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Hi there.
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My name is Joel Tiny I'm from Collaboration Global and
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this is our podcast, Being Human Hidden Depths. I'm going
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to be interviewing some of our members from Collaboration Global
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and they're.
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Going to be sharing with you their extraordinary lives. Although
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they would probably believe they're just normal, everyday, average humans,
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but they are extraordinary. Like you and me, we all
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have our story to tell. We've all been through.
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Difficult times and we've come out at the other end
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having learned an extraordinary.
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Amount about ourselves that we can share with others.
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So I think you'll find lots of things that will
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resonate with where you've been in.
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Our journey as well.
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I look forward to seeing you on the other side.
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Hello, and welcome to Collaboration Globals podcast Being Human Hidden Depths,
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and today I am delighted to be joined by the
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mister Soniil Baskaran. Have I pronounced that right?
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Soneil's yes, it's Bascarn, but yeah, it's good. It's good.
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Yeah, close enough for anyway, and welcome to podcast.
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Now.
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We met fairly briefly not so long ago. But what
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I love about you is your passion, your mission and
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how it aligns beautifully with what Collaboration Global is about.
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For those of you that are listening that go, what
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the hell is Collaboration Global about, I'll just remind you
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that we are about love, connection, collaboration, the being of it,
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not the doing of it, and having a space for
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abundance where there is enough to go around for everyone. So, Sonil,
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if I were to ask you what were your values,
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what would you say? That kind of is in your
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heart that you put into everything that you do.
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I love the way you phrase that question. Once in
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my heart because the values are in my heart and
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my soul too. But you know, I have six cornerstones
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and this is going to sound like I can reply
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because I got it ready here. Who has the cornerstones ready?
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But I do because I do. I deal with them
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every day. There are not in order of importance. That's
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because they're all kind of important, but they are creativity
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abundance making a difference. Integrity, not as necessarily as right
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or wrong, though that's important too, but more like putting
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in what's missing. So it's creativity abundance making a difference, integrity,
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well being, and meaningful connections, which is hopefully what we're
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going to be talking about I'm sure we are. So
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what those are the six cornerstones that I live by?
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Could call them values?
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Yeah, yeah, absolutely, I love it. I did. Remember we
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had a meeting Monster Collaboration Global and we were talking
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about our values and our three basically love, human being
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first and collaboration. And at the time we had about
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a dozen values and so many values, and we said
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integrity and somebody in the corner of the room went, that's
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not a value, and I was like, no, no, Yeah,
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everybody interprets these things differently, and everybody sees them from
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a different perspective, and that's what's lovely. When you've got
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those kind of cornerstones, you need to discuss them and
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share them and understand them because what I mean, what
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I mean by wellbeing might be different to what you
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mean by wellbeing. So can we maybe just unpick them
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a little bit more? Firstly, I'd like to know how
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you came to these six and secondly, you know, what
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what do you mean? Can you go into a little
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bit more detail on each one again?
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Actually, yeah, you know, it's a long story, but I'll
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try to make it short, okay sake people. Although I
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might be an intriguing may not be, but you know,
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I went through a lot of trauma in my life,
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and I have to make a long story short. I
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went through this trauma and there are two traumas that
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occurred at a young age. One at a very young
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age where I was sexually abused by a distant relative. Secondly,
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I made a mistake when I was young and I
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went to a military prison for a couple of weeks.
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And in the first instance, obviously it was a sexual
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abuse at the age of eight that led to me
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holding on to a secret for a long time my family.
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And then the second case, I watched good friends of
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mine and myself and kind of watch myself experience myself
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being tortured and kind of unnecessarily so, but we were tortured,
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and it was an experience of someone you know, wanting
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to kill you. But the first time the ten well
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tender age for me, tender age of eighteen. To make
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a long story short, because it has a it has
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a good ending, and it's so far which is you know,
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I went through a process of mentoring, very deep therapy.
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I climbed every inch of that ladder of human every inch,
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like every inch and I mean that a lot of
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times it was very painful. Sometimes it was exhausting, but
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I climbed every inch of that ladder to the point
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where I had thick completion, you could say, if you
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could call it that, where I reunited the person who
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abused me with my family, and my family came to
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know what happened, and they forgave him. Except for person,
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they forgave him and despite him denying that it happened,
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and it restored for me at least my connection with
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my family, et cetera. The second instance, I actually went
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back to the place where I was tortured, at a
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country where I was tortured, and I found the people
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who had tortured me, and most of them some of
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them had disappeared or died, but I found the ones
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who were still there and held them to account in
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a very cool way, but in a rigorous way, and
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then forgave them. And just to give you a sense,
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these guys cried when they saw they knew what they
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done to me, and they said, I remember you.
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All of them said that. And so it was it
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was a real, real completion. Not you know that, know
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it was a real completion, and that led to a
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series of awakened you could say, where every day was
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an inquiry for me, and I got very intrigued about
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a field of philosophy called ontology, which is the study
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of the question what does it mean to be really?
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And part of it, obviously is what does it mean
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to be human? To be human? We think of human
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beings first name human mostly, which is feelings and thoughts
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and ideas and opinions, but the being part has rarely
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been explored. And so I studied this field of philosophy.
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I had a mentor inside of that. It was also
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a zen Buddhist monk, and he taught me This combination
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of Zen and ontology was extremely useful and for a business,
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and we created a business that was very successful. We
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sold it and made a lot of money for me.
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But apart from the results, which will certainly breakthrough results,
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there was also this kind of like settling, you know,
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a comfort with myself and with other people. I could
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say kind of like I was okay with life being
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insignificant and not making it too significant other it's not
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adding drama where it's not necessary. I started asking, I
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started finding out what's so about my life? But also
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asking a question, so what not so what as dismissive,
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but so what as what's really important for me? And
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in the course of that inquiry, I, like a lot
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of other people who were in exploration, they start looking
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at what are my true values? What are the things
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that are really important for me? So the six that
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I quoted are really a product of very deep, rigorous
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inquiry over years. Wow, you know, and many many conversations
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with mentors and people that I've coached, writings that I've done.
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A lot of writing really is about thinking very deeply
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and experiencing life very deeply and then having thoughts from that. So,
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you know, I've balanced out what I experienced as a
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truth in my real life against these six cornerstones. And
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I discovered that one thing I wasn't really that concerned
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about in life was or not as much, was this
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whole idea of making it. You know. I discovered at
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some point, fortunately, that the letters I was trying to
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climb to get to the other side. You know, my ambitions,
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et cetera, were not going to get me to the
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other side. They would get me somewhere. Listen, it's the
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power and ambition, But it wasn't going to get me
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to that nirvana state that I thought, Oh, the heavens
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will open up, and you know, and that realization was
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a little depressing, but at the same time it was freeing,
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like it was a relief. I didn't have to prove myself.
