KCAA: Get Balanced with Dr. Marissa (Wed, 11 Nov, 2026)-এর সম্পূর্ণ প্রতিলিপি

00:04:43.560 come down and play games because we are all very 80 00:04:43.639 --> 00:04:47.319 competitive and that's also very nice. What else are you 81 00:04:47.370 --> 00:04:48.000 grateful for? 82 00:04:48.019 --> 00:04:53.730 I'm grateful for all the interviews I've been having for 83 00:04:53.769 --> 00:04:59.889 my book, Perfectly Perfect. And actually today I will be 84 00:04:59.930 --> 00:05:06.540 driving down to LA for an in-person interview with And 85 00:05:06.819 --> 00:05:09.639 I'm grateful for that. And last week I had another 86 00:05:09.699 --> 00:05:13.579 interview for my book, Perfectly Perfect. So I'm grateful for 87 00:05:14.060 --> 00:05:14.939 all of that as well. 88 00:05:15.639 --> 00:05:16.220 Beautiful. 89 00:05:16.459 --> 00:05:20.920 I'm grateful that I am still in the top post 90 00:05:20.980 --> 00:05:27.379 Ryan Seacrest competition. I have been steadily rising and being 91 00:05:27.939 --> 00:05:29.060 on the good side. 92 00:05:28.819 --> 00:05:31.939 Of the cuts. So thank you so much. 93 00:05:32.160 --> 00:05:34.519 All of you who are voting for me, just Google Ryan. 94 00:05:35.029 --> 00:05:38.269 top host and Asian Oprah, and you get one free 95 00:05:38.310 --> 00:05:40.389 vote sometimes, two free votes a day. 96 00:05:40.870 --> 00:05:42.550 And I'm so, so grateful. 97 00:05:42.569 --> 00:05:47.870 It gives me a chance to have a date with Ryan, $ 25, 000 98 00:05:46.069 --> 00:05:51.370 recording contract, which will help me spread my happy 88 mission, 99 00:05:51.370 --> 00:05:54.790 88 million more happy people in the next eight years. 100 00:05:54.829 --> 00:05:55.829 So thank you very much. 101 00:05:56.310 --> 00:05:59.629 Xie xie for all of the continued support for that. 102 00:06:00.339 --> 00:06:02.420 So let's go to the bottom of the bun, which 103 00:06:02.879 --> 00:06:07.579 is I want you to work out and strengthen your 104 00:06:07.639 --> 00:06:12.250 muscle for self-love, self-care, self-soothing, because I believe that is 105 00:06:12.810 --> 00:06:14.290 the bedrock of. 106 00:06:14.310 --> 00:06:16.930 Good mental health. So we're not looking for love in 107 00:06:16.970 --> 00:06:19.870 all the wrong places, but we look to ourselves. 108 00:06:19.970 --> 00:06:22.310 So before you go to bed tonight, I want you 109 00:06:22.350 --> 00:06:27.949 to say, what do I appreciate about myself? So, Dr. 110 00:06:27.990 --> 00:06:30.040 Tiffany, what do you like about yourself? 111 00:06:31.259 --> 00:06:36.939 I like the fact that no matter what my circumstances, 112 00:06:37.430 --> 00:06:41.589 I can find joy in life. And I think that 113 00:06:41.829 --> 00:06:47.790 is important because we have to be able to find joy. 114 00:06:47.810 --> 00:06:53.779 Yeah. I have an addiction to joy. That's how I 115 00:06:53.819 --> 00:06:54.170 put it. 116 00:06:54.759 --> 00:06:59.240 I appreciate my ability to grow and expand and change 117 00:06:59.519 --> 00:07:02.990 and Not get stuck in the pain. 118 00:07:05.509 --> 00:07:09.410 You know, pain in life is mandatory. Suffering is optional. 119 00:07:10.029 --> 00:07:12.009 And I appreciate my. 120 00:07:11.889 --> 00:07:17.269 Ability to feel pain fully, which is something that I 121 00:07:17.329 --> 00:07:20.680 get to talk about in my book that. 122 00:07:20.579 --> 00:07:25.519 Fell on the ground. I'm sorry. 123 00:07:25.540 --> 00:07:25.800 I'm sorry. 124 00:07:25.819 --> 00:07:26.319 I'm sorry. 125 00:07:26.810 --> 00:07:28.790 But this little baby. 126 00:07:28.529 --> 00:07:31.939 Has now transferred into, I have all the rights now 127 00:07:32.040 --> 00:07:34.199 for it, and I'm really appreciative of that. 128 00:07:34.600 --> 00:07:35.860 Yay, thank you. 129 00:07:36.180 --> 00:07:41.019 And we're in negotiations for India and China. 130 00:07:41.339 --> 00:07:43.019 So I didn't know if I told you that. 131 00:07:43.439 --> 00:07:46.149 But as I speak in the book, which is just 132 00:07:46.750 --> 00:07:51.529 self-help on steroids, is that if I can't appreciate myself, 133 00:07:52.209 --> 00:07:56.300 I can't expect anybody else to. So I appreciate my 134 00:07:56.379 --> 00:08:01.639 ability to be my own best friend and biggest cheerleader. 135 00:08:02.220 --> 00:08:05.019 And that work is so important. 136 00:08:05.120 --> 00:08:07.579 And I'm really grateful that I have a book that 137 00:08:08.060 --> 00:08:12.970 hit number one national bestseller and Amazon to help people 138 00:08:13.069 --> 00:08:13.509 do that. 139 00:08:14.129 --> 00:08:18.629 And for that, I appreciate it. Thank you. All right. 140 00:08:18.870 --> 00:08:20.170 I think that's good for breakfast. 141 00:08:20.269 --> 00:08:20.790 Are you good? 142 00:08:20.870 --> 00:08:23.189 I'm full. Are you full? Awesome. 143 00:08:23.589 --> 00:08:27.589 Thanks for joining us for breakfast this morning. Every weekday morning, 144 00:08:27.629 --> 00:08:30.899 you can join me now or later. And I promise 145 00:08:30.920 --> 00:08:33.919 you will sandwich your day in the most positive way. 146 00:08:34.259 --> 00:08:37.159 Thanks for joining us for breakfast. 147 00:08:41.000 --> 00:08:46.000 And now for the topic of the day. 148 00:08:48.110 --> 00:08:48.409 Dr. 149 00:08:48.429 --> 00:08:48.990 Tiffany. 150 00:08:53.289 --> 00:08:53.830 All right. 151 00:08:54.009 --> 00:08:57.309 So now it's time to lean in. Are you ready 152 00:08:57.769 --> 00:09:00.299 to swim in it with me? Take a bite of this. 153 00:09:00.340 --> 00:09:02.990 We're going to dive in and swim in it, toss it, 154 00:09:03.019 --> 00:09:05.179 flip it up, rub it down, smack it upside down. 155 00:09:05.500 --> 00:09:11.519 We're going to talk about discipline versus motivation, people. Which 156 00:09:11.710 --> 00:09:13.610 do you prefer? Neither. 157 00:09:14.210 --> 00:09:14.570 Neither? 158 00:09:15.289 --> 00:09:19.110 Do they go hand in hand? Let's take a stand 159 00:09:19.169 --> 00:09:21.769 and join the caravan of love. I

