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If you want to change lives starting with
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your own, this episode is for you.
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I just attended the ICF Converge in San
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Diego, California, and I would like to
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share my main takeaways with you.
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If you're ready, let's begin.
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Are you ready to shine? Come on, it's the
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shiny one.
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You got this.
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Hello, everyone.
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My name is Dr.
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Shiny Burcu Unsal
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I am the founder of the Academy of
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Neuro-Shine Technology™, this Shiny Minds
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Show, and your Master Certified Neuro-Shine™ Coach.
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I just came back from San Diego.
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I was attending the International Coaching
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Federation's conference that is called the
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ICF Converge 2025 in San Diego, California,
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and I am full.
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My heart is full.
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My mind is buzzing.
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I have ideas.
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I have connections.
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I have energy within me that I would like
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to share with you.
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I would love to start by telling you
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that the main takeaway
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that
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I have in my heart is the connections that
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I made, the in-person energy,
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the human touch
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that we shared, the experience that we
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co-created, and the heart
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that we are all aligned
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with
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because we carry emotions and we are humans
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and we are heart-based, purpose-driven
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individuals as coaches all around the world. And
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when we carry the heart, when we connect
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through the heart, align through the heart,
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everything gets
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so much easier, so much easier.
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That's my main takeaway.
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I feel belong at the international coaching
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conference with all the other coaches
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joining from
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all over the world, 161 countries,
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again, because they are heart-based people.
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They are purpose-driven people.
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They want to do good in the world.
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They are not fighting against something.
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They're fighting towards something.
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And we are towards people.
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We are skills people, and we are mission
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people.
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And that is my main takeaway.
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And I would like to share that with you,
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how important it is with you.
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If you look around,
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look at your life.
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Look at the people in your life.
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Look who they are.
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Look what kind of relationships you create
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with them, what they represent for you.
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If they are not inspiring you, if they are
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not making you feel connected to something
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bigger than yourself.
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If you're not inspiring a part of you
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that knows that there is more in this life,
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there is more with your life.
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with your purpose, your legacy, then
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question those relationships.
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Question what they are.
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Question what they're teaching you.
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Your questioning is not only for letting
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them go.
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Perhaps you're not going to let your
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relationships go because they are good for you.
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Although they are triggering you,
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they might be serving you.
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Only you know what relationships are
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serving you and what relationships are
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draining you.
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And unless you question them, unless you
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look in the mirror, unless you ask, why did
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I create this? How did I create this? Why
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did I choose this? What is the source of
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this? You will never know why.
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And that's why I
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want you to start there.
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And when you start there, when you
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look at the entire energy frequency of the
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people in your life, you'll
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start seeing the pattern.
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There is a bigger pattern that you are
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co-creating.
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Perhaps you're not clear what exactly is
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going on, why you have these people, these
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patterns in your life.
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But if you only step back and observe
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yourself, then you can see the big picture,
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the bigger picture.
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picture.
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And it is the most important thing that we
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can see our own patterns, our own
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relationship patterns.
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Why? Because what coaching gave me is a
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template to create my relationships, to
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deepen my relationships, to
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elevate my relationships, starting
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with my own.
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I deepened my self-love, my self-trust, my
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self-confidence. I
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started to become one with myself.
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I started living in
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full alignment with myself, with my life,
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with my values, thanks to coaching, thanks to the
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International Coaching Federation.
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So now let me start talking about the ICF
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Conference 2025 Converge in San Diego.
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It was absolutely a mind-blowing, a
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heartwarming and a soul-deepening
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experience.
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And the most important part of The Converge
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is really the legacy that I want to bring
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to the world, I want to leave behind, and
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the legacy that we are all shaping, the
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purpose that we are all a part of. And
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what's made me realize at the conference is
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that you may not be aware, but you are a
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part of something bigger than yourself.
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There is something deep within yourself
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that is spiritual, that is existential,
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that is deep, that is
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metaphysical, that is galactic in my
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language.
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And you are a part of it.
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You are shaping it.
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You are co-creating it.
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Know it or not know it.
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Become aware of it or not aware of it.
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It doesn't matter.
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It is still going on.
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And when I sat down and had conversations with
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coaches from all levels, I realized
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that not everyone is aware of it.
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Not everyone is connecting to a
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higher purpose, a bigger vision, a bigger
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energy.