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I didn't have to defend anything, and there was kind
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of like an unprotected state about me, like, you know,
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there was nothing to defend. Protect, Yeah, Harry fight, you know,
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I didn't have to do any of that anymore. And
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if I didn't have to do that anymore, what would
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I do?
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Yeah?
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And so that inquiry led to what would I do,
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who would I be? What would I what context would
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I come from? And that started opening up these six cornerstones.
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And there were other cornerstones initially, but they were based
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more on my past need for survival or you could
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say false ambition in some sense, the things that I
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thought I needed to do or accomplish, but that were
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that important when I look back on it. And so
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in the course of inquiring looking at what was really important,
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one thing that kept coming up for me was my creativity,
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which is actually arguably my favorite son. You know, it's
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the thing I the it's creativity if it was a being,
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it would be the one that's always by me. It's
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my creativity and I've always been like that from a
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young age. My my my recollection, not's necessarily a biological memory.
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A recollection was of me being in my mother's womb,
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and you know, she was listening to Indian music and
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she was dancing, and she could feel me coming to
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the world, and she was waiting to welcome me in
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the world. And there's a lot of love and I recall,
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not remember necessarily, but kind of recalling. This came to
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me many dreams. So I'm not trying to say I'm
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a spiritual guru or anything like that, but it came
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to me many dreams that that was the seed of
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my creativity. It became a curiosity about who is this
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being that wants been had so much coming to the world? Why,
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why is she so curious about me? Who am I? What? What?
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What is this music about? And I could even feel
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the rhythm, and up to this day, I'm a fairly
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good drummer, you know, because I feel I feel, I
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can feel a rhythm in something, I can feel a
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rhythm in how you speak or someone else speaks, and
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so there's a lot of creativity that's wound up in
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rhythm and timing and and memories of uh, feminine versus
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masculine and all of that. Ah. And you know, the
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creativity also gave gave birth to this inquiry of what
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does it mean to have a lot? What does it mean? Why?
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Why is that so important? And why do people get
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caught up in the money world item as well? And
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is there another context to abundance that's more free? Because
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when I look at the clients that I served, many
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of them were not free, not all of them. Many
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of them were not free in their pursuit of money.
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They were in a prison themselves of envy, of jealousy,
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of wanting more, no matter what it was. And they
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were told they had to be ambitious, and so they
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were in a prison, and instead of enjoying themselves, they
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were starkly unhappy. Why is that? So that inquiry opened
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up and led to abundance, and then you know, so
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on and so forth. You know, integrity was initially a
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prison as well, because I started only looking at the
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integrity is what's right and what is wrong? And there
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was no flexibility. In fact, there was a lot of
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chaos and lack of order. You could say it, but
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you know, so, yeah, I feel like I'm talking a lot.
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It's fascinating because what I see is a mirror of
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what you've gone through, not obviously your trauma. I've been
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blessed not to have that much trauma. I've had some,
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but not that much. And also the fact that you
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let that go is just beyond special and it takes something.
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And but then when you have that power to let
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something go like that, then you have to use that
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power for good. And that's where you've tuned it into,
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You've channeled it into what you're doing now.
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And I'd be very honest with you.
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It may have been more relistic at some point, like
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I thought that I had to do good with it,
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but it came to a very truthful point where I
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couldn't give a rat ass a quarter of a right
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brats ask whether I did good or not. Came to
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a point where I realized that even that was kind
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of a trap for me. I'm not talking for any
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body else. I can't and I hope nobody takes offense
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at this because it's not directed at anybody. It's something
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I saw for myself. That that was a trap for me.
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And when I saw that, it opened up the world
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of choice, really truly choosing something because you chose it
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without any reason, Because the moment I had a reason,
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I could start using that reason to bash people over
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the head. Yeah. Yeah, absolutely, truthfully, it became a choice.
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but you know those reasons are damn good ones.
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took I mean, you've only mentioned the first three so far,
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and we'll come to the other three. But creativity, abundance,
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and integrity. If, for example, let's take creativity future take
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that away from you. If that was like, you're not
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allowed to be creative anymore, we're taking it away. This
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is not something you possess, this ability to be created,
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this ability to hear rhythm, this ability to be part
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of the music, You would be a shell. There would
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be nothing left you.
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I'd be nothing left. But you know, probably the creativity
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would kick back again.
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Well yeah, but so what I'm saying is the values
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you haven't chosen, the values that the values have chosen
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you I think that's that's the way I see, and
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that's going. So I was just going to say, going
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back to choice. I don't know if you've read the
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book The Choice by Edith Eager, which is about a
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woman that was in a concentration camp and the choices
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that she had and the choices that she made throughout
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her life. Even when we feel like we have no
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choice at all, not choosing is also a choice, and
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that you choosing all of these wonderful values, and anybody
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it's listening who's going through that process. It's not a
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one off session with your business coach. It's not a
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one off session with your psychoanalyst to find what your
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values are. As you said, it's taken you years and
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years to come to hone in on what these six are.
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But mean that it's like the building blocks of whose
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sunnail is. And when you say these things it might
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sound flippant, but it carries such a weight for the
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person that you have become, the human that you have
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generated from a difficult start all the way through to
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where you are now, and then you are giving to
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other people now You've not gone. I want to be
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a good person, so I'm going to go and give
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to other people, and you've got a mission to create
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one hundred million joyful and successful people. That sounds very
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trite when you say it out loud like that, just
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as a one off, but the person that you are
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and the way you are explaining your values has such
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power behind it that anything else you say afterwards, I'm
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going to sit here, he's going to do that. It's
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definitely because I have no doubt. So carry on with
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where you were. The creativity, the abundance, and integrity are institutionalized.
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Now that's the wrong word.
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You could say that constitutionalized. Maybe you know, it became
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became part of who I am, right, you know, just
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like a constitution of any country, you practice it enough times,
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you don't have to necessarily, you know, read it out
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all out all the time. Uh, it just becomes part
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and parcel of your country or you. Uh. And so yeah,
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you know, if you practice it every day like I do.
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I mean, I look at my values every day. My selections,
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my decisions are all made from the six corner stones,
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and so the you know, well, well being became almost
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a no brainer, especially as I grew older. But the
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interesting thing is, you know, all of these cornerstones kind
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of work together very well. Found that if I come
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from abundance and creativity and integrity, from what's missing, being
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becomes what would address my being becomes a rather simple
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and easy answer. You know, most people when I think
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of well being of people that I've interacted, but they say, well,
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I have to work out eighteen times a day and
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something crazy. You know, it's usually comes from their survival needs.