think there was 160 00:09:21.870 --> 00:09:29.019 a song like that. I think we need a little 161 00:09:29.039 --> 00:09:34.299 bit of both because right now we definitely need to 162 00:09:34.340 --> 00:09:39.919 talk about this. I know I have been guilty of 163 00:09:40.159 --> 00:09:46.360 being more motivated at times. I've needed some discipline. You 164 00:09:46.399 --> 00:09:48.919 have to have discipline to become a physician. You have 165 00:09:48.940 --> 00:09:52.360 to have discipline to get your PhD. But I know 166 00:09:52.379 --> 00:09:55.470 I've been on a roller coaster of this thing called life. 167 00:09:56.570 --> 00:09:59.769 And at time I've had the motivation, at time I've 168 00:09:59.789 --> 00:10:02.779 lacked it. the motivation. At time I've had the discipline, 169 00:10:03.139 --> 00:10:08.120 at time I've lacked the discipline. And I'm practical. I'm 170 00:10:08.139 --> 00:10:12.309 not here to judge you. I'm just here to inform you. 171 00:10:12.389 --> 00:10:13.169 What do you say, Dr. 172 00:10:13.190 --> 00:10:13.470 Marista? 173 00:10:14.629 --> 00:10:16.950 Well, I'm here to judge you. No, I'm kidding. 174 00:10:17.470 --> 00:10:20.610 Um, First I roll, people. First I roll. 175 00:10:20.629 --> 00:10:21.470 Yeah, yeah, yeah. 176 00:10:21.529 --> 00:10:23.529 We're starting early. We're starting early. 177 00:10:23.889 --> 00:10:24.750 First of many. 178 00:10:25.169 --> 00:10:30.379 Well, you know, discipline is one of those words that, 179 00:10:30.620 --> 00:10:33.740 you know, sort of give you like the icks, like 180 00:10:33.840 --> 00:10:38.139 almost immediately. I don't know about you, but discipline is 181 00:10:38.220 --> 00:10:43.480 a hard word. It's a, you know, it's just something 182 00:10:43.559 --> 00:10:44.279 that has. 183 00:10:44.830 --> 00:10:48.450 You know, you're not like, oh, I love discipline. Give 184 00:10:48.470 --> 00:10:49.049 me more. 185 00:10:49.429 --> 00:10:49.610 No. 186 00:10:50.009 --> 00:10:52.940 Discipline is. So I actually change it. 187 00:10:53.250 --> 00:10:57.100 And following my big brother, Michael Bernard Beckwith, founder of 188 00:10:57.159 --> 00:11:01.039 Agape International Spiritual Center, who's also the top voter in 189 00:11:01.080 --> 00:11:04.279 my top host competition. 190 00:11:04.320 --> 00:11:08.539 Thank you very much, big bro. He calls it bliss-a-plin. 191 00:11:09.279 --> 00:11:10.590 Hashtag bliss-a-plin. 192 00:11:10.990 --> 00:11:16.179 So that's my first thought is if I'm much more, uh, uh, 193 00:11:16.279 --> 00:11:20.620 desirous and eager to talk about discipline versus discipline. 194 00:11:21.000 --> 00:11:23.080 So just a little, if you're like. 195 00:11:22.980 --> 00:11:30.870 Me and you might, um, and you deserve eye rolls too, uh, let's, let's, uh, balance. 196 00:11:30.529 --> 00:11:32.490 Out discipline with discipline. 197 00:11:32.509 --> 00:11:35.029 This is the same thing, something you want to do 198 00:11:35.330 --> 00:11:36.879 that's for your own good. 199 00:11:37.009 --> 00:11:37.360 Really? 200 00:11:37.480 --> 00:11:42.769 You're acting on your own behalf. When you have discipline, right? 201 00:11:43.409 --> 00:11:45.970 It's not for something to do that's going to make 202 00:11:45.990 --> 00:11:51.509 you worse. Discipline and discipline is really something to help 203 00:11:51.629 --> 00:11:52.649 make you better. 204 00:11:53.340 --> 00:11:55.049 And you want to be the best that you can be, right? 205 00:11:56.299 --> 00:11:56.460 Dr. 206 00:11:56.480 --> 00:11:56.980 Tiffany? 207 00:11:57.100 --> 00:11:59.980 Yes, you do. But look at it like this. And 208 00:12:00.659 --> 00:12:04.259 I know I've been there. You start, you get excited 209 00:12:04.299 --> 00:12:06.159 about a new relationship. 210 00:12:06.840 --> 00:12:07.259 Right. 211 00:12:07.690 --> 00:12:10.529 We get excited about starting a new business. 212 00:12:12.379 --> 00:12:12.899 Job. 213 00:12:13.379 --> 00:12:17.480 Yes, yes, yes. We become determined to write a book. 214 00:12:18.940 --> 00:12:22.279 Or we change our eating habits. Or we want to 215 00:12:22.320 --> 00:12:26.120 pursue a degree. I'm just talking about various different scenarios. 216 00:12:26.179 --> 00:12:26.799 Or we want to save money. 217 00:12:30.500 --> 00:12:33.019 Just toss up some scenarios that you can think of, Dr. Marissa. 218 00:12:33.159 --> 00:12:36.139 Yeah. Start a podcast. 219 00:12:36.500 --> 00:12:39.500 Organize our closet. Have you ever wanted to organize your closet? 220 00:12:39.519 --> 00:12:39.580 No. 221 00:12:39.610 --> 00:12:41.830 I know I'm always saying I want to organize my closet. 222 00:12:41.990 --> 00:12:44.629 You know what, Dr. Marissa. Next eye roll. The eye 223 00:12:44.649 --> 00:12:46.250 rolls are going to be coming fast and furious. 224 00:12:46.730 --> 00:12:50.970 No, I love organizing my closet because it's like shopping 225 00:12:51.870 --> 00:12:57.830 without money. Because I do that twice a year in spring, summer, 226 00:12:57.990 --> 00:13:00.629 and fall, winter. And I love it because I have 227 00:13:00.710 --> 00:13:02.009 all these, I bring them out and. 228 00:13:01.929 --> 00:13:04.070 I go, oh, I forgot about this. And oh, I 229 00:13:04.129 --> 00:13:08.029 love that. So anyways, yeah. But I'm weird. 230 00:13:08.549 --> 00:13:14.360 Yeah, but somewhere between all of this excitement, we lose 231 00:13:14.460 --> 00:13:23.289 the responsibility of continuing and our motivation disappears. And suddenly 232 00:13:23.309 --> 00:13:28.669 there's this little problem that creeps in. Because we have 233 00:13:28.710 --> 00:13:40.440 confused feeling ready with this thing, the C word called commitment. Dr. Marissa, 234 00:13:40.460 --> 00:13:41.139 don't look away. 235 00:13:41.919 --> 00:13:45.450 I don't know that word either, the P word or 236 00:13:45.529 --> 00:13:46.470 the C word. 237 00:13:46.990 --> 00:13:51.149 Motivation says, I really want to do

this. And discipline 238 00:13:51.509 --> 00:13:55.350 creeps in and says, well, I said I want to 239 00:13:55.389 --> 00:14:02.460 do this. And I'm going to honor this, but commitment, 240 00:14:03.460 --> 00:14:08.019 even when I don't feel like it. And so your 241 00:14:08.179 --> 00:14:12.429 body is having this whole little meeting. And now I 242 00:14:12.490 --> 00:14:17.169 want to make something clear. There's some statistics on this. Okay. 243 00:14:17.210 --> 00:14:19.590 Before you go to the statistics, I want to, I 244 00:14:19.629 --> 00:14:23.529 want to anchor this because the reality side of this, 245 00:14:24.399 --> 00:14:29.700 the two times at, to give you a full illustration 246 00:14:29.980 --> 00:14:32.440 where I know exactly what you're talking about, Dr. 247 00:14:32.500 --> 00:14:32.940 Tiffany. 248 00:14:33.440 --> 00:14:36.879 And I'm sure you have too. One was writing my dissertation. 249 00:14:36.899 --> 00:14:43.350 All right. That's why 85% of PhD students are ABD, 250 00:14:43.950 --> 00:14:49.269 all but dissertation, because the dissertation is a big, big elephant. 251 00:14:49.830 --> 00:14:52.549 And I don't like eating elephants. So one bite at 252 00:14:52.590 --> 00:14:54.590 a time doesn't make sense to me at all. But 253 00:14:57.009 --> 00:15:01.909 I would say, okay, next week I'm not going to 254 00:15:02.009 --> 00:15:04.690 do anything for the whole week. 255 00:15:04.909 --> 00:15:06.889 All I'm going to do is write the dissertation. 256 00:15:07.169 --> 00:15:10.370 Same with my book. I'm not going to do anything 257 00:15:10.509 --> 00:15:13.870 else except that week. Does this sound familiar for some, 258 00:15:13.990 --> 00:15:15.210 you know, your books or whatever? 259 00:15:15.929 --> 00:15:19.759 And I'm just the whole week. Don't call me. I 260 00:15:19.879 --> 00:15:23.440 have no dates. I have no responsibilities. That's all I'm 261 00:15:23.460 --> 00:15:33.570 going to do, right? Day one. I sit down. I 262 00:15:33.610 --> 00:15:35.429 think I have to organize my closet. 263 00:15:36.929 --> 00:15:40.019 Distraction one. 264 00:15:40.240 --> 00:15:41.399 I wonder what's in the fridge. 265 00:15:42.059 --> 00:15:42.960 Distraction two. 266 00:15:45.059 --> 00:15:46.600 I better call my kids. 267 00:15:47.259 --> 00:15:47.980 Distraction. 268 00:15:49.700 --> 00:15:53.610 And then the whole, I'll do it tomorrow. We'll start tomorrow. 269 00:15:53.710 --> 00:15:54.389 We'll start tomorrow. 270 00:15:54.690 --> 00:15:54.870 Right? 271 00:15:55.149 --> 00:15:58.009 Today, I need a break. I need to just like 272 00:15:58.110 --> 00:15:58.750 chill out. 273 00:15:58.850 --> 00:15:59.330 Right, right. 274 00:15:59.549 --> 00:15:59.990 Tomorrow. 275 00:16:01.669 --> 00:16:02.350 Good breakfast. 276 00:16:06.360 --> 00:16:08.059 Oh, I didn't finish doing the closet. 277 00:16:08.340 --> 00:16:11.440 So you got, I wanted to just be really moose 278 00:16:11.500 --> 00:16:14.740 on the table, tell

