ABOUT THIS EPISODE
What happens when you discover your true gender identity in your 30s while married, raising four kids, and living in the religious heart of America?
In this profoundly moving episode, Britt Sandoval shares their powerful story of coming out as nonbinary, navigating spiritual deconstruction, and radically redefining parenting, love, and selfhood all in real time.
This conversation explores the complexities of gender identity, parenting, and faith with depth, humor, and radical honesty. Heather and Britt cover:
- How Britt’s journey of self-discovery impacted their marriage, family, and faith
- The process of rebuilding a relationship through truth, trust, and deep emotional labor
- How to talk to children about identity, inclusion, and authenticity from a young age
- What it means to be a present, emotionally intelligent parent while navigating personal transformation
- The role of deconstruction and healing in finding wholeness
This episode is for every parent, ally, LGBTQ+ person, and human seeking to live with more courage, love, and integrity, even when it breaks the rules you were raised with.
You’ll walk away with a renewed belief in the power of honest parenting, queer joy, and the importance of healing the parts of us we were taught to hide.
Press play to hear a transformative story about what it means to become your truest self and raise children who know how to do the same.
Because living fully and loving honestly is the most radical kind of parenting there is.
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Britt Sandoval is an inspiring keynote speaker, entrepreneur, and thought leader with a unique blend of experience in authentic leadership, healthcare, and entrepreneurship. As the founder of Your Feeding Friend LLC, Britt has empowered countless families while building a thriving business. With a background as a registered nurse and expertise in inclusive leadership, Britt brings valuable insights into effective leadership and inclusive work environments.
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More Human. More Kind. formerly Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen is a safe and supportive podcast in a heartfelt and empowering space where a mom and advocate offers practical guidance and education to parents and allies, fostering empathy, kindness, love, and strong boundaries while supporting LGBTQ teens and the diverse LGBTQ community—including gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans, transgender, and queer individuals—through conversations about mental health, grief, gender identity, sexual orientation, human rights, social justice, parenting, parent support, and meaningful LGBTQ allyship and allyship in action.
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SHOW NOTES 🔗
TRANSCRIPT 🔗
00:01:13
Thank you so much for being here today.
Host
00:01:15
I am really excited to have you on the show and for everyone to get to know you a little bit better and get to just learn from you, because I think that you've had some really.
Host
00:01:27
Just had really cool and interesting things that have gone on in your life.
Host
00:01:32
So we're just going to start right there and I'd love for you to share just a little bit about who you are.
Host
00:01:40
Yeah.
Guest
00:01:41
Thanks so much.
Guest
00:01:42
I'm honestly so honored and excited to be chatting with you.
Guest
00:01:45
So my story is definitely on the unique side, but honestly, I don't think it's unique anymore.
Guest
00:01:51
I think a lot of us are finding out who we are later in life.
Guest
00:01:54
So I grew up in a pretty traditional home, was pretty sheltered from a lot of things, grew up in a kind of religious home, got married very young, out the gate like I was supposed to do.
Guest
00:02:07
So I married my best friend when I was 20 years old.
Guest
00:02:10
And of course we started.
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00:02:13
We weren't planning on having kids right away, but I had was diagnosed with endometriosis when I was 19.
Guest
00:02:19
And so they told me if we didn't have quids kid or if we didn't have kids quickly, then I might not be able to biologically carry my own children.
Guest
00:02:27
And that our original plan was to wait 10 years and then start having kids since we were young, but that just put everything upside down.
Guest
00:02:36
So we had kids pretty quickly.
Guest
00:02:39
Two of our daughters.
Guest
00:02:40
We had three biological daughters.
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00:02:42
Two of them were born with a rare genetic disorder.
Guest
00:02:46
And it was really the first thing that started to change our worldviews a little bit and our perspectives.
Guest
00:02:53
And when you go from doing the best and things are great to your world is completely upside down and you are now those people who are struggling to survive financially and you don't have the supports that you need, it really shifts things for you.
