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fire right Now, there's, there's and that's not what a marksman usually does, by the way. 00:04:59.235 --> 00:05:00.680 That's the perfectionist route. 00:05:00.680 --> 00:05:04.324 That's the individual who is scared to make mistakes. 00:05:04.324 --> 00:05:06.523 They want to be perfect the first go. 00:05:06.523 --> 00:05:11.879 And, like Salvador Dali said, you're not going to be perfect, it ain't going to happen, so so. 00:05:11.899 --> 00:05:25.286 So what my dad said is he said, in order to be a marksman, what you've got to do is you have to acquire the target as fast as possible, right, and then and then and then fire around, knowing that you are going to miss. 00:05:25.286 --> 00:05:28.799 Let me repeat that Knowing that you're going to miss. 00:05:28.799 --> 00:05:30.083 Think about this metaphorically. 00:05:30.083 --> 00:05:31.078 Think about the metaphor. 00:05:31.078 --> 00:05:37.127 You are going for a target knowing at your first go there's a high probability you're going to miss. 00:05:37.127 --> 00:05:39.954 You're doing no aiming, you acquire the target fast. 00:05:39.954 --> 00:05:48.843 So I mean, you're doing aiming, but it's just a very fast, visceral aiming, knee jerk and you fire as quickly as possible, knowing that you're going to miss. 00:05:48.843 --> 00:05:53.324 You see how you missed, make a course correction, fire again and get at the target. 00:05:53.435 --> 00:05:55.180 There's been many studies on this right. 00:05:55.180 --> 00:06:12.841 Many military units around the world have proven this theory to be true that ready fire aim is more effective than ready aim fire, and ready fire aim will not only get you at the target with more accuracy but, more importantly, in a shorter period of time. 00:06:12.841 --> 00:06:16.641 That makes sense, and so so think about this metaphorically. 00:06:16.641 --> 00:06:20.996 So if to become a marksman, you have to do ready fire aim, you acquire the target, you fire. 00:06:20.996 --> 00:06:22.661 See how you missed, you fired again. 00:06:22.661 --> 00:06:25.237 It's the same same. 00:06:25.237 --> 00:06:30.278 Same same thing as it relates to life, as it relates to action, as it relates to our goals. 00:06:30.620 --> 00:06:40.626 Right, because we want to make sure that we acquire our target fast, we take action quickly towards it and know that we're going to make mistakes. 00:06:40.626 --> 00:06:52.316 So what we're going to want to do is know that we're going to make mistakes and make the course correction super fast, and, and, and then go after it again, and then go after it again. 00:06:52.316 --> 00:06:54.210 This is really, really, really important. 00:06:54.210 --> 00:06:56.437 This is the whole notion of ready fire aim. 00:06:56.437 --> 00:06:59.689 So that's that's today's you know lesson, before the lesson. 00:06:59.689 --> 00:07:03.889 Salvador Dali, like I said, said it best have no fear of perfection, you'll never reach it. 00:07:03.889 --> 00:07:05.937 Yeah, it's

not possible. 00:07:05.937 --> 00:07:12.146 And and also Voltaire wrote in Dictionary Philosophique in 1770. 00:07:12.146 --> 00:07:15.459 He said perfect is the enemy of good. 00:07:16.114 --> 00:07:17.007 Yes, I love that quote. 00:07:17.007 --> 00:07:18.836 That's one of my favorite quotes. 00:07:18.870 --> 00:07:21.598 Perfect is the enemy of good right. 00:07:21.939 --> 00:07:22.680 Yeah, think about it. 00:07:22.680 --> 00:07:28.336 So if you spend all your time getting trying to get to 100 percent, perfect. 00:07:28.537 --> 00:07:28.718 Yep. 00:07:29.531 --> 00:07:35.735 And meanwhile you could get to 90 percent perfect Yep, and it's, it's almost like this. 00:07:35.735 --> 00:07:40.799 The rest of the 10 percent it takes same amount of time as the first 90. 00:07:40.799 --> 00:07:42.494 Exactly that's what we've experienced. 00:07:42.936 --> 00:07:43.638 We had projects. 00:07:43.638 --> 00:07:47.153 By the way, there are some projects where you should seek perfection. 