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In order for us to grow individually and as a whole, these conversations are necessary.
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Let's get it.
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Welcome back to the Empowering Real Talk Podcast.
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It's your girl Coach K back with another amazing session.
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Thank you so much for tuning in.
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Today's episode is going to be no different.
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And if you see me on screen, then you see that I am not by myself.
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So I'm gonna allow my guest the honor of introducing herself.
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Hello, hello, hello.
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Hello, hello, hello.
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Well how are you?
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I am doing great.
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Thank you for asking.
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How are you?
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Absolutely.
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I'm good.
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I'm good.
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Excited to chat with you today.
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Please let the listeners know who you are, what you do, and a little bit about you.
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Okay, so my name is Foyila.
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I'm the founder of Foyila's Journey Diary, and it's all about retreats, whether if it's a one-hour workshop or uh hopefully a six-month workshop somewhere, um, where the whole purpose is to create a space to reset and by means of creativity, so it's not just oh, we're doing some retreats, we're constantly doing something creative to reroute the neurons, and we are helping each other to pour into ourselves, and that's what I do, and I am a mom, I'm a wife, and a child of God.
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Hey, period.
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Amen to that.
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I love it.
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I love what you said, everything you said.
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I love everything that you're doing.
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Um, we actually were connected um by a fellow coach and entrepreneur, business owner.
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Um, and I love when I get a chance to be introduced to women that are doing amazing things for not just us, um, our communities, but for ourselves, because I know that that's something that you're really working on.
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So kudos to you.
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And I'm excited to learn more about that.
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I'm excited for you to share more about it with our audience.
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And I'm gonna get right on into that.
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And I just want to know because we've talked and chatted um and we've, you know, fellowshipped a little bit, but I want to know what's the journey process for you, right?
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Like, how would you describe your journey diary and the heart behind that?
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Okay, well, it's a lifetime experience, and I've learned to take the hardship and to turn it into something good.
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I love it.
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I've also realized that we all go through the same things, just different stories.
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There are tweaks to the, you know, to the how, but we all go through something.
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And oftentimes we think we're alone.
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So it took a while to realize, like, oh, you know, I've had to tell this friend this situation or this this advice or you know, this example.
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And here it is, I've had to tell myself the same thing.
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And then I have to tell another friend the same thing.
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So it's like, you know, it's it's the same solutions, or maybe not solutions, but the same advices.
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So that means we're dealing with the same things.
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And so it it started off when I realized that this is what I need to do.
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I was in a dark space, I was in a in a time where it's like, okay, I don't see the light at the end of the tunnel.
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Yeah, and so that started off with a drawing.
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And um that moment where I was drawing was the realization that your surrounding matters.
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Because by that time, that day was the day was a moment where I was around people who were, you know, it was a different atmosphere from the time that I was going through that dark phase.
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And so it was like, you know, your surrounding matters.
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And I drew that.
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And I'm a and I'm I'm I'm a I'm a line drawer, I'm a like uh abstract.
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So I tried to draw that moment into that abstract like that I do.
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So that was the beginning of it, and every page was dedicated to somebody who's came along the journey where I've had to explain, you know, we've had conversation about our sizes or conversation about depression or something of you know, something mental related.
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So that was that, and it sat for about two years before I came back to it to like, okay, what are we doing now, Foyla?
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What are what where is this going?
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And so the purpose has been building since then.
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Like, um, you know, I wouldn't say the purpose, the purpose had already been there, just discovering the purpose started then.
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So I love that.
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I love that.
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Your story, like when we talked before, like your story just is so simple, it feels so similar, you know.
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And I love that you touched on that.
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You're like, you know, hey, we all, you know, have similar experiences, but the journey is just different.
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And that's exactly how I feel about it.
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You know, we understanding, but that moment of like true self-discovery, it's like an epiphany almost.
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I don't know about you, but there was like such a heavy brick that I felt was like lifted off my shoulders just in discovering like there was something deeper for me, you know, the purpose, really figuring out what that purpose was.
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And I always call myself an unofficial coach.