it like it is, my Canadian 279 00:16:14.759 --> 00:16:17.470 version of talking about the elephants in the room. So 280 00:16:17.549 --> 00:16:21.009 just in case you didn't think that this applied to you, 281 00:16:21.090 --> 00:16:25.659 this particular topic, I know that there's something in your 282 00:16:25.700 --> 00:16:28.100 life that you have not hit the complete. 283 00:16:28.580 --> 00:16:30.039 And this is for you. 284 00:16:30.820 --> 00:16:31.039 Okay. 285 00:16:31.620 --> 00:16:32.019 Let's go. 286 00:16:32.480 --> 00:16:33.820 Let's go to the statistics. 287 00:16:34.200 --> 00:16:41.929 And the reality is, is that most people experience being 288 00:16:42.009 --> 00:16:49.450 motivated without being disciplined almost every day. Every day. And 289 00:16:49.929 --> 00:16:55.740 a motivation is an emotional motivation. short-lived spark that naturally 290 00:16:55.820 --> 00:16:59.980 rises and falls. It rises and falls. And so, because 291 00:17:00.019 --> 00:17:03.649 we feel like this is pretty much unreliable. And let 292 00:17:03.690 --> 00:17:07.970 me tell you the statistics. Okay. It's up to 92% 293 00:17:07.970 --> 00:17:15.009 in goal-completed studies. 92%. And so, when you look at 294 00:17:15.049 --> 00:17:22.609 it like that, it's interesting. And so... you're not necessarily 295 00:17:23.769 --> 00:17:31.089 alone when it comes to the goal completion studies. So 296 00:17:31.690 --> 00:17:34.130 they didn't look at how many people do it, but 297 00:17:34.170 --> 00:17:37.859 when it comes to goal completion studies, it happens about 298 00:17:37.859 --> 00:17:39.099 92% of the time. 299 00:17:40.660 --> 00:17:44.579 That you don't complete your goals or that you do? 300 00:17:45.740 --> 00:17:49.319 They suffer with motivation issues. 301 00:17:49.680 --> 00:17:52.960 Oh, okay. 92% suffer with motivation issues. 302 00:17:53.019 --> 00:17:53.279 Got it. 303 00:17:53.279 --> 00:17:53.559 Yes. 304 00:17:53.880 --> 00:17:54.140 Okay. 305 00:17:54.339 --> 00:17:54.660 Yes. 306 00:17:54.720 --> 00:17:56.160 That's a high percentage. 307 00:17:56.480 --> 00:17:57.890 That's a high percent. Okay. 308 00:17:57.930 --> 00:17:58.890 So we're not alone. 309 00:17:59.369 --> 00:18:02.970 We are not alone. And that's why I said it's 310 00:18:03.009 --> 00:18:06.210 like the roller coaster. You know, you have your peaks 311 00:18:06.269 --> 00:18:08.640 and your valleys, your peaks and your valleys. So if 312 00:18:08.650 --> 00:18:10.339 you're wondering like, oh my goodness, why do I feel 313 00:18:10.359 --> 00:18:14.680 like this today? There's always tomorrow. And so I don't 314 00:18:14.799 --> 00:18:20.670 want you to be discouraged. And when you look at 315 00:18:20.950 --> 00:18:26.210 what is going on in your life, know that as 316 00:18:26.250 --> 00:18:28.970 long as there's tomorrow, it's a wonderful thing. And so 317 00:18:29.230 --> 00:18:35.339 when I picked this topic, I'm always counseling family. I'm 318 00:18:35.359 --> 00:18:38.839 always counseling friends. I'm always counseling my kids. That's why 319 00:18:38.920 --> 00:18:41.940 I picked this topic. And I started doing the research. 320 00:18:42.000 --> 00:18:45.980 I was like, wow. That's pretty significant because I'm always 321 00:18:46.140 --> 00:18:50.480 motivating them. And I look at that number and I said, 322 00:18:51.119 --> 00:18:55.309 this is an important topic to talk about because if 323 00:18:55.480 --> 00:18:59.230 I'm talking to them about this, I'm sure our listeners 324 00:18:59.650 --> 00:19:04.650 need to hear this too. And so I'm thinking, okay, well, 325 00:19:04.710 --> 00:19:08.059 let's take this and smack it, flip it up and 326 00:19:08.150 --> 00:19:10.539 swim in this and digest it and chew on this 327 00:19:10.579 --> 00:19:13.869 for a minute. Because we need to break this down 328 00:19:14.410 --> 00:19:17.210 and talk about it and help one another. Because when 329 00:19:17.269 --> 00:19:19.769 you ignore it, that's when it's a bigger problem. 330 00:19:20.490 --> 00:19:22.289 Yeah, for sure. For sure. 331 00:19:23.470 --> 00:19:28.130 And this is one of the reasons I think that 332 00:19:30.049 --> 00:19:36.819 it's so much easier to sit and binge watch or 333 00:19:37.359 --> 00:19:40.279 just fall into your daily habits. 334 00:19:41.269 --> 00:19:46.950 Of, you know, what is it? 335 00:19:46.960 --> 00:19:50.180 The mundane, not mundane, but just like, it's like, um 336 00:19:50.900 --> 00:19:55.660 i joke around with people who say exactly what i 337 00:19:55.720 --> 00:20:00.069 said is is it christmas already because your your whole 338 00:20:00.150 --> 00:20:04.029 year just goes by you know the same thing and 339 00:20:04.069 --> 00:20:08.609 you're not trying to finish anything because it's It's not easy. 340 00:20:09.029 --> 00:20:13.390 You have to have that discipline to continue to do 341 00:20:13.519 --> 00:20:18.920 things that aren't automatic. You brush your teeth because it's 342 00:20:18.980 --> 00:20:21.440 not that long. 343 00:20:21.460 --> 00:20:22.940 It's not that big of a deal. 344 00:20:23.279 --> 00:20:27.509 But sitting down and writing for a week or even 345 00:20:27.589 --> 00:20:29.990 a day is not easy. 346 00:20:30.630 --> 00:20:32.809 So there you go. 347 00:20:33.569 --> 00:20:33.890 Yeah. Yeah. 348 00:20:34.259 --> 00:20:39.930 And discipline is learning to lead yourself. And a lot 349 00:20:39.970 --> 00:20:45.390 of times you have to practice that. And you can 350 00:20:45.430 --> 00:20:51.809 spend your whole life waiting for the right feeling to 351 00:20:51.869 --> 00:20:57.859 show up before you do the right thing. And that 352 00:20:57.920 --> 00:21:04.049 can be a cycle of a problem. And You don't 353 00:21:04.130 --> 00:21:08.450 want to keep waiting and waiting and waiting because feelings 354 00:21:08.670 --> 00:21:15.329 are wonderful visitors, but they are terrible managers. And I 355 00:21:15.410 -->

00:21:18.869 think we have to keep that in perspective because your 356 00:21:18.930 --> 00:21:24.589 feelings might tell you, stay in the bed. Your purpose 357 00:21:25.150 --> 00:21:29.309 might tell you to get up and do something because 358 00:21:29.650 --> 00:21:33.309 action is is important. And I think we have to 359 00:21:33.390 --> 00:21:37.730 remember that. And your feelings might tell you to spend 360 00:21:37.759 --> 00:21:42.400 the money, but your financial goals will tell you and 361 00:21:42.440 --> 00:21:45.160 remind you that your rent is due and you want 362 00:21:45.180 --> 00:21:46.980 a roof over your head. Right, Dr. 363 00:21:47.019 --> 00:21:47.460 Marissa? 364 00:21:47.500 --> 00:21:49.059 Yeah, absolutely. 365 00:21:50.940 --> 00:21:54.640 There is one, you know, I'm always going to, you know, 366 00:21:57.259 --> 00:22:03.480 push the edge of Dr. Tiffany's envelope there is the newer. 367 00:22:03.200 --> 00:22:08.880 Thought that accomplishing things don't have to be that difficult. 368 00:22:09.359 --> 00:22:16.630 And that if we allow ourselves to use our feelings 369 00:22:17.910 --> 00:22:20.970 to motivate us to do something, that when we get 370 00:22:21.009 --> 00:22:24.680 the inspiration to do it, That's the time to do it. 371 00:22:24.759 --> 00:22:28.019 And if you're forcing yourself to do things that you 372 00:22:28.039 --> 00:22:30.700 don't feel like doing, that's counterproductive. 373 00:22:30.980 --> 00:22:32.759 That's pure law of attraction. 374 00:22:33.160 --> 00:22:34.000 Now, I'm. 375 00:22:36.779 --> 00:22:40.099 All about balance. So I think there's a little of both. 376 00:22:40.279 --> 00:22:47.779 I think that I'm rarely going to, let's just finish. 377 00:22:47.440 --> 00:22:50.509 This, something that I really don't want to do. So 378 00:22:50.660 --> 00:22:52.150 I'll reward myself. 379 00:22:53.039 --> 00:22:55.400 With things like, okay, we get to play Candy Crush 380 00:22:55.519 --> 00:22:59.019 if we finish this chapter, or we get to, you know, 381 00:22:59.039 --> 00:23:02.700 just get a manicure if we finish this whole section. 382 00:23:03.119 --> 00:23:06.779 So I, I have ways in which to mother, because 383 00:23:06.839 --> 00:23:10.579 if I just only did things that I love to do, um, 384 00:23:12.500 --> 00:23:13.640 we may not have the. 385 00:23:13.660 --> 00:23:17.240 Money to pay the rent or the mortgage, right? 386 00:23:17.589 --> 00:23:20.589 So, so there is a balance for sure. But I 387 00:23:20.670 --> 00:23:24.519 also think that it's a lesson for perfectionists. If you're 388 00:23:25.039 --> 00:23:27.920 only living in the. 389 00:23:28.319 --> 00:23:30.640 I gotta finish this. I gotta finish this. I gotta 390 00:23:30.660 --> 00:23:31.119 finish this. 391 00:23:31.960 --> 00:23:35.160 You're not real fun to be around, including with yourself. 392 00:23:35.579 --> 00:23:39.940 So there's got to be some way to balance out 393 00:23:40.220 --> 00:23:46.019 the need to be disciplined and motivated with, I get 394 00:23:46.079 --> 00:23:48.359 to enjoy what I just completed. 395 00:23:49.380 --> 00:23:49.569 Right. 396 00:23:49.609 --> 00:23:49.869 Dr. 397 00:23:49.900 --> 00:23:50.369 Tiffany. 398 00:23:51.029 --> 00:23:58.500 Uh, This is rare, people. I'm actually going to agree 399 00:23:58.519 --> 00:23:58.880 with Dr. 400 00:23:58.920 --> 00:23:59.180 Marissa. 401 00:23:59.240 --> 00:24:01.119 Stop the press. 402 00:24:01.440 --> 00:24:02.480 Yeah. 403 00:24:03.660 --> 00:24:06.269 I'm not even going to roll my eyes. Wait, wait. 404 00:24:06.289 --> 00:24:07.609 Put it down in the calendar. 405 00:24:09.910 --> 00:24:14.190 Mark this point. Beginning of November. November 4th. I'm going 406 00:24:14.210 --> 00:24:15.009 to agree with Dr. 407 00:24:15.029 --> 00:24:15.210 Marissa. 408 00:24:15.230 --> 00:24:15.349 Yeah. 409 00:24:18.210 --> 00:24:22.430 This is rare because there must be a balance because 410 00:24:22.789 --> 00:24:27.549 motivation can be internal or external, and it does move 411 00:24:27.670 --> 00:24:32.089 us toward our goal. And it might come from fear. 412 00:24:32.369 --> 00:24:38.180 It might come from inspiration or excitement. It could be 413 00:24:38.380 --> 00:24:41.680 when you break up with an ex. It could be 414 00:24:41.700 --> 00:24:46.630 because you lose a job. Whatever it is that spurs 415 00:24:47.029 --> 00:24:50.490 you towards your goal, but it is going to be 416 00:24:51.019 --> 00:24:57.160 your discipline that helps propel you to achieve it. And yes, 417 00:24:57.880 --> 00:25:01.180 I'm not advocating that you be a robot and that's 418 00:25:01.240 --> 00:25:03.910 all you do because you got to live. You know, remember, 419 00:25:04.269 --> 00:25:07.849 stress kills and we want you to live life to 420 00:25:07.990 --> 00:25:13.440 the fullest. I think that's important. You know, when you 421 00:25:14.059 --> 00:25:19.430 are doing your best. Now, there is nothing wrong with 422 00:25:19.589 --> 00:25:23.809 using that disappointment as your catalyst for growth. I think 423 00:25:23.849 --> 00:25:27.369 it's important to do what it is that you need 424 00:25:27.470 --> 00:25:32.480 to do to do you, boo. Make sure that you 425 00:25:32.579 --> 00:25:34.519 work it out. Right, Dr. 426 00:25:34.559 --> 00:25:34.819 Marissa? 427 00:25:34.839 --> 00:25:34.920 Yeah. 428 00:25:35.279 --> 00:25:36.539 Yeah, absolutely. 429 00:25:37.539 --> 00:25:40.720 This is sort of jumping to solution, which is second 430 00:25:40.759 --> 00:25:41.460 half of the show. 431 00:25:41.519 --> 00:25:44.240 But if I don't say it now, I'm going to forget. 432 00:25:44.400 --> 00:25:46.900 I just know it. One of the tools that. 433 00:25:46.839 --> 00:25:50.970 I use that's very helpful to keep me motivated is 434 00:25:51.069 --> 00:25:52.569 called 15. 435 00:25:51.950 --> 00:25:52.950 Minutes at a time. 436 00:25:53.500 --> 00:25:56.150 It sort of runs counter to the example that I