00:07:47.153 --> 00:07:48.756 It's called, like your taxes. 00:07:49.069 --> 00:07:52.518 Yeah, or like a surgeon. 00:07:52.990 --> 00:07:55.578 A surgeon probably, should probably aim for, you know, perfection. 00:07:55.598 --> 00:07:56.199 Doing a surgery. 00:07:56.220 --> 00:07:59.177 Yeah, a car mechanic should probably aim for perfection. 00:07:59.237 --> 00:07:59.478 Yeah. 00:07:59.739 --> 00:08:00.480 Right, things like that. 00:08:00.480 --> 00:08:05.396 Yeah, you're writing a book, you want to try and aim for it, though it's really hard to do. 00:08:05.396 --> 00:08:12.213 But but there's so many tasks where 90 percent is good enough, 90 percent is OK. 00:08:12.213 --> 00:08:13.357 Yep, it's just great. 00:08:13.357 --> 00:08:17.100 Yep, 90 percent is better than 100 percent on so many things. 00:08:17.100 --> 00:08:19.737 And we see a lot of people struggling with time. 00:08:19.737 --> 00:08:21.314 Everyone's saying I'm busy. 00:08:21.314 --> 00:08:22.915 Everyone's saying I'm busy. 00:08:22.915 --> 00:08:25.398 By the way, you know how we feel about the word busy. 00:08:25.398 --> 00:08:26.593 It drives us nuts. 00:08:26.633 --> 00:08:27.175 Throw it out. 00:08:27.175 --> 00:08:27.917 Throw it out. 00:08:27.917 --> 00:08:28.759 We don't use that word. 00:08:28.759 --> 00:08:28.840 Why? 00:08:29.170 --> 00:08:35.158 Because it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy If, when people tell you how you're doing, by the way, think about the question how are you doing? 00:08:35.158 --> 00:08:37.201 They didn't ask how's your schedule? 00:08:37.986 --> 00:08:38.429 No, right. 00:08:38.429 --> 00:08:40.833 Yes, how are you, how are you doing? 00:08:40.833 --> 00:08:43.221 And people say I'm busy, I'm busy, no, I'm so busy. 00:08:43.309 --> 00:08:50.449 You stop for a moment and be like I'm good or I'm overwhelmed, or tell me how you feel, not how your schedule is. 00:08:50.449 --> 00:08:51.895 They didn't ask you how your schedule is. 00:08:51.895 --> 00:08:53.014 They said how are you doing? 00:08:53.014 --> 00:08:54.712 Right, think about that. 00:08:54.712 --> 00:09:05.661 And so, anyway, we're not big on the word busy, because it's a self-fulfilling prophecy, and when individuals say I'm busy all the time, they'll get more busy-ness, which isn't enjoyable. 00:09:05.969 --> 00:09:10.173 We like to say productive, because productive. 00:09:10.554 --> 00:09:11.217 It gets results. 00:09:11.429 --> 00:09:13.356 Presupposes you're getting results. 00:09:13.356 --> 00:09:16.933 Busy could just be busy work without the results, and we're not fans of that. 00:09:17.154 --> 00:09:17.535 No, no, no. 00:09:17.535 --> 00:09:21.017 And, by the way, do we have our schedule pretty full on? 00:09:21.017 --> 00:09:25.118 Yeah, and that's what we say If someone's like, if someone asks me how's your schedule, how's business? 00:09:25.118 --> 00:09:26.000 It's full on. 00:09:26.000 --> 00:09:39.534 Like it's literally amazing, it's a blessing, like business is amazing and we're productive and we're achieving our goals and getting the results we want, and it's awesome, right. 00:09:39.534 --> 00:09:42.697 So cut out the word busy, cut it out. 00:09:42.697 --> 00:09:43.679 It's crazy. 00:09:43.679 --> 00:09:46.038 The busy thing, the self-fulfilling prophecy. 00:09:46.038 --> 00:09:52.516 People are talking about how busy their schedule is and I'm like, stop trying to do things at 100%. 00:09:52.516 --> 00:09:55.282 Stop it, just stop it. 00:09:55.282 --> 00:09:57.517 Stop trying to do everything at 100%. 00:09:57.517 --> 00:09:58.873 It's not possible. 00:09:58.873 --> 00:10:00.293 It's just not possible. 00:10:00.293 --> 00:10:06.254 Start doing the things that don't count as much to a 90%, by the way, which is still great. 00:10:06.495 --> 00:10:08.716 Right, and it's probably going to be better than everyone else around you. 00:10:08.716 --> 00:10:14.291 Right Now, the things that do matter, like having a conversation with your kids or your mate, do it at 100%. 00:10:14.852 --> 00:10:18.399 Do it at 100%, or your employees Do it at 100%, or your team 100%. 