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You know, people were always coming to me, like, oh, you know, Keisha, well, what about this and what about this?
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And I'm throwing out great guiding, great advice, you know, insight and stuff like that.
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But then it was like those reflective moments, it was like, Keisha, you're not using, you're not doing what you're telling these people to do.
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You're just coasting and going with the flow and just defaulting to, you know, whatever.
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So that moment of like self-discovery for me was understanding that you truly do got to practice what you preach, you know.
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And I love that you use creativity.
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I love abstract things, right?
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I didn't realize that I did.
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Again, that's another part of my journey too, that I don't talk about a lot, but really understanding like I do love abstract things, like I love abstract drawings, I love just black and white, I love black and white stuff, like those type of things.
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Like, I love that.
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Um, but also just understanding that that is a part of who I am now, but it always was who I was.
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I just suppressed it.
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You know, we suppressed things for years and you know, truly understanding that.
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Um, as you've, you know, began your journey, you know, how do you feel that that has shaped the way that you create now and the stories that you tell now?
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Okay, well, I would like to make a statement on what you just said.
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Yes.
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Um as I discovered my purpose, I fought with it.
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I was like, no, that's not it.
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It's too simple.
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It's too people will be like, like, okay, whatever.
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You're the Lulu.
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Right.
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The Lulu.
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Yep.
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And I was like, nope, that's not it.
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So I fought a lot, and but it kept on coming back.
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It was like at some point I was like, all right, you know, that's what it is.
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And I prayed about it, and I was like, Well, if this is it, then God, we gotta make some money, right?
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So that part, you know, we can pay, we can get paid to walk in purpose, people.
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I tell my clients that all the time.
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But go ahead, girl.
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Eingo, go ahead.
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Yes.
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So to answer your question, which was I'm sorry, can you re-read?
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Yeah, sure.
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Um, just how has your personal journey like shaped the way you create and the stories that you tell now?
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Um always be truthful, you know, it's telling the truth, um, telling people's well, having people to tell their stories.
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Yeah.
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And so that's we suppressed that.
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We suppressed that.
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We suppressed that like a lot.
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We suppressed our stories because we're ashamed, we're embarrassed.
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You know, you mentioned something too a little bit ago, too, like about our weight, you know.
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I've been a big girl all my life, you know what I'm saying?
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So it's like, you know, now they're like, oh, big girls are in.
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No, big girls always been in, but I just didn't realize it because it was something that I struggled with.
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So I tried to bully my way because I was a big girl.
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So that I just wanted to touch on that for a second because I can identify with that way more than I care to admit.
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So yeah, yeah.
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Same here.
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I I totally get it.
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I get it.
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Same here.
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Yeah, I love that.
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But yeah, I I think that um as you've embarked, you know, on the things that you know you've been experiencing.
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I think authenticity is definitely probably one of the biggest things for me, is really understanding that I've got to be true to me, not true to you, not true to, you know, everybody else, but true to me.
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And I think once we really adapt and adopt that, everything else is gonna flow smoothly into that.
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You know, there's there's detours and there's bumps in the road, obviously.
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That's what life is, right?
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I I think I want people to understand life is never gonna be a smooth sailing ship, ever.
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It just is not.
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But understanding that that is also a part of the journey, but that doesn't mean shift or change who I am, who I'm destined to be, what I'm destined to do, um, and being authentic in that, I think has really just helped me along this journey, you know, as a coach and podcaster speaker, but also as a woman.
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And I think that that's probably the most important one that I want to make sure that I stay aligned with being an unapologetic, amazing ass woman.
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Absolutely.
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I love it, I love it.
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So I know that you, you know, you do workshops and you do um, you know, all the things.
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So kind of walk us through what like a workshop or even, you know, because you do all kinds of different varieties of creative things.
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So kind of walk us through like when you're having like the thought process of creating something.
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Because you currently have, if I'm not mistaken, I think you either have something coming up as we record or something that you've recently done.
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So I'd love for you to share a little bit about that.
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It's funny because it's both.
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Yes.