437 00:25:56.190 --> 00:25:59.029 gave you where I just clear out a week's worth 438 00:25:59.069 --> 00:26:02.410 of time because realistically I'm not going to do what 439 00:26:02.470 --> 00:26:04.279 I need to do for the entire week. 440 00:26:04.700 --> 00:26:06.720 So if I have a big project. 441 00:26:07.200 --> 00:26:10.200 If I say 15 minutes at a time, and we 442 00:26:10.220 --> 00:26:13.059 both have big projects, we actually have a bet against 443 00:26:13.119 --> 00:26:15.640 each other who's going to finish first as. 444 00:26:15.539 --> 00:26:17.400 A way of motivating ourselves. 445 00:26:17.769 --> 00:26:19.849 I don't know if it's working, but I have a 446 00:26:19.869 --> 00:26:23.049 screenplay to finish, and I have to say to myself, 447 00:26:23.450 --> 00:26:26.849 you know what? I don't have five hours today, but 448 00:26:26.910 --> 00:26:29.150 I have 15 minutes, and I can. 449 00:26:29.970 --> 00:26:32.630 Use those 15 minutes. And then usually what happens is 450 00:26:32.690 --> 00:26:33.549 the 15. 451 00:26:33.150 --> 00:26:37.420 Minutes turns into 30, because I'm now primed and I'm 452 00:26:37.480 --> 00:26:41.259 excited and I'm in the writing. So that's a tool 453 00:26:41.660 --> 00:26:47.240 that might be helpful for people who are perfectionists. And 454 00:26:47.259 --> 00:26:55.119 the road is perfectionism, procrastination, and paralysis. And if you 455 00:26:55.259 --> 00:26:58.859 understand that, you are a recovering perfectionist because that's what 456 00:26:58.900 --> 00:27:03.559 happens when you're not motivated. You go from I'm super 457 00:27:03.599 --> 00:27:08.859 motivated to maybe we can do this later. I've always 458 00:27:08.900 --> 00:27:11.900 wanted to be a procrastinator but never got around to it. 459 00:27:12.660 --> 00:27:12.880 Wait. 460 00:27:14.440 --> 00:27:14.740 Oh, wait. 461 00:27:14.779 --> 00:27:20.359 No, that's not the right one. There's another eye roll. 462 00:27:20.869 --> 00:27:23.230 And then paralysis, you don't do it at all. 463 00:27:23.369 --> 00:27:26.549 And you have that project sitting in your to-do list 464 00:27:26.670 --> 00:27:31.019 for 10 years. So in order to combat that 15 465 00:27:31.019 --> 00:27:31.700 minutes at. 466 00:27:31.599 --> 00:27:34.339 A time is the tool that I use. 467 00:27:36.000 --> 00:27:42.509 So I think when it comes to our competition, she's just, 468 00:27:42.549 --> 00:27:44.430 you know, taking advantage of the fact that I'm running 469 00:27:44.450 --> 00:27:48.309 for office people. Because, you know, we are very competitive people. 470 00:27:48.500 --> 00:27:50.029 But that's just my sidebar. 471 00:27:51.990 --> 00:27:54.490 Yeah, here we go. 472 00:27:55.490 --> 00:27:59.069 We use the competition to motivate us because I know 473 00:27:59.190 --> 00:28:02.970 it's very helpful because I've always got one eye on 474 00:28:03.089 --> 00:28:05.950 where she is so that, you know, I have to 475 00:28:05.990 --> 00:28:08.779

get to that finish line. And we both know we 476 00:28:08.819 --> 00:28:12.220 cannot lie about when it's finished. 477 00:28:12.319 --> 00:28:13.339 So there you go. 478 00:28:15.680 --> 00:28:19.779 But seriously, on a serious note, You know, motivation, like 479 00:28:19.799 --> 00:28:22.799 she was saying, motivation may inspire you to write the book, 480 00:28:23.299 --> 00:28:26.099 but it's going to be discipline that's going to help 481 00:28:26.140 --> 00:28:30.940 you get the job done. And motivation may inspire you 482 00:28:31.359 --> 00:28:33.789 to apply for a job, but it's going to be 483 00:28:33.920 --> 00:28:38.450 discipline that gets you to update your resume. And so 484 00:28:38.470 --> 00:28:41.549 they kind of go hand in hand. Yeah. And so 485 00:28:41.750 --> 00:28:44.490 when I said, which do you prefer? The answer should 486 00:28:44.509 --> 00:28:49.940 be both. Okay. Because they really do go hand in 487 00:28:50.000 --> 00:28:55.299 hand when you're looking at it. And so discipline helps 488 00:28:55.339 --> 00:29:03.990 you listen and communicate honestly, apologize, and all of these 489 00:29:04.089 --> 00:29:13.019 things when you're working towards your goals and things like that. 490 00:29:13.319 --> 00:29:20.789 Because motivation will start... the conversation. But discipline will really 491 00:29:20.910 --> 00:29:27.900 continue that conversation. And I think when we're looking at this, 492 00:29:27.920 --> 00:29:32.259 a lot of times people really see it adversely. God 493 00:29:32.279 --> 00:29:36.230 bless you. People really see it adversely. And I really 494 00:29:36.390 --> 00:29:39.910 wanted to have this show so that we could discuss 495 00:29:40.940 --> 00:29:44.000 it and make sure people start seeing it in a 496 00:29:44.160 --> 00:29:47.630 positive light and more accepting of it. 497 00:29:48.180 --> 00:29:49.779 Yeah, that's great. 498 00:29:50.119 --> 00:29:53.539 And I just had that breakthrough with the sneeze. Some 499 00:29:53.579 --> 00:29:55.480 people will do anything for a blessing, by the way. 500 00:29:55.940 --> 00:30:03.079 But motivation is the Feeling, right? You feel motivated or 501 00:30:03.119 --> 00:30:04.680 you have an idea. 502 00:30:04.779 --> 00:30:07.720 You're feeling something. You're inspired. 503 00:30:08.240 --> 00:30:13.670 And discipline or bliscipline is the action that comes from 504 00:30:13.990 --> 00:30:19.130 out of that feeling. So you've helped take that bad 505 00:30:19.230 --> 00:30:25.130 taste out of my mouth when you first announced the topic. 506 00:30:25.190 --> 00:30:27.960 So thank you for that. It's time. 507 00:30:28.329 --> 00:30:31.059 It's that time already, middle of the show. We need 508 00:30:31.079 --> 00:30:33.299 to take a quick break for news, weather, traffic, and 509 00:30:33.319 --> 00:30:34.519 a word from our sponsor. 510 00:30:34.880 --> 00:30:37.680 But don't go away. We'll be right back in two 511 00:30:37.759 --> 00:30:40.950 and two, as Chuck Weller used to say. Two minutes, 512 00:30:41.009 --> 00:30:44.529 it'll be less than that. It's peace in and peace out. 513 00:30:44.630 --> 00:30:46.890 Don't go away. We will be right back. 514 00:30:47.809 --> 00:30:48.559 We'll be right back. 515 00:31:05.619 --> 00:31:08.440 Well, she has been dubbed the Asian Oprah, and she 516 00:31:08.480 --> 00:31:09.839 just wants all of us to be happy. 517 00:31:17.490 --> 00:31:17.829 Dr. 518 00:31:17.890 --> 00:31:19.190 Marissa, a.k.a. 519 00:31:19.250 --> 00:31:22.269 The Asian Oprah, says the most important thing you can 520 00:31:22.329 --> 00:31:24.690 choose is choosing to be happy. 521 00:31:24.750 --> 00:31:28.349 You are tuned into my weekly talk radio TV show 522 00:31:28.390 --> 00:31:29.950 called Take My Advice. 523 00:31:30.009 --> 00:31:32.170 I'm not using it. Get balanced with Dr. 524 00:31:32.190 --> 00:31:32.450 Marissa. 525 00:31:44.339 --> 00:31:45.720 That's the idea for Dr. 526 00:31:45.740 --> 00:31:49.210 Marissa Paye's new book called Eight Ways to Be Happy. 527 00:31:49.549 --> 00:31:52.789 Many of us say, I am my own worst critic. 528 00:31:53.369 --> 00:31:56.099 Nobody's harder on me than I am. 529 00:31:56.619 --> 00:31:58.119 And my response to that. 530 00:31:58.000 --> 00:31:59.299 Is, stop it. 531 00:32:00.740 --> 00:32:03.890 Why are you doing that to yourself? You have to 532 00:32:03.950 --> 00:32:04.430 be your. 533 00:32:04.309 --> 00:32:06.769 Biggest fan because if you can't at the end of 534 00:32:06.809 --> 00:32:10.009 the day say, I did a good job, who is? 535 00:32:10.470 --> 00:32:13.160 We don't have to constantly be angry at the things 536 00:32:13.180 --> 00:32:15.700 that are wrong. Why don't we choose to be happy 537 00:32:16.019 --> 00:32:17.140 about things that are right? 538 00:32:17.460 --> 00:32:18.799 We have the choice. 539 00:32:19.119 --> 00:32:20.200 That's our muscle. 540 00:32:20.640 --> 00:32:24.390 And life is so amazing if we. 541 00:32:24.329 --> 00:32:25.170 Can see it. 542 00:32:31.160 --> 00:32:34.950 I'm Dr. Tiffany Tate, and this is home. The people 543 00:32:35.029 --> 00:32:39.210 of Senate District 32 deserve a leader who understands what 544 00:32:39.230 --> 00:32:41.730 it means to serve and not just talk about it. 545 00:32:42.470 --> 00:32:46.009 I'm a Navy veteran officer, an OBGYN who has delivered 546 00:32:46.170 --> 00:32:50.779 multiple babies, an author, a mother, and a community servant. 547 00:32:51.180 --> 00:32:54.279 My life has taken me from Compton to medical school. 548 00:32:54.859 --> 00:32:58.319 For years, I cared for families and patients, helping them 549 00:32:58.359 --> 00:33:01.690 through the most important moments of their lives. I never 550 00:33:01.869 --> 00:33:04.920 asked them what their political party was. I asked them 551 00:33:05.079 --> 00:33:08.339 what their problem was. Now I'm ready to bring that 552 00:33:08.519 --> 00:33:13.690 same commitment to Sacramento.