00:10:18.399 --> 00:10:19.421 Taxes 100%. 00:10:19.501 --> 00:10:19.681 Yeah. 00:10:20.469 --> 00:10:23.318 You're coming up with a piece of content, 100%, if you can. 00:10:24.670 --> 00:10:30.655 But things like a social media post or an email or I make mistakes on social media all the time. 00:10:30.655 --> 00:10:31.498 Right, right. 00:10:31.750 --> 00:10:32.654 And it shows you're human. 00:10:32.654 --> 00:10:34.255 So stop being perfect. 00:10:34.255 --> 00:10:37.738 I had a client and she wrote an email. 00:10:37.738 --> 00:10:39.697 No, no, listen, listen, listen, listen. 00:10:39.697 --> 00:10:45.479 Should write an email and check it between five and seven times. 00:10:45.479 --> 00:10:47.189 Grammarly checked it. 00:10:47.189 --> 00:10:48.012 It didn't even count. 00:10:48.012 --> 00:10:48.454 Grammarly. 00:10:48.454 --> 00:10:54.495 Then, after Grammarly went

through it somewhere between five and seven times, she would read, review it. 00:10:54.495 --> 00:11:00.996 Then she said she would click send and, because it was a Google-based email, she'd click undo and then review it again. 00:11:00.996 --> 00:11:07.097 Then click send and total like OCD and clicked undo and read it again. 00:11:07.097 --> 00:11:12.197 Then she'd finally have to send it and she said she'd have to walk away from her desk. 00:11:12.197 --> 00:11:13.913 That's not efficient. 00:11:14.014 --> 00:11:14.897 You helped her with that right. 00:11:14.897 --> 00:11:15.351 Yeah, I did. 00:11:19.156 --> 00:11:30.254 And she said then she would sit there and beat herself up and wonder if she messed something up and she'd obsess over it literally until another project would come on that would take her mind off of it. 00:11:30.254 --> 00:11:34.298 But she said one email could sometimes paralyze her for hours in a day. 00:11:34.649 --> 00:11:36.156 That's not efficient. 00:11:36.189 --> 00:11:37.635 That's a major running parachute. 00:11:37.635 --> 00:11:38.915 It has to do with perfection. 00:11:38.915 --> 00:11:54.221 Yeah, and we did our running parachute release technique with her and proof gone in about 15 minutes and then after that she was literally she was letting Grammarly do it and then she was doing one review send, that's it yeah. 00:11:54.829 --> 00:11:55.271 Write it Grammarly. 00:11:55.271 --> 00:11:56.395 One review send. 00:11:56.395 --> 00:11:59.536 She got three hours in her day back. 00:11:59.536 --> 00:12:03.679 Three hours, three hours, that's significant. 00:12:03.679 --> 00:12:13.379 That's significant in her day back and because most of her job she was a transaction coordinator at a real estate company and a big part of her job was emails and stuff like that. 00:12:13.379 --> 00:12:19.097 So she did a lot of not double, triple, quadruple checking like seven to 10 checks. 00:12:19.129 --> 00:12:21.277 You'd only get like two and a half emails done per day. 00:12:21.329 --> 00:12:23.938 She was not productive, always seeking perfection. 00:12:23.938 --> 00:12:32.055 That's a running parachute, and for a lot of individuals, perfection is a big running parachute that can be released in about 15 minutes. 00:12:32.517 --> 00:12:32.717 Yep. 00:12:33.019 --> 00:12:33.218 Yep. 00:12:34.291 --> 00:12:41.356 And then can she Join us in our Mind Power Breakthrough program and then you can release that parachute, that running parachute of perfection. 00:12:41.449 --> 00:12:43.457 We've had a lot of perfectionists come through the program. 00:12:44.073 --> 00:12:44.839 Ex perfectionists. 00:12:44.839 --> 00:12:51.673 We're recovering perfectionists, so we attract that right, I didn't shave today. 00:12:52.295 --> 00:12:52.817 How about that? 00:12:52.817 --> 00:12:54.534 How about that for not being 100% perfect? 00:12:54.554 --> 00:12:55.116 How dare you? 00:12:55.490 --> 00:12:56.211 I know I used to. 00:12:56.211 --> 00:12:59.380 I had to shave every single day. 00:12:59.380 --> 00:13:00.574 You can ask Shane every day. 00:13:00.574 --> 00:13:01.795 That was part of my perfectionism. 