Fuld transskription af A Warrior Never Eats the Last Sandwich

00:02:23.039 --> 00:02:31.680 So uh, so I eat my sandwich, the box you can see in the box there's two sandwiches left. 00:02:32.560 --> 00:02:33.520 Little pieces. 00:02:34.879 --> 00:02:40.719 And this guy sitting next to me, he's like, You wanna let's let's take those two little pieces of sandwich. 00:02:41.039 --> 00:02:42.240 I'll show let's share them. 00:02:43.520 --> 00:02:49.199 And I think to myself, I look around and I'm like, God, there must be like 60 other soldiers here. 00:02:51.120 --> 00:02:53.919 Am I the most hungry guy here? 00:02:55.199 --> 00:02:59.120 And then I thought, you know, there's like 60 guys here. 00:02:59.520 --> 00:03:19.360 Are all of them here, or is somebody stuck like maybe some officer is talking to one guy, or maybe somebody was finishing something over here, or maybe those two sandwiches are for two guys who didn't make it here yet, and they're gonna get here, and if I eat that last half a sandwich, then they don't get to eat. 00:03:19.599 --> 00:03:21.199 So this is what's going through my mind, right? 00:03:21.280 --> 00:03:25.199 So I turned to the guy, I'm like, nah, no, man, that's uh uh we we should leave him. 00:03:26.240 --> 00:03:32.080 And you can see like the guy's kinda uncomfortable, but I don't think he wanted to be the only guy to to eat the last sandwich. 00:03:32.159 --> 00:03:34.800 So he was like, uh gets up and walks away. 00:03:35.039 --> 00:03:37.039 So there's another guy sitting there. 00:03:38.000 --> 00:03:44.240 He kind of leans over and he says, he's like, Man, who is that guy? 00:03:45.039 --> 00:03:48.960 I knew the guy from civilian life, actually. 00:03:49.199 --> 00:03:50.159 I was like, why? 00:03:50.879 --> 00:03:51.759 He's so and so. 00:03:52.000 --> 00:03:53.919 He's like, he never finished the training, did he? 00:03:54.080 --> 00:03:55.280 He didn't get tabbed, right? 00:03:55.360 --> 00:03:58.400 Like, when you finish your training, you're a warrior in the unit. 00:03:58.560 --> 00:03:59.840 He's like, he's not a warrior. 00:04:00.240 --> 00:04:01.039 That's what he said to me. 00:04:01.120 --> 00:04:02.560 He's like, that's not a warrior. 00:04:03.360 --> 00:04:04.400 And I was like, what do you mean? 00:04:04.639 --> 00:04:08.400 Turns out that I knew that the guy had fallen out of the training. 00:04:08.719 --> 00:04:12.240 He had not he'd not finished the the training. 00:04:13.280 --> 00:04:16.000 Um so I was like, Well, yeah, that's actually true. 00:04:16.079 --> 00:04:16.879 How did you know that? 00:04:17.279 --> 00:04:22.560 He goes, Because a warrior would never eat the last sandwich. 00:04:24.319 --> 00:04:25.680 And that stuck with me. 00:04:26.399 --> 00:04:32.959 Because I didn't even realize that my feeling of like, no, I couldn't possibly be the most hungry guy here. 00:04:33.600 --> 00:04:43.120 But it stuck with me because I I realized that there are certain kinds of people in the world and that f again, it go maybe goes back to self-discipline. 00:04:43.199 --> 00:04:46.720 It goes back to thinking about others as well as yourself. 00:04:46.879 --> 00:04:48.639 Like you have to take care of yourself in this world. 00:04:48.879 --> 00:04:51.600 Who else is gonna take care of you if you don't take care of yourself? 00:04:51.920 --> 00:04:57.279 But if you only take care of yourself, then what kind of a person are you? 00:04:57.519 --> 00:05:00.639 As a man much greater than me has said before. 00:05:00.959 --> 00:05:10.240 So so the people I think who we want to be around are people who would never eat the last sandwich. 