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Welcome to the Mom's Work Podcast, where work, the family, and real life come together.
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Hi, I'm Kristen Weinreich, a working mom, navigating the chaos, the career, the cooking, and yes, the crying.
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Each week I sit down with moms and dads who are balancing careers, raising families, and figuring it out one day at a time.
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We share honest conversations, practical advice, and the stories that remind us that we're not doing this alone.
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You belong here.
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Now let's get into today's conversation.
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Welcome to Mom's Work Podcast.
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I'm your host, Kristen Weinrich, mom of two, fourth grade teacher, and someone who believes that some of life's most important lessons happen outside of the classroom.
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Today's guests are Tim and Tolly Sherry, better known online as Tim Talk Sherry.
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Their joyful dance videos have captured the hearts of thousands and serve as a reminder that fun, connection, and joy don't have to disappear as we get older.
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Not that you're old, you're very young.
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Behind the dancing is a much deeper story.
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Tolly is a retired teacher who spent decades investing in children while Tim was in sales and also on the board of Bringing Hope Home, which is an organization that supports families facing cancer.
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And we'll talk about bringing hope home later in the episode.
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Um today we're talking about marriage, parenting, retirement, finding joy, and what it means to keep dancing through every season of life.
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Tim and Tolly, I'm so happy that you're here today.
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Oh, it's great to be here.
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Thank you for having us.
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I'm excited to talk to you.
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And I'd love uh for us to get started with you, it both kind of introducing yourselves, telling us a little bit about your family, what your life looks like these days, yourself.
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So whoever would like to start, take it away.
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Sure.
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Well, Tim and I met uh back at Westchester University.
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He was a communications major and I was an elementary ed major.
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That was the major.
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They they didn't have it all split up back in the in those days.
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And uh we met at college and um we just basically hit it off.
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And and uh the first things we talked about is that Tim comes from a really fun family.
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I come from a fun family, and so that was sort of really important to us.
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And um, you know, I I thought to myself I could have a lot of fun with this guy.
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And they are uh, you know, fun, funny people.
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And my parents are very artistic and love to sing and dance, and so do Tim's parents love to sing and dance, and so that was a very much a part of our uh our marriage, you know, uh moving forward.
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It would just came naturally, it wasn't thought about, it wasn't, you know, something that we researched or anything, it's just the essence of who we were even before we had children.
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So um that's you know, our our little background as and then my career uh was I was grateful uh to land in a wonderful reputable school district um after I actually did my student teaching there.
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Oh wow.
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And they hired me.
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Um, and I was very active also at the high school level doing the choreography with the student musicals and coaching the cheerleaders.
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Oh wow, I didn't realize that.
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Okay, yeah, that was an important thing to me as a young person.
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Um, and so that choreography came in.
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I did that for about seven or eight years and as well as the coaching, but then most of my teaching career was at the elementary level since I was certified um, you know, K through five.
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And um, yeah, so I ended up, it was a blessing to be at the
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same elementary school for all those years, but then doing the extracurricular stuff at the secondary level.
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You got a little bit of everybody, yeah.
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Older kids and the the little kids.
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I tell you, it even if um since it was such a good school district, and you know, and once we were ready to have children, uh we knew that I didn't want to leave my teaching career.
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Um, and sure, we it was nice to have the extra income at the time, but we uh we I just it was important for me to stay there because I ended up becoming you know getting my master's in reading and becoming a reading specialist.
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Um, and so that also was a really important um job that I worked hard for.
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And so I didn't want to lose that as well.
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And and so we managed the working uh the working parent thing uh with our two boys.
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A lot to manage.
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That's right, as you know.
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Um lots lots of moving parts for sure.
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Yes, yes, but uh Tim got graduated with his degree in communication, so then he um maybe I can speak.
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Yeah, maybe you can speak.
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Go ahead, Tim.
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That's right.
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Yeah, so no, we met in 1983.
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I was she rocked the cradle, I was a freshman, she was a junior, yeah.
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And uh look at you, yeah, and then we got uh we got married in 89, so we've been married 37 years, but fast forward to 19 so 83, I was a freshman.
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1984, uh, I became the DJ at the famous it's called The Rat in Westchester.
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Okay, I remember hearing about that.
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I did that for 10 years, and that's why when people see our videos, they're like, How do you know this music?
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I'm like, This is what I did for 10 years, sing on the microphone and get the whole place rocking.
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Right.
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Yeah, so yeah, but uh and I've been in sales all my life, and um uh co-founder, I know we'll talk about co-founder Bring Hope Home, which is a charity we pay bills for families with cancer in six states, primarily in the Philadelphia area, but now it's gotten big uh in three other states as well.
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It's start up with a college buddy of mine, but we can dig into that, yeah.
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Um, and I was gonna ask Tali, were did you take dance lessons as a little kid or were you are you self-taught or how did you become such a dancer?
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And I would describe myself, I I think I'm a really good, like my girlfriend, like a
street dancer, but I I did perform um in a company in I grew up in suburban Harrisburg.
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Okay.
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So uh that's where my childhood was, and I performed in high school in um a dance company.
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I was one of the youngest members, and we would have uh these shows and such a lot of uh it would be a lot of uh jazz, uh hip-hop, musical theater type of uh so I did not have, interestingly enough, any of that ballet, that typical little girl training.
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Right, right, right.
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Ballet, uh no-tap, all of those traditional platforms for the little ones.
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Um, but I I knew I could move to music and I I sort of found my own journey in this uh dance company in high school.
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Okay.
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And then it transferred to college.
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There was a dance company in college as well that I auditioned for and then danced those four years uh in college as well.
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So um yeah, I can just feel the feel the music and the rhythm and uh see it and do it.
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Um you you two were kind of laying the foundation the whole time here with the and Tim, were you did are you just a really good dancer, or did you ever take take lessons or anything?
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Or you just feel the music when you're DJing?
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No, so I was a rock and roll guy all through high school, and I get to college, I hear my buddies listen to this, you know, this hip hop.
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I'm like, all right, I like this stuff.
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And then I started working my sophomore year, which was 1984 or 83, 84, and um I started working as a bouncer, and I would watch the DJ, and he would take me under his wings, like, hey, here's here's how you do it.
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You take these two turntables, you mix them together.
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Then I became developed a real love for hip-hop, uh, which what then wasn't called old school, it's called old school now.
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Right.
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Yeah, brand new.
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Yeah, but in terms of dancing, like uh I had a couple buddies who were great dancers.
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I would learn from them.
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Of course, I learned from the the champ here.
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I mean, she's I mean, she'd love to teach you, right?
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Yeah, and but Tim's come a long way, and I think he's a terrific dancer.
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He's he can hear the music and and and shake his booty like the best of them out there, and uh he's quite a ham and he loves that that that helps, right?
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Super fun on the dance.
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Just a little confidence is really all you need, right?
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Just and that, yeah, just own it.
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Yes, so uh that's so fun.
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Yeah, he's really he's come a long way, and now like he's the shining star.
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Well, I'll sort of step back on on a live dance floor and let him let him go to town.
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And uh well, you know, you know you were you taught him, so it's okay.
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Like even Tim, like that loved the the rock and roll stuff in high school forever.
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I love the R and B.
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Okay.
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Some that music, it it it fills my soul.
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You know, my first albums were, you know, that like I was a little girl, eight years old, and had the Jackson 5, and you know, and growing into T my teen years, it was all Earth, Wind, and Fire and Brothers Johnson.
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And so my love, my genre forever was all RB stuff, simply because I could move to it, I could hear it, I could dance to it.
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I I loved it.
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So um it that that was just always a part of who I was.
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And do you like new stuff too?
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Like hip hop RB or other?
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I love it.
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Even this the raunchy stuff with the bad lyrics, like they don't have awesome lyrics anymore.
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But uh I can't my boy's like mom.
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He's I I just that the you know, I can just that rhythm just it just resonates with me.
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And I love the new stuff to the window to the wall.
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I have my sometimes my children answer me, okay.
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And I'm like, I've done my job as a parent.
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That's a clean version, clean version, but you know, I'm like, yeah, no, they're they're yeah, all of that, all of that new stuff, every uh any of it.
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I some you're right, though.
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Sometimes the beat just gets you, and you're like, can't stop.
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That's right.
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And tell us about your kids.
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You have two yes, two sons?
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Okay, two boys, yeah, 34 and 31.
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Yes, they were born.
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Uh our we have two sons, um, and they uh were born in yeah, 92 and 94.
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Okay, three school years apart, and uh what wonderful kids had a great journey back then.
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Um it was a contractual thing, we were able to bring them into the school district where we were.
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Oh, yeah.
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So uh it was a joy to all be together.
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Um and so the uh we uh would get through a work week and everyone's working super hard, and we would you know go down into our you know finished basement and crank up the music and dance and play and dance and um just just blow off steam.
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And that's just sort of how the boys grew up.
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What happy memories?
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Like what what happy memories?
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Yeah, it was just who we were.
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I mean we would have birthday parties for the boys and it'd be all our families, and it would just turn into dance parties.
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Yeah.
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I'd be turned, I'd you know, be in charge of the music, the music, the whole place dancing, yeah.
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So we can't yeah, it's just sort of who we were.
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It wasn't anything we read, and you need to you know dance with your it's just the essence of what we did before we had children, you know.
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So it just we just taught them well, it's funny with all this social media attention, everyone's like, Aren't your children embarrassed?
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I'm like, oh my gosh, this is all they know.
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Like, doesn't it?
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We've been watching them dance forever.
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Like, doesn't every parent like dance with their with their children on you know all weekend long?
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But apparently we just thought, you know, that was just normal for us.
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Um and uh it was what it's just wonderful memories, you know.
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So great.
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All right, I want to get back to that in a minute, but I have a question for you because for transparency of everyone, Tali teaches at the school where my children go now, but you were not there when my children were there.
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But my kids always say to me, because I teach in a neighboring district, they're like, We wish you taught at our school.
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And I'm like, You don't, yeah, you don't like like everybody needs a little of their own stuff, absolutely.
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You know, and they so taught like because I often when they were little, I was like, Oh, I'd love to take them to work with me.
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And now I'm like, no, but tell me how was that?
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Like, did they have to call you Mrs.
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Sherry when they saw you in the school?
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Did you ever teach them?
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Like, I mean, it was the 90s, so it was probably a little different than it is now, but what was that experience like teaching?
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Yeah, well, especially at the elementary level, and we're all in the same building.
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I really, in my respect and my admiration for their teachers, their classroom teachers.
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I we even at conference time, they're like they they would say, Oh, you know all this, you know, you're reading special.
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You know, I go, I tell me, I am I have my parent hat on.
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And so all of my knowledge is out the way the window, and I want you to know that we are only talking about our my children right now.
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Um, and and um I want you to, you know, I would tell that teacher, I want you to be in the driver's seat.
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I am a parent like all the parents in this classroom, and I want you to tell me your expertise as a third grade teacher.
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Tell me what what you're driving this train.
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And I once I felt really um, I I felt great.
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I I I heard other sometimes it's not a good uh relationship with that because I I never wanted to come in as the expert and I knew more that I know more or anything.
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Yeah, I'm the humble emotional parent, and I wanted to put them at ease.
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Um and I'm sure they appreciated that because that could be, especially if you were friends with them, like a very awkward place to be for everyone.
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No, I truthfully um always take took that role and then it carried into the middle school and high school for sure, because real, I mean, I really was that just that humble parent because then I was out of my comfort zone.
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You know, you get in sixth, seventh, and and ninth and tenth, you know.
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So um I wanted them to know out of the gate that I was a humble and emotional mother.
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And um and it it just it just was our our green light as far as uh putting that child first, um uh putting the child first and letting them know everything that they're sharing with me is from a mother, uh uh, you know, an innocent mother's uh ears and um and and them to never ever and it just it worked out fine for both boys.
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So that and don't you feel like as the mother, like you're saying, you can be standing in a classroom and know exactly what needs to happen for the kids in that classroom.
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But I was actually talking to somebody at school today about one of my kids, and I was like, if this were a kid in my class, I would do exactly like what the script said, you know, and I said, but it's my child, and we're at home, and I don't feel like having the argument for three hours.
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So sometimes I give in and I know that's you know, and
you're like, so you are, you're just you're like, I'm just the parent, so just help me.
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Yeah, yes, exactly.
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I I have a dear friend of mine.
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She um she said she did, she's uh she her uh children were in a neighboring school district and she was really at home.
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She um she's like, I'm really pulling my hair out.
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I need you to help me.
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She said, so and so is really struggling, and every night we go through this and this and this and this.
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And I I told her, I said, she goes, you you have to help me.
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I said, you know what you need to do?
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You need to be his mother.
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And you're not the teacher, and not his teacher.
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And she looked at me, it was she just taught you like it was like a slap in the face.
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She said, that was the best advice anyone has ever told me.
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I said, put all of it away.
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Yeah, pretend you know nothing.
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And so and just be his mom.
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And she said from that they turn the corner and from that point on.
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So it's very it's a really interesting hat to wear as a working mom and as a teacher, mom.
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Yes.
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Yes, yes.
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My just the other day we were working on fraction homework, and um my son told me that I really didn't know how to do it or what I was saying, and I was really confusing.
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And and I was like, okay, that's cool because I've taught fractions for like 24 years, but that's fine.
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And uh, you know, and he came home the next day and he's like, Well, we had a small group in math, and the teacher explained it so much better than you do.
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And I was like, Okay, well, that's fine because that's how the kids in my class feel.
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They think I do a really good job of explaining it, and their parents know nothing, so I'm good.
00:18:06.880 --> 00:18:07.359
We're good.
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That's right.
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I know absolutely nothing.
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And you never know how your child is hearing you.
00:18:14.960 --> 00:18:23.440
Yes, is it's that's nothing to do with what you're saying, but how your child is receiving what you're saying, it's another, it's another take on it, you know?
00:18:23.680 --> 00:18:25.039
Yeah, yeah, it's very true.
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And I have to laugh.
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You'll laugh at this too, because I've worked in an elementary school.
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Whenever I go into the office of my children's own school, I'm friendly with the secretaries and friendly with the teachers.
00:18:36.240 --> 00:18:38.160
And I'm always like, I have to leave.
00:18:38.240 --> 00:18:39.759
Like, I should not be this comfortable.
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It's like I'm very comfortable in the school office, but I do not work here.
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I'm a parent.
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I'm really sorry.
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Like, you know, you're so great.
00:18:46.799 --> 00:18:47.599
I'm like, no, no, no.
00:18:47.680 --> 00:18:53.359
But like I know my place and I need to like, you know, you have to keep that as like, I'm not an employee here.
00:18:53.440 --> 00:18:59.359
So I need to be a parent, even though you know I I kind of know the inner workings of you know, school.
00:18:59.519 --> 00:19:03.039
But anyway, um, yes, I think that I'm glad it worked for you.
00:19:03.200 --> 00:19:07.039
I think it's best for all of the wine riches that we have two separate schools to be.
00:19:07.359 --> 00:19:07.759
Oh, yeah.
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That's it's a it's a great, yeah, a great, you know, there's just that space.
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There is respectful space.
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They have their day, I have my day.
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So it yeah, that's great.
00:19:18.559 --> 00:19:19.359
That's good stuff.
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All right.
00:19:20.079 --> 00:19:26.319
So going back to the social media, did you ever imagine that you would become this social media association?
00:19:26.480 --> 00:19:27.519
Look at Tim's face.
00:19:27.599 --> 00:19:27.759
No.
