Пълният препис на A 5-Step Method For Real Happiness During Midlife Transitions

WEBVTT 00:00:09.279 --> 00:00:14.800 Hello and welcome back to another episode of Changewired Podcast. 00:00:15.199 --> 00:00:16.640 Guys, welcome back. 00:00:16.879 --> 00:00:20.800 I feel like I haven't been recording for ages. 00:00:21.120 --> 00:00:30.640 But the truth be told, I've been recording quite a lot of interviews past week, and so I managed to only release one episode to you. 00:00:30.719 --> 00:00:52.399 But hopefully you enjoyed that one was Alone Race and his amazing hero's journey that happened inside that allowed him to achieve such a just fascinating transformation in the results in business, in this personal impact and wealth. 00:00:52.560 --> 00:00:56.560 But it all, as Alon shared, it started within. 00:00:56.799 --> 00:01:16.159 At some point, the most transformational moment of his life, his career, his business, was the moment when he realized that the only reason why he either achieves or doesn't achieve certain results was inside of him, his personal growth and development. 00:01:16.239 --> 00:01:22.000 And once he started focusing on that, everything else changed. 00:01:22.879 --> 00:01:40.400 And listen, you can listen to that episode in its entirety, which I've been getting such great reviews, and people were sharing it more than any other episode, and sending me thank yous and all the takeaways that they got from that episode, and saying just yeah, some good stuff there. 00:01:40.560 --> 00:01:43.359 So listen to that episode with Alone Race. 00:01:43.680 --> 00:01:46.480 It's the the one before this one. 00:01:46.719 --> 00:02:02.879 Today, guys, I want to share with you a little bit of fascination with in my personal life, what I absolutely love exploring these days, coming back to my roots, what fascinated me when I was a kid, when I was a teenager for whichever reason. 00:02:03.120 --> 00:02:16.240 And as always, you're gonna get a very simple practical tool to help you navigate turns and transitions and twists in your own in your own life journey. 00:02:16.960 --> 00:02:24.400 Specifically, life journey when it takes you on a loop or it takes you somewhere where you didn't want to go. 00:02:24.560 --> 00:02:39.599 You know, especially in midlife, it feels sometimes that a lot more things are taken away from us, things that we don't necessarily wanna give up or uh separate always with. 00:02:40.159 --> 00:02:45.520 But sometimes it feels like a lot more things are taken away than we are given. 00:02:45.759 --> 00:03:18.240 But no matter what, guys, no matter how it feels, we can be happy with exactly how our life is, not pretending to be happy, but truly genuinely happy with what is how our life unfolds, and maybe, just maybe, realizing that that is that is exactly how our most our happiest, most fulfilling life is supposed to go versus what we expected it to go, and then it didn't quite turn out that way. 00:03:18.800 --> 00:03:36.319 And you're gonna learn, you're gonna have a five-step, very simple process that will help you to create more happiness, more joy, more genuine fulfillment in your life, no matter what life gives you on any given day. 00:03:36.560 --> 00:03:40.800 And I would argue that is one of the most important skills to make yourself happy. 00:03:40.879 --> 00:03:50.560 You know, all the sages and the wisest people and philosophers and thinkers and meditators, that's what they talk about. 00:03:50.800 --> 00:03:53.360 Learning how to make yourself happy. 00:03:53.520 --> 00:04:05.120 And it is a skill, and there is a process, and you're gonna learn one of those really good processes that I learned from people wiser, smarter, and more enlightened than myself. 00:04:05.680 --> 00:04:15.680 I'm gonna be reading to you parts from the blog that I just finished, the many doors to your happiness you haven't tried opening yet. 00:04:16.000 --> 00:04:18.399 Chase the feeling, not the thing. 00:04:18.639 --> 00:04:32.399 I'm gonna open up with a client's quote, not word-by-word quote, but something that I heard quite a few times working with ambitious, purpose-driven midlifers who kind of lost their way. 00:04:32.800 --> 00:04:38.720 And a little bit of the joy and happiness and drive and fulfillment and meaning that they used to have. 00:04:38.959 --> 00:04:45.439 The quote, but it gives me this feeling of being alive and groundedness. 00:04:46.079 --> 00:04:48.000 It makes my life feel meaningful. 00:04:48.240 --> 00:04:53.279 A client was frustrated with not being able to do rock climbing after injury. 00:04:53.519 --> 00:04:54.639 Another one. 00:05:12.079 --> 00:05:20.639 Before guys, before I left home many, many years ago to study at a university in a city far away, I loved my life. 00:05:20.879 --> 00:05:27.279 Being close to family, my neighborhood, my home, the comfort, the familiarity of it all. 00:05:27.519 --> 00:05:29.759 And yet I chose to leave. 00:05:34.319 --> 00:05:46.560 Those first few weeks that I moved to that another city, Cuman, if you're curious, in Siberia, Russian Siberia, I cried those first few weeks consistently. 00:05:46.720 --> 00:05:50.079 Everything felt boring and comfortable and familiar. 00:05:50.319 --> 00:05:52.800 I would talk to myself, like, why did I do that? 00:05:52.959 --> 00:05:53.759 Why did I leave? 00:05:53.839 --> 00:05:55.360 Why didn't I stay? 00:05:55.759 --> 00:05:59.439 And yet, deep down I knew it was the right choice. 00:06:00.160 --> 00:06:05.759 The way to explore my life, to grow into the person I was becoming. 00:06:07.519 --> 00:06:13.360 There were relationships in my life that also were comfortable, good even. 00:06:13.600 --> 00:06:17.680 And yet some was inside of me said, it doesn't feel right. 00:06:18.000 --> 00:06:20.079 You gotta take a different turn here. 00:06:20.480 --> 00:06:22.879 It wasn't comfortable, scary. 00:06:23.600 --> 00:06:26.160 And every time I listened, I felt at peace. 00:06:26.399 --> 00:06:29.920 Maybe not right away, when I had a lot of doubt.