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Speaker 1:
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Welcome to Dog Secrets. Dog Secrets, brought to you by the best-selling author of the book Dogs Decoded, seneca's the Dog Prodigy King, the first psychology podcast of its kind without the whisper. Let's do it, let's do it, let's do it, let's do it.
Speaker 2:
0:36
Hey everyone, thank you for tuning in. Thank you for all the love and support. The book is doing amazing on Amazon. All the love and support. The book is doing amazing on amazon. I'm also very excited to mention I'm gonna have another author next episode. Her name is jennifer holland. Just like the country, jennifer s holland, to be exact, s like super, not l. There's an l one, but she didn't write that many books. Jennifer holland actually she's pretty badass. She written't write that many books. Jennifer Holland actually she's pretty badass.
Speaker 2:
1:06
She's written like five or seven books actually about dogs and animals and pets. You know she's a legit heavy hitter and for her and her team to seek me out and be on my show, it's an absolute honor. It really is Her book that you you know she's going to be talking about is called dog smart, just like pet smart, dog smart. And I'm excited, you know, to have her. So next episode, guys, make sure you tune in, you follow the show. I'm very, very excited, yeah, because it's really gonna be a good episode, because we're gonna talk about dogs, dogs, right, expert versus expert, and I'm going to pick her brain on some stuff you know, and hopefully she can learn a thing or two from me, but yeah, it was very, very unexpected. So, like man, I'm excited, I'm excited.
Speaker 2:
1:56
So again, guys, the book, my book is Dogs Decoded. As you heard on intro, it's on Amazon. You can actually read like 50 pages of it for free. More than that. You got to either be a Kindle member or actually buy the book. But the Kindle member, guys, what I did is I signed up for the Kindle Unlimited, where whoever has the Kindle Unlimited they can read it and they have access to the book for like three months. And if they buy it good, if not, it and they have access to the book for like three months. And if they buy it good, if not, then they lose access to it. And what a great way to promote the book.
Speaker 2:
2:32
I really like that because, as an artist, as an author, you want your message out there. It's not all about the money or fame. I mean true art artists are like that. They don't care about money or fame. If it comes money or fame, you, you know it's great. But usually a true artist, they really do it for the sake of the art. And with me is the message right If I can help even one dog owner out there. You know my message, you know my work is done.
Speaker 2:
3:00
So this is the announcement I'm trying to make here and I think you guys will like what I'm about to offer. So whoever wants the book, guys, just send me an email, go to dogsecretscom, just like dogsecretscom, and I will send them a PDF file, no questions asked. They can have access to the PDF and if they like it, you know, they can buy the actual book from the you know store, amazon store, the paperback and hardcover they put there, and so, basically, you're going to have access to the Kindle version free of charge, you know. So you can get it from Amazon if you want Kindle, or you can get it from me, again free of charge. So I'm going to run that offer for a while and see what happens. Okay, guys. So this episode, guys, I'm going to run that offer for a while and see what happens. Okay, guys.
Speaker 2:
3:47
So this episode, guys, I'm going to talk about unrealistic expectations. What I tell my clients is I'm good, not God. What are the expectations that's realistic that you can expect from a poor dog or from your family, from you, from your training, from that dog's breed? All these things, and these are pretty thought-provoking. A lot of them are thought-provoking, funny and it's like a wake-up call. Like man, I guess I never looked at it that way. He's right, all right.
Speaker 2:
4:15
So the realistic expectation the first one, guys, I got is you have to make sure that you don't compare this dog to your previous dogs. So, remember, you're not like your brother and sisters, right, you're totally different. Like, in some ways you're the same, but in many ways you're totally different. So if you keep comparing this dog to your previous dog, even if you have sibling, if you notice, like, if you have two brothers or two sister or brother and sister, you see that they're very different, guys, they're very different. So if you keep comparing them, you're going to yourself nuts. Remember, it's not fair to compare you to your brother and sister. Therefore, you cannot do so with a dog. So remember that every time I hear this from my come I had a dog. All you know I had to do is do this I, I walked him, you know, off leash. He never went after someone, he never barked, he came. You know, blah, blah, blah. Like that was that dog, you know. So don't do that, okay. Realistic and realistic expectation number two Don't expect the dog to do it the first time, you know?
Speaker 2:
5:22
Did you listen to your parents on the first time, you know? Did you listen to your first, to your parents, on the first time, you know? Do you listen to your wife on the first one? Does your husband listen to you on the first time? So even the best trained dogs, guys, don't always listen on the first time. So it's okay to repeat yourself, it's not okay to let the dog get away with it. So a lot of trainers say never repeat yourself, never, never repeat yourself. I'm telling you I mean the best of the best. The best of the best trained dogs are police dogs, hunting dogs, seeing eye dogs, dogs for disabled. They will make mistakes. They will not listen the first time, they will not, they will not. And these are the best of the best.
