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Ever felt like your reality was being
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twisted by someone else? You're not crazy.
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You're being gaslighted.
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And that's exactly what we are going to
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talk about today.
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Let's begin.
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Are you ready to shine? Come on.
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It's the shiny one.
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You got this.
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Welcome to the Shiny Minds Show with Dr. Shiny.
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I am Dr.
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Shiny Burcu Unsal and I bring
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more than 25 years of experience working
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with people
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and two doctorate degrees.
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focusing on human behaviors and
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metaphysical psychology, positive
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psychology, neuro-linguistic programming,
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neuroscience, and my own
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global award-winning ICF accredited
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curriculum for change, truth, and
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enlightenment, Neuro-Shine Technology™.
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I am going to talk about gaslighting today
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because I see it everywhere and I cannot
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stay quiet anymore.
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We need to define what this is.
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We need to talk about how it
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is in your life that you may not realize,
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and we also need to talk about solutions,
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right? So we're going to apply my formula
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for change,
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which is
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change equals awareness multiplied by
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willingness.
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The change that we want is that
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we want to get you out of gaslighting.
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Doesn't matter if you are the gaslighter or
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if you are the one who's being gaslighted,
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we want to change.
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because we want that change,
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we need to bring the awareness of what
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gaslight
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and the willingness
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of how to
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break free from gaslighting.
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If you are doing it and if you are the one
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who's being done, doesn't matter.
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We don't want that because it is against
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our human rights
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and it is against our freedom
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and it's against the frequency that we are
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about to enter
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with
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the great awakening of gaslighting.
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So
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let's define what gas lighting is first.
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Okay.
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Yes, lighting is
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manipulation.
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That's it.
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If your thoughts,
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words,
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and your reality
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are being twisted
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and distorted and manipulated by somebody else's
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thoughts, that's it.
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words and reality,
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that's gaslighting.
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That's manipulation at the highest level.
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you need to become aware of that.
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You know those moments when you go into
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your head and
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then you question, am I crazy?
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But that was not what happened.
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That was not my intention.
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That's not what I said.
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That's, that's, and then that's not what
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happened. It's
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not the truth.
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Was,
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was that the reality? Am I
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Am I crazy?
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That confusion?
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If you're feeling like this, after
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communicating with people, you're being
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gaslighted. Okay?
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Another clue.
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You are being totally authentic and
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truthful and operating from your own
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truth and intention, pure, pure vibrations,
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high level frequencies, right?
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And still, the person in front of you
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is committed to
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being misunderstood and is committed
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to make you feel like you're the bad guy.
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Ever felt like
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that? Ever
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found yourself in those situations?
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That's also gaslighting.
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is being distorted, is being twisted, and
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you are being
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accused of being the bad guy.
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Oh, and then you are the one to blame.
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that's gaslighting.
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No matter how hard you try, no matter
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how clean you show up,
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no matter
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incredibly
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positive you are,
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if the person in front of you
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Why?
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Now let's look at why people gaslight.
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If you are the one gaslighting,
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and if you are not aware,
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please listen to me super carefully,
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because I know you don't want that.
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I know there is a part of you
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that wants to understand why you're doing it.
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And if you are the one you are doing it,
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you're about to
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break free from it.
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Reason number one, you have been
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manipulated, you have been manipulated by
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yourself.
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emotionally abused and gaslighted yourself.
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you have
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that experience
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and your physical body,
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your emotional frequency and your psyche,
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your aura
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is carrying that.
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And because you're carrying that, you're
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projecting it
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and you're not even aware of it.
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Please become aware.
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Awareness is the first step
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to freedom.
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ask yourself this question:
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Have I felt emotionally abused, emotionally
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manipulated,
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and have I ever felt
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not important, I was not worthy of my
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thoughts, my words, my opinions,
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my expression? Then...
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Perhaps you have been gaslighted,
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manipulated,
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and that's why you learned it
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unconsciously, and then you're carrying it
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within the deeper layers of
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parts,
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and that's why you bring it.