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But if you really are present, and you've got a
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lot of your past based ambitions or complaints, you know,
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dramas that have been resolved, you have a more empty mind.
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You know, tabula rasas what they call it in Latin.
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It's a black slate from which you can't paint anything
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you want. So for me, while being became this blank
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slate that I could paint on, or canvas I could
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paint on. So what would that look like? So, you know,
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when I looked at it, I got really excited about
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doing these Japanese style exercises every day. The Japanese are
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very wise about their aging, and so they do you know,
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I do like sometimes a quarter of an hour to
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thirty minutes max. But I do it every day more
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or less I walk a little bit, take my time.
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I run a little bit because I enjoy running. I
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do a bit of hopping and skipping, and I do
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these tai Chi moves, some Indian yoga moves, and it's
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just enough, you know, to and some strength exercises, et cetera.
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moving and the mind alert. And I don't have to
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us out. I don't have to go to the gym
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or anything like that. I don't have to I don't
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have to have to do anything. It returns to choice,
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but it's an easy choice for me. There's a lot
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of flow to it. And when I miss something, I
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don't go you know, crazy or anything like that. So
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that's wellness. And then it's making a difference, which is
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from a choice. Making a difference is a privilege for me,
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and it's a blessing and a privilege. It's an opportunity
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to to to make a difference for no reason apart
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from that you say so, So for me, it's an
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act of great creation to do it, because what it
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used to be was a moral compunction. Then I have
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to do it, you know, and my my my father
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and my mother actually were people who love to make
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a difference for their community. So a lot of that
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came from them, and they were very freed up about it.
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to do it. So I had to break that. I
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felt really that I had to break that parental bond
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and choose for myself, not because well, not so much
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because I had to, but if I didn't, I wouldn't
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have any freedom in doing it. And that kind of
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that lack of freedom kind of gets over the people
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you're trying to make a difference for.
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It's an obligation. It's coming from a negative space, isn't it.
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Yeah, from a very kind of like almost it's a
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North Korean world of making a difference. It's like, you know,
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you know, it's an authoritarian with you.
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Yeah, you will make a difference.
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You will make a difference. Now, shall do it? Now?
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Yeah? Yeah?
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And I got nothing against that except well, you know,
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it's just not really freeing for the people you're trying
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to help, And so that leads to meaningful connection, which
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for me is you know, it's lacking in the world today.
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You know, like, but even my neighborhood, you're in California,
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you think California should be really friendly. Necessarily so, and
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a lot of urban areas I've been to people don't
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really don't really come out and talk to each other.
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And so for me, meaningful connection is having conversations like this,
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you know, which are more about connection intimacy, getting to
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know people. People are really afraid of intimacy. So I
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try to keep as much of an open space around
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me when people come and talk to me and share
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things that I know they don't share with other people,
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do my best to suspend any judgment. And so what
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does it mean to have meaningful connection? Is like all
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the other cornerstones and ongoing question, you know, like what
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does it mean to have integrity? What does it mean?
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What does it imply? Is that really still being truthful
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to who you are? Who are you? Anyway?
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And I already imagine does that change from day to day?
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You find? You know, who am I to be creative
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is going to be different from one day to another day,
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depending on what your situation is.
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Initially many years ago, there was a lot of changes
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almost every day, I mean, you know, and to some
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extent my sometimes the game changes for me quite quite rapidly,
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like almost every three months. Sometimes now it's coming down
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to almost every week where the game change because you know,
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I'm playing pretty big games, and so things open up,
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you know, and opportunities open up. Breakdowns occur, and I
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have to address those breakdowns almost every day, either for
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myself or the leaders that I help in various organizations.
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And so my life is never borring. So it always
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leads me to ask questions because the questions I know
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from habit, from my mentor from a long time ago.
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He said, it's never the destination that's most interesting, is
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the journey that's actually more revealing, more interesting. So I
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like hanging out on the journey of questions.
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Oh that's a nice phrase, isn't it. Let's hang out
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in the journey of questions.
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It's more fun too for me, for someone like me,
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So you know that journey of questions. When something happens
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to me, I call it the whisper. You know, it's
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something that I feel like with you, I feel the
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whisper that you're up to something huge and I should
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help you more. For some other people or some other circumstances,
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there's a whisper that comes to me and says, you know,
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so now you're kind of full of shit here in
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this area, and I have a pretty good antenna for it,
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you know, for myself. Yeah, And so I pause and
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I look at that, and it's usually two things, you know,
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two areas. Now that I've done enough work on this,
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you know, it's just something I'm avoiding with an honorable intention.
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So the honorable intention kind of covers up what I'm avoiding. Really,
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you know, so three tons of examples, but you know
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that's what the other plot is, something I haven't fully
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grieved yet from the past. So I take those pretty seriously.
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I call it the title of my newsletter on LinkedIn.
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It's called the whisper because it's the ability to listen
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for things like that. And most people step over, you know,
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they always doesn't mind a thing, but it keeps bugging you.
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And sometimes it's an ambition. Sometimes it's a dream that
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keeps whispering to you. Or you should be a writer.
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You know, you're not a business person. You know that
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kind of whispering. This is what I'd like to engage with,
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and that whisper kind of keeps me alive.
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Actually, right now, yeah, do you have you ever engaged
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your in a whisperer with kind of like a kinesiology state,
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because I find whenever I'm indecisive or not sure what
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road to go down, I just got into the habit
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now kind of standing still and centering myself and asking
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is this good for me? Is this good for the community,
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is this good for this person? Is this going to work?
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Is this something I should be considering? And my body,
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my body just just stopped for like maybe three to
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five seconds, and my body just if it's good, it's
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going to flow forward, and if it's not good, it's
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going to flow back. And it's so decisive without me
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mentally going I really want to do this, I'm I'm
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going to go forward. It's just ambivalent to the answer.
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I just put it out there and it just kind
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of my body will tell me the best way to
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go now. Obviously, I do not make decisions solely on
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my own because part of a community that's called collaboration global.