Speaker 2:
6:02
Like you see a dog that is
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performing tricks on on in circus, you know sometimes they don't want to do it. They won't do it on the first time. So don't get mad. Don't think like okay, this dog is dumb, or blah, blah, blah. It's like no, the dog's testing you. So that's some realistic expectations. Right again, you have to make sure that. Don't give up. Fall through doesn't mean the dog's dumb, or most of the time, guys, the dog's playing dumb. But you have to make sure that if you always think, okay, if the dog takes off right, takes off down the street, and your trainer says, say just once you say hey, come here and the dog doesn't even look at you're gonna come back in, that's it like.
Speaker 2:
6:42
Okay, well, it was nice knowing you.
Speaker 2:
6:44
So, again, that's unrealistic expectation. Next unrealistic expectation guys, don't let the dog loose off leash. Unless you're willing to bet your life, the dog will listen to you off leash. Now I always hear this like, oh, ma'am, I didn't think it was, you know, know a big deal. I didn't think there'll be anybody around. It was, yeah, nobody will be around, and I let it loose. It was late at night, it was super early, I didn't see anybody.
Speaker 2:
7:13
Or they're like well, you know, I just want him to run. You know his energy was all pinned up. You know it's like well, the dog's not awfully strained. Oh, I thought he would listen, he listens, he listens, he'll stay close. Or I didn't think much of it until like what? Oh, my god, you know like you didn't see something like. And our dog got into a fight with yours. Your dog ran, you know, got hit by a car, jumped on someone, knocked him down, you know.
Speaker 2:
7:39
So always expect the unexpected, guys I'm talking about, even if you're like opening the garage door right and the dog just runs outside, you know, just to sniff, to pee to poop. Don't have it off leash. Don't have it off leash unless you have it on a long rope. Retractable leash, right? Uh, maybe chain cable, maybe the dog's on a shock car, maybe Maybe you have the invisible fence thing. You know where the dog reaches that barrier and then they get the beep and they don't pass that. So I get don't have the dog off leash, guys. Unexpected things always happen, and for your dog to be a perfect angel and nothing else to happen, it's being unrealistic, right, you're having unrealistic expectations. Happen, it's being unrealistic, right, you're having unrealistic expectations. So this is also in my book, guys, this chapter, but I'm giving you the condensed, condensed version of it. I'm giving you the appetizer of it, like a taste. But yeah, this is a chapter of my book, all right, next one.
Speaker 2:
8:39
So don't, don't expect, if you don't leave your dog unsupervised, that they won't make mistakes. So if you leave your dog unsupervised, um, like say, um in in the yard, and the yard, guys, and the and the house, your dog will get into stuff. The dog will chew on things, it
will play with things, it will get into stuff, whether you know they're destructive, whether they're digging, they could chew. Usually they chew on things, guys, what you're sent on it. So it could be a dog that's fully um, you know, not even teething, no more. It's an adult dog. They could go after your cell phone, they go after your purse, your wallet. They go after dirty laundry, the couch um the garden hose, the sprinkler systems, the cable wire. It could be the, the kids, you know, airpods, it could be the whatever guys. But most of the time when people do that they're like well, my dog didn't do that I think it'll be fine.
Speaker 2:
9:35
He never done that before. That's making you gotta make it impossible for the dog to make mistake. So that's a very, very common and realistic expectation that you got from the poor dog. I tell my clients, either create the dog, kennel the dog, you can use a muzzle. If the dog destructive muzzle, you got to make sure it's a basket muzzle that the dog can pant, can still drink water and they cannot chew it up. Right, they cannot chew cloth, kennel, cloth, muscle. They can still take it off, they rip it and they chew it from the corner of their mouth. But basket muzzle is better, guys. But remember dogs, guys are very persistent, they're very stubborn. So what they'll do is they'll. They will, uh, they will act like a psycho when you put a muzzle on them. They act like they're possessed. They shake their head, they'll rub it all over the walls, they do a circle, you know, on the floor and on your carpet. They will do anything possible to get the muzzle off. So you may have to punch your own hole in the muzzle, the strap, you know, to make sure it's tighter. So, yeah, dogs get creative. Okay, all right, moving along, let's see next one.
