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Now, this next guest needs no
introduction because he's been on our show a
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few times, and I know that
you've expressed appreciation for his journey as not
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only a man, but as an
author and as a youth advocate, and
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so it warms my heart to invite
Geno Medello's back to today's show to tell
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us a little bit more about his
journey as well as more inspiration behind his
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book. Gino, We're so happy
to have you back on today's program.
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How are you today? I'm good? How are you? I'm doing pretty
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good. You know, I know
that you were just getting over a cold,
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and you know you still found the
energy to be on the segment with
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us today. So we genuinely appreciate
your time and your care, especially to
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get to get your story out there. Thank you for that, no problem,
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Thanks for having me. Now,
I do want my audience to just
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remember ember a little bit more about
your story, because I think it's such
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a powerful story of your journey through
the foster care system. And can you
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briefly describe for us, you know, your experience as a foster care youth
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and how you became an advocate for
them, and then how that influenced your
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decision to become an author the threefold
question in the one, first your journey
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as a foster care youth, and
then your advocacy work, and then now
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you're being an author. So the
journey itself as a child going through the
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system, I would describe it in
a word as horrific. It definitely had
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challenges that most people can't imagine.
And as an adult looking back, it's
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funny because I just finished the final
read through of my book last weekend,
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and I can get I'm so detached
from from that stage of my life that
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it almost feels like I'm reading someone
else's story. I've decided just to well.
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I think when one of our previous
interviews, you had asked me what
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made me decide to write? And
I've always loved writing. It was instilled
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in me by my seventh and eighth
grade lead English teacher that writing is a
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tre tremendous tool. And it was
a chance encounter with Maya Angelo in the
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early two thousands that sort of inspired
me to get going on it. I've
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always believed that I had a powerful
story, but it's one thing to believe
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it, and it's another thing to
heal from it, so I needed to
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get to the other side of that
struggle, and my conversation with Miss Angelo
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really helped with that because she was
just so giving and so genuine, and
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it was her that said to me, excuse me, fly, that I
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needed to write it down, even
if I never showed it to anyone,
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it would help me heal. And
she was right, and that's sort of
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what started this process for me,
and it just it's taken me twenty years.
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I needed It's interesting. I was
thinking about it last night and I
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stopped the book. I stopped writing
the book right at the point where my
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mom came into my life, and
I never really picked it up again until
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my mom started to decline her health, and I think that's what I needed.
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I needed that finality and I needed
to get her through the end of
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her life before I could really delve
into the last part of my book,
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which is predominantly about my time with
her and her stability and what she created
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for me in my life. Wow
oooh, that is powerful. That is
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powerful. And through that journey,
you also became a very passionate advocate for
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our young people. Can you tell
me a little bit about what motivated you
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to do that because you know,
there are many people who go through the
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foster care system and and you know
they successfully do many other things, there
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are few that will come back and
advocate for those other youths. And why
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have you chosen to do that?
I think for me, that's a really
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good question. And it started sort
of organically when I was in college.
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I reached back out to a private
foster care organization that I was with to
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help me pay for it. And
I have this impression in my head of
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what the last social worker that I
worked with with that particular organization had told
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me, and he basically made me
feel. No, he didn't make me
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feel He's straight up said that they
don't support people who are dead. And
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nothing could have been further from the
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truth. So when I came back,
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I came back to ask for them
to help pay for college, and I
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kind of came back with a chip
on my shoulder. And it was right
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around the time that the organization that
was called the Casey Family Program was starting
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to really recognize the diversity of foster
care children, not in just in race,
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but also in how they identify.
And the director at the time,
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her name was Carmen said, sat
me down in her office. She said,
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whatever you think you know, you
don't know, and she really encouraged
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me to talk about it. With
my experience what it was like for foster
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parents when I was a child,
as far as coming to terms with my
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sexuality, there are a lot of
nuances involved in that. You're when you
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have your own biological child, let
alone a foster child, you don't you're
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under much more of a microscope.
And I took the opportunity to work with
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the agency and their perspective foster parents
because I felt like it was important that
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they understand one little comment is going
to affect a foster child quite differently than
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it's going to affect their biological child. And that was sort of the typical
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experience that I had growing up.
Was you know, I was not the
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most masculine boy, and a lot
of parents struggled with that, and it
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I just felt some tremendous sense of
responsibility to help give back because it was
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so I was so fortunate in so
many ways that so many kids are not.
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And as much as I hate to
think that it was because of my
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race, it was and it's not
right. I know I had more advantages
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as a blonde hair, blue white
kid than my black or Hispanic or Asian
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counterparts, and that, to me
was an injustice that I felt very strongly
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that I needed to help try to
correct. Wow, thank you for sharing
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that. Thank you for that authenticity
and no doubt your journey through the foster
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care system and then now going back
and getting back and now you're at this
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point now in your life where you're
nearing the completion of your book. Did
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the foster care experience shape your desire
to publish this? And I know it
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sounds like a no brainer question,
but I want to ask it because I
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want to hear your thoughts on that
you know, no which is probably going
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to surprise you and my readers.
What shaped my decision to write and finish
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this book were two things, my
children and my mom. I wanted to
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leave something behind for my kids,
because kids don't really know their parents,
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and especially kids that are adopted or
you become their legal guardians later in life,
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they don't know what your journey is. And I felt at the time
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that I started it that it was
really important that they hear my voice,
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they hear they see they were,
that they be able to see what I
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came from, which might explain some
of the decisions that I made the time
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when they were growing up. And
then also when my mom started to decline,
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I felt it was important to honor
her, and it sort of evolved
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into what it is now, which
is hopefully a voice for the kids that
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are in the system, because what
I'm still seeing happening as I, you
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know, do interviews and reach out
to other organizations, is that a lot
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of the system is much better about
preparing foster foster parents now than it was
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when I was a kid, but
there are still a lot of nuances and
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a lot of little things that are
getting missed. And I just felt this
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it was time to to to be
that voice for those kids and to leave
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something for my kids to go,
oh, okay, that makes more sense.
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Wow. It wasn't my experience,
it's necessary. It wasn't necessarily my
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experience as a child. It was
more my experience as an adult and what
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got me through some of the most
difficult times of my life. And looking
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back, I was only able to
succeed as an adult because I was able
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to let go of what happened as
a child, and that's really hard for
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a lot of people to do,
and it takes a lot of work,
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a lot of work. That is
so I'm gonna be honest with you.
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Your answer did shock me, but
in a good way because it makes so
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much sense and it's it's for me. It's like listening to you speak,
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it's one of those aha moments,
like
that's like, yeah, that,
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Yeah, that would be the reason
why you would want to write a stay.
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Yeah, you want to leave something
behind for those that you love,
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you know, in a way that
does help them to understand who you are
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and maybe even helps them to understan
who they are in their experiences with you.
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I mean, that is such a
profound thought, Gino. I don't
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think I've ever heard anybody put it
quite that way. And I don't want
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on a just gloss over what you
stated that. Thank you for that.
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I want to move on on to
our next question because in your book you
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cover a lot pretty quickly. But
what key message or things do you aim
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to share with the readers. Well, I have two audiences I'm trying to
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capture at the same time I'm trying
to capture well, actually three, I'm
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trying to capture the attention of the
children, that are in this system right
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now say hey, listen, I've
been there. See this is what I
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went through. Also trying to capture
the attention of the people that are caring
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for them, and I'm also trying
to capture the attention of the public at
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large. So when I tell the
story, I've kind of tried to remove
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the emotion of it, and I
try to tell the story matter of factly.
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It's just this is the way that
it was. And the overall message
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that I'm hoping to get through to
all three of those audiences is perseverance and
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self believing in yourself, because that's
the hardest part when you these kids.
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From the minute they're stripped away from
their family, they're traumatized. Forget what
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got them stripped away from their family. That just compounds the trauma, and
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then they're put into a strange environment, so there's another trauma, and it's
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just one after another after another after
another, And by the time you land
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on someone's doorstep or at an institution, you've already been through more trauma than
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most people can imagine their their entire
life. And I want, especially especially
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the kids, to understand that it
might seem right now like you're never gonna
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come out to anything, and you're
no one really cares. But
nothing could
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be further from the truth. As
an adult in my fifties, I can
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look back and I can see that
even the bad foster parents, even the
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people that I ride about that were
horrific, they all touched my life.
