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Most people spend their entire lives stressed without ever giving a single thought as to what it is they really want and what's important.
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See how we heard a couple of all that noise connecting you to yourself and the life that you were meant to live.
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I used to live away the comfort job and I hate it.
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But I broke through the software too much.
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As a result, I have my own coffee company.
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And I get this crapable.
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You too can live a life that you want, but it starts with incredible that you want.
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It starts with the I'm your host, Donnie Rouse.
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You're listening to the podcast.
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One life.
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So let me, before I even go into the uh the motivation aspect of this episode here, I want to ask you a question.
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Think of a goal, something that seems so far out in the future to you, but you're working towards.
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When you have that thing, I want you to bring it back into the present moment.
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And in that present moment, I want you to tell me what has been your experience of it.
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See, it's not the it's not the end goal where we are experiencing the result.
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It is in the process of doing it.
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So if you have a goal that you're working towards and you are literally, it feels like torture every single day, then there's something wrong with there.
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We need to do, we need to create a shift and bring some awareness to that part of your life or to that goal.
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So, what is that thing?
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And then what is it that really, really frustrates you or gets you angry, or gets you overwhelmed?
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Think about it.
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And the reason why I'm asking you to think about this is because likely what you think is the root cause is not really the root cause.
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Yesterday I was working on um an online funnel for my coffee.
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And to give you an idea as to what I am working towards, I have this I have this insatiable desire to be out in the world, to travel, but I have my coffee business, so I have things here that I feel are keeping me planted at the moment.
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And it's not to say that they have to always uh keep me planted, but it means that I have to do the work to free myself from these uh these responsibilities that likely means hiring some people, but also streamlining results and using technology.
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And using technology, um one of the things that I'm doing is creating an online funnel, which is to get people who are interested in what I have to say and what I create in terms of my coffee to bring them and track them to me and then take them on a journey through the Rouse experience.
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Well, it sounds so simple, but in implementing it, it was actually very, very tough.
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I'm in this course right now, currently, and uh I signed up for the course because I knew that if I had locked myself into the course, that I would have to do it.
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Right?
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How many times have you done something like that where you're like, you know what?
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If I don't say yes now, if I don't commit to it now, then I know time is gonna pass and I'm I'm not gonna do it, and then another five years is gonna go by.
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So that's where I was in this.
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I knew what I wanted.
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I knew what I wanted was freedom of location, at the very least, just to be able to take multiple trips, not necessarily travel 100% of the time, because that gets tiring.
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So this opportunity came up, and I thought about as all right, I'm getting ready to go to Europe for a month.
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What am I doing?
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Like, do I purchase this program and know that I'm gonna be a month behind, or do I just bypass it and then find someone else who teaches the the concept?
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Being inspired in that moment, I decided to take the plunge and to enroll in this course.
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Now the course has been completed and I am still on module two of eight.
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And I was trying, um, trying to implement, not trying, I'm in the process of implementing.
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And I realized that there's all these things that weren't lining up specifically.
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My email client wasn't speaking to the quiz that I was creating for my online, and then so I built it in other email clients, but each of them, um, I'm sorry, other um forms and quiz platforms, but each of them had their own limitations.
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And I was literally going to, I don't even know what I was gonna do.
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I was gonna not harm myself, but I was just at my end.
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So yesterday I was flustered, and and I rarely ever uh will call friends up and just start venting.
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Yesterday was one of those days that I did that, and I just started going on complaining about the freaking platforms, about technology, about no one wants to, you know, have support on the phone, everything's this chat bots, which don't even give you the right answer you're looking for, right?
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And they just kind of spin you in circles and you never hear back.
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And now you're spending like instead of an hour, you're spending days, weeks trying to resolve an issue that could have been done in five minutes if the customer service was there.
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So it's still a little bit frustrated.
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And so I I um I ended up leaving that night.
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And I was like, I just gotta, I gotta get out, I gotta just clear my mind and step away from this.