00:13:01.795 --> 00:13:02.673 I was like I have to shave. 00:13:02.673 --> 00:13:05.577 Now I'm like you know, if we're filming, I'll shave. 00:13:06.209 --> 00:13:07.073 He still shaves, yeah. 00:13:07.294 --> 00:13:08.700 I shave, I do that's where. 00:13:08.700 --> 00:13:12.077 Yeah, that's a program that's gonna be like you know. 00:13:13.000 --> 00:13:13.580 Out there forever. 00:13:13.809 --> 00:13:15.877 Out there for the foreseeable future in perpetuity. 00:13:16.029 --> 00:13:18.818 Beards might not be fashionable in a while. 00:13:19.410 --> 00:13:28.177 But so I and I wanted to shave today, but we had a very full on day where we got a lot of results done and I nixed the shave for today. 00:13:28.549 --> 00:13:28.830 Good job. 00:13:30.274 --> 00:13:31.889 That shows that I'm a recovering perfectionist. 00:13:31.889 --> 00:13:39.129 Yes, using your flexibility, Even two years ago I probably would have been like shaving like 30 seconds before and showing up later, or something like that. 00:13:39.129 --> 00:13:42.699 Now, perfectionism, it's a grind. 00:13:42.740 --> 00:13:45.434 Yeah Well, and then we see it. 00:13:45.434 --> 00:13:50.578 You know as a crutch, that a lot of people will use it unconsciously. 00:13:50.578 --> 00:13:51.834 They may not know what's going on. 00:13:51.834 --> 00:13:56.875 They're not saying, you know, maybe they are, maybe some people are saying, well, this has to be perfect, so I'm not even gonna do it. 00:13:56.875 --> 00:14:02.954 A lot, though, is unconscious, where they want it to be perfect, so bad. 00:14:02.954 --> 00:14:10.698 And so then they prepare to prepare, to prepare, to prepare, to prepare, to prepare, and then they have what we call failure to launch. 00:14:10.979 --> 00:14:23.115 Yeah when they just can't get it off the ground because they're preparing, to prepare, to prepare, to prepare, to prepare, to prepare and never get anywhere. 00:14:23.115 --> 00:14:28.356 And analysis until paralysis we would see people when we're like hey, how's that thing that you are working on? 00:14:28.356 --> 00:14:32.360 Oh well, I'm still, I'm still preparing for it, I'm still working on it. 00:14:32.360 --> 00:14:33.615 And then a year later we'd see them again. 00:14:33.615 --> 00:14:34.995 How's that thing go when you're working on? 00:14:34.995 --> 00:14:38.514 Well, you know, I'm still preparing for it. 00:14:38.533 --> 00:14:39.234 I'm thinking about it. 00:14:39.234 --> 00:14:40.957 Yeah, I'm sorry. 00:14:41.257 --> 00:14:43.942 Yes, do it, just do it, just do it. 00:14:44.121 --> 00:14:44.421 Hold on. 00:14:44.421 --> 00:14:45.623 Can I tell you something funny? 00:14:45.623 --> 00:14:58.099 When I was in the corporate world you want to talk about perfectionism in the corporate world and bureaucratic cockamamie we would have

meetings to plan for the meetings. 00:14:58.099 --> 00:15:01.555 Oh goodness, that set us up for the meeting. 00:15:02.016 --> 00:15:06.951 I'm not kidding you, Not, not, not A planning meeting for the meeting yeah, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. 00:15:06.951 --> 00:15:07.814 You missed a layer. 00:15:08.490 --> 00:15:18.856 Two one was a planning meeting that planned out what was going to be discussed in the planning meeting, and then the planning meeting was a meeting to discuss what was going to happen in the actual meeting. 00:15:18.856 --> 00:15:22.934 I was like those are people who just love to meet. 00:15:24.109 --> 00:15:28.881 Like seriously, I was like bureaucracy, craziness. 00:15:28.881 --> 00:15:42.198 That's an example of like a company having paralyzing, just perfectionism within their culture and that breeds individuals to be perfectionists. 00:15:42.198 --> 00:15:52.473 A planning meeting to talk about what's going to be a pre-planning meeting that's what it's called Pre-planning meeting to talk about what was going to be in the planning meeting, that was to talk about what was going to be the actual meeting. 00:15:52.473 --> 00:15:58.822 Perfectionism it is, you know, healable. 