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Um, my mind is always going, so I've had to learn what to park and what to keep driving.
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So creating something comes easily for me.
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Like I don't struggle with that at all.
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Right.
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And so I come up with things that you know that it's really hard to find an example of or somebody who's been doing it before because I don't know, I'm just that weird person.
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I love that.
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I love that.
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I love it, love it, love it.
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Go ahead.
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Yeah, yeah.
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So what I've recently created that I did have something that we just uh finished last week or two weeks ago, but is also happening again next month.
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Nice
is the color reflect and reset coloring um activity.
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So what that is, this started as, you know, hey, I'm going to make postcards.
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And you know how you get a postcard, you write your name, your email, your the address you're sending it to, put a stamp and send it away.
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And I was like, but mine's going to be a coloring one.
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And so, and so that started it.
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And then I was like, but I want it to be a collection.
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So then we're going to create some unique things.
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And then it kind of kept on going and it until it was not a postcard anymore.
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And it became, yeah, things change.
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We have to adapt to how it's man.
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Come on, tell them again, please.
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Thank you.
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So um, so then what it's actually become, it's a three card reflection.
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It's like this is card three of three.
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So it comes with the journal card, and I've already colored this one.
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I colored it last night.
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I love it.
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But it's three of three, and there's the reflection behind it, and it has the journaling prompt, a verse, and a scientific fact.
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And the reason why I do that is because I cannot stand division.
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So everything that I'm doing is to bring people together.
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It doesn't matter your age, your race, your sex, your money, you know how if you're poor, your class, there you go.
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You know, it doesn't matter who you are, because at the end of the day, my mission is I heal, we heal, the world heals.
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So if we're dividing, then there's always gonna be a problem in this world.
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So I try to speak to different people with different languages because there tends to be like a division between new age spirituality, religion, and science.
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So I tried to tell the same story but using the different languages, and actually that's a word I just found out.
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I'm an omnist.
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An omnist is somebody who believes in different, like the different there's a truth in the different religions, and so meanwhile, I'm not religious, so yeah.
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Hey, talk about a new level of self-discovery.
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I'm here for it.
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I love it.
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Yeah, I learned that two days ago, so I've been using the word a lot so I don't forget it.
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I love it.
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So that's what I do, and it's a subscription, so people can subscribe to it and they have access to join the online experience where I have a guest speaker who's you know who that's their thing about the topic for that month, and it's all reflection, and it's a moment where you come, you have a moment for yourself, you color or journal, or just listen.
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You're not obligated to do anything but be present.
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And so every month I hand draw these cards, I create a different reflection.
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The three cards tell the same story.
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So while this card is card three of three and it's hope of fruition, this is card two, which is the joys and challenges of nurturing, and card one is about how the fear of nurturing, so it all tells the same story, but different parts of the story.
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So we have fears of nurturing, and who are we as we do so?
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We have challenges and joys as we're nurturing, and we have what comes out of what we nurture.
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So they all have their stories, they're all reflective, and we all sit down and we come into community, we hear each other's stories, we come out with something maybe we've learned new about ourselves.
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So that's color reflect and reset.
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I absolutely love it.
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Listen, the journey of transformation, shifting, evolving, whatever words that you guys want to use, it involves those type of steps, right?
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I love that she has the breakdown three of three, which you might have 33 steps, right?
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But understanding that there is no such thing as an overnight switch.
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And over, you know, you can have an epiphany moment, absolutely.
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But the action that you take after that moment is gonna involve steps, it's gonna involve brainstorming with yourself, it's gonna involve understanding who you are, rediscovering if that's where you need to be.
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But the journey of doing that is required.
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Once you realize now the action comes into play.
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And baby, let me tell you, and I know Felia can tell you the same thing.
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It ain't no walk in the park, okay?
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Because I want to ask you like with everything that you're doing, the level of creativity you have, how has this been for you personally in your journey?
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I was often by myself.
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I grew up as an only child, though I have sisters, they lived with their mom.
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Okay, and um, I always had to find something to do.
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So I'm from Haiti, and in my culture, we have maids and butlers and security guards, and um I would go and bug them.