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So I went to I ended up going to yoga.
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I it was so much traffic, like compounded what I was feeling in that moment.
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I'm like, friggin' traffic, holy cra! And I'm, you know, my head was about to turn red and it was about to explode at the top.
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So I get into yoga like just on like maybe a couple of minutes late, and uh the instructor sees me, you know, she's like, Yeah, come in, come in, come on in.
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So I get I'm sitting there, I'm doing my poses, and my mind is going crazy.
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Like, I can't, I'm I'm in the middle of a pose, then I have to stop because I'm like, I can't even focus on the pose.
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That's how busy my mind, or even move my body in the way she was she was asking.
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So I would take a moment, I would pause for five seconds, and then I would resume.
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And this happened multiple times in uh throughout this class.
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And then towards the end, I started to quiet my like my mind started to quiet and be still, and I started paying more attention to my body and emptying all the shit from my day out.
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Fast forward, I ended up calling one of my friends, my friend Noelle, and said, Hey, listen, let's go meet for let's go meet for uh uh some tacos.
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So we went down to a place for taco Tuesday, and while we were talking there, he was telling me about one of the conversations he had with his um with his brother.
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And he he had asked his brother, what was his when was the last time he felt victorious or uh a moment of triumph?
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And his brother had shared something from like his like earlier years when he was playing football, and he's a man, he's like so you're telling me the last time you felt this this feeling of triumph was when you were playing football so many years ago.
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He's like, You have a house, family, all this stuff now.
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Why don't you feel that now?
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Why don't you feel this sense of pride accomplishment?
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And it's kind of off topic, but he got me thinking about um he got it just got me thinking about when was the last time I felt that.
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Like you you feel it, I I felt it in periods of uh especially over like like the last week, there's been periods where I'm like, hell yeah, but when do you actually really, really feel in your body where you're like, I am unstoppable?
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I always usually I always go back to when I was doing my weightlifting competition where I just was a hundred percent committed.
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A hundred percent committed.
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And as a result, you saw the you saw the result in my physique because of it, because everything I did was red-imensioned, disciplined, uh, my between my meals, my workouts.
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So I went back to that moment.
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And it just kind of stuck with me.
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And I was thinking about like how when I travel, certain decisions that I make and how it's so easy to fall back into the normal way of doing things, which would is a different tangent.
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We're not gonna go.
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So as I left the restaurant, right?
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This is just the reason I'm telling you this, it just started getting my wheels spinning and asking different questions.
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So as I left the restaurant, I'm sitting in my car, uh pulling around, and I'm at a light.
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I'm like, what is the real reason?
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Like, what was I really feeling?
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It's not the freaking, it's not the, it's not the the application, it's not the technology, it's not the shitty customer service that these, you know, it's none of that.
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What is it that I'm really feeling?
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And my the real frustration was that it should have happened already.
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It should have happened, right?
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It it should have happened yesterday, right?
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Because I wanted to be free of the uh the situation that I have, and I want to be able to live the life the way I want to live it.
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And I I know that I'm being a little bit hard myself, right?
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Because I look back on the the experiences that especially I was just doing a photo import and I was like trying to export my photos from uh Mac Photos into a folder, and as a result of doing that, just like threw it, like just threw all the photos in a folder, no organization whatsoever.
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So as I was looking through those folders, and I was just clicking down, I was like, holy shit, like I packed a lot of life into like in into my ears, and I'm looking through the travels, looking through my experiences of coffee, and I'm like, holy crap, like this is amazing.
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And I started to think about how like the scattering, I think Mel Robbins calls it, where like your friends kind of dissipate.
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I noticed that I spent more time um in solitude, like working on my stuff, but uh alone.
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And it's not, that's not how I operate.
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And the reason I uh go back and tell you this is because I'm not I wasn't putting off life.
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And I was being a little bit one, I was being very, very hard on myself.
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But when I look back on the way I've lived, I I didn't put off living in the best years of my life.