Guest
00:03:11
And I think we started our deconstruction process at that point when we really started to feel a lack of support from our church community.
Guest
00:03:22
And just in general, we really were struggling to find peace and understanding in just difficult circumstances.
Guest
00:03:32
And then Covid happened, my husband.
Guest
00:03:35
Hold on.
Guest
00:03:36
Before COVID happened, we got to a point where our medical bills were so insurmountable that there was no way that we were going to be able to get out unless we figured out some miraculous way.
Guest
00:03:49
And so my husband decided to join the military at 27.
Guest
00:03:54
And so we went from me being the primary breadwinner.
Guest
00:03:58
I was I a registered nurse.
Guest
00:04:00
I worked in pediatric ER and trauma, which was My love for many years and was doing that full time to him staying home with the kids and running a part time graphic design business.
Guest
00:04:11
To him up and leaving and becoming a pilot in the military.
Guest
00:04:15
And so that kind of threw our world upside down again.
Guest
00:04:20
But when we were forced to move away from our family, it really changed the dynamic and our ability to explore who we were in our marriage and who we were individually and our beliefs separately from what our community had was set up as.
Guest
00:04:35
And it was honestly one of the best things.
Guest
00:04:37
I say genuinely, I don't think we would still be married if he would not have joined the military.
Guest
00:04:42
But it was difficult.
Guest
00:04:44
And then Covid happened.
Guest
00:04:45
We were away from family and we were really forced to be isolated with ourselves.
Guest
00:04:50
And the lesbian TikTok situation happened and I started to really was at a point in my life where I felt safe enough to start evaluating who I was as a human.
Guest
00:05:02
I had never been in a safe enough circumstance to do that.
Guest
00:05:06
And my partner's absolutely incredible and was like, no, like I known you've been gay.
Guest
00:05:14
Like you've always been gay.
Guest
00:05:15
And he's Brittany, like people don't like make out with like their friends when they're drunk unless you're gay.
Guest
00:05:25
I'm like, oh, I just thought, I just thought those like things that like all friend groups did.
Guest
00:05:30
And he's no Brittany, like I've known this forever.
Guest
00:05:33
That's always been a part of you.
Guest
00:05:34
And I'm like, oh, okay.
Guest
00:05:36
So I came out pansexual shortly after the pandemic started and we just were exploring what that meant for me.
Guest
00:05:43
And when I really started getting deep into therapy and figuring out I struggled with some eating dis.
Guest
00:05:52
With an eating disorder and some drug addiction in my teenage hoods, dealing with some trauma and it really started to click for me that all of my body dysmorphia was linked to gender dysphoria that I was realizing I had as a 32 year old woman in a heterosexual marriage of over a decade with three kids.
Guest
00:06:15
And it really just makes you like question every experience you've ever had in your life.
Guest
00:06:21
And.
Guest
00:06:22
But it's also been like the most freeing and magical thing for my marriage and my relationship relationships and what I'm doing now in the community and what I'm hoping to do.
Guest
00:06:32
And so it's just been a really interesting experience and I'm.
Guest
00:06:38
It's been a roller coaster, but it's.
Host
00:06:40
Been great I would imagine.
Host
00:06:43
Oh my goodness.
Host
00:06:45
So you are still married?
Guest
00:06:48
Yes.
Host
00:06:48
And how is your husband now?
Guest
00:06:52
Amazing.
Host
00:06:53
Amazing.
Host
00:06:54
And yeah, clearly would have to be my goodness.
Host
00:06:57
And just affirming.
Host
00:06:58
And how old are your kids now and do they have.
Host
00:07:03
If you talk to them about it?
Host
00:07:05
And I'm just so curious.
Guest
00:07:07
Yeah.
Guest
00:07:08
My spouse has been amazing.
Guest
00:07:10
When I really started to question my gender identity and, like, what that meant for me, he was very supportive and was like, it doesn't.