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And that's the message I want to
get through to prospective foster parents. Whether
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you're an emergency foster home, whether
you're you know, a counselor at an
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institution, whether you're a therapist,
whether you're a social worker, every interaction
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you have with those kids, haven't
you have a chance to impact their life,
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and you will impact their life.
The things that I can remember are
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insane. I still remember the name
of my first social worker. She's still
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alive and she lives in the same
county as I do. I haven't talked
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to her. But the power that
we as adults have on a child is
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a lot deeper than I think we
realize, and most people realize. You
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know, we just grow up and
we do. We do, we do,
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we raise our kids and we go
about life. And what I've seen
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lacking so far in a lot of
kids in it, whether they're foster,
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adopted or biological is I feel sometimes
like this generation and I know our parents
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have the same thing about us and
their parents have the same thing about them.
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But what I'm seeing is a tremendous
lack of appreciation. And what I
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realized is I was the same way
as a young adult. But once you're
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able to let the appreciation in for
the people that helped you get to where
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you are, then you're able to
really live an authentic life. Having an
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attitude like oh, I got here
by myself is not going to get you
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anywhere. You have to let that
in. There's just so many different pieces
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of the story that of the reality
of the system, that it's hard to
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put it into one little packaged answer. I could shoot out in five hundred
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different directions. Perseverance, appreciation,
gratitude, those are the strongest messages,
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I think, even for me.
One of the most horrific and abusive foster
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homes that I had as a teenager, and I still struggle with the direction
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my life was headed when
I came
to that family, and the direction and
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I just kept basically made a hard
right turn. It was beaten into me,
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and I don't condone that in any
way, shape or form. But
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is a fifty three year old man. Now I look back and I think
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what if I hadn't, where would
I have gone? How would what would
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I? And those are lifelong things
that you just I just have to process
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through. It is what it is. I got through it, and it
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did change me and I did get
some good things from it. And I'm
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choosing as an adult to pick to
pick and pull from the good, not
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the bad. Of course I write
about all of it, but for me,
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I carry the good and I found
good in all of them. Wow.
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Wow, that is that attitude that
definitely shows that you've this is a
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journey. And I think helping other
young ones who share similar experiences to find
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that piece, to find the good
and their experiences is is needed. And
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you're needed. Your story is needed. So thank you for being great just
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enough to share it and and and
to lend your voice for our youth.
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Now, how did your your own
personal experience and the foster care system shape
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the content of your book? Because
obviously your book you talk about not just
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foster care, but you know just
your your life and its entirety. So
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but how did your personal experiences in
the foster care system shape your book content.
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Well, I mean, it's a
memoir, so it's about me.
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It's about my experiences, and you
know, there are there are a lot
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of people that I'm certainly not the
only one. I think. What's a
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little unique about my book is that
I grew up in a time in this
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country, during the AIDS pandemic and
coming to you know, coming to terms
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with my sexuality while in the system, and while how foster parents that were
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openly hostile towards gay people. Those
are things that foster parents don't realize have
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an impact on the children they're caring
for. And so when I write the
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book. When I wrote the book, I wrote the book to tell that
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part of the story. It's sort
of a it's not just a coming of
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age story. It's not just a
story about abuse. But it's also a
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story about discovering who I was and
finding my voice. And there are a
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lot of pieces to that. And
thankfully I just had a strong constitution,
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I guess, and once I realized
I was gay, that was it.
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It wasn't my problem anymore with everybody
else. Actually it really wasn't. I
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got super lucky. I didn't lose
any friends, or have anybody walk out
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of my life. So I guess
because it's a memoir and it's about me,
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that's kind of how it shape all
right. I appreciate that. Thank
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you, And so what do you
hope readers, particularly foster character us,
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we'll take away from reading your book
that there's always hope, that even when
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you think you're at the darkest and
the lowest, there's always hope, and
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there's always a light at the end
of the top unnel. You just have
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to hold hold on. Yeah,
that's powerful. Thank you, and I
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do strongly desire foster care professionals and
advocates to not only pick up a copy
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of your book, but too to
utilize it as a resource in helping our
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young people. I'm so excited that
this book is is soon to come into
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our hands. The launches is right
around the corner. But I do want
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my readers and my listeners to end
my audience as well as your audience to
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know where we can pick up a
copy of the book when it does come
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out, or even when you hit
the pre sales. How can we access
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this book? Where can we go? Well, first, I'm going to
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put the first kind of a teaser
on my website at Chiomadaras dot com and
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it will be available on my website. It will also be available on Amazon,
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and I haven't really gotten further than
that because pretty much nowadays everything's on
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Amazon. So I'm going to start
easy, you know, I'm not going
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to try to over Hopefully local books
stores will carry it and we'll just see
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where it goes from there. That's
brilliant. Yeah, Amazon is the way
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to go for all publisher today,
including those that have been around for over
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a hundred years. So wise choice
there. So everybody, you can take
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a look at the links and the
description of the show wherever you are listening
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I'm watching, and you'll be able
to click right there to Geno's website to
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stay updated on on everything that Gino
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Before We Let You Go, I
want to just again and express my
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deep appreciation for you taking the time
to be with us today. But more
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importantly, I'm speaking to our young
people and reminding them that they have a
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voice and that if they just hold
on and hope and endure, things are
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going to get better. So thanks, thank you for that that message,
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Gino. Before We let you Go, is there anything else you would like
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to share? No, I'm excited
to get the book released. I encourage
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people to go to my website.
You can send me messages directly through my
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website or on social media. I'd
love to hear from you once you've read
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it, and I encourage you to
share it and yeah and do what you
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can to make a difference. Beautiful
parting words of advice. Thank you so
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much for that, and Gino again, you know that you always have a
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place here on The Joseph Bonner Show, on any and all of our programs,
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we always welcome you as a guest. Please know that you can always
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come back anytime. I appreciate that. Now, before we let you guys
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go at home, I do want
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word from our partners. But before
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everyone that today's show is brought to
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that three times fast, who continue
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through human rights laws as well as
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poverty. I want to thank everyone
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our programs. Gino, we want
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the Bully Avengers and our initiatives there. We appreciate everything that you've done for
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us as an organization and your support
continue you all to continue to shine,
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continue to believe, and as Gino's
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and I think we all can take
that with us home tonight and meditate
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on that and have a better,
better day, and a better week and
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hopefully a better year ahead. Gino
again, great interview, and thank you
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again for being on today's show.
We really appreciate you. Thank you.
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We want to welcome you to this
next special segment on our program now,
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doctor Ario King. She is an
international business advisor, but before traversing the
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realm of business advisory, she has
done some phenomenal things in the spectrum of
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human rights and advocating for our children
and our youth. We are thrilled to
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have her as a guest on today's
program and we like to give and extend
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a warm welcome to the show,
Doctor King. Welcome. Thank you so
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much, Bis de Bonnor and the
audience. It's wonderful to be here today
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to speak with you. Doctor King, you are the founder of Aerial King
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Solutions. As a business advisor,
you help companies and organization. I'm really
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navigating through the aspects of international growth, and I think with a lot of
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small business this is out there,
and even some of the bigger firms out
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there who are finding it difficult to
expand, especially during the time of a
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global recession. I really think that
learning and gaining some insight into the process,
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as in some simple forms of the
people, will actually help business organizations
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take that next step, take that
leap of faith, as it were,
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and go international. So, doctor
King, first of all, before we
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ask you questions more pertained towards that, I would like to ask you,
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how did you get started in the
field of business advisory and why international?
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Now? Thank you so much better
running for that question. I've been quite
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fortunate from a very early age,
I would say, from twenty years old,
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to be able to go to various
countries internationally, including Asia, Africa,
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Europe and later South America. As
someone who grew up in a family
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of entrepreneurs, including my mother who
had her own business as a clinical psychologist
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with testing and also just with helping
people in their daily lives.