Speaker 2:
10:53
So don't, don't expect the dog to, to learn. So here's the thing a lot of time, guess what you do, is you, you get the dog trained, or the dog? Someone listens to you, right, listens to you, responds to you, is more polite around you. Don't expect the dog to listen to everyone in the family, like that. So I do the boot camp, right, and I give people a trained dog, right. So at the, at the final lesson, at the end of the boot camp, I expect everyone to be there. And then people like well, I'm the main person involved with the dog. It's okay. It's like so that person don't live, you know. They're like no, no, they do, but I'm involved. I'm mainly involved.
Speaker 2:
11:32
But when that dog gets annoying, don't you want that dog to know what to do, what not to do, what to use, what not to use? And they're like oh, yeah, yeah, but I'll tell them. You can't tell them as good as I can, you can't. So here's the thing, guys, usually I do like an hour 90 minute lesson, right? Uh, when people come pick up their dog, the client will give their spouse 10 minute version of the lesson. I'm sure that's what will happen, right? There's no way they can explain or show things as good as I can and there's no way that their spouse will listen to them as good as they will listen to me. So again, unrealistic expectations, guys. All right, next one. Again, this is such a condensed version of it, guys, I'm just like going like maybe one or two sentences and I'm going to the next one.
Speaker 2:
12:20
Don't expect for the dog to let you know that they need to go potty. Do not do that, guys. So some dogs kind of look for you. They look around, they sniff and they're like okay, mom's not here, I'm gonna pee or poop. Some dogs whimper, they scratch at the door, they look for you. Some dogs bark and they have a different bark. You know they'll come and let you know. Some dogs will just do it. You know like you know what. You weren't there. I just you should be happy. I peed right there by the door. I could have peed on your bed. So again, that's unrealistic expectation.
Speaker 2:
12:53
Don't say well, my other dog kept barking. He barked three times. That, because it was three times, it was wonderful. I knew three barks meant you know that dog needs to go. Like really three barks. Like wow, that dog was more trained than my kids. Yeah, it was three barks walk, walk, walk, oh. Like, oh, he needs to go potty, like that's it. You know? Like wow, okay, so that's the thing is, don't compare that dog like that.
Speaker 2:
13:17
So some dog lets you know, some dogs don't. What you need to do is make sure, guys, you let the dog know like you can't pee or poop inside, you gotta do it outside. If you don't, let me know, I'll be on top of it. So, creating the dog house, the proper food, helps. We're not gonna get into potty training right now. You know the supervision, that scheduling, all this helps. But just for the dog to come and grab you, like mom, let me go, I gotta go pee, pee, poo, poo. No, unrealistic expectation, guys, all right.
Speaker 2:
13:49
Next one um, so a lot of times my clients say like okay, I'm gonna send one dog for training. I have two dogs and I want you to work with this one and this is the worst one and hopefully it will teach the other one. I was like, are you kidding me? I'm good, not god. Like, well, won't they learn from each other, the one one, that the bad one will learn from the good one? Like no, guys, all right. So let me ask you this do.
Speaker 2:
14:21
Your good habits come to you naturally, guys, or your bad ones, of course. Bad ones. How many times we got to remind ourselves that's not healthy, that's not smart, that wasn't productive. I could have handled that better, I should have known better. You always, guys, we always grow, evolve. I mean, I've noticed, after a certain age I think after 40, you learn what not to do, at least, if not, you know that's intelligence. You know you learn what not to say. So, like you learn, you get battle tested. I think after 35, but definitely after 40, right, all right. Next one. So yeah, so it's not
going to happen like that. Like okay, I train one of them, and that one's like you know what, you're, so trained, I'm gonna do it too. Like no, usually it's that way around the train.
Speaker 2:
15:11
One is like why would I walk on a loose leash when this one keep dragging? You know everyone why I have to, you know, not jump on you not. I mean shut up when I tell you, telling me not to steal things off counters, not beg at the table, not bark in how non-stop wine, when you know this one is doing all that. It's not shutting up, it doesn't sit, doesn't stay, pulls on the leash bolts out, doesn't come when I go. I'm gonna do that too. Why I have to hold my pure poop when this one's peas and poops all over, why I have to, you know, take the initiative and hold it and then do it outside. Do you see where I'm going with this, guys? Again, I'm realistic expectations guys. Okay, all right, next one, uh, let's see. Okay, do well, I actually went over this, so I'm not gonna.
Speaker 2:
16:01
This is like kind of similar to that, like don't let your dog, don't walk your dog off leash, guys. So even if you walk your dog off leash in a neighborhood and you're like well, he's fine, he hates the leash, he sticks by me, he stays close. Another dog, guys, could come and attack yours. It could be a cat that the dog all sudden sees and wants to chase. It could be a squirrel, it could be a, you know, I don't know, depending on where you live, uh, it could be a mountain lion that come and get your dog. It could be a coyote, you know.
