEAKER_02]: All right, so here's my number two.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We keep communication, current, and honest, and we hear a lot about communication, and I don't think that again, that's anything new.
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[SPEAKER_02]: However, when I really think about our communication, right, me and adjust this communication over the years, there's a certain
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[SPEAKER_02]: And it has to be honest, and it has to be current, meaning, you know, when we've had breakdowns, which we've had our share of breakdowns or disconnects, are we keeping the communication moving forward?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Are we are we learning from that breakdown from a communication perspective, from a, you know, there's a lot of pieces of that puzzle you're trying to understand.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So when you're working with someone, when we've worked together,
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[SPEAKER_02]: I think that the part is that we don't just how positively think, hey, this is a Tuesday afternoon, here's what's not working with each other.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Like, no, you're in, you're in, like, do mode, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Especially as you're building a business.
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[SPEAKER_02]: you're not every moment, hey, I'm just even hour to talk to me about how you talk to me the other day.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Like, no, I don't have time for that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't even have time for that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But it's important to create space to have that conversation.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's what I think most people with romantic relationships as well as business partnerships don't do.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So something that we've done really well and I'm very proud of the work we've done.
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[SPEAKER_02]: is on a monthly basis.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We have strategic meetings to talk about the business itself, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Strategic decisions that need to get met, met what are we looking forward to for the next quarter, what's working, what's not on a business level.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We also talk about what's working and not working.
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[SPEAKER_02]: within our just our world, whether it's our partnership, whether it's us personally, what's like coming up for ourselves?
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[SPEAKER_02]: And that's the time to share, hey, I'm thinking about this or, and I'm just an eye are evolving as people we're evolving as business partners and there's seasons of life, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: There's seasons that we're all in, and we need to be open and communicative with each other.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm grateful for that space to have with each other so we could talk about that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: In a way that works and a way that gives you space to have it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Versus me out of left, left field one day, calling on dress.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Hey, this is what's coming up for me.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Friday afternoon.
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[SPEAKER_02]: She's not going to be, well, our worst conversations have always been funny.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Best or worst, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Probably.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yes.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But really, when it comes to it is being clear up for yourself, what's coming up for you, you know, and what's working, what's not into create that language with each other, I think as hands down, been the key to partnering as long as we have.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't think we would be here if it wasn't for that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, my number two is also that we are monthly, we're going to not, all right, we've got a batch.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Our monthly strategic meetings, and when we meet, as Liz said, we start with where you are at as people.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes Liz is sharing something personal that is going on that gives me more context.
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[SPEAKER_00]: to be more empathetic, more patient, more understanding of her.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And same thing with me, we always start with that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Despite how urgent it is for us to talk about different goals, we always start with that in a monthly basis.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And one key for us is the following.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's recurring and it's on the calendar for the entire year already.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, you're not like, oh, can you do this day?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Can you do that day?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, I cannot do that day.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I can do that.
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[UNKNOWN]: No.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's on the calendar for the entire year.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We already know, unless, of course, there's something that is, say, hey, this month, that day is not gonna work.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Let's find another time, totally flexible to that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But it's not something that we need to, oh, we forgot to have our monthly meeting.
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[SPEAKER_00]: No, it's on the calendar.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So do yourself a favor to you and your business partner.
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[SPEAKER_00]: have that conversation and create that framework.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So the framework that we use is very simple.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We start with where you're at, let's come in out for you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then we go into our goals.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And we separate it into buckets.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So let's say we have different projects that we're going on.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We have financials.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We have marketing, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: We have our strive members.
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[SPEAKER_00]: What can we improve?
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[SPEAKER_00]: What are the bottlenecks?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then we establish actions, not goals.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There's a different between a goal and an action.
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[SPEAKER_00]: An action is, I can say, hey, I really need to have a clear picture of our cash flow for the quarter.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's a goal.
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[SPEAKER_00]: An action is.
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[SPEAKER_00]: call or schedule a meeting with our bookkeeper in order to go over the current cash flow, what's missing and what we need to put in place.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So keeping mind that when we are talking, we are converting our goals into actions.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So it's super clear and measurable.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I think having that every single month had allow us to create
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[SPEAKER_00]: muscle to that's how we do business, that's how we keep ourselves in check in alignment, our business growing, in alignment to the season that we're in.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So that was my number two as well.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I would also say in that process, our recommendation is the more strategic in person,
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[SPEAKER_02]: that you can do with your partners the better and sometimes you may not live in the same city or live in the same area that we, you know, hurt on just a night could meet and it's not too far away.