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with building businesses or excuse me,
building buildings. I grew up in a
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family of entrepreneurs. Entrepreneurship in business
has been a part of my life for
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all of my life. I had
decided to get into international affairs and specifically
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specifically international business as I learned about
the various issues between various not just countries,
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but actually various cultures. And I've
learned very early that what could it
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be expected in one culture in a
business cannot necessarily be translated or expected in
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another culture. I found that to
be absolutely fascinating because we as human beings,
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of course, have some of the
same goals and some of the same
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parts of life. We want our
families to do well, we want to
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do well, we want to educate
our families, and we want our business
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and to be successful. And I
found it quite interesting that what would work
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in one country or one culture does
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culture. And as a result of
that, I've spent about thirty plus years
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not just studying, but actually helping
various universities, businesses, and geos and
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also multilateral organizations actually learn how to
partner with others in other countries and also
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how to traverse sometimes those difficult bridges
that actually can connect businesses and people.
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Fantastic and it's so nice that you
have a background with working on the international
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scene and spectrum. You mentioned working
with universities and organizations. Can you tell
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us a little bit about what that
work looked like. Yes, I mean,
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you know, because all the every
organization, every university, even governments
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are quite different. You know.
The first thing that you do is you
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sit down and you try to figure
out is this something that they really want
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or is this something that they say
they want because they need to take the
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box and said, you know,
we asked for it, but it's not
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working. Once I realize that this
is something that they really want and it
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really is a goal, then we
actually do an assessment of what's there now,
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what resources are there now, and
even more importantly, where did they
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think they want to go for Let
me give you an example for a university.
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We had a university that was quite
a large university that decided that it
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wanted to go from a local known
within the country to international and what we
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were able to do is to go
and have various meetings with various people who
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were not just in the local area, but that wanted to do international and
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we were able to look at their
five year strategic plan, look at their
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budgeting, and then figure out how
we could actually use their plan and their
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budgeting to integrate an international focus into
their particular university. We were able to
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do that and as a result,
they were able to get more funding,
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and even more importantly, they were
able to connect internationally what they do as
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a university nationally to the international FAUA. That's just one example. Wow,
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fantastic And what were the results of
that, Well, the results were quite
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immediate. Actually, the results were
that they were able to connect to international
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ambassadors from other countries. They were
able to have those ambassadors actually represent them
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as a university in other countries and
that means within the international flora. And
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then in addition to that, they
were able to allow their students to actually
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experience some experience through service doing things
in other countries. So they were able
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to allow their students to do that. Overall, they were able to get
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more funding because they were able to
show that they went from basically a national
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university to truly an international university.
Wow. Absolutely, and I can already
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see the monetary benefits, especially for
a university taking their brand international, we're
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able to obviously work with a lot
more studentally. And I guess that kind
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of answers my next question, but
I still want to ask it. Can
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you tell us a little bit about
what the benefits are of taking your organization
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internationally well? In today's connected society, young people are already connected internationally.
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It's not just on social media.
But young people
don't see the same boundaries
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and borders that many of us have
seen or have grown up with. So
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as a result, going internationally or
being internationally connected is an absolute. It's
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something that has to be done in
order to stay in business, and especially
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since most of our young people when
I say young people were talking about from
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eleven years old to twenty five,
twenty eight, they're already connected internationally.
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So what businesses have to do is
just follow the trend of what's happening within
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our world. Connecting internationally doesn't have
to be so complicated, but it doesn't
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have to be intentional. And when
you're connecting internationally and businesses connect to internationally,
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they also have to realize that one
culture, as I said, does
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not translate into another culture. Even
some of the same words in English do
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not translate the same way in each
culture. So it's really important for businesses
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to figure out what do they think
they want to do, even if they
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want to start out small. How
would they like to represent themselves internationally?
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What would they like to do in
terms of connection? How would they like
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to benefit those in another country,
which is just as important as doing business.
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How would you like to contribute to
the young people or to the people
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within that particular culture. It makes
all the difference in the world. So
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for business, either get connected internationally
or find that somehow your business won't necessarily
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shrink, but it definitely cannot grow. Great great response there, doctor King,
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My next question in regards to expanding
a person's brand and business internationally is
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kind of important. How important would
you say is social media when it comes
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to taking your brand international? I
believe that social media is very important,
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but we also have to look at
the fact that not all social media goes
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across all cultures. For example,
many people know that TikTok is not in
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China. There are other mediums that
we use for business connection. For example,
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WhatsApp is not used in many Asian
countries. So social media is important,
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but it's really important also to make
sure that what's being put on social
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media is considered appropriate and also what
social media is being used is considered appropriate.
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So part going international is really understanding
the lay of the land, depending
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on if you're going to be going
international in Asia, South Asia, various
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parts of Africa, and also understanding
culture, not just culture in terms of
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language and fluent, but culture in
terms of using various words, using various
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colors, making sure that it's not
an insult, because sometimes words that we
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use that are quite kind and we
use all the time, are actually an
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absolute insult. So it's really important
for us to really engage people on an
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international level in a way that is
positive for them, that makes them feel
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that, wow, these are people
that understand me. These are people that
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know who I am and what's important
to me. And as a result of
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that, not just branding, but
there's a connection from business to business,
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from person to person, from culture
to culture that's absolutely phenomenal, Doctor King.
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And it's so true. Even when
I was out today in India,
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I was it was pouring rain,
as it sometimes does in this island,
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and so I was already not in
a great mood we were going, yeah,
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and we're doing this interaction and the
first thing, somebody behind me comes
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up and interrupts while I'm doing my
first order. But in India, they
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at least in the island that I'm
on, all they all do that.
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It's just what they do. And
I think part of the issue was is
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the guy didn't also didn't have help, so you know, he has to
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make sure that he responds to each
client when they come, whether they interrupt
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somebody or not, because if you
don't, could potentially lose that money and
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you can't really afford to do that
in India. So you know, obviously,
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being from America irritated me thoroughly because
because you know, we don't do
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that in America. We don't.
But then I checked myself. Yeah,
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yeah, I just checked myself.
I said, you know what, this
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is a different culture, and this
is this is his life, this is
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his business. He has to do
this so that he doesn't miss his client.
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He has a family defeat. So
there you do have to situations,
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especially if you're taking your business able
to understand so that you, like you
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said, doctor King, not that
you don't end up offending somebody and then
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end up losing more in the long
run. I really think that's why it's
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so important for organizations to have someone
like you on their team that can help
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navigate and guide them through that process
so that their brand is enhanced and flourishes
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internationally and not the opposite. Absolutely
very important, and it's not just by
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region but also a country by country. As a person who has traveled to
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India and have stayed for long periods
of time, but not just something I've
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been to over I think now it's
something like seventy eight countries, and in
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many countries, many times it's truly
important to understand the culture and to understand
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what's important within the culture and some
of the unspoken rules, because you know,
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no matter who we are, where
we are, we all have unspoken
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rules that we just know. And
when you don't know the culture, you
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don't know the language, then you
don't know the unspoken rules. And the
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inn spoken rules are just as important
as those that are written, seen or
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known, so makes all the difference. And you were talking about that when
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they even came to shopping. So
the person who interrupted understood that does an
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unspoken rule, and that unspoken rule
is well, you know, if I
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need something, and I think I
can give him just as much money or
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more. He's going to take me
first, right, That's not something that's
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going to be there, But it's
an unspoken rule, and unspoken rules are
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just as important. And also protocol
is important. So we also work with
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governments, we work with multilateral organizations
including the United Nations, European Parliament,
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and protocol is basically just another fancy
way of saying rules of engagement. What
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are the rules for working with each
other, speaking with each other, engaging
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with each other? What are the
rules? And that's a protocol is so
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Also I'm a protocol specialist and have
been for years. I love what I
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do and really find it quite quite
engaging to be able to help those who
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are trying to communicate with each other
from different cultures in different countries on an
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international governmental level, to do so
with rules. And of course, as
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business owners, we want to know
what the bottom line is, and of
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course it translates to money, you
know, yes, exactly, sometimes it's
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money, but you know what's really
interesting, Sometimes there are things that money
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can't buy, and that's reputation.
