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That was last week.
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Today, however, I want to talk to you about prayer.
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I want to talk to you about prayer.
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Prayer is a beautiful, powerful, perplexing, and mysterious thing.
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As I was preparing, I thought, in my life, I have experienced at times almost instantaneous and direct specific answers to prayer.
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I'll tell you one uh true story.
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A number of weeks ago at Harbor, I woke up on a Sunday morning to find a text from my mother.
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And the text just said, I'm really praying that your church service is on fire today.
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What a wonderful thing to have somebody praying that for you.
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And later that afternoon, I was sent this photograph.
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Um, and I thought, be very, very careful what you pray for.
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Uh I have also experienced silence and disappointment at times with prayer to the point of almost giving up.
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I've gone weeks without praying at all, and other times I've prayed my guts out.
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Sometimes in prayer I have felt like I was speaking to a God who was more real than you are this morning.
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And other times I feel like I've been talking to the wall or to myself.
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Despite the many complexities that there are with prayer, prayer seems to be hardwired into human nature.
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Church attendance in the United Kingdom varies uh somewhere between 3 and 6%, depending on what city of the UK you live in.
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In Leeds, uh, which seems to be uh at the bottom of the league table, um, where they belong, I suppose.
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Um Leeds would see about 3% church attendance, and in a slightly more culturally religious city, like say Belfast or Durham, maybe, um, church attendance is closer to six or seven percent.
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And yet the sort of uh most reputable pieces of research would say that over half of the UK population say they pray.
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The last piece of research that was done by Evangelical Alliance found that 51% of the general population pray.
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Um, even atheists have been known to sneak behind the bike shed and uh pray.
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Curiosity about spirituality seems to be growing in this moment in the UK.
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And just by way of interest, the Bible explains why prayer is so popular.
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It's not actually a mystery.
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Uh, in Romans 1, um Paul tells us that creation reveals the invisible qualities of God, that the eternal power and divine nature of God can be
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seen and understood, even by people who have never heard the gospel, never set foot in church, have no background of faith.
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Pete Gregg put this really well when he said, Nobody watches the northern lights and thinks, my goodness, I really am incredible.
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Um I remember discovering that on San Antonio Beach in Ibiza, at sort of the epicenter of human hedonism, every night a huge crowd gathers to applaud the sunset.
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And they do that on San Antonio Beach because the eternal power and divine nature of God can be seen and understood by what he has made, even if we don't have language and categories for that.
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So that's the first thing I think people have a some subconscious knowledge of.
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And then secondly, we are very aware as human beings that we are fragile and we are limited.
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The word prayer comes from the Latin precari, from which we also get the English word precarious.
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We pray because life is precarious.
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And you live long enough, uh, it doesn't take very long to discover just how fragile and limited we are.
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And I suppose when you bring those two things together, the fragility of human life, the unpredictability of human life, and the inner knowledge that there probably is something out there, it produces everything from manifestation to meditation to prayer.
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A friend of ours recently texted Naomi when we were going through a hard time and said, I'm praying for you in my own way.
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And um, I suppose what she meant by that was probably some kind of manifestation.
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They're not all the same, though.
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Manifestation is a form of prayer to the universe.
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Uh, the problem with the universe is that it's not a person, it's created matter.
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The universe doesn't think about you, it doesn't know you, and it certainly doesn't love you.
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Uh, Christian prayer is a very specific kind of relationship, and I like how Nikki Gumbel expresses this.
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Well, Nikki Gumbel didn't, yeah, I suppose, yeah, he expresses it.
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He didn't um, in any sense, discover this, but um, Christian prayer is prayer to the Father through Jesus by the Holy Spirit.
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Christian prayer is a form of participation in the life of the Trinitarian God.
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It is the relational experience of Christian faith to know someone in Hebrew tradition is to know them experientially, not just intellectually.
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Prayer is the medium of a lifetime of knowing God, not just about God.
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Feel a little bit inadequate, both personally and pastorally, before a subject that you could preach on for years if we wanted to.
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And I thought what we could do this morning is we could learn from Jesus about prayer and um we could sort of dive into the scriptures where Jesus responds very specifically to a request for a lesson on prayer.
