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us that we're not doing it right or that we'll never be good enough. Faith Rumer: 00:02:17 And one of the major things that really feeds your inner critic is Faith Rumer: 00:02:22 what we call imposter syndrome. Faith Rumer: 00:02:25 And imposter syndrome is that idea that you don't deserve your success, Faith Rumer: 00:02:29 that you're an imposter, a fake, and you don't really deserve to be Faith Rumer: 00:02:34 in the position you're in, that the real you is just not good enough. Faith Rumer: 00:02:39 So let's dig into imposter syndrome. Faith Rumer: 00:02:42 Let's check this out. Faith Rumer: 00:02:45 Imposter syndrome is destructive and it's painful. Faith Rumer: 00:02:48 First of all, why? Faith Rumer: 00:02:49 Because it keeps us from doing our work that we came here to do and then it keeps Faith Rumer: 00:02:55 us from helping the very people that need to hear our message or be helped Faith Rumer: 00:03:00 by our process or our information, but imposter syndrome is just another lie Faith Rumer: 00:03:06 that we tell ourselves to try and protect ourselves from being embarrassed or being Faith Rumer: 00:03:12 judged, and no one wants to feel the way. Faith Rumer: 00:03:14 No one wants to be embarrassed and no one wants to feel judged. Faith Rumer: 00:03:18 Now, it's really great to have something to work with to help fix Faith Rumer: 00:03:22 this 'cause it's not going to go away on itself, it's just there. Faith Rumer: 00:03:25 So I developed this process called the Call Out the Lie process, and Faith Rumer: 00:03:31 the first step is that you're going to identify some negative imposter Faith Rumer: 00:03:35 lies, self-talk that you have. Faith Rumer: 00:03:38 For example, I might think as I was creating my courses, or you might Faith Rumer: 00:03:41 think as you're trying to create, you know, something or speak at a summit, Faith Rumer: 00:03:46 "I don't know what I'm talking about." So you say the words, the lie out loud: Speaker: 00:03:49 "I don't know what I'm talking about." So you say the words, the lie out loud: Speaker: 00:03:54 So the second step is to call out the lie and you're going to call BS on it. So you say the words, the lie out loud: Speaker: 00:03:59 You're going to call it out loud and you're going to say "that's a lie!" So you say the words, the lie out loud: Speaker: 00:04:02 Let yourself feel the lie you've been telling yourself and get passionate. So you say the words, the lie out loud: Speaker: 00:04:06 Say the words louder. So you say the words, the lie out loud: Speaker: 00:04:07 "I don't know what I'm talking about. So you say the words, the lie out loud: Speaker: 00:04:09 That's total BS! So you say the words, the lie out loud: Speaker: 00:04:10 I am not accepting that." So you say the words, the lie out loud: Speaker: 00:04:13 Now the third step is to replace the lie with the truth. So you say the words,

the lie out loud: Speaker: 00:04:17 Well, you probably don't want to use that very similar wording or flip the So you say the words, the lie out loud: Speaker: 00:04:21 sentence from negative to positive because when you try to replace, "I don't know So you say the words, the lie out loud: Speaker: 00:04:27 what I'm talking about" with, "I know what I'm talking about," it might not So you say the words, the lie out loud: Speaker: 00:04:30 work because your brain or your body or your psyche just may not believe that. So you say the words, the lie out loud: Speaker: 00:04:36 So instead of "I know what I'm talking about," I can say, "my knowledge and So you say the words, the lie out loud: Speaker: 00:04:43 my expertise can really help people." Now say it several times: 00:04:46 "my knowledge and my expertise can really help people." Now say it several times: 00:04:50 That's a truth I can get behind! Now say it several times: 00:04:53 And the fourth step is to add a word of encouragement so Now say it several times: 00:04:57 that you can take some action. Now say it several times: 00:04:59 And I would say, "I can do this. Now say it several times: 00:05:01 I can really help people. Now say it several times: 00:05:03 I can do this. Now say it several times: 00:05:04 I can get out there and help people." Now say it several times: 00:05:06 