And sometimes reputation makes all the difference in
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order to not just have money,
but long term engagement within a country,
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right, not short term blast engagement
of blast having money or I would say
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having a row of income, but
also long term engagement, a long term
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understanding of the culture and a long
term relationship within the culture. And many
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people look for them, but meant
there's a long term relationship there. But
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isn't that doesn't that also translate to
money, right, I mean that's profit.
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So yeah, and I think that
I think that's the bottom line.
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I think people people want to to
find a way to support not only their
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their families and their and their business, but also, like you said,
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their entire brand and and and their
reputation internationally. And that's going to translate
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to becoming more financially stable in an
economically difficult, uh you know, society
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right now. And so I think
that being able to navigate through these ups
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and downs and twist and turns of
the international world, it's extremely imp important
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for business owners and having an advisor, And I'm just coming right back to
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this same point, having an advisor
to guide you through that process instead of
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trying to do it on your by
yourself and on your own, which can
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take years. Have somebody that can
guide you to the in a few weeks
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or in a few months. It
just makes more sense. And that's what
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you do. You provide where you
think you want to go. And well
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also it might even help to focus
where you think you want to go and
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what you want to do, because
sometimes we have all these ideas of what
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we think we want to do and
have goals, but those goals haven't been
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necessarily i won't say tested, but
known whether they match the market in which
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a person would like to work.
So it's really important also just to start
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out with the basic questions, answer
the basic questions, and then set goals
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and have those goals then be fulfilled
internationally. So yes, it really does
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make a big difference absolutely, And
what are those basic questions and what are
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those goals and how does one navigate
through that? This is I think where
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you come in after King, So
I I do want people to be able
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to understand that as as they navigate
through this or even set the goal to
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navigate through this international world and take
their business internationally, they're not alone and
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that they do have someone out there
who can support and guide their business.
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And as for Aerial King Solutions,
so I think it's so important right now
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that people know that there are support
and help, and that there are people
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like you, Doctor Kings, who
are out there in this world who have
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created organizations and businesses to provide them
with that support. Yes, and it's
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a pleasure. And we really love
connecting people internationally and watching them grow and
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develop. And you've done that for
a lot of people individually and including organizations.
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And I'll even add my own organization
in that, so you know,
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we appreciate it, even your support
and helping us tackle international realms that we
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had not yet done before we had
a chance to interact with you. So
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your expertise as well as your track
record of success is phenomenal and I can
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speak firsthand to it. For all
of those who are listening are watching this,
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I do want you to know that
you also can connect with doctor Ariel
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King and even help expand your business
internationally. Just follow the links and the
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00:41:15.000
description of the show wherever you are
listening are watching. It will take you
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to her website as well as to
her social media handles where you guys can
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reach out and work with doctor King. It will be one of the best
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decisions you make in twenty twenty three
for ultimate success in twenty twenty four,
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Doctor King, Is there anything else
you'd like to share with us before we
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let you go? I'd just like
to say thank you so much for this
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interview, and also no need to
fear connecting internationally, no need to be
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stressed. I'm here, I'm willing
and able and looking forward to helping you
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connect in twenty twenty street in order
to make your dreams come to internationally.
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In twenty twenty four. Absolutely phenomenal, and we thank you. Thank you
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for that, Doctor King. Now, for all of those who are listening
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or watching at home, we want
to express appreciation to you for being our
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supports. But before we do let
you go, we do want you to
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stay tuned and listen to a word
from you all to a very very special
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segment today. I want to thank
you all for joining us on our nationally
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syndicated podcasts. Founder Magazine appreciate all
of you for your continued support of our
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brand. Are you maybe watching this
on television as well? We want to
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thank you so much for supporting the
Joseph Bonnard Television Network and we're I guess
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not surprised for many of you to
see a friendly and familiar face on our
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program, and that is Fractional CEO
Kevin Willer. Today we're going to be
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speaking to Kevin on a few different
subjects. Actually, take a look at
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the description of the show. You
kind of already got a good idea of
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where the show is headed. So
we definitely appreciate you for tuning in,
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and we're super excited to have Kevin
and welcoming back for another segment. Kevin,
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thank you so much for joining us. How are you? I am
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fantastic. Thank you, Joseph love
love everything you're doing. You're a fantastic
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human. So I just wanted to
say that, But I am doing well.
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Oh Kevin, I I appreciate that. Well. We appreciate you know,
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support like yours definitely gives me encouragement
and inspiration to continue to try to
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make a difference in today's world.
So I appreciate you. And now,
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where where are you at in the
world right now? I am physically in
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Mount Pleasant, Texas, out in
East Texas. How's the weather out there?
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Hot? Kind of like that for
everyone, huh. You know,
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I'm plused to not to be engaged
in any kind of poor weather like the
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wonderful people you know, in Florida
and up the the East coast. But
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it's you know, hot muggy.
It's all good though. I love I
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love that, you know. It's
so interesting too, because when you travel
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the world and you get a chance
to meet so many different people, and
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even when you're in places like you
know, a little small towns and in
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America, I meet so many people, Kevin, and I'm always wondering about
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people's backstory, you know. I
love to see where people are today.
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But I'm just I'm fascinated with history, to be honest. I love to
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dig and get to know. So
I think that leads to my first question
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for you, Kevin. Can you
tell us a little bit about your background
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and your experience as a fractional CEO. Yeah. Yeah, So, you
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know, I kind of came into
this world with a lot of diversity right
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out the gate, and I have
that kind of led itself to, you
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know, into my business career.
Being diverse. It's just kind of run
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through my blood. So I've ald
a few different careers we would call it.
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I was a special education teacher for
fourteen years and did firefighting for a
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number of years, and now primarily
well moved into the dental industry for eighteen
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plus years and now doing consultant work
that initially started in in dentistry but has
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branched off into other clients of indeed, because that's really all I want to
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do, is help people take their
dream to where they wanted to go.
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I find it fascinating too. You
know, with your diverse background in education,
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fire fighting, it seems like you've
always been in an industry that required
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you to give give of yourself,
your time, emotions. It'd be very
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taxing when you give so much.
I know because I used to be in
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education. But what you've done is
you've found a way to combine your experience
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in all these industries with your unique
personality as a giver to be able to
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provide businesses with solutions that they genuinely
need as they face uncharted economic times and
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the horizon though may not always seem
like there's a there's a son there,
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you're actually helping them to find that
son just beyond the horizon, and it's
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it's pretty empowering. I believe that
someone like you would step into this industry
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for that purpose. So what led
you though to start Simplified CEOO. Now
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that's your company, Simplified CEO.
Now, for those of you listening and
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watching, you guys can actually go
to the description of this show and there
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will be a link directing you to
that website. But again, what led
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you to start Simplified CEO and then
again what sets it apart from other consulting
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firms. Yeah, so great questions. So yes, I am naturally a
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giver. You know. My focus
in life is to help people, you
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know, reach their dreams, their
goals, make their vision a reality.
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And so I worked for many years
again in the dental field, in large
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dental organizations, which was amazing,
and I was honored and blessed to have
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opportunities and big teams, and we
were able to, humbly, you know,
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win many different awards for achieving great
success within these large companies. But
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I felt like I was still kind
of in a box where I went.
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I didn't have that ability to help
more people. You know, I was
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doing great things helping a large organization
be larger, to grow, to make
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more revenue, and to provide for
more patients. But what I wanted to
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set myself up with was helping more
people at the same time, and so
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when I went back and really kind
of thought about it, I decided to
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start my own business as a fractional
chief Opera Ration officer. So my you
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know, focus is to give high
level guidance and support, but that translates
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into many different things. And so
doing this, I've figured out that I
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can offer my services and offer my
experience at a much more friendly price point
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to a lot of other consultants because
I was going to have multiple clients at
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the same time. And it also
helped me reach out from being able to
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live in one area and not travel
all over the country as far as moving
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the family. I still do when
I reach out to my clients, but
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it kind of gave me tentacles,
i'll call it, to get out across
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the country to be available for that
level of support. I absolutely love that,
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and I think that your record of
success speaks to the high value that
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simplified CEO brings to so many organizations. So it does lead me to my
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next question is as how do you
ensure you thoroughly understand the challenges and the
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goals of a business before you provide
them with recommendations. Yeah, so a
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couple of different things one is crucial
to me. That is a little bit
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different than a lot of other consultants
in that I want to make a site
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visit. I want to shake the
hands of the visionary, the business owner.