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Well, then you can say, well, what's the best years of your life?
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The best years of your life are doing the things where you feel like you should be doing them and following your heart and not the shoulds that everybody else is telling you should do or what society's telling you to do.
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Now, they may not even be telling you directly, but just by being a part of society, you are following a cultural norm.
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And there's nothing wrong with that, just it's what happens when people get together.
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But it's important to be aware of it.
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So this way you could carve out your own path and start living your own life based on what your values are, based on what's important to you.
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So fast forward, I'm back in this car and I'm just thinking like, what is the real, what was the real thing that was bothering me?
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It was nothing to do with technology, the customer service, or how long it well, it was how long it was how long it was taking.
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That's what exactly was bothering me, because I felt like my expectations was it should have happened yesterday.
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When I just stopped to think about it, I was like, why would I think that something this important to building this freedom lifestyle that I want is gonna take a day?
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If it were just gonna take a day, then everyone would be doing it and everyone would have it done, and no one would be here, and everyone would be at least somewhere sipping coffee, and I'd be somewhere else because I don't like traveling with large crowds.
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So there that was one little perspective shift.
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Okay, and then I'll give you one kind of uh then I later on I started speaking with one of my friends, my friend Diego, who is uh living in Mexico.
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He's back in Mexico after doing three months of travel.
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This was his first big trip, and it's funny because having traveled many times now, uh, 62, proud of it, and um 62 countries, that is, and I was telling him about the experiences he's gonna feel as a result of being back, especially with the jet lag and uh coming off of this high and then being thrown back into society and how being there like will start to like all the inspiration that he felt when he was abroad and all the desires that he created all are gonna shift and all of a sudden they're gonna seem lackluster and dull.
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I told him, I said, listen, whatever you do, make a decision, take some big action right now.
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Like, don't you know you because he he wants to go back to school and um and study in Japan.
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So I was like, take action because I'm telling you, like all that passion you felt, it's gonna dissipate.
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But if you lock yourself in now, then you are gonna feel excited and you're gonna know that it's coming, and then you that there's only one way to go, and that is forward.
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So he shared with me how he, you know, he had already started applying to schools and started the process, which was freaking amazing.
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So I'm so so happy for him because uh one, because I uh I know the types of experiences he's gonna have going forward and he loves Japan.
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I just I'm happy to see him following his passion and and going against the norm of everyone else around him, especially being in South America.
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He had expressed some frustration after being around uh around Asia and then going back there, how things just seemed like they were it was a different world, which it very much is a different world.
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I mean, Asia to United States is a different world, Asia to Latin America has got to be like not even a different world, it's like a different universe.
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So, why do I tell you this?
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I tell you this for a couple of reasons.
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One is, as I had mentioned, know what it is that's really going on your mind.
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Like, what is the real frustration, right?
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So this way you're not taking it out on your spouse, your kids, your friends.
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What is the real frustration?
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And so you're enjoying fucking excuse me, but so you're enjoying life because otherwise you're gonna dredge through it and it friggin' sucks, right?
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So you gotta bring some awareness to it.
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And then say it's okay to to dredge through it, but bring awareness into the into it.
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So this way you can free yourself from that and just and figure out what is really going on.
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And then one, when you're looking at when you've realized and you've asked the why, like what is it?
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Ask yourself, is is this logical?
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Like, is this how long it's supposed to take?
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Or what it would typically take.
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Like, if I was thinking about making if it were easy to make a life of location freedom, everyone would be doing it, right?
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Everyone would be doing it.
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So give yourself a little bit of grace there.
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Next, what is it you want?
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What is it that you're moving towards?
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And I want to uh kind of caveat that.
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We need to have a quiet mind.
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If your mind is noisy, the things you're saying you want, chances are they're not even yours, right?
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Let's be honest.
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Because in the quiet of the mind, your heart speaks and you will be able to become aware of those influences.
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Then you'll be like, huh, that's bullshit.