Guest
00:07:23
Doesn't change who you were yesterday at all.
Guest
00:07:27
And we are in a very, like, privileged place.
Guest
00:07:30
And I am very at the point where, like, I'm very passing as cisgender and there's a lot of those gender roles in my communities.
Guest
00:07:38
And so we.
Guest
00:07:41
I'm not currently, like, seeking to transition outwardly.
Guest
00:07:46
Like, I'm not on hrt.
Guest
00:07:48
I'm not planning any type of top surgery or anything at this point.
Guest
00:07:52
It's definitely not off the table, but it's not at this point where we're at.
Guest
00:07:56
And he's just been really amazing about being like, we'll work it out and we'll talk it through.
Guest
00:08:02
And at the end of the day, like, I love your soul and who you are as a person.
Guest
00:08:07
And that's.
Guest
00:08:07
He's.
Guest
00:08:08
I've seen your body change over the last 12 years.
Guest
00:08:11
What's a few.
Guest
00:08:12
What's more changes?
Guest
00:08:13
If that's what makes you happy.
Guest
00:08:15
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Guest
00:08:18
He's.
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Seriously.
Guest
00:08:20
I could not.
Guest
00:08:21
We met in preschool, and we were best friends in elementary school, and I moved around a lot in my middle childhood, but we found each other on Facebook again when we were sophomores in high school and became best friends again.
Guest
00:08:38
And we didn't date until we were sophomores in college and we were both single for the first time.
Guest
00:08:44
And we had helped each other through relationship problems and parental problems and divorce of his parents and things.
Guest
00:08:51
And it was.
Guest
00:08:53
What if we tried this, like, dating thing, like, just to see.
Guest
00:08:56
And it was.
Guest
00:08:57
We were engaged within five months and got married a year later.
Guest
00:09:01
And I wouldn't rather.
Guest
00:09:03
I wouldn't spend my life with anybody else.
Guest
00:09:05
Honestly, there's nobody else I would want to do life with for sure.
Host
00:09:09
I think there's a lot to be said when you find your soulmate.
Host
00:09:13
Right.
Host
00:09:13
You don't.
Host
00:09:14
We don't really think about that phrase, but I think the phrase in and of itself is that's who your soul is connected to, not your physical body.
Host
00:09:25
Right.
Host
00:09:26
So when you have that kind of connection with someone, it's very magical.
Host
00:09:31
It is.
Host
00:09:31
It.
Host
00:09:32
And I think to your.
Host
00:09:33
The point of your story and to everything that, you know, you have just been learning about yourself and is really beautiful.
Host
00:09:41
Really beautiful.
Host
00:09:42
And speaks to that.
Guest
00:09:43
Appreciate it.
Guest
00:09:44
Our kids, we have three biological kiddos, and we actually just finalized the adoption of our son last week.
Guest
00:09:51
So we are a full family of six now.
Guest
00:09:55
Thank you so much.
Guest
00:09:56
But our girls are 10, 6, and 5, and our son is 3, and they are very aware.
Guest
00:10:06
We've.
Guest
00:10:07
It's interesting because I was such a proponent and an ally for the LGBTQ community, because once you find, like, your soulmate and you understand that connection, even when I was in a heterosexual connection and I viewed our.
Guest
00:10:19
My relationship as such, I could just never imagine neglecting other people of that connection, regardless.
Guest
00:10:27
And so I was always a huge ally.
Guest
00:10:29
And honestly, it was one of the first things that made me start to question my religion and Christianity's beliefs and how I wanted to live that out in my life.
Guest
00:10:38
And it was a real internal struggle for me.
Guest
00:10:40
And so I was a very loud and proud ally for a long time before.
Guest
00:10:45
And then I was like, oh, that matters, because it really does matter.
Guest
00:10:50
Oh, wait, yeah, yeah.
Guest
00:10:53
But it was always something that was very talked about and open in our home.
Guest
00:10:57
And like, we always.