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I would always create something, and I'm like, hey, come do this.
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You know, I'm ordering you to do that because you work.
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They probably like, oh, I'm glad she grown.
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So they were my playmates whenever they had the time to play, or you know, that little moment.
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So I I I was always creating a drawing for them, for them to color, or teaching them how to speak English and creating something.
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So I was constantly creating art as I, you know, as I was growing up, and it's always been my outlet.
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So I didn't know that coloring and drawing, they actually did something more than just you know, something for kids.
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But as an adult, I have come to learn that it does a lot for your mental, it's therapeutic, it does similar things as sleep does for your brain.
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So it's very, very beneficial.
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And a lot of people think, oh, coloring is for kids.
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It's not for kids, it's it's it really is.
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I mean, the kids enjoy it, but there's a lot to it more than just you know, kids being childish, right?
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So that's what creativity has been for me my entire life.
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It's it's an outlet.
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I also dance, that's another thing that's also part of my business, the somatic movement.
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Oh nice.
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Let's share more.
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Yeah, absolutely.
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Um, so emotions get stuck in our bodies, and sometimes we have to release it.
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Some people they use the wrong outlets, like, for example, maybe get into a fight or do something that is harmful to either somebody else or themselves.
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Meanwhile, you could just go and dance.
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There are many other outlets, but dancing is definitely one.
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If you feel like punching, you know, you can go and do some punching moves and you know.
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Right, right.
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Bow, bow.
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You know, bang head, bounce, y'all, like, you know, do yeah.
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So there are movements that you can do to actually release that energy.
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For example, if you're angry, you tend to clench your jaw and you have these shoulder pains or jaw like aches, like where it's like there's a pressure.
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So you kind of, you know, there are moves that you're doing, like this right here.
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To you, it's just ah, like somebody is moving their hands.
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Right.
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But as a dance, it becomes something fun, and there's music to it, and you're like, you know, something, and it's actually doing something for your body.
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Yeah, so I love that, and I love that you're giving people insight on things because we do.
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We will think that the we can all as adults, we can only do certain things to like release, you know, and somatic-wise, I know that doing these type of things helps emotions.
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I've experienced it myself.
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When I tell you, like I have like things that I do in the bed or at home, and I have done them sometimes where it has literally made me just start crying because in that moment, that's the emotion that I was experiencing, and that's the emotion that I needed to release.
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Um, and I used to suppress crying, like you could not catch me crying.
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Somebody could put a hundred dollar bill in my hand and I would not be able to cry because I had just suppressed it so much.
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But now, baby, I'll cry at the drop of a dime now.
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So that was just the the shifting that I had to do within myself.
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So I love that you're giving you know insight and tips on how to work with you.
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We see dance things going on all the time.
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You know, there's you know, people are hosting events with dance events, yoga, you know, dancing, um, you know, just moving around, um, painting, drawing, all of these things.
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I know I see them on a regular basis now.
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So I hope that people see that and realize that that is just something that we are now able to do as grown adults.
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It's there's not a societal stigma that, well, I'll say there's a stigma that we're breaking when it comes to that.
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All right, guys.
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So listen, I want to ask you something that's a little personal, but I just want to ask and get your insight on it.
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But what do you hope people take away from witnessing your journey in real time?
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Because you are very open about your journey, about how you have, you know, made the shifts in understanding who you are and embracing that.
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And instead of trying to act like, you know, you're trying to make yourself this whole different person, but you've really brought out the person that was always inside of you.
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So what do you hope people hope to take away from that?
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Um, just witnessing that in real time
for you.
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I'm not a coach.
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I am not a coach.
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Hey, it's real.
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It's facts.
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People will definitely, yeah, I get it.
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Yeah, yeah.
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Some people they they try to, you know, give me the title, and I'm like, no, you know, we'll leave it for the coaches.
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I am somebody who's experienced life just like you and I have, and I've recognized what works for me, and I want to share that with the world in hopes that you may use it for your best interest and for it to work for you for your better version of yourself.