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Not gonna listen to that one.
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This is what I really want.
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Know what you want, and then lastly, and most importantly, burn your bridges, make a decision that is gonna lock you in to that result.
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Because motivation is only gonna take you so far.
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But if you were locked into that result and now all of a sudden you're committed, like I did with this this course, the marketing course.
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I'm like, damn, right?
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I'm I'm in.
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I spent the money.
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I I've got to do this.
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Like I could easily let myself off because the course is ending, and now there's like I'm I'm gonna lack some of that accountability, but I've got to keep on going because I know this is what I want.
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I know that um already just from taking this course that it's already uh give me a new way of looking at business in terms of how I market and offer my products and services.
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So I know it's gonna be a tremendous value.
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Um, so that is it.
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I hope I threw a lot at you, but I hope in in essence, like I'll give you the again, I'll just kind of give you the the extract of it all.
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Like, what are you feeling?
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What is the real cause behind the feelings that you're feeling?
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And then what can you do about it, right?
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Like, what can you do in the sense of to move, keep moving forward, to lock yourself in, to stay focused and on your desire.
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Because remember, you guys, you only get one life.
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Don't save the best of life for the years that matter least or the le the years where you know you're wasting all the energy, the vitality you have, and then putting it off for later where later may not even come.
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Right?
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So it's a fine balance of making sure that you're doing the things you want, enjoying life, but you're also planning for the future.
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So that is all I've got for you guys.
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I hope you enjoyed this episode.
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If you did, please give it a thumbs up, leave a comment.
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Comments help get the word out, or you could also share it with somebody via social media or just mail the episode to a friend.
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Um, if you have any questions or comments, you can send them to me via my website at www.donnyrouse.com.
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That is d-o-n-n-y-r-a-us.com.
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That is it, guys.
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God bless you guys.
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I hope you enjoyed this episode.
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And remember, you only get one life.
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Live fully, live passionally, and most of all, live now.
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God bless you guys, and I will see you again soon.
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Most people spend their entire lives stressed without ever giving a single thought as to what it is they really want and what's important.
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See how we heard a couple of all that noise connecting you to yourself and the life that you were meant to live.
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I used to live away the comfort job and I hate it.
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But I broke through the software too much.
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As a result, I have my own coffee company.
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And I get this crapable.
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You too can live a life that you want, but it starts with incredible that you want.
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It starts with the I'm your host, Donnie Rouse.
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You're listening to the podcast.
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One life.
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So let me, before I even go into the uh the motivation aspect of this episode here, I want to ask you a question.
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Think of a goal, something that seems so far out in the future to you, but you're working towards.
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When you have that thing, I want you to bring it back into the present moment.
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And in that present moment, I want you to tell me what has been your experience of it.
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See, it's not the it's not the end goal where we are experiencing the result.
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It is in the process of doing it.
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So if you have a goal that you're working towards and you are literally, it feels like torture every single day, then there's something wrong with there.
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We need to do, we need to create a shift and bring some awareness to that part of your life or to that goal.
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So, what is that thing?
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And then what is it that really, really frustrates you or gets you angry, or gets you overwhelmed?
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Think about it.
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And the reason why I'm asking you to think about this is because likely what you think is the root cause is not really the root cause.
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Yesterday I was working on um an online funnel for my coffee.
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And to give you an idea as to what I am working towards, I have this I have this insatiable desire to be out in the world, to travel, but I have my coffee business, so I have things here that I feel are keeping me planted at the moment.
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And it's not to say that they have to always uh keep me planted, but it means that I have to do the work to free myself from these uh these responsibilities that likely means hiring some people, but also streamlining results and using technology.
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And using technology, um one of the things that I'm doing is creating an online funnel, which is to get people who are interested in what I have to say and what I create in terms of my coffee to bring them and track them to me and then take them on a journey through the Rouse experience.
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Well, it sounds so simple, but in implementing it, it was actually very, very tough.