00:19:29.119 --> 00:19:40.160
I mean, I I've always wanted to do something like this because everyone, every wedding we go to, everyone's like, You gotta do something with all the crazy dancing, getting the soul train lines going, all that stuff.
00:19:40.319 --> 00:19:44.880
I had tried a couple things, but it it the wedding of our youngest son.
00:19:44.960 --> 00:19:47.680
We had two wet both of our boys got married in the last 10 months.
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Oh, that's fun.
00:19:48.799 --> 00:19:49.599
That's a fun year.
00:19:49.759 --> 00:19:51.839
Yes, and expensive at the same time.
00:19:51.920 --> 00:19:57.920
Yeah, but anywho, yeah, our youngest got married September of last year, and that's what launched everything.
00:19:58.079 --> 00:20:01.279
Was we posted a dance of Tolly and youngest Brad.
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They choreographed this amazing mother's mother's son.
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Solid.
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Um, it was good yeah, and and that's so I put that on the day after the wedding.
00:20:08.559 --> 00:20:09.920
I'm like, all right, where are all these followers?
00:20:10.240 --> 00:20:14.160
Where is this so you you just put it on your own like personal put it on?
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Yeah, put
it on Instagram and Facebook.
00:20:16.720 --> 00:20:21.039
His handle was t sherry45, like his own personal and tick tock.
00:20:21.119 --> 00:20:23.519
And and all of a sudden, like, okay, where is where's all this?
00:20:23.599 --> 00:20:26.720
And we had maybe I maybe a couple, I don't know, 500 followers or whatever.
00:20:26.799 --> 00:20:32.480
If that wow, and um, and then a couple days later, I'll never forget, I was going to New York for business.
00:20:32.559 --> 00:20:33.599
It was a Wednesday.
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Our oldest son texted, sent us a video of Tolly and I dancing to our requested song, which is called Planet Rock, an old pop song from the 80s, and we put that on and it completely blew up.
00:20:45.839 --> 00:20:47.839
In fact, I reposted it twice.
00:20:47.920 --> 00:20:54.400
I reposted it uh a week and a half ago because of um because of our just to recognize our son's one year anniversary.
00:20:54.559 --> 00:20:59.680
Okay 1.3 million in the last week and a half, but overall it's probably 10 million views.
00:21:00.000 --> 00:21:03.519
Oh my gosh, it just keeps it people just like it goes nuts.
00:21:03.599 --> 00:21:04.480
I can't figure it out.
00:21:04.559 --> 00:21:14.400
But then from that point on, my daughter-in-law is a content creator, and she's like, All right, just FYI, either you do something about this or you're gonna lose all your followers.
00:21:14.640 --> 00:21:15.279
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:21:15.359 --> 00:21:16.960
It's like the gift that keeps on giving.
00:21:17.119 --> 00:21:17.359
Right.
00:21:17.440 --> 00:21:27.680
So from that point on, we started these music videos, and then a month into it, Snoop reposted us, and like all these celebrities start following and liking, and then it just took off from there.
00:21:27.759 --> 00:21:32.240
And now it's like in one year 400,000 followers on Instagram and 300,000 on TikTok.
00:21:32.640 --> 00:21:34.880
It's crazy, isn't it crazy how that happens?
00:21:35.200 --> 00:21:44.160
Like, and I don't know when you came onto like my radar, I feel like it was in the spring, and I just kept like seeing your videos pop up, and I was like, These people are fun, and I followed them.
00:21:44.240 --> 00:21:56.640
And then Tim, you were wearing a shirt with the school district's name on it, and I was like, Wait a minute, this is I thought you were in like Missouri, I didn't know anything about you, and then I was like, Yeah, what song was that?
00:21:56.799 --> 00:21:57.759
It was more bounced to the ounce.
00:21:57.839 --> 00:21:59.519
It was when the great valve the great valve, right?
00:22:01.440 --> 00:22:02.240
Yeah, our youngest play.
00:22:04.640 --> 00:22:05.680
Yeah, so then that's okay.
00:22:06.000 --> 00:22:09.440
And then um, yeah, so and then I was like, wait a minute, these people are local.
00:22:09.599 --> 00:22:10.799
This makes it even more fun.
00:22:11.119 --> 00:22:19.680
Um and and what would be one thing outside of the social media blow up, what would be one thing that people would be surprised to learn about each one of you?
00:22:20.079 --> 00:22:21.279
That's a great question.
00:22:21.440 --> 00:22:23.279
What would they be surprised?
00:22:24.640 --> 00:22:25.279
Wow.
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I mean, our our age, yeah, 23 and 25, right?
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We're 10 years, at least 10 years younger.
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Everyone thinks we're Gen X, and I always correct them like the boomers.
00:22:38.559 --> 00:22:40.559
But we're at the very cusp.
00:22:40.720 --> 00:22:47.680
Apparently, there is some term because we are at the very like right at the beginning of the Gen X.
00:22:48.000 --> 00:22:54.799
Um it and because of what we look like, of that, you know, they they're always surprised by our age.
00:22:55.119 --> 00:22:56.319
You're just such spring chickens.
00:22:56.960 --> 00:22:57.440
I guess.
00:22:57.599 --> 00:23:01.759
I guess, but um, but I don't think that's a really good answer to the I think it's a great answer, actually.
00:23:02.000 --> 00:23:02.880
Yeah, it is a good answer.
00:23:02.960 --> 00:23:12.079
Yeah, that you're so like you know, hip and fun and dancing to the you know, to the hip hop music that most people wouldn't wouldn't be into.
00:23:12.240 --> 00:23:12.960
So sure.
00:23:14.559 --> 00:23:15.759
Um yeah, I never know.
00:23:15.839 --> 00:23:16.480
I always forget.
00:23:16.559 --> 00:23:18.559
I think I'm on the edge of a generation.
00:23:18.640 --> 00:23:22.559
So like people say I think I'm a millennial, but like I'm not really.
00:23:22.720 --> 00:23:24.079
I like you know what I mean.
00:23:24.160 --> 00:23:25.759
I think it was like in the last six months or something.
00:23:25.839 --> 00:23:26.960
I'm like, I'm not a millennial.
00:23:27.119 --> 00:23:28.079
Yeah, yes, exactly.
00:23:28.240 --> 00:23:29.200
I'm an old lady, yeah.
00:23:29.440 --> 00:23:32.640
I feel more, I truthfully feel much more Gen X.
00:23:32.880 --> 00:23:37.440
I I mean, truthfully, I then go with it, shave five years off and go with it, right?
00:23:37.599 --> 00:23:39.039
Yeah, like maybe no, I'm old.
00:23:42.640 --> 00:23:43.039
Wait a minute.
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We're not that well.
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Gen X started in 65.
00:23:46.480 --> 00:23:46.720
Yeah.
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We were born before that.
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Yes, and Tim, yeah, Tim 64.
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Like whoopty do.
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Okay, right.
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We'll put you, we'll put you in.
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You're not, yeah, you're you're we're not.
00:23:56.319 --> 00:23:57.519
We'll say we'll say Gen X.
00:23:58.000 --> 00:23:59.920
Um, and you already told us how you met.
00:24:00.079 --> 00:24:00.960
So you met at college.
00:24:01.119 --> 00:24:02.960
Who made the first move since Tim?
00:24:03.119 --> 00:24:04.000
You were a younger one.
00:24:04.160 --> 00:24:05.759
Go ahead, tell us how'd that happen.
00:24:06.079 --> 00:24:08.079
No, we met at a 10K party, yeah.
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122 Lacey Street in Westchester.
00:24:10.720 --> 00:24:12.160
All right, she was friends with my sister.
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Yes, I did not know.
00:24:14.319 --> 00:24:18.000
Tim, Tim, I did not know she had this younger.
00:24:18.480 --> 00:24:25.519
I was we were playing some inner murals, and I'm like, oh my gosh, there's that cute boy who I heard is a freshman.
00:24:25.680 --> 00:24:26.720
And was she like, what?
00:24:27.119 --> 00:24:28.960
He's like, Oh my god, that's my brother.
00:24:29.119 --> 00:24:31.119
I'm like, oh my gosh.
00:24:31.759 --> 00:24:40.160
So yeah, so he got word that I was gonna be at this party, and he came off a date and showed up at the party, and and then the rest is history.
00:24:40.319 --> 00:24:42.000
We did hit it off.
00:24:42.480 --> 00:24:44.400
You know, we really hit it off.
00:24:44.480 --> 00:24:46.799
Um was it okay with your uh Tim?
00:24:46.880 --> 00:24:49.279
Is your was your sister okay with it or a little weirded out?
00:24:49.599 --> 00:24:49.920
Okay, yeah.
00:24:50.319 --> 00:24:53.279
She's like, you know, still dear friends with Yeah, she's a dear friend.
00:24:53.839 --> 00:24:54.240
Okay, good.
00:24:54.319 --> 00:24:55.440
So it all worked out well.
00:24:55.519 --> 00:24:57.039
Yeah, oh yeah, yeah.
00:24:57.359 --> 00:25:05.680
All right, uh, Tim, let's talk about because Tali, we kind of talked about your time in education and you were a classroom teacher and then you were a reading specialist for a longer time.
00:25:05.759 --> 00:25:06.240
Is that right?
00:25:06.319 --> 00:25:06.480
Okay.
00:25:06.720 --> 00:25:08.799
Yeah, most of my career was a reading specialist.
00:25:08.880 --> 00:25:09.119
Okay.
00:25:09.519 --> 00:25:11.599
Yeah, like seven years I was in the classroom.
00:25:11.839 --> 00:25:13.839
And what did you teach in the when you were in the classroom?
00:25:14.079 --> 00:25:15.759
So uh mostly fourth grade.
00:25:15.839 --> 00:25:18.559
I was love fourth graders.
00:25:18.799 --> 00:25:19.759
I call it the promised land.
00:25:19.920 --> 00:25:25.039
I'm like, that's right, new stuff, you know, but they still want to talk about like their birthday lobby.
00:25:25.599 --> 00:25:27.599
And then you can be like, you're making me crazy.
00:25:27.680 --> 00:25:28.720
And they're like, okay, sorry, Mrs.
00:25:28.799 --> 00:25:29.200
Weinrich.
00:25:29.279 --> 00:25:30.880
And I'm like, love you, go do your work.
00:25:31.279 --> 00:25:35.039
Like, okay, you know, like they get they get it, they have senses of humor.
00:25:35.200 --> 00:25:43.920
Um, and Tim, um, if you want to tell us anything about sales, you can, but if you would like to talk about bringing hope home, that would be lovely as well.
00:25:44.160 --> 00:25:47.920
Yeah, uh in a nutshell, I was in radio and TV sales for 25 years.
00:25:48.000 --> 00:25:50.000
Uh oh, you music again, huh?
00:25:50.240 --> 00:25:51.599
Just uh it's all coming together.
00:25:51.920 --> 00:25:54.400
Ironically was KYW News Radio for 13 years.
00:25:54.559 --> 00:25:54.880
Okay.
00:25:55.119 --> 00:25:56.240
Sold advertising there.
00:25:56.400 --> 00:26:01.279
I was at Com uh Comcast for seven years selling television, then it was 975 The Fanatic.
00:26:01.440 --> 00:26:07.680
Uh, and then I got out of that in 2015, got into technology, and I've been in technology since 2015.
00:26:07.839 --> 00:26:07.920
Okay.
00:26:08.240 --> 00:26:11.440
Uh technology sales recruitment comp combination of stuff.
00:26:11.519 --> 00:26:14.079
But um, yeah, but bringing hope home.
00:26:14.640 --> 00:26:21.440
So that started in so my buddy, college buddy Paul Eisenberg, um, he was at our wedding in 1989.
00:26:21.599 --> 00:26:26.960
We lost touch, and I found out that his wife at the time was undergoing cancer.
00:26:27.119 --> 00:26:28.640
And so we reconnected.
00:26:28.799 --> 00:26:33.279
And she would always he would always come home and say, Hey, uh, hey, I bumped into so-and-so today.
00:26:33.359 --> 00:26:33.920
What a great guy.
00:26:34.000 --> 00:26:35.680
And and I bumped into this person, what a great guy.
00:26:35.759 --> 00:26:36.559
She's like, you know what?
00:26:36.720 --> 00:26:39.119
Put together an event and raise money for cancer.
00:26:39.200 --> 00:26:39.839
So we started.
00:26:41.839 --> 00:26:43.519
It was called the great, it's called the Great Guys Dinner.
00:26:43.599 --> 00:26:49.279
So we just finished we just finished our 26th year, but it's not all guys, it's primarily it's 50-50 with men and women.
00:26:49.519 --> 00:26:56.480
It's gotten so big that we we have uh, you know, we usually have a celebrity come in from out of town and speaks uh uh speaks.
00:26:56.799 --> 00:27:03.119
But um so that our money for the first eight years till 2008 uh went to coaches versus cancer.
00:27:03.279 --> 00:27:12.240
So we worked with the Philly big five can't uh coaches, Joe Martelli, Jay Wright, uh Fran Dunfey, and then we formed our own charity in 2008, Bringing Hope Home.
00:27:12.319 --> 00:27:19.279
And since then, 2008, I want to say we've raised um I'm trying to uh off the top of my head of like 12 million dollars.
00:27:19.440 --> 00:27:22.559
Wow, and we've helped over 12,000 families.
00:27:22.880 --> 00:27:31.279
We pay bills for families with cancer, started in the Philadelphia area, but now we're also into Connecticut, New York, and uh uh Maryland.
00:27:31.359 --> 00:27:32.720
Yeah, that's amazing.
00:27:32.960 --> 00:27:36.480
And I'm gonna link uh Bringing Hope Home in the show notes.
00:27:36.559 --> 00:27:43.119
So if people are interested in finding out more or um, you know, donating, they can do that all through the website, correct?
00:27:43.440 --> 00:27:44.559
That's great.org, yeah.
00:27:44.799 --> 00:27:48.079
Okay, and uh and I guess it would oh bring
okay, bringing hope home.org.
00:27:48.160 --> 00:27:54.160
And I guess there's I'm assuming there's like a a process for for uh applying to be a benefactor.
00:27:55.279 --> 00:27:57.599
Because I'm now in there on Thursdays volunteering.
00:27:58.079 --> 00:27:58.319
Okay.
00:27:59.279 --> 00:28:09.839
So it's just a really they they they've now they have in those um the the great guys' dinner is now one of the five signature events.
00:28:10.079 --> 00:28:10.400
Okay.
00:28:10.640 --> 00:28:15.440
And then they have corporate sponsors, and then they have these smaller events.
00:28:15.599 --> 00:28:19.599
Um, but they form this, you know, nonprofit, what is it called?
00:28:19.680 --> 00:28:20.960
A 50103.
00:28:21.200 --> 00:28:22.240
501c3.
00:28:22.480 --> 00:28:34.880
They've got this legitimate for real uh board of directors, and the the organization now has maybe nine employees and uh 12.
00:28:35.039 --> 00:28:39.920
Or yeah, they've got an office right there down, you know, right there on Sweetsford Road.
00:28:40.000 --> 00:28:44.160
And yes, um uh I was getting to a point.
00:28:44.319 --> 00:28:46.720
I was what was I uh talking about?
00:28:46.960 --> 00:28:55.920
Um well we so we have we the major events and we also have like schools, like there's oh the Haverford Middle School does these Olympics every year.
00:28:56.079 --> 00:29:00.400
They raise like a hundred and twenty-five thousand dollars a year.
00:29:00.559 --> 00:29:02.240
Yeah, it's unbelievable.