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And that's the takeaway.
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I'm I'm nobody special.
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I mean, I am special, but I'm not I knew where you were going with.
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Yeah.
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So I knew where you were going with that.
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I love that.
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I and I appreciate that, you know, because we definitely will have, you know, I do call myself a coach, but I'm also real.
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Like I just want to be real, raw, and authentically me.
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And, you know, whatever comes with that comes with that.
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Um, but the one thing I just make sure that I want people to understand is I'm still human, you know, I'm still evolving, I'm still growing, I'm still healing, I'm still shifting, I'm still doing all the things that I may talk about on my podcast or when I'm with the client or when I'm speaking on stage.
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I'm still doing all of those things.
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So the one thing, if y'all don't take away nothing else, understanding that the power of being authentically you is going to carry you so much more further than trying to suppress and keep yourself stuck in a box.
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We definitely don't do that over here no more, y'all.
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All right.
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Exactly.
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And healing is an ongoing thing.
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There is no ongoing ending to it.
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I say I tell people I am ing probably until I take my last breath.
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And it's facts.
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I'm never gonna say I'm healed because I'm always healing.
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There are years of things that I have to work on to shift to understand that it wasn't my fault.
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Like all of the things, like I'm healing from.
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So I that's a great point.
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I will never be completely healed, y'all.
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Right, right.
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Nobody probably will be, but you know, that's a great point.
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I want to, I'm glad she pointed that out to y'all.
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We're healing, I and G.
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ING.
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I love it.
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All right, so final message that I love for you to share.
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What's one thing you want listeners to slow down and notice within themselves, maybe in the next day, in the next week, the next month.
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What do you recommend?
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Go outside, take your shoes off, breathe in, take some deep breaths, scream if you have to.
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And you know, just just let it out.
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Let it out.
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I love it.
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Let it out.
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We gotta let it go, let it out, release it.
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Yes, it's going to be ugly, y'all.
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You might walk away with so many tears, puffy eyes, but how you feel after that is what's going to matter.
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Don't focus on the doing, the during, right?
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Feel it.
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And I definitely tell people, feel that, right?
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Feel it, but also understand that after that, the level of release that could be a part of your life.
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Let me tell you something.
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It's surreal, y'all.
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So surreal.
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Absolutely.
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Please share with my listeners where they can find you, what's up coming, websites, socials, all that good stuff.
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Okay, so it's Foyla's Journey Diary.
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That's F-O-I-L-A S Journey Diary.
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And I am the same everywhere TikTok, Instagram, Facebook.
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I'm still developing my YouTube channel.
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Um and so that means y'all gonna go subscribe too, so she can go ahead and get them subscribers up.
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Go ahead.
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Yes, absolutely.
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And it's the same thing, www.foyla's journeydiary.com.
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And yeah.
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I love it.
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I love it.
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And we will make sure that those links are in the show notes, guys.
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So you'll be able to get quick, easy access to learn more about her, her journey, but also get involved in her activities because I definitely think that it's something.
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If you're listening to Empire and Real Talk, then you are definitely on some form of journey.
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And it's worth a shout out to go check it out.
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I encourage you guys to do that.
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All right.
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It has been such a great time.
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I appreciate you sharing your story, but also sharing your insight and just being raw and authentically you.
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I truly appreciate that and having you on the show.
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Thank you.
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Thank you for having me.
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Absolutely.
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Thank you for doing what you do.
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Thank you.
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I appreciate that.
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All right, y'all.
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So y'all know when I tell y'all, keep it real with yourself.
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That's exactly what we mean.
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But also understanding what real is with yourself, okay?
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Because sometimes we think that real is what somebody else is doing.
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But you owe yourself reflection, you owe yourself discovery, and you owe yourself transformation where it's needed.
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All right.
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So if you have not subscribed, again, I'm gonna tell you before we get out of here, make sure you have.
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Hit the button, click the link, hit the favorite, start, all the things, you guys.
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And I appreciate you guys so much for tuning in to Empowering Real Talk.
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Until next time, stay empowered.
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Thank you.