I'm not running to be another politician. 553 00:33:14.029 --> 00:33:16.519 I'm running to be a problem solver. 554 00:33:35.279 --> 00:33:37.839 Take back your life with Dr. Marissa Paye. 555 00:33:41.299 --> 00:33:44.160 And we're back. You're tuned in to Take My Advice. 556 00:33:44.789 --> 00:33:47.529 I'm not using it. Get balanced with Dr. Marissa, the 557 00:33:47.569 --> 00:33:48.250 morning show. 558 00:33:48.289 --> 00:33:48.890 You're on. 559 00:33:49.359 --> 00:33:53.059 KCAA, home to the Asian Oprah, number one talk in 560 00:33:53.079 --> 00:33:54.740 the IE. Thank you very much. 561 00:33:55.240 --> 00:34:03.650 NBC News Radio, AM 1050, FM 106.5N, streaming everywhere. iHeartRadio, Spotify, 562 00:34:03.670 --> 00:34:06.089 and of course my YouTube TV channel, where if you 563 00:34:06.109 --> 00:34:09.309 free subscribe and give me the finger, this one, not 564 00:34:09.349 --> 00:34:12.760 the other one, you will get an alert every weekday 565 00:34:12.800 --> 00:34:15.539 morning to tune in to the show about hope and happiness. 566 00:34:16.889 --> 00:34:20.590 because life is way too short to be talking about 567 00:34:20.670 --> 00:34:24.030 the K-word Kardashians or listening to the headlines that give 568 00:34:24.070 --> 00:34:27.699 you a case of the four A's, angry, anxious, afraid, 569 00:34:28.039 --> 00:34:33.239 and aggravated. Instead, I have topics, gifts, and very special 570 00:34:33.340 --> 00:34:37.519 series to help you be happy 88% of the time. 571 00:34:37.559 --> 00:34:41.699 Today's no exception. You see in studio today my fabulous 572 00:34:41.739 --> 00:34:43.440 co-host of my. 573 00:34:43.380 --> 00:34:48.690 Special series on Wednesdays, doctors in the house with myself 574 00:34:48.710 --> 00:34:53.280 and dr tiffany tate and you saw all the things 575 00:34:53.320 --> 00:34:56.500 that she's been up to and uh nice i like 576 00:34:56.559 --> 00:34:59.460 it that was my first time seeing that and very 577 00:34:59.559 --> 00:35:08.309 i'm i'm great i'm gonna say because we do not 578 00:35:08.369 --> 00:35:11.710 talk about politics on this show but i do talk 579 00:35:11.769 --> 00:35:18.349 about my co-hosts So topic of the day today is. 580 00:35:19.730 --> 00:35:21.829 Motivation versus discipline. 581 00:35:24.800 --> 00:35:28.159 And we talked about the problem side of all of that. 582 00:35:28.219 --> 00:35:31.719 We started a little bit early with the solution because 583 00:35:32.380 --> 00:35:34.750 I have a great memory, but my recall sucks. 584 00:35:35.329 --> 00:35:38.650 But I'm sure Dr. Tiffany has more on what do 585 00:35:38.690 --> 00:35:40.650 we do when we don't. 586 00:35:40.429 --> 00:35:45.639 Feel motivated and we don't have the discipline and don't 587 00:35:45.780 --> 00:35:47.119 want the discipline. 588 00:35:47.139 --> 00:35:48.880 Because just like. 589 00:35:48.800 --> 00:35:51.900 I do in the morning, my bathing suit will say, 590 00:35:52.119 --> 00:35:55.360 let's go

do some laps in the pool. And then 591 00:35:55.440 --> 00:36:01.579 my sweatpants say, yeah, you're okay. Let's just watch another 592 00:36:01.780 --> 00:36:02.579 Love is Blind. 593 00:36:03.460 --> 00:36:08.929 Absolutely. Absolutely. And it's funny because a lot of times 594 00:36:10.590 --> 00:36:15.690 the principle is that you want to remember that motivation 595 00:36:15.909 --> 00:36:20.809 is the spark. But discipline is the practice. And we 596 00:36:20.849 --> 00:36:24.800 have to remember that a spark can start a fire. 597 00:36:25.760 --> 00:36:30.800 But fires can be need to be tended to because 598 00:36:30.820 --> 00:36:33.809 you can light a candle on Monday and and complain 599 00:36:33.929 --> 00:36:36.329 on Thursday that the room is dark because that candle 600 00:36:36.349 --> 00:36:39.679 went out. And so we want to keep that in mind. 601 00:36:40.199 --> 00:36:45.239 And so when you look at some more statistics that 602 00:36:45.260 --> 00:36:48.019 I wanted to talk about, in 2002 there was a 603 00:36:48.039 --> 00:36:51.780 study by a psychologist called Gail Matthews at the Dominican 604 00:36:51.860 --> 00:36:58.010 University of California, and they examined a goal achievement among 605 00:36:58.010 --> 00:37:04.050 267 participants. And the study found that participants who wrote 606 00:37:04.409 --> 00:37:09.719 down their goals and shared progress reports with another person 607 00:37:10.510 --> 00:37:15.039 tended to report greater goal achievements. So like you said, oh, 608 00:37:15.360 --> 00:37:17.260 you talk about it and you think about it and 609 00:37:17.280 --> 00:37:20.159 you don't do it. So if you wanted to actually 610 00:37:20.219 --> 00:37:24.860 get closer to achieving your success, write it down and 611 00:37:24.889 --> 00:37:29.210 tell somebody about it. That would help you increase your 612 00:37:29.349 --> 00:37:33.449 probability of of success. And so the lesson is that 613 00:37:33.489 --> 00:37:37.909 a goal becomes more useful when you move it out 614 00:37:37.969 --> 00:37:43.349 of your imagination and into a system of accountability. And 615 00:37:43.409 --> 00:37:46.179 so that's part of that process. 616 00:37:49.659 --> 00:37:50.659 I will say that. 617 00:37:52.380 --> 00:37:57.900 Be careful who you tell though, because there are people 618 00:37:58.039 --> 00:38:02.159 who are well-meaning and but sometimes more mean than well, 619 00:38:03.000 --> 00:38:06.800 who will tell you what they think of your idea 620 00:38:07.380 --> 00:38:12.949 and poo poo it and discourage you. So be careful 621 00:38:13.030 --> 00:38:16.429 who you are telling your goals to. Like I know 622 00:38:16.489 --> 00:38:19.989 if I told Dr. Tiffany, she would be like, yes, 623 00:38:20.190 --> 00:38:20.909 go for it. 624 00:38:20.989 --> 00:38:21.800 That's great. 625 00:38:22.010 --> 00:38:24.539 And that's why we have our competition program. because we 626 00:38:24.599 --> 00:38:27.360 know that those

are things that would make our lives 627 00:38:27.440 --> 00:38:32.000 more fun, better, more lucrative, whatever it is, more helpful. 628 00:38:33.539 --> 00:38:37.059 But there are people in my life who I know 629 00:38:37.099 --> 00:38:39.579 better not to tell. 630 00:38:39.400 --> 00:38:42.260 Them because they'd be like, nobody's. 631 00:38:41.940 --> 00:38:43.500 Going to be able to do that, or you don't 632 00:38:43.519 --> 00:38:45.900 have the time to do that, or why do you 633 00:38:46.000 --> 00:38:48.079 want to do that, or blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. 634 00:38:48.460 --> 00:38:50.019 So be careful who you pick. 635 00:38:50.940 --> 00:38:55.110 Absolutely. And the reality is, We know our people. We 636 00:38:55.150 --> 00:38:59.469 know our friends. We know our families. And we know 637 00:38:59.530 --> 00:39:01.699 the people who are supportive, or at least we think 638 00:39:01.739 --> 00:39:06.099 we do. And if you come across someone who is 639 00:39:06.260 --> 00:39:09.579 not supportive of you, sometimes you have to take it 640 00:39:09.659 --> 00:39:10.539 as a grain of salt. 641 00:39:11.079 --> 00:39:12.980 Kick them to the curb. 642 00:39:13.599 --> 00:39:16.840 No, you don't necessarily have to kick them to the curb. Remember, 643 00:39:16.889 --> 00:39:19.510 take my advice. I'm not using it. That's the eye roll, people. 644 00:39:20.039 --> 00:39:20.360 Dr. 645 00:39:20.400 --> 00:39:23.639 Marissa is like, cut them off. That's not my philosophy. 646 00:39:24.110 --> 00:39:27.070 I'm like, give them grace. Sometimes you have to feed 647 00:39:27.150 --> 00:39:29.190 them with a long handle spoon. You have to love 648 00:39:29.210 --> 00:39:32.639 them from afar. I know when I said I was 649 00:39:32.659 --> 00:39:37.380 going to become a doctor, I'm the first medical doctor 650 00:39:37.579 --> 00:39:40.519 in my family. I'm actually the only medical doctor in 651 00:39:40.559 --> 00:39:43.760 my family. And they looked at me like, really, you 652 00:39:43.780 --> 00:39:46.489 want to be a doctor? When I said I was 653 00:39:46.510 --> 00:39:47.670 going to write a book, they were like, really? Why 654 00:39:47.690 --> 00:39:49.610 do you want to write a book? When I said 655 00:39:49.630 --> 00:39:50.710 I was going to be on the radio, why do 656 00:39:50.750 --> 00:39:51.909 you want to be on the radio? When I said 657 00:39:51.929 --> 00:39:53.070 I was going to run for office, why do you 658 00:39:53.090 --> 00:39:56.480 want to do that? And so they support me now. 659 00:39:56.920 --> 00:39:59.800 But they questioned me. And so if you tell them 660 00:39:59.820 --> 00:40:01.449 you want to do something and they give you the 661 00:40:01.489 --> 00:40:03.030 side eye, like, why do you want to do that? 662 00:40:03.969 --> 00:40:05.670 When people want to put you in the box, break 663 00:40:05.690 --> 00:40:10.289 the box. And it's because they don't see that. Just 664 00:40:10.329 --> 00:40:12.809 because they don't see it doesn't mean that you don't 665 00:40:12.869 --> 00:40:15.429 have to see it. And it doesn't mean that you 666 00:40:15.469 --> 00:40:19.650 have to limit yourself. And if your friends don't like it, 667 00:40:19.650 --> 00:40:21.699 it doesn't mean you have to cut them off. Just 668 00:40:21.719 --> 00:40:24.280 get some new friends who do support you. That's the 669 00:40:24.340 --> 00:40:29.760 same thing. That doesn't mean you don't have to like 670 00:40:29.820 --> 00:40:32.460 the other friends. They can still be friends, but they 671 00:40:32.480 --> 00:40:33.099 can be friends from afar. 672 00:40:33.119 --> 00:40:34.000 I don't want to have time to have a lot 673 00:40:34.039 --> 00:40:37.079 of friends. I just want to have the friends that 674 00:40:37.199 --> 00:40:38.179 are good for me. 675 00:40:38.980 --> 00:40:41.900 I can't with Dr. Marissa Peep. I can't with her today. 676 00:40:42.239 --> 00:40:45.920 We're just going to pray for her. Bless her heart. 677 00:40:45.980 --> 00:40:47.619 Bless her heart. Bless her heart. 678 00:40:47.639 --> 00:40:50.489 Bless you. And the horse you rode in on. 679 00:40:50.510 --> 00:40:53.889 Oh, Lord, Lord, Lord. Then we're going to talk about 680 00:40:53.929 --> 00:40:57.719 some habits. There was a study about habits. Oh, Lord, 681 00:40:57.760 --> 00:40:59.639 help me, Jesus. Okay. 682 00:40:59.659 --> 00:41:01.199 We're going to have to talk to you about your 683 00:41:01.420 --> 00:41:02.539 eye-rolling habits. 684 00:41:03.800 --> 00:41:08.559 Yes, yes, yes. We all have habits, people. Okay, whatever 685 00:41:08.599 --> 00:41:10.099 helps me and deals with Dr. 686 00:41:10.119 --> 00:41:10.519 Marissa. 687 00:41:13.099 --> 00:41:19.409 Okay, so then there was a widely cited study in 688 00:41:19.409 --> 00:41:22.469 2009 by Philippa Lally and colleagues called And this was 689 00:41:22.530 --> 00:41:26.570 published in the European Journal of Social Psychology. 690 00:41:26.869 --> 00:41:28.309 Man, you did a lot of research. 691 00:41:28.929 --> 00:41:34.110 Yeah. And it followed 96 volunteers as they developed a 692 00:41:34.239 --> 00:41:39.119 daily behavior. And the researchers found that the time required 693 00:41:39.179 --> 00:41:44.019 for a behavior to approach its automaticity varied considerably. And 694 00:41:44.059 --> 00:41:50.070 the median was 66 days with substantial individual behavior growth. 695 00:41:50.429 --> 00:41:53.389 And so usually we would say, you know, the popular idea, 696 00:41:54.090 --> 00:41:57.329 every habit takes about 21 days. You know, that was 697 00:41:57.349 --> 00:42:04.969 the scientific rule. And so some habits become easier relatively quickly. 698 00:42:05.389 --> 00:42:08.550 And so others take a little bit longer. And so 699 00:42:08.639 --> 00:42:11.579 it really depends on your circumstance and what habit you're 700 00:42:11.599 --> 00:42:15.980 trying to develop. And so it really depends on the 701 00:42:16.000 -->