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survival, there is matrix, that's a 3D
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reality versus a
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higher perspective, a liberated
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five-dimensional perspective of oneness that is
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invisible, that's unseen.
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It's felt but not seen.
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People feel it.
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But because they don't see it, they don't
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know what to do with it.
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They don't know what to name it.
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And that's where I come in.
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That's how
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I see coaching as
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changing the world and changing lives,
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starting with your own.
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When you are working with a coach, you
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become aware
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of what you were not aware.
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When you become a coach, you get to share
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this with your clients and then you get to
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make them aware of what they were not aware of.
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And because I created a formula for change
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with my Neuro-Shine Technology™, which is
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change equals awareness multiplied by
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willingness, that is exactly why coaching
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is so important, we realize, because
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awareness is the most important component
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of change.
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With awareness, you don't know what to
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change.
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Even if you are willing to change, what are
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you going to change?
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You don't know.
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If you don't know what you don't know, you
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don't know where to begin.
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You get lost.
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It looks scary.
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It feels frightening.
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And you start distorting your reality.
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You start coming up with excuses and
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denials, and you avoid what you don't want
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to hear.
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It's all survival instinct.
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believe that it is my mission.
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i this lifetime,
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that through the
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power of coaching and coaching mindset,
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and with
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the gold standards of International
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Coaching Federation, the core competencies,
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the code of ethics, the standards,
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everything that we do at the highest level,
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at the gold standard level is what makes me
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keep going because I know it's the highest level.
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I know it is the excellence.
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I know it is the most galactic.
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And I know that I can carry this mission
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for a lifetime.
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And I get excited about it.
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I get passionate about it.
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And I share it
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with my coaches.
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So let me share more takeaways from the
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ICF conference.
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In addition to this big
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galactic mission and legacy, and we are
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part of something big
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takeaway
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that I received.
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The second takeaway that
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I'm bringing home from the ICF Converge is
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is that ethics is not supposed to be always
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legal and legal contracts are not always
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ethical.
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Interesting point.
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Think about it.
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Legal contracts are always binding, legally
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binding, right? But they may not be
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ethical. Some
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terms that you put there may not be
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ethical.
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What is ethics? How do you define it? I
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joined sessions where we were given case
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studies to analyze and decide if it is
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ethical or unethical.
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We were given ideas to brainstorm if there
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was a breach of contract or not in the way
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the business was done by a coach.
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That to me is always fascinating because
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ethics
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is a moral conduct
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versus
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legal agreements and contracts are legal
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practices like legality.
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You go and you want to get whatever you
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want because you believe it is the
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lawful action.
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And not every lawful action is ethical.
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In the case of refunds, for example, if you
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said in that legal agreement that there
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won't be any refunds, that's your legal right.
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Correct? Yes, agreed.
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And still, it may not be ethical.
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It may be legal, but may not be ethical.
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that there is autonomy, there is mutual
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respect,
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and then there is
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some sort of energy exchange that is
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joyful, that is high frequency, that is
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co-creation.
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And when the client asks for a refund, at
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what point?
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You honor that.
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At what point you don't.
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Do you go with
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legal or
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ethical perspective of things? It's
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interesting to really contemplate on.
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The third takeaway
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that
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I have from the ICF Converge
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is neurodiversity.
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The importance of neurodivergence,
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because about 40% of the population is
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neurodivergent, meaning they're not
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neurotypical, they're not processing
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information in the way that you would or
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the others would.
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I don't know if you're neurodivergent or not.
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anxiety, depression, any kind of
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difficulties, learning or
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giftedness,
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super high sensitivity or
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because of an injury.
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When I was 10 months old,
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I
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fell down and just 10 months old baby, and
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they needed to take me to the hospital
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because I needed to have stitches in my skull.
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to the skull, I was diagnosed with
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TBI, traumatic brain injury.
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there, like it not even developed.
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It didn't really
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affect me.
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So thank goodness I have high IQ, high EQ,
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everything is functioning well.
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But according to the studies, according to
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the reports that I received, my brain is
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looking like receiving information super slow.
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It's receiving, it's super slow, but it is
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super accurate.
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It is slow, but super accurate.
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my faculty trainers in San Diego,
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they were like shocked.
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Like, yeah,
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like below the average slow.
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That's how I receive information.
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of my brain scan, I received the
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information super slow.
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I regulated myself because I valued
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accuracy.