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I want to meet and greet the
team members in person. You know.
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There's some of my colleagues, you
know. I think they feel like
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if they can get the analytics,
the metrics, the key performance indicators with
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their experience, they can identify where
the opportunities are. And that is true,
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but it doesn't it gives you that
ninety percent of a picture. And
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that other tempercy is crucial because it's
communication, it's connecting with other humans.
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And so I make sure that I
have a site visit. But within that,
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yeah, the same thing. You
know, I need my clients to
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let me have access to financials,
to any metrics they may have, you
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know. So it's kind of a
numbers data yet face to face situation and
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doing all of that really encompasses where
I could make the connection to be able
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to support them. That makes a
lot of sense. That's a great approach,
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especially and that you are responsible for
helping this organization go to that next
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level. It's so interesting because we
live in a world today where everything can
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--> 00:50:57.960
happen technically be virtual. But to
see professionals that are still taking that hands
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on approach when dealing with the business, I think it definitely speaks a lot
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to your character and also to the
goals that you are helping them to achieve.
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I'm with your support, So thank
you for sharing that. Now,
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obviously we want to hear examples,
you know, we want to I love
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stories. So Kevin, can you
give us an example of a time when
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understanding a problem that the business owner
wasn't aware of led to valuable insight and
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solution. Yeah. So again,
that's the key part of actually doing a
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site visit, you know, as
well as drilling into everything else I spoke
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of, you know there. I
mean, gosh, there's been so many
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as we go through even the week
to week. But I am out here
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in Texas with a client, so
I'll use a recent one, and you
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know, they had identified that they
had an issue with leadership. They just
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didn't feel like leadership was getting the
task done that they needed to get done.
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And you know, common thing,
but just to make that decision or
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to make guidance without meeting the leadership
and it doesn't really work. So flew
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out here out here now met with
the leadership team this week. As we
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started drilling into what does it look
like to implement the best practices that the
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owners want to see, it came
very clear that it was a communication issue
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between the leadership and the owners.
And of course that's a tough thing to
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look at as a business owner and
go wait is it me? But in
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this instance it was. And so
then I needed to go back and explain
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to them how they needed to communicate
differently and be more engaged, you know,
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with their leadership team. What had
happened was the mission statement, the
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visionary strategic plan for the owners,
was it really being reinforced with the leadership
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team, and they had lost sight
of what was the big vision. And
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so I needed to encourage those business
owners to have continuous connection meetings where they
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do all training and leadership discussions to
the mission and vision of the company and
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not to the task that needs to
take place. Excellent approach, excellent approach,
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very powerful. Well, that was
a really good example and I think
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that I think as a business owner, especially when we bring on extra support,
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you know, we we do want
to be around individuals who are going
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to tell us the truth? You
know what I mean? So even though
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sometimes that truth is hard to hear, it's valuable and I'm sure that they
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appreciated that valuable feedback. I always
tell them transparent with you, you know,
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Yeah, we got to have the
real story. I need to have
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the real information they need to hear
you know what the real guidance looks like.
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Absolutely, Now it makes sense that
transparency is key. Well, Sha
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share with us another example. Can
you give us an example of maybe how
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you've had to adapt your own approach
to meet the changing needs of a business
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and its environment, Like what was
the outcome of this adaptation? Yeah,
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so, you know, there was
a claim I went in this is probably
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a couple of months ago, and
they had an issue with and again this
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was a dental client with patients not
being able or not saying yes to the
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dentistry that was diagnosed. And the
thought was that there was, you know,
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an issue with the doctor not connecting
with the patients or with the team.
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They have treatment coordinators that go over
the pricing with them, and and
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when I sat in and viewed the
flow, that wasn't that wasn't the issue
638
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that the doctor was wonderful with connecting
the front desk, the treatment quarters were
639
00:55:10.679 --> 00:55:15.719
wonderful with connecting. They didn't talk
to each other, so the information that
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they were learning, they weren't transferring
through team members to be able to support
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the situation. So I'll give you
an example of there was a patient that
642
00:55:30.760 --> 00:55:34.440
needed a crown right where a lot
of us have been there before, we
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needed a crown. They told the
front desk that they wanted to be seen
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because they were going on vacation.
I think it was Fiji, and the
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front desk did not communicate that to
the dentist. So when the dentist went
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in, he learned that yes,
a crown was needed, but then told
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the patient, you know that we
will do that, you know next month
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when you have time, And the
patient didn't say anything and they left without
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doing the crown, which wasn't great
for the business, it wasn't great for
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the patient. So I put together
where huddles and checkpoints were going to be.
651
00:56:15.480 --> 00:56:19.719
I call him handoffs, where in
the morning we're to discuss the unique
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thing with every patient and during the
day, as we learn anything, we're
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going to talk to each other.
So the front desk is going to hand
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off the patient to the dental system
for X rays, let them know.
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In this instance, you know miss
Smith is going on vacation the dental systet.
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Hopefully he's going to talk to Miss
Smith about the vacation as they're taking
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the x rays because it's a good
connection point. And then the critical one
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was after the patient was set,
then the dental system was actually going to
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download with the dentists before they go
in and let them know that I had
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the dentists known that the vacation was
about to take place in about three weeks,
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which would have allowed him to be
able to do the crown and get
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it back from the lab, he
could have actually connected with the patient going,
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I know you're going to Fiji.
It's this is why it's critical that
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we take care of this tooth today
and we can get you all fixed up
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before you leave, and that way
you don't have a problem with your oral
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health while you're out of the country. So that was an example of where
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really in the end we put together
a strategic handoff process to move through the
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patient's journey. Fantastic, fantastic,
and it makes sense that you would actually
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want to be there to be able
to see interactions and communications and styles because
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obviously every situation with the business is
going to be different, it's going to
671
00:57:45.199 --> 00:57:51.000
be in a different approach because there
are different issues, and so your approach
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and the way you're able to help
bring the team together to achieve overall success
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as which obviously for every companys
bottom
line right profit. So that's that's the
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objective at the end of the day, no matter what field we're in.
675
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And you translate that through your interactions
as a fractional CEOO and you've been doing
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00:58:16.039 --> 00:58:22.000
it for years, would simplified CEOO
your business and so a what a testament
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to not only your character as a
giver but also as your success as a
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00:58:27.239 --> 00:58:31.840
fractional CEO. Kevin, I know
that there are a lot of people out
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there who are eager to see their
company grow. They're a little bit shaky
680
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and perhaps a little apprehensive about bringing
in outside help to support. What could
681
00:58:44.079 --> 00:58:47.519
you say to help ease their fears
there? Yeah? I mean again,
682
00:58:49.079 --> 00:58:53.719
finding the right you know, leader
to a remote leader to join the team
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as hard, it's difficult, I
definitely get it, and I speak to
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a lot of business owners are going
how are you going to make the impact
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and they're going off of that you're
the subject matter expert, which is obviously
686
00:59:08.679 --> 00:59:15.079
true, But more importantly, it
is about people. It's about connections.
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A lot of these clients have the
strategies and the processes within their organization,
688
00:59:22.880 --> 00:59:25.840
they're just not actually doing them.
So the group I'm out here with has
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got a document that's a strategic operating
plan for everything that you would want,
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00:59:31.239 --> 00:59:37.920
but it just lives in Google Drive
and is never used. So you know,
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00:59:37.960 --> 00:59:42.639
what I explained to my clients is
that I am going to be there
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to support them in a way that
I'm going to identify their needs, but
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I'm also going to teach them as
leaders on how to grow themselves. You
694
00:59:53.840 --> 00:59:58.559
know, a lot of times it's
not about having the answer, even for
695
00:59:58.639 --> 01:00:02.440
me, it's about ass seeing the
powerful question. And so you know,
696
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that's something that I go over with
them. You know, through the conversations
697
01:00:07.000 --> 01:00:10.440
and through the leadership guidance, I
let them know that we're gonna actually have
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01:00:10.519 --> 01:00:15.039
a relationship and that's not going to
be where I'm just the answer guy that
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01:00:15.079 --> 01:00:21.079
they're going to try to connect with. I would say that that's the important
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01:00:21.119 --> 01:00:27.840
piece that if you're going to carry
anything any advisor shares with you, you're
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01:00:27.960 --> 01:00:31.480
going to have
to set yourself up
for how you would even use the information.