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[SPEAKER_02]: However, I would say make it a point, especially if you have to get on a plane or that it's not convenient.
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[SPEAKER_02]: There's something about in person that Zoom and phone calls just don't just can't, you know, quite too.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So even not a, you know, quarterly level or, you know, every six months.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I would, depending on how
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[SPEAKER_02]: how your businesses and how we talk in one single family, rehab, all right.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Well, maybe that's a little different, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Maybe once or twice a year.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But if you have a growing business with multiple properties and multiple areas of the country, I would be I would be seeing that personal more off.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I may be not monthly.
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[SPEAKER_02]: certainly quarterly.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So just remember in person is the key because there's things that's just hard to say on Zoom and hard to say on the phone, but when you're in person, you really have that ability to connect.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And you also give the space for the other person during the strategic meeting, you give the person the space to also say that things that are not working.
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[SPEAKER_00]: because that's what's working and what's not working.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So it's expected that she's going to say something that's not working.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm going to say something that is not working.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And the agreement that we are having is that it's not personal.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's not personal.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's the business.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that is super important.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Liz, what's your number three?
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[SPEAKER_02]: All right.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So number three, I have is we both do the work to grow.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Oh, shut them.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Is that the third, is that your third team?
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[SPEAKER_00]: 10.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We had two, we had two, we had one that that was different.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's not that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I really do believe if it wasn't for that, it's hard to successfully partner with people and grow together.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Tell them, like, what do you mean?
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[SPEAKER_00]: So people listening know what the hell where you're talking about, growing my hair, growing my eyelashes.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, all those things are growing, but I saw this somewhere, I don't remember where, but a partnership can't outgrow the people in it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Meaning, your partnership can't grow without individuals growing themselves.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And we all grow in different ways.
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[SPEAKER_02]: The things that I'm growing through and trying to be my best self, if you will,
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[SPEAKER_02]: is different than on dresser okay that's that's natural that's that's that's just the case you want to be mindful of what you're working on and also how are you how are you elevating and so for me.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's been a journey from my 20s, my 30s to my 40s.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I think one of the things I really appreciated about on dresses that we always had this shared, we both valued growing.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I knew that about her and she knew that about me.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So it wasn't like, she's like, yeah, I've gone to this weekend.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I've done this and I was like, oh, I'm not in tanny of that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't think that would have been a match.
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[SPEAKER_02]: One of the weekends that we both did before we partnered together that actually has been made an impact in both of our with our partnership has been landmark forum.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So we did it at different times.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I did it many years before I dress up because I'm I'm old now I'm joking.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But I did it in 08, and I remember so much from that workshop.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And if you know anything about me, I retain things only that in certain ways.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I do retain things.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But I remember so much and same with Andreas and we use that language as we're working together.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So the fact that we did this weekend and we're working on ourselves, and I learned
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[SPEAKER_02]: you know, uh, that weekend's all about personal growth.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So how do you do with conflict?
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[SPEAKER_02]: That was one of the moments that I started having more difficult conversations than authentic conversations with people.
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[SPEAKER_02]: One of the first times in my life, that door was starting to be opened.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's a muscle I've developed over the years, but that was the first time I actually had some difficult conversations that I just hadn't had.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so again, growing myself on dressa has had her own path of growing curious what what things to to mention, as we've grown as partners and as leaders, other things come up, children, you know, you have children, you have growing businesses.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You know, I didn't realize I had as much anxiety as I did.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I, I worked through that to, I did my own ketamine treatments and things like that that were really helpful for me.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And it wasn't like I'm just like either do ketamine or redone or anything like that at all.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's not what I'm saying here.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But our paths have been, this is my path to growth.
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[SPEAKER_02]: This is what looks like to me to be my best self.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And if I'm a better version of me, I'm going to be a better mom.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm going to be a better wife.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm going to be a better leader.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Wherever it's, it's, it's independent, but it's, it's connected.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That makes sense.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's not just
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[SPEAKER_02]: I was doing a lot of growth so I could be a better version of myself, period, which then impacts everything I'm involved in, if that makes sense.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I really don't think a partnership can grow or sustain
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[SPEAKER_02]: if you're not willing to do the work for yourself so that you can be the best version of yourself.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't know how that happens.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I have that in my marriage.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I have that with other people that are close to me, but I don't know how that works on dress it for people who aren't willing to do the work.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's not my world.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's not my world.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So it's it's a foreigner thing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And you mentioned that your marriage, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: A partnership, it's a marriage and like a couple of therapy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It only works when one person has done the work.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Otherwise, here's what
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[SPEAKER_00]: from my experience happen.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You think you have a business or a partnership issue and is actually an individual issue.