Speaker 2:
16:30
So I had this client that a small dog was always walking. He, she would always walking her dog, um, off leash, and a coyote just took it right in front of her, just like the dog just didn't stand a chance. There was a small dog like why would you walk it off please? Like's. Like, oh, she hated the leash, she never liked the leash. Well, there you go, you know. All right. Next one guys.
Speaker 2:
16:53
So do you expect your dog to not? So, men like to roughhouse with the dog. We always like to play rough with the dog. Now, if you teach your dog that, okay, don't play with me. Like you expect the dog to not listen. You know, here's the best way to put it. We like playing rough house. So if you expect your guy not to do it or your husband not to do it when you're looking away, it's not gonna happen. We like doing it. We like, you know, like playing like that.
Speaker 2:
17:22
And a lot of my clients, women's like well, doesn't that make the dog worse? Doesn't that make it aggressive? Like no, you teach a dog like, okay, be nice, play, gentle, stop. You know you can only do it. So, again, to totally take that away from the dog and from your husband or your boyfriend, it's not fair. So, again, it's one of those things like I tell my clients like no, you can teach a dog to bite on command, bark on command, get on the couch on command, fetch on command. You can teach a dog to play nice, you
know, or rough with this person, or don't play with this person at all.
Speaker 2:
17:52
So a lot of times people say, well, it's a thing that my guy always likes to do, like, yeah, no, it's okay, it's totally okay, I don't mind that at all. Okay, um, all right, do you expect your dog to do things on its own night, like nice and polite things on the song? Like that's not gonna happen. A lot of trainers say, well, catch the dog doing something good. Like, catch the dog doing something good, like what is that when the dog's, like you know, taking a nap? So here's a good example if you leave things on counters, guys, you know your dog will probably leave it alone when you're right there.
Speaker 2:
18:28
But if you leave something tempting, like you say you live, leave the thanksgiving turkey on the table and you walk away, might as well tell the dog, like go ahead, help yourself and let let mommy know if the inside of it is all cooked or not, or is all pink like mommy's lipstick, the dog will take the whole turkey and run, run off of that, guys. So again, you're being unrealistic. Don't say my other dog never did that, never. That was that dog. This is this one. But zedek is that one. Never, never, ever again. Don't do that, you're gonna drive me nuts and drive yourself nuts. Don't do that, you're gonna make yourself go insane.
Speaker 2:
19:05
That was that dog, okay. So don't leave anything guys that you don't like. I want to leave this. There was one client really well, she's like Zeticus I. I want to leave my shoes here, and please don't tell me that to remove my shoes, because I could have told you that too. I want to leave my shoes there and I don't want the dog touching it or or biting it, chewing it. And I said, no, you're right, you can leave the shoes there. Then, okay, put something like really heavy, like a heavy bucket and a you know 50 pound thing on top of it.
Speaker 2:
19:37
You know, and she was like laughing, it's like no really, and she kept saying well, my dog didn't do that again. That was that dog, so don't do that again. You're being angry and reasonable and expect you know these are unrealistic expectations from from the dog. Okay, all right, moving along, moving along? Um, all right, don't expect the dog to show any sign of barking excitement when you have company over. So some people say I don't want them to run to the door at all, I don't want them to bark at all, like it's a dog, guys, it's not a stuffed animal. So you gotta let the dog know okay, barking is okay, but five barks, right, not 50. Right, it's okay to run to show your excitement, but just don't jump up on people, right, don't knock him down, don't sniff their crotch, don't sniff their butt, don't keep on licking them all over. Be a polite dog, right? The dog gotta have direction. The dog that doesn't gotta have discipline. So, without any direction and discipline, guys, remember manners is more important than obedience, guys, because that dog doesn't even need to sit or stay. Just, they cannot bark nonstop, they cannot jump, they cannot growl, they cannot snap, they cannot, you know, lick the client, you know the guests all over. So that's the thing is, whenever you have company over. You got to have manners from the. You got to expect manners from the dog.