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And so this is from Luke chapter 11.
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If you're able and willing to, could we stand together just for a moment and the uh the scripture will be on screen?
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So we stand together just out of reverence for the only part of today's talk that will be perfect.
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Uh, this is Luke chapter 11.
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One day Jesus was praying in a certain place.
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When he finished, one of the disciples said to him, Lord, teach us to pray, just as John taught his disciples.
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He said to them, When you pray, say, Father, hallowed be your name, your kingdom come.
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Give us each day our daily bread, and forgive us our sins, for we also forgive everyone who sins against us, and lead us not into temptation.
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Then Jesus said to them, Suppose you have a friend and you go to him at midnight and say, Friend, lend me three loaves of bread.
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A friend of mine on a journey has come to me, and I have no food to offer him.
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And suppose the one inside answers, Oh, don't bother me, the door is locked, my children and I are in bed, I can't get up and give you anything.
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I tell you, even though he will not get up and give you the bread because of friendship, yet because of your shameless audacity, he will surely get up and give you as much as you need.
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So I say to you, Ask and it will be given to you.
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Seek and you will find, knock, and the door will be opened to you.
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For everyone who asks receives.
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The one who seeks finds, and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.
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In Jesus' name.
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Amen.
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Grab a seat.
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I want to share with you today eight ways to learn from Jesus on prayer.
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So if you're taking notes, get ready.
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Eight ways.
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Number one, it's good to have a place.
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Jesus was praying in a certain place.
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He also had specific times.
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It is good to have a time and a place.
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And if you were struggling for somewhere to go, Jesus actually has a suggestion.
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Jesus said, Why don't you go into your room and close the door behind you?
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And what he means by that is prayer happens best somewhere where we aren't tempted to perform, where we can just be ourselves.
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And that could be a car, it could be somewhere that you walk, it could be a chair that you sit in.
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But Jesus was praying in a certain place.
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Something I've always been fascinated by is when the Bible seems to correlate really beautifully with forms of modern psychology, with stuff that uh psychologists and sociologists and different forms of human wisdom are sort of engaging with and writing about today.
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One of the most popular books over the last sort of 10 years is a book called Atomic Habits by a guy called James Clear.
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James Clear basically teaches people how to hack into their own daily routines and rhythms in order to improve their habits.
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And he makes this incredibly valuable point, I think, for Christian spirituality, although he didn't know that that's what he was teaching on.
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And he says, you know, very often in life, when you're trying to do some kind of habit formation, you don't lack motivation.
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You don't, you think you do, and you beat yourself up about that, but you don't lack motivation.
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What you lack is clarity.
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You need a time and a place.
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Take a couple of things in your everyday life that happen without thinking.
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Maybe you drive to work every day because you have to.
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If you didn't drive to work, you'd be in trouble.
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And on your drive to work, you might listen for five or ten minutes to an audio Bible.
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And then you could decide before I get out of the car every day, I park the car.
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And when I park the car, I go into work.
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And what I'm going to do is I'm going to take a moment and I'm going to pray just for a few minutes before I head into work.
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All of a sudden, when you have that kind of clarity, it becomes easier to engage in a particular place and time.
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Prayer does involve some discipline, which is challenging for brains that have been trained for distraction and busyness, but God has given us a spirit of power, love, and self-discipline.
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We can do hard things.
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What happens over time when you have a specific place to pray is that certain places become thin.
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And if you haven't heard that expression before, Celtic spirituality had this wonderful concept at the heart of it of a thin place.
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A thin place is somewhere where it becomes easier and easier to recognize the presence of God.
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And what I found as I walk the dog every day around our neighborhood and use that time and that specific place to pray is that I am becoming more aware of God's presence in that routine week by week.
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Number one, Jesus tells us it's good to have a place.
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Number two, it's normal to feel inadequate.
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Teach us to pray.
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No one asks for teaching or advice because they have it sorted.
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The disciples have asked for teaching or advice because they feel a lack, they feel inadequate.
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Should note, of course, that it's not the first time that the disciples have ever prayed.
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They've been doing it their whole lives.
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They are supposed experts, but they watched Jesus doing it.