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I wanted to be accurate so high,
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so much
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that my slowness ended up
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making me super accurate.
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above the average, and my speed was low
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below the
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average. So
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that's why there is
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nothing to worry about in terms of
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impulsivity, because obviously it's the
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opposite that I
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demonstrated.
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I was able to slow down the impulses
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on a level that is so slow
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that they were concerned, like, is
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everything okay with your brain? Right? So
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to me, it's self-regulation.
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That's how I look at it.
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There are so many approaches.
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I'm not going to go into that, but the main
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takeaway is neurodivergence.
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Did you do a brain scan? Do you know your
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brain? What do you know about your brain?
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Have you met your neurons yet? So that
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might be a very good takeaway for you to look
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and take
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The fourth takeaway from the ICF conference
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is music,
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humor, and art.
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They unite us more than anything else
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because there were breakout rooms that we
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would be able to choose
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in between.
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And whenever I joined the humor, the music,
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and the artful sessions, the breakout rooms
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were packed.
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We are attracted to having fun and
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attending a conference that is beyond just
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a boring conference, right? We want to
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mingle.
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We want to laugh.
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We want to have a great time.
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Even the round table that I attended with
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my MCC colleagues, master certified coach
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colleagues, it was also another experience that
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I brought home with me because
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I
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created my own table to discuss how we
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are elevating the consciousness of our
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humanity by using coaching as a modern tool.
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And our table had so much fun.
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So much respect for each other.
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And at the end, in my language, we went
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galactic and it was super fun.
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So it's always more than the content.
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It's always humanity.
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Art brings humanity.
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That's another takeaway. And
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the last one, the last takeaway that I have
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from the conference is that we need to keep
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growing.
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We need to keep going to conferences, going
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to events, interacting with like-minded
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individuals so that we are reminding
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ourselves why we do what we do,
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so that we can love our lives
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and
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we can become who we are meant to become.
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And that is another takeaway that
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I brought home with me.
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On another note, as a personal takeaway,
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I've had several full circle moments
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that
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is filling my heart so much that I know is
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just going to be another level for me with
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my purpose, my mission, my business,
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and how I change lives, starting with my own.
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And that is my invitation for you,
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my dear shiny minds.
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I invite you to join the movement, join
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this legacy moment, this calling with the
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world of coaching.
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If you want to change lives,
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starting with your own, you may want to
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discover and experience coaching.
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You can go to my website, shinyinshal.com
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and grab that free PDF just to see if
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coaching is the right path for you.
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And if it is, book a call.
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Let's talk, let's discuss
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if and how you can put your superpowers all
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together
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in a delicious structure and offer to the world.
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as
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your coaching sessions.
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I promise you, if you love working with
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people, if you love helping people, you're
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going to love coaching.
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And then you're going to say, what was I
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waiting for? That is another takeaway
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perhaps for you.
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So
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thank you for watching.
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I hope you loved this episode.
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If you did, please put a like on it, share
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it with your friends and subscribe for more
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episodes just like this, because hey, we
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are #onamission together, changing
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lives and the world starting
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with our own.
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Until next time, dear Shiny Minds, keep
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shining your lights.
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Go
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galactic.
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Go galactic.
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Then you're in the right place.
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Let's go,
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let's go.
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If you want to change lives starting with
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your own, this episode is for you.
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I just attended the ICF Converge in San
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Diego, California, and I would like to
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share my main takeaways with you.
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If you're ready, let's begin.
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Are you ready to shine? Come on, it's the
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shiny one.
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You got this.
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Hello, everyone.
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My name is Dr.
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Shiny Burcu Unsal
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I am the founder of the Academy of
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Neuro-Shine Technology™, this Shiny Minds
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Show, and your Master Certified Neuro-Shine™ Coach.
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I just came back from San Diego.
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I was attending the International Coaching
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Federation's conference that is called the
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ICF Converge 2025 in San Diego, California,
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and I am full.
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My heart is full.
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My mind is buzzing.
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I have ideas.
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I have connections.
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I have energy within me that I would like
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to share with you.
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I would love to start by telling you
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that the main takeaway
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that
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I have in my heart is the connections that
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I made, the in-person energy,
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the human touch
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that we shared, the experience that we
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co-created, and the heart
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that we are all aligned
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with
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because we carry emotions and we are humans
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and we are heart-based, purpose-driven
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individuals as coaches all around the world. And
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when we carry the heart, when we connect
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through the heart, align through the heart,
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everything gets
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so much easier, so much easier.