00:05:12.160 --> 00:05:16.959 That's a lesson I try to teach all of our guys, and definitely a lesson that I try to teach my children. 00:05:17.199 --> 00:05:19.120 Well, yeah, since we're on the topic of food. 00:05:19.439 --> 00:05:19.759 Sure. 00:05:20.000 --> 00:05:25.199 Um, so it reminds me of another experience that I had that again seems silly. 00:05:25.360 --> 00:05:27.920 Uh maybe it's just because I'm a philosopher at heart. 00:05:29.680 --> 00:05:30.240 Right. 00:05:31.120 --> 00:05:32.319 So here we are. 00:05:32.480 --> 00:05:36.800 Me and my colonel traveled the world together many times. 00:05:37.680 --> 00:05:43.680 Um we ended up in London at one point, and I didn't used to dress like this ever. 00:05:43.759 --> 00:05:43.839 Yeah. 00:05:44.079 --> 00:05:46.800 Except for, you know, I had like a suit that didn't fit me right. 00:05:46.959 --> 00:05:53.759 So here I was in my uh in my cheap suit that didn't fit me right for a meeting in London with these posh Brits. 00:05:54.000 --> 00:05:57.360 We're staying with this guy who uh does not have the same kind of background as us. 00:05:57.439 --> 00:05:57.759 Yeah. 00:05:58.000 --> 00:06:04.000 And so we we we didn't really get along with this guy that well, but that's a different story. 00:06:04.160 --> 00:06:06.399 So we're in his house, nice enough guy, why not? 00:06:06.639 --> 00:06:12.240 Um he opens the refrigerator, and we're my colonel and I are kind of in the other room, but we hear like crash. 00:06:12.639 --> 00:06:17.839 And we hear this guy in his British accent, he's like, Oh my god, oh my god, oh my god, oh my god. 00:06:18.160 --> 00:06:19.519 So me and my colonel come running. 00:06:19.759 --> 00:06:21.120 Running in some emergency. 00:06:21.519 --> 00:06:21.839 What is it? 00:06:21.920 --> 00:06:23.600 It's a must be an emergency. 00:06:23.839 --> 00:06:29.920 So we look, there's soup had fallen out of the refrigerator, and there was soup spilled on the floor. 00:06:30.079 --> 00:06:32.720 So this guy's like, oh my god, the soup. 00:06:33.519 --> 00:06:38.720 My colonel's like, David, it's just soup. 00:06:39.680 --> 00:06:49.199 He turns to me and he's like, he goes, You know, it is very important in this world to know the difference between soup and something serious. 00:06:53.759 --> 00:07:00.560 It leads me to think a lot about um what is the difference between something serious and

something not so serious. 00:07:00.800 --> 00:07:09.360 And I think that um the more that we can make distinctions in our lives and in our situations, the more prepared we are to be serious people. 00:07:09.680 --> 00:07:25.439 So if everywhere I go, I'm at a heightened level of readiness, and I'm at a heightened level, if everything is like the equal level of risk and the way I treat it is with an equal level of threat, how can I operate in my life like that? 00:07:25.680 --> 00:07:44.879 I mean, I think it's much better to be able to recognize that there are certain things that you go through that are more risky and certain things that are less risky, and there's certain places that innately have more risk and certain places that have less risk, and that you're able to assess your situation at all times. 00:07:45.040 --> 00:07:47.680 You're doing a field assessment all the time. 00:07:48.000 --> 00:07:51.439 Um, and and it doesn't have to just be in this industry, right? 00:07:51.519 --> 00:07:58.319 It's like, what am I going through in my life that I need to really get like hyped up about? 00:07:58.480 --> 00:08:02.560 And everything else is probably something I can be relaxed about. 