00:42:21.710 behavior itself and how consistent, remember, the C word consistent, 702 00:42:23.110 --> 00:42:26.719 you practice. And so really, depending on what it is, 703 00:42:26.780 --> 00:42:31.239 whether it's exercise, whether it's writing a book, and I 704 00:42:31.280 --> 00:42:33.739 think it's about your commitment and your consistency. 705 00:42:33.760 --> 00:42:34.760 Okay. 706 00:42:36.300 --> 00:42:38.760 Sold. I guess I'll give you that one. 707 00:42:40.219 --> 00:42:42.510 Then there's sleep. I thought this one was interesting. 708 00:42:42.760 --> 00:42:43.119 Okay. 709 00:42:44.309 --> 00:42:48.610 So the U.S. Centers for Disease Control... And prevention recommends 710 00:42:48.650 --> 00:42:53.610 that adults ages 18 to 60 get at least seven 711 00:42:53.630 --> 00:42:57.159 hours of sleep per night. Epic fail right here. 712 00:42:57.449 --> 00:42:58.820 Yeah, yeah, epic fail. 713 00:42:59.239 --> 00:43:04.400 Yeah, yeah, because sleep supports health, attention, and daily functioning. 714 00:43:04.960 --> 00:43:08.300 And so why does this matter in our conversations about discipline? 715 00:43:08.739 --> 00:43:13.889 Because sometimes we call ourselves lazy when we are exhausted 716 00:43:14.030 --> 00:43:16.670 and we don't get enough rest, people. 717 00:43:18.949 --> 00:43:19.409 I know. 718 00:43:19.429 --> 00:43:23.050 I knew I was going to have to like confess 719 00:43:23.090 --> 00:43:23.469 to this. 720 00:43:24.130 --> 00:43:27.360 And I just didn't want to because I have been 721 00:43:27.659 --> 00:43:32.099 so staunch and happy with the fact that I only 722 00:43:32.199 --> 00:43:33.260 need five. 723 00:43:33.019 --> 00:43:36.039 Hours of sleep. And that's why I get. 724 00:43:35.900 --> 00:43:39.369 A lot of stuff done, even though the doctors say blah, blah, blah. 725 00:43:39.769 --> 00:43:43.369 I honestly have for I'm. 726 00:43:43.349 --> 00:43:46.349 Ageless, so I'm not telling you how long. But many 727 00:43:46.409 --> 00:43:48.750 decades of five hours of sleep. 728 00:43:49.429 --> 00:43:55.489 And I don't know why everything this year has completely changed. 729 00:43:56.250 --> 00:43:59.730 I actually do need more than five hours of sleep. 730 00:44:00.050 --> 00:44:04.019 And it is, unfortunately, even more than six hours. 731 00:44:04.380 --> 00:44:08.820 I don't like being average, but I'm approaching the average 732 00:44:09.199 --> 00:44:13.719 seven hours. But I'm glad it's not eight. But it 733 00:44:13.840 --> 00:44:16.860 is true. I do much better when I get a 734 00:44:17.079 --> 00:44:19.179 full night's sleep that I'm not. 735 00:44:21.199 --> 00:44:22.739 Having to wake up with an alarm. 736 00:44:24.820 --> 00:44:27.780 Absolutely. And I know it is something that I am 737 00:44:28.000 --> 00:44:28.840 working on. 738 00:44:30.960 --> 00:44:34.639 But you take naps, which is a good thing. I 739 00:44:36.400 --> 00:44:37.800 haven't had that habit. 740 00:44:38.780 --> 00:44:41.639 I'll go try to take a nap and I'm like, oh, 741 00:44:41.659 --> 00:44:42.820 I have this idea and I'll start. 742 00:44:43.260 --> 00:44:47.199 You know, working on that. So that's a skill to 743 00:44:47.239 --> 00:44:48.139 be able to just. 744 00:44:48.260 --> 00:44:52.599 Sleep for 20 minutes. I'm intending to be able to 745 00:44:52.639 --> 00:44:53.340 master that. 746 00:44:53.989 --> 00:44:57.010 Well, I will say since campaigning, I haven't had a nap. 747 00:44:57.269 --> 00:44:59.090 I have not had a nap in a couple years. 748 00:44:59.869 --> 00:45:02.769 So when the campaign is over, I'm looking forward to 749 00:45:02.809 --> 00:45:05.190 taking a long. 750 00:45:05.489 --> 00:45:06.309 One week nap. 751 00:45:07.050 --> 00:45:07.489 Yeah. 752 00:45:10.630 --> 00:45:14.239 And so I'll be napping soon. It's coming to a 753 00:45:14.260 --> 00:45:17.699 close really soon. Probably at the end of the show, 754 00:45:19.099 --> 00:45:21.800 at the end of this week, you know, this is 755 00:45:21.840 --> 00:45:26.170 the final stretch. So, yeah. And so the issue is 756 00:45:26.230 --> 00:45:31.190 the problem with waiting to feel motivated is an issue. 757 00:45:31.690 --> 00:45:35.469 And so sometimes we say, well, when I feel better, 758 00:45:35.550 --> 00:45:39.599 I'll begin. And Sometimes we just can't wait. We have 759 00:45:39.719 --> 00:45:46.190 to motivate ourselves. And we don't have to be that. 760 00:45:46.349 --> 00:45:48.489 Sometimes you have to do. I remember I was once 761 00:45:48.570 --> 00:45:51.449 told when looking for the right path, walk there in 762 00:45:51.489 --> 00:45:52.239 and you will find it. 763 00:45:54.570 --> 00:45:57.480 If you're waiting for a sign, this is it. Quit 764 00:45:57.519 --> 00:45:58.599 waiting for the sign. 765 00:45:58.960 --> 00:45:59.260 Yeah. 766 00:46:00.400 --> 00:46:02.960 There was a cartoon of that. That's a good sign. 767 00:46:04.400 --> 00:46:04.599 Good. 768 00:46:05.059 --> 00:46:06.780 I love that. But it's true. 769 00:46:07.280 --> 00:46:13.659 I mean, sometimes you just have to do the gospel 770 00:46:13.699 --> 00:46:14.679 according to Nike. 771 00:46:15.579 --> 00:46:16.159 Just do it. 772 00:46:17.079 --> 00:46:21.119 Yeah. And kind of like what you said, your feelings 773 00:46:21.139 --> 00:46:25.639 will have a whole committee meeting about why you should 774 00:46:25.800 --> 00:46:30.320 do something. The chairperson says, I'm tired. And the vice 775 00:46:30.360 --> 00:46:33.820 chair says, we can do it tomorrow. And then somebody 776 00:46:33.860 --> 00:46:34.619 in back says. 777 00:46:35.139 --> 00:46:37.550 We deserve a little treat first. 778 00:46:38.110 --> 00:46:42.130 And before you know it, the committee has ordered takeout, 779 00:46:42.530 --> 00:46:49.150 watched about three or four videos or movies or whatever, 780 00:46:49.630 --> 00:46:52.829 and you're comfortable, you're exhausted, you're back in the bed, 781 00:46:52.889 --> 00:46:54.989