Speaker 2:
20:58
And if you expect the dog not to show any excitement, not barking, that's unrealistic guys. I mean dogs, that's what they do. Your dog thinks that's their house. That's how dogs think. Your dog thinks that those guests came to see them. The dog thinks like this guest better know, this is my house, this is how I run things. I jump on you, I bark, I will act like I'm killing you or I will kill you. You know you should be happy I let you in. So that's how dogs think. Guys, you get to see things from a dog's point of view Doesn't mean it's right or justified. It's justified from their standpoint. But you have to make sure, guys not being realistic. Like I don't want the dog bark at all, I don't want the dog run to the door at all. I want the dog to stay and not move when I open the door. That's like PhD level of dog training. Yeah, it's not impossible, but you have better chance of teaching the dog. Like, okay, you can greet the guest and when I have company over, just don't jump on them, don't go crazy, don't bark nonstop. And all this comes with the proper training and proper technique and proper tools. Proper tools, guys. A lot of times, guys, you can get away. If you don't have a good technique, with the right tools, you can All right.
Speaker 2:
22:14
Next one Don't expect the dog to know like, okay, I want this dog to be protective because it's a German Shepherd, shepherd. I want this dog to be a good attack dog because it's a pit bull. I want this dog to be a really, really good swimmer, love water because it's a lab or because it's a golden. Don't all you know like no, no, don't do that, you're gonna drive yourself nuts. Guys, you're expecting too much. Yeah, most german shepherds will, will be a good watchdog. Some of them will lick you to death. Most golden retrievers are nice, but I've seen some really crazy one now the other day, guys, this happened to me like a week ago.
Speaker 2:
22:53
So the place that I work at, um, you know they, they board dogs there, they groom dogs, they have dog walking, they have doggy daycare, they have do, they do everything. So I was just standing there waiting, you know, for for my client to get there, and we're just standing on the side and I saw this owner um, they had a chocolate lab. You know, she was just holding the dog on the leash and I would just like look in there. I wasn't even looking at the dog, I wasn't even looking toward the owner, I was just like standing there minding my own business, guys. This dog went after me like it wasn't a bark, it wasn't like an it will, just went after me like, almost knocked me down. It was a
chocolate lap and he wouldn't try to bite my stomach like whoa, you know. So I really got mad. You know, there's no way, guys, that this was this dog's first time, or and there's no way this will be the dog's last time. So the owner kept apologizing like oh, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, you know he never done that before and I said that's bullshit, there's no way that this was this dog's first time. There's no way. So here's the thing, guys. I was minding my own business. I didn't even look at the dog, I didn't even try to talk to the dog, I didn't even try to pet the dog. It wasn't just a chocolate lab.
Speaker 2:
24:06
Chocolate labs are, by the way, the most stubborn of all. Labs, if you notice, like dogs for the seeing eye usually you see them and dogs for the handicapped and disabled too. They usually yellow lab most of the time. Some are black lap. They're never chocolate lap, so rare. They're the most stubborn of all labs.
Speaker 2:
24:27
So the the, the owner, had that vibe like well, it was just one time, you know. You know, don't, don't get all out of shape, like if it was just one time, it's fine, you know. Even that, guys, I couldn't get knocked down like. What you know kept me from falling is I totally got run against the wall. That the dog totally pushed me against the wall, against leashes and these toys, and I didn't fall down. I would have fallen because I didn't see it coming and this was a huge dog, like he was like probably 9500 pound, like really big lab. For no reason, guys, he went after me, no reason.
Speaker 2:
25:00
Now most dogs are worse with men. They're threat. There they feel threatened by men. Men are bigger, they're, they have deeper voice, they they've been abusive toward men. So who knows if this dog had a rough past, but by men. I have a white hair. It wasn't like some guy with gray hair, you know, like who knows, obviously I'm not white. Was it a minority? No, like who knows, you know. But that was very interesting, so don't expect the dog to.
Speaker 2:
25:30
And this woman had a like just regular leash, no pinch collar on the dog, no, no shock collar. Most of the time people have it on a harness, so it was better. But this leash that she had on the dog was a rolled leash and a kind of stretchy leash, so the dog totally could have bit me like I. I yelled, said no, and I kind of like pushed the dog off me. Um, but yeah, like the dog would have bit me for sure, like for sure. You know it was very close call and I have very fast reaction and I still didn't see it coming. I have very fast reaction. Uh, you know I'm a martial artist, you know, and I work with dogs, you know, for living. But I didn't see coming. One is, the dog was totally like not even looking at me, it wasn't like one of those typical breeds, it was a chocolate lab. You kind of put go on guard if you see german shepherd, doberman, rod waller, um, yeah, you know, like a dog that you know that they're known for doing those things. No, this was just like a chocolate lab, all right, moving along.