00:08:02.879 --> 00:08:06.720 You know, it reminds me of uh again, going back to our kids. 00:08:07.600 --> 00:08:09.839 Our son's car breaks down on the side of the road. 00:08:09.920 --> 00:08:13.519 We get this phone call like, oh my god, my car broke down on the side, oh my god, what should I do? 00:08:13.759 --> 00:08:14.720 He's a new driver. 00:08:15.120 --> 00:08:16.480 First time car breaking down. 00:08:16.800 --> 00:08:17.439 No problem. 00:08:17.600 --> 00:08:19.199 What a great opportunity. 00:08:19.439 --> 00:08:20.000 That's right. 00:08:20.240 --> 00:08:21.839 So, what was the first thing I asked him? 00:08:22.399 --> 00:08:23.199 Tell us. 00:08:23.680 --> 00:08:25.040 Are you in danger? 00:08:26.079 --> 00:08:27.600 Is anyone bleeding? 00:08:28.399 --> 00:08:29.680 Well, no, nobody's bleeding. 00:08:29.839 --> 00:08:31.600 Okay, are you in danger of bleeding? 00:08:32.159 --> 00:08:32.960 Are you safe? 00:08:33.440 --> 00:08:34.639 Well, yeah, I'm I'm safe. 00:08:34.799 --> 00:08:35.519 Okay, great. 00:08:36.000 --> 00:08:37.440 Who else is in the car with you? 00:08:37.519 --> 00:08:38.399 Are they safe? 00:08:38.960 --> 00:08:40.159 Well, yeah, they're safe. 00:08:40.799 --> 00:08:41.120 Okay. 00:08:41.600 --> 00:08:43.440 Then you can take a deep breath. 00:08:44.879 --> 00:08:49.679 And he was like, Oh yeah, I can take a deep breath. 00:08:50.000 --> 00:08:51.279 Everything's gonna be okay. 00:08:51.440 --> 00:08:53.759 Now we can start assessing the situation from there. 00:08:53.919 --> 00:09:03.840 And so, you know, I I think about these kind of things because even though it's not an exciting, you know, shoot 'em out event, it is a mild emergency. 00:09:04.320 --> 00:09:07.120 There's there's a moment of lack of control. 00:09:07.919 --> 00:09:22.480 And so being able to exercise those muscles of that that are the principles of security allows us to be more controlled and better warriors in everything we do in our lives. 00:09:22.639 --> 00:09:26.320 I think about it as a a warrior doesn't eat the last sandwich. 00:09:26.559 --> 00:09:30.799 A warrior also is someone who doesn't freak out over little things. 00:09:31.039 --> 00:09:46.159 In fact, a warrior is someone who probably doesn't freak out over anything, because the true professional is the individual who is able to operate out of intellect even during highly emotional situations. 00:09:48.240 --> 00:09:52.720 Emotional situations are that's what's happening inside of us. 00:09:53.759 --> 00:10:01.840 And so how do we how do we take what's happening outside of us that may be chaotic and still have peace within us? 00:10:02.399 --> 00:10:04.080 And you can work quickly, right? 00:10:04.240 --> 00:10:08.240 You can work with urgency, but you don't have to have chaos within you. 00:10:08.399 --> 00:10:16.320 Certainly in this industry, there are many uh many aspects of life that I feel like add to what it is that we do in the security industry. 00:10:16.480 --> 00:10:20.240 There's also many things that we experience in our business that add to our lives. 00:10:20.399 --> 00:10:20.799 Yes. 00:10:21.120 --> 00:10:32.320 Um, everything is kind of a culmination, but certainly my military service added a lot to the way that I see the world, the way that I operate in the security field. 00:10:32.399 --> 00:10:37.600 It also adds a lot to how I operate with um giving advice to people. 00:10:37.759 --> 00:10:39.919 You know, like our own guy, we we work with people. 00:10:40.159 --> 00:10:40.480 That's right. 