702
01:00:32.519 --> 01:00:36.239
These are things that I go through, you know, with the client.
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01:00:36.360 --> 01:00:38.039
Sometimes they're just like, well,
I just want you to fix it.
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01:00:38.639 --> 01:00:44.280
Well you've got to be part of
that solution or you know. My
705
01:00:44.360 --> 01:00:49.199
goal is that you don't need an
advisor to guide you all the time,
706
01:00:49.920 --> 01:00:53.960
just through the tough times, and
then you're going to learn the process that
707
01:00:54.079 --> 01:00:59.239
helps you do it moving forward.
So these are things that I go into
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01:00:59.320 --> 01:01:02.400
saying, Okay, this is how
we're going to set you up for success.
709
01:01:04.239 --> 01:01:07.840
This is what makes me a little
bit different is I'm not looking for
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01:01:07.880 --> 01:01:10.639
the short term. I'm not even
looking for it to be me in the
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01:01:10.679 --> 01:01:16.639
long term. I'm looking to give
them what they need to be successful well
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01:01:16.679 --> 01:01:22.119
after I'm not engaged with them anymore. Absolutely, And you know, Kevin,
713
01:01:22.199 --> 01:01:28.199
you're the only person that I know
that can keep such a positive attitude
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01:01:29.159 --> 01:01:31.039
when you work with clients to the
point where they don't need you anymore.
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01:01:32.360 --> 01:01:35.760
I mean, that is the goal, I know, I know, but
716
01:01:35.800 --> 01:01:38.119
it's like you do such a good
job at it, Kevin, Like you're
717
01:01:38.119 --> 01:01:40.880
just you do so great you're like, Okay, we don't need you anymore.
718
01:01:42.039 --> 01:01:45.480
Like, okay, great, you
know what I mean, But keep
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01:01:45.559 --> 01:01:52.679
coming. But that's but that's awesome
again again speaking to your character and just
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01:01:52.760 --> 01:01:59.800
a great success of simplified co is, you are helping these businesses transition into
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01:02:00.159 --> 01:02:05.280
having a greater impact and reaching and
achieving their bottom line and doing it all
722
01:02:05.320 --> 01:02:08.719
with a smile. So thank you
so much for sharing that those stories,
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those very impactful, powerful stories.
Now we know that you actually have some
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pretty exciting things coming up in the
month of September. Obviously for those of
725
01:02:20.920 --> 01:02:27.639
you guys who are a little bit
behind on just everything that Kevin has been
726
01:02:27.639 --> 01:02:31.159
doing this past year. He has
been on the cover of magazines and radio
727
01:02:31.239 --> 01:02:35.519
shows, television. He's just he's
he won't say it, but I can
728
01:02:35.559 --> 01:02:37.480
say it because that's you know,
I like saying it. He's got a
729
01:02:37.480 --> 01:02:42.400
lot going on. So you have
a magazine cover coming up pretty soon,
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01:02:42.519 --> 01:02:45.119
I think for people, if
you
guys want to check out his latest features,
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01:02:45.280 --> 01:02:47.280
they can go visit your official website
too, can't they. Yeah,
732
01:02:47.280 --> 01:02:54.039
Oh absolutely, it's a www.
Dot Kevin Wheeler dot org. Yeah,
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01:02:54.079 --> 01:02:57.440
so there's many ways that you can
connect with Kevin, if you'd like to
734
01:02:57.679 --> 01:03:00.440
work with him or even book him
as a speaker, are you know consulting?
735
01:03:00.719 --> 01:03:04.840
He has his own official website,
plus he has simplified CEO, so
736
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he's just out there doing some big
things. But I definitely want you guys
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01:03:07.679 --> 01:03:13.920
to keep Kevin in the loop,
you know, let him Let's be proactive
738
01:03:13.960 --> 01:03:15.760
in and staying up to date on
all the great things Kevin's doing, because
739
01:03:15.760 --> 01:03:19.079
you never know, when he's in
a city near you, you'll get a
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01:03:19.199 --> 01:03:21.360
chance to work with you. And
you're a company, you guys can always
741
01:03:21.360 --> 01:03:22.639
reach out for that as well.
Kevin, Before we let you go,
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01:03:22.719 --> 01:03:28.119
do you have any parting words of
advice for an aspiring entrepreneur who wants to
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have a career and impact like yours. Yes, I would say just that
744
01:03:32.280 --> 01:03:37.920
to go back to, it's not, you know, as we become you
745
01:03:37.960 --> 01:03:40.800
know, consultants, let's say,
if that's or any entrepreneur, it's not
746
01:03:40.920 --> 01:03:45.039
about having the answer, It's about
asking the question. I think Pete Drucker
747
01:03:45.280 --> 01:03:50.199
had said that in one of his
books, and it's so true. Always
748
01:03:50.239 --> 01:04:00.840
be asking questions and the answers will
flow naturally beautiful words to end by inspiring
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thank you Kevin so much for joining
us today. Thank you everyone for joining
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01:04:04.559 --> 01:04:09.119
our segment. Before you all do
leave, we like to have you stay
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01:04:09.159 --> 01:04:12.400
and stick around for just a few
more seconds to hear a word from our
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01:04:12.440 --> 01:04:15.079
partners. You guys can check out
all of Kevin's info and links in the
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01:04:15.079 --> 01:04:18.559
description of the show wherever you happen
to be watching are listening to. We
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01:04:18.639 --> 01:04:21.519
want to also give a shout out
and the special thanks to the Bully Adventures
755
01:04:21.519 --> 01:04:26.920
for sponsoring and supporting this program.
All up to the Bully Avengers as you
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01:04:26.960 --> 01:04:30.440
continue your human rights investigations and work
internationally. Kevin, again, you are
757
01:04:30.480 --> 01:04:33.320
a blessing to all of us.
We appreciate you, and we look forward
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01:04:33.320 --> 01:04:36.000
to having you on next time.
Stay in a little please give you one
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to today's
very special segment. For
those of you who have been following the
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01:04:41.920 --> 01:04:45.079
path and career of Carol Davinny,
you know that she is no stranger to
761
01:04:45.119 --> 01:04:49.400
the show and we are so honored
to have her back today to talk to
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01:04:49.440 --> 01:04:55.679
with us about not only a new
initiative for men's mental health, but even
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01:04:55.719 --> 01:05:00.480
about a very special college that I
think you're going to I really want to
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hear about well before we introduce her. I do want to say that this
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01:05:03.079 --> 01:05:08.960
show was brought to you by the
Bully Avengers, fighting for international rights of
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01:05:09.000 --> 01:05:13.440
women and children globally. Your support
has been truly invaluable, Carol, for
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01:05:13.480 --> 01:05:15.639
the Bully Avengers, and we want
to on their behalf say thank you so
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01:05:15.719 --> 01:05:20.199
much for all of your support and
welcome to the show. Thank you you
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all more than welcome. Now,
Carol, we know that you have a
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01:05:26.599 --> 01:05:30.639
lot of exciting things coming up in
the upcoming months, So before we get
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into those things things, I think
it's really important for people just to understand
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01:05:35.599 --> 01:05:40.280
your journey. You know, people
know that I love a good story,
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01:05:40.480 --> 01:05:47.360
and you, as the founder of
Universe Poems, you breathe life into the
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01:05:47.400 --> 01:05:50.639
work that you do, the poems
that you create, and even the people
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01:05:50.719 --> 01:05:55.920
that you work with. So can
you tell us about your journey as a
776
01:05:56.000 --> 01:06:00.320
poet and how it led you to
establish the Universe Poems. Well, yes,
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01:06:00.559 --> 01:06:05.079
I also I've excuse me, always
been a professional writer all of my
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01:06:05.199 --> 01:06:12.880
life. But when I knew that
I would definitely write one day was when
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I watched a movie by Stephen King, which is Misery, and there was
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01:06:16.440 --> 01:06:20.679
a beautiful scene outside of the window
of snow and sunshine, and I sat
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01:06:20.719 --> 01:06:25.280
there and thought to myself, one
day I will be a writer. I
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01:06:25.360 --> 01:06:30.920
had written a piece of poetry quite
a number of years ago, and I
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01:06:30.960 --> 01:06:33.760
wanted to share that piece of poetry
because it was very inspirational to me,
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and so I decided to join a
writing community. Once I joined a writing
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01:06:40.159 --> 01:06:45.360
community, I was exposed to many
different forms of poetry. I met many
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different colleagues who I'm still there today
in part of my writing community, who
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inspired me I've got to say greatly
along my journey, and they still inspired
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me today and we will support each
other during that period. During the initial
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period of being part of that writing
community, I started to realize that I
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01:07:04.599 --> 01:07:13.239
wanted to write poetry, but make
poetry part of my professional career and give
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01:07:13.280 --> 01:07:19.039
people access to poetry and literature,
but also create other services through poetry,
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01:07:19.280 --> 01:07:24.239
which is a healing art in itself, an ancient and that is why I
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01:07:24.280 --> 01:07:30.320
devise Universe Poems, because I wanted
to reach people globally in terms of interconnection
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that has to be at the forefront
of any arts organization, and so stipulated
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I devised Universe Poems, and I
know that we are reaching people globally.