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That's my main takeaway.
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I feel belong at the international coaching
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conference with all the other coaches
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joining from
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all over the world, 161 countries,
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again, because they are heart-based people.
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They are purpose-driven people.
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They want to do good in the world.
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They are not fighting against something.
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They're fighting towards something.
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We are skills people, and we are mission
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people.
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And that is my main takeaway.
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how important it is with you.
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If you look around,
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look at your life.
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Look at the people in your life.
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Look who they are.
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Look what kind of relationships you create
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with them, what they represent for you.
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If they are not inspiring you, if they are
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not making you feel connected to something
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bigger than yourself.
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If you're not inspiring a part of you
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that knows that there is more in this life,
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there is more with your life.
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with your purpose, your legacy, then
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question those relationships.
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Question what they are.
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Question what they're teaching you.
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Your questioning is not only for letting
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them go.
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Perhaps you're not going to let your
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relationships go because they are good for you.
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Although they are triggering you,
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they might be serving you.
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Only you know what relationships are
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serving you and what relationships are
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draining you.
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And unless you question them, unless you
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look in the mirror, unless you ask, why did
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I create this? How did I create this? Why
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did I choose this? What is the source of
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this? You will never know why.
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want you to start there.
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And when you start there, when you
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look at the entire energy frequency of the
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people in your life, you'll
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start seeing the pattern.
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There is a bigger pattern that you are
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co-creating.
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Perhaps you're not clear what exactly is
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going on, why you have these people, these
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patterns in your life.
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But if you only step back and observe
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yourself, then you can see the big picture,
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the bigger picture.
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picture.
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And it is the most important thing that we
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can see our own patterns, our own
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relationship patterns.
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Why? Because what coaching gave me is a
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template to create my relationships, to
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deepen my relationships, to
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elevate my relationships, starting
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with my own.
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I deepened my self-love, my self-trust, my
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self-confidence. I
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started to become one with myself.
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I started living in
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full alignment with myself, with my life,
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with my values, thanks to coaching, thanks to the
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International Coaching Federation.
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So now let me start talking about the ICF
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Conference 2025 Converge in San Diego.
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heartwarming and a soul-deepening
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is really the legacy that I want to bring
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to the world, I want to leave behind, and
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the legacy that we are all shaping, the
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purpose that we are all a part of. And
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what's made me realize at the conference is
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that you may not be aware, but you are a
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part of something bigger than yourself.
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that is spiritual, that is existential,
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that is deep, that is
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metaphysical, that is galactic in my
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language.
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You are shaping it.
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Know it or not know it.
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It doesn't matter.
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It is still going on.
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coaches from all levels, I realized
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that not everyone is aware of it.
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higher purpose, a bigger vision, a bigger
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energy.
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survival, there is matrix, that's a 3D
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reality versus a
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higher perspective, a liberated
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five-dimensional perspective of oneness that is
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invisible, that's unseen.
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know what to do with it.
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changing the world and changing lives,
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starting with your own.
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become aware
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of what you were not aware.
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this with your clients and then you get to
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make them aware of what they were not aware of.
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with my Neuro-Shine Technology™, which is
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change equals awareness multiplied by
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willingness, that is exactly why coaching
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is so important, we realize, because
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awareness is the most important component
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of change.
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you going to change?
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don't know where to begin.
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It looks scary.
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denials, and you avoid what you don't want
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to hear.
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It's all survival instinct.
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believe that it is my mission.
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i this lifetime,
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that through the
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power of coaching and coaching mindset,
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the gold standards of International
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Coaching Federation, the core competencies,
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the code of ethics, the standards,
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everything that we do at the highest level,
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at the gold standard level is what makes me
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keep going because I know it's the highest level.
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I know it is the excellence.
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I know it is the most galactic.
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for a lifetime.
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I get passionate about it.
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with my coaches.
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ICF conference.
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In addition to this big
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galactic mission and legacy, and we are
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part of something big
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takeaway
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that I received.
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I'm bringing home from the ICF Converge is
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is that ethics is not supposed to be always
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legal and legal contracts are not always
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ethical.
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binding, right? But they may not be
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ethical. Some
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terms that you put there may not be
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joined sessions where we were given case
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studies to analyze and decide if it is
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ethical or unethical.