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And there was something about his relationship with the Father, something about his friendship with the Father and the intimacy that they shared that they really, really wanted.
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When this the disciples asked teach us to pray, what they're really asking is, would you teach us to pray like you do, Jesus?
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I suppose on that point, I really just want to say if you feel like you've got a lot to learn about prayer, if you suspect that there's a lot more to experience and you feel like you could spend the rest of your life learning, then you are in the company of the apostolic giants of the early church.
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Final thing when the disciples ask for a lesson on prayer, Jesus doesn't in any sense condemn them.
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He helps.
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He helps.
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Number three, you learn to pray by praying.
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As he begins to teach on the subject of prayer, Jesus prays.
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He says, say this.
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He doesn't start with a theory, he starts with practice.
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One of the most famous statements on prayer ever made was from a guy called Dom John Chapman, and he said, The best advice I can give you is pray as you can, not as you can't.
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There are many different forms of prayer that I feel inadequate with, I'm not quite sure how to do it, I don't feel like an expert, and yet he would say, Johnny, just begin to pray as you can.
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Sometimes if you grow up in church, and some of us in the room have had a really thorough Sunday school education, which is maybe in some ways a blessing and a curse, but um, a thorough Sunday
school education can teach you a certain syntax and tone and way of praying that doesn't feel or sound very natural.
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I really like in Bruce Almighty when uh Bruce meets God for the first time and he's talking about prayer, and and God says to Bruce, right, Bruce, just just go ahead, just give it a try, just just pray something, you know.
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And and Bruce says, uh, Lord, feed the hungry and bring peace to all mankind, to which um Morgan Freeman says, Bruce, you sound like a Miss America speech.
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Um what do you actually care about, Bruce?
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And I think it's true of us as well.
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Sometimes we have learned a language and a tone and a syntax that maybe isn't all that helpful.
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And and and Jesus teaches prayer by simply praying, by starting.
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And he says, say this.
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In other words, the beginning of prayer is verbal.
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Uh, we we talk to him.
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If you're not sure what to say, you could pray scripture back to God.
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I think there are forms of prayer that are quiet or even silent that have become re-popularized in in recent times, and people have written a lot and said a lot about forms of Christian meditation and silence.
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But part of the reason that Naomi and I are comfortable sometimes with silence in our relationship is because that has been built on 20 years of talking to each other.
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Um, Jesus says prayer begins with words and it begins by just praying.
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Don't use a lot of words, don't perform, just be yourself and start.
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Number four, prayer is relational, not transactional.
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Our father.
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Our father.
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Prayer is not a note in a bottle to whatever gods may be.
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I love what Edmund Clownie, the American theologian, said about this.
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He said, we need to know not so much the art of prayer, but the God of prayer.
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The story of Scripture is of a God who longs to be close, who walked with Adam and Eve in the garden.
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And then the story of the Torah, the first five books of the Bible, are really about human beings learning to cope with the closeness of God, a God who longs to be close to them and yet who often finds human rebellion and sin and the ways that we sort of vandalize good things getting in the way.
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The law, if you like, is the story of human beings learning to be close with God.
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And the prophets are really the story of a series of warnings about what will happen if the
people of God don't lay down the patterns of idolatry and injustice in their community.
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And um in Ezekiel 10, we're told in the Old Testament that the glory of God, the closeness of God, departs for a season from the people of God, and yet the story culminates in the arrival of Jesus.
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And um John's gospel puts this really beautifully.
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He says, The word became flesh, like the glory of God, put on flesh and tabernacled, like came and was present and close with us, and we have seen what?
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We have seen his glory.
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Prayer is about a relationship with a God who longs to be close to you and I.
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And um, you know, the very last thing that I want to do today on any given week at Harbour, I'm so anxious about this at times, and you probably don't see it, but it's there.
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I I'm anxious about giving you one more thing for your to-do list because you're really, really good people and your lives are full, and so is mine.
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And our to-do lists are often oppressive and heavy.
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And I don't want to give you one more thing on your to-do lists, but prayer is not a thing to do, it is someone to be with.
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Um, and and to be with God is to be in the presence of pure love.