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I've put it out to other people and I get
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everybody's opinion and everyone's thoughts and sometimes too many opinions,
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But the people that are relevant to the decision being made,
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I will listen to their experience and their wisdom. And
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mostly that the answer bubbles up. It just kind of
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it comes, which is wonderful. I would like to ask
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you when you consider your values that are so profoundly
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found and kept for you and that you nurture in
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today's world of AI. I have a hidden agenda here
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I'll tell you in a minute. In this today's world
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of AI, Yes, how do you feel when you're working
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with leaders? How do you feel their insights into the
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fast changing dynamics we have because of AI and the
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way the world is going with AI? How do you
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think that is affecting people's values along the way.
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That's a really good question because I deal with AI
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a lot, have an AI based company and one of
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my clients actually it was a top notch stop Microsoft
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AI leader. And you know, this is why you answer
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your question lies in what I asked, what I spoke
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about earlier, but the field of ontology, which is asking
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a question of who you who you're being. It's also
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interesting that you mentioned kinesiology, so I'll tie that into
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the answer. And I've studied a too, because I have
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a double degree in electrical engineering computer science, and I
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came from a school that engaged in a lot of
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AI at its infancy. So the one thing that AI
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scientists perhaps, and there's a lot of debate about this,
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but I think it's one thing they don't quite get
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is that there's a part of us as a being
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that's very much embodied. It's in a body. We are beings,
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and you could say embodied to some extent in our
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body as well as our language. And see, when you
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use AI and the AI doesn't make you more aware
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and doesn't bring you up to the point where you're
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looking at wisdom based questions rather than tactical. Most people
485
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use AI for tactical, strictategic questions and answers, and that
486
00:31:04.119 --> 00:31:12.279
gives you a very limited possibilities around AI. But if
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the AI is elevating you, enabling you to free yourself
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up to ask the more. Some people call itterial questions,
489
00:31:20.799 --> 00:31:23.960
but they are really higher level questions. Who
am I?
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Who am I being? What is what should the context
491
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be for my life and my leadership of this company?
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Where am I failing truthfully in supporting my people? A
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lot of that you cannot answer with AI, because even
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AI will come back and say I cannot answer that question.
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00:31:46.319 --> 00:31:48.680
Someone them believe and be wise enough nowadays, to tell
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you the field that you're interested in is ontology. Ontology
497
00:31:54.039 --> 00:31:56.440
is now becoming more and more relevant to the world
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of AI, because what AI is grappling with to some extent,
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it's how do you make intuitive decisions that are based
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in your body? Like you just said, you made those
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decisions on your muscle testing. You know, how do you
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00:32:13.400 --> 00:32:15.440
do the cold Well, the truth is the AI can't
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00:32:15.440 --> 00:32:20.319
do that. A leader can. A leader who's wise can,
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A leader who's been trained and can feel that body
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00:32:24.359 --> 00:32:29.480
can because most, in fact, all decisions are fundamentally made
506
00:32:29.559 --> 00:32:33.880
on a basis of your language, in motions, or your body.
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00:32:34.559 --> 00:32:39.880
There's a concept in social cognitive neuroscience called can't remember
508
00:32:39.880 --> 00:32:42.720
what it's called, but it's the ability for your brain
509
00:32:42.799 --> 00:32:46.759
to connect with your heart and your gut nervous systems
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because there's whole beautiful you know. That's why I say
511
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coming from your heart, coming from a gut right, And
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00:32:53.160 --> 00:32:55.799
a lot of leaders haven't trained them, especially when you're young.
513
00:32:55.839 --> 00:32:59.720
You haven't. You don't have enough experience you make those
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00:32:59.759 --> 00:33:04.359
kinds decision. So if you only make strategic based decisions
515
00:33:04.440 --> 00:33:08.359
using your AI, your AI could mislead you because there's
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no fundamental wisdom that really you can really grow. Nobody
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else can. So the AI. I'm not dismissing AI. I'm
518
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saying AI could be used as a collaborative partner. I'm
519
00:33:21.400 --> 00:33:25.039
building my AI bot. I think I'll have a superior
520
00:33:25.079 --> 00:33:28.640
AI coaching bot that my dream is because I use
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ontology with it, and I actually test it every day
522
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because I have him coached me and him it coach me.
523
00:33:37.519 --> 00:33:40.160
And it's becoming dangerously better than I am in a
524
00:33:40.200 --> 00:33:43.519
lot of ways because you can make no you can
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make instantly connections between disparate ideas that I've introduced him
526
00:33:47.720 --> 00:33:52.039
to before. I can't do that, but he cannot make
527
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intuitive decisions. Yeah. See, so it's very interesting the world
528
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of AI. I tell people who are applying AI, if
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it doesn't elevate your ability or your attention to making
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wisdom based decisions, you're probably going to paint yourself into
531
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a silly corner. That's a very very silly corner.
532
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I agree. I agree, And I think so many people
533
00:34:18.639 --> 00:34:24.480
at the moment are being sold the story of use
534
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AI and automate everything, and then they use it in
535
00:34:28.239 --> 00:34:31.519
things like emails or messages to people, and all I
536
00:34:31.519 --> 00:34:35.039
can see from the outside looking in, is there are
537
00:34:35.039 --> 00:34:36.639
two people there that want to talk to each other,
538
00:34:36.679 --> 00:34:39.320
but they've got an AI machine in the middle connecting
539
00:34:39.360 --> 00:34:41.559
them up, and it's like you want to get closer together,
540
00:34:41.639 --> 00:34:44.400
but you're actually being pushed further apart. It's like, get
541
00:34:44.440 --> 00:34:47.480
that out of the way and start making a phone call,
542
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you know, actually talking to a real life person, or
543
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see them face to face and have those conversations. And
544
00:34:53.480 --> 00:34:56.519
I think we're forgetting how to have those conversations. And
545
00:34:56.559 --> 00:34:59.519
I get where you're talking about the wisdom, but that
546
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wisdom is only going to be there if it's been
547
00:35:01.239 --> 00:35:04.280
fed with the right information. It goes back to a
548
00:35:03.719 --> 00:35:06.159
comedy a comedy show we used to have on the
549
00:35:06.280 --> 00:35:09.360
UK many years ago where somebody was on the computer
550
00:35:09.440 --> 00:35:11.440
and every time somebody said is that possible? We can
551
00:35:11.480 --> 00:35:14.760
do that, and the guy would go computer says no,
552
00:35:14.920 --> 00:35:17.119
and that was that's the end of story.
553
00:35:17.760 --> 00:35:18.800
And I love that show.