Guest
00:10:58
We've always celebrated pride, and we always talked about differences and diversity of families and things like that.
Guest
00:11:04
We are a foster family or where we are anymore, but we're a foster family for three years.
Guest
00:11:09
And so you see a lot of what families look like, and there's a lot of different dynamics for families.
Guest
00:11:15
And so for our kids, it wasn't an outlandish thing.
Guest
00:11:21
I had.
Guest
00:11:23
I publicly, just actually publicly came out in March on Transgender Awareness Day, visibility Awareness Day in March.
Guest
00:11:31
And I told my kids right away that that's what that was mean and what that day meant and how that was applicable to our lives didn't even shock them.
Guest
00:11:41
Like, it was like.
Guest
00:11:42
It was like, I told them that I bought a new pair of shoes or something.
Guest
00:11:46
Oh, okay, cool, Mom.
Guest
00:11:47
And then even that evening, the kids were all playing together, and one of the.
Guest
00:11:53
My six year old referred to me with Hershey pronouns, which is totally fine.
Guest
00:11:56
I'm Hershey, they them.
Guest
00:11:57
It's been very much.
Guest
00:11:59
But my oldest goes, hey, don't forget, Mom's non binary, so she prefers they them pronouns.
Guest
00:12:06
Them.
Guest
00:12:06
Oh, they prefer them pronouns now.
Guest
00:12:09
And it was like, oh, it was just amazing that it wasn't a thing.
Guest
00:12:14
Because it wasn't a thing.
Guest
00:12:15
And it didn't change my relationship with them.
Guest
00:12:18
It didn't change the dynamic in our home.
Guest
00:12:20
It didn't change how I cared for them or love them or their dad.
Guest
00:12:24
And like, they were, like, it was not a thing.
Guest
00:12:26
And it was amazing because it wasn't.
Host
00:12:29
I love that.
Host
00:12:30
I love that so much.
Host
00:12:31
And that is such a great modeling of, of how to talk about it at home.
Host
00:12:37
And it's never, they're never too young to have these conversations because it's talking about human beings, other human beings.
Host
00:12:45
It's not stuff that's age appropriate.
Host
00:12:48
There are levels of age appropriateness if you're going to go into, like, details of things, but if you're just talking about, like, this is a human being and this is who they are in this world.
Guest
00:12:59
Yep.
Host
00:13:00
So thank you.
Guest
00:13:00
And it's wild to me, like, I feel like society so interesting that we put.
Guest
00:13:07
We push gender norms so much on children and that's age appropriate.
Guest
00:13:13
Why is breaking out of a gender norm age inappropriate?
Guest
00:13:19
So I, and I, I from.
Guest
00:13:21
I believe this way in all areas of life.
Guest
00:13:23
If a child's old enough to experience racism, my child is old enough to know what racism is and how to be against it if it's the same experience.
Guest
00:13:31
And our kids are going to be experienced or be exposed to things through life.
Guest
00:13:36
And as parents, you know, I talk about this a lot on my podcast about that is that our goal as parents isn't to protect our children so that they don't have difficult things that they've experienced.
Guest
00:13:53
Our job as a parent is to teach our children these tools on how to handle these experiences and how to be aware with themselves.
Guest
00:14:02
So that way, when they get out into the real world, they've had practice with it and it's not the first time that they've experienced it.
Guest
00:14:08
Yes.
Guest
00:14:09
And we just have to really change that narrative of we can't teach kids this about this because it's.
Guest
00:14:16
They don't know about that yet.
Guest
00:14:18
You're right, they don't.
Guest
00:14:19
But we also get to influence how they learn about that and what they learn about that.
Guest
00:14:23
And they're either going to go out into the universe and they're going to see not healthy ways to manage that, or I can show them the way that is going to help them be a better human.
Host
00:14:35
Exactly.
Host
00:14:36
That is exactly it.
Host
00:14:37
That is one of our most important jobs as a parent.