So it would look like, first of all, number one: "I don't Now say it several times: 00:05:10 know what I'm talking about." Then I call it out: 00:05:11 "That's a lie! Then I call it out: 00:05:14 That's total BS. Then I call it out: 00:05:15 I'm not accepting that." I change it to the truth: 00:05:17 "My expertise and my knowledge can really help someone." I change it to the truth: 00:05:23 And then I say, "I can do this. I change it to the truth: 00:05:26 I can really help people." I change it to the truth: 00:05:29 How does that sound? Jenn: 00:05:30 I love that process, especially 'cause when you say it out loud, it's a Jenn: 00:05:34 lot easier to recognize that no one else is going to say that about you out loud Jenn: 00:05:39 because they don't believe it either. Faith Rumer: 00:05:42 Yeah. Faith Rumer: 00:05:42 So true. Faith Rumer: 00:05:43 You think that people are saying that about you, but Faith Rumer: 00:05:46 you're saying it about yourself. Faith Rumer: 00:05:48 So call out the lie, and then let yourself believe what's really true. Faith Rumer: 00:05:53 Our expertise and our knowledge can really help people. Jenn: 00:05:57 Yeah, I love that sentence, too. Jenn: 00:05:58 That's perfect. Faith Rumer: 00:06:01 So once you find the root of your imposter syndrome and you work Faith Rumer: 00:06:04 past that, it can still be hard to build some of your confidence as a speaker. Faith Rumer: 00:06:08 So after working with thousands of actors and speakers and entrepreneurs and Faith Rumer: 00:06:14

all of these people, I discovered that there are three pillars of confidence Faith Rumer: 00:06:20 and that these three pillars build your confidence, but they're also Faith Rumer: 00:06:24 necessary to help sustain your confidence because sometimes we'll work on one Faith Rumer: 00:06:29 and then we go, "what's happening? Faith Rumer: 00:06:30 I don't understand why I'm not confident anymore," because we need to make sure Faith Rumer: 00:06:35 that all three of these are working. Faith Rumer: 00:06:37 The first pillar is the body. Faith Rumer: 00:06:41 And we need to ground ourselves and our energy and our body, because that Faith Rumer: 00:06:45 creates a foundation for our confidence and the ability to express ourselves Faith Rumer: 00:06:51 powerfully and to speak authentically. Faith Rumer: 00:06:55 When you get nervous and your energy is all over the place and you're up in Faith Rumer: 00:06:58 your head and you're judging yourself? Faith Rumer: 00:07:01 I help my clients release that excess destructive tension and get them out of Faith Rumer: 00:07:05 the head and then back into the body. Faith Rumer: 00:07:07 So their body works to support their voice and their expression, Faith Rumer: 00:07:12 and also their visual impact. Faith Rumer: 00:07:14 That builds their confidence so then they can create greater impact when Faith Rumer: 00:07:18 they share their message, and they connect with their audience in a more Faith Rumer: 00:07:22 authentically and spontaneous way. Faith Rumer: 00:07:27 The second pillar to our confidence is the mind. Faith Rumer: 00:07:32 And this is where imposter syndrome can really sabotage. Faith Rumer: 00:07:35 You want to remember that our thoughts create what we experience Faith Rumer: 00:07:39 and there are no neutral thoughts. Faith Rumer: 00:07:44 So first, you want to identify, what are your negative thoughts and release them. Faith Rumer: 00:07:51 You cultivate more empowering thoughts, and then you shift Faith Rumer: 00:07:54 your energy - that shifts your energy - and then rinse and repeat. Faith Rumer: 00:07:58 Now, there are many great processes that I use with my clients to Faith Rumer: 00:08:02 create more empowering thoughts, and they're not complicated - they Faith Rumer: 00:08:05 shouldn't be complicated - but simple ways to create empowering thoughts Faith Rumer: 00:08:09 that can really change our lives. Faith Rumer: 00:08:12 What's most important is that we have something that helps us and that Faith Rumer: 00:08:16 we're willing to use that process. Faith Rumer: 00:08:18 And it's important to do this daily - rinse and repeat, just rinse and repeat. Faith Rumer: 00:08:22 Okay, and the third pillar. Faith Rumer: 00:08:24 Now this is our soul, our spirit, this is our