you're asleep, and then you do the same thing again 782 00:46:55.010 --> 00:46:58.079 the next day. And you have to be careful because 783 00:46:58.099 --> 00:47:01.059 that becomes a cycle. I know that I have been 784 00:47:01.099 --> 00:47:04.309 guilty of that. After being exhausted, I finally get a 785 00:47:04.349 --> 00:47:07.070 day off and I'm like, okay, now on my day off, 786 00:47:07.409 --> 00:47:09.250 I'm going to do X, Y, and Z, X, Y, 787 00:47:09.289 --> 00:47:13.269 and Z, X, Y, and Z. And then I do 788 00:47:13.329 --> 00:47:14.250 laundry and I crash. 789 00:47:15.010 --> 00:47:21.500 Yeah. Now, here's a tool that is going to be 790 00:47:21.559 --> 00:47:23.699 surprising to some people. 791 00:47:23.480 --> 00:47:28.110 Who know me because I am an overachiever. I'm trying 792 00:47:28.130 --> 00:47:29.610 to be a recovering overachiever. 793 00:47:30.150 --> 00:47:35.090 I actually now take one full day off a month 794 00:47:35.590 --> 00:47:38.510 where I do nothing. 795 00:47:39.590 --> 00:47:42.219 That's hard to believe because. 796 00:47:41.940 --> 00:47:44.980 My middle, my motto from a lot of people who 797 00:47:45.019 --> 00:47:46.739 know me, they want to say it's Dr. 798 00:47:46.760 --> 00:47:53.190 Marissa. She's everywhere. If you follow my social. But it's true. 799 00:47:53.409 --> 00:47:57.539 For me now, I allow myself a full day once 800 00:47:57.619 --> 00:48:00.099 a month to do nothing. 801 00:48:00.699 --> 00:48:03.099 And I had a difficult time doing that. 802 00:48:03.739 --> 00:48:06.480 It probably took me like a year to be able 803 00:48:06.539 --> 00:48:10.230 to do a full day and not feel guilty about it. 804 00:48:10.360 --> 00:48:14.820 So if you're a perfectionist or an overachiever, you might 805 00:48:14.880 --> 00:48:18.989 want to take that challenge for one full day a month. 806 00:48:21.590 --> 00:48:25.889 And Let me also point something out. Be careful with 807 00:48:25.929 --> 00:48:31.130 being busy because sometimes being busy is very different than 808 00:48:31.170 --> 00:48:35.949 being productive. And you want to make sure you accomplish 809 00:48:36.530 --> 00:48:41.590 what you set out to accomplish. Some people look at, oh, 810 00:48:41.610 --> 00:48:43.000 I don't want to make a to-do list. I don't 811 00:48:43.019 --> 00:48:46.400 want to make a to-do list. To-do lists can help 812 00:48:46.440 --> 00:48:50.639 you accomplish your goals. So if you're being busy and 813 00:48:50.679 --> 00:48:54.400 you're not accomplishing your goals that you want to accomplish, 814 00:48:55.219 --> 00:48:58.639 sit back and reflect on the day and ask yourself, 815 00:48:59.940 --> 00:49:02.139 I did a whole lot today, but did I do 816 00:49:02.449 --> 00:49:06.090 what I actually wanted to do? I can't answer that 817 00:49:06.130 --> 00:49:10.090 question for you. And so these are just points to 818 00:49:10.150 --> 00:49:11.070 reflect upon. 819 00:49:11.389 --> 00:49:11.550 Yeah. 820 00:49:12.210 --> 00:49:16.440 It's a, you do this, you do that, you do this, 821 00:49:16.519 --> 00:49:18.869 you do that, and then you end up in doo doo. 822 00:49:21.159 --> 00:49:23.900 That's one of my favorites but I think that's a 823 00:49:24.119 --> 00:49:28.349 super important point because there's I was guilty of this 824 00:49:28.849 --> 00:49:33.150 where I can't sit still I gotta be doing something 825 00:49:33.570 --> 00:49:37.550 but then I'm not doing anything of quality or that's 826 00:49:37.630 --> 00:49:42.699 connected to to any kind of accomplishment. If you're so 827 00:49:42.760 --> 00:49:51.030 busy doing things to avoid having meaningful relationships with people, 828 00:49:52.289 --> 00:49:55.230 then you might want to look at your busy work. 829 00:49:55.530 --> 00:49:59.010 What is it that's actually accomplishing? Second point I wanted 830 00:49:59.050 --> 00:50:04.750 to make on this is, are you enjoying what you 831 00:50:04.989 --> 00:50:06.139 are accomplishing? 832 00:50:06.840 --> 00:50:09.719 Because many perfectionists. 833 00:50:09.159 --> 00:50:12.250 Will do, you've got a goal, you write the goal down, 834 00:50:12.550 --> 00:50:16.190 you make it 88% to the goal line. Are you 835 00:50:16.250 --> 00:50:21.949 focused on the 88% of what you've done and saying, yay, me, 836 00:50:22.570 --> 00:50:25.480 look at what I've done, or yay, you all helping, 837 00:50:25.900 --> 00:50:27.280 look at what our team has done? 838 00:50:27.739 --> 00:50:31.719 No, you're focused on that 12%. That's still not done. 839 00:50:31.820 --> 00:50:37.230 And that energy is anxious energy. And uncomfortable because you 840 00:50:37.269 --> 00:50:39.269 want to get to the end. 841 00:50:39.369 --> 00:50:41.730 And they tell me, my clients will say, I will 842 00:50:41.769 --> 00:50:44.030 celebrate when I get to 100%. 843 00:50:44.030 --> 00:50:47.550 But you don't. You hit the bell. You finished 100. 844 00:50:47.550 --> 00:50:48.809 You're on the next goal. 845 00:50:49.070 --> 00:50:54.320 You're all the way to 88% because you're goal-oriented. And then, again, 846 00:50:54.420 --> 00:50:57.760 this is your life. You're always in that 12%. And 847 00:50:57.800 --> 00:51:00.260 you wonder why you're not fun to be with. 848 00:51:00.980 --> 00:51:04.119 Including yourself. You don't even like being with yourself. 849 00:51:04.630 --> 00:51:09.429 So in that goal orientation, take a minute to actually 850 00:51:09.489 --> 00:51:15.579 turn and look and say, wow, that was pretty darn good. 851 00:51:16.079 --> 00:51:18.539 And if you can do that to yourself, the more 852 00:51:18.599 --> 00:51:20.380 likely you're going to be able to do it to 853 00:51:20.559 --> 00:51:22.699 all the people that are around you that helped you 854 00:51:22.719 --> 00:51:23.380 with that goal. 855 00:51:23.820 --> 00:51:25.139 That's good leadership. 856 00:51:26.340 --> 00:51:33.570 Absolutely. Because preparation matters and execution matters.

And discipline is important. 857 00:51:34.800 --> 00:51:42.809 But discipline without flexibility can become rigidity. I think it's 858 00:51:42.909 --> 00:51:50.969 important to recognize that and recognize how you execute that. Yeah. 859 00:51:50.989 --> 00:51:52.150 Don't execute people. 860 00:51:52.889 --> 00:51:53.219 Right. 861 00:51:54.800 --> 00:51:58.519 Right. And so some people are so determined to prove 862 00:51:58.880 --> 00:52:05.119 that they can keep going, that they refuse... To recognize 863 00:52:05.179 --> 00:52:10.780 that a strategy is required. And so that's what I 864 00:52:10.800 --> 00:52:14.239 was saying about, I was talking about making lists to 865 00:52:14.320 --> 00:52:18.099 make sure that you can do it in a stepwise fashion. 866 00:52:18.420 --> 00:52:26.590 Number one, without exhausting yourself. Number two, without becoming so angry, 867 00:52:27.449 --> 00:52:33.690 number one, at yourself and so mean to other people. Yeah. 868 00:52:34.889 --> 00:52:39.929 that is what can sometimes happen when you are frustrated. 869 00:52:40.170 --> 00:52:40.510 Right, Dr. 870 00:52:40.590 --> 00:52:41.030 Marissa? 871 00:52:41.230 --> 00:52:42.409 Yeah, absolutely. 872 00:52:42.829 --> 00:52:46.110 I think this is such an important thing that when 873 00:52:46.349 --> 00:52:52.510 we put to-do lists together that are not realistic. So 874 00:52:52.710 --> 00:52:57.320 if you're one person or even if you can't control 875 00:52:57.340 --> 00:53:00.659 a team, right, you can have expectations and hopes. 876 00:53:01.159 --> 00:53:05.010 So I don't do a to-do list thing. anymore. 877 00:53:05.239 --> 00:53:07.369 I know it's kind of extreme. I went from this 878 00:53:07.630 --> 00:53:10.829 hundred point to do list and I would get like 879 00:53:10.829 --> 00:53:14.309 80 done. But my managers that I was consulting with 880 00:53:14.989 --> 00:53:18.590 were so frustrated because they couldn't get half of it 881 00:53:18.630 --> 00:53:22.690 done because they kept getting interrupted. I keep getting interrupted. 882 00:53:22.710 --> 00:53:24.369 I keep getting interrupted. 883 00:53:24.429 --> 00:53:26.679 I can't get my work done. And I tell the manager, 884 00:53:27.239 --> 00:53:30.059 guess what, folks, that's part of your job. 885 00:53:30.570 --> 00:53:34.280 As a manager, interruptions, you got to schedule 30% of 886 00:53:34.320 --> 00:53:37.239 your time for interruptions because that's you as a problem 887 00:53:37.300 --> 00:53:39.840 solver in the managerial role. 888 00:53:40.300 --> 00:53:41.900 And that moment of. 889 00:53:41.840 --> 00:53:46.199 Aha was just so wonderful to see because all of 890 00:53:46.260 --> 00:53:49.380 a sudden it's like, oh, I wasn't counting that as 891 00:53:49.420 --> 00:53:51.800 something that is part of my job. 892 00:53:52.210 --> 00:53:53.530 And it is part of your job. 893 00:53:53.869 --> 00:53:56.090 So if you're being hard on yourself because you can't 894 00:53:56.150