Host
00:14:43
Right.
Host
00:14:44
Help them and to teach them and waiting.
Host
00:14:49
I'm actually watching this right now with a friend of mine who has a child who is the same age as my oldest, so almost 24, and grew up a very different way and very much in a bubble and is now really struggling with like, the different truths and realities of the world and how to handle different things that are just surprising to me that it was not.
Host
00:15:18
Why wasn't this a discussion 5 years ago or 10 years ago?
Host
00:15:22
And now, like, this child, the young adult, is traumatized by things that it's, oh, honey, these are things that, like, I just want to take them and have these conversations now and be like, okay, you've got this.
Host
00:15:35
Yeah.
Host
00:15:36
You know, and here are some coping mechanisms.
Host
00:15:40
Right.
Host
00:15:40
And here are some supports over here.
Host
00:15:42
And here's a list of things that you can say and just all the things.
Host
00:15:46
So to you.
Host
00:15:47
Bravo.
Host
00:15:48
Especially at the ages that your kids are, because it's.
Host
00:15:52
They're going to grow up just having this knowledge and having it be just part of who they are, their lives, and they're going to go out into the world and they're going to be great allies and educators and voices and.
Host
00:16:08
Yeah.
Host
00:16:09
Things.
Guest
00:16:09
And.
Guest
00:16:10
And so when I speak to audiences on unlocking abundance and living in authenticity, I talk about this with leadership teams and things like that.
Guest
00:16:18
Because regardless of what we're leading or managing, whether it's your family team or your work team or your friend team, you're in these relationships and networks with people on all levels of your life.
Guest
00:16:34
And when we can get to this point where we are able to live in our authenticity and we can genuinely be aware of who we are, that spills to the people in our life.
Guest
00:16:44
And that is the biggest gift that we can give anybody that we interact with is a safe space to be their authentic self, because we are already presenting with our authenticity.
Guest
00:16:56
And that is just such a beautiful thing.
Guest
00:16:59
And honestly, I think that is going to be one of the only ways we're really going to change the world with.
Guest
00:17:04
Where we're at in this point is getting to the point of we have to just get rid of all of the material stuff and the specific markers of success that we're told and really start to reconnect with our own humanhood and so that we can connect with other humans around us.
Host
00:17:22
Absolutely.
Host
00:17:23
Oh, my goodness.
Host
00:17:24
And being able to see each other as human, because that is certainly one of the first things that goes right.
Host
00:17:32
So I think that's really phenomenal.
Host
00:17:34
I'd like to back up just for a moment to something you said a little bit ago that is definitely a, I think, a buzzword topic, but a topic that is very important, which is deconstruction.
Host
00:17:47
And that is something that I think many of us are encountering.
Host
00:17:53
And I know when I first heard the word less than a year ago, and I'm a number of years older than you.
Host
00:18:00
I was like, oh, that's what I've been doing.
Host
00:18:03
Like I didn't have a name for it, but I was like, that's what this is and that's what this feeling is.
Host
00:18:09
So I'd love to talk a little bit about that, even though that's not necessarily the theme of our discussion.
Host
00:18:15
But I think it's really important information to share with others who might find themselves in these places of like how I'm feeling, what I'm seeing in the world, like it's not matching up with what I think Christianity is supposed to be.
Host
00:18:33
Right.
Host
00:18:34
What we're taught as little kids or whatever, it's very different.
Host
00:18:37
I was actually listening to a podcast earlier today and somebody was like talked, was talking about people like us, like we're considered the nuns, like those who have no religious affiliation, but there's still like a belief in a greater power and we are spiritually connected human beings.
Host
00:18:56
So I'm going to turn this over to you to talk about a little bit because I'd love to hear your thoughts and wisdom on this as well.
Guest
00:19:02
Yeah, so it's been a really, it's been a very interesting thing for me.
Guest
00:19:07
Religion and my Christian experience genuinely saved my life.