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I'm in this course right now, currently, and uh I signed up for the course because I knew that if I had locked myself into the course, that I would have to do it.
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Right?
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How many times have you done something like that where you're like, you know what?
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If I don't say yes now, if I don't commit to it now, then I know time is gonna pass and I'm I'm not gonna do it, and then another five years is gonna go by.
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So that's where I was in this.
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I knew what I wanted.
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I knew what I wanted was freedom of location, at the very least, just to be able to take multiple trips, not necessarily travel 100% of the time, because that gets tiring.
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So this opportunity came up, and I thought about as all right, I'm getting ready to go to Europe for a month.
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What am I doing?
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Like, do I purchase this program and know that I'm gonna be a month behind, or do I just bypass it and then find someone else who teaches the the concept?
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Being inspired in that moment, I decided to take the plunge and to enroll in this course.
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Now the course has been completed and I am still on module two of eight.
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And I was trying, um, trying to implement, not trying, I'm in the process of implementing.
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And I realized that there's all these things that weren't lining up specifically.
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My email client wasn't speaking to the quiz that I was creating for my online, and then so I built it in other email clients, but each of them, um, I'm sorry, other um forms and quiz platforms, but each of them had their own limitations.
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And I was literally going to, I don't even know what I was gonna do.
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I was gonna not harm myself, but I was just at my end.
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So yesterday I was flustered, and and I rarely ever uh will call friends up and just start venting.
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Yesterday was one of those days that I did that, and I just started going on complaining about the freaking platforms, about technology, about no one wants to, you know, have support on the phone, everything's this chat bots, which don't even give you the right answer you're looking for, right?
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And they just kind of spin you in circles and you never hear back.
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And now you're spending like instead of an hour, you're spending days, weeks trying to resolve an issue that could have been done in five minutes if the customer service was there.
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So it's still a little bit frustrated.
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And so I I um I ended up leaving that night.
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And I was like, I just gotta, I gotta get out, I gotta just clear my mind and step away from this.
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So I went to I ended up going to yoga.
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I it was so much traffic, like compounded what I was feeling in that moment.
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I'm like, friggin' traffic, holy cra! And I'm, you know, my head was about to turn red and it was about to explode at the top.
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So I get into yoga like just on like maybe a couple of minutes late, and uh the instructor sees me, you know, she's like, Yeah, come in, come in, come on in.
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So I get I'm sitting there, I'm doing my poses, and my mind is going crazy.
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Like, I can't, I'm I'm in the middle of a pose, then I have to stop because I'm like, I can't even focus on the pose.
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That's how busy my mind, or even move my body in the way she was she was asking.
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So I would take a moment, I would pause for five seconds, and then I would resume.
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And this happened multiple times in uh throughout this class.
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And then towards the end, I started to quiet my like my mind started to quiet and be still, and I started paying more attention to my body and emptying all the shit from my day out.
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Fast forward, I ended up calling one of my friends, my friend Noelle, and said, Hey, listen, let's go meet for let's go meet for uh uh some tacos.
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So we went down to a place for taco Tuesday, and while we were talking there, he was telling me about one of the conversations he had with his um with his brother.
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And he he had asked his brother, what was his when was the last time he felt victorious or uh a moment of triumph?
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And his brother had shared something from like his like earlier years when he was playing football, and he's a man, he's like so you're telling me the last time you felt this this feeling of triumph was when you were playing football so many years ago.
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He's like, You have a house, family, all this stuff now.
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Why don't you feel that now?
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Why don't you feel this sense of pride accomplishment?
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And it's kind of off topic, but he got me thinking about um he got it just got me thinking about when was the last time I felt that.
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Like you you feel it, I I felt it in periods of uh especially over like like the last week, there's been periods where I'm like, hell yeah, but when do you actually really, really feel in your body where you're like, I am unstoppable?
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I always usually I always go back to when I was doing my weightlifting competition where I just was a hundred percent committed.
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A hundred percent committed.