00:29:02.720 --> 00:29:11.920
So, you know, bringing now if once you get on the website, oh we I was get telling you how these families get um get found.
00:29:12.319 --> 00:29:12.960
Oh, yes, right.
00:29:13.039 --> 00:29:14.160
I forgot my question too.
00:29:14.319 --> 00:29:14.559
Go ahead.
00:29:15.440 --> 00:29:20.240
The local families of the families from the hospital, so there's a family department, okay.
00:29:20.400 --> 00:29:37.200
You know, there's a social media department, there's a the financial department, their family department has relationships with all of the the cancer hospitals in in this whole tri-state, really all the way up into New York, Fox Chase, everybody.
00:29:37.359 --> 00:29:42.640
Um, and the family department has a relationship with the social workers in the hospitals.
00:29:42.880 --> 00:29:55.920
And the social workers, if they see a family that that they are getting a vibe that they're in in need, the social worker helps the family fill out it's called the Light of Hope Grant.
00:29:56.079 --> 00:29:56.319
Okay.
00:29:56.640 --> 00:30:08.880
That they um they will every month uh they will then give a certain amount of families a thousand dollars um with this light of hope grant.
00:30:09.039 --> 00:30:15.599
So the social workers then contact us and then they help the them with their application.
00:30:15.839 --> 00:30:37.759
And then bringing hope home, rather than handing the family a check, which is um not what we want, they they re they get the um they get the account numbers for their electric bill, their rent, okay, mortgage, their water bill, their, you know, all of that.
00:30:38.000 --> 00:30:47.519
And so they will then they will pay directly so that they're not evicted, let's say they've three months behind in their rent, okay.
00:30:47.759 --> 00:30:56.079
So to keep them, you know, and then they'll also pay for groceries or acme cards and gift cards and stuff like that.
00:30:56.240 --> 00:30:58.960
So they just do it directly to wherever that's right.
00:30:59.440 --> 00:31:11.920
So that's these social, these wonderful social workers working with our family department that are they're just paying the bills directly so they don't have to feel buried underneath all of this other stuff.
00:31:12.400 --> 00:31:13.920
But it just kind of gets taken care of.
00:31:14.319 --> 00:31:15.519
It's taken care of.
00:31:15.680 --> 00:31:30.319
So they're not paying for their medical bills, they're not helping at that with that regard, but they're just you know bringing hope home, they're you know, paying for that roof over their head, you know, and all that and what a what a weight off of those people's shoulders, okay.
00:31:30.720 --> 00:31:31.680
They're focusing on.
00:31:31.920 --> 00:31:41.279
And um, if a I know that our high school, I just saw, I think our field hockey team um did a fundraiser, I believe, if that sounds right.
00:31:41.519 --> 00:31:43.039
My my school district.
00:31:43.200 --> 00:31:47.440
Um, so if somebody is interested in starting their own fundraiser, they can also find that on the website.
00:31:47.759 --> 00:31:48.079
Exactly.
00:31:48.160 --> 00:31:51.759
And that's the thing, the people want to do stuff, but they don't know who to give it to.
00:31:51.920 --> 00:31:52.160
Right.
00:31:52.400 --> 00:32:03.119
And a lot of these wonderful, you know, schools or or you know, other churches, or they'll they'll then donate um, you know, to to bringing hope home.
00:32:03.200 --> 00:32:06.000
So it's and it's nice for people who live in the Philadelphia area.
00:32:06.079 --> 00:32:16.079
I have listeners all over the world, but you know, for people especially who live in the Philadelphia area, if you're listening and you're interested, that's bringing hope home or anyone, anyone.
00:32:16.160 --> 00:32:24.480
But it's it is nice also, I feel like when you're donating to a charity, you like to keep it, you know, kind of where you are, so you feel like you're impacting the people who near you.
00:32:24.640 --> 00:32:25.759
So okay, well, great.
00:32:25.839 --> 00:32:31.200
Then we'll we'll definitely link that in the show notes so people who are interested um can can find out more.
00:32:31.359 --> 00:32:34.079
All right, let's move on to our win and challenge of the week.
00:32:34.240 --> 00:32:35.680
Um, Tally, do you want to do a win?
00:32:35.759 --> 00:32:38.160
And Tim, you do a challenge or the other way around?
00:32:38.319 --> 00:32:39.440
What would you what would you like?
00:32:39.599 --> 00:32:40.799
You can each take one.
00:32:41.039 --> 00:32:47.200
Wait, when you say explain that more, but a win, like what was something good, something great that happened to you this week.
00:32:47.440 --> 00:32:48.240
Oh, this week.
00:32:48.400 --> 00:32:50.640
Well, or anytime recently, that's okay, Tim.
00:32:51.279 --> 00:32:57.279
Well, the the big win was uh we've had to develop this great relationship with Damon John of a Shark Tank.
00:32:57.440 --> 00:32:58.559
Okay, oh, that is great.
00:32:58.720 --> 00:32:59.920
Yeah, and he reached out to us.
00:33:00.000 --> 00:33:02.880
He we went to his house and we he's in one of our videos.
00:33:03.039 --> 00:33:03.359
Okay.
00:33:03.519 --> 00:33:08.079
And uh last night we posted, they sent us this box that's called Shark World.
00:33:08.319 --> 00:33:09.200
Oh, yes, I saw that.
00:33:09.279 --> 00:33:10.240
I didn't get to watch the whole thing.
00:33:10.319 --> 00:33:10.960
Okay, explain it.
00:33:11.519 --> 00:33:12.400
So that was really cool.
00:33:12.480 --> 00:33:14.480
The fact that, you know, and Damon loved it.
00:33:14.559 --> 00:33:18.640
He gave us these great props uh on the post, and so that's great.
00:33:18.720 --> 00:33:28.079
And then we're working getting closer, closer, closer to launching our first national dance party, which might be which might be starting somewhere in this area.
00:33:28.240 --> 00:33:32.240
I'm I just a little maybe, okay.
00:33:32.480 --> 00:33:37.839
Yeah, because we vote by there's all kinds of voting by cities called funkyfresh danceparty.com.
00:33:38.000 --> 00:33:38.240
Okay.
00:33:38.480 --> 00:33:38.880
So yeah.
00:33:39.119 --> 00:33:41.200
Well, and another win you sign that contract with that.
00:33:41.519 --> 00:33:42.799
Yeah, we have we have another one.
00:33:43.279 --> 00:33:44.720
Oh keep going, go ahead.
00:33:44.960 --> 00:33:56.640
We we just uh connected with a uh with a management firm who's gonna handle our um are we allowed to say what it's yeah, it's management millennial yeah, it's called Millennial Entertainment.
00:33:56.799 --> 00:34:03.279
Okay, so uh from they're gonna be managing us, you know, appearances and brands and all that, and they're they're really good people.
00:34:03.359 --> 00:34:04.640
So that's great.
00:34:04.799 --> 00:34:09.920
I'll link them too, just in case anybody's looking for for a uh uh millennial entertainment, sure.
00:34:10.639 --> 00:34:11.199
Entertainment.
00:34:11.440 --> 00:34:15.199
And um, Tolly, did you have a challenge or do you want to stick with the win?
00:34:15.599 --> 00:34:18.159
We're right now, we're sort of like positive people.
00:34:19.119 --> 00:34:22.800
Uh did you did you lose your electricity in the nor'easter?
00:34:24.320 --> 00:34:24.719
We did not.
00:34:24.800 --> 00:34:25.280
We did not.
00:34:25.360 --> 00:34:25.519
Okay.
00:34:36.000 --> 00:34:37.840
And a nice retirement challenge, right?
00:34:38.400
--> 00:34:42.000
There's the light and breezy challenge, like you know, it's all relative.
00:34:42.559 --> 00:34:43.119
Well, that's good.
00:34:43.199 --> 00:34:43.599
I like that.
00:34:43.679 --> 00:34:44.719
You had a pretty good week.
00:34:44.880 --> 00:34:57.840
Um, my challenge this week, I will say, was it's kind of silly, but I wore braces for four years as a teenager and wore a retainer for over 20 years and stopped wearing it like five years ago.
00:34:57.920 --> 00:34:58.559
And guess what?
00:34:58.639 --> 00:34:59.280
My teeth moved.
00:34:59.360 --> 00:34:59.840
So the dentist.
00:35:00.559 --> 00:35:01.920
Yeah, I was like, who knew that this?
00:35:02.000 --> 00:35:04.079
I was like, no, but I I wore the retainer for decades.
00:35:04.239 --> 00:35:06.079
And she's like, Yeah, you have to wear it forever.
00:35:06.400 --> 00:35:09.119
So last week I got an invisalign.
00:35:09.360 --> 00:35:11.760
Uh, and um, it's not really a challenge.
00:35:11.920 --> 00:35:15.599
I mean, it's very like easy to wear, but it's just kind of annoying.
00:35:15.679 --> 00:35:23.039
I feel like I'm back in like high school with like you know, everything's very like slurpy, and but it's the fourth graders are like, Oh, Mrs.
00:35:23.199 --> 00:35:24.639
Reinrich, I got one last week too.
00:35:24.719 --> 00:35:26.800
So, like we're all straightening our teeth together.
00:35:27.039 --> 00:35:28.239
Like, this is great.
00:35:28.400 --> 00:35:28.880
Thank you.
00:35:29.039 --> 00:35:32.880
Um, so just like remembering like they're like, Don't throw it away on your lunch tray.
00:35:32.960 --> 00:35:33.599
I'm like, thank you.
00:35:33.679 --> 00:35:34.400
I'll try not to.
00:35:34.480 --> 00:35:35.039
That's a good point.
00:35:35.519 --> 00:35:38.000
But it's just like another thing for me to keep track of in my life.
00:35:38.239 --> 00:35:39.840
And that is a challenge, you know?
00:35:40.159 --> 00:35:43.280
It is, but I think I don't think I have to wear it for long.
00:35:43.360 --> 00:35:44.400
So we'll we'll take that.
00:35:44.880 --> 00:35:58.000
Um, and my win is just that here in Pennsylvania, I feel like you know, it's finally autumn and we're finally getting some like nice, cooler kind of sweatshirt weather dates and we're seeing pumpkins and people are starting to decorate for Halloween.
00:35:58.159 --> 00:36:01.599
And I always feel like you know, this is kind of the beginning of the holiday season.
00:36:01.840 --> 00:36:03.920
Like the next three months are just fun.
00:36:04.239 --> 00:36:07.920
So um yeah, so that's my that's my win for the week.
00:36:08.159 --> 00:36:09.519
Just f just FYI.
00:36:09.599 --> 00:36:15.679
Um, while I was kind of I was looking onto the side, the the big win is that they pulled off a miracle.
00:36:15.840 --> 00:36:17.199
They pulled off a miracle win.
00:36:17.599 --> 00:36:18.559
Phillies just won.
00:36:18.719 --> 00:36:19.920
All right, what's the score?
00:36:20.159 --> 00:36:21.039
They just won.
00:36:21.280 --> 00:36:23.440
Oh, it was uh four three, I think it was.
00:36:23.920 --> 00:36:28.000
Okay, because when I left school it was one-one, and then when I got home, they pulled ahead, then they were behind.
00:36:28.079 --> 00:36:32.079
And okay, so they'll try not to scream when it's I'm surprised.
00:36:32.159 --> 00:36:35.679
I'm surprised I didn't hear screaming downstairs in my house because the TV's on.
00:36:35.840 --> 00:36:37.519
We'll all give a little silent woo-hoo.
00:36:37.760 --> 00:36:39.599
All right, wear your Philly shirt again tomorrow.
00:36:39.679 --> 00:36:39.760
Right.
00:36:39.840 --> 00:36:41.280
Is tomorrow the last, right?
00:36:41.440 --> 00:36:43.039
Tomorrow's the last one, or is this it?
00:36:43.360 --> 00:36:43.920
Game three.
00:36:44.000 --> 00:36:44.239
That's it.
00:36:44.320 --> 00:36:45.119
Okay tomorrow.
00:36:45.360 --> 00:36:47.119
I I'm working on my sports knowledge.
00:36:47.199 --> 00:36:48.079
I'm working on it.
00:36:48.320 --> 00:36:49.199
Um, okay.
00:36:49.519 --> 00:36:57.199
So what um we were talking about your boys and they're two years apart and they got to so you did not live in the school district school blah blah blah.
00:36:57.599 --> 00:37:00.159
School district where you taught, but you brought your kids to school with you.
00:37:00.480 --> 00:37:01.199
Okay, okay.
00:37:02.079 --> 00:37:04.079
Um, and what would you say as parents?
00:37:04.239 --> 00:37:07.519
Um, what were your biggest important values to you?
00:37:07.599 --> 00:37:12.800
When because you kind of have hindsight where a lot of the people who listen to my podcast are kind of in the middle of it.
00:37:12.880 --> 00:37:16.559
So I think it's really nice to have perspective of people who are like, you'll get through it.
00:37:16.639 --> 00:37:17.440
It'll be okay.
00:37:17.599 --> 00:37:18.480
It's hard, you know.
00:37:18.559 --> 00:37:20.719
So tell us, we'll be okay, we'll get through it.
00:37:20.800 --> 00:37:25.440
Now, what were your what was most important to you as parents when you were raising your kids?
00:37:25.920 --> 00:37:37.840
I think um I think the hardest part is that they they'll constantly as as exhausting as it is, don't um don't give up.
00:37:38.079 --> 00:37:46.559
Uh it's you know, when that child, you know, even the little ones getting out of that time out chair for the hundredth time and putting them back there.
00:37:46.719 --> 00:38:05.119
I uh I think the takeaway is the most, the more you front load it when they're little, if you front load it and they know that you're boss and they know that, you know, I think children feel safer with the more parameters around them.
00:38:05.360 --> 00:38:12.159
And uh I know there's this huge gentle parenting wave going on, and I'm I'm not a fan.
00:38:12.320 --> 00:38:25.679
Um I feel that that they uh that they are looking for guidance from their parents and that they feel safer when those parameters are in place and when they
break those parameters.
00:38:25.920 --> 00:39:17.519
Yes, for the hundredth time, it is hard and exhausting, but that's my advice is when they are little, and and I'm yeah, like all the way up until you know their social peers are really putting the pressure on them that to instill that fear that that you mean business and to front load it uh, you know, is is because when they're teenagers and and you're and they're bigger than you, and they know you mean business, that the the you you get into this clever way of how you're going to take away privileges and uh following through with that because um because if you don't if you don't sort of lay lay that groundwork, um that then you're really in trouble when they become middle school and high schoolers.
00:39:17.599 --> 00:39:19.280
I it's hard to re-establish.
00:39:19.679 --> 00:39:27.840
It's really hard to to to tell them that you're the boss when you haven't been the boss for the first you know 10 years of their life.
00:39:28.079 --> 00:39:28.480
Yes.
00:39:28.639 --> 00:39:32.079
Um then good luck when when they're in the middle school and high school.
00:39:32.159 --> 00:39:33.360
I I agree.
00:39:33.599 --> 00:39:44.320
I I uh uh because it w it got a lot easier when they're in the high school when when you set when you set those parameters um up front when they were little.
00:39:44.559 --> 00:39:52.800
Um those those those early childhood elementary years are are vital with uh setting those rules and sticking to it.
00:39:53.039 --> 00:39:53.519
Sticking to it.
00:39:54.800 --> 00:39:57.360
I think a lot of people are just let it slack.
00:39:57.599 --> 00:39:57.920
Uh-huh.