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So that's the first reason.
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Second reason,
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you are
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a control freak.
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You know it or you don't. You
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have a desire to control.
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You have a desire to twist reality. I
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mean, which can be your superpower, but
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if it is at the cost, at the expense of
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other people's wellbeing,
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then may I have a conversation with you?
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May I ask you to
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stop it
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immediately?
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you are
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not helping. You are
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damaging others.
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And I know you don't want that.
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You do not want that.
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You just need to become aware of it.
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so that you can
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become free from it,
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right?
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I know.
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If you are the one
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trying to control, exploit,
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abuse,
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and manipulate others, please.
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Please stop it.
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You're better than that.
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The world
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needs you
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to break free from it.
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The world
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needs your better version.
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And we're going to thank you and you're
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going to thank yourself for stepping
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out of it.
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Reason number three, you are insecure and
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you have fears and
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you don't want the world to see your
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truth.
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you don't want to see your own truth.
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look in the mirror
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because you don't like
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what you see in the mirror.
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You have fears and you have insecurities
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and you have doubts and
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super negative conversations with yourself.
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Is that right?
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I understand that.
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We all go through those stages in our lives.
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I get it.
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What I don't want you to do
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is to project it onto others.
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It's not easy, I know.
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if you become aware of it,
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you're going to understand it, and
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then you're going to transform it.
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You're going to transcend it.
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We all have insecurities.
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We all have fears.
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We all have frustrations.
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human dignity,
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our freedom, our human rights,
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yesterday
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International Human Rights Day.
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And so here we go.
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Let's talk about that.
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What is our right?
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Our right
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to be authentic, to be true to ourselves.
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That's the biggest freedom.
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I know that's what you want.
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be who you're meant to be, you're stuck in
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somebody else that you're not.
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project it onto others.
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I get it.
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I understand it.
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I
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have seen this mechanics over and over and
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over again for the past 15 years as I have been
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teaching
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mindset, NLP, coaching,
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and emotional intelligence,
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and all kinds of psychological tools.
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I've seen it.
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I've written books about it.
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I've written dissertations about it.
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Two of those.
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I get it.
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That's why I am
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offering my
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my help.
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If you want to be free, there are tools.
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Okay, so I'm, I'm talking to the ones
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who are gaslighting and manipulating
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and not aware.
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Let me talk to the ones who are being
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manipulated and gaslighted.
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You need knowledge.
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You need awareness.
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You need to close the gap
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of knowledge.
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You cannot stay ignorant about human
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psychology anymore,
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not in the world that we live today.
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We are saying goodbye
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to 2025 in the next year with the Great
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Awakening coming up in 2027,
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and the planetary alignments that we're
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going to experience.
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in February and April
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cosmic stuff.
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There's always cosmic weather
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before the human weather.
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And I always look at the sky
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and
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I study
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the sky mechanics
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and I'm bringing you to sky mechanics and I
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am combining
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different disciplines
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and different philosophies.
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And I'm inviting you
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to step into a
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stronger,
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more prepared, more
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educational
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more
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wise version of you.
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If you're being gaslighted, you need to
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understand that.
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You need to spot it.
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How are you going to spot it? You need to
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know what that is.
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You need to be able to define it.
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If you don't know what that is, if you
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don't have the awareness of it,
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how are you even going to catch it? You're
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going to keep questioning yourself, which
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is going to damage your confidence,
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which is going to project in your
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relationships, which is going to project in
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your self-love.
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And that's exactly what we don't want, do
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we? humanity doubting, criticizing, judging
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itself.
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We want humanity
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rising up
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strong, powerful, confident,
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and shining with the cosmic light within.
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That's what we want.
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And that's why I wanted to talk about
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guest lighting today.
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It's
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so
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subtle that you don't realize,
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and that's why
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I get so passionate about it.
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If I see it,
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you'll see.
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If I see it, I need to talk about it, and
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then Zoom also catches it.