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01:07:40.960 --> 01:07:46.320
We are already doing that and have
a vast amount of people from all backgrounds
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01:07:47.119 --> 01:07:51.719
engaging with our work and services on
a daily basis. We know that because
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01:07:51.719 --> 01:07:57.639
of the feedback. We get the
positive feedback as well as the comments and
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people even wanting to use the poetry
beyond certain realms of where it's available,
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so we know we are making a
huge impact globally. Well, then,
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01:08:10.440 --> 01:08:14.159
thank you so much for sharing that. And I find it so fascinating.
802
01:08:14.280 --> 01:08:19.079
You know that moment where you realize
you wanted to be a writer because I
803
01:08:19.119 --> 01:08:25.520
remember the movie Misery. I remember
watching it as a kid, and your
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01:08:25.600 --> 01:08:29.199
takeaway from that, it's just it's
so interesting how movies can do that for
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01:08:29.279 --> 01:08:34.359
you. Like, wow, it's
as fascinating. Now as the founder of
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01:08:34.520 --> 01:08:43.720
Universe Poems, what is your primary
mission or vision for this platform? Well,
807
01:08:43.760 --> 01:08:48.199
our primary vision and mine initially which
has been followed through, is that
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01:08:48.279 --> 01:08:54.920
we will create an arts organization of
stipulated that will reach people globally. We
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want people to have access. The
main mission is to have access to poetry
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01:08:59.520 --> 01:09:04.279
and literally but also other services that
promote holistic health and well being. But
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that's hard delivered through poetry and as
I stipulated to other interviews, I believe
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I'm one of the first professionals to
have cross applied my therapeutic practices with poetry.
813
01:09:16.000 --> 01:09:20.319
But also we've devised many more programs
and services which are on the Universe
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01:09:20.359 --> 01:09:26.520
Poems website. Once again, Yeah, I think you're I think you're right.
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Like I don't think I've ever seen
anyone speak about the power of poetry
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01:09:32.039 --> 01:09:39.720
and in emotional mental healing. I
do believe that you're the first person that
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01:09:39.800 --> 01:09:44.640
I know that has crossed over and
not just personally but as a company,
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01:09:44.760 --> 01:09:49.680
has advocated the use of poetry through
emotional and mental healing. It is.
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It's to me very inspiring and encouraging, and I think that's one of the
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reasons why I really want to hear
about your other venture with Hoolisom College.
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Can you can you share some insights
into the concept behind holes in College and
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how it's designed to enhance wellness and
mental health most definitely well Holism College is
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focused on post sixteen education and personal
development. We are all born as nature
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and through natural biology, and I
wanted and we wanted to devise courses that
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focused on nature itself, because if
you're able to person center courses directly related
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to nature, and people are nature. It's only going to enhance their holistic
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health and develop their abilities in a
person centered way. People could be transitioning
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not knowing what they want to go
into. You could be an adult that
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just feels you want to develop your
personal development for yourself and have that connection
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with nature as you are at all
ready. And so poly some college is
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there for anybody, and we have
courses that's are on learned s us and
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they can be accessed directly from the
Universe Poems website. But the courses will
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also stipulate it vastly benefit the individual's
holistic health because it's connecting with nature already.
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And yeah, I've had a chance
to take a look at those courses
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as well. I'm very very timely, I believe, especially considering the world
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that we're in. And I love
the fact that you're encouraging people to get
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out there, engage with nature and
take those lessons into their personal life.
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It's an inspiring college and again the
first of its kind that I've ever seen.
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So it's also yes, it's also
an expression outlet for people. Let's
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remember that poetry is healing in itself, and the power of poetry goes beyond
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words the fact of
the man he
is. You are engaging in something that's
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going to benefit your holistic health.
As I've said, I do believe also
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as well that I'm the first person
to have done that. But we are
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giving people an opportunity in terms of
their education to be connected with nature.
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Poetry is an outlet, and it's
not just the fact that you're going to
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be studying. You're going to be
benefiting your holistic health. You will have
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an expression outlet as well with the
courses that we've devised. I myself as
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a professional writer and poetess and authors
in my personal life, I've used poetry
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as an expression because I do believe
in life, and I've said this before,
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there is not always going to be
someone to express to. Also,
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it will be developing people's emotional intelligence, which is your EQ, because all
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of us will find ourselves in certain
situations in life and perhaps at the ending
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of the day, if we have
a reflective tool, because writing is also
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a reflective tool, what we think
at the time may not be the case
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when we go back and reflect only. But it's also an outlet and giving
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somewhere for your emotions and feelings to
live and with the courses with device for
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Holisom College, poetry is the forefront
of that as well as nature. But
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within those courses is encompassed self expression
for individuals absolutely, and I really feel
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that you're a trailblazer in this regard
to bringing these type of programs to the
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community. So thank you for that. And again, as Carol mentioned,
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everyone, you can access Holisome College
through links on Universe Poems and you can
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find that all in the description of
the show. Wherever you are listening to
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are watching this shows, So thank
you for sharing that, Carol. Now,
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Carrol, in today's fast paced world, why do you believe it's crucial
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for individuals to reconnect with nature where
their mental well being well. People may
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or may not know. I'm actually
a doctor of philosophy ongoing research, and
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I am very well aware and individuals
may not be, but I am.
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We are born as nature, We're
conceived as nature first of all, We're
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then born as nature and we live
as nature. If you're able to connect
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with the very being that you are, that all human beings are made up
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of, which is nature, art
and culture. If you're able to connect
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with the nature of yourself at the
ending of the day and explore that it's
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only going to benefit your holistic health. So in this fast paced world,
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I would say nature is the guide, but also the therapeutic practitioner as many
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people may or may not know.
I'm qualified in forest learning and we can
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replicate that in our everyday life also
as well, because that is what nature
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is there for. You are part
of that, and it's only going to
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enhance your holistic health abilities if you
are engaging with activities that are nature focused
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or services or programs, And I
will just be the reason. I believe
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it's very important. As you've just
stipulated. Yes, in the fast paced
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world we're living in, many people
can get wrapped up in television's, social
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01:15:21.760 --> 01:15:28.720
media, many other things, all
of these game boxes and all of these
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01:15:28.760 --> 01:15:31.840
other things that's not really connecting with
nature. Yes, we can go into
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natural nature environments, but there's ways
of connecting with nature within your home,
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like programs, writing poetry, reading
poetry. There's so many ways that people
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can connect with nature that's part of
them already, and if it's part of
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you already, it's only going to
enhance your holistic health. As I said,
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absolutely absolutely. Now I want to
kind of switch gears a little bit.