00:39:58.079 --> 00:40:01.760
You know, and you're tired, and yeah, you know, you're like, oh, yep.
00:40:02.000 --> 00:40:05.679
But the front loading is is my my words of wisdom.
00:40:05.920 --> 00:40:07.760
I think those are excellent words of wisdom.
00:40:08.000 --> 00:40:10.239
I would tell you, I'm still a little bit afraid of my mother.
00:40:10.400 --> 00:40:10.880
A little bit.
00:40:10.960 --> 00:40:11.599
Yeah, a little bit.
00:40:11.760 --> 00:40:13.440
Lover, still a little bit afraid of her.
00:40:13.519 --> 00:40:16.639
Yeah, because that woman will follow through.
00:40:16.800 --> 00:40:18.559
So did a good job.
00:40:18.639 --> 00:40:19.599
I'm like, yes, yeah.
00:40:19.920 --> 00:40:21.360
Like, sorry, is my mom gonna find out?
00:40:21.920 --> 00:40:28.480
Yes, I uh I uh I am very proud of a couple uh the older one with the couple parties.
00:40:28.639 --> 00:40:38.960
He yeah, he told me he was gonna text me, and the and the texting had just come out, and he told me he was gonna text me when he got to this pool party and he forgot.
00:40:40.239 --> 00:40:41.599
Did you show up at the pool party?
00:40:41.840 --> 00:40:42.880
He certainly did.
00:40:43.119 --> 00:40:43.519
Hello.
00:40:45.199 --> 00:40:48.000
Your mom's making sure you got here.
00:40:48.320 --> 00:40:49.119
Yeah, yeah.
00:40:49.280 --> 00:40:51.679
He was oh, and he never did it again.
00:40:51.920 --> 00:40:53.519
I bet I bet he didn't.
00:40:53.679 --> 00:40:56.880
I I remember my mom one time, she was gonna take me somewhere.
00:40:57.039 --> 00:40:57.840
I couldn't drive yet.
00:40:58.000 --> 00:40:59.360
I was like 14 or 15 years old.
00:40:59.519 --> 00:41:03.679
And right when we were about to leave, her boss called and she worked at a preschool.
00:41:03.840 --> 00:41:07.679
And her boss was actually one of her very close friends too, but she was still her boss.
00:41:07.840 --> 00:41:09.039
And I answered the phone.
00:41:09.119 --> 00:41:12.880
And then when my mom got on the phone, I said, And can you hurry up?
00:41:12.960 --> 00:41:16.079
Like I have places to be, or something real snooty, like a 15-year-old.
00:41:16.559 --> 00:41:18.320
Yeah, my life almost ended.
00:41:18.400 --> 00:41:20.159
And that woman, that that boss came.
00:41:20.320 --> 00:41:22.159
Oh, so she was like, hang up the phone.
00:41:22.320 --> 00:41:24.719
And when she got, I was like, Oh, I'm probably in trouble.
00:41:24.800 --> 00:41:30.559
And when she got off the phone, she said, you know, this friend is coming over to drop something off, and you're going to apologize to her.
00:41:30.880 --> 00:41:38.480
And I was mortified because I had known her my whole life, but my mom was like, Come on down and look her in the face and apologize to her.
00:41:38.559 --> 00:41:39.519
And I think I cried.
00:41:39.599 --> 00:41:42.960
I was mortified, but I'm like, you know what I didn't do again?
00:41:43.199 --> 00:41:44.159
No, what I didn't do.
00:41:44.400 --> 00:41:54.960
So and that's the that's this my second answer to that question is instilling a conscience in these children that that that your mother did for you.
00:41:55.039 --> 00:42:23.920
Like that, the the this is um there are there's uh there's that that inner thought you want that child to have that inner that conscience so that they know it really feels bad when you're not when you did, you know, that that that you know, and even telling a lie or whatever, you know, that that they're that they have a conscience that they they're not, you know, that they're doing the right thing.
00:42:24.159 --> 00:42:24.400
Yeah.
00:42:24.639 --> 00:42:27.280
I think that's really hard in this day and age.
00:42:27.440 --> 00:42:27.679
Yes.
00:42:27.920 --> 00:42:34.000
Where the people that these children have no remorse about doing the wrong thing.
00:42:34.079 --> 00:42:35.360
And that's another thing.
00:42:35.679 --> 00:42:45.440
And people in the media and people on TV and athletes and people that they look up to are making poor decisions and sometimes being almost glorified for it.
00:42:45.519 --> 00:42:51.679
And it's hard to teach that lesson of like, no, we're gonna be good people, we're gonna tell the truth, we're not, you know.
00:42:52.000 --> 00:42:53.760
That's that's a hard one for sure.
00:42:54.000 -->
00:42:54.320
That's right.
00:42:54.400 --> 00:42:54.639
I agree.
00:42:54.880 --> 00:42:58.159
So instilling that conscience also is huge.
00:42:58.480 --> 00:43:04.320
I told my mom one time, and my dad, I mean, my dad is fabulous too, but he was at work and my mom was at home.
00:43:04.400 --> 00:43:06.159
So she was really the one kind of toeing the line.
00:43:06.239 --> 00:43:13.119
And when I was, I think in college, I was like, Mom, don't you know that I hear your voice every time I'm gonna make a decision that you wouldn't like?
00:43:13.280 --> 00:43:15.920
And she kind of like paused and got like a big smile on her face.
00:43:16.079 --> 00:43:16.960
She was like, You do?
00:43:17.119 --> 00:43:18.000
And I was like, Yep.
00:43:18.159 --> 00:43:20.320
And she was like, No, okay, great.
00:43:20.400 --> 00:43:22.320
And I was like, So you're always there, you know?
00:43:22.400 --> 00:43:25.599
Like I was like, no, I am hoping that my children also hear me.
00:43:25.679 --> 00:43:27.280
They'll be like, Oh, there she is again.
00:43:27.440 --> 00:43:29.920
There she is again, can't escape us, right?
00:43:30.159 --> 00:43:30.719
For sure.
00:43:30.960 --> 00:43:31.840
Absolutely.
00:43:32.079 --> 00:43:41.280
And Tim, would you like to tell us about some traditions other than the Friday night dance party, which I love, but some other traditions that shaped your family's culture as your kids were growing up?
00:43:42.639 --> 00:43:44.239
I don't know if it's necessarily Friday nights.
00:43:44.320 --> 00:43:45.039
It was just weekends.
00:43:45.119 --> 00:43:52.559
I mean, that we would always they'd all we would do sleepovers in the room, they would bring their sleeping bags, sleep in the rooms, usually on Fridays andor Saturdays.
00:43:52.719 --> 00:43:58.159
Um, birthday parties for at our house for the boys always turn into a big party.
00:43:58.400 --> 00:43:59.280
And we would sleepover.
00:44:00.239 --> 00:44:05.840
Like my parents and her parents and siblings and they you know, because we'd all be like having a lot of fun.
00:44:06.000 --> 00:44:06.239
Yeah.
00:44:06.880 --> 00:44:08.639
No one's gonna be driving if you know what I mean.
00:44:08.800 --> 00:44:09.760
I gotcha, gotcha.
00:44:09.920 --> 00:44:10.000
Right.
00:44:10.239 --> 00:44:14.480
So we so we all sleep over and have a big old party into the wee hours of the morning.
00:44:14.559 --> 00:44:16.559
And yeah, that's I mean that's those are legendary.
00:44:17.039 --> 00:44:18.000
Do you have a big family?
00:44:18.079 --> 00:44:21.840
Like a like cousins and I'm I'm one of four, Tolly's one of four.
00:44:22.000 --> 00:44:22.320
Okay.
00:44:22.480 --> 00:44:32.480
Um so there are the and the boys have there there's the boys have six cousins on your side, four cousins on my side.
00:44:32.559 --> 00:44:33.920
So okay, so a good pack.
00:44:34.159 --> 00:44:34.719
A good pack.
00:44:34.880 --> 00:44:37.840
And on Tim's side, they're all around the same age.
00:44:37.920 --> 00:44:38.800
So fun.
00:44:39.119 --> 00:44:42.320
Cousins that are friends with each other, which is a blessing as well.
00:44:42.719 --> 00:44:50.079
And still, still as grown-ups, they're still but I think we did a lot, like a lot of um, we just did a lot of adventures with them.
00:44:50.239 --> 00:45:06.880
We took them skiing, and you know, we took them just traditional old school stuff, you know, what you know, skiing and we went to the shore and and then we'd travel and like like I said, I think we were easy that way with the sleepover, the sleeping bags in the back or the pack and play.
00:45:06.960 --> 00:45:09.280
We just we just go to my parents' house.
00:45:09.679 --> 00:45:14.320
Or or we would so we were sort of easy going that way.
00:45:14.559 --> 00:45:17.440
It was it it gave they were hearty in that respect.
00:45:17.599 --> 00:45:18.639
We go to my parents' house.
00:45:18.960 --> 00:45:20.480
Sleep on the floor, you'll be fine, right?
00:45:20.719 --> 00:45:21.199
That's right.
00:45:21.440 --> 00:45:26.960
All of that the sleep on the floor, and and we weren't we didn't stop our fun.
00:45:27.199 --> 00:45:27.519
Okay.
00:45:27.760 --> 00:45:38.000
Um, and so if we were traveling to uh friends of ours that live two hours away, we would just pack up the van and just let's go and then let's just stay over or whatever.
00:45:38.079 --> 00:45:40.320
That it was that type of vibe, yeah.
00:45:40.559 --> 00:45:50.079
With that with the boys, that was also just you know, small family, you know, no no big huge trips, but just you know, small weekend time.
00:45:50.480 --> 00:45:50.960
Yeah, yeah.
00:45:52.000 --> 00:45:52.800
I want to join your family.
00:45:52.880 --> 00:45:53.920
You sound like a lot of fun.
00:45:54.000 --> 00:45:55.440
You do sound like a lot of fun.
00:45:55.679 --> 00:45:57.280
I couldn't get down with that.
00:45:57.519 --> 00:46:03.760
Um what piece of parenting advice would you give to your younger selves if you could go back now?
00:46:03.920 --> 00:46:07.519
Knowing what you know now, what would you tell yourself then?
00:46:10.639 --> 00:46:16.639
I know like something that we would do better if we're a parent.
00:46:17.199 --> 00:46:29.199
Or better or different, or like, you know, we worried about all these little tiny things and realized later we didn't have to, or you know, whatever it is, whatever, whatever you would tell yourself as a as a new parent now that you've done it.
00:46:29.519 --> 00:46:30.079
Right.
00:46:31.119 --> 00:46:31.760
Yeah.
00:46:33.039 --> 00:46:34.000
I think I don't know.
00:46:34.079 --> 00:46:39.760
I can't see anything that really sticks out because I would think we would be considered really good parents.
00:46:40.239 --> 00:46:40.480
Okay.
00:46:41.119 --> 00:46:44.079
Sounds like it's well, definitely fun, fun parents.
00:46:44.159 --> 00:46:50.480
So because you know, we would their friends would love coming over and hanging out because they know
we'd be hanging out, getting the dancing going.
00:46:50.559 --> 00:46:52.960
And so, you know, so I I I don't know.
00:46:53.039 --> 00:46:55.760
I can really yeah, that's a really tough question.
00:46:56.000 --> 00:47:03.199
But I love like what Tolly said, like you still held the line and you you had fun with your kids and you made all these memories at the same time.
00:47:03.280 --> 00:47:07.599
They knew you weren't messing around, so like we can have fun until you cross the line and then we're done.
00:47:07.840 --> 00:47:18.800
Like that's you know, well, and I I'm also I don't think I'm answering your question, but I we we raised they even though they were both boys, they were so different.
00:47:19.599 --> 00:47:26.639
And I felt we raised two very individuals, so there was never oh, do it.
00:47:26.719 --> 00:47:28.000
You did you see what your brother did?
00:47:28.079 --> 00:47:28.719
You should do it.
00:47:28.880 --> 00:47:31.440
Like we were there was never comparison.
00:47:32.239 --> 00:47:53.119
Um you know, one sort of found his journey through the music programs and all of that, and the other one was on a ball field all the time, and he was okay, it was more, and yeah, the old the one could care less about like, and so you were we were never we just let them have their own ride.
00:47:54.000 --> 00:48:08.000
Um and they're only like till they went to college and stuff did they discover, you know, they each had their own set of friends and their own their own journey to find their thing.
00:48:08.719 --> 00:48:10.960
Um but then are they close?
00:48:11.119 --> 00:48:12.719
Were they close growing up even though they weren't?
00:48:13.119 --> 00:48:17.039
I don't think they I don't think they were close growing up because they had different interests.
00:48:17.679 --> 00:48:21.599
They were doing different things, they were three school years apart.
00:48:21.840 --> 00:48:27.599
Okay, but the one was you know always at all these you know sporting events and blah blah blah.
00:48:27.840 --> 00:48:34.639
Um, and the other one, you know, you play a skier and play tennis, but it wasn't like an organized athlete.
00:48:34.800 --> 00:48:42.239
So we weren't in the grind of running everybody to all these but they're very close now, they're very close now, they've been close over the last 10 years.
00:48:42.320 --> 00:48:46.719
I mean it became yes, but they were two different guys, yeah.
00:48:46.880 --> 00:48:59.519
And so I think that was also helpful that they weren't one wasn't being compared to the other because they were two, they had different interests and different uh ways of looking at the world, you know.
00:48:59.760 --> 00:49:00.320
Right, right.
00:49:00.400 --> 00:49:12.800
And so it didn't matter if one was a good baseball player because the other one didn't want to base sort of clueless to it all because we didn't talk about it, we didn't there was no comparison, there was nothing, you know what I mean?
00:49:12.880
--> 00:49:15.920
We just sort of kept our we kept her mouth shut a lot.
00:49:16.880 --> 00:49:17.760
That's very hard for me.
00:49:17.840 --> 00:49:18.800
I'll have to take that in.
00:49:18.880 --> 00:49:20.000
It's hard for me to keep it.
00:49:20.079 --> 00:49:33.840
I a lot of um I I think there's a lot of I don't want to say verbal vomit, but uh with anxiety, and then the the parents are just talking about all you know what I mean, and yeah, well, did you see like Sally's over there playing with all of her friends?
00:49:34.239 --> 00:49:37.519
Why don't you go over and we just let them just be them?
00:49:38.159 --> 00:49:47.760
It's a very, it's a really uh it's really difficult to because they only know the world that's presented to them.
00:49:48.559 --> 00:49:57.920
So um they so I I I I can't tell you how many school dances I dropped one of my sons off.
00:49:58.239 --> 00:50:00.960
Um he claims he was meeting his friends there.
00:50:01.199 --> 00:50:02.719
Okay, I dropped him off.
00:50:02.800 --> 00:50:05.360
I can't like a handful of dances at the high school.
00:50:05.519 --> 00:50:09.679
He walks in by himself, and they're like and I didn't I didn't say a thing.
00:50:09.840 --> 00:50:12.239
And picking him up, I'm like, so how was he?
00:50:12.320 --> 00:50:13.039
He was great.
00:50:13.199 --> 00:50:16.800
I go, so trying out with I hear like maybe two or three kids.
00:50:16.880 --> 00:50:20.880
Uh I and I didn't say a thing.
00:50:21.199 --> 00:50:24.639
He had no idea that that wasn't the cool thing to do.
00:50:24.800 --> 00:50:29.519
Yeah, he just I wanted to go, I dropped him off.
00:50:29.679 --> 00:50:32.880
Yeah, so it they they have to find their way.