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It is important where we stand
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in our psychology. I
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am inviting you
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to study
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human psychology.
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When you understand
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human psychology, when you understand
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your unmet needs,
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your
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gap of knowledge, what you don't know that
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you don't know.
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what you know that you don't know that you
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need to know.
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And also what you know that you need to
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know more about.
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All of that
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is all about information.
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It's all about knowledge.
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That's life.
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You're here to learn.
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You
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are born
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to study life.
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Experiencing is learning.
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Think about it.
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If you are not learning,
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then you're not growing.
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And if you're not growing, then you're not
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ascending.
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If you're not ascending,
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then you're not really
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integrating
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all
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there is
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to experience
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as consciousness.
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One of my dissertation papers is about
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consciousness is all there is, experiencing itself
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through us.
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What it means is
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there is only consciousness,
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and that consciousness can enter into many
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different forms.
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Sometimes black, sometimes white, sometimes
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colorful.
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There are all the colors in the rainbow.
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Consciousness
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is there for us
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to choose and to manifest.
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What are you choosing?
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Without the knowledge, you don't even know
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what to choose.
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That's why you need knowledge. I
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mean, that's why I became super,
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super aware when I studied all of these
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things.
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And that's,
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and that's what I wanted to study.
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I wanted to learn.
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I wanted to understand human psychology.
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I wanted to understand
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the human brain.
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I wanted to understand
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relationships
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because everything is a relationship.
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This, this whole entire universe is a web
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of relationships.
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Planets have their own relationships, the
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sun and the moon and the
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time and the space and the dimension.
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and consciousness and experiences.
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Everything is interrelated.
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Everything is a map of consciousness.
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So that's why as I study,
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I learn
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more
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that I realize that
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I don't know so much.
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There's so much that I don't know.
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It's big.
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So we need to keep studying.
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That's why you see all
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my certificates behind me because I am a
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professional student for life.
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I mean, there's so much to learn
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and that's Why,
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if you don't even know what gaslighting
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means, if you don't even know such a
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terminology exists,
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of course you're not going to understand
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what's going on.
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Of course you're going to experience
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self-doubt
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and you're going to confuse yourself and
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then you're going to lose your
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self-confidence because you're going to be
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like...
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Well, that's not what I meant, but people
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are actually giving me this feedback and
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you're going to be in this biofeedback loop
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constantly
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making you doubt yourself.
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Like, how can you expect to build your
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confidence in a feedback loop like that?
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You can't.
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Why? Because you don't have the fundamental truth.
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You don't have the knowledge.
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Please study.
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Please become aware. Please
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look at human behaviors
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and then please
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look at your own behaviors
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and see.
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what's missing and see what you need to
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know. So
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let's talk about solutions right now.
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Gaslighting, being gaslighted,
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doesn't matter who is doing what, we need
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to stop it
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because it is costing us.
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And that's where.
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I bring
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my
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Neuro-Shine Technology™,
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my
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coaching mindset,
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curiosity,
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gratefulness, love, and light forever,
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eternally.
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I
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created
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my own curriculum
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of change and truth and enlightenment and
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growth.
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That's my Neuro-Shine Technology™.
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I needed it because I didn't know, just
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like you, you don't know what
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guest lighting is, you don't know what
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victim mentality is,
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you don't know the symptoms of unmet needs,
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you don't know how it shows up in your
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language.
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You don't know how you're controlling
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people in your
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sentences.
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You're not even aware.
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You don't know you're leading when you're
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thinking that you're just giving people
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options.
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You're not aware.
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I get it.
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I get it.
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That's why I'm telling you.
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So
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if you choose to learn,
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if you choose
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to close the gap,
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we are here
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and we want to help.
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You can go to shinyunsal.com.
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Grab the PDF and
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then look
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at what we are offering.
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And if you resonate,
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get on a call with us,
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e-mail us, talk to one of my faculty
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trainers,
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because
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we are here
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to turn
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this
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game around.