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And as a result, you saw the you saw the result in my physique because of it, because everything I did was red-imensioned, disciplined, uh, my between my meals, my workouts.
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So I went back to that moment.
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And it just kind of stuck with me.
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And I was thinking about like how when I travel, certain decisions that I make and how it's so easy to fall back into the normal way of doing things, which would is a different tangent.
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We're not gonna go.
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So as I left the restaurant, right?
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This is just the reason I'm telling you this, it just started getting my wheels spinning and asking different questions.
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So as I left the restaurant, I'm sitting in my car, uh pulling around, and I'm at a light.
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I'm like, what is the real reason?
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Like, what was I really feeling?
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It's not the freaking, it's not the, it's not the the application, it's not the technology, it's not the shitty customer service that these, you know, it's none of that.
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What is it that I'm really feeling?
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And my the real frustration was that it should have happened already.
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It should have happened, right?
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It it should have happened yesterday, right?
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Because I wanted to be free of the uh the situation that I have, and I want to be able to live the life the way I want to live it.
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And I I know that I'm being a little bit hard myself, right?
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Because I look back on the the experiences that especially I was just doing a photo import and I was like trying to export my photos from uh Mac Photos into a folder, and as a result of doing that, just like threw it, like just threw all the photos in a folder, no organization whatsoever.
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So as I was looking through those folders, and I was just clicking down, I was like, holy shit, like I packed a lot of life into like in into my ears, and I'm looking through the travels, looking through my experiences of coffee, and I'm like, holy crap, like this is amazing.
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And I started to think about how like the scattering, I think Mel Robbins calls it, where like your friends kind of dissipate.
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I noticed that I spent more time um in solitude, like working on my stuff, but uh alone.
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And it's not, that's not how I operate.
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And the reason I uh go back and tell you this is because I'm not I wasn't putting off life.
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And I was being a little bit one, I was being very, very hard on myself.
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But when I look back on the way I've lived, I I didn't put off living in the best years of my life.
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Well, then you can say, well, what's the best years of your life?
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The best years of your life are doing the things where you feel like you should be doing them and following your heart and not the shoulds that everybody else is telling you should do or what society's telling you to do.
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Now, they may not even be telling you directly, but just by being a part of society, you are following a cultural norm.
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And there's nothing wrong with that, just it's what happens when people get together.
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But it's important to be aware of it.
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So this way you could carve out your own path and start living your own life based on what your values are, based on what's important to you.
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So fast forward, I'm back in this car and I'm just thinking like, what is the real, what was the real thing that was bothering me?
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It was nothing to do with technology, the customer service, or how long it well, it was how long it was how long it was taking.
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That's what exactly was bothering me, because I felt like my expectations was it should have happened yesterday.
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When I just stopped to think about it, I was like, why would I think that something this important to building this freedom lifestyle that I want is gonna take a day?
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If it were just gonna take a day, then everyone would be doing it and everyone would have it done, and no one would be here, and everyone would be at least somewhere sipping coffee, and I'd be somewhere else because I don't like traveling with large crowds.
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So there that was one little perspective shift.
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Okay, and then I'll give you one kind of uh then I later on I started speaking with one of my friends, my friend Diego, who is uh living in Mexico.
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He's back in Mexico after doing three months of travel.
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This was his first big trip, and it's funny because having traveled many times now, uh, 62, proud of it, and um 62 countries, that is, and I was telling him about the experiences he's gonna feel as a result of being back, especially with the jet lag and uh coming off of this high and then being thrown back into society and how being there like will start to like all the inspiration that he felt when he was abroad and all the desires that he created all are gonna shift and all of a sudden they're gonna seem lackluster and dull.
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I told him, I said, listen, whatever you do, make a decision, take some big action right now.
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Like, don't you know you because he he wants to go back to school and um and study in Japan.
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So I was like, take action because I'm telling you, like all that passion you felt, it's gonna dissipate.