00:15:59.349 --> 00:15:59.591 Yes. 00:16:00.173 --> 00:16:00.495 It is. 00:16:00.554 --> 00:16:02.673 There is a cure there is a cure. 00:16:03.649 --> 00:16:04.714 It's running parachute release. 00:16:04.714 --> 00:16:06.075 Join us in Mind Power Breakthrough. 00:16:06.075 --> 00:16:12.620 If you are a perfectionist and you need to let that go so you can produce more and get more results. 00:16:12.620 --> 00:16:15.458 So, having a fear of perfection, you'll never reach it. 00:16:15.458 --> 00:16:16.394 That's Salvador Dali. 00:16:16.394 --> 00:16:19.012 Perfect as the enemy of good that's Voltaire. 00:16:19.012 --> 00:16:21.291 Voltaire, remember that, let it go. 00:16:21.291 --> 00:16:27.106 Like we talk about in our book Shoot for 90%. 00:16:27.849 --> 00:16:30.534 Perfect, that's right, that's it, that's right. 00:16:30.554 --> 00:16:31.415 Two for 90%. 00:16:31.415 --> 00:16:35.202 It will save you time, it'll save your world. 00:16:35.202 --> 00:16:36.245 It'll save you. 00:16:36.245 --> 00:16:38.251 It'll save your life. 00:16:38.251 --> 00:16:40.194 No, I'm serious, I gotta be dramatic. 00:16:40.194 --> 00:16:40.635 No, it will. 00:16:40.635 --> 00:16:43.399 I know I'm dramatic sometimes Because it will save you stress. 00:16:43.399 --> 00:16:44.021 I think it's true. 00:16:44.241 --> 00:16:45.924 Anxiety overwhelm. 00:16:46.149 --> 00:16:58.051 Most people have anxiety and overwhelm and scatterness due to their own doing being so busy, yeah, and trying to be so perfect at all the things along the way, perfect, perfect, perfect, perfect. 00:16:58.051 --> 00:17:00.795 Oh, and then, on top of that, they multitask, oh no. 00:17:01.616 --> 00:17:03.841 You know how we feel about multitasking. 00:17:03.841 --> 00:17:08.511 We'll have to resurrect that for some new people, for some new people, all right. 00:17:08.852 --> 00:17:14.778 Okay, so let's talk about what to do when you make a mistake. 00:17:15.220 --> 00:17:16.000 Yeah. 00:17:16.240 --> 00:17:20.286 And then, when you know what to do, it'll allow you to be okay with the mistakes ahead of time. 00:17:20.286 --> 00:17:20.925 That's what we find. 00:17:20.925 --> 00:17:35.965 A lot of people say just stop the perfection, and what we're going to do is allow you to have a strategy to get out of it, which is knowing mistakes are going to happen and then knowing how to just sail through the mistakes. 00:17:35.965 --> 00:17:37.990 You see, the land of mistakes. 00:17:37.990 --> 00:17:39.173 Yeah, it's going to happen. 00:17:39.173 --> 00:17:41.635 Yeah, yeah, it's like an obstacle course. 00:17:41.796 --> 00:17:47.344 We've promoted mistakes so much here, so now let's tell you what to do when you do make those mistakes. 00:17:47.364 --> 00:17:48.905 Have no fear of mistakes you already have. 00:17:48.905 --> 00:17:49.385 Embrace them. 00:17:49.470 --> 00:17:49.750 Right. 00:17:49.750 --> 00:17:50.411 So now what? 00:17:50.730 --> 00:17:50.890 Yeah. 00:17:50.951 --> 00:18:01.060 So we have created the ICE method, which is ICE I stands for, identify Yep. 00:18:01.060 --> 00:18:07.646 So just identify that the mistake happened right and acknowledge that you made a mistake. 00:18:07.946 --> 00:18:08.166 Right. 00:18:09.671 --> 00:18:10.050 Easy enough. 00:18:10.050 --> 00:18:11.412 That's it. 00:18:11.412 --> 00:18:12.532 C is for change. 00:18:13.052 --> 00:18:13.272 Yep. 00:18:13.733 --> 00:18:17.155 Now you learn from this mistake, right. 00:18:17.155 --> 00:18:18.257 How did it happen? 00:18:18.257 --> 00:18:23.300 What can you change that can ensure that it doesn't happen again? 00:18:23.300 --> 00:18:33.748 Right, and once you internalize the learning, then you can approach similar situations differently in the future to avoid making the same mistake again. 00:18:33.748 --> 00:18:35.571 Right, right, so let's change. 00:18:35.571 --> 00:18:45.462 And then, finally, e is embrace, which is embrace the fact that you're learning, you're growing and the fact that you made a mistake, right. 