554
00:35:18.920 --> 00:35:24.599
We loved that guy, yeah exactly. And I think we're
555
00:35:24.639 --> 00:35:27.679
going down the same road because we were allowing ourselves
556
00:35:27.719 --> 00:35:29.920
for the computer to make Oh no, no, the computer
557
00:35:29.960 --> 00:35:31.840
says no, what can I do? Well, you've just programmed
558
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00:35:34.679
the computer. You've just used the computer, let me talk
559
00:35:34.719 --> 00:35:38.320
to your manager. But AI for a lot of people
560
00:35:38.960 --> 00:35:41.920
is the delight of not having to talk to another
561
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person because they don't want to, so they can put
562
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that barrier in between and it means they don't have
563
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to make those conversations. So they're being sold a croc
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for whatever expression to use that they think is going
565
00:35:57.440 --> 00:35:59.719
to make life easier for them, and actually it's making
566
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it more and more difficult, and they're going to lose.
567
00:36:02.320 --> 00:36:04.559
We're going to lose the conversations to you, We're not
568
00:36:04.559 --> 00:36:06.280
gonna be able to have these kinds of conversations. We
569
00:36:06.400 --> 00:36:09.280
just let Actually I always do it for us, but yeah,
570
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I mean crazy.
571
00:36:12.039 --> 00:36:15.840
Well you know that's why I've taken on a practice of,
572
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you know, connecting with my friends and exchanging non transactional
573
00:36:22.079 --> 00:36:28.079
conversations with people, you know. And because I mean even
574
00:36:28.159 --> 00:36:31.920
I can fall into the trap of because I'm really
575
00:36:32.000 --> 00:36:35.440
quite a shy, introverted person. May not seem like that,
576
00:36:35.559 --> 00:36:39.800
but you know I am, and I get over stimulated
577
00:36:39.840 --> 00:36:42.239
sometimes in social situations, so I have to go and
578
00:36:42.280 --> 00:36:46.400
just be by myself for a while. But for introverts
579
00:36:46.440 --> 00:36:50.519
like me, and even extroverts to a certain extent. There's
580
00:36:50.599 --> 00:36:54.119
this addiction to that separation because it just makes life
581
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a lot easier to manage and more controlled, et cetera.
582
00:36:58.440 --> 00:37:01.599
But the price we pay is that meaningful connection is lost,
583
00:37:02.079 --> 00:37:06.960
and that meaningful connection actually does affect our well being biologically,
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because we need to be with people, either face to
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00:37:10.519 --> 00:37:16.960
face or voice to voice, and that connection generates something.
586
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You know, I mean, if you're not flirting or or
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00:37:21.719 --> 00:37:25.000
engage in some kind of prey full chemistry with other people,
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you tend to lose something, you know, you just tend
589
00:37:30.119 --> 00:37:36.000
to become very transactional, very mechanical approach.
590
00:37:36.239 --> 00:37:40.000
Yeah, it affects your well being in so many different ways.
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If you don't interact with somebody and maybe have a
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00:37:42.079
--> 00:37:45.519
giggle and have some banter and have a laugh, that's
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00:37:45.639 --> 00:37:50.280
keeping you well, that's that's keeping your whole physiology lifted
594
00:37:50.519 --> 00:37:53.079
for those moments. It's like taking a drug. You know.
595
00:37:53.559 --> 00:37:56.079
I had somebody I used to work with and he
596
00:37:56.119 --> 00:37:59.960
said he'd never really laughed uncontrollably unless he was on drugs.
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00:38:00.639 --> 00:38:02.280
You're kidding me, I said you did that when you
598
00:38:02.280 --> 00:38:05.239
were a child. Surely, no, never done it, I said,
599
00:38:05.360 --> 00:38:07.719
I do it nearly every week he said, well, how
600
00:38:07.760 --> 00:38:11.719
do you do it without drugs? I have friends. I
601
00:38:11.840 --> 00:38:13.840
go and talk to my friends and we have a
602
00:38:13.880 --> 00:38:17.119
giggle and it's just silly, or we do something daft,
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or we play, you know, we have jokes and things.
604
00:38:19.719 --> 00:38:21.559
And I think that is being lost, where people are
605
00:38:21.639 --> 00:38:24.320
used to the scrolling and used to kind of their
606
00:38:24.400 --> 00:38:28.039
world becomes part of what's on their phone. So I worry.
607
00:38:28.679 --> 00:38:31.800
I worry that the world we're living in is imploding
608
00:38:32.519 --> 00:38:35.639
and humanity is not going to be able to sustain
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00:38:35.679 --> 00:38:38.199
itself because we're all going to be living at arm's lengths.
610
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We're isolated. Now look at us. We're having a conversation
611
00:38:41.280 --> 00:38:44.119
and you're halfway around the world, which is a great thing,
612
00:38:44.159 --> 00:38:46.400
and we're having this conversation, but so many people are
613
00:38:46.440 --> 00:38:50.480
living through the machine rather than being able to get
614
00:38:50.480 --> 00:38:53.079
on a plane and go and see someone. We started
615
00:38:53.599 --> 00:38:57.519
a tentative world tour of Collaboration Global. So last year
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we went to Sodinia, where one of our members has
617
00:39:00.360 --> 00:39:03.199
emigrated to He's Sodinian, but he lived in the UK
618
00:39:03.280 --> 00:39:04.920
for a long time, so he's gone back over there,
619
00:39:04.960 --> 00:39:07.039
so we went to see him. This year, we went
620
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to Crete to see another member who's just emigrated out
621
00:39:10.239 --> 00:39:15.519
there next year. Who knows Canada, Brazil, oh, somebody for
622
00:39:15.639 --> 00:39:18.239
in Austria was earlier in the year as well. So
623
00:39:18.440 --> 00:39:21.639
we're going around just meeting face to face and giving
624
00:39:21.719 --> 00:39:25.880
someone a hug, you know, just I know we're business colleagues,
625
00:39:25.960 --> 00:39:27.719
but it's like, oh, give me a hug. You know,
626
00:39:27.800 --> 00:39:29.320
all I've seen you on is a screen.
Let me
627
00:39:29.360 --> 00:39:32.679
give you a hug, your real life person. And that
628
00:39:32.800 --> 00:39:36.239
does your health good. There's really graze about it. It
629
00:39:36.239 --> 00:39:37.119
makes you feel better.