Guest
00:19:11
I was very drug addicted as a teen and was literally withering away into nothing with anorexia and bulimia.
Guest
00:19:20
And my parents threw me into Sendaway church camp as like a last minute, I don't know what to do.
Guest
00:19:29
And it was interesting how like when you're wandering around in nature and writing difficult things and burning it in bonfires and around live music and a bunch of crying people like how healing that really is.
Guest
00:19:41
And you like it automatically connected that I automatically in anybody's right mind, you connect that with religion.
Guest
00:19:48
Right.
Guest
00:19:48
And, and what I felt was like being spoken from the Holy Spirit and all of these things.
Guest
00:19:55
And so for me, when I started deconstructing and I started going through therapy and pulling away layers, I realized the layers I was having to pull away were a lot of the limits and expectations that had been placed on me by society, but primarily by my religious beliefs and the people around me.
Guest
00:20:19
And it, it was really honestly, the death of George Floyd was one of the first big things for me that happened publicly that really made me start to question whether I wanted to be aligned with the Christian church.
Guest
00:20:37
And it was, you know, shortly then thereafter you had Breonna Taylor and then you had Covid Onset and we knew specifically how much that was affecting minority populations and Then as an immunocompromised individual myself, I have lupus.
Guest
00:20:54
It was really the.
Guest
00:20:56
Each layer of like, how do I feel about this instance?
Guest
00:21:01
Like in this instance I felt like I had to pick which side do I, did I fall on the side of humanity or did I fall on the side of Christianity?
Guest
00:21:09
And it I'm going back and I'm being told, oh, if you're questioning yourself, go pour yourself into the Bible and make sure you're getting with the texts.
Guest
00:21:18
And I did that.
Guest
00:21:19
And as I'm sitting there and I'm reading these texts about how that those are the people that Jesus loved and Jesus helped and you're reading the actions of the Pharisees and you're like, but that is the Christian church.
Guest
00:21:35
And it's just, it was weird for me that like one of the times that I did pour myself most into my religion to try and make sense of it was really when it became most apparent for me that I could not be involved with the Christian church.
Guest
00:21:53
And so it, it left me in this weird spot of do I believe in God or do I not believe in God?
Guest
00:21:58
Do I believe in Jesus or do I not believe in Jesus?
Guest
00:22:01
And if I don't, what do I believe in?
Guest
00:22:03
Because I, that's what I had believed in my whole life and was told to believe in my whole life.
Guest
00:22:09
And that was the only option that I knew that was acceptable.
Guest
00:22:13
I knew there were other options, but those are going to get me to hell.
Guest
00:22:16
So yeah, so it was really hard.
Guest
00:22:18
And so I really.
Guest
00:22:20
That's honestly when I started developing my own mindset and framework that I, that's what I speak on how actually about self connection and the difference of.
Guest
00:22:31
About of self awareness versus self connection and what that means and how do we harness self connection and how do we live in self alignment?
Guest
00:22:39
In what ways does that help us harness authenticity and essentially unlock our abundance?
Guest
00:22:46
And that was it.
Guest
00:22:47
I had to create this framework where I started to have to look at each individual circumstance that popped up in my life and I had to trace it back to each individual feeling that I had about it.
Guest
00:22:59
And not just that makes me feel upset, but like, why am I disappointed because I was let down or do I feel like my time was disrespected?
Guest
00:23:07
Do, whether it was a little thing or a big life worldview thing, like why do I feel all of these different emotions?
Guest
00:23:16
And then I started really realizing that the thing that kept me grounded and kept me in this abundance mindset, in this moving forward mindset had nothing to do with the powers beyond me, that it had all to do with the power in me and that I was in charge of that.
Guest
00:23:33
And that was really the last deconstructing piece that, like, I, I, if there is a God, I am loving every human being with my whole soul.
Guest
00:23:43
I am pouring myself into my community and the people that I love and I care about.
Guest
00:23:48
And I'm trying to do better in the world.