00:50:32.960 --> 00:50:36.559
Um, Tatania, the less I didn't say a thing.
00:50:36.800 --> 00:50:53.679
I uh so any of this, you know, you know compared to I think it's it's hard because I think people you know want their kids to fit in or be part of a group, but be a part of the or whatever, and you know, like they're the big parties are over this house and this house, and I knew he wasn't a part of it, but he wanted to go.
00:50:53.920 --> 00:50:56.320
Yeah, and you're like I never said anything.
00:50:56.559 --> 00:50:58.079
You're like, go ahead, go ahead.
00:50:58.239 --> 00:50:59.760
Yeah, like that.
00:50:59.840 --> 00:51:02.800
Let them let them be who they are and be okay with that.
00:51:03.039 --> 00:51:04.639
I'm not trying to not try to change that.
00:51:04.880 --> 00:51:06.639
I think the less said the better.
00:51:06.800 --> 00:51:17.199
Yeah, I think uh the the own emotional, I know it's your own emotional insecurity, but uh you don't there's no need to project it onto that child, right?
00:51:17.360 --> 00:51:19.519
Because it's his journey, it's their journey.
00:51:19.840 --> 00:51:33.280
And a friend of mine is like, if they're happy, okay, oh yeah, like you know, because I was like, Oh, my daughter will come home once in a while and say she played basketball by herself at recess, but other times she comes home and she'll spew off like eight kids.
00:51:33.360 --> 00:51:35.840
And I try to be very like, oh, that's fun, oh that's great.
00:51:35.920 --> 00:51:38.239
I was talking to a friend of mine and she's like, is she upset about it?
00:51:38.400 --> 00:51:39.840
I said, No, she's perfectly happy.
00:51:39.920 --> 00:51:40.960
She's like, then let it be.
00:51:41.039 --> 00:51:45.039
And I'm like, okay, you're right, you know, and she was like, Maybe she needs 10 minutes to herself.
00:51:45.119 --> 00:51:47.280
And I'm like, that could be what did it, you know what I mean?
00:51:47.360 --> 00:51:48.159
Like 100%.
00:51:48.480 --> 00:51:50.239
You it's amazing.
00:51:50.719 --> 00:51:51.920
Yep, absolutely.
00:51:52.639 --> 00:52:00.000
As long as she's happy, and I'm like, okay, she's happy, and we can then I then maybe they'll just want to live in a little plastic bubble with me for the rest of their lives, right?
00:52:00.079 --> 00:52:01.599
No, yeah, but you know what?
00:52:01.920 --> 00:52:05.360
Like, that's fine, we'll just put our plastic bubble and protect them forever.
00:52:05.519 --> 00:52:07.840
But uh yeah, no, that's great advice.
00:52:08.000 --> 00:52:18.960
Um, all right, so let's talk about how you two have quote unquote danced through life, and you told us how dancing became part of your story and how Tali, you were a dancer and Tim she taught you to dance.
00:52:19.119 --> 00:52:22.159
We'll say you had it in you, but she kind of helped out a little.
00:52:22.719 --> 00:52:23.760
And I helped him along the way.
00:52:24.320 --> 00:52:25.119
Helped them along.
00:52:25.199 --> 00:52:28.800
Yeah, why do you think your videos became so popular?
00:52:28.880 --> 00:52:33.840
And why do you think people connect with them and love them so much and watch them and want to see you dance?
00:52:34.000 --> 00:52:37.280
And I I you know, we're what is your magic?
00:52:37.360 --> 00:52:37.760
What is that?
00:52:38.400 --> 00:52:41.280
We're just blown away with like what is what is the appeal of this?
00:52:41.440 --> 00:52:50.480
But people love it because it's it's wholesome, it's you know, every time you put on the news, which we try not to watch because it's just all the news.
00:52:50.639 --> 00:52:53.679
So it's just uh there's fun, there's it's fun.
00:52:54.559 --> 00:52:56.960
There's people say the body and happiness that we bring it.
00:52:57.119 --> 00:53:10.320
It's my you know, and there's people that it's Philly, there's there's yeah, there's there's uh uh like plenty of cases where people are in the hospital and they're sending us messages saying you have no idea what these videos do for us.
00:53:10.639 --> 00:53:12.719
Oh, how nice it happens a lot.
00:53:12.960 --> 00:53:20.239
So it's just you know, you see two uh regular people, there's nothing uh pretentious about us, right?
00:53:20.719 --> 00:53:22.159
Live in this massive home.
00:53:22.320 -->
00:53:26.000
We just, you know, we've done well over the over the years, but I don't know.
00:53:26.079 --> 00:53:27.599
I just we're just two regular people.
00:53:28.000 --> 00:53:28.639
Yeah, yeah.
00:53:28.719 --> 00:53:34.639
I think it's and I think that that authenticity, you're right, like you're just normal people, you're not celebrities, you're not whatever.
00:53:34.800 --> 00:53:37.599
And I think too, you look like you're having fun when you're dancing.
00:53:37.679 --> 00:53:45.039
So like I feel like when I watch your videos, I am smiling just because I'm like smiling at the two of you having fun.
00:53:45.199 --> 00:53:51.440
And I love Tim when you come in with like a you know, like a costume and like a little, you know, solo with a microphone or something.
00:53:51.519 --> 00:53:52.880
I'm like, that it is okay.
00:53:53.440 --> 00:53:54.239
And that's the other thing.
00:53:54.400 --> 00:53:57.119
That's that that's all in our base in our storage area.
00:53:57.360 --> 00:54:04.880
Like we've accumulated dress-up boxes when the boys when since they were little, little, none of that's been thrown away.
00:54:04.960 --> 00:54:08.159
Yeah, these silly wigs, these silly costumes.
00:54:08.320 --> 00:54:10.000
People are like, Where did you get that?
00:54:10.079 --> 00:54:12.079
I'm like, out of our storage, yeah.
00:54:12.800 --> 00:54:15.840
Out of our dress-up box, pull them out in our adult parties.
00:54:15.920 --> 00:54:20.400
Like, we usually have a New Year's party with our Great Valley friends, and couples, it's like six couples.
00:54:21.199 --> 00:54:29.119
And and um, so it and and you know, it always turns into a big party, and uh I go down the basement and start bringing out we're gonna pull out the costumes, yeah.
00:54:29.920 --> 00:54:30.400
I love that.
00:54:30.480 --> 00:54:32.079
That makes it even more fun, right?
00:54:32.159 --> 00:54:32.400
Exactly.
00:54:32.559 --> 00:54:37.199
Yeah, um, and what message do you hope people take away from your dances?
00:54:37.440 --> 00:54:44.880
Just this whole idea of joy and fun, and sort of like I love when you're dancing in your front hall or you're dancing on your back deck, you're dancing in the kitchen.
00:54:44.960 --> 00:54:45.920
I'm like, love that.
00:54:46.079 --> 00:54:48.880
Like it's just yeah, you know, spontaneous.
00:54:49.199 --> 00:54:55.519
I I I think like this is an example of us just like trying something and it worked.
00:54:55.679 --> 00:55:00.800
Now, look, this we could have done it, but like Tolly's being the first one to tell you our first bunch of videos.
00:55:00.880 --> 00:55:02.559
She's like, Look, she goes, I'll try this.
00:55:02.719 --> 00:55:04.400
If it's not working, I'm out.
00:55:04.559 --> 00:55:05.360
Okay, and it worked.
00:55:05.440 --> 00:55:08.480
I said, Yeah, I said, guess what?
00:55:08.559 --> 00:55:11.039
You're in, and you're not in the turn, you're you ain't leaving.
00:55:11.199 --> 00:55:17.840
So, um, but uh yeah, I I just think that's the like if people have an idea that they want to do, just go for it.
00:55:18.239 --> 00:55:18.800
I love that.
00:55:19.280 --> 00:55:19.519
Right.
00:55:19.599 --> 00:55:21.440
I mean, just throw it on Instagram.
00:55:21.519 --> 00:55:22.639
You never, you never know.
00:55:22.719 --> 00:55:26.400
We would have never known that this thing was gonna broke blow up like the way it is, right?
00:55:26.480 --> 00:55:30.559
And like what a fun thing to be doing in like your retirement years, you know.
00:55:30.639 --> 00:55:40.159
Like, yes, we are Instagram and social media sensations, like it just kind of goes with your whole feeling of like life is fun, we're having fun with this, like it's just it's funny, it's fun.
00:55:40.239 --> 00:55:41.920
You're not taking yourself too seriously.
00:55:42.000 --> 00:55:44.480
You're like, it's just that's for sure.
00:55:44.559 --> 00:55:51.440
Well, and yeah, I bet, I bet we're we're going on this, you know, we're scheduling this, we're working on this national dance tour.
00:55:51.519 --> 00:55:55.039
We're gonna go doing these old school dance parties, and we're we're starting in.
00:55:55.119 --> 00:55:58.079
I'm not saying where we're starting, but it's uh figure out, okay.
00:55:58.320 --> 00:56:05.360
But all the other big cities, LA, New York, Chicago, like we're gonna be supposed to go to all these cities and you'll get to travel there, like how great!
00:56:05.440 --> 00:56:09.519
Like now you get to travel across the country and do dance and meet people.
00:56:09.760 --> 00:56:13.519
And we're working, so we're partnering with this legendary, legendary music producer.
00:56:13.599 --> 00:56:14.960
His name is DJ Eddie F.
00:56:15.199 --> 00:56:20.639
Okay, he was he produced a lot of big time, he was the co-founder of a great group in the 80s called Heavy D and the Boys.
00:56:20.880 --> 00:56:21.519
Oh, yes, okay.
00:56:22.079 --> 00:56:24.639
Yeah, he was the co-founder, but then he got in the music business.
00:56:24.719 --> 00:56:27.679
He he was the head of moat, like one of the head guys at Motown in the 90s.
00:56:27.920 --> 00:56:33.599
Wow, he reached out to us, and we he and I talked more than I talked to Tali in the course of the day, you know.
00:56:33.760 --> 00:56:35.440
So yeah, so it's it's fun, you know.
00:56:35.519 --> 00:56:38.960
The fact that we're doing this, most people are like kind of slow and slow in the role.
00:56:39.039 --> 00:56:42.079
I'm like, here we go, here we go, let's get this thing going.
00:56:42.320 --> 00:56:44.960
But like we keep saying it, but like, what fun?
00:56:45.199 --> 00:56:50.320
How fun, like how fitting for the two of you to be like, ah, we're just gonna dance our way through retirement.
00:56:50.480 --> 00:56:51.920
Like that's that's so great.
00:56:52.079 --> 00:56:55.119
And Tim, you are retired, you are not retired.
00:56:55.440 --> 00:56:56.320
Interesting question.
00:56:56.480 --> 00:57:00.960
I just
finished with my current company about a month ago.
00:57:01.199 --> 00:57:01.519
Okay.
00:57:01.679 --> 00:57:07.679
And so I'm probably gonna be doing some consulting, but okay, I'm really pushing to go all in on this.
00:57:07.760 --> 00:57:10.079
We you are footloose and fancy free for the most part.
00:57:10.559 --> 00:57:13.920
Okay, I'm going all in on this, and you know, we'll see after six months.
00:57:14.000 --> 00:57:16.480
I'm we're pretty confident it's gonna be okay.
00:57:16.559 --> 00:57:19.280
And yeah, and so we're just gonna I'm going full force.
00:57:19.360 --> 00:57:21.280
And Tali's been retired since 2021.
00:57:21.440 --> 00:57:22.880
And that's so talk about that, Tali.
00:57:23.119 --> 00:57:27.920
What have you found, you know, after being a working mom and go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go for so many years.
00:57:28.000 --> 00:57:29.920
And now you're like, I'm just gonna be retired.
00:57:30.079 --> 00:57:35.599
Like, what do you find yourself with a ton of like people are like, oh, it would be so boring.
00:57:35.679 --> 00:57:37.039
I'm like, oh, I'd find something to do.
00:57:37.599 --> 00:57:38.719
Yeah, I wouldn't be bored.
00:57:38.880 --> 00:57:40.480
Like, what how are you spending your time?
00:57:40.719 --> 00:57:47.679
So, my in my personality, I'm I'm a joiner, I uh I'm social, I love not surprising.
00:57:47.840 --> 00:57:47.920
Right.
00:57:48.320 --> 00:57:55.599
I am just I I I number one love volunteering uh once a week at Bringing Hope Home.
00:57:56.079 --> 00:57:59.440
Um, they've got a nice uh group of people in there.
00:57:59.599 --> 00:58:09.840
Um I'm in there on Thursdays and I'm helping them out with the outreach for the signature events um with the silent auction items.
00:58:10.000 --> 00:58:18.079
And then a lot of uh sometimes I'm in there doing some data entry, good old sales force and taking some old files and put and updating that stuff.
00:58:18.320 --> 00:58:38.239
So it's just fine to go in on Thursdays, but then during the the weather, the when the weather gets nice, I've really um you know just jumped in feet first, um, and I'm playing a lot of golf in some ladies' leagues, and I have um built a nice network of friends.
00:58:38.400 --> 00:58:38.719
Yeah.
00:58:38.880 --> 00:58:44.159
And and with it, there's just a lot of good things that come out of it, you know, the socialization.
00:58:44.320 --> 00:58:49.039
There's always something to work on, always something to get better on, you know, at.
00:58:49.199 --> 00:58:52.480
So it gives me a challenge, yeah, keeps me healthy.
00:58:52.639 --> 00:58:55.280
Um, and it's just beautiful being outside.
00:58:55.440 --> 00:58:58.320
It just fill it's it's a it definitely fills my bucket.
00:58:58.480 --> 00:58:59.679
I I definitely love it.
00:58:59.840 --> 00:59:03.199
Uh for all you can spend your time doing what you want to do.
00:59:03.360 --> 00:59:05.440
Yeah, you know, and how you want to do it.
00:59:05.679 --> 00:59:08.719
Question for you is September weird for you or not anymore?
00:59:08.800 --> 00:59:16.159
Like I always think as a teacher, like yeah, were the first couple of years weird or not like the first day of school, or you're like, nope, not thinking about it.
00:59:16.400 --> 00:59:18.639
Yeah, it really it was pretty seamless.
00:59:18.719 --> 00:59:20.960
Um just outside playing golf.
00:59:21.039 --> 00:59:25.360
But I always remember for me, like September is such a beautiful month.
00:59:25.440 --> 00:59:25.760
Yeah.
00:59:25.920 --> 00:59:28.559
And and I always remember how beautiful May is.
00:59:28.719 --> 00:59:36.639
And as a reading specialist, as we're running around doing all the beginning of the year assessments, May, end of the year assessments, or gathering up all this data.
00:59:36.719 --> 00:59:43.440
And like I just read that those truly for me are true, they were just so crazy.
00:59:43.679 --> 00:59:44.800
Go, go, go, go, go.
00:59:45.360 --> 00:59:49.760
And I just remember just looking outside, going, it's gorgeous out there.
00:59:49.920 --> 00:59:50.880
And I'm in here.
00:59:51.119 --> 00:59:59.840
And so uh for May and June and September, I am um loving every second of it because I'm out there probably three days a week.
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:04.159
Um it's been it's been that big of a change of a lifestyle for me.
01:00:04.239 --> 01:00:05.360
I I really love it.
01:00:05.519 --> 01:00:06.239
Yeah, yeah.
01:00:06.320 --> 01:00:08.400
And you were in you were in education for 25.
01:00:08.480 --> 01:00:09.119
How long were you in?
01:00:09.280 --> 01:00:09.599
30 years?