00:18:45.462 --> 00:18:56.854 Here's the thing Super achievers push the limits and the limits will push back, yep, so just embrace it and say you know what I'm growing, I'm learning. 00:18:56.854 --> 00:19:11.745 At least you're doing that, right, because most people are not doing that, so they're not going to make mistakes because they're not pushing the limits, right, whereas you all, because you're here, we know you're into mind, power and leveling up. 00:19:11.745 --> 00:19:13.287 So mistakes happen. 00:19:13.287 --> 00:19:16.329 It's just a part of the learning process. 00:19:16.329 --> 00:19:20.334 Yep, it's a part of success, it's part of creating success. 00:19:20.334 --> 00:19:24.719 So I identify, identify, you made the mistake. 00:19:24.719 -->

00:19:27.260 Just be like oh, made that mistake, okay. 00:19:27.421 --> 00:19:27.662 Yep. 00:19:28.162 --> 00:19:32.767 See, change it Right, Learn from it, say okay, what could I have done differently? 00:19:32.767 --> 00:19:33.730 How did it happen? 00:19:33.730 --> 00:19:34.571 Yeah, Right. 00:19:35.493 --> 00:19:36.714 What can you change? 00:19:36.714 --> 00:19:38.136 It's why the C change. 00:19:38.136 --> 00:19:39.338 What can you change? 00:19:39.338 --> 00:19:41.321 What can you do differently in the future? 00:19:41.321 --> 00:19:42.022 Yep Right. 00:19:42.542 --> 00:19:44.185 So it doesn't happen again. 00:19:44.730 --> 00:19:46.892 Yeah, listen, there's no. 00:19:46.892 --> 00:19:49.894 There's no issue of making a mistake once now. 00:19:49.894 --> 00:19:53.342 There is an issue with making a mistake twice. 00:19:53.342 --> 00:19:59.686 The same mistake, the same exact mistake, in the same context, or with the same person, or whatever. 00:19:59.686 --> 00:20:03.138 By the way, it's okay, it just means you didn't ice it. 00:20:03.138 --> 00:20:06.182 If you ice it, you won't need to make the mistake again. 00:20:06.414 --> 00:20:06.797 Yeah. 00:20:06.797 --> 00:20:12.686 So if you never got the learning, then it's going to happen until you get the learning. 00:20:12.686 --> 00:20:15.523 So that's when that's what we call a pattern, right? 00:20:15.523 --> 00:20:21.087 You know, once is a fluke, twice is a pattern, three times is definitely a pattern, 100%. 00:20:21.087 --> 00:20:28.663 So if you find yourself making the same mistake over and, over and over again, stop yourself, ice it and really get the learning. 00:20:29.855 --> 00:20:30.757 What is a? 00:20:30.757 --> 00:20:37.624 You're all free from all of these, of course, but just for the point, If you have a professional athlete and they twist their ankle, what do they do? 00:20:37.624 --> 00:20:38.898 They ice it. 00:20:38.898 --> 00:20:43.903 Let's say that they you know they something happens to their knee and it doesn't feel very good. 00:20:43.903 --> 00:20:44.904 What do they do, they ice? 00:20:45.286 --> 00:20:45.807 it Ice it. 00:20:47.394 --> 00:20:50.281 They've got a professional tennis player and the you know their. 00:20:50.281 --> 00:20:52.346 Their wrist doesn't feel perfect, and what do they do? 00:20:52.346 --> 00:20:54.355 They ice it. 00:20:54.355 --> 00:21:01.119 What happens if you have, like, a boxer right and literally their whole body is sore and beat up, what do they do? 00:21:01.119 --> 00:21:02.461 They ice it. 00:21:02.461 --> 00:21:04.003 They ice their whole body. 00:21:04.003 --> 00:21:05.866 Yeah, and a tub of ice, a tub of ice. 00:21:05.866 --> 00:21:07.108 So the same thing. 00:21:07.108 --> 00:21:16.866 That's why, whenever you're making a mistake, all you need to do is ice it and all you have to do is, you know, think about I don't know if you remember, you know vanilla ice. 00:21:16.866 --> 00:21:19.236 Do you remember the song Doom doom doom? 00:21:19.236 --> 00:21:21.280 Do, do, do, do, doom, doom, doom doom? 00:21:21.280 --> 00:21:25.961 Do, do, do, do, do, doom, ice ice baby. 00:21:25.961 --> 00:21:27.057 Doom doom doom. 00:21:27.057 --> 00:21:29.923 Do, do, do, do, do, ice, ice baby. 00:21:29.923 --> 00:21:33.603 Okay, so when you make a mistake, you're going to want to ice it. 00:21:34.175 --> 00:21:36.385 Identify change embrace, identify change. 