Parenting Doctors Podcast

Parenting Doctors Podcast
By Dr. Daniel van Ingen
About this podcast
In five minutes or less, get powerful strategies for effective parenting. Dr. Daniel van Ingen illustrates evidence-based parenting strategies through stories and clear-cut examples. Dr. van Ingen is a Licensed Psychologist, Researcher, National Speaker, & Author of Anxiety Disorders Made Simple: Treatment Approaches to Overcome Fear and Build Resiliency. Dr. Sarah van Ingen is a Professor, Consultant, Author, and Speaker on Teacher Preparation and Mathematics Education. Dan and Sarah together formed the Parenting Doctors.
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Latest episodes
Feb. 16, 2018
Sports has three goals for kids: 1.  To learn how to follow directions from somebody besides your parent; 2. To develop character which including learning to be unselfish; 3. To have FUN!   In this brief podcast, I identify a key book that every sports parent should read.  John Tauer's book,  Why LESS is MORE for WOSPs (Well-Intentioned, Overinvolved Sports Parents): How to Be the Best Sports Parent You Can Be
Feb. 9, 2018
You can Agree   Or   You can Negotiate   The goal of negotiation is three-fold:   Develop PUP – poise under pressure Help children Accept that they have choices. They don’t have to agree.  Reinforces negotiation and teaches them to think critically.
Feb. 2, 2018
This is a large topic.  Some of the keys include what parents can do and what teachers can do. Besides psychological treatment, let's discuss some things parents can do.  I remind us of the behavioral rehearsal, specifically the goodbye ritual.  Another reminder of healthy attachment with two moments of warmth per day.   A reminder of the importance of speaking good into our children / and calling good out of them.   Some things for teachers to consider, besides parents open to their words and influence, thus maintaining open communication with parents to give them that chance, and open communication with the counselor, include scaling anxiety and safe zones - while sensitive of potential for avoidance.  
Jan. 26, 2018
This is a large topic but I wanted to give you some quick solutions.  First, we need to be aware of how the meltdown may be behavioral, emotional, or an attachment issue.  Second, we want to address the issue of reinforcement - there are things we do that reinforce tantrums.  "You must go to the coffee appt."  "You must go to the job interview."  Or, the child needs to go to school.   I provide an example of a goodbye ritual that can make a difference.  
Dec. 4, 2017
We have an extensive video on our youtube channel that articulates the five golden coins of loving angry children!  Check us out at www.parentingdoctors.com This podcast focuses on the key points in a few minutes.  
Oct. 25, 2017
Children will go down the rabbit holes of negative cycles.  Sometimes these cycles include manipulation or passive aggressive behavior.  Parents can nip these behaviors in the bud by speaking good into children.  Nip Negative Cycles in the Bud by Speaking Good Into Children!
March 8, 2017
In our first parenting podcast of the year, we return to explore decision making.  Many parents are susceptible to approaching their parenting as maximizers versus Satisficers.  Maximizers will go to 10 stores in order to find the perfect pair of jeans.  Satisficers will be content with the jeans at the first store because they are "good enough."  So often, we as parents put our "maximizer mentality" on our kids.  This mentality is a new kind of "snowplow parenting" (the cousin of the helicopter parent), but they inevitably plow before the snow comes.   Nothing is good enough.   Hard to please. Unwilling to sit with coaches, teachers, or pastors to work through problems.  Instead, moving on becomes the norm for parents seeking the Perfect "fill in the blank."    
March 8, 2017
In our first parenting podcast of the year, we return to explore decision making.  Many parents are susceptible to approaching their parenting as maximizers versus Satisficers.  Maximizers will go to 10 stores in order to find the perfect pair of jeans.  Satisficers will be content with the jeans at the first store because they are “good enough.”  So often, we as parents put our “maximizer mentality” on our kids.  This mentality is a new kind of “snowplow parenting” (the cousin of the helicopter parent), but they inevitably plow before the snow comes.   Nothing is good enough.   Hard to please. Unwilling to sit with coaches, teachers, or pastors to work through problems.  Instead, moving on becomes the norm for parents seeking the Perfect “fill in the blank.”    
Sept. 30, 2016
This completes our four recommendations for balanced families: 1) Family Dinners 2) Two moments of warmth with each child per day And parts 3 and 4 are completed in this podcast: 3) Consistency - when parents are perceived as reliable... 4) Rituals and Traditions - the bedrock of healthy families....
Sept. 23, 2016
Growth Versus Fixed Traits In Our Children:  Why We Sometimes Restrict Emotional Development?   Some parents will say "Oh, he's just shy!" Or, "he's got a rebellious streak."  These types of comments over-emphasize fixed character traits and undervalue the reality that our children are on a path of growth and development.