--> 00:53:59.989 finish the list, my question is how realistic is that list? 895 00:54:00.070 --> 00:54:03.260 And are you putting down things that, you know, it 896 00:54:03.380 --> 00:54:05.840 is your job as a mom to sit with your 897 00:54:05.900 --> 00:54:09.480 kids and do their homework. And if you're so busy 898 00:54:09.659 --> 00:54:12.840 with too many things on your list, you're going to 899 00:54:12.880 --> 00:54:14.420 get irritated when they. 900 00:54:14.420 --> 00:54:15.980 Ask you for help for anything. 901 00:54:16.000 --> 00:54:16.099 Right. 902 00:54:16.449 --> 00:54:19.110 That's not fair to them. That's not fair to you. 903 00:54:19.469 --> 00:54:21.750 So this is specifically for women. 904 00:54:22.050 --> 00:54:25.760 Remember that book, Women Who Do Too Much? One thing 905 00:54:25.780 --> 00:54:29.139 that women have not done well in our generation is 906 00:54:29.579 --> 00:54:33.880 balance the ability to, you want it all. You want 907 00:54:33.920 --> 00:54:36.139 to be the top dog at work and the top 908 00:54:36.159 --> 00:54:40.019 dog at home. You can't, you don't physically have that time. 909 00:54:40.400 --> 00:54:42.420 There has to be a balance and there has to 910 00:54:42.460 --> 00:54:45.519 be a balanced expectation for yourself. 911 00:54:45.599 --> 00:54:48.039 So that's my final word. Dr. Tiffany. 912 00:54:48.679 --> 00:54:51.329 My final word is I like a list, but I 913 00:54:51.369 --> 00:54:54.010 like adjustments to the list because I like to check 914 00:54:54.050 --> 00:54:56.309 things off. I like to make sure nothing falls through 915 00:54:56.349 --> 00:54:59.070 the crack. But I like to make adjustments. I like 916 00:54:59.090 --> 00:55:03.250 to be fluid. And I don't like to stress. But 917 00:55:03.309 --> 00:55:04.969 if it doesn't get done, let it roll over to 918 00:55:04.989 --> 00:55:10.269 the next day. It's okay. As a mom, I'm like, hey, 919 00:55:10.449 --> 00:55:14.139 let's just roll with it. but don't beat yourself up. 920 00:55:14.300 --> 00:55:15.820 I'm that type of person. 921 00:55:17.480 --> 00:55:20.019 I'll beat you up, not you. 922 00:55:20.380 --> 00:55:22.880 I'd like to see you try. That's my final eye 923 00:55:22.920 --> 00:55:28.110 roll for the day. I want to remind you, your 924 00:55:28.150 --> 00:55:31.489 feelings will not always agree with you, but go ahead 925 00:55:31.530 --> 00:55:34.670 and make your list. And whatever doesn't get done, don't 926 00:55:34.690 --> 00:55:37.030 beat yourself up. Let it roll over to the next 927 00:55:37.090 --> 00:55:41.050 day and the next day. And so it's okay if 928 00:55:41.090 --> 00:55:43.849 it doesn't get done. And you have to be okay 929 00:55:43.909 --> 00:55:46.670 with that and to say, okay, I know what needs 930 00:55:46.710 --> 00:55:49.489 to be done. I know it's still on my list 931 00:55:49.949 --> 00:55:52.429 and we can roll with it and we can learn 932 00:55:52.469 --> 00:55:54.900 to flow with it. But have the discipline to make 933 00:55:54.960 --> 00:55:59.119 sure you hold yourself accountable to get it done eventually. 934 00:55:59.139 --> 00:56:04.679 And be motivated, be disciplined, and I hope you enjoyed 935 00:56:04.719 --> 00:56:05.059 the show. 936 00:56:05.679 --> 00:56:06.139 Yeah, yeah. 937 00:56:06.539 --> 00:56:09.159 Thank you so much for joining us on Doctors in 938 00:56:09.199 --> 00:56:12.090 the House with myself and Dr. 939 00:56:12.210 --> 00:56:13.170 Tiffany Tate. 940 00:56:13.550 --> 00:56:15.550 As usual, it's been a lot of fun. It's all 941 00:56:15.590 --> 00:56:20.489 about balance. Peace in, peace out. World peace through inner peace. 942 00:56:20.630 --> 00:56:20.989 Dr. 943 00:56:21.030 --> 00:56:22.280 Tiffany, take us out. 944 00:56:23.079 --> 00:56:27.360 Now go and have the best day ever. 945 00:56:28.400 --> 00:56:29.199 I'll see you tomorrow. 946 00:56:41.409 --> 00:56:42.630 NBC News Radio. 947 00:56:42.710 --> 00:56:43.489 I'm Scott Carr. 948 00:56:43.550 --> 00:56:46.650 The Kennedy family's enter the legal fight over President Trump's 949 00:56:46.730 --> 00:56:50.530 proposed arch, asking a federal court in Washington, D.C., to 950 00:56:50.590 --> 00:56:53.730 stop the project. The filing urges the court to prevent 951 00:56:53.769 --> 00:56:57.289 the Trump administration from taking any steps to approve, authorize 952 00:56:57.329 --> 00:57:00.949 or build the arch unless Congress first authorizes the project, 953 00:57:01.230 --> 00:57:05.309 designates a sponsor and all statutory requirements are met. This 954 00:57:05.409 --> 00:57:09.699 after a federal judge temporarily blocked its construction. Republicans in 955 00:57:09.719 --> 00:57:12.500 the House of Representatives are voting to block the effort 956 00:57:12.539 --> 00:57:15.719 to impeach Secretary of War Pete Hegseth. By a vote 957 00:57:15.739 --> 00:57:19.860 of 211 to 204, the House approved a procedural motion 958 00:57:20.099 --> 00:57:24.179 that will refer Republican Congressman Thomas Massey's impeachment resolution to 959 00:57:24.219 --> 00:57:28.170 a committee, which effectively kills the resolution for now. This morning, 960 00:57:28.210 --> 00:57:32.130 Hegseth criticized the impeachment effort as being political spectacle, calling 961 00:57:32.170 --> 00:57:35.250 it a farce. A Coeur d'Alene, Idaho man has been 962 00:57:35.289 --> 00:57:39.289 sentenced to federal prison for planning ISIS-based attacks on churches 963 00:57:39.530 --> 00:57:42.139 in northern Idaho. Brad Ford has that. 964 00:57:42.159 --> 00:57:45.460 21-year-old Scott Mercurio was 17 years old when he created 965 00:57:45.519 --> 00:57:49.000 an online presence for pro-ISIS content. He planned to attack 966 00:57:49.059 --> 00:57:52.119 Coeur d'Alene churches using guns, a metal pipe, and a knife. 967 00:57:52.559 --> 00:57:55.480 He was communicating with a confidential source of the federal government. 968 00:57:55.800 --> 00:57:58.519

Mercurio was sentenced to 18 years in federal prison. 969 00:57:58.800 --> 00:58:01.929 Republican Congressman Jim Jordan of Ohio will be the new 970 00:58:01.969 --> 00:58:05.909 House Minority Leader. when the new Congress convenes in January. Today, 971 00:58:05.969 --> 00:58:09.449 House members elected Jordan over Louisiana's Steve Scalise as their 972 00:58:09.489 --> 00:58:12.110 new leader. Jordan thanked his colleagues for their trust and 973 00:58:12.150 --> 00:58:15.650 promised to keep any bad policies brought by Democrats in check. 974 00:58:15.949 --> 00:58:18.630 Over the next two years, House Republicans will fight for 975 00:58:18.650 --> 00:58:22.480 American families. When Democrats offer more government, we'll offer more freedom. 976 00:58:22.980 --> 00:58:25.800 And we will bring that fight in committee, on the floor, 977 00:58:26.360 --> 00:58:27.099 and on the stump. 978 00:58:27.559 --> 00:58:31.039 While in the Senate, Republican senators elected their current majority leader, 979 00:58:31.059 --> 00:58:33.110 John Thune, to stay on in the role but as 980 00:58:33.130 --> 00:58:37.130 the new minority leader. Scott Carr, NBC News Radio. 981 00:58:37.150 --> 00:58:43.909 Hi, I'm Catherine McPhee. Animals have always had my heart, 982 00:58:44.110 --> 00:58:46.369 and that is why I'm a proud supporter of American 983 00:58:46.409 --> 00:58:49.389 Humane Society. Over the years, I have filled my home 984 00:58:49.469 --> 00:58:50.300 with rescue pets. 985 00:58:50.739 --> 00:58:51.619 I adopted my. 986 00:58:51.599 --> 00:58:54.280 Sweet Wilma as a senior dog. Some of my most 987 00:58:54.340 --> 00:58:58.219 cherished memories are with her. American Humane Society has been 988 00:58:58.260 --> 00:59:03.360 protecting animals for 150 years. Your support can save lives. 989 00:59:03.760 --> 00:59:09.010 Join us in helping animals in need at AmericanHumane.org. And now, 990 00:59:09.070 --> 00:59:12.639 the voices of KCAA with an exciting announcement. 991 00:59:12.820 --> 00:59:16.699 Want to hear NBC News or KCAA anywhere you go? Well, 992 00:59:16.760 --> 00:59:17.860 now there's an app for that. 993 00:59:17.980 --> 00:59:21.989 KCAA is celebrating 25 years and our silver anniversary with 994 00:59:22.030 --> 00:59:22.969 a brand new app. 995 00:59:23.110 --> 00:59:27.110 The new KCAA app is now available on your smart device, 996 00:59:27.389 --> 00:59:29.710 cell phone, in your car or any place. 997 00:59:29.889 --> 00:59:33.449 Just search KCAA on Google Play or in the Apple Store. 998 00:59:33.760 --> 00:59:35.840 One touch and you can listen on your car radio, 999 00:59:36.000 --> 00:59:39.000 Bluetooth device, Android Auto, or Apple CarPlay. 1000 00:59:39.139 --> 00:59:42.440 Catch the KCAA buzz in your earbuds or on the streets. 1001 00:59:42.639 --> 00:59:45.900 Celebrating 25 years of talk, news, and excellence with our 1002 00:59:45.960 --> 00:59:47.320 new KCAA app. 1003 00:59:47.380 --> 00:59:49.079 Just do it and download it. 1004 00:59:49.320 --> 00:59:50.449 KCAA. 1005 00:59:50.719 --> 00:59:52.349 Celebrating 25 years. 1006 00:59:55.309 --> 01:00:00.010 E-digits. Lock them in for more information, recreation, and guaranteed fun. 1007 01:00:00.510 --> 01:00:01.190 KCAA. 1008 01:00:01.190 --> 01:00:12.230 1050 AM. You're listening to the Tehebo Tea Club radio 1009 01:00:12.269 --> 01:00:13.760 show hosted by Milan.