Speaker 2:
26:31
Do you expect, uh, not to have the dog be walked regularly just because you have a big yard. So a lot of times people say we have a land and land of acres. You know we have a big yard. What? The poor dog is sick of that. The poor dog like I'm dying to know the outside world how it looks like, how it smells like. So, poor dog, what do you want to do? Just run around like a, like a tweaker, for no reason, like all day, every day, like some dogs do? Yeah, they chase birds, they chase squirrels, they chase whatever they can get. You know, but a lot of times, guys, the dog's dying to know what's out there. So it's your laziness, you know, if the dog's not walking. Well, get the dog trained so walks. Well, on the leash, doesn't pull you. So that's. Another thing is do not expect that. It's not fair. It's not fair. The poor dog is sick of that yard. Know how wonderful it is. It could be the best backyard in the world. They still want to be walked, right. They still want to see what's going on out there, right? All right. Next one Do you expect the dog to always look at you before listening?
Speaker 2:
27:35
Guys, the dog doesn't have to look at you every time you give a command. So that's another thing is people say, well, if he's not looking at me, he's not going to listen. I don't think so. The book said that the trainer said that Like no, that's not true, guys, I do it all the time. Do you want the dog to look at you or listen no matter what, listen, no matter what? So if the dog's at the end of the leash, they look a kid, a cat, a squirrel, and they just like, really, really fixated on that, and you say sit, do you expect the dog to look at you, like and look at your hand gesture, or you want the dog to sit, no matter what? Of course you want the dog to sit, no matter what. So this thing is, it doesn't matter. Guys, you're being unrealistic. Like the dog has to always look at me, always at my cool hand and hand signal, just because the book said so or the trainer said so or that group class said so, you being unreasonable and and it's unrealistic expectation. What do you want the dog to do is listen and respond no matter what.
Speaker 2:
28:34
Right do you expect the dog to not do well because of its age? So some people say you know what? Excuse me, let me get a sip of water here. I want this dog to listen, but it's too young.
Speaker 2:
28:52
How old is it? Well, it's a puppy. Like how old is it? Nine months, 10 months? Some people call it a puppy, even if it's 15 months. Guys, if the dog is a year old, you cannot call it a puppy. Even if it's 15 months, guys, if the dog is a year old, you cannot call it a puppy. That's a grown dog, guys. A year old, it's a grown dog. Under a year, usually you can call it a puppy right. So a lot of times we say you know what? He's too old now. Like how old is he? He's five. So if he's five, he's
gonna live, probably another 10 years, you know. So you want to put up with that? Like that's again not really good. Uh, the dog gets away with murder. So I look at it this way even if that dog is gonna live a few more months, you gotta know.
Speaker 2:
29:31
You gotta let the dog know that's wrong, that's unexpected. We're not gonna. I mean, that's unacceptable. We're not gonna have that no more. We're not gonna have barking non-stop. You can't bite more people. You can't attack dogs. You can't make a scene. You can't bite my, my kids, no more, you can't bite my husband, I'm not gonna walk on eggshells, so you gotta let the dog know. That was the past, this is now. So now in the future is more important, guys, now in the future is more important, okay. So again, you gotta be reasonable. It's not, it's not a trick that you're teaching a dog. When they say you can't teach a dog old tricks, it's not tricks as manners. So that's way more important.
Speaker 2:
30:11
Right, all right, you expect the dog to to get to turn into elastic just because you fixed it. A lot of people say, oh, you know what, I'm gonna wait till I fix them. When I fix them, I think he's gonna calm down. Not always, guys, not always. So remember, if a learned behavior been happening going on for months or even years. So say, if a dog's always marking, yeah, the marking will reduce most likely when you get the dog fixed, but not all the time. If a dog's like a little bit unpredictable and bullies our dogs, uh, yeah, we'll get less, but will it stop? No, no, again, you're being unreasonable. It's unrealistic expectation. The dog will not turn into do 180 just because you fixed it. Right, you still need training and behavior modification and stuff like that right, all right, um, do you? Uh, oh, yeah, I already went over that.
Speaker 2:
31:06
Uh, okay, do you expect your dog to be toy 100 safe with your cat? So remember, some cats, guys hurt the dog. They, they toy, scratch the dog eye out. Sometimes the cat is fine with the dog, sometimes the dog really wants to play with the cat and just leave it alone. And some dogs, guys want to kill the cat. They just cannot wait for you to look away, walk away, so they kill it. They will kill your cat, okay.