Guest
00:23:50
And I am genuinely feel like I am connected to the energy that surges within me and how that connects to the world around me and the end of my life.
Guest
00:23:59
If there is a big guy with pearly gates, how are you going to say that I didn't live how you told me to live?
Guest
00:24:07
And if it's not I.
Guest
00:24:09
If that's not what ends happens and I end up a bird for my next lifetime, that's great too.
Guest
00:24:14
I'm not gonna live with regrets.
Guest
00:24:16
And that's where I've found my happiness.
Host
00:24:19
Yeah, it's very freeing.
Host
00:24:21
Yeah, very freeing.
Host
00:24:23
It's very uncomfortable at first, and then it's very freeing.
Host
00:24:28
And I'm still myself in the process of doing so.
Host
00:24:31
But I think that I appreciate you sharing that and sharing your whole journey through that, because I think that it's a term that's maybe not very well understood by those who are on the outside or just hearing and being like, wait, what on earth is this thing?
Guest
00:24:47
Yeah.
Host
00:24:48
And I think.
Host
00:24:49
And also to your point, I remember doing that too, and being like, but Jesus is this.
Host
00:24:54
Here's all the Christ, like, things, right?
Host
00:24:57
And that's what we're doing.
Host
00:24:58
Like, why are we.
Host
00:24:59
Why is that?
Host
00:25:00
I.
Host
00:25:00
It's what is going hard.
Guest
00:25:02
It's so hard.
Host
00:25:58
So anyone who's listening who is going through this right now, like, the utmost compassion from both of us, because, yeah, we've been there.
Host
00:26:06
We're doing the work, and it is just keep asking the questions and connecting in.
Host
00:26:12
And.
Guest
00:26:12
And so I did want to say one more thing on to that.
Guest
00:26:15
So anybody who is in this interim space you're deconstructing, if you're looking for a really good affirming church community that isn't necessarily a Christian community, is very welcoming to all religions.
Guest
00:26:28
I really urge you guys to check out a Universal.
Guest
00:26:31
It's a Unitarian Universalist church in your area.
Guest
00:26:35
And it's.
Guest
00:26:37
It's been a really.
Guest
00:26:38
I'm not currently involved in one of these churches, but I've done a lot of research and have really found it's a really safe space for people who are like, I believe in something higher than myself, but I don't really know what that is.
Guest
00:26:50
And I just want a community, and I want to love people definitely check into that space because they really are safe spaces all over.
Guest
00:26:59
And I'm in the middle of the Bible Belt in Oklahoma, and we even here still have at least two really fantastic congregations in our area.
Guest
00:27:08
So they're out there.
Guest
00:27:10
And the other thing that I would recommend is it sounds crazy, but I drew myself a house with bricks.
Guest
00:27:17
And each brick, as you like, draw it.
Guest
00:27:21
You have to remember that everything that we've been taught or that we believe at a foundational level is our slab.
Guest
00:27:26
Right.
Guest
00:27:27
But each individual experience that we have that has cemented that foundation, every prayer that was answered, every.
Guest
00:27:34
Everything that has happened in your life is another brick that is on top of that foundation.
Guest
00:27:39
And those.
Guest
00:27:40
When we are deconstructing, you're not throwing those parts away.
Guest
00:27:43
Those are still amazing pieces of your life and things that have happened and divine intervention and energy exists, and regardless of what you believe and where, you end up on that.
Guest
00:27:54
But make sure that when you're deconstructing and you're pulling down all of these bricks, that you are keeping them to rebuild yourself, because those are still important pieces, and we can't just pretend didn't happen or erase that off as an experience that was something more than it should have been.
Guest
00:28:12
Like, you can still own and have those pieces.
Guest
00:28:14
So draw your bricks, but don't throw them out.
Guest
00:28:17
Use them to rebuild yourself, because ultimately, you are in charge of that and you can do great things and build something beautiful from it.
Host
00:28:25
Love that.