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We will always, as human beings, we will always look for ultimate validation and affirmation in life in a sideways direction until we learn in prayer to remember and to know where that validation and affirmation comes from.
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Tim Keller, we should bring Tim Keller into this before it's too late.
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He said the Father is always available to his children and never too preoccupied to hear what they have to say.
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We are not subjects, we are children.
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That's halfway.
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You doing okay?
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He's still there.
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Number five, we're learning from Jesus about prayer.
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Number five, the first reward is perspective.
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Jesus begins praying by acknowledging the name, the kingdom, and the will of God.
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And if he could put it another way, I think Jesus would say, You have to remember in prayer that life is not all about you.
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Our culture is architectured in such a way as to persuade us that we are indeed at the center of the universe, that we have to run the universe, that we can control outcomes, that we can carry the whole weight of the world.
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And Jesus invites you and I today to uh journey into a place in prayer where we elevate our perspective above those day-by-day concerns and recognize that we have been we have been pulled by grace into a story that is much bigger than ourselves.
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And that the name of God, the kingdom of God, and and the will of God is primary.
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Sometimes prepositions in prayer make all the difference.
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Kevin DeYoung said his four-year-old son told him once at bedtime, I can't go to bed yet, Dad, because nobody has prayed to me.
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Um prayer begins with perspective.
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It begins with taking our place and giving God his place.
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And it is a wonderful relief.
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A wonderful relief.
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Proverbs 1 says, the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom.
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We we begin to live more skillfully, we begin to live in line with reality, we begin to live in the presence of God when we take our place and give him his.
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His shoulders are bigger than ours.
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I love what it says in in Philippians about this.
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It says, Don't be anxious about anything, don't allow anxiety to dominate your life, but come before a God who has broader shoulders and bigger vision, and with thanksgiving, present to him everything that you need.
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And that's number six be honest about what you need.
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Jesus invites us to pray for strength, grace, and help.
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That is really the culmination of the Lord's prayer.
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Honesty and need are welcomed.
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There's an old hymn that often moves me quite deeply.
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And I'm not really a crier.
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I don't cry easily, but there's an old hymn that says, Oh, what peace we often forfeit, and oh, what needless pain we bear, all because we do not carry everything to God in prayer.
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And I think it, I think it moves me because I know it describes my life with diagnostic accuracy.
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Like so much of the anxiety and the pain and the grief and the the heaviness that I carry around on my shoulders is is completely unnecessary because I could be bringing it to God and um and He could carry it in a way that I never will be able to.
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And Jesus invites us to bring our need before God in prayer.
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I wonder how much you're carrying around unnecessarily.
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The Bible is more honest about prayer than church.
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Um, in church, prayers tend to be very polished, they tend to be a bit strange, and they tend to be very formal.
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The Bible is not like that at all.
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Job uh prayed,
Lord, it would have been better if I had never been born.
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Jeremiah prayed, Lord, I wish you would let me die.
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You deceived me, and I have been deceived.
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The Psalms are spirituality in every key.
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And even Jesus asked the Father, Why have you abandoned me?
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Um, I think what this is saying, or what we can learn from that, is that your prayer life is more likely to die from politeness than it is from honesty.
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Jesus said, if you need grace, just come and get it.
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If you need strength, if you need help with temptation, if you need help for circumstances in the workplace, come and ask for it.
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I often think that sort of um that middle road of processing our feelings in prayer is the antidote to a generational difference that I sort of observe.
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Now, I I don't really love when people like people sort of fetishize like generational difference a little bit.
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Like everything at the minute is about analysing what's wrong with Gen Z, right?
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I think Gen Z are great.
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Um I consider myself to be one.
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Um, but there's a generational difference that I notice in in Northern Ireland around how we process feelings.
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And it starts with like, I'm gonna I have to generalize here.
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I I don't want anyone to go home feeling attacked.
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Right.
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But there's an older generation in in Northern Ireland who are pretty stoic.
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And you know, it's understandable because there was a generation in Northern Ireland that lived through two world wars, the Titanic sank, and then the troubles happened.
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And it makes sense actually that when you endure that kind of trauma, you become quite stoic and you don't maybe find it easy to name or express or process emotion.