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was a breach of contract or not in the way
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the business was done by a coach.
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ethics
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is a moral conduct
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versus
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legal agreements and contracts are legal
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practices like legality.
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want because you believe it is the
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lawful action.
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said in that legal agreement that there
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won't be any refunds, that's your legal right.
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that there is autonomy, there is mutual
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respect,
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some sort of energy exchange that is
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joyful, that is high frequency, that is
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co-creation.
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what point?
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At what point you don't.
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ethical perspective of things? It's
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interesting to really contemplate on.
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is neurodiversity.
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The importance of neurodivergence,
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because about 40% of the population is
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neurodivergent, meaning they're not
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neurotypical, they're not processing
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information in the way that you would or
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the others would.
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anxiety, depression, any kind of
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difficulties, learning or
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giftedness,
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super high sensitivity or
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because of an injury.
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When I was 10 months old,
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fell down and just 10 months old baby, and
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they needed to take me to the hospital
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because I needed to have stitches in my skull.
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to the skull, I was diagnosed with
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TBI, traumatic brain injury.
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there, like it not even developed.
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affect me.
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everything is functioning well.
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the reports that I received, my brain is
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looking like receiving information super slow.
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super accurate.
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It is slow, but super accurate.
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my faculty trainers in San Diego,
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they were like shocked.
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like below the average slow.
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That's how I receive information.
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of my brain scan, I received the
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information super slow.
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I regulated myself because I valued
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accuracy.
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I wanted to be accurate so high,
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that my slowness ended up
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making me super accurate.
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above the average, and my speed was low
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that's why there is
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nothing to worry about in terms of
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impulsivity, because obviously it's the
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opposite that I
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demonstrated.
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I was able to slow down the impulses
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on a level that is so slow
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that they were concerned, like, is
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everything okay with your brain? Right? So
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That's how I look at it.
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There are so many approaches.
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I'm not going to go into that, but the main
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takeaway is neurodivergence.
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brain? What do you know about your brain?
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Have you met your neurons yet? So that
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might be a very good takeaway for you to look
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The fourth takeaway from the ICF conference
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is music,
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humor, and art.
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They unite us more than anything else
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because there were breakout rooms that we
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would be able to choose
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in between.
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And whenever I joined the humor, the music,
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and the artful sessions, the breakout rooms
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were packed.
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attending a conference that is beyond just
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a boring conference, right? We want to
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mingle.
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We want to have a great time.
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Even the round table that I attended with
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my MCC colleagues, master certified coach
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colleagues, it was also another experience that
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I brought home with me because
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created my own table to discuss how we
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are elevating the consciousness of our
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humanity by using coaching as a modern tool.
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And our table had so much fun.
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So much respect for each other.
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galactic and it was super fun.
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So it's always more than the content.
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It's always humanity.
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Art brings humanity.
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That's another takeaway. And
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the last one, the last takeaway that I have
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from the conference is that we need to keep
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growing.
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We need to keep going to conferences, going
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to events, interacting with like-minded
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individuals so that we are reminding
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ourselves why we do what we do,
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so that we can love our lives
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we can become who we are meant to become.
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I brought home with me.
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I've had several full circle moments
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that
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is filling my heart so much that I know is
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just going to be another level for me with
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my purpose, my mission, my business,
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and how I change lives, starting with my own.
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my dear shiny minds.
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I invite you to join the movement, join
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this legacy moment, this calling with the
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world of coaching.
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If you want to change lives,
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starting with your own, you may want to
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discover and experience coaching.
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You can go to my website, shinyinshal.com
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and grab that free PDF just to see if
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coaching is the right path for you.
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And if it is, book a call.
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Let's talk, let's discuss
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if and how you can put your superpowers all
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together
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in a delicious structure and offer to the world.
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as
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your coaching sessions.
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I promise you, if you love working with
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people, if you love helping people, you're
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going to love coaching.
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And then you're going to say, what was I
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waiting for? That is another takeaway
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perhaps for you.
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So
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thank you for watching.
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I hope you loved this episode.
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If you did, please put a like on it, share
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it with your friends and subscribe for more
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episodes just like this, because hey, we
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are #onamission together, changing
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lives and the world starting
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with our own.
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Until next time, dear Shiny Minds, keep
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shining your lights.
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Go
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galactic.
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Go galactic.
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Then you're in the right place.
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Let's go,
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let's go.