why, it's your purpose. Faith Rumer: 00:08:30 It's what is your intention when you speak or create a summit or Faith Rumer: 00:08:34 design a program or even perform, if you were a creative artist. Faith Rumer: 00:08:38 Your why moves you forward and it keeps you on course. Faith Rumer: 00:08:42 A "why" can either empower us or move us off course and destroy our confidence. Faith Rumer: 00:08:49 I just worked with a client and she was creating a video for her project, Faith Rumer: 00:08:54 but she felt so uncomfortable and wasn't happy with when she looked Faith Rumer: 00:08:57 at back at it, what she filmed. Faith Rumer: 00:08:59 So we discovered that her why had become, "I want people to really like me." Faith Rumer: 00:09:04 Of course, she was in her head and she got lost - she lost herself. Faith Rumer: 00:09:08 Once we shifted her why to "I'm creating this video so all women can celebrate Faith Rumer: 00:09:14 their own beauty," everything changed. Faith Rumer: 00:09:17 It was so amazing to see the difference. Faith Rumer: 00:09:21 So you might ask yourself, "how do I create confidence in my everyday life?" Faith Rumer: 00:09:26 Well, it's not fake-it-til-you-make-it, 'cause some people say that, Faith Rumer: 00:09:29 'cause that's not really true. Faith Rumer: 00:09:31 It's about being who you are right now and sharing where you are right now Faith Rumer: 00:09:36 and offering what you have right now. Faith Rumer: 00:09:39 And working with those three pillars of confidence. Faith Rumer: 00:09:42 Remember that every time we step out a little bigger, we're going to feel a Faith Rumer: 00:09:46 little scared and a little nervous, but that's what we've been doing our whole. Faith Rumer: 00:09:51 Think about all of the times that you had to step up in your life: getting Faith Rumer: 00:09:54 an education, being a parent - if you're a parent - being a partner in a Faith Rumer: 00:09:59 relationship, running your own business, even when you learned to drive a car. Faith Rumer: 00:10:05 I remember that being pretty scary. Faith Rumer: 00:10:07 Remember that it's okay to make a mistake; we're not something at first. Faith Rumer: 00:10:12 And for me, willingness is my biggest ally. Faith Rumer: 00:10:17 All you have to be as willing to put yourself out there. Faith Rumer: 00:10:21 And even if things sometimes go wrong, it's okay. Faith Rumer: 00:10:24 If you're willing and you don't give up, you're going to experience more Faith Rumer: 00:10:29 success than you can even imagine. Faith Rumer: 00:10:33 So we are always moving from where we are, from what we know, and from what Faith Rumer: 00:10:39 our skillset is to where we want to be. Faith Rumer: 00:10:43 And this is true for every successful person. Jenn: 00:10:48 Awesome. Jenn: 00:10:48 I'm so excited to be able to go through that, 'cause that, especially the process Jenn: 00:10:53 that you gave us, that is something that I know is going to help so many Jenn: 00:10:56 people, because having something tangible to

do, rather than just keep getting Jenn: 00:11:02 into your own mind is so important. Faith Rumer: 00:11:05 Oh my gosh, yeah. Faith Rumer: 00:11:07 Yeah. Faith Rumer: 00:11:07 And there's a lot of ways we can work on our confidence, but that Faith Rumer: 00:11:10 one really seems to work well. Jenn: 00:11:13 Yeah, it's really great. Jenn: 00:11:15 So I know that you have a free training to help us take this even further. Jenn: 00:11:21 So can you tell us a little bit about that so that folks can go and check that out? Faith Rumer: 00:11:25 Sure. Faith Rumer: 00:11:26 Oh, I'm so happy, to, great. Faith Rumer: 00:11:27 So I've given you this process, the same process that I've used with Faith Rumer: 00:11:31 my successful clients, and you've got a couple of options, right now? Faith Rumer: 00:11:36 We've broken it down so you can use this information to get rid of some imposter Faith Rumer: 00:11:41 syndrome and gain some real confidence. Faith Rumer: 00:11:46 You can come in and lean into this process even more with me and develop what you Faith Rumer: 00:11:51 need to get to the next step and make a difference in your work and your passion. Faith Rumer: 00:11:55 You just don't have to do this alone. Faith Rumer: 00:11:57 So I'm inviting you to join me on my free