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This human game,
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we are here to represent human rights.
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We are here to represent humanity with
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dignity, humanity with freedom mindset, not
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victim mindset.
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We are here to
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change the game.
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If you are with us, join us.
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I call it coaching,
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you call it something else.
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In today's world,
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it's called
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coaching mindset.
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That's where you get to give people the
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autonomy, the freedom to be who they are,
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to be their authentic self.
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Gaslighting is coming from the lack of
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being your authentic self.
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When you understand that there are so many
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parts of you
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that need to integrate, that need to merge
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from
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mental to emotional to physical,
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because there are wounds that we are
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experiencing.
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There are
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wounds of separation, rejection, guilt, and
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depression.
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There's so many things that we can teach you.
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We cannot teach you if you do not bring us your,
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if you do not bring
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us your open mind and open heart.
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We can only teach you
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when you're ready.
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Right?
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The teacher shows up and the student is ready.
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So whenever you're ready,
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we are here to work with you.
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And
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I have another website that I'm going to
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share with you, neuroshinetechnology.com.
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You can also go
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look at my faculty cohorts.
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We are now offering it
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to
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the world starting in 2026.
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You're going to have your luminary pass for
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the entire 12 months
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where you get to attend as many cohorts as
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you wish
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with my faculty.
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We would love to have you.
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We would like to work with you and
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transform you inside out so that you
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become one of us.
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You join us
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to
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awaken the conscious leaders and the world
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because the world needs more of us today.
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Thank you for watching.
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If you liked it, please put a like on it.
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Share it with other conscious leaders
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so that we can
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make this world
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a more conscious,
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more delicious,
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more
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responsible place together.
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Thank you for allowing my light
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into your neurons.
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Until next time,
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keep shining your light.
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Go galactic.
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Then you're in the right place. Let's
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go, let's go.
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Ever felt like your reality was being
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twisted by someone else? You're not crazy.
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You're being gaslighted.
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And that's exactly what we are going to
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talk about today.
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Let's begin.
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Are you ready to shine? Come on.
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It's the shiny one.
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You got this.
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Welcome to the Shiny Minds Show with Dr. Shiny.
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I am Dr.
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Shiny Burcu Unsal and I bring
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more than 25 years of experience working
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with people
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and two doctorate degrees.
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focusing on human behaviors and
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metaphysical psychology, positive
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psychology, neuro-linguistic programming,
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neuroscience, and my own
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global award-winning ICF accredited
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curriculum for change, truth, and
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enlightenment, Neuro-Shine Technology™.
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I am going to talk about gaslighting today
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because I see it everywhere and I cannot
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stay quiet anymore.
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We need to define what this is.
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We need to talk about how it
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is in your life that you may not realize,
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and we also need to talk about solutions,
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right? So we're going to apply my formula
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for change,
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which is
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change equals awareness multiplied by
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willingness.
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The change that we want is that
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we want to get you out of gaslighting.
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Doesn't matter if you are the gaslighter or
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if you are the one who's being gaslighted,
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we want to change.
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And
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because we want that change,
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we need to bring the awareness of what
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gaslight
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and the willingness
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of how to
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break free from gaslighting.
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If you are doing it and if you are the one
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who's being done, doesn't matter.
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We don't want that because it is against
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our human rights
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and it is against our freedom
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and it's against the frequency that we are
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about to enter
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with
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the great awakening of gaslighting.
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So
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let's define what gas lighting is first.
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Okay.
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Yes, lighting is
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manipulation.
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That's it.
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If your thoughts,
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words,
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and your reality
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are being twisted
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and distorted and manipulated by somebody else's
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thoughts, that's it.
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words and reality,
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that's gaslighting.
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That's manipulation at the highest level.
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And
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you need to become aware of that.
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You know those moments when you go into
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your head and
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then you question, am I crazy?
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But that was not what happened.
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That was not my intention.
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That's not what I said.