01:00:09.920 --> 01:00:12.559
Uh I was with my school district for 36 years.
01:00:12.719 --> 01:00:13.119
Oh wow.
01:00:13.199 --> 01:00:15.199
So you figure you did it for a long time.
01:00:15.519 --> 01:00:17.119
So you don't you don't have to miss it.
01:00:17.280 --> 01:00:18.480
You did it for a long time.
01:00:18.719 --> 01:00:20.079
I literally missed.
01:00:20.400 --> 01:00:25.920
I was a 22-year-old kid and uh and I left when I was I was turning 59.
01:00:26.079 --> 01:00:28.719
Um it's you you did it.
01:00:28.960 --> 01:00:31.440
Yeah, no need to be sad.
01:00:31.679 --> 01:00:39.920
Yeah, I was bl I was really I was grateful to be employed there, especially after that tea uh student teaching experience.
01:00:40.400 --> 01:00:41.360
Yeah, that was a great advice.
01:00:41.599 --> 01:00:42.239
That was a blessing.
01:00:44.480 --> 01:00:44.880
Yes.
01:00:45.119 --> 01:00:45.920
Um, okay.
01:00:46.159 --> 01:00:54.639
How have you what what advice would you give to people who are newly empty nesters or you know coming up on their empty nest season of life?
01:00:54.719 --> 01:00:55.840
What would you tell them?
01:00:58.239 --> 01:00:58.800
Yeah.
01:01:00.960 --> 01:01:20.960
The empty nest, I mean, so empty nest versus retired, you're you're just thinking like emptiness when you or like even that whole thing, like people whose
kids have moved out, so they're not, you know, micromanaging kids anymore, and now they're finding themselves with all this time on their hands, whether they're still working or not working, just kind of like a new chapter in life after raising kids.
01:01:21.599 --> 01:01:50.320
I mean, just what was pretty standard out there, keep your mind busy, keep your body busy, busy uh as far as your body has to be moving, your mind has to be moving, and your social engagements, and those three things are is sort of, you know, Tim's mom is 90 years old, and she's a living testament with her how sharp she is, how social she is, and her moving her body the way she.
01:01:50.719 --> 01:02:00.559
I mean, it those three areas, those three domains are just vital um to you know, uh happy, healthy lifestyle.
01:02:00.719 --> 01:02:01.679
Well, and and that's the thing.
01:02:01.760 --> 01:02:07.679
Like, we have we have plenty of friends who are on the healthier side, and we have plenty of friends that aren't on the healthier side.
01:02:08.480 --> 01:02:10.079
Get your buck, get moving.
01:02:10.159 --> 01:02:11.119
Like I'm a freak.
01:02:11.280 --> 01:02:14.000
I'm up at no, that's why you're dancing all the time, right?
01:02:14.239 --> 01:02:16.320
A couple days a week, I'm up at like 3 30, 4 o'clock.
01:02:17.119 --> 01:02:19.360
Whoa, you wake up at 3 30 or 4 o'clock in the morning?
01:02:19.599 --> 01:02:21.920
On Mondays and Wednesdays, those are my busier days where I get to do it.
01:02:22.079 --> 01:02:22.639
What do you do?
01:02:22.880 --> 01:02:32.000
Well, I go to a couple one gym doesn't open till five, so I get to one at 4 30 in the morning for a half hour, go to the other one at five, and then I meet guys to run at six, and then so but then look at me.
01:02:32.079 --> 01:02:34.480
I'm like uh yeah, I'm like six days a week.
01:02:34.639 --> 01:02:40.320
Yeah, and I'll sleep in, I'll sleep in till some days I'll sleep in till five or five thirty if I'm lucky.
01:02:40.400 --> 01:02:47.920
But okay, it's like if I don't get if I don't start my day at the gym, it's like it's forget it, it has to happen.
01:02:48.000 --> 01:02:52.719
You just and it does feel good when you start your day like uh working out or I've done it now.
01:02:52.800 --> 01:02:57.599
I sleep in, but yes, I've done it, and you do feel like energized for the rest of the day.
01:02:57.760 --> 01:02:59.039
Where what time do you go to sleep?
01:02:59.119 --> 01:02:59.760
Do you go to bed early?
01:03:00.159 --> 01:03:00.960
Oh god, we're in bed.
01:03:01.119 --> 01:03:02.079
I'm 8 15, 8.
01:03:02.320 --> 01:03:08.000
Well, I shouldn't say that in bed by 8 30, reading, whatever, till like I'm usually asleep by 9 15.
01:03:08.239 --> 01:03:09.920
We're usually asleep 9 15 ish or so.
01:03:10.159 --> 01:03:11.679
Yes, I love an early bedtime.
01:03:11.920 --> 01:03:12.159
Love it.
01:03:12.480 --> 01:03:12.880
100%.
01:03:13.199 --> 01:03:15.039
Yeah, and then you're you're up and
ready to go.
01:03:15.119 --> 01:03:15.920
I love that for you.
01:03:17.360 --> 01:03:36.320
Um, okay, so before we do our fun questions, um, what is one message that you would like our listeners to remember from you as parents or as people who have raised kids, or what's what's or from your dancing, what's one little nugget of something to leave them with?
01:03:36.719 --> 01:03:42.480
I I'm I'm always a uh a fan of I call it the three, I don't even know if you've ever heard this up forever.
01:03:43.039 --> 01:03:44.320
The three, it's a three F.
01:03:44.559 --> 01:03:46.480
It's fun, it's fitness and faith.
01:03:46.800 --> 01:03:48.159
Like I'm a big Catholic guy.
01:03:48.320 --> 01:03:56.960
Okay at church every Sunday, and you know, I you know, you I'm always telling like friends, I'm like, you gotta be thankful for what you have.
01:03:57.119 --> 01:04:00.400
And if you if things aren't working out, that's why you should be there.
01:04:00.480 --> 01:04:05.920
And so I'm a big, big faith guy, but fitness, but fun is really actually you gotta throw in family.
01:04:06.079 --> 01:04:06.639
Families first.
01:04:06.800 --> 01:04:07.519
Okay, the four.
01:04:07.599 --> 01:04:08.000
I like it.
01:04:08.239 --> 01:04:12.320
Okay, so but families like we're five friends, friends, okay.
01:04:12.400 --> 01:04:12.960
So it's five.
01:04:13.039 --> 01:04:15.599
All right, so we'll call them the F words, exactly.
01:04:16.400 --> 01:04:19.039
Okay, friends, family, the good ones.
01:04:19.119 --> 01:04:19.679
I like that though.
01:04:19.760 --> 01:04:20.159
Those are good.
01:04:20.239 --> 01:04:20.960
The five F's.
01:04:21.039 --> 01:04:21.760
That's fantastic.
01:04:22.000 --> 01:04:22.880
It's fantastic.
01:04:23.039 --> 01:04:24.800
There's another one six words.
01:04:24.960 --> 01:04:25.840
There you go.
01:04:26.239 --> 01:04:27.280
I love you guys.
01:04:27.360 --> 01:04:30.880
Are just so like joyful, even just to talk to you on Zoom.
01:04:30.960 --> 01:04:32.000
I just feel your joy.
01:04:32.079 --> 01:04:35.199
Yeah, we'll have to run into each other at the grocery store again sometime.
01:04:35.599 --> 01:04:48.960
Because I I remember when I left, I was like, she was so so to back up, before Tim and Tali were Tim and Tolly on social media, we happened to randomly run into each other, walk past each other in a grocery store near our house.
01:04:49.039 --> 01:04:52.639
And I was talking to my children and said the name of the school that they go to.
01:04:52.719 --> 01:04:55.360
And Tolly stopped me and was like, Did you just say this school?
01:04:55.440 --> 01:04:57.119
And I was like, Yeah, she's like, I used to teach there.
01:04:57.280 --> 01:05:00.960
So, not until like I emailed you to be on the show did we put it all together.
01:05:01.039 --> 01:05:03.280
So I feel like it's, you know, kind of fun.
01:05:03.519 --> 01:05:08.639
But yes, we'll have to we'll have to meet up again at the giant, at the entrance to the giant and chat.
01:05:08.800 --> 01:05:10.079
I'm usually at Wagmans, though.
01:05:10.159 --> 01:05:11.280
You might have to go to Wagmans.
01:05:11.599 --> 01:05:15.039
Well, and for all your listeners, keep in mind we are really normal.
01:05:15.199 --> 01:05:18.400
We have we've been through difficult times as well.
01:05:18.559 --> 01:05:22.800
It is not just a constant celebratory party.
01:05:22.880 --> 01:05:37.840
Their life is filled with ups and downs, even though we're coming across with this, you know, happy vibe here that we, you know, you just have to to motor through it together and and keep your strength, you know, going.
01:05:37.920 --> 01:05:44.880
But truthfully, it's just not normal to have to not have, you know, some some difficult times as well.
01:05:45.119 --> 01:05:45.599
I like that.
01:05:45.679 --> 01:05:46.719
That's a that's a good point.
01:05:46.880 --> 01:05:49.039
While you're all sunshine and cupcakes.
01:05:49.199 --> 01:05:49.840
That's right.
01:05:50.079 --> 01:06:00.719
And I mean, and I mean, and that's what the that's what the social media does to this world is right, you know, makes us look like every day is just like a you know, and it's Just not.
01:06:01.360 --> 01:06:02.719
But I love that your outlook.
01:06:02.880 --> 01:06:04.800
I feel like you said you're pretty positive people.
01:06:04.880 --> 01:06:14.719
I feel I don't know, but I would imagine even when you hit the harm hard times, you have each other, but you also have this joy and energy within you that I would think would help you stay optimistic.
01:06:14.960 --> 01:06:22.800
I I think for Tim's family, like I I remember telling my mom when things would go sour or whatever, I'm like, all they do is make a joke about it.
01:06:22.960 --> 01:06:34.000
Like so Tim's family is funny that way, but uh I you know, I I think I'm a little bit my family is a little bit more realistic with you know tough times and showing emotions.
01:06:34.239 --> 01:06:40.719
You know, it's so yeah for your kids to see both ways, a little bit of both solving problems and those types of things.
01:06:41.119 --> 01:06:43.280
Well, and right, and the different the different ways to do it.
01:06:43.360 --> 01:06:46.239
I'm like, I'd probably say something awkward in like a moment, you know.
01:06:46.320 --> 01:06:50.159
I'm like, I'm trying to lighten the mood, but I think I just made it worse, you know?
01:06:50.320 --> 01:06:51.599
Yeah, yeah, exactly.
01:06:51.920 --> 01:06:57.039
My husband and I were laughing because his father passed away in June and he was 93 years old.
01:06:57.119 --> 01:07:02.239
He had a wonderful life, he was a wonderful man, and he has my brother, my husband has four brothers.
01:07:02.400 --> 01:07:08.079
So all five boys went down to the bedside, and I was texting my husband and I was like, Are you making fun of him?
01:07:08.159 --> 01:07:09.199
He's like, Of course we are.
01:07:09.360 --> 01:07:10.960
Like, you know, he and he we were
laughing.
01:07:11.119 --> 01:07:12.559
And I said, And is your dad laughing?
01:07:12.639 --> 01:07:13.760
He's like, Of course he is.
01:07:13.840 --> 01:07:18.159
He's like, We're telling old stories and we're making fun of him, and he is laughing.
01:07:18.320 --> 01:07:20.960
And I was like, that would never fly in my family.
01:07:21.119 --> 01:07:21.440
That's right.
01:07:21.519 --> 01:07:23.920
And to his family, that's exactly what they did.
01:07:24.320 --> 01:07:26.719
And I'm like, that poor man is literally on his deathbed.
01:07:26.800 --> 01:07:27.760
He's like, what are we gonna do?
01:07:27.920 --> 01:07:28.880
Like sit around and cry?
01:07:29.039 --> 01:07:30.079
Like we all know what's happening.
01:07:30.239 --> 01:07:37.119
He's like, and we did also cry, and we had moments, and he's like, but yeah, no, we've always kind of made fun of my mom and dad, so we just kind of kept doing it.
01:07:37.199 --> 01:07:39.440
And I was like, well, you wouldn't expect anything less.
01:07:39.679 --> 01:07:41.920
So um, yeah, I I like that.
01:07:42.079 --> 01:07:48.960
Um, okay, and okay, so here are our fun, uh our fun questions.
01:07:49.119 --> 01:07:50.800
So we'll kind of go, we'll go back and forth.
01:07:50.960 --> 01:07:52.400
Tim, I'll start with you.
01:07:52.639 --> 01:07:55.840
Um, who was the stricter parent, you or Tolly?
01:07:56.000 --> 01:07:57.280
Or were you both Tolly?
01:07:57.679 --> 01:07:58.159
Tolly.
01:07:58.320 --> 01:07:59.440
Okay, all right, Tolly.
01:07:59.519 --> 01:08:02.239
It's that whole sorry your mom's a teacher, right?
01:08:02.320 --> 01:08:03.840
That's what I say to my kids all the time.
01:08:04.000 --> 01:08:05.360
Kind of a bummer, isn't it?
01:08:06.000 --> 01:08:07.199
Um, who's the better cop?
01:08:08.400 --> 01:08:09.199
You what did you say?
01:08:09.280 --> 01:08:10.000
What did you say, Tolly?
01:08:10.320 --> 01:08:11.440
I was definitely the bad cop.
01:08:11.599 --> 01:08:11.840
Mm-hmm.
01:08:12.000 --> 01:08:12.239
Yeah.
01:08:12.320 --> 01:08:14.000
I'm like, my my kids will say something.
01:08:14.079 --> 01:08:15.119
My husband's like, oh, that's cute.
01:08:15.199 --> 01:08:18.800
And I'm like, on the other hand, and they're all like, oh, like, no.
01:08:19.520 --> 01:08:19.840
Okay.
01:08:20.079 --> 01:08:21.840
I'm like, I can picture that in a classroom.
01:08:21.920 --> 01:08:22.560
You're not doing that.
01:08:22.640 --> 01:08:23.920
And he's like, okay, sorry.
01:08:24.159 --> 01:08:26.479
Um, who is the better cook?
01:08:28.960 --> 01:08:31.199
Um, we we really don't cook.
01:08:31.279 --> 01:08:32.800
That's so okay.
01:08:33.039 --> 01:08:39.680
I think I'm the better cook, but yeah, we're not we love food, good food, and we go out to dinner a lot.
01:08:39.920 --> 01:08:40.239
Okay.
01:08:40.880 --> 01:08:47.439
Um, I think I cooked for the boys when they were little, and my food was very efficient food.
01:08:47.600 --> 01:09:03.119
It was working mom food, um, you
know, and Tim cooked for the boys when they there because they were big boys, and Tim's a big guy, so he cooked big manly food when they got older in the whole college.
01:09:03.439 --> 01:09:06.079
Okay, the meat, the meat and the potatoes, right, Tim?
01:09:06.399 --> 01:09:16.800
But when it comes to like entertaining, like I can pull off of turkey dinner, uh, you know, we do it chairwise, but um, we're not giving you a straight answer.
01:09:16.960 --> 01:09:29.520
So, you know, a lot of a lot of moms, like you know, their love language is their kitchen and all of the wonderfulness, and I think that's pretty common, but that was that wasn't my love language, you know.
01:09:29.920 --> 01:09:31.439
But you did it, you got it done.
01:09:31.760 --> 01:09:34.079
I got it done, fed them, you know what I mean?
01:09:34.159 --> 01:09:36.239
By what you get a lot of other things to do.