live training - it's a 90-minute training Faith Rumer: 00:12:03 - Raise Your Impact and Influence, where you're going to learn how to share your Faith Rumer: 00:12:07 message with confidence, authentically connect with your audience, and powerfully Faith Rumer: 00:12:13 express yourself and make a difference. Faith Rumer: 00:12:16 Even if you don't think you're ready or lack confidence or feel like you're Faith Rumer: 00:12:19 an imposter right now, this training is exactly where you want to be, because Faith Rumer: 00:12:23 we're going to take care of that. Faith Rumer: 00:12:26 So you want to register for your free training now, and here's Faith Rumer: 00:12:30 the link to register for that. Faith Rumer: 00:12:32 It's raisemyimpact.com/free-training. I'll say it again: Speaker: 00:12:37 raisemyimpact.com/free-training. I'll say it again: Speaker: 00:12:43 And you probably already know that you want to be on this training, because I'll say it again: Speaker: 00:12:47 we want to go a little bit deeper with us, but especially if you're tired I'll say it again: Speaker: 00:12:50 of waiting to commit fully to your dream career and your talents, and you I'll say it again: Speaker: 00:12:55 feel like you're not fulfilling your purpose in your life, and you just feel I'll say it again: Speaker: 00:12:58 like you're surviving day to day, you really want to be on this training. I'll say it again: Speaker: 00:13:02 And this training is really good for you if you know that you want to make a real I'll say it again: Speaker: 00:13:07 difference in your own life and in your community, your family, and the world. I'll say it again: Speaker: 00:13:12 You want to speak of present with confidence and power so that you I'll say it again: Speaker: 00:13:16 can really inspire your audience. I'll say it again: Speaker: 00:13:19 And then you want to authentically connect with your audience so you can I'll say it again: Speaker: 00:13:22 help them transform and get them to take some real action either within I'll say it again: Speaker: 00:13:27 your business, or help them to get their business out into the world. I'll say it again: Speaker: 00:13:31 And you want to go after your dream with awesome speaking confidence I'll say it again: Speaker: 00:13:35 - we're going to call that a phrase, "awesome speaking confidence" - and I'll say it again: Speaker: 00:13:38 create a life that you really love. I'll say it again: Speaker: 00:13:41 And you're going to want to join me on this training and there's the link again. I'll say it again: Speaker: 00:13:44 You can go ahead and read that. Jenn: 00:13:47 Yep. Jenn: 00:13:48 We'll have the link in the button down below too. Jenn: 00:13:51 I'm so excited for folks to get to go and take action on that with you, especially Jenn: 00:13:55 since it's live training, like that's something that a lot of the times you're Jenn: 00:14:00 going onto a recorded webinar, and that's valuable, but it's so much more valuable Jenn: 00:14:04 getting to go and do Q &A with Faith, so make sure you go click that button down Jenn: 00:14:09 below and sign up for that free training. Faith Rumer: 00:14:13 All right, Jenn, thank you for having me here. Faith Rumer: 00:14:15 This was really exciting. Faith Rumer: 00:14:17 I know that virtual summit's really exciting. Jenn: 00:14:20 Yeah. Jenn: 00:14:21 Thank you so much for being here. Jenn: 00:14:22 I'm really excited. Jenn: 00:14:23 And if you have any questions for Faith, make sure to go and ask them Jenn: 00:14:29 in the community and let Faith know how it impacts your speaking and Jenn: 00:14:33 confidence, because that is the end goal with this, is to help you Jenn: 00:14:37 get past your imposter syndrome and become a much more confident speaker. Jenn: 00:14:41 So thank you again for joining us, Faith. Faith Rumer: 00:14:43 Thanks so much, Jenn. Jenn: 00:15:21 Thanks for listening to Virtual Summit Success. Jenn: 00:15:23 Don't forget to leave a review and let others know your biggest Jenn: 00:15:26 takeaways from this episode. Jenn: 00:15:27 Every review helps others find us, and the more successful virtual Jenn: 00:15:31 summits there are, the more tips we'll have to share with you. Jenn: 00:15:34 For show notes, links, and other resources, go to virtualsummitsuccess.live