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That's, that's, and then that's not what
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happened. It's
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not the truth.
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Was,
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was that the reality? Am I
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Am I crazy?
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That confusion?
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If you're feeling like this, after
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communicating with people, you're being
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gaslighted. Okay?
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Another clue.
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You are being totally authentic and
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truthful and operating from your own
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truth and intention, pure, pure vibrations,
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high level frequencies, right?
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And still, the person in front of you
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is committed to
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being misunderstood and is committed
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to make you feel like you're the bad guy.
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Ever felt like
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that? Ever
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found yourself in those situations?
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Yep.
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That's also gaslighting.
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Your
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truth
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is being distorted, is being twisted, and
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you are being
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accused of being the bad guy.
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Oh, and then you are the one to blame.
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Yeah,
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that's gaslighting.
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No matter how hard you try, no matter
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how clean you show up,
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no matter
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how
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incredibly
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positive you are,
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if the person in front of you
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is again,
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Why?
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Now let's look at why people gaslight.
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If you are the one gaslighting,
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and if you are not aware,
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please listen to me super carefully,
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because I know you don't want that.
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I know there is a part of you
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that wants to understand why you're doing it.
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And if you are the one you are doing it,
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you're about to
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break free from it.
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Reason number one, you have been
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manipulated, you have been manipulated by
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yourself.
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emotionally abused and gaslighted yourself.
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That's why
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you have
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had
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that experience
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and your physical body,
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your emotional frequency and your psyche,
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your aura
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is carrying that.
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And because you're carrying that, you're
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projecting it
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and you're not even aware of it.
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Please become aware.
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Awareness is the first step
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to freedom.
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Okay,
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ask yourself this question:
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Have I felt emotionally abused, emotionally
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manipulated,
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and have I ever felt
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like
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I was
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not important, I was not worthy of my
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thoughts, my words, my opinions,
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my expression? Then...
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Perhaps you have been gaslighted,
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manipulated,
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and that's why you learned it
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unconsciously, and then you're carrying it
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within the deeper layers of
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your
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emotional,
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subconscious
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parts,
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and that's why you bring it.
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So that's the first reason.
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Second reason,
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you are
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a control freak.
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You know it or you don't. You
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have a desire to control.
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You have a desire to twist reality. I
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mean, which can be your superpower, but
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if it is at the cost, at the expense of
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other people's wellbeing,
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then may I have a conversation with you?
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May I ask you to
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stop it
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immediately?
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you are
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not helping. You are
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damaging others.
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And I know you don't want that.
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You do not want that.
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You just need to become aware of it.
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so that you can
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become free from it,
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right?
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I know.
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If you are the one
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trying to control, exploit,
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abuse,
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and manipulate others, please.
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Please stop it.
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You're better than that.
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The world
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needs you
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to break free from it.
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The world
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needs your better version.
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And we're going to thank you and you're
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going to thank yourself for stepping
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out of it.
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Reason number three, you are insecure and
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you have fears and
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you don't want the world to see your
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truth.
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you don't want to see your own truth.
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You cannot
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look in the mirror
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because you don't like
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what you see in the mirror.
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You have fears and you have insecurities
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and you have doubts and
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super negative conversations with yourself.
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Is that right?
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I understand that.
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We all go through those stages in our lives.
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I get it.
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What I don't want you to do
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is to project it onto others.
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It's not easy, I know.
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if you become aware of it,
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you're going to understand it, and
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then you're going to transform it.
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You're going to transcend it.
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We all have insecurities.
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We all have fears.
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We all have frustrations.
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But to represent our
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human dignity,
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our freedom, our human rights,
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yesterday
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International Human Rights Day.
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And so here we go.
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Let's talk about that.
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What is our right?
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Our right
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to be authentic, to be true to ourselves.
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That's the biggest freedom.
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I know that's what you want.
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be who you're meant to be, you're stuck in
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somebody else that you're not.
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And then that is so painful that you
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project it onto others.
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I get it.