630
00:39:37.800 --> 00:39:40.480
Yeah, absolutely, yeah, no, I you know, I fear for
631
00:39:40.559 --> 00:39:43.599
younger people because they a lot of them, you know,
632
00:39:44.400 --> 00:39:49.400
don't hug, especially younger men. So I love what you're doing, though,
633
00:39:49.480 --> 00:39:54.519
you know, it's so soone needed to do that and
634
00:39:54.719 --> 00:40:00.159
to connect and hug and you know, connect meaningfully. And
635
00:40:00.679 --> 00:40:04.400
this whole idea of intimacy is scary to people. It's
636
00:40:04.440 --> 00:40:08.199
becoming scary and scary to the newer generation because they
637
00:40:09.239 --> 00:40:13.320
don't know, you know, like there's this fear they've been
638
00:40:13.360 --> 00:40:17.159
so coddled sometimes in some cases that you know, putting
639
00:40:17.159 --> 00:40:21.280
themselves at risk with another person is too much for
640
00:40:21.360 --> 00:40:26.039
their for them to handle, so they don't they don't talk,
641
00:40:26.159 --> 00:40:28.559
They don't come out and take a risk to be
642
00:40:28.679 --> 00:40:33.480
intimate with people. Intimacy meaning necessarily physical.
643
00:40:33.360 --> 00:40:36.440
Even just hello national yeah, is.
644
00:40:36.800 --> 00:40:40.119
Weird for people. So I love what you're doing because
645
00:40:40.159 --> 00:40:45.599
it's a structure for people to connect and connect face
646
00:40:45.639 --> 00:40:50.239
to face or voice the voice, which is really beautiful.
647
00:40:50.280 --> 00:40:53.800
And I totally acknowledge you in your community for doing that.
648
00:40:54.719 --> 00:40:58.280
Well, tell me about your mission in life? Is this
649
00:40:59.000 --> 00:41:02.760
hundred million? Is that one hundred million joyful and successful
650
00:41:02.800 --> 00:41:04.679
people in the world. How are you going about that?
651
00:41:04.760 --> 00:41:06.840
And where did it come from? Where did you have
652
00:41:06.920 --> 00:41:09.320
this creative genius?
653
00:41:10.360 --> 00:41:14.039
Well, you know, I got to tell you. You know,
654
00:41:15.679 --> 00:41:17.400
I had a lot of missions in my life, and
655
00:41:17.440 --> 00:41:19.840
some of them my fulfilled time, I didn't It turned
656
00:41:19.880 --> 00:41:21.679
out that a lot of those missions were kind of
657
00:41:21.719 --> 00:41:25.280
like trophies that I kept, you know, I had I
658
00:41:25.320 --> 00:41:31.880
did that and did that. Yeah, And this one I
659
00:41:31.920 --> 00:41:36.159
realized that I needed to make a promise that's almost
660
00:41:36.239 --> 00:41:41.199
impossible to keep to get me out of my skin
661
00:41:41.320 --> 00:41:47.679
in a way that was restricting me. And the truth is,
662
00:41:47.840 --> 00:41:51.199
I still really don't quite know how it's going to
663
00:41:51.280 --> 00:41:55.880
come together. But that's the nature of an ontological distinction.
664
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I call being a stand taking a stand or being
665
00:41:58.639 --> 00:42:03.480
a stand. It it has no reason, it's just because.
666
00:42:07.199 --> 00:42:11.679
But it's kind of a cool game to play, and
667
00:42:11.920 --> 00:42:15.239
it then begets a lot of questions. Now I have
668
00:42:15.360 --> 00:42:18.000
some credibility because I've built a two hundred thousand plus
669
00:42:18.039 --> 00:42:20.880
community on meetups. I just sold it off because the
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00:42:20.960 --> 00:42:24.199
organization running it was no longer in integrity. I didn't
671
00:42:24.199 --> 00:42:27.880
say that quite clearly, and so I gave away. I
672
00:42:27.960 --> 00:42:30.800
sold away a lot of those groups. I can restart
673
00:42:30.840 --> 00:42:34.880
that again, but it seems to me that what I'm
674
00:42:34.960 --> 00:42:38.119
doing is really hitting the leaders. So one thing I
675
00:42:38.119 --> 00:42:43.159
didn't mention is the strategy is to unconceal a million
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00:42:43.320 --> 00:42:46.400
leaders who can take on this game. You will take
677
00:42:46.480 --> 00:42:48.800
on this game because it's a leader. You will innoventively
678
00:42:48.880 --> 00:42:52.800
take on this game. So even a million leaders take
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00:42:52.840 --> 00:42:56.400
on one hundred people each and make a difference with
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00:42:56.480 --> 00:43:03.679
one hundred people. Job done, right there. So that's the question. Yeah,
681
00:43:03.719 --> 00:43:06.559
and you know I'm working with readers on that level
682
00:43:07.239 --> 00:43:11.039
right now. Yeah, And it's not noa close to a million,
683
00:43:11.159 --> 00:43:15.119
but uh, you know, I'm I'm concealing. I call it
684
00:43:15.159 --> 00:43:17.840
I'm concealing when I'm revealing to myself and to other
685
00:43:17.960 --> 00:43:22.239
people how we can do this. So it's it's almost
686
00:43:22.280 --> 00:43:25.280
like an unanswerable question, seemingly, but I found that as
687
00:43:25.320 --> 00:43:32.079
you ask unanswerable questions, you start discovering answers. Yeah, it's like,
688
00:43:32.159 --> 00:43:34.760
you know, when Kennedy said we're gonna put up You're
689
00:43:34.800 --> 00:43:36.599
gonna put a man on the moon by the end
690
00:43:36.639 --> 00:43:38.679
of the decade. Even some of the scientists said, we
691
00:43:38.719 --> 00:43:42.840
can't do that. Yeah, and then it beho some scientists say, well,
692
00:43:42.840 --> 00:43:46.280
maybe we're not asking the right questions. So they started
693
00:43:46.320 --> 00:43:49.280
asking the right questions, you know. So the question is
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really not so much how I do this. She's an
695
00:43:51.639 --> 00:43:54.320
important answer question and answer, but who am I going
696
00:43:54.400 -->
00:43:57.679
to be in the course of doing it? So I
697
00:43:57.719 --> 00:43:59.440
had to give up certain ways of being like, this
698
00:43:59.519 --> 00:44:00.960
is the way to do it, you know, you got
699
00:44:00.960 --> 00:44:03.960
to do it by social media, blah blah blah. And
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00:44:04.000 --> 00:44:05.679
I looked at that and said, well, you know, social
701
00:44:05.679 --> 00:44:09.039
media doesn't really by itself create a very outstanding community.
702
00:44:10.360 --> 00:44:14.239
You know, it's people like you who create communities. And
703
00:44:14.320 --> 00:44:17.559
there are people like you who do that that I'd
704
00:44:17.639 --> 00:44:20.400
like to engage with and support as much as possible.