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Someone once did a PhD study on a generation in Northern Ireland and how they process emotion.
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And their conclusion on their study was that essentially there are there's a whole generation living here for whom okay and pissed off are the only two emotions that they know how to like name.
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So those are the only two settings in their in their life, right?
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And then I look at certain people and I'm like, hmm.
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Um the opposite of that, where feelings are just continually suppressed, and you end up with only two settings that you can actually name or live with, is maybe the scenario you see unfolding in younger generations where feelings have
become completely dominant in terms of how they live and experience life.
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And you know what the middle road is?
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The middle road is the book of Psalms.
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It's the book of Psalms where God invites us to be honest about how we feel, to feel what we feel, to lean into our emotional life.
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God created us with an emotional life, but to process that emotional life in prayer.
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And in prayer to be to be finding ourselves actually elevated out of the subjectivity of feelings into the objectivity of God's truth and presence in our lives.
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The Bible would be incredibly honest about prayer in a way that church is not, and need is welcomed and invited.
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Feelings are welcomed and invited.
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Groaning and crying are an acceptable form of prayer.
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Tudogo, number seven, it makes a difference.
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Don't know if you've ever noticed this, but um, sometimes when we say the Lord's Prayer, we haven't reached the end of the little lesson that Jesus teaches.
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He goes on to tell a story about two friends.
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Uh, and in another version of the story, it's about a persistent widow.
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Um, in this version in Luke 11, he talks about two friends.
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One friend has an unexpected guest arrive in the middle of the night, finds he has nothing to offer his guest.
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Hospitality in this culture is everything.
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And he and he goes around to see his neighbor and pleads for a loaf of bread.
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Now, I don't know if you've ever been disturbed at midnight by somebody knocking on the door.
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If you're a parent of teenagers, that might happen from time to time.
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But um, Jesus basically tells this story where, with a little bit of persistence in asking, the request makes a tangible difference.
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And he goes on to contrast that then, that reluctance of this friend who doesn't want to get up at midnight, who doesn't want to hand over a loaf of bread with the generosity of God the Father, and says, like, God the Father is not like this, he's not reluctant, he's not half asleep, he's actually so like ready to respond to what you are asking for in prayer.
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Prayers make a difference.
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I the NIV translates um what Jesus commends in the passage as shameless audacity.
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Here's a question: When was the last time in prayer that you asked for something with shameless audacity?
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You're more likely to insult God with the smallness of your request than the boldness of your faith.
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Blaise Pascal said God instituted prayer to afford his creatures the dignity of causality.
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People get healed when we pray, resources get released for the kingdom of God when we pray.
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Circumstances change when we pray.
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Coincidences happen when we pray, but God doesn't answer the prayers we haven't prayed.
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And at this point, I would like to tell you my favorite story about coincidences happening when you pray.
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And I've stolen it from an evangelist called J.
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John.
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J.
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John tells the story of a pastor who bought a little kitten as a family pet and brought the kitten home for his children.
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And they were all enjoying that little honeymoon phase of having a new pet in the house.
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And a few days after they brought the pet home, the poor animal got stuck up a tree.
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And the fire service were called and they said, Look, we don't really do the cats thing anymore.
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You're gonna have to solve this problem yourself.
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And uh the pastor said, Right, look, I've spent my life fixing problems for other people.
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Bring me a rope.
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Okay, so he went and he found a rope and he tied it to the back of his car.
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And he said, Just tie the other end of the rope to the tree, to the branch that that poor cat is stuck on, and tie that into my car.
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And he slowly began to reverse down the street.
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And as he reversed down the street, this cat that was like 35 feet in the air was like slowly, you know, the branch was kind of like bending and like very, very slowly was coming down to a point where they could almost reach out and grab the cat.
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And the poor guy's car had smoke coming out the back of it, and he was like revving it like mad, desperately trying to pull this little cat down.
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And and just as they were at the point of being able to reach out and grab it, the branch snapped, right?
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And the cat just disappears off into orbit.
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And the you know, the kids, it's probably the most traumatic thing they've ever seen and experienced, and the whole family are devastated.
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And it takes them weeks to get over this horrific accident.