00:10:40.639 --> 00:10:49.120 So like we'll give advice, we're we're leading and we're leading our own personnel to be a certain kind of human being. 00:10:49.279 --> 00:10:51.600 And sometimes we have to give advice to our clients. 00:10:51.759 --> 00:10:54.480 Sometimes they do things that are maybe risky for themselves. 00:10:54.639 --> 00:11:13.519 Our values, you know, it's interesting to kind of consider where where our values come from, because usually they will have come from some sort of a uh problem or like some sort of a serious problem that we may have dealt with in the past, where we're like, oh, this is something I never want to have to deal with again. 00:11:13.600 --> 00:11:15.519 This is this is unacceptable. 00:11:15.759 --> 00:11:16.240 Yes. 00:11:16.480 --> 00:11:22.879 Um, you know, so uh so we have zero doubt as a as an one of our core values. 00:11:24.080 --> 00:11:28.480 And I would say that it comes from having experienced problems where there is a doubt. 00:11:28.639 --> 00:11:32.480 And you know, what's funny to me, uh I I was in the army, right? 00:11:32.720 --> 00:11:37.279 I spent a good amount of time dealing with um pretty significant problems. 00:11:37.679 --> 00:11:44.799 And uh part of being

in the army is, you know, anybody who's in in the military can probably identify with this. 00:11:44.960 --> 00:11:54.559 There's always those guys who are and sometimes you're that guy, who like you're looking for a way, you don't want to be called out not doing the job right or you know being a little bit lazy. 00:11:54.720 --> 00:12:06.639 But like, so you want to do whatever it takes to look like you're doing the job, but it's really it's really easy to fall into that mindset of like, why do I want to work so hard? 00:12:06.879 --> 00:12:07.440 Sure. 00:12:07.679 --> 00:12:22.240 Um so as you rise up in the ranks and you start dealing with guys who are, you know, you're now your leader in in certain scenarios, you are very keen on that because you're like, wait a second, I know exactly what's going on here. 00:12:22.399 --> 00:12:23.919 You're not doing the job right. 00:12:24.159 --> 00:12:26.159 Other people now have to carry your weight. 00:12:26.320 --> 00:12:29.039 And we're in a situation where people's lives are on the line. 00:12:29.200 --> 00:12:30.320 And and we have children. 00:12:30.480 --> 00:12:39.600 So uh, you know, it's funny to watch how our kids grow with these sorts of um, even if they don't know every story, every experience that we've had. 00:12:39.679 --> 00:12:42.879 Uh certainly those things show, I think, in the way that we treat them. 00:12:43.120 --> 00:12:46.080 And we instill that in them along the way through all these lessons. 00:12:46.399 --> 00:12:46.879 Yeah. 00:12:47.120 --> 00:12:51.279 So, you know, recently our our son was on the Appalachian Trail. 00:12:51.440 --> 00:12:51.759 Yes. 00:12:51.919 --> 00:12:54.240 He hiked for 15 days. 00:12:54.559 --> 00:12:57.279 Um, the first week, it didn't stop raining. 00:12:59.039 --> 00:13:00.799 He was soaked for days. 00:13:01.039 --> 00:13:01.200 Yep. 00:13:01.360 --> 00:13:06.720 So we get this phone call, he gets dropped off, he and his friend are walking. 00:13:06.960 --> 00:13:10.320 Um, eight hours in, we're sitting on the couch. 00:13:10.480 --> 00:13:18.080 Yes, get a phone call, and he's like, Dad, um, you know, this is it, it hasn't stopped raining. 00:13:18.240 --> 00:13:21.759 And like, my my friend's feet have blisters on them. 00:13:22.000 --> 00:13:26.720 And I hear, yeah, and I hear the the other kid, he goes, uh, what'd he say? 00:13:26.799 --> 00:13:29.440 He goes, We're gonna need an extraction. 