00:21:36.385 --> 00:21:37.630 Embrace, identify, change. 00:21:37.630 --> 00:21:46.425 Embrace, identify how you made the mistake, decide how you're going to change that behavior and do something differently in the future. 00:21:46.425 --> 00:21:47.427 Yeah, do something different. 00:21:47.427 --> 00:21:49.263 What do you want to have happen instead? 00:21:49.263 --> 00:21:51.633 Right, how do you want to behave or act? 00:21:51.633 --> 00:21:53.200 Instead, you're deciding how you want to change. 00:21:53.200 --> 00:21:56.481 Embrace means that you take it easy on yourself. 00:21:56.562 --> 00:21:59.001 Yeah, you just embrace the fact that you're learning. 00:21:59.254 --> 00:22:00.198 Stop being yourself up. 00:22:00.894 --> 00:22:14.201 And you made a mistake and as long as you did the I and the C and you really get the learning and you change, then there's, embrace yourself, it's no, big deal, embrace the fact you're growing, embrace the fact that errors are okay, mistakes are okay. 00:22:14.521 --> 00:22:16.646 Now, repeated errors, that's a different story. 00:22:16.646 --> 00:22:18.821 They're repeated mistakes in the same context different story. 00:22:18.821 --> 00:22:25.783 But you're not For the super achievers and the high performers out there, which is all of you. 00:22:25.783 --> 00:22:32.922 Then you're just going to have to understand the fact that you're going to make mistakes and then you actually You'll celebrate it. 00:22:32.922 --> 00:22:37.254 Yeah, like Amy Curran said earlier, you're going to celebrate having made the mistake. 00:22:37.254 --> 00:22:42.697 You're going to celebrate having made the mistake because you know that's what's required to help you level up. 00:22:42.697 --> 00:22:44.182 Is the mistake. 00:22:44.302 --> 00:22:52.820 Right, and without that mistake happening, you wouldn't have got the learning Right, and so now you're better off because you got the learning from it. 00:22:52.921 --> 00:22:53.943 So that's ice. 00:22:53.943 --> 00:22:57.096 So stop Embrace me and stop beating yourself up when you make mistakes. 00:22:57.096 --> 00:23:00.723 It's a natural, healthy and integral part of the learning and growing process. 00:23:00.823 --> 00:23:01.284 Absolutely. 00:23:01.284 --> 00:23:04.499 Absolutely is I mean in the book I talk about. 00:23:04.499 --> 00:23:06.837 That's I often say that's. 00:23:06.837 --> 00:23:11.587 The secret to my success is that I don't strive for perfection anymore. 00:23:11.587 --> 00:23:24.359 I used to do it all the time and it just slowed me down, and I'm

so much more productive now with the mindset of 90% perfect, yep. 00:23:24.640 --> 00:23:25.962 Yep, yep, yep, yep. 00:23:26.663 --> 00:23:27.164 Think about it. 00:23:27.164 --> 00:23:34.625 I mean, yes, we can say you're perfect, right, which is a great suggestion. 00:23:34.625 --> 00:23:35.426 It's a good suggestion. 00:23:36.055 --> 00:23:37.698 Oh, we're always going to tell you you are perfect. 00:23:37.739 --> 00:23:37.940 Yes. 00:23:38.200 --> 00:23:38.760 You're perfect. 00:23:38.760 --> 00:23:40.544 You're a perfect mind You're perfect. 00:23:40.544 --> 00:23:46.759 So it doesn't mean that there's not always room for growth, but what we're going to say that is a positive suggestion. 00:23:46.759 --> 00:23:47.281 Exactly. 00:23:48.034 --> 00:23:49.224 And think about it. 00:23:49.224 --> 00:23:57.128 We all have our flaws, you know, physically, cosmetically, mentally, emotionally, what have you? 00:23:57.128 --> 00:24:04.067 And we wouldn't actually exist here, if you know, without imperfection, right? 00:24:04.067 --> 00:24:07.504 So there's perfection in imperfection, right? 00:24:07.504 --> 00:24:13.086 So we wouldn't actually be here without imperfection, because none of us are actually perfect. 00:24:13.615 --> 00:24:21.557 You can use ice or something really tiny or something monstrously big, like there's no limit to it. 00:24:21.557 --> 00:24:22.954 Ice works right. 