705
00:44:20.840 --> 00:44:22.920
So my support is really from a way of being
706
00:44:23.039 --> 00:44:26.480
or being what Martin Hindeger is a brilliant philosopher said,
707
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being a clearing, which is not about force, but it's
708
00:44:30.079 --> 00:44:33.480
really being a clearing and opening for people to show
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00:44:33.559 --> 00:44:38.679
up as leaders who can make a difference for millions
710
00:44:38.719 --> 00:44:42.760
of people around. So it's been a clearing for that
711
00:44:42.800 --> 00:44:44.480
to occur. That's more important.
712
00:44:45.880 --> 00:44:50.079
That reminds me of the quote by Rumy out there
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as a field, whether there's no right or wrong there,
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00:44:54.960 --> 00:44:57.119
And I love that. And we say that about collaboration
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global when we have conversations and we have some troversial topics,
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we just let's do this, let's talk about Brexit and
717
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the politics and all that kind of thing. And then
718
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obvious say, but there's no right or wrong. So the
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co glow rules are there's no right or wrong. We're
720
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coming from a foundation of love, yes, and we're coming
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with respect for our fellow humans because we are all
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the same under the sun. We are human beings irrespective
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all the labels. Whether you think you're an introvert and extrovert,
724
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would take those labels out the way. Whatever it is,
725
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what color of your skin, what sexual orientation, what gender,
726
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what age, How rich you are, poor, you are take
727
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that out of the way and we can talk about anything.
728
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And when somebody says something and you get triggered, if
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you're in a space if there's no right or wrong,
730
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you're the one that's been triggered. So you have to
731
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work it out. And the only way to work it
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out is to say, in all honesty, what you just
733
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said is triggered to me, and I want to understand it.
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Can you explain why you said that thing? Because I
735
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want to understand it more. And if we're not going
736
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to work up on ourselves, how can we help and
737
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support other people? Yeah, well, well that's part of the
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purpose of coming together as collaboration global we're learning a
739
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different way of being out in that world is fear, scarcity,
740
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in competition, and I don't know if you looked at
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the world recently, it's not working. But in the Codel world,
742
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in our online country, our paradigm is love, connection and abundance,
743
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and that seems to be a different ballgame, and that
744
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seems to be a place where we can have no
745
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right or wrong. We don't have political sides, we don't
746
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have well, if you're you're right, if you're wrong, then
747
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I'm going to defend my right and I'm going to
748
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be right and you're going to be wrong. No, it's
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all made up. Right and wrong is all made up.
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So we don't have to go down that road of
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defending ourselves. So we can listen, then we can hear
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what's being said, and then we can choose, and sometimes
753
00:46:52.400 --> 00:46:56.360
we choose to agree to disagree, but we are more
754
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enlightened as a result of the conversation that I call
755
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a grown up conversation, although some grown ups aren't able
756
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to do it. And it just means that the community
757
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are growing together because they're learning from each other. So
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I love what you're doing. You're bringing good people together
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to get that one hundred million number done. I don't
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know how you're going to measure it. I don't know
761
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how you're going to bring everyone together. But what you'll
762
00:47:23.079 --> 00:47:27.400
find is like goes to like. So in our community,
763
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we have a lot of people with huge followings, but
764
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they are very aligned to what we are aligned to.
765
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00:47:36.119
So it makes sense that their followings will want to
766
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come and find out about us, and our members will
767
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want to go out and find out about them. Because
768
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we don't there's no competition. We don't have that in
769
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collaboration global, so we don't worry about or they're doing
770
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the same thing as us, because no, we're us and
771
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that's them, and let's get together because we're doing something similar.
772
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There's a guy over in New York, Jonathan Rosen, who
773
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says he's my brother, because we are doing the same
774
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thing on different sides of the pond. But it's different.
775
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It's the same, but it's different, and it just and
776
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our members go to his meetings and his members come
777
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to our meetings, and we all get to learn about
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each other along the way.
779
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Oh that's wonderful. What a wonderful model. If you found
780
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a whole bunch of other people I'm sure there are,
781
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you know, you could wow, yeah, make a huge difference
782
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in the world.
783
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Yeah yeah, I mean, have you come across this guy.
784
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This will make you laugh. I've said this before and
785
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I'll say it again. Nick Adkins wears these socks every
786
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day of the year, and he wears a kilt as well,
787
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so you can see these fabulous socks and he gives
788
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them away to people. So he sent a pair over
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to me, and he says, the world is full of good.
790
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When you believe it, you see it. Keep doing that. Oh,
791
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and that's that sort. And he's got you went viral
792
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with this on on things, Instagram or somewhere, and it
793
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is just about good people coming together. Then you can
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make a difference. I have one last question before we up,
795
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which might be a long one. I don't know. You've
796
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got six values. One of our value we've only got three,
797
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but as a lot comes underneath those three. We have
798
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behaviors and mindset that go with it as well, But
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our main one is love and that is our superpower.
800
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You've taken that from
Buck Winster Fuller, who talks about ephemeralization,
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where you can do as you learn more, you can
802
00:49:24.880 --> 00:49:26.960
do more and more with less and less, he said.
803
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But the ultimate ephemeralization is something you can't see, you
804
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can't touch, you can't smell, you can't taste. It's love
805
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and it is our superpower and it's the strongest thing
806
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we have on this planet because it connects every single
807
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human being. Right, So, where in your values and in
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your makeup of who you are and what you do,
809
00:49:49.199 --> 00:49:52.800
where does love stand in the makeup of things?
810
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You know? It's a really good, lovely question because there's
811
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no the thing that I do that isn't based in love.
812
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Everything I do has to be based in love. If
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it's not based in love, I just don't do it.
814
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And that's about all I can really say about that,
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you know. It's it's yeah, love is one of those
816
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things that you don't really need to have a reason for,
817
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but you have every reason in the world to have
818
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in your life. And with love comes the necessity to
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learn how to communicate well, like your collaboration group does
820
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the spending, judgment and righteousness right or wrong, you know.
821
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And but I think we love too. Something that people
822
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don't usually engagement is this arn't and science of creating
823
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chemistry with people.
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You know.
825
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It's there's romantic chemistry for sure, but there's also chemistry
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as peers and chemistry as plain its siblings, you know,
827
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And we don't engage enough in that chemistry as well,
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because I think that also presences love, people, communication and chemistry.
829
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So that's where it shows up for me, is looking
830
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at how I can create that chemistry with within all
831
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the six cornerstones that I have. Love is certainly important.
832
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It's you know, I'm a writer. When I write from love,
833
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there's a certain quality to the article. Yeah, don't write
834
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from love so much. It's still not a bad article,
835
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but there's something missing in it.