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I understand it.
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I
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have seen this mechanics over and over and
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over again for the past 15 years as I have been
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teaching
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mindset, NLP, coaching,
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and emotional intelligence,
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and all kinds of psychological tools.
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I've seen it.
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I've written books about it.
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I've written dissertations about it.
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Two of those.
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I get it.
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That's why I am
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offering my
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my help.
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If you want to be free, there are tools.
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Okay, so I'm, I'm talking to the ones
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who are gaslighting and manipulating
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and not aware.
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Let me talk to the ones who are being
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manipulated and gaslighted.
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You need knowledge.
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You need awareness.
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You need to close the gap
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of knowledge.
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You cannot stay ignorant about human
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psychology anymore,
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not in the world that we live today.
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We are saying goodbye
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to 2025 in the next year with the Great
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Awakening coming up in 2027,
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and the planetary alignments that we're
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going to experience.
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in February and April
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of 2026.
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cosmic stuff.
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There's always cosmic weather
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before the human weather.
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And I always look at the sky
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and
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I study
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the sky mechanics
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and I'm bringing you to sky mechanics and I
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am combining
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different disciplines
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and different philosophies.
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And I'm inviting you
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to step into a
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stronger,
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more prepared, more
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educational
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more
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wise version of you.
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If you're being gaslighted, you need to
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understand that.
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You need to spot it.
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How are you going to spot it? You need to
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know what that is.
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You need to be able to define it.
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If you don't know what that is, if you
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don't have the awareness of it,
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how are you even going to catch it? You're
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going to keep questioning yourself, which
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is going to damage your confidence,
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which is going to project in your
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relationships, which is going to project in
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your self-love.
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And that's exactly what we don't want, do
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we? humanity doubting, criticizing, judging
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itself.
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We want humanity
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rising up
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strong, powerful, confident,
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and shining with the cosmic light within.
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That's what we want.
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And that's why I wanted to talk about
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guest lighting today.
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It's
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so
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subtle that you don't realize,
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and that's why
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I get so passionate about it.
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If I see it,
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you'll see.
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If I see it, I need to talk about it, and
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then Zoom also catches it.
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It is important where we stand
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in our psychology. I
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am inviting you
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to study
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human psychology.
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When you understand
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human psychology, when you understand
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your unmet needs,
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your
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gap of knowledge, what you don't know that
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you don't know.
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what you know that you don't know that you
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need to know.
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And also what you know that you need to
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know more about.
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All of that
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is all about information.
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It's all about knowledge.
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That's life.
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You're here to learn.
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You
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are born
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to study life.
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Experiencing is learning.
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Think about it.
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If you are not learning,
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then you're not growing.
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And if you're not growing, then you're not
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ascending.
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If you're not ascending,
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then you're not really
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integrating
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all
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there is
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to experience
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as consciousness.
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One of my dissertation papers is about
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consciousness is all there is, experiencing itself
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through us.
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What it means is
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there is only consciousness,
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and that consciousness can enter into many
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different forms.
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Sometimes black, sometimes white, sometimes
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colorful.
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There are all the colors in the rainbow.
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Consciousness
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is there for us
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to choose and to manifest.
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What are you choosing?
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Without the knowledge, you don't even know
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what to choose.
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That's why you need knowledge. I
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mean, that's why I became super,
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super aware when I studied all of these
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things.
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And that's,
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and that's what I wanted to study.
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I wanted to learn.
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I wanted to understand human psychology.
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I wanted to understand
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the human brain.
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I wanted to understand
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relationships
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because everything is a relationship.
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This, this whole entire universe is a web
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of relationships.
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Planets have their own relationships, the
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sun and the moon and the
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time and the space and the dimension.
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and consciousness and experiences.
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Everything is interrelated.
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Everything is a map of consciousness.
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So that's why as I study,
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I learn
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more
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that I realize that
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I don't know so much.
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There's so much that I don't know.
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It's big.
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So we need to keep studying.