Speaker 2:
31:34
So again, guys use common sense. A lot of times they're like well, as long as the cat doesn't move, you know, as long as you expect the poor cat not to move. Is that fair? Really think about it, guys, what you're saying. Something like what the cat really likes to play with the dog. You know, the cat is the one that start. I get it, yeah, but again, remember, don't be. You know one of those guys like okay, well, they're fine. You know, I think that we find always be prepared for one what's unexpected, like I would not leave those guys on. It's not, it's not fair. It's not fair, it's risky. You could walk into a dead cat.
Speaker 2:
32:09
Definitely don't leave them. You know where you go, leave the house, or you know go to work or whatever. And when you leave them unsupervised and it's even trickier if it's outside cat that comes in, you know outdoor to work or whatever. And when you leave them unsupervised and it's even trickier if it's outside cat that comes in, you know outdoor cat, indoor outdoor cat, it's even trickier. All right, um, do you expect the kids to do well with the dog, unsupervised like? I'm talking about kids, toddlers, guys. This is like a really really bad like. Think about it. What kids do is they jump on dogs, they ride them like a pony, they mess with them. When the dog's sleeping, they mess with them. When the dog's eating, they mess with them. When the dog's chewing on something a bone or toy, that's when dogs guys will bite and growl and snap.
Speaker 2:
32:49
And I I just heard an episode um with, uh, you know, jennifer holland when she did a podcast that another trainer told like dogs are actually way more, uh, patient than what you think, like they actually should be biting more kids and and it's true, that's true, the dogs are way more patient, way more understanding, way more nicer than we give them credit. But you know what's funny is, like pit bulls, for example, they can tolerate almost anything from the, the kids and all that German Shepherds don't. And German Shepherds are my favorite breed. I've had a lot of Shepherds, a lot. That's my favorite breed. I've trained probably over 300 German Shepherds. They're not as nice and tolerant. So if you pull on a Shepherd's tail or ear or whatever, they right away will try to bite you Right away. It could be a play bite, but they'll right away counter like, if you will, in martial arts, pitbulls don't, no, pitbulls don't labs don't goldens, don't german shepherds. Well, it's just, that's how they are. You know they'll do it playfully, but again, you have to be realistic, guys, don't, don't leave these two unsupervised, right, all right, moving along. Um.
Speaker 2:
34:02
So I mentioned this, guys, in the beginning of my book. See, over 50 people a year get, get, get killed by dogs and nus. 50 people, guys. Some of these are from infections, you better believe. Most of these are kids. So the dog bit the someone and the infection never got, you know, under control and it traveled to their heart and it killed the person. So keep that in mind, guys. 50 people just in us alone, and this number is on the rise. That's no joke. You can look it up, guys, you can look it up, I'm not making it up 50 people a year in 2024, not in 1904 and 2024. Here in us, people are getting killed by dogs. So let that sink in, right, all right? Uh, let's see next one.
Speaker 2:
34:53
Next one um, don't expect to get a dog for your kids and then the kids take care of the dog. They walk the dog for you, they clean up after the dog. No, no, this will become your headache, your responsibility. You know, because people say that, oh, I will take you, get rid of
the dog if you don't. You know they take care of it. You know, I told you to do that. I was like get rid of the dog and our kids at the beginning, you know they, they will do it. Probably sometimes after a while they're like, no, you know what, I don't want to do it, or they, I can't do it, you know. And so this will become your responsibility, your headache again. You're being um, unrealistic here.
Speaker 2:
35:28
Okay, all right, moving along, do you expect your dog's first bite to be his last one? Guys, this is rarely the case. If a dog first time bites you, it's rarely gonna be the last one. It's rare guys again, I'm dealing with these cases all the time. So if a dog bit someone, it's the first one. You better believe they'll do it again.
Speaker 2:
35:51
And like where it broke the skin it was a puncture wound and if it's the first time, you gotta, you know, be prepared like what's gonna happen, like okay, maybe before we're just breaking the skin it was a little nip and this one is a serious bite, like this woman's dog that went after me. There's no way. There's no way that that was his dog, that the dogs. It was his first time and this dog looked like a grown dog. It looked like probably would be three, four years old. There's no way. This was his first time. And if it was his first time, there's no way he will stop. He will go after another guy. He will go after you know it will be. It's inevitable, it will happen. Yeah, I don't know if I'm gonna run into her because that's their, one of their you know customers where I work at, but I don't know.
Speaker 2:
36:36
I'm not one of those guys like here. I'm a dog trainer. You know what's funny with people. People are really funny.