836
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It's a bit like when you cook a mail for
837
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someone you love and it's done with care and kindness
838
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and love. It's it's so much better than when you
839
00:52:01.719 --> 00:52:02.760
just fling it all together.
840
00:52:03.760 --> 00:52:07.639
Yeah, my mother, when she was alive, made this fried
841
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fish Indian style, which nobody in the world can mimic.
842
00:52:13.199 --> 00:52:15.119
I've never found it. It just, you know, I tried.
843
00:52:15.199 --> 00:52:17.880
She gave me the recipe to me money. You know,
844
00:52:17.960 --> 00:52:19.639
you should try this and just do it, And I said,
845
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I tried many times a month, but it just never
846
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comes out the way.
847
00:52:23.239 --> 00:52:23.559
You do it.
848
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She sprinkles it with love, that's why. So if you
849
00:52:27.320 --> 00:52:29.039
haven't done that, but you've missed out.
850
00:52:30.719 --> 00:52:34.239
Maybe I can't because she brings a certain maternal love
851
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that yeah.
852
00:52:37.280 --> 00:52:40.199
Yeah, So basically what you're saying is of all your
853
00:52:40.239 --> 00:52:43.840
beautiful values, love is intrinsic within you and within them
854
00:52:44.000 --> 00:52:45.360
as well, which is beautiful.
855
00:52:45.440 --> 00:52:47.079
I would say, so. Yeah. I mean, I hate to
856
00:52:47.320 --> 00:52:51.320
say that it's the King, you know, of my cornerstones,
857
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but I think it's just the seaer by swimming now
858
00:52:55.880 --> 00:53:03.840
or love to swim, and yeah, you know, yeah, I'm
859
00:53:03.920 --> 00:53:08.880
very present to love. I'm blessed with it. I have
860
00:53:09.360 --> 00:53:12.880
people who love me, and I love them. I'm in
861
00:53:12.960 --> 00:53:18.039
communication with them almost every day. I care for them.
862
00:53:18.400 --> 00:53:21.440
You know, there's a carrying that I think has been
863
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missing in my life before that I bring more to
864
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the fourth now than I have before. And I'd love
865
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to see more of that carrying show up in the
866
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world because it's just missing, you know. Yeah. So yeah, yeah,
867
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thank you, good question, Thank you.
868
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If if you were to be remembered for something fifty
869
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years down the line and everyone goes, oh, yes, smil oh,
870
00:53:52.599 --> 00:53:53.440
I remember him.
871
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What would you like to be remembered for, you know,
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I would say humor and a sense of irony.
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--> 00:54:06.239
Oh that's good.
874
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Irony, you know where you know, irony is in many
875
00:54:10.719 --> 00:54:13.840
many forms, but there's a dramatic irony, But I like
876
00:54:14.280 --> 00:54:18.280
philosophical irony, where you know, humor explores this a lot
877
00:54:18.440 --> 00:54:21.400
right where you there's a surface truth that people kind
878
00:54:21.440 --> 00:54:23.960
of bandy about, you know, Oh, I'm this kind of person,
879
00:54:24.559 --> 00:54:27.280
but then the real truth is you're not quite that person.
880
00:54:28.559 --> 00:54:31.000
But that journey between the surface truth and the core
881
00:54:31.159 --> 00:54:36.880
truth is it's irony, but it's also transformation, and that
882
00:54:37.679 --> 00:54:39.800
journey can be done, doesn't have to be done in
883
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a dramatic way. It can be done with humor and lightness.
884
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So I try to impart that to my nephews as
885
00:54:45.679 --> 00:54:48.280
much as I can without being too significant and dramatic
886
00:54:48.360 --> 00:54:51.679
about it, and everybody around me, you know, I leave
887
00:54:51.719 --> 00:54:55.159
a little bit of irony about it, about life that
888
00:54:55.400 --> 00:54:59.639
maybe it's not that significant. You Brits are really good
889
00:54:59.679 --> 00:55:02.119
at it, uh when you can be.
890
00:55:03.760 --> 00:55:06.760
So, I've been told, Yeah, it's interesting, isn't it. How
891
00:55:07.119 --> 00:55:11.440
some humor doesn't translate the same language supposedly, but it
892
00:55:11.519 --> 00:55:16.719
doesn't translate across the fond interesting. Thank you so much,
893
00:55:16.800 --> 00:55:19.519
so I think it's I wish you every success with
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your mission. I think it's a beautiful one to hold deer,
895
00:55:23.199 --> 00:55:25.000
and if I can help you in any way with that,
896
00:55:25.239 --> 00:55:27.599
I will be more than happy to share that with
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my community and beyond. I love all of your values
898
00:55:32.880 --> 00:55:35.039
and what they stand for. If somebody wanted to find
899
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out more about you, or maybe read some of your
900
00:55:37.199 --> 00:55:40.639
books that you've written or your articles, what's the easiest
901
00:55:40.679 --> 00:55:42.960
way of you of them to get in touch with you.
902
00:55:43.480 --> 00:55:47.320
The recording shows my name the correct spelling too. Thank
903
00:55:47.360 --> 00:55:53.880
you X that's mine. But baskroom dot com or baskroom
904
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on LinkedIn. There's another gentleman by the basket and heads.
905
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I think Tata Industries are a big company in Yeah,
906
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you'll see this photograph looks nothing like me, but yeasroom
907
00:56:08.760 --> 00:56:12.719
dot com or connect with me on LinkedIn. You can
908
00:56:12.880 --> 00:56:15.960
join my substack. I have a substat under my name
909
00:56:16.039 --> 00:56:20.800
to Bastron and you can also come on LinkedIn and
910
00:56:20.920 --> 00:56:27.119
join my free newsletter called The Whisper and you can
911
00:56:27.280 --> 00:56:29.480
read my writings that I do very often.
912
00:56:31.199 --> 00:56:34.400
Thank you, and hopefully Son will be coming to a
913
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Collaboration Global session soon. We can be introducing him to remember,
914
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so if you want to come along as a guest
915
00:56:40.280 --> 00:56:43.159
to that session, you can just go to Collaboration Global
916
00:56:43.280 --> 00:56:47.079
dot org and sign yourself up and hopefully meet myself
917
00:56:47.239 --> 00:56:50.079
and Soneil at one of the next sessions. That'd be great.
918
00:56:50.800 --> 00:56:52.800
Thank you again. So now it's been an absolute joey
919
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and I'm sure our piles will cross very soon.
920
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I'm sure.
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Well, thank you,