01:09:36.319 --> 01:09:40.479
I'm like, yeah, I know that's yeah, that's sort of how it is with us.
01:09:40.560 --> 01:09:44.319
Yeah, so you both have your you don't love it, but you can both do it.
01:09:44.560 --> 01:09:44.720
Yeah.
01:09:45.439 --> 01:09:45.600
Okay.
01:09:46.000 --> 01:09:47.439
And then make reservations, right?
01:09:47.840 --> 01:09:50.319
Make reservations and you can do really well.
01:09:50.640 --> 01:09:52.479
Who um wait, I didn't ask this.
01:09:52.640 --> 01:09:54.560
Your boys can both dance, I'm assuming.
01:09:54.640 --> 01:09:54.880
Yes.
01:09:55.039 --> 01:09:58.880
And I know that you when you were on vacation on a family vacation, what was it a couple weeks ago?
01:09:58.960 --> 01:10:03.199
You did like a family dance and they just learned, I'm assuming, in your kitchen, in your basement.
01:10:03.439 --> 01:10:04.079
Yes, right.
01:10:04.239 --> 01:10:04.560
Okay.
01:10:05.039 --> 01:10:10.079
Um one is extremely like he's really hip hop.
01:10:10.239 --> 01:10:12.000
Uh, he's phenomenal.
01:10:12.079 --> 01:10:13.840
He's actually has a TikTok page.
01:10:14.000 --> 01:10:14.079
Right.
01:10:14.399 --> 01:10:14.479
Okay.
01:10:14.800 --> 01:10:14.960
Yeah.
01:10:15.119 --> 01:10:21.840
Brad underscore sherry and that kid, he uh our other son would would agree 100%.
01:10:22.239 --> 01:10:24.960
Like he's just on TikTok or is he on um?
01:10:25.359 --> 01:10:30.079
Well, they so he's only on TikTok, Brad underscore Sherry.
01:10:30.239 --> 01:10:35.039
The other son, Drew, is um an amazing uh vocalist, he's a singer.
01:10:35.279 --> 01:10:37.520
Oh he was my music, he was our music kid.
01:10:37.840 --> 01:10:39.840
Okay, yeah, I was gonna say which one was which.
01:10:40.159 --> 01:10:44.479
One is a uh uh a tenor, he's a beautiful vibrato.
01:10:45.039 --> 01:10:48.800
Um he sings beautifully, so you know.
01:10:49.199 --> 01:10:52.239
Um, so he's a singer and the other one's a dancer.
01:10:52.399 --> 01:10:54.640
A dancer, you've got a lot of things going on there.
01:10:54.720 --> 01:10:56.000
You guys should take it on
the road.
01:10:56.159 --> 01:10:57.600
Oh, wait, you're going to, right?
01:10:58.880 --> 01:11:00.960
You're like the new Von Traps or something.
01:11:01.199 --> 01:11:01.520
Yeah.
01:11:01.920 --> 01:11:02.239
Okay.
01:11:02.479 --> 01:11:06.800
Who when the kids first left, who missed them more when they went to college and your house was quiet?
01:11:06.880 --> 01:11:07.920
Who would you say missed them?
01:11:08.079 --> 01:11:09.279
I we both missed.
01:11:09.760 --> 01:11:13.439
I both times we dropped them off of college, I balled like a baby.
01:11:13.840 --> 01:11:14.159
Yeah.
01:11:14.479 --> 01:11:14.800
Ball.
01:11:15.119 --> 01:11:16.640
I mean, uncontrollably.
01:11:16.720 --> 01:11:24.479
Like where I think you were the old well, the older one, I felt like it was I couldn't breathe.
01:11:24.960 --> 01:11:25.680
I have a friend.
01:11:25.760 --> 01:11:28.000
I just did an episode with a friend that she said the same thing.
01:11:28.079 --> 01:11:28.640
She couldn't breathe.
01:11:30.640 --> 01:11:32.319
I couldn't catch my breath.
01:11:32.800 --> 01:11:34.399
And it lasted for days.
01:11:34.560 --> 01:11:40.960
I kept trying to fill my my lungs with oxygen.
01:11:41.279 --> 01:11:43.199
I felt like this.
01:11:43.520 --> 01:11:49.680
Um, and then with the second one, I just balled, we just balled because it's it was over.
01:11:49.760 --> 01:11:51.439
Yeah, it was like, oh boy.
01:11:51.600 --> 01:11:53.199
Oh, over.
01:11:53.920 --> 01:11:54.800
Did they go far away?
01:11:58.880 --> 01:11:59.920
Um the end of it.
01:12:00.079 --> 01:12:00.720
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
01:12:02.319 --> 01:12:04.800
I said, um, did they go far away for college?
01:12:05.119 --> 01:12:08.000
Drew, although all this went to Duquesne in Pittsburgh, so it's four hours.
01:12:08.479 --> 01:12:09.119
Duquesne University.
01:12:09.279 --> 01:12:12.560
And then Brad or youngest, he went to Catholic University in DC, so that's okay.
01:12:13.119 --> 01:12:16.720
So we're kind of three, four hours both ways, but at least they weren't in like California, right?
01:12:17.439 --> 01:12:18.880
Nobody wanted to go to Westchester, huh?
01:12:18.960 --> 01:12:19.359
That's a shame.
01:12:19.680 --> 01:12:20.000
Exactly.
01:12:20.079 --> 01:12:20.319
Yeah.
01:12:20.479 --> 01:12:21.039
They should have.
01:12:21.119 --> 01:12:22.000
I went to Millersville.
01:12:22.159 --> 01:12:24.159
I am a state school product myself.
01:12:24.319 --> 01:12:25.119
Yeah, Pennsylvania.
01:12:25.920 --> 01:12:26.640
It is a great place.
01:12:27.039 --> 01:12:27.920
It's a great place.
01:12:28.079 --> 01:12:30.399
Um, who plans a better date night?
01:12:31.119 --> 01:12:32.079
Oh, definitely.
01:12:33.279 --> 01:12:33.520
Okay.
01:12:33.840 --> 01:12:34.560
He plans them all.
01:12:34.720 --> 01:12:36.079
He doesn't plan anything.
01:12:36.479 --> 01:12:39.600
Well, you're just he's just so good at it, you don't have to, right, Tali.
01:12:39.840 --> 01:12:40.880
He's the social director.
01:12:41.199 --> 01:12:41.520
That's right.
01:12:41.600 --> 01:12:42.239
What what's your best?
01:12:42.319 --> 01:12:46.319
What do you what do you have a Friday, if you have a Saturday night, what are you doing?
01:12:46.399 --> 01:12:46.720
What's your plan?
01:12:47.279 --> 01:12:51.840
Actually, what what I love the most is uh playing nine holes of golf.
01:12:52.479 --> 01:12:54.560
Uh um, what is it called?
01:12:55.359 --> 01:12:56.159
Nine and dine.
01:12:56.319 --> 01:12:56.479
Okay.
01:12:56.720 --> 01:12:57.520
You just go out to dinner.
01:12:57.600 --> 01:12:59.520
Yeah, it's that's like a built-in, right?
01:12:59.600 --> 01:13:01.840
You play and then you're like, look, there's a restaurant right here.
01:13:02.079 --> 01:13:03.439
Yeah, love love doing that.
01:13:03.600 --> 01:13:04.720
All right, that sounds like fun.
01:13:04.800 --> 01:13:06.720
And your weather, the weather's getting nice.
01:13:07.279 --> 01:13:11.279
So that would be your dream free, your free Saturday would be nine holes in a restaurant.
01:13:11.359 --> 01:13:12.159
That was the next question.
01:13:12.319 --> 01:13:13.760
What would you do on a free Saturday?
01:13:13.920 --> 01:13:14.640
Yeah, play golf.
01:13:15.039 --> 01:13:18.079
Yeah, lay back, you know, not when we're not with friends or something.
01:13:18.159 --> 01:13:18.479
Yeah.
01:13:18.720 --> 01:13:20.159
Um, this is kind of a funny one.
01:13:20.239 --> 01:13:23.600
Now that you're together more often, who's more annoying?
01:13:26.239 --> 01:13:26.720
Jeez.
01:13:27.920 --> 01:13:30.000
Who's who's got the more annoying habits?
01:13:30.079 --> 01:13:30.560
What do you think?
01:13:30.640 --> 01:13:33.359
Or are you both just a delight to be with at all times?
01:13:33.439 --> 01:13:33.760
Probably.
01:13:34.000 --> 01:13:35.199
Oh, for God's sakes.
01:13:35.600 --> 01:13:38.000
We're like I said, we are very normal.
01:13:38.800 --> 01:13:39.680
We are normal.
01:13:40.319 --> 01:13:45.039
Rather, you know, regardless of what that one minute on Instagram shows you, we are very normal.
01:13:45.359 --> 01:13:51.680
What when we when we have the kids, I think there's that lends itself to having more conflicts.
01:13:52.640 --> 01:13:53.600
Yeah, like right now.
01:13:53.760 --> 01:13:55.279
Yeah, but right now without the kids.
01:13:55.520 --> 01:13:58.399
We don't really, I mean, there's no annoying habit to have.
01:13:58.960 --> 01:14:04.880
Yeah, like I think like though during the TikTok process when we make videos, I'm more impatient.
01:14:05.119 --> 01:14:09.760
Okay, she is and I'll be like, Can we just get the stop moving the furniture?
01:14:09.840 --> 01:14:11.199
Just let's get this thing done.
01:14:11.279 --> 01:14:12.319
And she's moving things around.
01:14:12.399 --> 01:14:13.439
I'm like, I just want to get this.
01:14:13.920 --> 01:14:16.800
I I am the one with the artistic eye, yes, okay.
01:14:17.600 --> 01:14:25.279
And the and that couch is in your
room, and all of that really matters, and all he wants to do is get it done and over with.
01:14:25.439 --> 01:14:29.439
And I'm like, okay, there's you need space to move, you know.
01:14:30.159 --> 01:14:35.119
Yes, yeah, so it's our my impatience and her patience, but so you're even each other out.
01:14:35.279 --> 01:14:38.319
So yeah, Tim's Tim's an impatient guy, yeah.
01:14:38.720 --> 01:14:48.159
He's I am not, I'm impatient, and my husband is very patient, and sometimes it's annoying because I'm like, can we just you know, and he's like, anything worth doing is worth doing well.
01:14:48.239 --> 01:14:49.199
I'm like, can we just get it done?
01:14:49.279 --> 01:14:50.720
So, Tim, I feel you on that.
01:14:50.800 --> 01:14:51.279
I feel you.
01:14:51.520 --> 01:14:51.920
Yes.
01:14:52.159 --> 01:14:55.039
Um, who are both of your favorite singers?
01:14:57.680 --> 01:14:58.159
Singer.
01:14:59.199 --> 01:15:06.640
So, like, are you taught are you thinking like RB of all time, of all time, if you could only listen to one singer or one band forever.
01:15:06.880 --> 01:15:08.800
Well, I think we'll agree on the same band.
01:15:09.039 --> 01:15:09.359
Oh.
01:15:10.319 --> 01:15:11.279
Earth, Wind and Fire.
01:15:11.359 --> 01:15:12.800
Yeah, we I was gonna say okay.
01:15:13.039 --> 01:15:13.840
Earth, Wind and Fire.
01:15:14.000 --> 01:15:15.680
Were they they're dancing in September, right?
01:15:15.760 --> 01:15:16.640
They just had a moment.
01:15:16.800 --> 01:15:18.800
Okay, they just you could just listen to that all the time.
01:15:18.960 --> 01:15:27.840
Yeah, but one of our other favorite singers, I don't know if you saw the video, we we met him, we performed on stage before and Luther Vandros.
01:15:28.079 --> 01:15:38.399
And Luther Vanros Jeffrey Osborne was in film and the WDAS in Philadelphia, Patty Jackson asked us to come out, and we were we were on stage dancing be right before Jeffrey Osborne.
01:15:38.479 --> 01:15:39.600
It was the headlining act, yeah.
01:15:39.680 --> 01:15:47.840
And then we went up, he took us backstage, and we met him, and he literally is like, I love your videos, and you're like, Thanks, thanks, we love you.
01:15:48.159 --> 01:15:48.960
It was gracious.
01:15:49.199 --> 01:15:52.720
But you know us with him and he wanted his picture with us.
01:15:52.960 --> 01:15:56.000
Like, I was like, Oh my gosh, it was crazy, it was a surreal moment.
01:15:56.079 --> 01:15:58.319
So, yeah, we love Jeffrey Osborne.
01:15:58.399 --> 01:16:00.159
We love like Justin Turmer like Bruno Moore's.
01:16:00.239 --> 01:16:04.319
We just it's no, but like my favorite vocalists are like Luther.
01:16:04.479 --> 01:16:08.880
Yeah, I feel like maybe that can be your Christmas card, the card with with your guy, you know.
01:16:09.039 --> 01:16:09.520
Yeah, there you go.
01:16:09.840 --> 01:16:12.399
Three of you here, Merry Christmas from the Sherries, right?
01:16:12.560 --> 01:16:13.359
Yeah, this is it.
01:16:13.439 --> 01:16:13.840
We're done.
01:16:13.920 --> 01:16:15.279
We don't have to spend any more.
01:16:15.600 --> 01:16:16.800
Reach the pinnacle.
01:16:16.960 --> 01:16:19.760
Yeah, um uh favorite book.
01:16:19.920 --> 01:16:20.800
Are you big uh tally?
01:16:20.960 --> 01:16:23.279
I'm assuming you're a big reader if you're reading some big readers.
01:16:23.680 --> 01:16:28.640
Yeah, Tim Tim reads a lot of biographies, lots of nonfiction.
01:16:28.960 --> 01:16:34.800
I am a definite um, I'm like a top five girl.
01:16:34.960 --> 01:16:39.279
Like uh I love the night and gale from Kirsten Hannah.
01:16:39.439 --> 01:16:40.000
Oh yes.
01:16:40.159 --> 01:16:41.840
Um, did you read the women?
01:16:41.920 --> 01:16:43.039
I didn't read the women.
01:16:43.359 --> 01:16:45.840
The women, yeah.
01:16:46.079 --> 01:16:48.880
Yes, I that oh my god, Theo of Golden.
01:16:48.960 --> 01:16:53.439
Hello, the it's like all the rage.
01:16:53.760 --> 01:16:55.279
Theo of Golden.
01:16:55.520 --> 01:16:56.239
I'm writing it down.
01:16:56.399 --> 01:16:57.760
Okay, Theo of Golden.
01:16:57.840 --> 01:16:59.279
Is that Kristen Hanna or no?
01:16:59.520 --> 01:17:00.319
No, no.
01:17:00.399 --> 01:17:10.800
The um it's it's and the the whole story on the author is um this this 70-year-old guy who wrote this.
01:17:10.960 --> 01:17:13.840
He he he and his niece published it himself.
01:17:13.920 --> 01:17:18.079
It's a now, it's a best, it's uh New York Times bestseller.
01:17:18.399 --> 01:17:21.600
It is um, oh my gosh, it's I haven't heard of it.
01:17:21.680 --> 01:17:23.039
I don't now I'll hear about it all the time.
01:17:23.119 --> 01:17:24.000
Now I'm trying to figure out.
01:17:25.439 --> 01:17:30.319
What's the name of the uh Alan uh something or other?
01:17:31.039 --> 01:17:33.439
And he published it himself.
01:17:33.520 --> 01:17:35.520
It's like a New York Times bestseller.