Speaker 2:
36:42
So I've been in many situations like this, like um, where the dogs went at it, you know, and I said I wouldn't do that, you know, and it's like I'm a trainer, I'm a professional trainer and, you know, not everyone listened. You know, like, well, okay, imagine if I say, look, I'm a professional trainer, I've been doing this 31 years with over 15 000 dogs um, I'm a pro, I know what I'm doing. This sounds cocky and even though it's true, people think like I'm bragging. You know what works more. Don't do that. I work with dogs. Don't do that. I wouldn't do that. I work with dogs. You know that won't work.
Speaker 2:
37:17
I work with dogs could be anything. What the hell? I could be pooping scoop all day. I work with dog. I could be walk dog walker. I could be a pet sitter working with dogs. What the hell is that? But people are funny like that. They're just really interesting. I'm, I'm serious, like if I say I'm a published author. You know I wrote the book on dog psychology, that yeah, whatever, sure, sure, yeah. They roll their eyes, but people are funny like that.
Speaker 2:
37:45
Alright, so what I'm saying is, guys, is, if you don't bid someone or bid a dog, you better believe it, they'll do it again. It's not gonna be their last one. What you need to do is make sure it's the last one, right, make sure all right. Um, the other thing is guys, don't expect much from like, you know, like unexpected stuff not rising from shelter dogs, rescue dogs. So these dogs, guys, it's rare, it's very rare that they don't have issues. Remember, they're in a shelter guys.
Speaker 2:
38:16
So these dogs, either they get weird with dogs, you know, they get reactive with men. Uh, they're escape artists. They're not always uh, they're, you know, are not always potty trained. They could be destructive. You know, they get very destructive when you leave. They could be a howler, um, they could be a fence jumper.
Speaker 2:
38:35
So again, you got to make sure that you realize these things like it could happen. So it's not the the dog's fault, is what happened in the past that made the poor dog like that? So again, you begin realistic, like, oh, my god, I thought I'm making a difference. I rescued this dog. The rescue people were amazing. They didn't tell me about these things. They didn't tell me about none of this.
Speaker 2:
38:58
Like, this dog, you know, had major separation anxiety. Blah, blah, blah. Most of these guys from experience guys, they have separation anxiety. They're scared of men, they're skate partners, they're not fully potty trained or they will get in a fight with our dog, like you could have two dogs. Or they bit a kid, like some kid. You know they killed a cat, the cat chaser. So just pay attention to these things, like make sure you really get the history.
Speaker 2:
39:28
And most of these dogs are surrender. That's the other thing is scary, it was a stray. Or surrender, that means your guess is as good as mine, guys. Your guess is as good as mine, guys, your guess is as good as mine. So again, you're being unrealistic if you think you're gonna get a dog from a shelter and you won't have any problem. So it's like you know, be prepared, guys.
Speaker 2:
39:49
But most of these dogs are barker, jumper, nipper, whiner, chewer, chaser, bolper, lunger or a serious biter. They will bite someone. You know, not you. But all of a sudden you may see like all of a sudden the dog's guarding its food, guarding a bone, guarding its toy we call it resource guarding, but it's the same thing, right? You see it playing, you know. And then all of a sudden it gets very serious. You like, oh my god, we're just playing fetch and all sudden this dog like bit me.
Speaker 2:
40:19
So expect the unexpected with these guys now, please don't twist my words, guys. Don't twist my word. I'm not saying don't, don't rescue dogs. I'm not saying don't get a dog from shelter. Those dogs are the best option. But just be prepared.
Speaker 2:
40:32
I dedicated my book to, to people like you that shelter dogs. They work and donate their time and resources and they go to these organizations, to no-kill shelters, and I dedicated my book to you guys. I love what you guys are doing. You're making a difference. So again, don't twist my word.
Speaker 2:
40:53
Like I tell my clients don't let the dog on the couch unless invited. And, like Zadika said, don't let the dog on the couch at all. Like that's not what I said. I said on on your cue, when invited. Let the dog know like, uh, imagine, like the dog's dirty, muddy, wet, let me wipe you, let me dry you before you get on the couch. Make sure it's on on on your command, right on your on on your term. What's wrong with that, right? There's nothing wrong with that right. I'm saying that let the dog on the couch when you say so. All right, I think we're done so again.
Speaker 2:
41:24
Thanks so much, guys, for the next episode is with Jennifer S Holland, the author of Dog Smart. Make sure guys you send me an email. If you want a copy of the book, go to dogsecretscom. I would love to send you a pdf version, no questions asked. I appreciate the love and support. Again, you gotta make sure guys share this episode to your friends, relatives. I really, really appreciate the love and support. It helps me with ranking the episode. Make sure you give it a five-star rating and, again, more information. The book is called Dogs Decoded. You can get the book there or you can go to my website that's dogsecretscom. Love and light to everyone.