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[SPEAKER_00]: What happens is when people start resenting each other for whatever the subject is.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I carry my own traumas, my own experiences, my own lessons, my own values, let's stand on her own.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't need to carry her and she does not need to carry me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Emotionally, when there is an imbalance into that in the partnership, it's brutal.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It really is.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So in our relationship here, we always say, I care enough about you to stand.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So when I know that Liz is triggered, or when she knows I am triggered about something, we bring that to the surface and we talk about it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And we process, you hear that my son knows of that biz, we process things, and we close the loop.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Many partnerships are not working because they are avoiding having conversations and they have open tabs.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Open tabs, think about it at your computer, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Has a lot of open tabs.
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[SPEAKER_00]: that are there, they're consuming energy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Same thing with ourselves.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're consuming energy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's running, rent, free inside our own hands.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So when you process with a person, you have a complete conversation.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You close that tab and you move along.
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[SPEAKER_00]: When it's open,
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[SPEAKER_00]: it is just a pile of compound resentment, then starts building and then once something happens that it's not even a big deal, it goes through the other person's face, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: So we really encourage all of you to look within what can you take responsibility, what can you put in place in order
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[SPEAKER_00]: in a more productive way for the relationship with boundaries.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Can you put in place?
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[SPEAKER_00]: practice verbalizing that with your business partner.
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[SPEAKER_00]: For God's sake, if you cannot have those conversations with your business partner, because she or he or they are going to be mad.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, so be it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So create that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: What does mad look like?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And why is that triggering?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like, have a conversation about that dynamic and put something in place that works, getting to alignment or not?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: So the realignment conversations always happen behind the scene.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I think that if we haven't done the work ourselves, let's say, oh, you know, that conflict, that fight that we had, actually had nothing to do with the fight itself because in my childhood, when that happened, that trigger my nervous system.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I always react like that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: freaking awareness, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Did Liz do something to trigger me on purpose?
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[SPEAKER_00]: No, did I do something to hurt to trigger her on purpose?
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[SPEAKER_00]: No, is it about the issue?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't even know what will our last conflict about.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, why?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know because we close it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We process it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It is done.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't keep a tab of all the conflicts and and shit that Liz go through
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's complete.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If there's something still lingering, so it's important that we continue having that conversation, but it always starts with a commitment with ourselves.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And before I end this, I want to just be very clear.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There's nothing broken that needs to be fixed.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But there's a lot of layers that you have added to you that you need to let go of, the no longer serve you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: To be quiet on us, don't even belong to you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It might be from other generations that were passed on.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So the goal here is to really peel how the layers then no longer serve us.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But you can't be done if you're not aware of it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And we link to do the work and that takes courage.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Relous.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, it takes a lot of courage and it's not for everyone.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's why as you're as you're seeking partners and depending on the level of partnership right if you're doing a flip with them.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's one level if you're you know building them.
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[SPEAKER_02]: a business and a movement, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: And Justin, we're not just running a business, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: We're we're very mission oriented in the sense of we want to impact the world.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And we are impacting the world by supporting women taking control of their financial future.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's a big thing.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's a big meaningful
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[SPEAKER_02]: movement.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So for us to be on this journey together, as our roles evolve, as our time evolved, as our interests evolve, as people, as women, we need to continually be authentic to ourselves and authentic to each other.
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[SPEAKER_02]: When you have that with someone, keep going, do the monthly meetings, make sure you're communicating honestly, but communicate honestly with yourself,
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't think people are honest enough with themselves first to be honest with somebody else.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And if you're someone that wants to get into a partnership, feeling very confident, or if you're somebody that you are in a partnership right now, that's not working.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Or if you're somebody that had a bad experience with partnerships in the past, but you do understand how can you leverage it to grow your real estate business?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And you want to learn more about it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We are going to New York City.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're preparing
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[SPEAKER_00]: on exercises, talking about the pre-nup, what you need to do before you get into a relationship, how to leverage each other's skills and experiences, and when conflict hits, how can you handle it?
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[SPEAKER_00]: We have Cass and Mike Losero, they wrote the book, shoveling shit, and they have been in business for decades, and they also bear it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So they know a lot about partnerships.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So if you are in New York or around the area, we invite you to join us, we're going to keep all the information that you need below.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I hope to see you there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Thank you.