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But if you lock yourself in now, then you are gonna feel excited and you're gonna know that it's coming, and then you that there's only one way to go, and that is forward.
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So he shared with me how he, you know, he had already started applying to schools and started the process, which was freaking amazing.
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So I'm so so happy for him because uh one, because I uh I know the types of experiences he's gonna have going forward and he loves Japan.
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I just I'm happy to see him following his passion and and going against the norm of everyone else around him, especially being in South America.
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He had expressed some frustration after being around uh around Asia and then going back there, how things just seemed like they were it was a different world, which it very much is a different world.
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I mean, Asia to United States is a different world, Asia to Latin America has got to be like not even a different world, it's like a different universe.
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So, why do I tell you this?
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I tell you this for a couple of reasons.
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One is, as I had mentioned, know what it is that's really going on your mind.
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Like, what is the real frustration, right?
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So this way you're not taking it out on your spouse, your kids, your friends.
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What is the real frustration?
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And so you're enjoying fucking excuse me, but so you're enjoying life because otherwise you're gonna dredge through it and it friggin' sucks, right?
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So you gotta bring some awareness to it.
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And then say it's okay to to dredge through it, but bring awareness into the into it.
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So this way you can free yourself from that and just and figure out what is really going on.
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And then one, when you're looking at when you've realized and you've asked the why, like what is it?
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Ask yourself, is is this logical?
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Like, is this how long it's supposed to take?
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Or what it would typically take.
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Like, if I was thinking about making if it were easy to make a life of location freedom, everyone would be doing it, right?
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Everyone would be doing it.
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So give yourself a little bit of grace there.
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Next, what is it you want?
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What is it that you're moving towards?
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And I want to uh kind of caveat that.
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We need to have a quiet mind.
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If your mind is noisy, the things you're saying you want, chances are they're not even yours, right?
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Let's be honest.
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Because in the quiet of the mind, your heart speaks and you will be able to become aware of those influences.
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Then you'll be like, huh, that's bullshit.
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Not gonna listen to that one.
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This is what I really want.
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Know what you want, and then lastly, and most importantly, burn your bridges, make a decision that is gonna lock you in to that result.
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Because motivation is only gonna take you so far.
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But if you were locked into that result and now all of a sudden you're committed, like I did with this this course, the marketing course.
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I'm like, damn, right?
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I'm I'm in.
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I spent the money.
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I I've got to do this.
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Like I could easily let myself off because the course is ending, and now there's like I'm I'm gonna lack some of that accountability, but I've got to keep on going because I know this is what I want.
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I know that um already just from taking this course that it's already uh give me a new way of looking at business in terms of how I market and offer my products and services.
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So I know it's gonna be a tremendous value.
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Um, so that is it.
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I hope I threw a lot at you, but I hope in in essence, like I'll give you the again, I'll just kind of give you the the extract of it all.
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Like, what are you feeling?
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What is the real cause behind the feelings that you're feeling?
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And then what can you do about it, right?
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Like, what can you do in the sense of to move, keep moving forward, to lock yourself in, to stay focused and on your desire.
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Because remember, you guys, you only get one life.
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Don't save the best of life for the years that matter least or the le the years where you know you're wasting all the energy, the vitality you have, and then putting it off for later where later may not even come.
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Right?
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So it's a fine balance of making sure that you're doing the things you want, enjoying life, but you're also planning for the future.
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So that is all I've got for you guys.
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I hope you enjoyed this episode.
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If you did, please give it a thumbs up, leave a comment.
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Comments help get the word out, or you could also share it with somebody via social media or just mail the episode to a friend.
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Um, if you have any questions or comments, you can send them to me via my website at www.donnyrouse.com.
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That is d-o-n-n-y-r-a-us.com.
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That is it, guys.
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God bless you guys.
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I hope you enjoyed this episode.
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And remember, you only get one life.
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Live fully, live passionally, and most of all, live now.
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God bless you guys, and I will see you again soon.