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I was going to ask you a
question about a personal experience, but
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I actually want to ask you something
else because I think it's so important to
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touch on this topic. And that's
in regards to men's mental health. It's
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01:16:11.880 --> 01:16:17.560
one of those things where men are
now it seems like they're now being more
893
01:16:17.680 --> 01:16:21.920
encouraged to speak about their mental and
emotional state. However, it's still considered
894
01:16:23.000 --> 01:16:28.159
very taboo for men to actually speak
on emotions. However, you are running
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a very powerful initiative through Men's Posset
to bring awareness and support to men,
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01:16:33.239 --> 01:16:39.920
encouraging them to reach
out and get
the mental health support they need. So
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let's let's let's talk a little bit
about this. Can you tell us more
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about Men's Post International Awareness Day and
it's significance and raising awareness for men's mental
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health, Yes, definitely. The
Men's Post International Awareness Day will take place
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on the twenty third of September twenty
twenty three. We had one last year
901
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which was very successful. The way
that men can become involved in this day,
902
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we wanted to keep it very simple. In the current climate, people
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01:17:10.439 --> 01:17:15.159
are living busy lives, and I
know for my own research that men find
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it hard to engage in things that
take a lot of reading or a lot
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of effort at times, so we
wanted to keep it very brief and the
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01:17:21.399 --> 01:17:28.520
way that people can take part is
simply just to do something that promotes positive
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01:17:28.560 --> 01:17:31.399
self expression for them. That could
be cooking their favorite food, going for
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01:17:31.439 --> 01:17:35.720
a walk, having an aromatherapy massage. It could be a haircut, It
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01:17:35.760 --> 01:17:43.319
could be listening to their favorite music, anything that makes the individual feel that
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01:17:43.399 --> 01:17:46.159
they are expressing themselves in a positive
way. On the day, we will
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be as usual sending out lots of
information and resources that people can tap into.
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01:17:53.319 --> 01:17:57.840
But yes, it's going to be
hopefully another I'm sure successful second year
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for Men's Pose because no matter what
we say in society that we understand and
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we're listening, there is still a
huge stigmatization around mental health for everybody,
915
01:18:13.079 --> 01:18:16.199
but particularly men who are meant to
be seen as strong and bread winners,
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is ingrained into society and not to
cry, not to have emotions be big
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01:18:21.800 --> 01:18:28.319
and strong. And the fact of
the matter is we are wanting to continue
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to promote and we will as part
of our work for the future as well,
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01:18:31.479 --> 01:18:35.640
that men have a voice and an
outlet they do not feel ashamed to
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01:18:35.680 --> 01:18:40.600
speak up if they're needing help,
but also that they can find a positive
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01:18:40.640 --> 01:18:45.840
way for self expression and not bottle
things up inside, because that's what there
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01:18:45.960 --> 01:18:59.520
needs to traumatic experiences at the ending
of the day for some people. Thank
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you so much for sharing that,
Carol. That's very enlightening
on understanding the
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significance of the day and what's the
objective is. I think it's going to
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be an amazing, amazing opportunity for
men to reconnect with themselves emotionally. And
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I really really want this initiative to
take off globally, so let's do whatever
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we can, everybody out there to
spread awareness about men's Pose International Awareness Day.
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I think it's going to be amazing
for men that we finally get a
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day to ourselves where we can say
my mental health matters as well. I
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love this. This is gonna be
epic. I can already think of how
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I'm going to celebrate wanted listen.
I want to encourage other men to join
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me in the celebration. Carol.
I love what you're doing and I love
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the fact that you are reaching so
many new heights to help others connect with
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them selves mentally and emotionally. And
I guess my last question Carol is as
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a poet and advocate for mental wellbeing, what advice do you have for aspiring
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poets and individuals interested in promoting their
mental health and awareness through arts. I
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would say, go ahead and do
so, and don't feel that you are
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alone in doing that. Many of
us have to walk a pathway where we
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may feel that we're the only ones
walking it. But at the ending of
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the day, follow what you know, you feel you can achieve, and
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what you want to bring for people
so that they are better equipped to deal
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with their mental health. Because mental
health affects everybody, not just you know,
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certain individuals. Mental health can be
postnatal depression. Mental health can be
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connected for people who have all tis
more ADHD. Mental health can because it
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can become part of somebody's life because
they've lost their job. Mental health can
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be because you've had a bereavement.
Mental health affects every single person. And
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quite recently, I've just done a
write up which is on the Universe Post
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website for Hollywood Hemispheres, which is
a report that was in the Lancet for
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psychiatry, and it clearly stipulates that
by a certain time, how many millions
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of people will be suffering with their
mental health. But what they found in
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the research is if it can be
caught quiet early on, in the sense
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of the onset of seventeen to nineteen, I think it is. The report
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is online, you can read it, then you've got a better chance of
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preventing negative impacts and mental health as
people get old. So that's not to
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01:21:44.920 --> 01:21:48.880
say they're not going to experience it, but they found a significant impact between
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01:21:48.920 --> 01:21:56.000
that age group of mental health conditions
actually starting. So for anybody out there,
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01:21:56.680 --> 01:22:00.439
break the stigmatization mental health affects everybody. Mental health can be that you
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01:22:00.439 --> 01:22:03.279
feel that you don't want to get
out of bed in the morning, and
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01:22:03.319 --> 01:22:08.039
that continues at the ending of the
day. It's about feeling motivated. What's
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01:22:08.039 --> 01:22:12.079
stopping you, So never feel ashamed
at the ending of the day, and
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always do what you can do.
Never give yourself too much. I'm a
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great advocate for that. You can
only make one phone call a day,
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you can only do one email a
day. Things may not get done,
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but the fact is do what you
can cope with. Because everybody's coping abilities.
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And this is one of my main
I would say talking outlets when I'm
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speaking to people in time to give
them information. You've got to do what
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you can cope with. We're all
individuals, we're all different. Some people
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can cope with fifty emails a day, some people can cope with, you
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01:22:45.239 --> 01:22:48.479
know, ten thousand phone calls a
day. The fact of the matter is
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do what feels right for you.
I'm a great believer in that at the
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end of the day. And if
you're finding you rely on your friends or
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rely on your family, ask and
if you need help with something and they're
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there and they're willing to help you. There are people in this world who
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don't have family a table to do
that. But if you've got friends or
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family, never feel ashamed if there's
some help they can give you in something
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that you're needing at the ending of
the day. You know, some people
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are very independent. I'm a great
role model for that of independence at the
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ending of the day. But there
are times in life we all need to
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ask for help or you know,
realize that we can't do everything. And
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I think that's really really important in
setting a basis for your stability of your
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mental health in terms of a positive
way, do what you can do.
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Great words of advice, great words
of advice, and that powerful note.
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I do want to actually get a
link to that article that you mentioned,
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and for all of you again watching
and listening, you guys can look at
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01:23:53.560 --> 01:23:56.800
the description of the show and you'll
be able to get an access to that
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01:23:57.000 --> 01:24:01.239
article. I think it's so important
for us to be aware of of the
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the mental health has even on our
young people. So I really appreciate those
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statistics and I love that advice do
what you can do every day and and
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and reach out and ask her help. Excellent, excellent advice. Carol.
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Once again, thank you again for
being on today's segment and inspiring us as
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01:24:17.880 --> 01:24:23.359
you always do, and we wish
you nothing but success. We know that
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01:24:23.399 --> 01:24:28.319
you have a magazine cover feature coming
out in London Sky, so congratulations on
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01:24:28.399 --> 01:24:30.760
that. We're super excited to see
what's what's in store for you for twenty
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twenty three and twenty twenty four and
beyond. Thank you so much. And
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before we let you guys go,
I want you guys to remember Men's Post
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International Awareness Day is coming up.
Carol. What day is that? What
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is the day is the twenty third
of September. Okay, so mark that
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01:24:54.000 --> 01:25:00.279
on your calendars everyone, because you're
gonna see me definitely going going wow on
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01:25:00.279 --> 01:25:01.880
that day in a good way for
my mental health, and I want to
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encourage everyone to do the same thing. Carol, thanks again for being on
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today's segment, and we please you
know that you always have a place in
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01:25:10.560 --> 01:25:14.640
a home here on The Joseph Bonner
Show and on all of my platforms.
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Thank you so much. We are
more than welcome. Before we let you
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guys go again, one last word, stay till