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Anyway, a few weeks later, the pastor goes round to visit one of his parishioners, and as he walks into their hallway and is greeted by this parishioner, he notices a cat in the hallway that
looks remarkably similar to the one that he watched disappearing off into orbit.
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And so he says to them, That's a lovely cat you've got there.
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You know, just not accusatory, but just enough to ask the question.
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And um, and and the parishioner says to him, Pastor, you're not gonna believe this.
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Our kids were nagging for years about getting a cat, right?
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Doing our heads in, please, please, please, please.
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And I told them over and over and over and over again they couldn't have a cat, they couldn't have a cat.
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And actually, a few weeks ago, I my temper finally snapped.
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And one of my kids said to me, 'Can we dad, can we please have a cat?' And I said to him, I'll tell you what to do.
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Why don't you go up into your room, close the door behind you, get down on your knees, and ask Jesus?
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Why don't you ask Jesus very nicely if you can have a cat?
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And then, Pastor, you are not gonna believe what happened next.
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All that just to say, when we pray, coincidences happen.
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Prayer makes a difference.
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Number eight, and finally, God collects prayers.
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Uh, the very last line then of Jesus' piece of teaching on prayer, uh, he says, those who ask will receive, and those who seek will find, and those who knock will find that the door is opened for them.
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And um, if I was to be honest with you for a moment, I would say there are a number of passages in the Bible with which I have a lot of uh trouble um that create a lot of tension in my faith, both intellectually and um like on a heart level.
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And this is probably uh one of the the top three or four uh because Jesus makes an outrageous sort of statement here.
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He says, If you if you ask and if you seek and if you knock, you will find an answer to your prayers.
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And if you've ever tried praying, you will know that sometimes prayers are not answered.
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And so we're left with this tension in the text, and we're left with this conundrum in terms of like probably up until this point, I can swallow really well everything that Jesus wants to teach us about prayer.
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And then at this point, I find myself sitting with the text, looking at it, going, really, like there just seems to be such a gap between the scripture and my lived experience of faith.
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And I've been doing this thing for a little while.
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How do we deal with that?
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The verbs in the passage are in the present continuous Greek tense, which is kind of a go-on asking and go on seeking and go on knocking kind of invitation.
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Maybe Jesus is talking about a whole lifetime's worth of asking, seeking, and knocking, and yet even then sometimes prayers don't get answered.
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And I suppose I wanted to share with you today that probably the two biggest prayers in our life are sitting currently without an answer.
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The two biggest prayers that we are bringing before Jesus are um, first of all, for a friend who needs healing.
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Uh, we have a friend journeying with cancer over the last three years, still uh very young, young family, and it has broken our hearts.
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And our second biggest prayer is um for our own family.
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Naomi and I have probably wanted to start a family for the last four years or so, and to this point, it's not a prayer that God has answered, and we're left listening to the words of Jesus.
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Ask and seek and knock, and you will find, and the door will be opened, and you will receive.
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How do we cope with that?
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I think that there is part of an answer.
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Some of this aspect of faith is incredibly mysterious and difficult, but there's part of an answer at the end of the narrative of all scripture.
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Because at the end of the story in Revelation 21, we find that God is a collector.
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I don't know if there's anything in your life you like collecting.
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I collect football stickers.
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Turns out God is a collector of prayers.
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Because at the culmination of all things, we see the entire throne room of heaven gathered before Jesus.
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Jesus is the center of attention and the object of worship.
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And all tribes and tongues are represented before him.
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And in that moment, this beautiful bowl of incense is brought out as an act of worship before Jesus.
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And this bowl of incense is going to be used in some illustrative and creative way to bring about the redemption of all things and the new creation.
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And we're told in Revelation that in that bowl of incense, he has collected the prayers of the saints.
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And so, not one prayer that you pray will be wasted ultimately.
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I love the way Tyler Staten puts this.
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He says, the new creation, the new heavens and the new earth, they are seeded by prayer and they are watered by tears.
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This life is our one opportunity to worship Jesus through unanswered prayer and broken hearts, because on the other side of a new creation, that opportunity will be gone.
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There are prayers that you have forgotten you ever prayed, that are still held before God.