00:13:30.879 --> 00:13:33.519 And I'm like, an extraction? 00:13:34.480 --> 00:13:36.639 I'm like hearing helicopters, you know? 00:13:36.960 --> 00:13:39.120 Like, oh yeah, for sure, man. 00:13:39.360 --> 00:13:40.960 An extraction, yeah. 00:13:41.120 --> 00:13:42.799 Um, so so what do I do? 00:13:42.960 --> 00:13:52.080 I'm I'm like, okay, um, well, maybe, maybe you guys bit off a little more than than you can chew. 00:13:52.240 --> 00:14:05.039 You know, it's funny because when you look at a map, 10 miles on a map or 20 miles on a map looks much easier than it does when you have a backpack on and it's raining on you and you're on the ground. 00:14:05.600 --> 00:14:09.279 And so I was like, man, maybe uh maybe you guys need to not walk 20 miles tomorrow. 00:14:09.360 --> 00:14:11.360 Maybe you need to think about walking 10 miles. 00:14:11.519 --> 00:14:16.000 So this kid says, uh, he's like, no, we can't just replan our trip. 00:14:16.080 --> 00:14:17.440 We need an extraction. 00:14:18.000 --> 00:14:22.320 And I was like, oh, well, have you I'm trying to walk them through like maybe problem solving. 00:14:22.559 --> 00:14:23.039 Sure. 00:14:23.759 --> 00:14:26.799 Um, finally I get to the point where they're, you know, arguing with me. 00:14:26.879 --> 00:14:28.000 And what did I say? 00:14:28.399 --> 00:14:29.039 Tell us. 00:14:29.279 --> 00:14:32.080 I'm like, oh, yeah. 00:14:32.559 --> 00:14:33.840 No, that makes sense. 00:14:34.000 --> 00:14:35.679 Probably this is impossible. 00:14:36.080 --> 00:14:40.480 Probably no one else has ever accomplished this on the Appalachian Trail, you said. 00:14:40.799 --> 00:14:41.039 Yeah. 00:14:41.200 --> 00:14:43.840 I don't think anybody's ever hiked the Appalachian Trail. 00:14:44.000 --> 00:14:44.639 You're right. 00:14:44.799 --> 00:14:50.799 After eight hours of your planned 15-day trip, you probably need an extraction. 00:14:51.039 --> 00:14:52.320 And we could hear crickets. 00:14:52.639 --> 00:14:57.600 It was fantastic because you could hear their wheels spinning, like, oh, dang it. 00:14:57.840 --> 00:14:59.120 Dang it, he's right. 00:14:59.440 --> 00:15:04.879 When I talked to our son about that, you know, weeks later, I'm like, so what was that like? 00:15:04.960 --> 00:15:10.480 He's like, he's like, dude, when my friend was saying that, I was like, no, please shut up. 00:15:10.639 --> 00:15:12.480 Don't you know who you're talking to? 00:15:12.720 --> 00:15:13.759 Not to my dad. 00:15:14.159 --> 00:15:15.120 To my dad. 00:15:15.360 --> 00:15:16.159 Oh god. 00:15:17.039 --> 00:15:20.879 So it's funny because um they were successful. 00:15:21.120 --> 00:15:28.080 They were successful, pushed through blisters, yeah, pulled muscles, all kinds of stuff. 00:15:28.480 --> 00:15:37.279 15 days, no joke for for some teenagers to be out there on their own for 15 days in the rain and uh planning their food and their stops and their camps. 00:15:37.440 --> 00:15:38.159 It was incredible. 00:15:38.559 --> 00:15:42.320 But I'm not sure that they would have been successful without some like tough love. 00:15:42.559 --> 00:15:42.879 That's right. 00:15:43.120 --> 00:15:44.399 And that's what it comes down to, right? 00:15:44.480 --> 00:16:01.360 I mean, it's like when you I think that maybe today in society I hear a lot of people um making excuses for failure and and utilizing saying that, like, oh, this is how much I care about you. 00:16:01.519 --> 00:16:03.519 I don't want you to have to work hard. 00:16:03.759 --> 00:16:07.360 I don't want you