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That's why you see all
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my certificates behind me because I am a
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professional student for life.
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I mean, there's so much to learn
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and that's Why,
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if you don't even know what gaslighting
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means, if you don't even know such a
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terminology exists,
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of course you're not going to understand
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what's going on.
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Of course you're going to experience
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self-doubt
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and you're going to confuse yourself and
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then you're going to lose your
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self-confidence because you're going to be
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like...
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Well, that's not what I meant, but people
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are actually giving me this feedback and
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you're going to be in this biofeedback loop
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constantly
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making you doubt yourself.
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Like, how can you expect to build your
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confidence in a feedback loop like that?
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You can't.
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Why? Because you don't have the fundamental truth.
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You don't have the knowledge.
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Please study.
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Please become aware. Please
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look at human behaviors
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and then please
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look at your own behaviors
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and see.
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what's missing and see what you need to
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know. So
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let's talk about solutions right now.
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Gaslighting, being gaslighted,
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doesn't matter who is doing what, we need
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to stop it
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because it is costing us.
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And that's where.
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I bring
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my
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Neuro-Shine Technology™,
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my
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coaching mindset,
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curiosity,
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gratefulness, love, and light forever,
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eternally.
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I
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created
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my own curriculum
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of change and truth and enlightenment and
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growth.
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That's my Neuro-Shine Technology™.
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I needed it because I didn't know, just
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like you, you don't know what
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guest lighting is, you don't know what
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victim mentality is,
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you don't know the symptoms of unmet needs,
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you don't know how it shows up in your
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language.
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You don't know how you're controlling
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people in your
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sentences.
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You're not even aware.
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You don't know you're leading when you're
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thinking that you're just giving people
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options.
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You're not aware.
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I get it.
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I get it.
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That's why I'm telling you.
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So
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if you choose to learn,
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if you choose
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to close the gap,
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we are here
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and we want to help.
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You can go to shinyunsal.com.
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Grab the PDF and
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then look
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at what we are offering.
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And if you resonate,
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get on a call with us,
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e-mail us, talk to one of my faculty
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trainers,
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because
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we are here
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to turn
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this
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game around.
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This human game,
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we are here to represent human rights.
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We are here to represent humanity with
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dignity, humanity with freedom mindset, not
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victim mindset.
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We are here to
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change the game.
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If you are with us, join us.
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I call it coaching,
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you call it something else.
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In today's world,
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it's called
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coaching mindset.
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That's where you get to give people the
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autonomy, the freedom to be who they are,
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to be their authentic self.
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Gaslighting is coming from the lack of
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being your authentic self.
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When you understand that there are so many
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parts of you
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that need to integrate, that need to merge
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from
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mental to emotional to physical,
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because there are wounds that we are
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experiencing.
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There are
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wounds of separation, rejection, guilt, and
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depression.
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There's so many things that we can teach you.
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We cannot teach you if you do not bring us your,
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if you do not bring
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us your open mind and open heart.
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We can only teach you
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when you're ready.
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Right?
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The teacher shows up and the student is ready.
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So whenever you're ready,
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we are here to work with you.
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And
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I have another website that I'm going to
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share with you, neuroshinetechnology.com.
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You can also go
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look at my faculty cohorts.
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We are now offering it
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to
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the world starting in 2026.
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You're going to have your luminary pass for
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the entire 12 months
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where you get to attend as many cohorts as
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you wish
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with my faculty.
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We would love to have you.
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We would like to work with you and
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transform you inside out so that you
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become one of us.
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You join us
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to
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awaken the conscious leaders and the world
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because the world needs more of us today.
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Thank you for watching.
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If you liked it, please put a like on it.
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Share it with other conscious leaders
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so that we can
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make this world
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a more conscious,
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more delicious,
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more
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responsible place together.
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Thank you for allowing my light
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into your neurons.
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Until next time,
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keep shining your light.
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Go galactic.
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Then you're in the right place. Let's
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go, let's go.