01:17:35.840 --> 01:17:48.479
It was that he had that he has had this amazing, he was an attorney and he became a judge, and he he has this whole life before he decided to sit down and write this book.
01:17:48.640 --> 01:17:50.880
He's a musician and a singer and a songwriter.
01:17:50.960 --> 01:17:55.520
And wow, oh my gosh, it's um really, really good.
01:17:55.760 --> 01:18:00.800
Um I will link that in the show notes as well because maybe now we're all gonna be reading that book.
01:18:01.119 --> 01:18:06.079
Oh my gosh, it's uh it I mean, literally in the last year and a half.
01:18:06.159 --> 01:18:08.720
Um, it's everybody's reading it.
01:18:08.800 --> 01:18:09.359
It's wonderful.
01:18:09.600 --> 01:18:10.000
Except me.
01:18:10.720 --> 01:18:11.039
You know what?
01:18:11.119 --> 01:18:13.680
You gotta read it soon because it's gonna be a movie that's that good.
01:18:13.840 --> 01:18:15.119
Oh, okay, okay.
01:18:15.199 --> 01:18:15.520
Yes.
01:18:15.760 --> 01:18:18.640
I felt like The Women would be a really good movie too, don't you think?
01:18:18.800 -->
01:18:24.159
Like I feel like yeah, I mean, we would all cry through it, but I felt like that, like of all books that I've read lately.
01:18:24.239 --> 01:18:25.840
I'm like, that would be a great movie.
01:18:26.079 --> 01:18:26.319
Yes.
01:18:30.640 --> 01:18:30.960
Yeah.
01:18:31.600 --> 01:18:33.520
Um, sorry, dude.
01:18:33.600 --> 01:18:34.319
What were you gonna say?
01:18:34.399 --> 01:18:38.479
Okay, no, I was just gonna give you like five other titles, but we can be talking about you know what?
01:18:38.560 --> 01:18:40.159
You can email them to me and I'll stick them in there.
01:18:40.239 --> 01:18:41.600
It'll be Tolly's book recommendation.
01:18:41.840 --> 01:18:45.119
I know, but like we can talk about books, you know, for the next hour.
01:18:45.359 --> 01:18:53.520
Well, I keep saying on all these episodes I love to read and I just haven't I have a list on my phone of probably 300 books I want to read.
01:18:53.600 --> 01:18:55.439
And it's like I'm so tired.
01:18:56.000 --> 01:19:01.439
When I was in when I was doing what you're doing now, I I got through maybe two or three in a summer.
01:19:01.520 --> 01:19:02.079
That was it.
01:19:02.239 --> 01:19:05.840
Yeah, I I would start and I got through a page and would pass out.
01:19:06.079 --> 01:19:08.159
So there there was a time now.
01:19:08.239 --> 01:19:11.199
I'm reading like a lunatic, but I feel like that'll be me.
01:19:12.079 --> 01:19:15.680
It'll come back, but you you gotta be your mom first, you know.
01:19:15.760 --> 01:19:18.319
Yes, nobody cares that I have one of your chapters.
01:19:18.880 --> 01:19:21.920
Yeah, don't don't do not beat yourself up about that.
01:19:22.159 --> 01:19:23.359
Something's gotta give, right?
01:19:23.600 --> 01:19:24.800
I guess right now it's books.
01:19:24.880 --> 01:19:28.880
All right, but then every time I add a book to my list, I'm like, oh, I'm never gonna get to all these books.
01:19:29.039 --> 01:19:32.000
But then I have asterisk next to the ones that people tell me are really good.
01:19:32.079 --> 01:19:34.479
And I'm like, I don't know why this book was really good.
01:19:34.640 --> 01:19:35.760
But anyway, I'll get to it.
01:19:35.920 --> 01:19:40.000
And so do you have a do you have a favorite or are you just like the nonfiction biographies?
01:19:40.239 --> 01:19:42.319
I you know, I just finished Kenny Chesney's book.
01:19:42.399 --> 01:19:43.359
I mean, I love Kenny Chesney.
01:19:43.520 --> 01:19:46.319
Oh, but I but I've read like I love Stephen A.
01:19:46.479 --> 01:19:48.479
Smith, uh I've read his book.
01:19:48.560 --> 01:19:50.560
I read Rich Paul, who's the sports agent.
01:19:50.800 --> 01:19:51.439
Neil Peart.
01:19:52.079 --> 01:19:52.960
Oh, he's isn't he?
01:19:53.039 --> 01:19:55.119
Um is he LeBron's agent?
01:19:55.359 --> 01:19:55.600
Yes.
01:19:55.840 --> 01:19:56.720
Okay, look at me.
01:19:56.960 --> 01:19:58.880
Look at me with my sports knowledge, aren't you proud?
01:19:59.199 --> 01:19:59.520
Great book.
01:19:59.600 --> 01:20:02.640
And so that um you like that one with Neil Peart.
01:20:02.880 --> 01:20:03.359
What's it called?
01:20:03.680 --> 01:20:04.560
It's called Ghost Rider.
01:20:04.800 --> 01:20:05.199
Ghost Rider.
01:20:05.600 --> 01:20:10.000
Neil Peart was the legendary drummer of Rush, which was one of my favorite bands growing up.
01:20:10.159 --> 01:20:12.800
Okay, he lost his his daughter.
01:20:13.119 --> 01:20:13.760
Died of cancer.
01:20:14.000 --> 01:20:15.119
No, his daughter was in a car accident.
01:20:15.279 --> 01:20:15.680
Oh, that's right.
01:20:15.760 --> 01:20:17.760
Okay, six months later, his wife dies of cancer.
01:20:17.840 --> 01:20:19.039
So they stuck with nothing.
01:20:19.279 --> 01:20:30.319
Oh he either was going to commit suicide, or he got on his BMW motorcycle and rode 50,000 miles around the country and got his life together in all these towns, and and then he got remarried.
01:20:30.479 --> 01:20:31.439
Yeah, it's it's a number of things.
01:20:31.600 --> 01:20:32.399
Yeah, so that's okay.
01:20:32.479 --> 01:20:34.319
You'll have to send me the the those titles too.
01:20:34.960 --> 01:20:46.560
Ghost Rider is cool because he was started with such heartache and then decided to get on this motorcycle and go across, you know, and uh he's a genius percussionist.
01:20:47.119 --> 01:20:47.760
Unfortunately, yeah.
01:20:47.920 --> 01:20:52.239
Um, so it's it it I think that was you were really moved by that book.
01:20:52.479 --> 01:20:53.520
That sounds like a good one.
01:20:53.680 --> 01:20:53.920
Hmm.
01:20:54.079 --> 01:20:55.199
A little bit of everything, right?
01:20:55.279 --> 01:20:56.880
Like a little sorrow, a little joy.
01:20:57.039 --> 01:20:59.920
And uh Tim, the um what was I gonna say?
01:21:00.079 --> 01:21:00.880
Andy Chesney.
01:21:00.960 --> 01:21:01.760
No, not yes, no.
01:21:02.319 --> 01:21:05.680
Andy Chesney, he I went to high school with Andy Chesney, Kenny Chesney.
01:21:06.000 --> 01:21:13.680
Um, he wrote No Shoes, No Shirt, No Problem, about um uh an island called Yost Van Dyke in the British Virgin Islands.
01:21:13.760 --> 01:21:16.319
I went there a long time ago, right after I graduated from college.
01:21:16.560 --> 01:21:17.680
No, he didn't write it about there.
01:21:17.760 --> 01:21:19.600
That was where he filmed the music video.
01:21:19.760 --> 01:21:22.399
And uh my friends and I thought that was very cool when we were there.
01:21:22.560 --> 01:21:24.159
We didn't see him, but he was there.
01:21:24.640 --> 01:21:25.119
Yes.
01:21:25.279 --> 01:21:26.479
Um, so yeah.
01:21:26.640 --> 01:21:31.199
Uh all right, last one favorite restaurant, not the golf course.
01:21:32.399 --> 01:21:36.000
Favorite restaurant, or favorite kind of food to go out to eat.
01:21:36.079 --> 01:21:38.560
Like if you like Italian, if you you know, either one.
01:21:39.119 --> 01:21:43.119
Do you want what like local or or if just favorite cuisine?
01:21:43.199 --> 01:21:43.760
What do you like?
01:21:43.840 --> 01:21:47.039
Or you know, I'm a I'm a big Italian guy.
01:21:47.279 --> 01:21:49.680
He loves Italian, Tim loves Italian, yeah.
01:21:50.000 --> 01:21:56.800
But I love a good steak, but I don't eat steaks for when I do, I'd love to go to a you know, great, great steakhouse and but yeah, you love it.
01:21:58.079 --> 01:21:59.840
You love Italian, I rarely eat steaks.
01:22:00.079 --> 01:22:06.560
I if I if I'll go to have a steak if it's someone else is paying for it because anyone's good to know if you're gonna take Tim out for dinner.
01:22:06.880 --> 01:22:07.840
Steaks for$75.
01:22:08.079 --> 01:22:09.840
I'm like, I'm not paying$75 for a steak.
01:22:09.920 --> 01:22:10.880
I'd rather go get to it.
01:22:10.960 --> 01:22:13.760
So yeah, that's go buy it at the store and make it it for yourself at home.
01:22:14.000 --> 01:22:20.000
Yeah, he Tim loves Italian, he loves barbecue, you love like big soul food.
01:22:20.159 --> 01:22:23.760
He's he's mac and cheese, maybe a little something, right?
01:22:24.000 --> 01:22:36.720
Yeah, I I'm more of like uh I don't know, like a quaint, like French dish, you know, like with a grilled halibut on a on a puree of something like you know, with the like a little artisticky, yeah, yeah.
01:22:37.039 --> 01:22:39.359
Because if you're not cooking it, it might as well be beautiful, yeah.
01:22:40.319 --> 01:22:43.439
I'm a fancy restaurant type of beauty, you know, lovely.
01:22:43.600 --> 01:22:44.239
What do we like?
01:22:44.319 --> 01:22:48.399
We love to go to like like uh the original Spence in in West Chester.
01:22:48.640 --> 01:22:49.760
Oh, in Westchester, yes.
01:22:49.840 --> 01:22:51.199
I've never been there, but people talk about it.
01:22:57.039 --> 01:22:59.600
How about um uh lemon cello in Westchester?
01:22:59.920 --> 01:23:01.760
Yes, lemoncello were there a lot.
01:23:01.920 --> 01:23:05.119
Tim, yeah, Tim likes that more than I do.
01:23:05.359 --> 01:23:05.600
Okay.
01:23:06.079 --> 01:23:07.439
We love the general worn in.
01:23:07.520 --> 01:23:13.359
Yes, yes, I definitely like fancy dining, um, for sure.
01:23:13.680 --> 01:23:18.239
Well, and there's a lot around here, so you can and in Philadelphia too, you can find a lot of really great restaurants.
01:23:18.479 --> 01:23:19.359
We'll go out fancy.
01:23:19.439 --> 01:23:20.640
I don't know about fancy, yeah.
01:23:20.720 --> 01:23:23.039
But we'll go out classy, shall we say classy?
01:23:23.279 --> 01:23:25.039
Yeah, we'll go out in Westchester, yeah.
01:23:25.119 --> 01:23:26.079
But I wouldn't say fancy.
01:23:26.560 --> 01:23:29.119
Have you done um have you been to Taco Mar in Melbourne yet?
01:23:29.199 --> 01:23:32.479
It's Mexican, but it's like yeah, homemade and fresh.
01:23:32.560 --> 01:23:33.039
It's really good.
01:23:33.439 --> 01:23:36.319
Is that the one over by um it was in the diner?
01:23:36.399 --> 01:23:38.399
It was the little diner on Route 30.
01:23:38.720 --> 01:23:39.199
Got you.
01:23:39.279 --> 01:23:40.479
Uh it's really good.
01:23:40.880 --> 01:23:43.600
You've got if you like like Mexican food, you should go there.
01:23:44.399 --> 01:23:45.920
Yeah, it's another one for you.
01:23:46.159 --> 01:23:47.119
Um, okay.
01:23:47.279 --> 01:23:57.840
Well, Tim and Tolly, thank you so much for joining me today and talking about uh parenting and you know what you would have done differently, what you did well, your traditions, your dancing.
01:23:58.000 --> 01:24:05.439
And thank you for reminding us that life does not have to be perfect or fancy to be meaningful and that you are just regular people enjoying life.
01:24:05.600 --> 01:24:11.760
Uh sometimes all it takes is a little music, a willing dance partner, and the courage to keep moving through every season together.
01:24:12.000 --> 01:24:19.840
If you enjoyed today's episode, oh, tell me you are, I know Tim Talk Sherry on mostly TikTok and Instagram, correct?
01:24:20.079 --> 01:24:21.600
Yeah, Instagram and TikTok.
01:24:21.760 --> 01:24:22.000
Yeah.
01:24:22.720 --> 01:24:26.960
We don't do anything on Facebook because X also it's on X, but no one looks at it.
01:24:27.119 --> 01:24:28.319
It's on X, as everyone looks.
01:24:28.560 --> 01:24:30.399
It's and write Facebooks for old people.
01:24:30.479 --> 01:24:32.560
That's what I hear because I'm still on Facebook.
01:24:32.720 --> 01:24:35.279
So yeah, we don't really post it.
01:24:35.359 --> 01:24:38.479
Yeah, it's it's primarily in real tick.
01:24:38.640 --> 01:24:40.399
Uh yeah, absolutely Instagram and TikTok.
01:24:40.720 --> 01:24:42.479
Instagram and TikTok, Tim Tac Sherry.
01:24:42.560 --> 01:24:42.880
Got it.
01:24:42.960 --> 01:24:44.399
And again, I'll link it.
01:24:44.479 --> 01:24:47.119
I'll we'll probably be in do some posts together and stuff.
01:24:47.199 --> 01:24:53.359
So people, if they're not already following you, which many, many, many people are, they can follow you after they listen to this.
01:24:53.600 --> 01:24:57.439
And funky funky fresh, funky fresh danceparty.com.
01:24:57.680 --> 01:24:59.279
Okay, we will add that as well.
01:24:59.439 --> 01:25:05.520
Okay, yeah, that's gonna have all the information about the the day the dance parties across the country.
01:25:05.680 --> 01:25:07.920
And when is that big announcement coming of all the police?
01:25:08.159 --> 01:25:10.560
Uh we're hoping this week, but probably early next week.
01:25:11.119 --> 01:25:14.239
Oh, so probably by the time this episode publishes, it'll already be out.
01:25:14.479 --> 01:25:15.359
Which is when?
01:25:15.760 --> 01:25:18.000
Um, either next Tuesday or the Tuesday after.
01:25:18.239 --> 01:25:18.560
We'll see.
01:25:18.720 --> 01:25:21.039
Yeah, I'll keep you around that day.
01:25:21.199 --> 01:25:23.119
Yeah, I I won't be the one to break the news.
01:25:23.199 --> 01:25:24.000
I'll let you do that.
01:25:25.199 --> 01:25:32.720
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01:25:32.800 --> 01:25:38.000
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01:25:38.159 --> 01:25:42.479
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01:25:42.640 --> 01:25:46.079
Tim and Tolly, thanks again so much for being here and chatting with me.
01:25:46.399 --> 01:25:46.960
Your pleasure.
01:25:47.119 --> 01:25:47.520
You're welcome.
01:25:47.760 --> 01:25:48.079
So awesome.
01:25:48.720 --> 01:25:49.520
Nice to be here.
01:25:49.760 --> 01:25:50.159
Great.