00:24:22.954 --> 00:24:32.693 Ice is something that came to us many, many years ago and it was amazing because we tested ourselves and we're like, wow, this is how to blast through the mistake quicker. 00:24:32.693 --> 00:24:42.079 And then, because we had a strategy on how to get through the mistake, then we were okay with the mistakes we made. 00:24:42.079 --> 00:24:46.135 So it made it easier, like, okay, made a mistake, let's just ice it quickly and move on. 00:24:46.215 --> 00:24:49.337 Yeah, and here's the thing I mean just own up to it. 00:24:49.337 --> 00:24:53.059 I mean, if you're, you made a mistake in your relationship. 00:24:53.510 --> 00:25:04.377 Oh, identify the mistake that you made, decide how you do it differently in the future and that situation, make sure you say thank you for your patience, that it grows the moment there. 00:25:04.377 --> 00:25:07.393 I'd like to fess up if you really messed up and apologize. 00:25:07.855 --> 00:25:08.055 Yeah. 00:25:09.472 --> 00:25:14.653 And then decide how you want to change and be different in the future and then embrace the fact that you're growing and the relationship's growing. 00:25:14.653 --> 00:25:16.014 It works in any context. 00:25:16.014 --> 00:25:17.659 It works in health and fitness right. 00:25:17.659 --> 00:25:19.474 It absolutely works in health and fitness. 00:25:19.474 --> 00:25:23.098 So so why? 00:25:23.098 --> 00:25:25.155 What do you have? 00:25:25.155 --> 00:25:28.377 You have some stories of that in health and fitness right. 00:25:28.549 --> 00:25:33.398 Yeah, yeah, yeah, all over the place you never flew over handlebars on a mountain bike, did you? 00:25:35.055 --> 00:25:38.353 Never, never, never, never, never Shay used to be. 00:25:38.353 --> 00:25:40.459 She's also not only a recovering perfectionist. 00:25:40.459 --> 00:25:46.058 Paradoxically, at the same time of being a perfectionist, she was also a coordinated klutz. 00:25:46.200 --> 00:25:47.204 Yes, it was. 00:25:47.204 --> 00:26:10.520 And is a recovered coordinated klutz yeah, what that means because I know it's a paradox is that I was coordinated, but I was also so klutzy at the same time, and so I would just fly over my handlebars or trip and fall, or I'd be running and I'd just fall and skin my knees and I was constantly falling until until. 00:26:10.849 --> 00:26:12.115 You disconnected that running parachute. 00:26:12.289 --> 00:26:13.776 I decided I was done with it. 00:26:13.970 --> 00:26:19.640 And then she'd let go of that running parachute and literally is she maintains her vertical. 00:26:19.789 --> 00:26:20.692 I always stand upright. 00:26:20.994 --> 00:26:22.731 It's amazing, so yeah. 00:26:22.731 --> 00:26:33.395 So be okay with imperfection, be okay with mistakes, and when you make mistakes, just Ice it, Ice ice baby. 00:26:33.395 --> 00:26:35.336 Doom, doom, doom, doom, doom, doom, doom, doom. 00:26:35.336 --> 00:26:39.375 Ice ice baby Doom, doom, doom, doom, doom, doom, doom. 00:26:40.089 --> 00:26:41.395 Ice, ice baby. 00:26:41.395 --> 00:26:43.134 I think they should hire us to sing that song, yeah. 00:26:43.616 --> 00:26:45.773 All right, stop, collaborate and listen. 00:26:45.773 --> 00:26:48.793 You make a mistake, it's okay, and I'm not gonna do that anymore. 00:26:48.793 --> 00:26:56.397 I would need to write it down first, and then I think Okay so ice it. 00:26:56.897 --> 00:26:58.080 Just ice it Just ice it. 00:26:58.161 --> 00:26:59.202 You make a mistake, just ice it. 00:26:59.202 --> 00:27:06.212 It works for healing the body and it also works for healing you whenever you make a mistake. 00:27:06.473 --> 00:27:07.014 Absolutely. 00:27:07.034 --> 00:27:07.917 You might have to write that down. 00:27:07.917 --> 00:27:09.858 All right, stop Collaborate and listen. 00:27:10.201 --> 00:27:11.270 Ice it back with the brand new Jeff and. 00:27:11.290 --> 00:27:13.377 Shae are back with a brand new invention. 00:27:13.377 --> 00:27:17.832 Something grabs ahold of you tightly when you make mistakes. 00:27:17.832 --> 00:27:19.018 You'll be able to get through it.