Host
00:28:26
Thank you for sharing that.
Host
00:28:27
I really appreciate it.
Host
00:28:28
Oh, my goodness.
Host
00:28:30
I would love for you to talk a little bit about the work that you're doing now and how people can find you and connect with you and learn more from you.
Guest
00:28:40
Yeah, absolutely.
Guest
00:28:41
I host my own parenting podcast.
Guest
00:28:43
It's called the Odd Mom Pod.
Guest
00:28:45
It's just a safe space for parents.
Guest
00:28:47
I interview different parents and professionals with different life perspectives and experience to give parents different resources on how to break those generational molds that we're living in and to help our kids have tools for adulthood that we didn't have going into adulthood.
Guest
00:29:04
So you can feel free to check that out.
Guest
00:29:05
It's odd mompod.com or it's anywhere that you get your podcasts.
Guest
00:29:10
And then my public speaking is my main, most gig right now.
Guest
00:29:14
I come in and speak to organizations.
Guest
00:29:16
I have it in three different kind of tiers.
Guest
00:29:18
I either come in and I talk to leadership and how to be inclusive in leadership, how to unlock their authenticity, and how we can fill our cups as leaders to pour onto our teams.
Guest
00:29:29
And it's fantastic.
Guest
00:29:31
I also then can come in and I teach on the, on the ground level on how to level up your leverage.
Guest
00:29:37
And so I teach people who are working in organizations who may feel like they're stuck to help increase employee engagement and morale by teaching them tools to stay self connected and find abundance even when circumstance may feel daunting.
Guest
00:29:51
And then I also love speaking to students or young adults and young professionals about leveling up their leverage in their life so that they have these tools as they're bridging from that teenage life into adulthood.
Guest
00:30:04
And not every teen has amazing parents who listen to podcasts like this who are out to try and.
Guest
00:30:10
And make the world better.
Guest
00:30:12
And so I love to teach kids how to do that too.
Guest
00:30:15
So it's been amazing.
Guest
00:30:16
I'm working on a book.
Guest
00:30:17
You can find all of that@britsandoval.com and I'm on LinkedIn and Instagram and all.
Host
00:30:25
The things, all the things.
Host
00:30:26
We will definitely link it within the show notes too, so people can just click on the links to learn more and to connect with you.
Host
00:30:34
And I am so delighted that we got to chat today and that you on my podcast.
Host
00:30:42
Thank you.
Guest
00:30:42
I'm so excited.
Guest
00:30:43
And everybody who didn't know Heather came in was on my podcast.
Guest
00:30:47
So you can check out her episode.
Guest
00:30:49
I don't honestly remember what number it is off the top of my head.
Host
00:30:52
I'll connect.
Host
00:30:53
I will link.
Guest
00:30:54
Oh, perfect.
Guest
00:30:55
I'm like, yeah.
Guest
00:30:55
So you can come out her talk about her experience and her parenting experience because it was a phenomenal episode too.
Host
00:31:01
So much fun.
Host
00:31:02
So much fun.
Host
00:31:03
Oh, my goodness.
Host
00:31:04
Thank you so much for being here.
Host
00:31:06
I really appreciate it.
Host
00:31:08
And I look forward to a circling back.
Guest
00:31:11
Anytime you need anything, if you ever want to do like a support group situation or have me come talk to parents, I would love it.
Guest
00:31:19
I'm all for it.
Host
00:31:20
Excellent.
Host
00:31:21
I love it.
Host
00:31:22
I love it.
Host
00:31:22
Thank you so much.
Host
00:31:23
Thank you so much.
Guest
00:31:24
Thank you.
Guest
00:31:31
All right.
Host
00:31:32
Why is this?
Guest
00:31:33
You're like, pause the recording.
Host
00:31:35
I know.
Host
00:31:35
I'm like, oh, there we go.
Host
00:31:37
Oh, my goodness, Heather, where is that?
Host
00:31:39
So my.