to have to go through anything difficult. 00:16:07.600 --> 00:16:14.799 And I think that maybe what we're forgetting is that um overcoming difficulties is actually a wonderful thing. 00:16:15.039 --> 00:16:17.919 It's actually something that builds us and makes us more resilient. 00:16:18.080 --> 00:16:22.799 Avoiding difficulties makes us into less resilient people. 00:16:22.960 --> 00:16:28.639 It makes it so that um something small be seems like something big. 00:16:28.960 --> 00:16:35.360 And so why is it important to be like, hey, I'm gonna I'm gonna say something that's gonna make you feel like an idiot right now? 00:16:35.600 --> 00:16:44.720 I'm gonna say something that, like, oh, you need you're going through some difficulties, and you're gonna give up after eight hours. 00:16:45.200 --> 00:16:48.559 I love you, and I know that you're tougher than that. 00:16:48.799 --> 00:16:49.840 I believe in you. 00:16:50.559 --> 00:17:03.360 And so having allowing that teenager or allowing anybody in your life who you love, including your own people who work for you, to be like, Man, are you really gonna give up now? 00:17:04.720 --> 00:17:06.400 Can you take one more step? 00:17:06.960 --> 00:17:12.799 If you could take one more step, then do that, and then reassess and ask, can you take one more step? 00:17:13.119 --> 00:17:13.759 Yes. 00:17:14.400 --> 00:17:19.599 You having that zero doubt in them instilled that zero doubt in themselves. 00:17:19.680 --> 00:17:21.359 They're like, okay, I have no doubt. 00:17:21.519 --> 00:17:34.480 Okay, if he believes it, and after they came off the trail, that was one of the things our son said was if at any point dad would have told me, it's okay, you guys can can bail, I would have bailed immediately. 00:17:34.559 --> 00:17:38.480 But because he even said he's like, I would have been like, oh, thank God. 00:17:40.400 --> 00:17:44.480 But he said it was because you kept telling them you guys can do this. 00:17:45.039 --> 00:17:48.319 People have done this, they've suffered through worse weather conditions. 00:17:48.480 --> 00:17:52.799 It might suck, you're soggy, you probably have blisters, you can do this. 00:17:53.039 --> 00:17:56.880 It was that zero doubt you were instilling in them that gave them that zero doubt in themselves. 00:17:57.200 --> 00:18:04.400 In some ways, maybe it was even like it was even like pushing back on them, asking, Do you have doubt in yourself? 00:18:04.640 --> 00:18:07.359 Like, do you think this is the hardest thing? 00:18:07.519 --> 00:18:08.160 Is this it? 00:18:08.319 --> 00:18:10.880 Is this the hardest thing that you can ever overcome? 00:18:11.039 --> 00:18:12.240 Is this gonna beat you? 00:18:12.400 --> 00:18:17.440 Are you gonna allow this to be victorious over you, or are you gonna be victorious over this difficult situation? 00:18:18.000 --> 00:18:21.680 And they're like, God, who am I? 00:18:21.839 --> 00:18:22.960 Who do I wanna be? 00:18:23.200 --> 00:18:23.599 That's right. 00:18:23.680 --> 00:18:25.039 And now create yourself. 00:18:25.440 --> 00:18:30.960 They'll tell the story the rest of their lives of what they managed to overcome, because it it wasn't a trivial thing. 00:18:31.440 --> 00:18:37.359 The weather, the conditions, the um the snakes, the venomous snakes they came across. 00:18:37.599 --> 00:18:39.119 So push through. 00:18:39.519 --> 00:18:40.079 Serious stuff. 00:18:40.160 --> 00:18:41.119 Very cool. 00:18:41.680 --> 00:18:46.799 It'll it'll travel with them for the rest of their lives because it's a serious situation. 00:18:47.119 --> 00:18:47.759 That's right.